June 24, 2025 • 29 mins
Have you ever caught yourself doom scrolling for hours, sitting in your car outside Target because you "need a moment," or neglecting your own needs while perfectly maintaining everyone else's schedules? Your nervous system is desperately trying to tell you something.
In today's conversation, registered nurse, holistic life coach and somatic healer Audrey Rose helps us dive deep into understanding nervous system dysregulation – what it looks like, why it happens, and most importantly, how to address it before reaching complete burnout. Audrey vulnerably shares her own journey of working through the pandemic as a nurse until her body hit what she calls "functional freeze" – a state where you appear fine on the outside but are completely shut down internally.
You'll discover how your autonomic nervous system responds to perceived threats and why our modern world keeps us constantly cycling through stress responses without proper resolution. The most powerful revelation? This isn't a problem with you – it's your body's natural protective mechanism responding to an overwhelming environment.
Audrey guides us through three evidence-based practices that can immediately begin shifting your nervous system back toward regulation: specific breathing techniques, EFT tapping, and sound healing. These practices don't require hours of your time but can dramatically increase your capacity to handle stress while maintaining your natural ambition and drive.
For the high-achieving woman who feels she doesn't have time for these practices, Audrey offers a perspective-shifting rubber band analogy that explains why regulation isn't optional – it's essential for preventing the complete collapse that eventually comes from chronic stress. Your nervous system needs to both activate and recover, and these practices ensure you maintain that crucial flexibility.
Ready to reclaim your bandwidth while keeping your ambition intact? Then visit helloaudreyrose.com/sisterhood for a free two-week trial of Audrey's Rise Sisterhood. There you'll find ongoing support for your nervous system regulation journey. Your future self will thank you.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, love, I'm Ebony and welcome to Thrive Like a
Mother On this podcast.
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The journey may not be easy,but you won't have to face it
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I'm a mama of three, healingday by day from past trauma, and
I'm on a mission to build alife I've always dreamed of but
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never thought was possible.
So, love, if you're ready tobelieve in what's possible,
let's link arms and thrivetogether.
Hey, loves, welcome to anotherepisode of the Thrive Like a
Mother podcast and, as you cansee, we have a very special
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guest on today.
Her name is Audrey Rose.
First of all, y'all this womanso powerful.
She's a registered nurse,holistic life coach and somatic
healer.
She's also the founder of theRise Sisterhood and the host of
a top-ranked podcast, ready toRise.
And y'all, audrey, she's allabout helping high-achieving
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women learn how to regulatetheir nervous systems and
reconnect with their truehappiness without losing the
ambition.
And that has not said enough toyou already Like why we need her
on the podcast today, why youneed to listen in you know, get
cozy and just get ready, becauseshe's about to pour so much
wisdom into y'all Gosh, Iliterally cannot wait, I'm so
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excited to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Thank you so much.
It's so cool.
I know I love this.
I'm like now you've been on mypodcast, I'm on yours.
This is so fun.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Yes, I love it.
I love it and I know.
Today we're talking all aboutnervous system regulation, which
I know.
First of all, I have a lot ofwomen listening and I have a lot
of mamas.
And when I tell you, it isdifficult for us to learn how to
regulate our nervous systems,especially after having children
and, you know, becomingsomething new.
(02:14):
So I am, so I'm just gratefulfor you today, because we need
all of the tips, all of thelearnings, just everything.
All of the tips, all of thelearnings, just everything.
So I want you to just share alittle bit about yourself, like
what season of life you'recurrently in, what you're
working on.
Share all of that.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Right now I'm like you know that question.
You're always like where do Iwant to start?
So I am a registered nurse andthat's really how I got into
this was I had probably eight oralmost nine years ago now I had
my whole healing journey andthat's you know what ended up
leading me to starting thepodcast and all that you know.
And we met like at the eventsand all of those things and I
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was like heavy into the personaldevelopment and like the mind
stuff, like the mindset stuffand and then it's like the
journey was happening and I wasdoing really good and I had like
felt like I had really foundmyself again.
I was like just thriving, rightand and then out of nowhere,
just like everybody has apandemic story, the pandemic hit
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and it was like it knocked meoff my feet, like I really just
working as a nurse during thattime just I mean overwhelmed me
and I didn't even know it.
At the time.
I thought like I'm good, I'mgoing to work all this overtime.
At the time it was just me andmy dog, you know, here, and so I
had nothing to worry about.
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I was like as long as she's fedand here, and so I had nothing
to worry about.
I was like, as long as she'sfed and gets out, we're good.
I can work my butt off, becausethere were so many other nurses
who couldn't.
They had young kids at home orelderly parents they were taking
care of and it was a reallyscary time and so I was like
it's just me, I'll just bereally careful and I'll isolate
at home and work.
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And I remember my mom tellingme she's like you are going to
burn out and I was like no, no,no, I'm not, I'm fine, I'm going
to be fine.
Yeah, sure enough.
Like three years into thepandemic, when it started to
slow down a little bit, I hit ahuge burnout.
I mean I ended up.
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So I was basically in charge ofa unit that was all about COVID
and and that was a lot I waslike one of the main lead nurses
.
Yeah, it was intense.
I mean I was constantly talkingto like the doctors about
things and as things change, itwas like I just kind of kept up
with everything because I wasthere so much.
I was on the phone with, likeour what do you call it?
(04:44):
It's called CDPH for short.
It's like the public health ofCalifornia here and just to like
learn the things you know forour specific unit and there was
just so much happening, right.
So eventually, when that unitclosed down and then we only had
a little bit of cases of thatyou know left and it kind of
went back to normal, like likeit went throughout the hospital,
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that kind of thing I took athree month sabbatical and I was
like something is wrong with me, something is super wrong, and
it was obviously the grief andall of that stuff.
There was a lot to think aboutand you know, a lot to process,
but my nervous system was shot.
I mean, I couldn't even handlethe regular things of life at
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that point because I was so shot.
Like the bills were piling up,the you know whatever, like you
know how you have all the thingsyou got to do.
You got to make appointmentsfor this and you got to get the
oil changed on the car, whatever, right, all of that was
building up and I couldn't doany of it.
So at first I just thought, youknow, okay, it's because I need
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to work out and it's because Ineed to push harder, like
everybody.
