March 10, 2025 • 26 mins
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squadcaster-jeaj_3_03-06-202 (00:05):
Hi ladies.
Oh, welcome back to anothervideo.
Today we are going to be talkingabout the three daily habits to
increase your self-love.
So the reason why we are talkingabout this is because love is
one of the most magnetic,radiant, vibrational frequencies
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that are out there that's goingto help you attract your dream
life that is going to help youattract things to you, and most
of all, truly become your dreamgoal to become your dream self.
If we don't love ourselves,there's no way that we can
become our dream selves.
And as you know, my word of theyear is radiant and self-love is
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one of those things that isgonna make you feel radiant, to
make you feel beautiful, that'sgonna make you feel.
Magnetic every single day.
And so I'm gonna give you threedaily habits that I do that has
helped me and increase myselflove.
And this is coming from a personwho used to hate myself.
(01:14):
I didn't love anything aboutmyself.
I didn't even know.
Why people loved me.
And so I had to learn how tolove myself.
And so these are the threethings that I've done and I
still practice that has helpedme consistently increase myself
love.
And so I wanna help you do thesame thing.
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let's go ahead and get into it.
So number one, the first habitthat I started to incorporate
was simply journaling.
I love you.
Because.
Now there's two reasons why Istarted to write this down is
because number one, when I wasin relationships, I was never
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able to understand what made melovable.
Why did people love me?
I didn't understand it.
I couldn't wrap my head aroundit, and so that left me right.
That left me very vulnerablebecause if I didn't know what
made me lovable, I.
There was a opportunity forsomeone to tell me, this is what
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makes you lovable, or this iswhat not makes you lovable.
And to make me feel like therewas nothing lovable about
myself.
So I had to learn how to starttelling myself.
I love you because.
The second reason is becausewhen I was in therapy before, I
remember specifically mytherapist asking me like, what
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do you love about yourself?
And I had no clue what to say.
Have you ever experienced that?
I'm sure you have because it isa very common thing.
A lot of people.
Do not know what they love aboutthemselves.
Right?
They don't know.
And it is something that it isnecessary, especially if you
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want to have your dream life, ifyou wanna become your dream
person, because love is a verymagnetic, it's a very strong
magnetic field, What it can dois if you are not choosing to
love yourself, your vibration isvery low and whatever you want
is up here, right?
And oftentimes if you don't linethat up, then it's gonna be
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really hard to attract.
truly what you desire most inthe way that you deserve most.
So I started to incorporate thispractice and what happened when
I started to incorporate thispractice?
Number one, I was learning howto validate myself.
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Now I was able to see, hmm, I amlovable because of this, this,
this, and this.
What maybe someone felt that Iwasn't lovable about?
What if I love that aboutmyself?
And I decided to say that.
So that helps you separate thedifference between.
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Accepting external, approvalabout yourself or external
belief.
So oftentimes what happened isthis, we internalize other
people's beliefs aboutourselves, and then we
eventually, if we don'tunderstand what makes us
lovable, we eventually acceptthat to be right.
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We accept that to be true and inreturn it, it builds our
self-concept, right?
It builds our identity of whatwe believe about ourselves.
Just to give you an example, Iremember years ago, family
members mostly family members,right?
People would be like, oh, you'reso stuck up, you're so
standoffish.
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And that made me not like theintrovert part of me that made
me not like the reserved part ofme that actually made me feel
like something was wrong with meuntil I had to start saying, you
know what?
Actually, I love that.
I am reserved.
I love me because I am anintrovert, right?
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I do love that about myself.
Maybe there are times where Ican improve and be a little bit
more extroverted, and I have.
However, I love that about me.
I love me time.
I love not having to be aroundpeople all the time, and so I
had to learn to accept that andsee that as.
Not a problem.
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See that as not a problem.
And so that actually helped meimprove my identity.
So when you start writing, Ilove you because you begin to
change yourself.
Concept about yourself.
You begin to see yourself inyour eyes.
Not someone else's eyes becausethey can no longer tell you what
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is lovable about you.
What makes you right, what makesyou wrong.
You get to determine that.
So I love you because that issomething that you get when you
write that.
Another thing that happens whenyou start writing, I love you
because it increases your habitof paying attention to yourself.
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Oftentimes we don't really payattention to ourselves, right?
This is why a lot of times wedon't know why we love
ourselves.
So when you say, I love you,because it makes you, it forces
you to pay attention to whatmakes you special.
It forces you to pay attentionto what makes you unique.
Why is this important?
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Because let's say you want to bea queen of impact, right?
You wanna show up, you wannacreate content.
But if you don't know what makesyou special, if you don't know
what makes you unique, you aregoing to be fighting with
yourself.
You are going to be, you'regonna feel like an imposter.
