Transformation at your own pace

Spoiler alert: the break I took from the podcast lasted longer than I initially thought or planned it to. But here's the thing, as you'll hear in today's episode a pause of rest and reflection is sometimes necessary for us to truly live, thrive, and show up as our best selves.

In a world that often celebrates hustle, we’re diving deep into the power of slowing down. Discover how taking a break can improve not only your productivity but also your overall mindset. This discussion highlights the importance of embracing your unique journey and letting go of comparisons with others. 

I share personal insights from my own journey, illustrating how taking time to pause, reflect, and rest can lead to profound clarity and growth. I talk about what it means to me to live authentically and at one’s own pace. 

Are you ready to embrace transformation with me? Let's redefine how we perceive success and acceptance in our lives. Share your journey of transformation and let’s grow together!

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Episode Transcript

Ebony Fleming (00:00):
Hey, love, I'm Ebony and welcome to Thrive Like
a Mother On this podcast.
We're scared for our truth, butthat fear is what fuels us to
truly live in it.
You're in the right place ifyou feel like you're stuck in
survivor mode and you're readyto step into who you were truly

(00:20):
meant to be.
I'll share resources and toolsI use daily to help you in your
journey towards a healthiermindset and to break the wheel
of survival.
The journey may not be easy,but you won't have to face it
alone.
I'm a mama of three, healingday by day from past trauma, and
I'm on a mission to build alife I've always dreamed of but

(00:42):
never thought was possible.
So, love, if you're ready tobelieve in what's possible,
let's link arms and thrivetogether.
Welcome back, thrivers.
Oh, oh, my gosh.
That feels so good to say y'all, I cannot even I can barely

(01:03):
contain my excitement to berecording again, to be done with
my break that I took andhonestly, y'all, I really just
want to jump right into it here.
I'm not going to waste any time.
I know that your time isvaluable and I want to honor

(01:24):
that, so I'm going to jump rightin.
Why did I take a break, like, ifyou didn't notice, I'm in a
little bit quiet.
Let's start with the beginning,right?
I recognized for a while orI've known for a while that
there are seasons in life, right?
Even more so, I started torecognize the importance of

(01:45):
seasons of rest and reflection,and that's huge for me, y'all,
because I am such a big planner,I think that I always will be,
honestly.
But recently I have beenleaning more into doing what
feels right and not necessarilyneeding to plan every single
detail out.
And so when I got to the end ofseason one, that last episode,

(02:11):
I was like, okay, yeah, this isit, and it was.
It was the episode where I hadjust done the first hike, like a
mother event.
I had recorded that episode andI felt it.
I felt I was like, yeah, thisfeels like a good pausing point.
This feels like a point to takesome time, not only to rest,

(02:33):
because I have been going, going, going since before February
when I launched, because therewas that time where I was
learning everything that Ineeded to do to launch a podcast
, and so I had been going,honestly, nonstop, and I was
like, all right, girl, it's timeto pause, first of all, get
some rest, take a break and thenalso take time to reflect on

(02:56):
what things went amazing forthis season and what things I
wanted to improve on, and comeback to y'all with the fire and
the passion that I know I wantedto continue to give you.
And so it just it felt right.
I want to talk about reallyquickly that season.
I don't want to say season ofhustle, because I I used to be a

(03:21):
strong believer of the seasonof hustle and now I no longer.
My viewpoints are changing, myeyes are open, but there was a
point where, right before theend of season one, where I was
talking with my coach andtalking to her about all the
things that I had done no, I haddone the masterclasses,

(03:42):
launched two of those.
I published a book.
Let's go back further.
Before the masterclasses, Ipublished a book that turned
into the masterclasses.
I did that twice and then I didthe hike and then I had that
amazing end of season one andthere was so much the feelings,

(04:03):
the feelings that I had.
There were feelings ofaccomplishment, but there was
also a feeling just like an urgeto slow down rather than to
keep pushing out content.
And I listened to my gut.
I was like okay, I hear you,I'm going to pause and I'm going
to come back even better foryou guys.

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That was the goal of the breakand I could have, honestly, like
I said, I'm a planner, I couldhave planned an actual date to
end season one and I reallycould have like made a whole big
thing and just been like, yes,this is going to be the end of
season one, all those thingsright.
But that didn't.
It just didn't feel right.