We all think that right, it'sbecause I'm so bad, like I need
to do more.
I'm just such a bad person andI didn't know that I was
actually in.
It's basically just nervoussystem dysregulation and it was
very specifically calledfunctional freeze, where you can
function and you can go to workand you can do certain things
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and you can show up and on theoutside you look fine.
People aren't going to notice,like at the grocery store.
You're cool, you still looklike you're crushing life, but
on the inside you are socompletely shut down You're
neglecting yourself.
You're just not.
Most days I wasn't even gettingoff the couch, I was canceling
plans yeah.
I was just doom scrolling on myphone and then you look up and
(06:28):
you're like wait, how did it getdark already?
Yeah, what happened, gosh.
so that is my story and it just,you know it ended up leading me
to like figuring out how do Ilean in to learning about the
nervous system, like as a nurse,you already know like we, you
know I'm trained in so muchalready, but I'm not trained in
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the more holistic tools, right?
Because by the time they cometo me in the hospital people are
really sick.
So I was like, let me just leaninto the nervous system.
It's clearly a nervous systemproblem.
I can tell, like I know youknow about the vagus nerve and I
know about these differentsymptoms and the different parts
of our nervous system.
So, really leaning in tonervous system regulation, and
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so yeah, here I am todayteaching it.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Amazing, and I want to jump right into that because
that I mean that's perfect.
I know there's a lot of womenlistening into this right now
that they've maybe heard theterm nervous system at some
point in their life but theydon't know, like, what that
means.
Can you give like some examplesof how that can show up in your
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body, knowing that you're likeyou're, dysregulated?
I think that's what you said.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, yeah, so dysregulation.
So let me just I'll give kindof like the short backstory,
because I'm one of those peoplewho I'm like I want to know a
little bit of why.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
So we have a bunch of you know there's different
parts of the nervous system.
Of course it's like our brain,it's our spinal cord, but out on
the like, extremities, like out, you know, to our hands, to our
toes, all of that it's likecalled the peripheral nervous
system and there's part of itcalled the autonomic, which
really just automatically doesour responses for fight or
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flight, which we've all heard of.
Or there's the other part of itcalled rest and digest, which
is the parasympathetic nervoussystem, and that's when you feel
fully relaxed.
When you're in that stateYou're like you can watch a
movie on the couch and you'renot stressed about what's
happening everywhere else.
You're fully able to relax.
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But that flip side, that fightor flight response, it's really
like a primal response that wehave in our brain to keep us
safe, like from the caveman days, when there's a tiger and it
sends all of that cortisol andall the the other hormones and
the whole stress response sothat we can outrun the tiger,
get food, you know, survive,really like puts us into like
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the full-on survival mode tokeep us safe.
Nowadays we're not running fromtigers, right where's the
danger?
Yeah, so, but the danger is likeour body hasn't evolved as
quickly as our world around us.
So we sense danger almosteverywhere.
Driving in a car and you seethe car coming to a stop sign
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and you're like, are they goingto stop?
And even though we know we likeon the outside, we know like
we're good, our brain, ourprimal part of our brain, is
just like.
Like we're good, our brain, ourprimal part of our brain, is
just like whoa, that's a hugedanger.
Or like not another email.
Or like why is your bosscalling you?
That's so scary, that feelingyou know.
Or like or with kids, like Ican only imagine, like all of
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the amounts of things that yourbrain is constantly scanning for
threats all the time.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
So it adds up like because every time that your
brain thinks that there's alittle bit of you know if
something that we can say is athreat, it sends you into a
little bit of fight or flight orit starts that stress response.
Even if you don't feel like it,it's doing this for you and so
over time those all add up andevery time that we get into
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these chronic stress and then wedon't complete, there's like a
whole I won't go into it becauseit's way too long, but there's
a whole stress response thathappens in your body and it
needs to be completed live inthat state and then it just
builds up over time.
So that's when it starts tolook like you know the symptoms
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of dysregulation.
That can be different foreverybody, but it's really like
you don't feel like yourself isprobably like the biggest you
know first sign.
But then it goes into.
Things really start to pile upbecause we can't handle them.
We can't keep up with things weused to be able to keep up with
.
You're not making.
You might still be making, likeappointments for the kids or
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you know, cooking dinner forthem, but you'll notice that for
you you're not.
You stop working out.
You stop, you know, payingattention to yourself, you might
not be making appointments foryou.
You're trying to like cut a lotof corners in life because
you're so overwhelmed.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
For me and, I think, a lot of the women that I see,
it's very much about the doomscrolling.
Lately that's been a huge topiccoming up.
We're so overwhelmed that it'sjust a really easy escape and we
sit, disassociate.
You can disassociate in otherways, like sitting in your car.
(11:28):
You're at Target, you're like Ican't even go in or I can't go
in the house yet, like I got tosit here for like 10 minutes and
just do nothing.
Yeah, so all it is is just yournervous system is so kind of
overwhelmed that it's hittingthat like that big, like red
button, like the big shut offbutton.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Hey, no, we cannot do anything else.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
It's like stop everything, I can't handle any
more input, and it kind of justshuts it down for you, and
that's why you might not evennotice, like you can maybe pick
your phone up, and then a lot oftimes, even for me, it's just
like I just grab Instagram andI'm, you know an hour later like
wait, why am I still looking atthis?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
And so, yeah, what did I come on here for?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yeah, and so that's like what you know.
What ends up happening is justlike our body just kind of does
it for us.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
That is scary too.
And yeah, not noticing You'relike I'm fine, but your body?
Is clearly giving you signsthat we're not.
So let's talk about someone whomaybe listening to this right
now.
They're like oh my gosh, audrey, that's me.
They're like I'm doing the doomscrolling.
I'm sitting in my car, you know, I'm needing to have the
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moments.
What can they start with whenthey are sitting in those
moments?
What is an alternate option forthem to start to regulate
themselves again?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
so the first thing I want to say and I know that,
like chat GPT keeps putting thison everybody's stuff on
Instagram, so I know I'm abroken record because I see
everyone talking about this, butyou're not broken.
Like everybody has to know,like you are not broken, because
we, as women, will go rightinto beating ourselves up.