You're gonna feel like you don'tdeserve to take up space.
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You're gonna feel like you don'tbelong there.
You're gonna be thinking, who doyou think you are?
No, you have to learn how to payattention to these so that you
can understand what makes youspecial, what makes you unique,
especially if you want more,especially if you wanna achieve
certain goals or if you want aspecific a certain job or
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whatever it is that you want inyour life.
A new partner, what makes youspecial?
If you can't identify certainthings that make you special,
you'll always question.
What makes me special, you'llalways feel like you don't
deserve to be in a place thatyou wanna be.
You won't feel validated.
You'll always feel like animposter.
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So that's what that, I love youbecause can help you do it.
Helps you pay attention to you.
Pay attention to what makes youspecial, what you bring to the
table, what is so good aboutyou, what is right about you.
And so I love this practicebecause of that.
Another thing that I've noticedwhen I started incorporating the
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practice, I love you because isthat my energy went way high.
I felt more magnetic.
I felt more radiant.
I felt pretty much like thatgirl, right?
Because I am.
Giving myself life.
I'm speaking life into myself.
That's like you are a littleflower, Ready to blossom.
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Just like they talk to plants,they bring life.
You are in relationship toyourself.
We are all in relationship toeverything.
But as you being your mostimportant relationship, You have
to learn how to.
Speak life into yourself.
So just saying, I love youbecause you are special.
I love you because you are agreat mom.
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I love you because you are sucha great friend.
I love you because in sayingyour name, I forgot to mention
this part.
When you say I love you becauseI.
Challenge you to say your name.
I love you.
Be.
I love you, CLIA, because.
When you say your name, it'slike you're speaking to your
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soul.
When you say your name, you aretaking notice.
You specifically, and you can dothis in mirror work.
I try this and look at it atmyself in the mirror and even
journaling.
It is such a powerful habit todo so.
Like I was saying, you are yourmost important relationship, if
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you have things that you desire,you want to be radiating at your
most magnetic self, love againis the most powerful.
Vibration that is out there.
Gratitude is powerful.
Yes, authenticity is powerful.
Yes, but love.
When you can truly, truly loveyourself, then that radiates.
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They radiates joy, that radiatesconfidence, and you will start
drawing things into you.
So what I'm gonna do for youguys is put in a PDF form some
of my written statements of whyI love myself, just so that you
can steal it, you can steal it,so it can give you inspiration.
A lot of times we have things incommon.
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You can take some that feelsright to you and just leave the
rest.
That doesn't fill in alignment,however.
I just wanna give you some ideasto kind of give you a boost of
inspiration about what you loveabout yourself that you can take
and journal down yourself, or godo some merit work yourself.
Number two, the second dailyhabit to do, to increase and
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improve your self love is to dothings every single day that
makes you feel like a lovableperson.
Make yourself proud.
So just like incorporating inthe habit of writing down the
reasons why you love yourself isalso important to know some of
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the things that you don't likeabout yourself and the things
that you want to improve in.
So.
What can you do to make yourselfproud?
Right?
So for an example, for me,again, even though I love being
a reserved person, even though Iaccept it and actually love
that, I have more of anintrovert personality.
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However, what I didn't loveabout myself is making people
not feel so warm when they meetme, Because I was a little bit
more standoffish.
So what I decided to do is say,you know what?
I want to have a more warmpersonality.
Even though, you know, I lovebeing a little bit reserved.
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Even though I love being anintrovert, I still wanna give
hope.
Warmth, right?
Because again, that makes youfeel good, that makes you feel
radiant, that makes you feelmagnetic.
So what I started doing issimply when I go to Starbucks or
when I go to a coffee shop, orwhen I go to certain places and
maybe someone is bringing up myorder.
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If I see a name tag, I simplyjust say their name.
Thank you.
Right.
Say their name and thank you.
That makes them feel seen andthat makes them feel special.
Or giving compliments, right?
Giving compliments to show thatlike, I see you, that you are
special and Ooh, girl, I likewhat you're wearing.
Ooh, I love your hair.
Oh, just simple things likethat.
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Another thing that I starteddoing was telling people What's
good about them instead of justonly speaking life in myself,
speaking life in other peoplethat make me feel good.
That made me feel lovable.
So what can you do to make youfeel like a more lovable person,
not necessarily loved in theeyes of someone else, but.
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That can increase your love foryourself, right?
So maybe you don't like aboutyourself that you give up
quickly.
Well, maybe you would practicenot giving up on something or
maybe you don't like aboutyourself, that you are quick to
judge.
Hmm.
Maybe you'll decide today thatyou know what, instead of being
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judgmental, I am going to listento someone.
Or maybe you don't loveyourself, that you are a
wallflower and that you are shy,but maybe you are actually going
to, say hi.
