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I learned the CTFAR model when I was going through my overcome pornography training. This model has benefited my life in so many ways, many of which were very unexpected.

We cannot change our circumstances, but we can change how we think about them and how we think about them will give us a feeling about that circumstance. We act based off of how we feel and our action pro...

How would you show up for yourself in your life if Jesus Christ had just told you He was so proud of you???

Bill Annes graciously shares one of the most sacred experiences of his life: His Near Death Experience.

In 2011, Bill's health was declining and he ultimately flatlined and died for a short period of time. During this time, Bill went to Heaven and was embraced by the warmth, love and encouragement of Jesus Christ. H...

Each one of us gets to determine if our problems define us. Interestingly, problems can create the need for adherence to systems that bring us closer to achieving our purposes and goals. 

Without “problems”, our brains often create drama, anxiety, or seek out offense.

If we notice ourselves drifting through life and creating problems because we are not engaged in a good cause, this is a great sign we should change! Change our...

Is the way we see life a misinterpretation of the truth? Is our view of the world obstructed by sticky notes on the walls of your glass box?

I can’t wait to teach the principles of The Glass Box: how your beliefs and stories shape everything you see, and how to peel them off so you can finally see clearly again. How you can deeply understand others by watching them view the world through THEIR OWN GLASS BOX!

Today you’ll get ...

The moments we take for granted are numbered and there will be an end to each of them someday.
If you knew how many times were left to go out on the town with your spouse, call your parents or kiss your kid good night, would you treat those experiences different?
Are we building our testimonies on BIG spiritual moments that happen every so often? Of course, these aren’t bad experiences but can we more frequently experience Go...

It is our pleasure to share our conversation with Delight Clark who is also Hayden's MOM! There are many topics, ideas and experiences that we could have discussed but we chose to have Delight share one of her passions in how she helps people today. The DREAM MANAGER is just that. A person who helps manage other people's dreams for them to identify them and break them down into attainable goals and steps.

Dylan is curren...

Today we dropped off our little girl atpreschool for the first time—and it hit me. The pride in being her daddy, theoverwhelming love, the ache of letting her go… it all taught me something remarkableabout how our Heavenly Father feels about us. This is a solo reflection on whatfatherhood is teaching me about THE Father.

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We live in a world that labels us by what we’ve done—good or bad. But the truth is, your identity isn’t found in your failures or your highlight reel. In this episode, we open up about the dangers of shame, the trap of performance-based worth, and how to break free from both.

Whether you’ve been carrying the weight of your past or chasing your next win to feel “enough,” this conversation is a reminder that your value is unshakable—...

Do you need a vacation from your vacation?

Listen along as we jump into the challenge of taking an amazing trip or vacation but then finding yourself in a little bit of a slump in the days or weeks following.

How do hormones and "feel good" chemicals play into this and what to do about it!

What routines and habits can you build to look forward to when you get back? Not the ones that everyone says you should do but the ones you really ...

I am thrilled to share my conversation with Travis Webb. Travis has been our marriage therapist for almost 9 years. He has also counseled Dylan and I individually. Through years of learning from counseling others as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Travis answers some of these tough questions about addiction, pornography, environment, phones, victimhood and victim mentality. 
What is the reason people use pornography? Getting ...

It's easy to find what is GOOD about something when everything seems to be going as planned. But what about when our plans aren't going as we intended or as fast as we would like them to? Can we still ask ourselves "What Is Good About This" in those moments too? And actually find something good??

When things seem to be going WRONG, it just means you haven't found what is good about it yet.

If we allow ourselves ...

“When we’re attached to outcomes, we can rob ourselves of peace, growth, and joy. True freedom comes when we show up fully—but let go of the need for things to turn out a certain way. Can I get an Amen!”

Attachment: “If this doesn’t happen, I’ll feel like a failure.”

Detachment: “I did everything I could. The rest isn’t mine to carry.”

Am I ATTACHED Assessment:

Do I feel anxious or unworthy if this doesn’t go a certain ...

Within the span of a few years, our friend Robin has endured some truly challenging trials. His example of how to respond to adversity is inspiring to us—and will inspire many who listen to this interview.

• Prostate cancer

• An eating disorder

• Strokes

• A misdiagnosis of Alzheimer’s

“God means what He says…”

“…so let us mean what we do!”

Robin generously shares some of the triumphs he’s experienced with his health, as well ...

Are you having a hard time getting what you want? Is there anything you have been skipping over?

Today I get to share where in my life I learned this principle of doing what I was capable of in the moment to be able to build up to doing something that I thought was never possible.

The BASCIS in any area of life are foundational to the rest of success that can be wanted or expected in that area. Kobe Bryant was a fanatic about doi...

We can approach our shortcomings and mistakes so much better when we understand whether or not we are experiencing NATURAL CONSEQUENCES or unnecessary PUNISHMENT.

Natural consequences can often times be accompanied by the guilt of making wrong choices. That guilt can encourage you to CHANGE and LEARN from your mistakes.

But the punishment... self-inflicted or from someone else... can carry a hefty amount of shame. This is sha...

In the middle of feeling alone and betrayed, it was nearly impossible to imagine celebrating a wedding anniversary that wasn’t consumed by the challenges of pornography.

For our NINE year wedding anniversary we want to share a message of encouragement!

Dylan shares her through these topics…

What was your reaction?

Did you ever think about leaving?

Why did you stay?

What does choosing to stay look like TODAY?

Wh...

CONTENT WARNING:

(Though we don't go into explicit detail of sexual abuse, some topics can be difficult to hear.)

I (Hayden) am so happy to share a deep and meaningful conversation I had with my aunt, Cindy Stain.

After losing her parents in a plane crash, Cindy, along with her five siblings, was orphaned at the age of four. Off to a rocky (understatement) start in life, Cindy had tougher challenges ahead where she wou...