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So just, I think that's likenumber one is, when you catch
that, just know like this is sonatural in today's world to get
overwhelmed, and it's cool, youcan still handle, and that's the
other thing is as highachieving women.
It's like even worse, becausewe're used to like we do all the
things, yeah, and so then allof a sudden you're like wait,
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why can't I handle everything?
Yeah, and we're used to beingthat woman.
And so then it's like almostembarrassing on the inside, on
the very deep inside Might noteven like tell your husband
right, You're like I don't knowwhat's going on, but I feel like
doing absolutely nothing.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I feel like doing absolutely nothing.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yep.
And then it's like I don't wantanybody to know about this, but
it's okay, like it really isokay.
And the thing with quick plug,like the thing with a nervous
system, regulation is, onceyou're coming from a more
regulated place, you can do allthe things because you're going
to have the bandwidth Right.
So like that's why I likealways tell women I'm like I'm
not going to make you slow downand I'm not going to tell you to
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take more off your plate.
You can do it, but we just gotto regulate.
So to the woman who's justcaught herself, that's the first
thing.
The second thing is take abreath.
And I know that's the annoyingresponse because it's like what
do you mean?
Just stand here and just take abreath.
But really that rest and digest.
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That other side of that fight orflight, stress response, the
other side of that is reallycontrolled by this huge nerve in
our body.
It's massive.
I'm like getting so lit upbecause it's just really cool
and it's called the vagus nerveand, yes, we can actually
stimulate that nerve.
It runs right through ourdiaphragm and it's just the cool
because I've like seen it.
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So I'm like lighting up because, like, as gross as that is.
I won't go into details, butlike I've seen all of this and
it's huge and our diaphragm canlike rub it and like stimulate
it with breath.
It's so cool, yeah, so likethere's a few tools that I use
that are like the.
The best which we can get intoin a minute, but that is the
first.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
One is like take some deep breaths, box bleeding, if
you can yes, I, my goodness, Ijust shared that and cook like a
mother because you know, it'sso important yeah, it's
important to just know, likewhen all the things, even if
you're sitting in the kitchenand you're like this is too much
, I don't want to do anythingelse Like, just take a breath,
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take a moment.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Take a moment and you'll reset.
You know Exactly.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
All right.
So let's get into we talkedabout box breathing.
Let's get into some morepractices that they can start
implementing, like today, rightnow, even if you're feeling it.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Okay, so I have three that I teach, like inside the
rise sisterhood and just ingeneral.
Like I have three that I stickto because there are tons of
tools out there.
The thing is you can go toYouTube and you can get so many
of them for free nowadays, butthere are certain tools that are
really proven that, like youknow, they have gone through
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some studies and it's reallycool, like places like Harvard
and there's a couple other likeuniversities who have done
studies and so we do haveresearch that certain tools are
really helpful.
So breathing is absolutely ahuge one.
Like I was saying, it'll shiftyou into that state.
It's really cool because it candirectly like affect that.
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You know nerve and there's tonsof different types of breathing
and I won't get into it now,but, yeah, do your simple box
breathing and then in thesisterhood, every single month,
I lead them through a wholebreath work practice so that we
can like get into it and we do acouple of different ones.
Another really cool tool that Ilove is EFT tapping, which I'm
sure I feel like people haveheard about it but haven't
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really done it yet.
Yes, Because I think that wetend to think like, how is this
like just tapping on different?
How does it help, you know, andespecially as like a high, like
an analytical woman, we're justkind of like wait, what I don't
know.
It feels kind of woo.
It's like does this work?
But it's called emotionalfreedom technique and it's here
to kind of like help you get ridof a lot of the blocks, Like in
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ancient Chinese medicine.
They think that you know,there's these different
meridians, different kind ofbundles, and our energy can get
stuck in them, and so that's whythey do acupuncture to like
move the energy through, and sothat you know they've done that
for I mean thousands andthousands of years.
But now there's new kind of wayis with even less tools without
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needles, just tapping on theplaces, and it's so cool.
They have done studies on thisand it's showing that I forget
the timeframe, but it lowersyour cortisol like basically
immediately.
Like it literally reduces yourcortisol so quick.
So when you feel yourselfstressed out, that's another
really good one is just tappingand there's a whole sequence and
there's you know, you doaffirmations as you tap on the
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spots.
There's a whole way that ithappens.
You know we say certain kind ofnegative things and we bring
out the emotion and then moveinto the positive.
So, um, when you're firstlearning, you probably do want
to do it with somebody, but youcan get to that point where you
can just do it on your own, likein the like at the traffic
light.
You're just like, you know yeah, just take a second.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Yeah, just like, okay , what you see?
Yeah, it's so good.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
And then the third thing that I am obsessed with
save the best for last is soundhealing.
And sound healing used like wayback when on my first journey,
and now I'm certified in soundhealing and it's just like God,
I love it so much.
It just can I don't know.
It's like as soon as you startto hear the bulls, you know like
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sing, if you will it just likerelaxes you immediately and the
and I like I was like looking itup.
I'm like what are the studieson this Cause?
like I'm I'm a little bit of ascience girly I'm like what is
happening and really it'shelping your brainwaves, just
because of the sound, like thesound is giving you kind of like
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nature's rhythm, I guess youknow, and so the sound can go
right in and get you into ameditative brainwave state.
So there's a couple ofdifferent brainwaves, I won't go
into it, but but yeah, so itcan like literally mimic those
brainwaves and you will likemirror that and so it brings you
into this meditative statewithout and the coolest thing is
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is like this is the somaticwork, because it's our body work
, right.
Yes, For so long, as a womanwho's like analytical and
overthinking all of that, I waslike give me the book to heal
this, I will read it and I'll doall the things.
Yeah, and I think what's reallycool is like I noticed for me
that that wasn't working right,Like the books weren't helping,
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and I think what's really coolis like I noticed for me just
show up to a sound bath and letthe
vibrations do their thing, oryou just follow along with a
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breathwork instructor and youjust, like you know, do the
breathwork.
And so I'm just like trulyobsessed with, you know,
teaching these now and then justdoing them myself.
It's so funny.
The last I think it was lastmonth in the sisterhood I became
obsessed with the breathworkthat I did for them.
Everything comes in videos.
It's like a Netflix, you know.