Introduce yourself to somebody.
Those are little things that canmake you feel.
Love about yourself or keepingyour word to yourself, getting
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up to work out.
What are things that are gonnamake you feel lovable?
So why is this important?
Is because action.
Plus affirmations is going tocreate that self-belief.
So in my previous video aboutthinking highly about yourself,
I said that when you have anaffirmation, oftentimes most
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people don't believe thataffirmation is because they may
say that I am warm, I amencouraging, I am smart.
You may see these affirmations,but if you don't align it with
action, it's really hard tobelieve it.
So when you actually doactionable things every day, if
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you can, right?
Just intentionally just thinkingthat I'm gonna do this.
When you take action every dayto prove those affirmations.
You are going to start believingthat about you.
And so instead of now having toforce an affirmation to make
yourself to increase thatself-love, you are actually
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attaching I.
Action to it.
You are, you are attaching proofto it.
So now if I started saying thatI am warm, I am welcoming, and I
actually went and did it andcomplimented somebody and looked
them in the eye and said theirname and made them feel special
in that moment.
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Then guess what?
I just prove to myself that I amwarm, I am welcoming.
but if I didn't, then I wouldnever believe it, right?
I will never start to love thatabout myself.
So action plus affirmation givesyou living proof, right?
So times that living proof howmany times you do it.
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So action plus.
Affirmation at times.
Living proof means how manytimes you do it.
The consistency that you do itequals self-belief.
It increases your selfconfidence, it increases your
self image.
It increases yourself lovebecause you start seeing this
thing about yourself.
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That, hmm, this is what makes mespecial.
Again, you start to validateyourself and prove that about
yourself so that when you getheirs, right, when you start
getting people saying, this isabout you, this is about you,
this is about you.
Nope, you have living proof.
You know exactly why you arelove yourself, why you love
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yourself.
You know exactly what makes youspecial.
You know exactly what makes yougreat.
You know exactly what makes youunique and why people love you.
You know why you love yourself.
So action again.
Action plus affirmation, timesliving proof.
The consistency equals andincrease self belief.
But there has to be consciouseffort.
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This is conscious effort isrequired, Every day give it
intention.
Because sometimes you willforget, however, when you
intentionally just set thestage, set the plan that today,
you know what, I'm gonna work onthis.
I wanna love this about myself.
I wanna love being a consistentperson.
I wanna love being a welcomingperson.
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What can I do today to provethat this is true about me?
So again, the second daily habitis doing something that makes
you feel lovable, that is gonnamake you feel like you love
yourself, and prove to yourselfthat you are great.
The third daily habit toincorporate, to improve and
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increase your self love is tostart treating yourself with
love and respect.
So one of the ways that you canstart treating yourself with
love and respect is simply bypaying attention to how you
speak to yourself, right?
How would you speak to a friend?
How would you speak to a familymember who maybe has made a
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mistake, who maybe you know whodid something, not the greatest?
How would you speak to them?
You will give them love andyou'll give them respect.
So start treating yourself withlove and respect.
This looks like holding yourselfaccountable, but also giving
yourself compassion, saying,it's okay, you are still.
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Love is okay.
People make mistakes.
One of the things that I've donefor myself is given myself a
mental space.
For mistakes.
So the reason why I starteddoing this is because I was a
person that really got hard onmyself.
When I make mistakes, I hatemaking mistakes.
However, I had to tell myself.
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It's okay to make mistakes, whatif I gave myself space for
mistakes?
What if I created a box, aliteral box, and started writing
down mistakes?
I.
That I made, right?
So if I made a mistake, I writeit down.
This is a mistake that I made,Throw it in a box and then I set
myself free.
I didn't create the box, but Igave myself that mental space,
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that mental box.
So when I make mistakes.
I make a note in my head, I madethis mistake.
I write it out in my head and Ithrow it inside the box and I'm
set free.
That to me is treating myselfwith love.
So what are some things that youcan do to treat yourself with
love and respect?
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Let me give you some more ideas.
So another thing that you canstart doing that treats yourself
with love is prioritizing.
Looking good, looking good allthe time.
I talked about this before onhow to feel radiant every day is
getting dressed, making it anon-negotiable to get dressed,
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to make yourself feel.
Beautiful.
This is a simple way to treatyourself with love, is to love
yourself enough for you to wantto show up as your best.
Because when you look good, youfeel good.
You feel again radiant, you feelmagnetic.
And when you feel good,honestly, if you haven't
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noticed, is that when you lookgood, when you put yourself
together, you take that time andeffort in the morning.
You do different thingsthroughout the day.
You might eat better than younormally would because it's like
you look at yourselfdifferently.
You may work harder than younormally would.
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You'll be more consistent thanyou normally would.
You would wanna show up in abetter way, right?
