September 11, 2025 • 19 mins
Hey Y'all! :) Terri here...
Are you stuck in your own head? Do the “voices in your head” keep telling you to wait, play it safe, or hold off until you feel ready? You’re not alone. In this episode of Thoughts of a Dreamer, Terri Nikki gets real about the mental mind games every dreamer faces when it’s time to stop dreaming and start doing.
We’ll break down what happens in your brain when you chase a dream: how the amygdala sets off alarm bells, why fear disguises itself as logic, and how your comfort zone tricks you into staying stuck. You’ll hear why confidence doesn’t come first—it’s built through action—and how micro-movements (the compound effect) help you outsmart overthinking and create evidence that fuels growth.
Whether you’re a creator second-guessing every post, an entrepreneur battling procrastination, or simply a dreamer who feels stuck, this episode will give you practical tools and mindset shifts to:
- Recognize self-doubt and intrusive thoughts for what they are
- Quiet the amygdala and engage your prefrontal cortex
- Use small, consistent actions to build real confidence
- Push past fear and step boldly out of your comfort zone
Stop letting your thoughts hold you back. These are just mind games, and once you see them for what they are, you can move forward with clarity, courage, and confidence.
I'll see y'all next week! Remember, keep moving. Consistency. Learning from myself here...
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Welcome back to the Thoughts of a Dreamer podcast
with me, Ms.
Terri Nikki.
This is season two and I'mcalling this Out My Mind because
now it's time to get out of ourheads.
It's time to actually do what itis we need to do.
Now, will we stumble?
Absolutely.
Are we going to take a couple ofsteps back?
Probably, but that's what thispodcast is about.
(00:20):
We're going to discover andrecover whenever we stumble so
that we can still achieve andlive out these dreams.
So let's go.
Welcome back to the Thoughts ofa Dreamer podcast with me, Ms.
Terri Nikki.
Okay, okay, so I'm about to havea real conversation.
A real conversation.
So if you're not ready to getreal with what's going on, then
you know you might want to hopto another episode.
(00:42):
You might want to, as they sayon TikTok, keep scrolling.
But today I want to talk aboutsomething that I feel as though
is rarely discussed.
And that is...
The voices.
The voices, the voices, thevoices.
I am not speaking from a placeof schizophrenia.
I am speaking from a place ofnormalcy.
I'm speaking from the place ofwhere dreamers turning to
(01:05):
executors.
And that gray area right whenyou start making moves is when
those voices are the loudest.
And I want to talk about why,okay?
As dreamers, we sit up in ourheads.
And we are leaping, frolickingin the field of our ideas.
(01:31):
They're great.
They're wonderful.
They can change the world.
They can make us all kinds ofmoney.
And as we're frolicking freelywithin the catacombs of our
mind, We are gatheringinformation on how it would feel
to actualize these dreams, whatit would mean to actualize these
(01:52):
dreams, how important thesedreams are, how great it would
be once people actually see whatit is that you have playing in
your mind.
It's safe, it's warm, it'scomfortable, it's exciting.
But as soon as you start to putaction behind those thoughts, to
(02:16):
give those thoughts a bit ofoxygen, so to speak, in comes
the voices.
Here come the voices.
They're loud.
They are rambunctious.
They are intrusive.
And they are relentless.
(02:37):
When going on my dreamer'sjourney, it was something that I
really didn't know was normal.
I had no idea.
So in normal Terry fashion, Iresearched it.
I just wanted to see what thebig deal was.
I wanted to see if I needed togo and talk to somebody, you
know, or if this was a genuinething that happens regardless.
(03:03):
And to my surprise and to myrelief, it was the latter.
Okay, stick with me for a littleminute.
I'm going to get a littlescience-y, but it won't be long.
It won't be long.
Just stay with me.
When we are encountered withsomething that's unknown,
something that's new, weactivate two parts of our brain.
One, the amygdala, which is kindof like the smoke signal, the
(03:28):
alarm, the beep, beep, beep.