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It's like a Netflix for yournervous system, and so, anyways,
like I literally rewatched thatvideo so many times, like
almost every day for myself, andI was like I'm the one that
like facilitated this, but it isso good.
I like we can't get enough.
It is quick, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yeah, especially when you think of, like you know, I
think when I first started kindof my healing practice, the
first thing I went to wasmeditation and it was really
difficult for me to get into it.
And then I got into.
I realized that any type oflike sound healing worked better
for me because, you know, Icould just be doing listen to
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the ocean, or bowls, or likewhatever how was your first
sound healing?
Speaker 2 (21:18):
I'm really curious.
I would love to hear because,were you like thinking or trying
to like what am I supposed tobe doing, or having any of those
kind of thoughts?
Speaker 1 (21:25):
I think at the beginning I was like, okay, am I
supposed to be doing anythingright here?
But then at some point, likethe sound frequencies, they just
they hit you and you just youknow, you don't have to think
anymore, you don't have to thinkabout the to-do list you don't
have to think about theappointments, you just be for a
second and it's perfect.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
yeah, I had the same thing.
So I was like really curiousabout your experience, like, yes
, goodness.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Okay, so let's.
Let's talk to the mama who wetalked about, the mama who maybe
recognizes that she's in thisright now.
What about the mama who feelslike she's too far gone?
Regulation is like one of thosethings that she doesn't have
time for.
I know we're out there.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Let's talk to that mama.
All right you, I forget thequote.
I'll have to look this up andlike, paste it on my laptop.
There's a quote by why am Iblanking?
You know, Kimora Lee Simmons,who, like, had a clothing line.
It's her husband's name,richard right.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Yes, uh-huh, okay, yes.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Yeah, now I'm like, oh my gosh, how embarrassing.
But anyways, he is super intomeditation, super, super into
meditation, which I never knew,and I had watched this
documentary and he was like part, you know, he was in it for
like a minute and he said he wasjust like, if you think that
you don't have time to you know,meditate was his thing, but to
any of these tools, that meansyou need to take twice as long
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out of your day to do the thing,to do this practice, because
when we think we don't have timefor this is because we are so
overwhelmed, there's so muchgoing on.
What happens is, if you've everhad one of those days where
there's so much going on butit's pulling you in a bunch of
different directions, right, youmight have a few kids, you
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might be, you know, and you it'slike hard because you have to
switch back and forth betweentasks quickly and we think we're
really good at it, and we arebecause we're women, so like,
let's be honest, but it still isreally hard to shift and we're
getting our attention pulled inmany directions when you start
your day, especially if youstart your day, but at any point
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of the day, start your day withlike a regulation practice, and
it can be short.
That's going to help you to beable to have like the bandwidth
really to go in these differentto you know, do the different
things your nervous system.
Like this is a new analogy.
I've never spoken about it likethis before, but it's almost, I
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want to say, like a rubber bandeven.
Right, we're supposed to beable to stretch open to the
stressful situation.
That's regulation.
You know, we want to be able toget activated, get stressed,
and then we want to come backand relax, and so throughout the
day that's happening so manytimes to us, right?
To keep it honed, to keep, likethat rubber band, from snapping.
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That's your nervous systemregulation practices, your
breath work, your sound, healing, all of that.
So do those things so that youcan keep stretching.
You know, for the woman who'slike I'm like way too far gone,
girl, you better sit down rightnow.
Yes, yeah, because what happensis then, if we don't practice
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this and if we don't like takethe time now, we will end up in
that functional freeze statelike I experienced, where then
you're sitting on the couch forthree months and you can't do
anything.
And I don't want you to get tothat place like that's what
we're preventing here exactly,oh so powerful.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
I love that rubber band analogy because yeah, that
makes sense to me.
Yeah, we we do stretch a lotlike we just balance.
We're balancing through.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
You know work.
We're balancing kids.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
We're bouncing all the you know if you're an
entrepreneur too.
We're bouncing all the you knowif you're an entrepreneur too.
Yeah, there's so much.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
And the thing is like again, like to reiterate, like
I want to do all those thingsand I know you do too Like it's,
like I find so much like powermight not be the right word, but
just even satisfaction withlike I want to do all this, but
we have to have the capacity.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Yeah, exactly, exactly, ok.
So I want to do something funbefore we close.
So I I don't know if everyoneknows this about me, but I love
music, I love music so I want tohear what your favorite song is
right now, the one that's onrepeat, that someone can listen
to today.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
Hold on let me pull up.
This song is my head.
Let me make sure it's the righttitle.
Oh, my gosh, dude, I feel likeyou're such a channel because,
as I'm talking to you, I'm justlike getting all these downloads
.
Like what is happening?
Is it called?
I Am here.
Yeah, I Was here, by Beyonce.
Oh, I love that song.
(26:12):
I haven't even listened to itfor a little while, but this is
what's coming through.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I haven't even listened to it for a little
while, but this is what's comingthrough.
Yes, that's the season.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
I feel like it's that song too.
That's like let me have a goodcry in the past and so even that
(26:44):
is like regulate your nervoussystem.
But I mean truly like just takecare of you.
Like you're the person thatyou're gonna live and die with,
you're the person that you havethe longest relationship in your
life with and I'm like gettingemotional as I say that but like
you matter so much more thanyou know, and so we have to take
care of ourselves so that wedon't like I just don't want you
to go through life and getsuper burned out and not even
(27:07):
enjoy your life.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Like yeah, we have to keep going, keep achieving, but
still you have to take care ofyourself.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
Yeah, enjoying it.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Yeah, yes, exactly, goodness.
All right, audrey.
How can our listeners connector work with you?
I know you talked about theRise Sisterhood.
Tell us all the things.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
I would love to give everybody like a two-week trial
to the Rise Sisterhood, likebecause come in, you know, do
the like.
Everything's there in a portaland you can also join, like the
live calls, of course, so, butwe can put in the show notes,
but it's just hello, audrey Rosedot com slash sisterhood and
right there, when you sign up,you get the first two weeks for
free, so, and you can always goin and cancel if you need to,
(27:50):
but the two weeks are rightthere for free.
And then, of course, instagramHello, audrey Rose, I'm right
there, so just come and chat.
I always love.
If you like, need advice, or ifyou're like, how do I do that
thing, come chat, like I got you.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
Yes, audrey is, and I can attest to that.