And that is a form of self love.
So prioritizing, looking good,setting a stage for you to look
good, for you to feel good, andto show up as your best, to give
yourself your best.
People will treat youdifferently.
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You will vibrate differentlywhen you show up as your best.
So that is one.
The second way is eat food likeyou love yourself.
This is another way of treatingyourself like you love yourself.
I cannot stress this enough.
Food is nutrition to your body.
And a lot of diseases, a lot ofthings are cause your energy,
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low energy.
A lot of things are caused by usnot paying attention to the food
that goes in our body.
I truly believe in 80 20.
Eating as healthy as possible.
Right.
Or more nutritious.
Let's say that because healthyis in the eye of the beholder.
But 20% allowing yourself to befree and to give yourself, you
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know, your cravings.
Right.
We love that.
However, when you eat like youlove yourself, you just choose
differently.
You feel better, you help yourgut, the level of your gut
health either increases yourmood or decreases your mood.
Something that I researchedabout two years ago because I
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was having gut issues I learnedthat when you have a healthy
gut, it increases the serotoninin your brain.
which is a.
Feel good hormone.
And so what I also learned isthat low self-esteem,
depression, people who sufferfrom that oftentimes have a low
amount of serotonin.
And so this is why gut health isso, so, so important.
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And so when you eat food likeyou love yourself, you are
increasing naturally yourself-esteem, and you are.
Naturally keeping yourself fromgetting more depressed.
Another way to start treatingyourself like you love yourself
in like you respect yourself issetting boundaries.
Setting boundaries, and not.
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Entertaining.
People are things that drainyou, that make you feel less
than, that takes from yousetting those boundaries.
This is why I do absolutely nolonger do situation ships
because those do drain you.
It drains your energy and itmakes you feel you're not loved
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enough to be, the one who ischosen.
Absolutely not.
So for me, situation ships isI'm unavailable for it, right?
Another thing of treatingyourself with love is honoring
your commitments to yourself.
Pouring into your dream goal.
Like you say, you're gonna pourinto your dream goal being
disciplined.
that is you loving yourself.
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Because one thing I know is thatwhen you don't keep your word to
yourself and.
When you are not committed, likeyou know, you can be, it does
nothing but bring yourself-esteem down and your self
love down because that'ssomething you naturally don't
love about yourself, and you'regonna continue reaffirming that
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you don't love about yourself,and it's gonna remind you of
what makes you not so great,right?
It is just a constantreaffirmation and you don't want
that.
So love yourself.
Treat yourself with thatself-love by honoring your
commitments to yourself so youcan increase that self-love
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again, take the action to provethat affirmation.
And then another way to starttreating yourself like you love
yourself is just simply givingyourself.
Daily pleasure, daily joy, doingthings that make you laugh.
Doing things that feel good toyour body, things that's gonna
make you feel good throughoutthe day.
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To me, that is treating yourselflike you love yourself.
When you do that, you increaseyourself.
Love for yourself.
I'm a little bit in a rushbecause I have to go pick up my
daughter from school.
However, just to rehash thethree daily habits that will
increase your self-esteem,number one is to say, I love
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you, because you can do mirrorwork with that, or you can
journal it.
I recommend doing both.
Again, this is gonna starthelping you validate yourself
and pay attention to why youactually love yourself.
The second thing is to dothings, take the action to.
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Prove to give yourself proof ofthe affirmation.
Do things every single day thatmakes you proud of yourself,
that makes you feel good aboutyourself, that you can start
saying, oh, I love that aboutmyself.
I love that I give peoplecompliments.
I love that I'm consistent.
I love that I show up on time.
I love that about myself, right?
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So do things every day to giveyourself reasons of why you love
yourself.
The third habit is to beintentional about treating
yourself with love and respect.
Set those boundaries, poor loveon yourself every single day.
Get dressed.
Every single day like you loveyourself.
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Show up as your best self.
Treat yourself Take care of yourbody.
Take care of your skin.
These are ways to show you thatyou love yourself.
Don't allow yourself to bemistreated.
Don't allow yourself to be insituations shape, right?
Don't allow yourself to bedisrespected by people.
Treat yourself like you loveyourself.
Give yourself joy, right?
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Give yourself rest.
Give yourself pleasure.
Give yourself fun.
Give yourself laughter.
You deserve all of that becauseyou simply love yourself.
Help yourself feel good.
Pour into yourself.
Allow yourself to radiate, allowyourself to feel good, allow
yourself to be magmatic.
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And so these are the threethings to do to help increase
your self love.
Again, if you don't know why youlove yourself and you wanna
still some of my, I love youbecause just head to the link in
the description box and I willsend you a copy of some of my I
love you because All right,ladies, until next time.
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Bye.
Hi ladies.