The world is going to collapse.
It's on fire.
What's going on?
La, la, la, la, la.
Rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah.
And then the prefrontal cortex,which is our logical side, our
rational side, our reasoningside, the planner.
So depending on your ownsettings in your head, depending
(03:49):
on your own wires, whenever youstep out or even think of
stepping out into something thatis unknown, you are going to
hear the conversation betweenthe amygdala and the prefrontal
cortex.
I guess it's think they talkingto themselves silently but
they're loud as hell in my mindthey just just just loud just
talking and one side is sayingdanger danger danger alert we
(04:13):
don't know what's going on herewhat's wrong what's new what's
this what's that is scanning forall the evidence that it can
find to have or shed any lighton this unknown while your logic
is saying it's just a post it'sjust pressing play it's just
chilling like trip chill in 1995daniel goldman in a most
(04:35):
Mentioned amygdala hijack.
He coined this term and he said,which means your prefrontal
cortex does not stand a chance.
Logic gets pushed to the side.
And that amygdala, the amygdala,its goal is not to grow you.
(05:00):
It's not growth.
It's not maturity.
It's not even safety.
It's comfort.
It's comfort.
Let's get back to what we know.
Let's go back there.
That's safe.
That's comfortable.
Let's go back there.
There's no threat there.
So let's get back to what we doknow, which is being an
observer, which is being in ourheads, which is frolicking in
(05:22):
the sea of dreams and ideas inour head.
We're safe.
These are the conversations atyour head that the two parts of
your brain are having that youare clearly being in on.
That you're not supposed tohear, I guess.
Those decisions, thoseconversations are making the
decisions for you.
And what's so crazy is it cansound like rationalizing.
(05:43):
You're rationalizing yourselfback to comfort.
Our minds are wired for comfort.
Not growth.
No.
Not realizing your dream.
No.
It wants to keep us safe.
It wants comfort.
Now we know.
(06:03):
Now we know that we have twodifferent activations that
happen in our brain, theamygdala and the prefrontal
cortex.
They're having a conversation.
They're talking to one another.
If one is louder than the other,it determines how you actually
move.
Now, what do those conversationssound like?
What is that?
So let's make this a little bitrelatable, okay?
So does this sound like you?
(06:26):
Man, what if I embarrass myself?
Danger.
You know what?
I'm going to F this up.
I'm not going to do it.
Danger.
I'm just going to wait.
I'm just going to wait until Ifeel more ready.
Danger.
I can't handle this.
This too much.
This too much.
I'm doing too much.
(06:46):
Danger.
You know what?
I'll do that later.
I'll do it later.
Danger.
You know, I'm just going tostick with what I know.
I know that.
I don't know this.
Danger.
Okay, wait, wait, wait, wait,wait.
I'm going to double check thisone more time.
Let me double check.
Let me triple check.
Danger.
Oh, this is cringe.
(07:07):
I ain't going to post this.
Danger.
I'm going to look stupid.
I ain't posting this.
I'm going to look stupid.
Danger.
UNKNOWN (07:17):
Ah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:17):
I'm tired.
I don't feel like doing it.
I'm just going to wait tilltomorrow.
Danger.
What if I tell them how I feel?
What if they walk away from me?
I'm just not going to saynothing.
Danger.
Amygdala.
That's your amygdala, okay?
That is your head trying to pushyou back to a place where you
(07:40):
are comfortable.
You understand now that wheneveryou are going to make a step
into the unknown, doingsomething in the unknown,
there's a conversation that'sgoing to take place.
And within that conversation ofyour amygdala and your
prefrontal cortex, depending onjust how your head is wired,
(08:01):
Determines how you're going tomove.
So if the threat that theamygdala is signaling to you is
louder than your logic, louderthan your rational thoughts, you
are going to move back to aplace of comfort.
(08:22):
Now, I know the next questionis, well, how do I get over
this?
How do I get over this?
How do I move forward?