She always has my back, always.
Well, I hope that every singlewoman listening in today
definitely feels a little bitmore seen, a little bit more
equipped with all that Audreyhas just shared with us, at
least to, even after you finishlistening to this, go and
(28:25):
implement one of those practices, because I promise you, like we
all need to be doing some typeof nervous system regulation
every single day.
Every single day, and y'alltake a little bit more time to
slow down so that you cancontinue to show up.
But y'all take a little bitmore time to slow down so that
you can continue to show up.
But y'all, I will see you onthe next episode.
Thank you, audrey.
Thank you so much for listening.
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Hey, loves, welcome to anotherepisode of the Thrive Like a
Mother podcast and, as you cansee, we have a very special
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guest on today.
Her name is Audrey Rose.
First of all, y'all this womanso powerful.
She's a registered nurse,holistic life coach and somatic
healer.
She's also the founder of theRise Sisterhood and the host of
a top-ranked podcast, ready toRise.
And y'all, audrey, she's allabout helping high-achieving
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women learn how to regulatetheir nervous systems and
reconnect with their truehappiness without losing the
ambition.
And that has not said enough toyou already Like why we need her
on the podcast today, why youneed to listen in you know, get
cozy and just get ready, becauseshe's about to pour so much
wisdom into y'all Gosh, Iliterally cannot wait, I'm so
(01:46):
excited to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Thank you so much.
It's so cool.
I know I love this.
I'm like now you've been on mypodcast, I'm on yours.
This is so fun.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Yes, I love it.
I love it and I know.
Today we're talking all aboutnervous system regulation, which
I know.
First of all, I have a lot ofwomen listening and I have a lot
of mamas.
And when I tell you, it isdifficult for us to learn how to
regulate our nervous systems,especially after having children
and, you know, becomingsomething new.
(02:14):
So I am, so I'm just gratefulfor you today, because we need
all of the tips, all of thelearnings, just everything.
All of the tips, all of thelearnings, just everything.
So I want you to just share alittle bit about yourself, like
what season of life you'recurrently in, what you're
working on.
Share all of that.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Right now I'm like you know that question.
You're always like where do Iwant to start?
So I am a registered nurse andthat's really how I got into
this was I had probably eight oralmost nine years ago now I had
my whole healing journey andthat's you know what ended up
leading me to starting thepodcast and all that you know.
And we met like at the eventsand all of those things and I
(02:59):
was like heavy into the personaldevelopment and like the mind
stuff, like the mindset stuffand and then it's like the
journey was happening and I wasdoing really good and I had like
felt like I had really foundmyself again.
I was like just thriving, rightand and then out of nowhere,
just like everybody has apandemic story, the pandemic hit
(03:21):
and it was like it knocked meoff my feet, like I really just
working as a nurse during thattime just I mean overwhelmed me
and I didn't even know it.
At the time.
I thought like I'm good, I'mgoing to work all this overtime.
At the time it was just me andmy dog, you know, here, and so I
had nothing to worry about.
(03:42):
I was like as long as she's fedand here, and so I had nothing
to worry about.
I was like, as long as she'sfed and gets out, we're good.
I can work my butt off, becausethere were so many other nurses
who couldn't.
They had young kids at home orelderly parents they were taking
care of and it was a reallyscary time and so I was like
it's just me, I'll just bereally careful and I'll isolate
at home and work.
(04:03):
And I remember my mom tellingme she's like you are going to
burn out and I was like no, no,no, I'm not, I'm fine, I'm going
to be fine.
Yeah, sure enough.
Like three years into thepandemic, when it started to
slow down a little bit, I hit ahuge burnout.
I mean I ended up.
(04:23):
So I was basically in charge ofa unit that was all about COVID
and and that was a lot I waslike one of the main lead nurses
.
Yeah, it was intense.
I mean I was constantly talkingto like the doctors about
things and as things change, itwas like I just kind of kept up
with everything because I wasthere so much.
I was on the phone with, likeour what do you call it?
(04:44):
It's called CDPH for short.
It's like the public health ofCalifornia here and just to like
learn the things you know forour specific unit and there was
just so much happening, right.
So eventually, when that unitclosed down and then we only had
a little bit of cases of thatyou know left and it kind of
went back to normal, like likeit went throughout the hospital,
(05:05):
that kind of thing I took athree month sabbatical and I was
like something is wrong with me, something is super wrong, and
it was obviously the grief andall of that stuff.
There was a lot to think aboutand you know, a lot to process,
but my nervous system was shot.
I mean, I couldn't even handlethe regular things of life at
(05:25):
that point because I was so shot.
Like the bills were piling up,the you know whatever, like you
know how you have all the thingsyou got to do.
You got to make appointmentsfor this and you got to get the
oil changed on the car, whatever, right, all of that was
building up and I couldn't doany of it.
So at first I just thought, youknow, okay, it's because I need
(05:46):
to work out and it's because Ineed to push harder, like
everybody.
We all think that right, it'sbecause I'm so bad, like I need
to do more.
I'm just such a bad person andI didn't know that I was
actually in.
It's basically just nervoussystem dysregulation and it was
very specifically calledfunctional freeze, where you can
function and you can go to workand you can do certain things
(06:07):
and you can show up and on theoutside you look fine.
People aren't going to notice,like at the grocery store.
You're cool, you still looklike you're crushing life, but
on the inside you are socompletely shut down You're
neglecting yourself.
You're just not.
Most days I wasn't even gettingoff the couch, I was canceling
plans yeah.
I was just doom scrolling on myphone and then you look up and
(06:28):
you're like wait, how did it getdark already?
Yeah, what happened, gosh.
so that is my story and it just,you know it ended up leading me
to like figuring out how do Ilean in to learning about the
nervous system, like as a nurse,you already know like we, you
know I'm trained in so muchalready, but I'm not trained in
(06:49):
the more holistic tools, right?
Because by the time they cometo me in the hospital people are
really sick.
So I was like, let me just leaninto the nervous system.
It's clearly a nervous systemproblem.
I can tell, like I know youknow about the vagus nerve and I
know about these differentsymptoms and the different parts
of our nervous system.
So, really leaning in tonervous system regulation, and
(07:09):
so yeah, here I am todayteaching it.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Amazing, and I want to jump right into that because
that I mean that's perfect.