Oh, welcome back to anothervideo.
Today we are going to be talkingabout the three daily habits to
increase your self-love.
So the reason why we are talkingabout this is because love is
one of the most magnetic,radiant, vibrational frequencies
(00:26):
that are out there that's goingto help you attract your dream
life that is going to help youattract things to you, and most
of all, truly become your dreamgoal to become your dream self.
If we don't love ourselves,there's no way that we can
become our dream selves.
And as you know, my word of theyear is radiant and self-love is
(00:51):
one of those things that isgonna make you feel radiant, to
make you feel beautiful, that'sgonna make you feel.
Magnetic every single day.
And so I'm gonna give you threedaily habits that I do that has
helped me and increase myselflove.
And this is coming from a personwho used to hate myself.
(01:14):
I didn't love anything aboutmyself.
I didn't even know.
Why people loved me.
And so I had to learn how tolove myself.
And so these are the threethings that I've done and I
still practice that has helpedme consistently increase myself
love.
And so I wanna help you do thesame thing.
(01:36):
let's go ahead and get into it.
So number one, the first habitthat I started to incorporate
was simply journaling.
I love you.
Because.
Now there's two reasons why Istarted to write this down is
because number one, when I wasin relationships, I was never
(01:57):
able to understand what made melovable.
Why did people love me?
I didn't understand it.
I couldn't wrap my head aroundit, and so that left me right.
That left me very vulnerablebecause if I didn't know what
made me lovable, I.
There was a opportunity forsomeone to tell me, this is what
(02:20):
makes you lovable, or this iswhat not makes you lovable.
And to make me feel like therewas nothing lovable about
myself.
So I had to learn how to starttelling myself.
I love you because.
The second reason is becausewhen I was in therapy before, I
remember specifically mytherapist asking me like, what
(02:43):
do you love about yourself?
And I had no clue what to say.
Have you ever experienced that?
I'm sure you have because it isa very common thing.
A lot of people.
Do not know what they love aboutthemselves.
Right?
They don't know.
And it is something that it isnecessary, especially if you
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want to have your dream life, ifyou wanna become your dream
person, because love is a verymagnetic, it's a very strong
magnetic field, What it can dois if you are not choosing to
love yourself, your vibration isvery low and whatever you want
is up here, right?
And oftentimes if you don't linethat up, then it's gonna be
(03:28):
really hard to attract.
truly what you desire most inthe way that you deserve most.
So I started to incorporate thispractice and what happened when
I started to incorporate thispractice?
Number one, I was learning howto validate myself.
(03:48):
Now I was able to see, hmm, I amlovable because of this, this,
this, and this.
What maybe someone felt that Iwasn't lovable about?
What if I love that aboutmyself?
And I decided to say that.
So that helps you separate thedifference between.
(04:08):
Accepting external, approvalabout yourself or external
belief.
So oftentimes what happened isthis, we internalize other
people's beliefs aboutourselves, and then we
eventually, if we don'tunderstand what makes us
lovable, we eventually acceptthat to be right.
(04:30):
We accept that to be true and inreturn it, it builds our
self-concept, right?
It builds our identity of whatwe believe about ourselves.
Just to give you an example, Iremember years ago, family
members mostly family members,right?
People would be like, oh, you'reso stuck up, you're so
standoffish.
(04:50):
And that made me not like theintrovert part of me that made
me not like the reserved part ofme that actually made me feel
like something was wrong with meuntil I had to start saying, you
know what?
Actually, I love that.
I am reserved.
I love me because I am anintrovert, right?
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I do love that about myself.
Maybe there are times where Ican improve and be a little bit
more extroverted, and I have.
However, I love that about me.
I love me time.
I love not having to be aroundpeople all the time, and so I
had to learn to accept that andsee that as.
Not a problem.
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See that as not a problem.
And so that actually helped meimprove my identity.
So when you start writing, Ilove you because you begin to
change yourself.
Concept about yourself.
You begin to see yourself inyour eyes.
Not someone else's eyes becausethey can no longer tell you what
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is lovable about you.
What makes you right, what makesyou wrong.
You get to determine that.
So I love you because that issomething that you get when you
write that.
Another thing that happens whenyou start writing, I love you
because it increases your habitof paying attention to yourself.
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Oftentimes we don't really payattention to ourselves, right?
This is why a lot of times wedon't know why we love
ourselves.
So when you say, I love you,because it makes you, it forces
you to pay attention to whatmakes you special.
It forces you to pay attentionto what makes you unique.
Why is this important?
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Because let's say you want to bea queen of impact, right?
You wanna show up, you wannacreate content.
But if you don't know what makesyou special, if you don't know
what makes you unique, you aregoing to be fighting with
yourself.
You are going to be, you'regonna feel like an imposter.