What is the thing that I need todo in order to bypass these
thoughts and just move forward,move ahead?
Okay.
Okay.
Don't be mad.
Don't be mad.
Okay.
I'm trying.
Okay.
(08:42):
Don't be mad.
Don't be mad when I tell youthis.
But the thing...
that is going to out way quietdown hush up this amygdala It's
confidence.
Confidence.
Confidence.
I get it.
I get it.
(09:02):
Wait, wait, wait.
Hold up.
Hold up.
Hold up.
I hear what you're saying.
You don't have the confidence.
That's why your head goingcrazy.
Look.
Hey, hey.
I get it.
Your amygdala is searching forany type of evidence to prove
that it will be safe.
It will not be a threat movingforward.
And the only reason or the onlyway it's alerting itself is
(09:22):
because there's a lack ofconfidence.
There's a lack of evidence.
But here is where we asdreamers, we get this thing
wrong, man.
We get it wrong.
We have it in the wrong positionbecause what people fail to
realize is you don't getconfident without action.
(09:45):
So boom, here's the process.
You want to do somethingunknown.
You're thinking about it.
Now you're freaking out.
When you freak out, youramygdala is like alarm bells,
alarm bells, alarm bells.
Clearly it's overriding yourprefrontal cortex.
So now you're amygdala islooking and scanning all of the
confidence and evidence that ithas in order to suppress in
order to suppress the fact thatthere is danger so now your
(10:07):
amygdala turns a spotlight ontoyour confidence and onto your
evidence both of y'all arelooking at each other like the
spider-man me pointing at eachother you pointing at confidence
evidence is pointing atconfidence confidence is
pointing at evidence i don'tknow what to do i don't know
what to do you go first no yougo first no you go first no you
go first but the fact of thematter is we as dreamers have it
wrong we have it backwards inorder for confidence to do the
(10:27):
job that it needs to do it needsevidence how do you get evidence
you got to do it you got to doit fearful you have to do it
afraid you have to do it despiteyou have to just do it now there
is a way that we can just do itwithout alerting our amygdala as
much and this is where i want tointroduce the compound effect
(10:52):
come on here compound effectloud front and center the
compound effect was a book thatwas written by Darren Hardy.
Inside of this book, he presentsthe idea that micro-movements
towards a larger goal will placeyou further in achieving that
(11:13):
goal than trying to convinceyourself to do large chunks at
one time, because that ishonestly, honestly
unsustainable.
When I read this book, thingsjust kind of like, light bulb,
explosion.
It It made so much sense to me.
This is where I want you to testjust how sensitive your amygdala
(11:38):
is.
In your land of dreams, in yourhead, pull one down and say, I
am going to make action towardsyou, dream.
You've already envisioned thesteps that you need to take in
order to get this thing done.
I know you have.
So first up, dream, pulling youdown, pulling you up to the
forefront.
(11:58):
Let's just say your dream is tobe Now, in order for you to be a
viral sensation, you got to putyourself out there.
You got to record yourself avideo for people to see.
Okay.
So this is where you need totest just how sensitive your
(12:18):
amygdala is.
All right.
Whatever step that you need totake freaks you out.
Your alarm bell starts to ring.
Everything's going on in yourhead.
That smoke detector is beeping.
You're like, oh no, danger,danger, danger, danger.
Stop.
Just stop and think about thestep right before it.
(12:42):
Engage how you feel.
So for instance, You want tobecome a viral sensation.
You know, in order to do that,you have to record and post a
video.
Now, the thought of yourecording and posting the video
makes you cringe, makes you sickto your stomach, makes you have
night sweats and shortness ofbreath, and you have a slight
(13:03):
panic attack.
You don't know what it is youneed to do.
Pause.
Pause.
Stop.
Instead of pressing publish, whynot today?
You record it.
Just record the video and don'tpublish it.
Oh, oh, oh, record recordingfreaks you out and you don't
like how you look on camera youlook big you look skinny you
look like a platypus I don'tknow freaks you out cool stop
(13:29):
stop What is the step beforerecording?