(04:46):
It didn't feel authentic toplan that out, I think, going
forward, that is kind of how I'mgoing to do it, going forward
as well.
You won't know when the end ofseason two will be.
Honestly, I probably won't knowuntil I feel it.
So let's touch on that momentthat I had right.
I was sitting at my computerchallenging what I've always

(05:09):
known and sitting in thatuncomfortable feeling of
transformation.
I was like, girl, you got twopaths here.
You can keep going, which weknow you can do, but does that
feel right?
Or you can take a break andrest, reflect, come back even
stronger, challenging my neverstop mindset that I've had ever

(05:30):
since I was a kid.
In that moment, I decided toinstead cultivate this new
mindset that I have of doingwhat feels right, and if, in
that moment, it felt like Ineeded to slow down and rest,
then that's what I was going todo.
I am focusing in on the mindsetthat there is no rush guys, I'm

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not in a race, we are not in arace.
That there is no rush guys, I'mnot in a race, we are not in a
race.
And in that moment I fullyembraced that I'm allowed to go
at my own pace.
And so I want to give you thepermission too, as well, because
I think we don't hear it oftenenough.
There's a lot of if you want tobe successful, do exactly what
I did, these three easy steps,things like that.
Right, we hear that so ofteninstead of just saying you know

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what, I don't have it figuredall out, but I'm going at my own
pace and I'm figuring it out onmy own, and we're allowed to do
that.
And if that means taking abreak, then that is okay.
If that means you know I am notgoing to push myself to work
harder during this time, thenthat is okay.

(06:38):
And while we're kind of on thissubject, we're moving into the
subject of going at our own pace, I kind of want to address the
challenge of something else thatcame up for me during that like
challenge moment, right, thatuncomfortable feeling that I was
like should I take a break orshouldn't I?

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When you find your passion andyou truly start living in your
purpose which is something thatI feel like I've done over the
past year now it feels like Ihonestly I started to do what
I've always done, right.
I started to look around me andwhat other people were doing,

(07:22):
what steps they were taking, andI started to wonder if I was
taking too long.
I know that sounds so silly,right, like taking too long for
what, ebony?
Like what?
What are you talking about, eb?
So here's the thing thathappens when you compare your
journey with others.
First, you either forget thejoy that comes with being unique

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, which I definitely talkedabout in season one.
I talked about being authenticand how it's so beautiful that
we're all so unique in our owndifferent ways.
That's the first thing that'sgoing to happen You're going to
lose that joy of being unique.
And second, you're going tostart to wonder if the pace

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you're going at is the reasonthat you need to give up on your
passion, your dream, yourmission.
Mm-mm.
Yeah, I said this is the toughlove part of this episode.
If you are someone who struggleswith this, like I am, because I

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do I start to think, all right,if things aren't happening fast
enough, I might need to switchto something else.
No, we are not doing thatanymore.
Nope, this season, this season,we're doing things differently.
We are embracing not only goingat our own pace, but we're
letting go of what it means towant to match anyone else's pace

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, because we think it will helpus get there faster to success.
We're letting go of those andwe're embracing going at our own
pace Because it's beautiful,like I said, to have your own
unique pace and your own uniquepath.
No one is going to do it likeyou are, no one.

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So I'm going to end there.
I'm gonna end there.
I'm gonna end with a tough love.
Yes, y'all, it feels so good tobe back, to be pouring into you
all again and choosing to thrivetogether.
If you can't tell the vibe I'mgoing for, this season is
completely an embracingtransformation, and I really

(09:36):
hope that this episode not onlywelcomed you back because
welcome back but it also gaveyou the permission that maybe
you've been looking for toembrace the change, embrace the
transformation, challenge thosemindsets that you've had all
your life and remember to feelempowered and going at your own

(09:59):
pace and being okay with yourpace, because it's yours, you
own it.
So, y'all, if you love thisepisode and you're as hyped for
season two as I am, please tagme on Instagram and tell me how
you are deciding to embracetransformation with me this
season.
Thank you so much for listening.

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Love.
If anything in today's episoderesonated with you, share it
with your bestie, or share it onsocial media and tag me so we
can chat about it, as always,sending you light and love, and
remember you are worthy, you areenough and you deserve to
thrive.