You're gonna feel like you don'tdeserve to take up space.
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You're gonna feel like you don'tbelong there.
You're gonna be thinking, who doyou think you are?
No, you have to learn how to payattention to these so that you
can understand what makes youspecial, what makes you unique,
especially if you want more,especially if you wanna achieve
certain goals or if you want aspecific a certain job or
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whatever it is that you want inyour life.
A new partner, what makes youspecial?
If you can't identify certainthings that make you special,
you'll always question.
What makes me special, you'llalways feel like you don't
deserve to be in a place thatyou wanna be.
You won't feel validated.
You'll always feel like animposter.
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So that's what that, I love youbecause can help you do it.
Helps you pay attention to you.
Pay attention to what makes youspecial, what you bring to the
table, what is so good aboutyou, what is right about you.
And so I love this practicebecause of that.
Another thing that I've noticedwhen I started incorporating the
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practice, I love you because isthat my energy went way high.
I felt more magnetic.
I felt more radiant.
I felt pretty much like thatgirl, right?
Because I am.
Giving myself life.
I'm speaking life into myself.
That's like you are a littleflower, Ready to blossom.
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Just like they talk to plants,they bring life.
You are in relationship toyourself.
We are all in relationship toeverything.
But as you being your mostimportant relationship, You have
to learn how to.
Speak life into yourself.
So just saying, I love youbecause you are special.
I love you because you are agreat mom.
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I love you because you are sucha great friend.
I love you because in sayingyour name, I forgot to mention
this part.
When you say I love you becauseI.
Challenge you to say your name.
I love you.
Be.
I love you, CLIA, because.
When you say your name, it'slike you're speaking to your
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soul.
When you say your name, you aretaking notice.
You specifically, and you can dothis in mirror work.
I try this and look at it atmyself in the mirror and even
journaling.
It is such a powerful habit todo so.
Like I was saying, you are yourmost important relationship, if
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you have things that you desire,you want to be radiating at your
most magnetic self, love againis the most powerful.
Vibration that is out there.
Gratitude is powerful.
Yes, authenticity is powerful.
Yes, but love.
When you can truly, truly loveyourself, then that radiates.
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They radiates joy, that radiatesconfidence, and you will start
drawing things into you.
So what I'm gonna do for youguys is put in a PDF form some
of my written statements of whyI love myself, just so that you
can steal it, you can steal it,so it can give you inspiration.
A lot of times we have things incommon.
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You can take some that feelsright to you and just leave the
rest.
That doesn't fill in alignment,however.
I just wanna give you some ideasto kind of give you a boost of
inspiration about what you loveabout yourself that you can take
and journal down yourself, or godo some merit work yourself.
Number two, the second dailyhabit to do, to increase and
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improve your self love is to dothings every single day that
makes you feel like a lovableperson.
Make yourself proud.
So just like incorporating inthe habit of writing down the
reasons why you love yourself isalso important to know some of
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the things that you don't likeabout yourself and the things
that you want to improve in.
So.
What can you do to make yourselfproud?
Right?
So for an example, for me,again, even though I love being
a reserved person, even though Iaccept it and actually love
that, I have more of anintrovert personality.
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However, what I didn't loveabout myself is making people
not feel so warm when they meetme, Because I was a little bit
more standoffish.
So what I decided to do is say,you know what?
I want to have a more warmpersonality.
Even though, you know, I lovebeing a little bit reserved.
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Even though I love being anintrovert, I still wanna give
hope.
Warmth, right?
Because again, that makes youfeel good, that makes you feel
radiant, that makes you feelmagnetic.
So what I started doing issimply when I go to Starbucks or
when I go to a coffee shop, orwhen I go to certain places and
maybe someone is bringing up myorder.
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If I see a name tag, I simplyjust say their name.
Thank you.
Right.
Say their name and thank you.
That makes them feel seen andthat makes them feel special.
Or giving compliments, right?
Giving compliments to show thatlike, I see you, that you are
special and Ooh, girl, I likewhat you're wearing.
Ooh, I love your hair.
Oh, just simple things likethat.
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Another thing that I starteddoing was telling people What's
good about them instead of justonly speaking life in myself,
speaking life in other peoplethat make me feel good.
That made me feel lovable.
So what can you do to make youfeel like a more lovable person,
not necessarily loved in theeyes of someone else, but.
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That can increase your love foryourself, right?
So maybe you don't like aboutyourself that you give up
quickly.
Well, maybe you would practicenot giving up on something or
maybe you don't like aboutyourself, that you are quick to
judge.
Hmm.
Maybe you'll decide today thatyou know what, instead of being
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judgmental, I am going to listento someone.
Or maybe you don't loveyourself, that you are a
wallflower and that you are shy,but maybe you are actually going
to, say hi.