Ideation.
Sit down, think about logicallywhat it is that you need to do
in order to get it done.
Oh, oh, it's too much.
It's too much.
It's freaking you out.
I got to do way too much, waytoo much.
Stop.
Dial it back down and dial itback down and dial it back down
until you get to a step whereyour amygdala is like, okay, I
(13:52):
can do this.
That ain't, that ain't no bigdeal.
Where it's not a freak out.
This is called a compoundeffect.
When you dial your actions backdown and you have these micro
actions towards a larger goalthan doing one thing every
single day, whether it be small,super small, minute, can
catapult you in the longer runthan you trying to take big
(14:15):
chunks at a time.
And what this does, it allowsyour evidence to build your
confidence to do the biggerthings that what usually freaks
your amygdala out won't even bea thing anymore because it has
confidence.
Because when you work yourselfup to pressing publish, now you
(14:35):
see, oh shoot, this wasn't eventhat bad.
That's what I mean.
having those micro actions,micro movements to get the ball
and the needle rolling.
And those small actionscompounded have great effects.
And you will be miles ahead thanwhere you were if you just
(15:00):
stalled and freaked out becausethat one big action made you
have night sweats.
Okay, so compound effect, numberone.
Number two.
Distract yourself.
Let's just say you are recordingthis thing and you are freaking
out.
(15:21):
Do something else to distractyourself, i.e.
turn on some music, go for awalk outside, do something else
while you're still in the actionso that maybe your mind is
diverted elsewhere and you canslide in those micro actions
that doesn't freak you out, thatyour alarm bells don't go off,
(15:41):
kind of sneak in that way, backthough that thing.
You get what I mean?
Yeah.
Do like a backdoor type vibe.
Number three.
Okay.
Okay.
You are freaking out about pressand publish.
Do you know somebody who alreadyhas?
Do you have some sort of personaround you in your life that has
(16:02):
done it, that you've seen do it,that you've seen the efforts and
the effects of their efforts?
Lean on their confidence a bit.
See that they've done it.
See that they're still livingand alive and well.
They're not up and down.
just forlorn borrow theirconfidence a bit borrow their
experience see how they go usethat to your advantage lean on
(16:24):
that evidence and then go for itgo for it you know um another
thing that is very helpful yourmicro movements pat yourself on
the back your micro movementscall those out make that
(16:46):
evidence.
Put that evidence.
Okay.
Okay.
Whenever there is any type ofshout out or kudos or pats on
the back or highlight orapproval of something that
you've done, it gives you a hitof dopamine.
(17:06):
And you want to have as many ofthose as you possibly can.
Put your deeds, put your micromovements on front street.
Call that bit out.
Like, yeah, I did that.
I did that.
And guess what?
I'm going to do somethingbigger.
I'm going to do this thingbigger.
You have to make sure that yougive yourself the kudos and the
(17:27):
shout outs that you need inthose moments so that you can
calm that amygdala down andallow your PFC, prefrontal
cortex, to move to theforefront.
Okay, do that.
Do that.
And the last little tip that Ihave.
(17:48):
Call out your amygdala.
Hey, this is a feeling.
This is not fact.
This is a feeling.
This is not fact.
Calm down.
Calm down.
Don't do this.
Don't trip out.
Don't go off the deep end.
We are not going to be hurt.
There's not going to be anydanger.
(18:08):
It is just a post.
It is just pressing record.
You may feel discomfort in amoment, but chances are it's not
that bad.
It won't be that bad.
It will pass.
I can't tell you how many timesi don't press post on something
and i cringe after it i presspost and then i walk away i put
it down i just throw it down isend an email i walk away i just
put it down i don't want to hita response i just i have to at
(18:31):
this point do it press postrecord it go keep it pushing
keep it moving and let the chipsfall where they may and nine
times out of ten it is never asbad as i thought it was so maybe
you just simply have to trickyour mind and just say hey hush
bully that thing hush up hush uplike i said in the last episode
you feel the fear and do itanyway you tell your amygdala
(18:54):
tell your your intrusivethoughts tell those wild
thoughts those thoughts justtrying to pull you back to
comfort a little discomfortain't gonna hurt me it's gonna
help me grow i need to be alittle uncomfortable to get
where i need to be Sometimes yougot to tell yourself that.
