"For freedom Christ set us free; so stand firm and do not submit again to the yoke of slavery."
~ Galatians 5:1
What if I didn't sign up for the life I have?
What does my life feel so out of control?
Why do I feel trapped in the life I'm leading?
In Episode 81 of This Whole Life, hosts Pat & Kenna Millea dive deep into what it really means to take control of your life — especially when things aren't going the way you thought they would. This episode explores the broader theme of agency: why so many people feel stuck in passive roles and how modern life — through technology, cultural pressures, and even spiritual ideals — can erode our sense of freedom. Packed with personal stories and practical wisdom, Pat and Kenna explore real strategies for reclaiming healthy agency, embracing flexibility, and living an integrated life in faith and mental health.
This episode also offers some raw reflections on the tragic shooting at Annunciation Catholic School in Minneapolis, as well as highlights of their new Figuring It Out course for those seeking meaningful change. Because truly, freedom and agency are especially important when things don't go the way we planned. Join us for this heartfelt and honest conversation.
Chapters:
0:00: Reflection on the tragedy at Annunciation
21:27: Why is agency, or free will, indispensable?
28:41: What causes a lack of agency?
36:36: What does it look like to live with freedom?
49:42: "I have to" & "I should" vs. Choosing
52:48: Announcing the "Figuring It Out" live course
55:30: Challenge By Choice
Reflection Questions:
- What is one specific thing that stuck with you from this conversation?
- Are there areas of life in which you feel trapped? How do you know?
- What does it look like to live in healthy freedom? When have you lived in healthy freedom?
- Are there things in your life that you feel like you "have to" or "should" do instead of actively choosing? What could you do differently?
- How can you choose to engage with your life in a way that lines up with your values?
Send us a text. We're excited to hear what's on your mind!
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Music: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.
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