Introduce yourself to somebody.
Those are little things that canmake you feel.
Love about yourself or keepingyour word to yourself, getting
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up to work out.
What are things that are gonnamake you feel lovable?
So why is this important?
Is because action.
Plus affirmations is going tocreate that self-belief.
So in my previous video aboutthinking highly about yourself,
I said that when you have anaffirmation, oftentimes most
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people don't believe thataffirmation is because they may
say that I am warm, I amencouraging, I am smart.
You may see these affirmations,but if you don't align it with
action, it's really hard tobelieve it.
So when you actually doactionable things every day, if
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you can, right?
Just intentionally just thinkingthat I'm gonna do this.
When you take action every dayto prove those affirmations.
You are going to start believingthat about you.
And so instead of now having toforce an affirmation to make
yourself to increase thatself-love, you are actually
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attaching I.
Action to it.
You are, you are attaching proofto it.
So now if I started saying thatI am warm, I am welcoming, and I
actually went and did it andcomplimented somebody and looked
them in the eye and said theirname and made them feel special
in that moment.
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Then guess what?
I just prove to myself that I amwarm, I am welcoming.
but if I didn't, then I wouldnever believe it, right?
I will never start to love thatabout myself.
So action plus affirmation givesyou living proof, right?
So times that living proof howmany times you do it.
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So action plus.
Affirmation at times.
Living proof means how manytimes you do it.
The consistency that you do itequals self-belief.
It increases your selfconfidence, it increases your
self image.
It increases yourself lovebecause you start seeing this
thing about yourself.
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That, hmm, this is what makes mespecial.
Again, you start to validateyourself and prove that about
yourself so that when you getheirs, right, when you start
getting people saying, this isabout you, this is about you,
this is about you.
Nope, you have living proof.
You know exactly why you arelove yourself, why you love
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yourself.
You know exactly what makes youspecial.
You know exactly what makes yougreat.
You know exactly what makes youunique and why people love you.
You know why you love yourself.
So action again.
Action plus affirmation, timesliving proof.
The consistency equals andincrease self belief.
But there has to be consciouseffort.
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This is conscious effort isrequired, Every day give it
intention.
Because sometimes you willforget, however, when you
intentionally just set thestage, set the plan that today,
you know what, I'm gonna work onthis.
I wanna love this about myself.
I wanna love being a consistentperson.
I wanna love being a welcomingperson.
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What can I do today to provethat this is true about me?
So again, the second daily habitis doing something that makes
you feel lovable, that is gonnamake you feel like you love
yourself, and prove to yourselfthat you are great.
The third daily habit toincorporate, to improve and
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increase your self love is tostart treating yourself with
love and respect.
So one of the ways that you canstart treating yourself with
love and respect is simply bypaying attention to how you
speak to yourself, right?
How would you speak to a friend?
How would you speak to a familymember who maybe has made a
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mistake, who maybe you know whodid something, not the greatest?
How would you speak to them?
You will give them love andyou'll give them respect.
So start treating yourself withlove and respect.
This looks like holding yourselfaccountable, but also giving
yourself compassion, saying,it's okay, you are still.
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Love is okay.
People make mistakes.
One of the things that I've donefor myself is given myself a
mental space.
For mistakes.
So the reason why I starteddoing this is because I was a
person that really got hard onmyself.
When I make mistakes, I hatemaking mistakes.
However, I had to tell myself.
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It's okay to make mistakes, whatif I gave myself space for
mistakes?
What if I created a box, aliteral box, and started writing
down mistakes?
I.
That I made, right?
So if I made a mistake, I writeit down.
This is a mistake that I made,Throw it in a box and then I set
myself free.
I didn't create the box, but Igave myself that mental space,
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that mental box.
So when I make mistakes.
I make a note in my head, I madethis mistake.
I write it out in my head and Ithrow it inside the box and I'm
set free.
That to me is treating myselfwith love.
So what are some things that youcan do to treat yourself with
love and respect?
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Let me give you some more ideas.
So another thing that you canstart doing that treats yourself
with love is prioritizing.
Looking good, looking good allthe time.
I talked about this before onhow to feel radiant every day is
getting dressed, making it anon-negotiable to get dressed,
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to make yourself feel.
Beautiful.
This is a simple way to treatyourself with love, is to love
yourself enough for you to wantto show up as your best.
Because when you look good, youfeel good.
You feel again radiant, you feelmagnetic.
And when you feel good,honestly, if you haven't
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noticed, is that when you lookgood, when you put yourself
together, you take that time andeffort in the morning.
You do different thingsthroughout the day.
You might eat better than younormally would because it's like
you look at yourselfdifferently.
You may work harder than younormally would.
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You'll be more consistent thanyou normally would.