Okay.
I think I said enough on oneepisode.
This has been a little bitlonger than anticipated or
(19:16):
expected, but you know, I'm realpassionate about this thing.
I'm passionate about it.
We got to talk about it.
We got to get these things out.
So thank you guys for listeningthis week.
I will be back next week withmore info and information.
I going to tell you what it'sgoing to be on because I know
me, I change like the wind.
So yeah, I'll see y'all nextepisode.
Welcome back to the Thoughts of a Dreamer podcast
with me, Ms.
Terri Nikki.
This is season two and I'mcalling this Out My Mind because
now it's time to get out of ourheads.
It's time to actually do what itis we need to do.
Now, will we stumble?
Absolutely.
Are we going to take a couple ofsteps back?
Probably, but that's what thispodcast is about.
(00:20):
We're going to discover andrecover whenever we stumble so
that we can still achieve andlive out these dreams.
So let's go.
Welcome back to the Thoughts ofa Dreamer podcast with me, Ms.
Terri Nikki.
Okay, okay, so I'm about to havea real conversation.
A real conversation.
So if you're not ready to getreal with what's going on, then
you know you might want to hopto another episode.
(00:42):
You might want to, as they sayon TikTok, keep scrolling.
But today I want to talk aboutsomething that I feel as though
is rarely discussed.
And that is...
The voices.
The voices, the voices, thevoices.
I am not speaking from a placeof schizophrenia.
I am speaking from a place ofnormalcy.
I'm speaking from the place ofwhere dreamers turning to
(01:05):
executors.
And that gray area right whenyou start making moves is when
those voices are the loudest.
And I want to talk about why,okay?
As dreamers, we sit up in ourheads.
And we are leaping, frolickingin the field of our ideas.
(01:31):
They're great.
They're wonderful.
They can change the world.
They can make us all kinds ofmoney.
And as we're frolicking freelywithin the catacombs of our
mind, We are gatheringinformation on how it would feel
to actualize these dreams, whatit would mean to actualize these
(01:52):
dreams, how important thesedreams are, how great it would
be once people actually see whatit is that you have playing in
your mind.
It's safe, it's warm, it'scomfortable, it's exciting.
But as soon as you start to putaction behind those thoughts, to
(02:16):
give those thoughts a bit ofoxygen, so to speak, in comes
the voices.
Here come the voices.
They're loud.
They are rambunctious.
They are intrusive.
And they are relentless.
(02:37):
When going on my dreamer'sjourney, it was something that I
really didn't know was normal.
I had no idea.
So in normal Terry fashion, Iresearched it.
I just wanted to see what thebig deal was.
I wanted to see if I needed togo and talk to somebody, you
know, or if this was a genuinething that happens regardless.
(03:03):
And to my surprise and to myrelief, it was the latter.
Okay, stick with me for a littleminute.
I'm going to get a littlescience-y, but it won't be long.
It won't be long.
Just stay with me.
When we are encountered withsomething that's unknown,
something that's new, weactivate two parts of our brain.
One, the amygdala, which is kindof like the smoke signal, the
(03:28):
alarm, the beep, beep, beep.
The world is going to collapse.
It's on fire.
What's going on?
La, la, la, la, la.
Rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah.
And then the prefrontal cortex,which is our logical side, our
rational side, our reasoningside, the planner.
So depending on your ownsettings in your head, depending
(03:49):
on your own wires, whenever youstep out or even think of
stepping out into something thatis unknown, you are going to
hear the conversation betweenthe amygdala and the prefrontal
cortex.