I know there's a lot of womenlistening into this right now
that they've maybe heard theterm nervous system at some
point in their life but theydon't know, like, what that
means.
Can you give like some examplesof how that can show up in your
(07:32):
body, knowing that you're likeyou're, dysregulated?
I think that's what you said.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, yeah, so dysregulation.
So let me just I'll give kindof like the short backstory,
because I'm one of those peoplewho I'm like I want to know a
little bit of why.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
So we have a bunch of you know there's different
parts of the nervous system.
Of course it's like our brain,it's our spinal cord, but out on
the like, extremities, like out, you know, to our hands, to our
toes, all of that it's likecalled the peripheral nervous
system and there's part of itcalled the autonomic, which
really just automatically doesour responses for fight or
(08:13):
flight, which we've all heard of.
Or there's the other part of itcalled rest and digest, which
is the parasympathetic nervoussystem, and that's when you feel
fully relaxed.
When you're in that stateYou're like you can watch a
movie on the couch and you'renot stressed about what's
happening everywhere else.
You're fully able to relax.
(08:33):
But that flip side, that fightor flight response, it's really
like a primal response that wehave in our brain to keep us
safe, like from the caveman days, when there's a tiger and it
sends all of that cortisol andall the the other hormones and
the whole stress response sothat we can outrun the tiger,
get food, you know, survive,really like puts us into like
(08:56):
the full-on survival mode tokeep us safe.
Nowadays we're not running fromtigers, right where's the
danger?
Yeah, so, but the danger is likeour body hasn't evolved as
quickly as our world around us.
So we sense danger almosteverywhere.
Driving in a car and you seethe car coming to a stop sign
(09:17):
and you're like, are they goingto stop?
And even though we know we likeon the outside, we know like
we're good, our brain, ourprimal part of our brain, is
just like.
Like we're good, our brain, ourprimal part of our brain, is
just like whoa, that's a hugedanger.
Or like not another email.
Or like why is your bosscalling you?
That's so scary, that feelingyou know.
Or like or with kids, like Ican only imagine, like all of
(09:40):
the amounts of things that yourbrain is constantly scanning for
threats all the time.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
So it adds up like because every time that your
brain thinks that there's alittle bit of you know if
something that we can say is athreat, it sends you into a
little bit of fight or flight orit starts that stress response.
Even if you don't feel like it,it's doing this for you and so
over time those all add up andevery time that we get into
(10:07):
these chronic stress and then wedon't complete, there's like a
whole I won't go into it becauseit's way too long, but there's
a whole stress response thathappens in your body and it
needs to be completed live inthat state and then it just
builds up over time.
So that's when it starts tolook like you know the symptoms
(10:28):
of dysregulation.
That can be different foreverybody, but it's really like
you don't feel like yourself isprobably like the biggest you
know first sign.
But then it goes into.
Things really start to pile upbecause we can't handle them.
We can't keep up with things weused to be able to keep up with
.
You're not making.
You might still be making, likeappointments for the kids or
(10:49):
you know, cooking dinner forthem, but you'll notice that for
you you're not.
You stop working out.
You stop, you know, payingattention to yourself, you might
not be making appointments foryou.
You're trying to like cut a lotof corners in life because
you're so overwhelmed.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
For me and, I think, a lot of the women that I see,
it's very much about the doomscrolling.
Lately that's been a huge topiccoming up.
We're so overwhelmed that it'sjust a really easy escape and we
sit, disassociate.
You can disassociate in otherways, like sitting in your car.
(11:28):
You're at Target, you're like Ican't even go in or I can't go
in the house yet, like I got tosit here for like 10 minutes and
just do nothing.
Yeah, so all it is is just yournervous system is so kind of
overwhelmed that it's hittingthat like that big, like red
button, like the big shut offbutton.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Hey, no, we cannot do anything else.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
It's like stop everything, I can't handle any
more input, and it kind of justshuts it down for you, and
that's why you might not evennotice, like you can maybe pick
your phone up, and then a lot oftimes, even for me, it's just
like I just grab Instagram andI'm, you know an hour later like
wait, why am I still looking atthis?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
And so, yeah, what did I come on here for?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yeah, and so that's like what you know.
What ends up happening is justlike our body just kind of does
it for us.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
That is scary too.
And yeah, not noticing You'relike I'm fine, but your body?
Is clearly giving you signsthat we're not.
So let's talk about someone whomaybe listening to this right
now.
They're like oh my gosh, audrey, that's me.
They're like I'm doing the doomscrolling.
I'm sitting in my car, you know, I'm needing to have the
(12:40):
moments.
What can they start with whenthey are sitting in those
moments?
What is an alternate option forthem to start to regulate
themselves again?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
so the first thing I want to say and I know that,
like chat GPT keeps putting thison everybody's stuff on
Instagram, so I know I'm abroken record because I see
everyone talking about this, butyou're not broken.
Like everybody has to know,like you are not broken, because
we, as women, will go rightinto beating ourselves up.
(13:12):
So just, I think that's likenumber one is, when you catch
that, just know like this is sonatural in today's world to get
overwhelmed, and it's cool, youcan still handle, and that's the
other thing is as highachieving women.
It's like even worse, becausewe're used to like we do all the
things, yeah, and so then allof a sudden you're like wait,
(13:33):
why can't I handle everything?
Yeah, and we're used to beingthat woman.
And so then it's like almostembarrassing on the inside, on
the very deep inside Might noteven like tell your husband
right, You're like I don't knowwhat's going on, but I feel like
doing absolutely nothing.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I feel like doing absolutely nothing.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yep.
And then it's like I don't wantanybody to know about this, but
it's okay, like it really isokay.
And the thing with quick plug,like the thing with a nervous
system, regulation is, onceyou're coming from a more
regulated place, you can do allthe things because you're going
to have the bandwidth Right.
So like that's why I likealways tell women I'm like I'm
not going to make you slow downand I'm not going to tell you to
(14:09):
take more off your plate.
You can do it, but we just gotto regulate.
So to the woman who's justcaught herself, that's the first
thing.
The second thing is take abreath.
And I know that's the annoyingresponse because it's like what
do you mean?
Just stand here and just take abreath.
