This Is Livin'

We live in a world that labels us by what we’ve done—good or bad. But the truth is, your identity isn’t found in your failures or your highlight reel. In this episode, we open up about the dangers of shame, the trap of performance-based worth, and how to break free from both.

Whether you’ve been carrying the weight of your past or chasing your next win to feel “enough,” this conversation is a reminder that your value is unshakable—...

Do you need a vacation from your vacation?

Listen along as we jump into the challenge of taking an amazing trip or vacation but then finding yourself in a little bit of a slump in the days or weeks following.

How do hormones and "feel good" chemicals play into this and what to do about it!

What routines and habits can you build to look forward to when you get back? Not the ones that everyone says you should do but the ones you really ...

I am thrilled to share my conversation with Travis Webb. Travis has been our marriage therapist for almost 9 years. He has also counseled Dylan and I individually. Through years of learning from counseling others as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Travis answers some of these tough questions about addiction, pornography, environment, phones, victimhood and victim mentality. 
What is the reason people use pornography? Getting ...

It's easy to find what is GOOD about something when everything seems to be going as planned. But what about when our plans aren't going as we intended or as fast as we would like them to? Can we still ask ourselves "What Is Good About This" in those moments too? And actually find something good??

When things seem to be going WRONG, it just means you haven't found what is good about it yet.

If we allow ourselves ...

“When we’re attached to outcomes, we can rob ourselves of peace, growth, and joy. True freedom comes when we show up fully—but let go of the need for things to turn out a certain way. Can I get an Amen!”

Attachment: “If this doesn’t happen, I’ll feel like a failure.”

Detachment: “I did everything I could. The rest isn’t mine to carry.”

Am I ATTACHED Assessment:

Do I feel anxious or unworthy if this doesn’t go a certain ...

Within the span of a few years, our friend Robin has endured some truly challenging trials. His example of how to respond to adversity is inspiring to us—and will inspire many who listen to this interview.

• Prostate cancer

• An eating disorder

• Strokes

• A misdiagnosis of Alzheimer’s

“God means what He says…”

“…so let us mean what we do!”

Robin generously shares some of the triumphs he’s experienced with his health, as well ...

Are you having a hard time getting what you want? Is there anything you have been skipping over?

Today I get to share where in my life I learned this principle of doing what I was capable of in the moment to be able to build up to doing something that I thought was never possible.

The BASCIS in any area of life are foundational to the rest of success that can be wanted or expected in that area. Kobe Bryant was a fanatic about doi...

We can approach our shortcomings and mistakes so much better when we understand whether or not we are experiencing NATURAL CONSEQUENCES or unnecessary PUNISHMENT.

Natural consequences can often times be accompanied by the guilt of making wrong choices. That guilt can encourage you to CHANGE and LEARN from your mistakes.

But the punishment... self-inflicted or from someone else... can carry a hefty amount of shame. This is sha...

In the middle of feeling alone and betrayed, it was nearly impossible to imagine celebrating a wedding anniversary that wasn’t consumed by the challenges of pornography.

For our NINE year wedding anniversary we want to share a message of encouragement!

Dylan shares her through these topics…

What was your reaction?

Did you ever think about leaving?

Why did you stay?

What does choosing to stay look like TODAY?

Wh...

CONTENT WARNING:

(Though we don't go into explicit detail of sexual abuse, some topics can be difficult to hear.)

I (Hayden) am so happy to share a deep and meaningful conversation I had with my aunt, Cindy Stain.

After losing her parents in a plane crash, Cindy, along with her five siblings, was orphaned at the age of four. Off to a rocky (understatement) start in life, Cindy had tougher challenges ahead where she wou...

Here are the phone notes I took in preparation for recording this episode…

-I don’t have it figured out but…

-I believe these principles, tools and truths can be applied broadly to habits and addictions generally

-This is not a blueprint for everyone but perhaps there is some insight for everyone

-Enlightenment vs Empowerment

Some of these insights came from

-Sara Brewers program

-Talk therapy

-Scripture study

-Church Talks/BYU Spee...

When you are in a difficult moment or period of your life, who is the right person to think of to help get you through that time?

The right answer is whoever gets you through it!

This is different for everyone and is also going to be different for each difficult circumstance.

For example, I (Hayden) ultimately had to choose to remove pornography from my life for MYSELF. Whereas thinking about Tootsie in the middle of a grueling worko...

CONTENT WARNING:

(Though we don't go into explicit details of cases and events, some topics in this episode can be difficult to hear)

Megan Carey is one of our dear friends and a helpful, loving member of our neighborhood, church and community.

Megan has worked a dedicated career to serving kids and their families during the worst moments of their lives.

We are privileged to hear Megan's story of working in Child Welfare an...

CONTENT WARNING:

(Though we don't go into explicit details of cases and events, some topics in this episode can be difficult to hear)

Megan Carey is one of our dear friends and a helpful, loving member of our neighborhood, church and community.

Megan has worked a dedicated career to serving kids and their families during the worst moments of their lives.

We are privileged to hear Megan's story of working in Child Welfare an...

Well...it's up to YOU!

Join us today in our discussion about happiness.

We are excited to reference credible people (in our opinion) who have a track record of being happy themselves and have done masterful work in helping others experience more happiness as well.

This was a great opportunity to reflect on the happiest times of our lives and what made them so.

Can you be happy despite challenging circumstances?

Can THINGS bring us h...

In this episode we are excited to talk about principles of time management and the "Time Management Matrix" from the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

When thinking about your different roles throughout the week, what are some small changes you can make to show up better as that person?

Parent, spouse, employee, business owner, sibling, member of a community... these are a few of the roles many of us emb...

What does the Devil sound like? Could you identify his voice right now?How much do you let him chirp in year and how often do his comments explode into full blown frantic freight about life and your current situation?

Maybe you are having a wonderful day and out of nowhere you began to have ill feelings about someone or something. There is only ONE place that these thoughts come from. Let's learn together how to shut this gu...