I guess it's think they talkingto themselves silently but
they're loud as hell in my mindthey just just just loud just
talking and one side is sayingdanger danger danger alert we
(04:13):
don't know what's going on herewhat's wrong what's new what's
this what's that is scanning forall the evidence that it can
find to have or shed any lighton this unknown while your logic
is saying it's just a post it'sjust pressing play it's just
chilling like trip chill in 1995daniel goldman in a most
(04:35):
Mentioned amygdala hijack.
He coined this term and he said,which means your prefrontal
cortex does not stand a chance.
Logic gets pushed to the side.
And that amygdala, the amygdala,its goal is not to grow you.
(05:00):
It's not growth.
It's not maturity.
It's not even safety.
It's comfort.
It's comfort.
Let's get back to what we know.
Let's go back there.
That's safe.
That's comfortable.
Let's go back there.
There's no threat there.
So let's get back to what we doknow, which is being an
observer, which is being in ourheads, which is frolicking in
(05:22):
the sea of dreams and ideas inour head.
We're safe.
These are the conversations atyour head that the two parts of
your brain are having that youare clearly being in on.
That you're not supposed tohear, I guess.
Those decisions, thoseconversations are making the
decisions for you.
And what's so crazy is it cansound like rationalizing.
(05:43):
You're rationalizing yourselfback to comfort.
Our minds are wired for comfort.
Not growth.
No.
Not realizing your dream.
No.
It wants to keep us safe.
It wants comfort.
Now we know.
(06:03):
Now we know that we have twodifferent activations that
happen in our brain, theamygdala and the prefrontal
cortex.
They're having a conversation.
They're talking to one another.
If one is louder than the other,it determines how you actually
move.
Now, what do those conversationssound like?
What is that?
So let's make this a little bitrelatable, okay?
So does this sound like you?
(06:26):
Man, what if I embarrass myself?
Danger.
You know what?
I'm going to F this up.
I'm not going to do it.
Danger.
I'm just going to wait.
I'm just going to wait until Ifeel more ready.
Danger.
I can't handle this.
This too much.
This too much.
I'm doing too much.
(06:46):
Danger.
You know what?
I'll do that later.
I'll do it later.
Danger.
You know, I'm just going tostick with what I know.
I know that.
I don't know this.
Danger.
Okay, wait, wait, wait, wait,wait.
I'm going to double check thisone more time.
Let me double check.
Let me triple check.
Danger.
Oh, this is cringe.
(07:07):
I ain't going to post this.
Danger.
I'm going to look stupid.
I ain't posting this.
I'm going to look stupid.
Danger.
UNKNOWN (07:17):
Ah.
SPEAKER_00 (07:17):
I'm tired.
I don't feel like doing it.
I'm just going to wait tilltomorrow.
Danger.
What if I tell them how I feel?
What if they walk away from me?
I'm just not going to saynothing.
Danger.
Amygdala.
That's your amygdala, okay?
That is your head trying to pushyou back to a place where you
(07:40):
are comfortable.
You understand now that wheneveryou are going to make a step
into the unknown, doingsomething in the unknown,
there's a conversation that'sgoing to take place.
And within that conversation ofyour amygdala and your
prefrontal cortex, depending onjust how your head is wired,
(08:01):
Determines how you're going tomove.
So if the threat that theamygdala is signaling to you is
louder than your logic, louderthan your rational thoughts, you
are going to move back to aplace of comfort.
(08:22):
Now, I know the next questionis, well, how do I get over
this?
How do I get over this?
How do I move forward?
What is the thing that I need todo in order to bypass these
thoughts and just move forward,move ahead?
Okay.
Okay.
Don't be mad.
Don't be mad.
Okay.
I'm trying.
Okay.
(08:42):
Don't be mad.
Don't be mad when I tell youthis.
But the thing...
that is going to out way quietdown hush up this amygdala It's
confidence.
Confidence.
Confidence.
I get it.
I get it.
(09:02):
Wait, wait, wait.
Hold up.
Hold up.
Hold up.