But really that rest and digest.
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That other side of that fight orflight, stress response, the
other side of that is reallycontrolled by this huge nerve in
our body.
It's massive.
I'm like getting so lit upbecause it's just really cool
and it's called the vagus nerveand, yes, we can actually
stimulate that nerve.
It runs right through ourdiaphragm and it's just the cool
because I've like seen it.
(14:51):
So I'm like lighting up because, like, as gross as that is.
I won't go into details, butlike I've seen all of this and
it's huge and our diaphragm canlike rub it and like stimulate
it with breath.
It's so cool, yeah, so likethere's a few tools that I use
that are like the.
The best which we can get intoin a minute, but that is the
first.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
One is like take some deep breaths, box bleeding, if
you can yes, I, my goodness, Ijust shared that and cook like a
mother because you know, it'sso important yeah, it's
important to just know, likewhen all the things, even if
you're sitting in the kitchenand you're like this is too much
, I don't want to do anythingelse Like, just take a breath,
(15:31):
take a moment.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Take a moment and you'll reset.
You know Exactly.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
All right.
So let's get into we talkedabout box breathing.
Let's get into some morepractices that they can start
implementing, like today, rightnow, even if you're feeling it.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Okay, so I have three that I teach, like inside the
rise sisterhood and just ingeneral.
Like I have three that I stickto because there are tons of
tools out there.
The thing is you can go toYouTube and you can get so many
of them for free nowadays, butthere are certain tools that are
really proven that, like youknow, they have gone through
(16:09):
some studies and it's reallycool, like places like Harvard
and there's a couple other likeuniversities who have done
studies and so we do haveresearch that certain tools are
really helpful.
So breathing is absolutely ahuge one.
Like I was saying, it'll shiftyou into that state.
It's really cool because it candirectly like affect that.
(16:31):
You know nerve and there's tonsof different types of breathing
and I won't get into it now,but, yeah, do your simple box
breathing and then in thesisterhood, every single month,
I lead them through a wholebreath work practice so that we
can like get into it and we do acouple of different ones.
Another really cool tool that Ilove is EFT tapping, which I'm
sure I feel like people haveheard about it but haven't
(16:51):
really done it yet.
Yes, Because I think that wetend to think like, how is this
like just tapping on different?
How does it help, you know, andespecially as like a high, like
an analytical woman, we're justkind of like wait, what I don't
know.
It feels kind of woo.
It's like does this work?
But it's called emotionalfreedom technique and it's here
to kind of like help you get ridof a lot of the blocks, Like in
(17:15):
ancient Chinese medicine.
They think that you know,there's these different
meridians, different kind ofbundles, and our energy can get
stuck in them, and so that's whythey do acupuncture to like
move the energy through, and sothat you know they've done that
for I mean thousands andthousands of years.
But now there's new kind of wayis with even less tools without
(17:39):
needles, just tapping on theplaces, and it's so cool.
They have done studies on thisand it's showing that I forget
the timeframe, but it lowersyour cortisol like basically
immediately.
Like it literally reduces yourcortisol so quick.
So when you feel yourselfstressed out, that's another
really good one is just tappingand there's a whole sequence and
there's you know, you doaffirmations as you tap on the
(18:01):
spots.
There's a whole way that ithappens.
You know we say certain kind ofnegative things and we bring
out the emotion and then moveinto the positive.
So, um, when you're firstlearning, you probably do want
to do it with somebody, but youcan get to that point where you
can just do it on your own, likein the like at the traffic
light.
You're just like, you know yeah, just take a second.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Yeah, just like, okay , what you see?
Yeah, it's so good.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
And then the third thing that I am obsessed with
save the best for last is soundhealing.
And sound healing used like wayback when on my first journey,
and now I'm certified in soundhealing and it's just like God,
I love it so much.
It just can I don't know.
It's like as soon as you startto hear the bulls, you know like
(18:46):
sing, if you will it just likerelaxes you immediately and the
and I like I was like looking itup.
I'm like what are the studieson this Cause?
like I'm I'm a little bit of ascience girly I'm like what is
happening and really it'shelping your brainwaves, just
because of the sound, like thesound is giving you kind of like
(19:08):
nature's rhythm, I guess youknow, and so the sound can go
right in and get you into ameditative brainwave state.
So there's a couple ofdifferent brainwaves, I won't go
into it, but but yeah, so itcan like literally mimic those
brainwaves and you will likemirror that and so it brings you
into this meditative statewithout and the coolest thing is
(19:29):
is like this is the somaticwork, because it's our body work
, right.
Yes, For so long, as a womanwho's like analytical and
overthinking all of that, I waslike give me the book to heal
this, I will read it and I'll doall the things.
Yeah, and I think what's reallycool is like I noticed for me
that that wasn't working right,Like the books weren't helping,
(19:52):
and I think what's really coolis like I noticed for me just
show up to a sound bath and letthe
vibrations do their thing, oryou just follow along with a
(20:14):
breathwork instructor and youjust, like you know, do the
breathwork.
And so I'm just like trulyobsessed with, you know,
teaching these now and then justdoing them myself.
It's so funny.
The last I think it was lastmonth in the sisterhood I became
obsessed with the breathworkthat I did for them.
Everything comes in videos.
It's like a Netflix, you know.
(20:35):
It's like a Netflix for yournervous system, and so, anyways,
like I literally rewatched thatvideo so many times, like
almost every day for myself, andI was like I'm the one that
like facilitated this, but it isso good.
I like we can't get enough.
It is quick, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yeah, especially when you think of, like you know, I
think when I first started kindof my healing practice, the
first thing I went to wasmeditation and it was really
difficult for me to get into it.
And then I got into.
I realized that any type oflike sound healing worked better
for me because, you know, Icould just be doing listen to
(21:14):
the ocean, or bowls, or likewhatever how was your first
sound healing?
Speaker 2 (21:18):
I'm really curious.
I would love to hear because,were you like thinking or trying
to like what am I supposed tobe doing, or having any of those
kind of thoughts?
Speaker 1 (21:25):
I think at the beginning I was like, okay, am I
supposed to be doing anythingright here?
But then at some point, likethe sound frequencies, they just
they hit you and you just youknow, you don't have to think
anymore, you don't have to thinkabout the to-do list you don't
have to think about theappointments, you just be for a
second and it's perfect.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
yeah, I had the same thing.