You would wanna show up in abetter way, right?
And that is a form of self love.
So prioritizing, looking good,setting a stage for you to look
good, for you to feel good, andto show up as your best, to give
yourself your best.
People will treat youdifferently.
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You will vibrate differentlywhen you show up as your best.
So that is one.
The second way is eat food likeyou love yourself.
This is another way of treatingyourself like you love yourself.
I cannot stress this enough.
Food is nutrition to your body.
And a lot of diseases, a lot ofthings are cause your energy,
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low energy.
A lot of things are caused by usnot paying attention to the food
that goes in our body.
I truly believe in 80 20.
Eating as healthy as possible.
Right.
Or more nutritious.
Let's say that because healthyis in the eye of the beholder.
But 20% allowing yourself to befree and to give yourself, you
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know, your cravings.
Right.
We love that.
However, when you eat like youlove yourself, you just choose
differently.
You feel better, you help yourgut, the level of your gut
health either increases yourmood or decreases your mood.
Something that I researchedabout two years ago because I
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was having gut issues I learnedthat when you have a healthy
gut, it increases the serotoninin your brain.
which is a.
Feel good hormone.
And so what I also learned isthat low self-esteem,
depression, people who sufferfrom that oftentimes have a low
amount of serotonin.
And so this is why gut health isso, so, so important.
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And so when you eat food likeyou love yourself, you are
increasing naturally yourself-esteem, and you are.
Naturally keeping yourself fromgetting more depressed.
Another way to start treatingyourself like you love yourself
in like you respect yourself issetting boundaries.
Setting boundaries, and not.
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Entertaining.
People are things that drainyou, that make you feel less
than, that takes from yousetting those boundaries.
This is why I do absolutely nolonger do situation ships
because those do drain you.
It drains your energy and itmakes you feel you're not loved
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enough to be, the one who ischosen.
Absolutely not.
So for me, situation ships isI'm unavailable for it, right?
Another thing of treatingyourself with love is honoring
your commitments to yourself.
Pouring into your dream goal.
Like you say, you're gonna pourinto your dream goal being
disciplined.
that is you loving yourself.
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Because one thing I know is thatwhen you don't keep your word to
yourself and.
When you are not committed, likeyou know, you can be, it does
nothing but bring yourself-esteem down and your self
love down because that'ssomething you naturally don't
love about yourself, and you'regonna continue reaffirming that
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you don't love about yourself,and it's gonna remind you of
what makes you not so great,right?
It is just a constantreaffirmation and you don't want
that.
So love yourself.
Treat yourself with thatself-love by honoring your
commitments to yourself so youcan increase that self-love
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again, take the action to provethat affirmation.
And then another way to starttreating yourself like you love
yourself is just simply givingyourself.
Daily pleasure, daily joy, doingthings that make you laugh.
Doing things that feel good toyour body, things that's gonna
make you feel good throughoutthe day.
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To me, that is treating yourselflike you love yourself.
When you do that, you increaseyourself.
Love for yourself.
I'm a little bit in a rushbecause I have to go pick up my
daughter from school.
However, just to rehash thethree daily habits that will
increase your self-esteem,number one is to say, I love
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you, because you can do mirrorwork with that, or you can
journal it.
I recommend doing both.
Again, this is gonna starthelping you validate yourself
and pay attention to why youactually love yourself.
The second thing is to dothings, take the action to.
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Prove to give yourself proof ofthe affirmation.
Do things every single day thatmakes you proud of yourself,
that makes you feel good aboutyourself, that you can start
saying, oh, I love that aboutmyself.
I love that I give peoplecompliments.
I love that I'm consistent.
I love that I show up on time.
I love that about myself, right?
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So do things every day to giveyourself reasons of why you love
yourself.
The third habit is to beintentional about treating
yourself with love and respect.
Set those boundaries, poor loveon yourself every single day.
Get dressed.
Every single day like you loveyourself.
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Show up as your best self.
Treat yourself Take care of yourbody.
Take care of your skin.
These are ways to show you thatyou love yourself.
Don't allow yourself to bemistreated.
Don't allow yourself to be insituations shape, right?
Don't allow yourself to bedisrespected by people.
Treat yourself like you loveyourself.
Give yourself joy, right?
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Give yourself rest.
Give yourself pleasure.
Give yourself fun.
Give yourself laughter.
You deserve all of that becauseyou simply love yourself.
Help yourself feel good.
Pour into yourself.
Allow yourself to radiate, allowyourself to feel good, allow
yourself to be magmatic.
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And so these are the threethings to do to help increase
your self love.
Again, if you don't know why youlove yourself and you wanna
still some of my, I love youbecause just head to the link in
the description box and I willsend you a copy of some of my I
love you because All right,ladies, until next time.
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Bye.
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