I hear what you're saying.
You don't have the confidence.
That's why your head goingcrazy.
Look.
Hey, hey.
I get it.
Your amygdala is searching forany type of evidence to prove
that it will be safe.
It will not be a threat movingforward.
And the only reason or the onlyway it's alerting itself is
(09:22):
because there's a lack ofconfidence.
There's a lack of evidence.
But here is where we asdreamers, we get this thing
wrong, man.
We get it wrong.
We have it in the wrong positionbecause what people fail to
realize is you don't getconfident without action.
(09:45):
So boom, here's the process.
You want to do somethingunknown.
You're thinking about it.
Now you're freaking out.
When you freak out, youramygdala is like alarm bells,
alarm bells, alarm bells.
Clearly it's overriding yourprefrontal cortex.
So now you're amygdala islooking and scanning all of the
confidence and evidence that ithas in order to suppress in
order to suppress the fact thatthere is danger so now your
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amygdala turns a spotlight ontoyour confidence and onto your
evidence both of y'all arelooking at each other like the
spider-man me pointing at eachother you pointing at confidence
evidence is pointing atconfidence confidence is
pointing at evidence i don'tknow what to do i don't know
what to do you go first no yougo first no you go first no you
go first but the fact of thematter is we as dreamers have it
wrong we have it backwards inorder for confidence to do the
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job that it needs to do it needsevidence how do you get evidence
you got to do it you got to doit fearful you have to do it
afraid you have to do it despiteyou have to just do it now there
is a way that we can just do itwithout alerting our amygdala as
much and this is where i want tointroduce the compound effect
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come on here compound effectloud front and center the
compound effect was a book thatwas written by Darren Hardy.
Inside of this book, he presentsthe idea that micro-movements
towards a larger goal will placeyou further in achieving that
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goal than trying to convinceyourself to do large chunks at
one time, because that ishonestly, honestly
unsustainable.
When I read this book, thingsjust kind of like, light bulb,
explosion.
It It made so much sense to me.
This is where I want you to testjust how sensitive your amygdala
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is.
In your land of dreams, in yourhead, pull one down and say, I
am going to make action towardsyou, dream.
You've already envisioned thesteps that you need to take in
order to get this thing done.
I know you have.
So first up, dream, pulling youdown, pulling you up to the
forefront.
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Let's just say your dream is tobe Now, in order for you to be a
viral sensation, you got to putyourself out there.
You got to record yourself avideo for people to see.
Okay.
So this is where you need totest just how sensitive your
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amygdala is.
All right.
Whatever step that you need totake freaks you out.
Your alarm bell starts to ring.
Everything's going on in yourhead.
That smoke detector is beeping.
You're like, oh no, danger,danger, danger, danger.
Stop.
Just stop and think about thestep right before it.
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Engage how you feel.
So for instance, You want tobecome a viral sensation.
You know, in order to do that,you have to record and post a
video.
Now, the thought of yourecording and posting the video
makes you cringe, makes you sickto your stomach, makes you have
night sweats and shortness ofbreath, and you have a slight
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panic attack.
You don't know what it is youneed to do.
Pause.
Pause.
Stop.
Instead of pressing publish, whynot today?
You record it.
Just record the video and don'tpublish it.
Oh, oh, oh, record recordingfreaks you out and you don't
like how you look on camera youlook big you look skinny you
look like a platypus I don'tknow freaks you out cool stop
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stop What is the step beforerecording?
Ideation.
Sit down, think about logicallywhat it is that you need to do
in order to get it done.
Oh, oh, it's too much.
It's too much.
It's freaking you out.
I got to do way too much, waytoo much.
Stop.
Dial it back down and dial itback down and dial it back down
until you get to a step whereyour amygdala is like, okay, I
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can do this.
That ain't, that ain't no bigdeal.
Where it's not a freak out.
This is called a compoundeffect.
When you dial your actions backdown and you have these micro
actions towards a larger goalthan doing one thing every
single day, whether it be small,super small, minute, can
catapult you in the longer runthan you trying to take big
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chunks at a time.