So I was like really curiousabout your experience, like, yes
, goodness.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Okay, so let's.
Let's talk to the mama who wetalked about, the mama who maybe
recognizes that she's in thisright now.
What about the mama who feelslike she's too far gone?
Regulation is like one of thosethings that she doesn't have
time for.
I know we're out there.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Let's talk to that mama.
All right you, I forget thequote.
I'll have to look this up andlike, paste it on my laptop.
There's a quote by why am Iblanking?
You know, Kimora Lee Simmons,who, like, had a clothing line.
It's her husband's name,richard right.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Yes, uh-huh, okay, yes.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Yeah, now I'm like, oh my gosh, how embarrassing.
But anyways, he is super intomeditation, super, super into
meditation, which I never knew,and I had watched this
documentary and he was like part, you know, he was in it for
like a minute and he said he wasjust like, if you think that
you don't have time to you know,meditate was his thing, but to
any of these tools, that meansyou need to take twice as long
(22:55):
out of your day to do the thing,to do this practice, because
when we think we don't have timefor this is because we are so
overwhelmed, there's so muchgoing on.
What happens is, if you've everhad one of those days where
there's so much going on butit's pulling you in a bunch of
different directions, right, youmight have a few kids, you
(23:17):
might be, you know, and you it'slike hard because you have to
switch back and forth betweentasks quickly and we think we're
really good at it, and we arebecause we're women, so like,
let's be honest, but it still isreally hard to shift and we're
getting our attention pulled inmany directions when you start
your day, especially if youstart your day, but at any point
(23:38):
of the day, start your day withlike a regulation practice, and
it can be short.
That's going to help you to beable to have like the bandwidth
really to go in these differentto you know, do the different
things your nervous system.
Like this is a new analogy.
I've never spoken about it likethis before, but it's almost, I
(24:00):
want to say, like a rubber bandeven.
Right, we're supposed to beable to stretch open to the
stressful situation.
That's regulation.
You know, we want to be able toget activated, get stressed,
and then we want to come backand relax, and so throughout the
day that's happening so manytimes to us, right?
To keep it honed, to keep, likethat rubber band, from snapping.
(24:21):
That's your nervous systemregulation practices, your
breath work, your sound, healing, all of that.
So do those things so that youcan keep stretching.
You know, for the woman who'slike I'm like way too far gone,
girl, you better sit down rightnow.
Yes, yeah, because what happensis then, if we don't practice
(24:46):
this and if we don't like takethe time now, we will end up in
that functional freeze statelike I experienced, where then
you're sitting on the couch forthree months and you can't do
anything.
And I don't want you to get tothat place like that's what
we're preventing here exactly,oh so powerful.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
I love that rubber band analogy because yeah, that
makes sense to me.
Yeah, we we do stretch a lotlike we just balance.
We're balancing through.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
You know work.
We're balancing kids.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
We're bouncing all the you know if you're an
entrepreneur too.
We're bouncing all the you knowif you're an entrepreneur too.
Yeah, there's so much.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
And the thing is like again, like to reiterate, like
I want to do all those thingsand I know you do too Like it's,
like I find so much like powermight not be the right word, but
just even satisfaction withlike I want to do all this, but
we have to have the capacity.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Yeah, exactly, exactly, ok.
So I want to do something funbefore we close.
So I I don't know if everyoneknows this about me, but I love
music, I love music so I want tohear what your favorite song is
right now, the one that's onrepeat, that someone can listen
to today.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
Hold on let me pull up.
This song is my head.
Let me make sure it's the righttitle.
Oh, my gosh, dude, I feel likeyou're such a channel because,
as I'm talking to you, I'm justlike getting all these downloads
.
Like what is happening?
Is it called?
I Am here.
Yeah, I Was here, by Beyonce.
Oh, I love that song.
(26:12):
I haven't even listened to itfor a little while, but this is
what's coming through.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I haven't even listened to it for a little
while, but this is what's comingthrough.
Yes, that's the season.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
I feel like it's that song too.
That's like let me have a goodcry in the past and so even that
(26:44):
is like regulate your nervoussystem.
But I mean truly like just takecare of you.
Like you're the person thatyou're gonna live and die with,
you're the person that you havethe longest relationship in your
life with and I'm like gettingemotional as I say that but like
you matter so much more thanyou know, and so we have to take
care of ourselves so that wedon't like I just don't want you
to go through life and getsuper burned out and not even
(27:07):
enjoy your life.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Like yeah, we have to keep going, keep achieving, but
still you have to take care ofyourself.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
Yeah, enjoying it.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Yeah, yes, exactly, goodness.
All right, audrey.
How can our listeners connector work with you?
I know you talked about theRise Sisterhood.
Tell us all the things.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
I would love to give everybody like a two-week trial
to the Rise Sisterhood, likebecause come in, you know, do
the like.
Everything's there in a portaland you can also join, like the
live calls, of course, so, butwe can put in the show notes,
but it's just hello, audrey Rosedot com slash sisterhood and
right there, when you sign up,you get the first two weeks for
free, so, and you can always goin and cancel if you need to,
(27:50):
but the two weeks are rightthere for free.
And then, of course, instagramHello, audrey Rose, I'm right
there, so just come and chat.
I always love.
If you like, need advice, or ifyou're like, how do I do that
thing, come chat, like I got you.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
Yes, audrey is, and I can attest to that.
She always has my back, always.
Well, I hope that every singlewoman listening in today
definitely feels a little bitmore seen, a little bit more
equipped with all that Audreyhas just shared with us, at
least to, even after you finishlistening to this, go and
(28:25):
implement one of those practices, because I promise you, like we
all need to be doing some typeof nervous system regulation
every single day.
Every single day, and y'alltake a little bit more time to
slow down so that you cancontinue to show up.
But y'all take a little bitmore time to slow down so that
you can continue to show up.
But y'all, I will see you onthe next episode.
Thank you, audrey.
Thank you so much for listening.
(28:46):
Love.
If anything in today's episoderesonated with you, share it
with your bestie or share it onsocial media and tag me so we
can chat about it, as always,sending you light and love, and
remember you are worthy, you areenough and you deserve to
thrive.
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