Coming out wasn’t a switch that fixed everything. This book explained why.
Today we meet Chris Tompkins and we’re talking about the book that saved Chris' life: The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs.
Chris is an LGTBQ affirmative therapist and author of the new book Raising LGBTQ Allies: A Parent's Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground.
In The Velvet Rage, psychologist Alan Downs draws on his own struggle with shame and anger, contemporary research, and stories from his patients to passionately describe the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior.
Connect with Chris
Instagram: @aroadtriptolove
Twitter: @aroadtriptolove
Facebook: facebook.com/aroadtriptolove
Website: aroadtriptolove.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christompkinslife
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