And what this does, it allowsyour evidence to build your
confidence to do the biggerthings that what usually freaks
your amygdala out won't even bea thing anymore because it has
confidence.
Because when you work yourselfup to pressing publish, now you
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see, oh shoot, this wasn't eventhat bad.
That's what I mean.
having those micro actions,micro movements to get the ball
and the needle rolling.
And those small actionscompounded have great effects.
And you will be miles ahead thanwhere you were if you just
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stalled and freaked out becausethat one big action made you
have night sweats.
Okay, so compound effect, numberone.
Number two.
Distract yourself.
Let's just say you are recordingthis thing and you are freaking
out.
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Do something else to distractyourself, i.e.
turn on some music, go for awalk outside, do something else
while you're still in the actionso that maybe your mind is
diverted elsewhere and you canslide in those micro actions
that doesn't freak you out, thatyour alarm bells don't go off,
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kind of sneak in that way, backthough that thing.
You get what I mean?
Yeah.
Do like a backdoor type vibe.
Number three.
Okay.
Okay.
You are freaking out about pressand publish.
Do you know somebody who alreadyhas?
Do you have some sort of personaround you in your life that has
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done it, that you've seen do it,that you've seen the efforts and
the effects of their efforts?
Lean on their confidence a bit.
See that they've done it.
See that they're still livingand alive and well.
They're not up and down.
just forlorn borrow theirconfidence a bit borrow their
experience see how they go usethat to your advantage lean on
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that evidence and then go for itgo for it you know um another
thing that is very helpful yourmicro movements pat yourself on
the back your micro movementscall those out make that
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evidence.
Put that evidence.
Okay.
Okay.
Whenever there is any type ofshout out or kudos or pats on
the back or highlight orapproval of something that
you've done, it gives you a hitof dopamine.
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And you want to have as many ofthose as you possibly can.
Put your deeds, put your micromovements on front street.
Call that bit out.
Like, yeah, I did that.
I did that.
And guess what?
I'm going to do somethingbigger.
I'm going to do this thingbigger.
You have to make sure that yougive yourself the kudos and the
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shout outs that you need inthose moments so that you can
calm that amygdala down andallow your PFC, prefrontal
cortex, to move to theforefront.
Okay, do that.
Do that.
And the last little tip that Ihave.
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Call out your amygdala.
Hey, this is a feeling.
This is not fact.
This is a feeling.
This is not fact.
Calm down.
Calm down.
Don't do this.
Don't trip out.
Don't go off the deep end.
We are not going to be hurt.
There's not going to be anydanger.
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It is just a post.
It is just pressing record.
You may feel discomfort in amoment, but chances are it's not
that bad.
It won't be that bad.
It will pass.
I can't tell you how many timesi don't press post on something
and i cringe after it i presspost and then i walk away i put
it down i just throw it down isend an email i walk away i just
put it down i don't want to hita response i just i have to at
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this point do it press postrecord it go keep it pushing
keep it moving and let the chipsfall where they may and nine
times out of ten it is never asbad as i thought it was so maybe
you just simply have to trickyour mind and just say hey hush
bully that thing hush up hush uplike i said in the last episode
you feel the fear and do itanyway you tell your amygdala
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tell your your intrusivethoughts tell those wild
thoughts those thoughts justtrying to pull you back to
comfort a little discomfortain't gonna hurt me it's gonna
help me grow i need to be alittle uncomfortable to get
where i need to be Sometimes yougot to tell yourself that.
Okay.
I think I said enough on oneepisode.
This has been a little bitlonger than anticipated or
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expected, but you know, I'm realpassionate about this thing.
I'm passionate about it.
We got to talk about it.
We got to get these things out.
So thank you guys for listeningthis week.
I will be back next week withmore info and information.
I going to tell you what it'sgoing to be on because I know
me, I change like the wind.
So yeah, I'll see y'all nextepisode.
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