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squadcaster-jeai_2_01-14-2 (00:05):
Hey, ladies.
Welcome back to another videotoday.
We are going to be talking abouthow I've been able to build
unshakeable confidence andpursuing success.
My dream goals and being able toachieve most of them.
So I want to share this with youas a way to be able to help you
as well.
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Get in a driver's seat ofpursuing your dream goals and
achieving them also because itis possible you are ready to do
so.
All right.
So number one, the first waythat helped me Build unshakeable
confidence within pursuing mydream goals has been having a
strong why.
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So for me, my why comes fromwanting to be better for my
daughter, wanting to experiencemore in life, more than I've
ever experienced before, wantingto be able to give to my family
and give them experience morethan they ever had before.
And so, because of that strongwhy that has helped me push
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myself out of my comfort zone.
It has helped me move forward inthe face of doubt, it has helped
me move forward in the face oflimiting beliefs because of that
strong, strong why.
Why?
Knowing that my goal was morethan just about me and knowing
that it has more to do with, ofcourse, myself, but more than
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just me.
It has empowered me.
It has helped me build myconfidence within myself to
pursue those dream goals.
Any goal that I've everachieved, it was always because
I wanted either to be a stay athome mom for my daughter, give
her those experiences.
Everything, every goal that I'veever achieved has been always
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because of giving more to mydaughter and wanting to be
better for her.
My loved ones wanted to bebetter to give us a better
future.
So when you have a strong whyyou step into that innate
confidence that is alreadywithin you.
You just figure it out along theway and you're like, I am going
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to do this because it's biggerthan you.
When it's just about you alone.
Of course, self doubt.
Of course.
All of those things are going toget in the way because it's just
about you.
But when you can tie that goalto something that is so
important, when you can tie thatgoal to something beyond
yourself it is so possible tostart building unshakable
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confidence in pursuit that inpursuit of that goal because you
want it for more than justyourself, right?
You want it for something elseor someone else.
That is, that is very, veryimportant.
And so that has helped me buildunshakeable confidence and
pursuing my dream goals because.
I don't just want it for me.
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I also want it for my lovedones.
I also want it for my daughter.
So what is a huge why that youhave that's going to help you
build unshakable confidencewithin yourself to go and pursue
your goals.
This is just the beginningsteps.
Okay.
So the second thing that hashelped me build unshakable
confidence and pursuing my dreamgoals kind of ties to the first
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one but just a tad bitdifferent.
And that is the hating thefeeling of not experiencing my
desires, that feelingoverweighed Anything, just like
the feeling of it being biggerthan yourself when you're not
experiencing, when you're notexperiencing your dream life,
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when you're not experiencingyour dream relationships, when
you're not experiencing yourdream income, your dream career,
your dream body.
What does that do?
When you can hate it so much,That will overweigh any self
doubt, any imposter syndrome,any limiting beliefs.
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Because.
For me, me, me, myself hatedexperiencing, not experiencing
my goals.
It overweighed all of thosethings, any doubts, any limited
beliefs, any imposter syndrome,me starting YouTube, me becoming
a coach.
Of course I had self doubt.
Of course I had impostersyndrome.
Of course I had so many thoughtsof what can go wrong.
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However, Those desires, were sostrong that I hated not
experiencing them.
And because of that, that pushedme to step out of my comfort
zone.
That pushed me to beuncomfortable.
That pushed me to conquer anyself doubt, any limiting
beliefs.
So for you, how bad do you wantyour desire?
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How bad do you want how much doyou hate not experiencing
everything that you want in yourlife, right?
Your dream body, your dreamrelationship.
How bad do you want it?
Because when you hate notexperiencing it, you're going to
do everything in your power toexperience those desires.
That is one step in movingtowards building unshakable
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confidence within pursuing yourdream goals, because it is going
to just keep showing you levelsof yourself that you are capable
of.
So the third way that I've builtunshakable confidence in
pursuing my dream goals has beenI started pursuing my dream
goals without approval, withoutvalidation.
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Without validation fromboyfriends, without validation
from friends, without validationfrom parents, I did everything
that I wanted to do.
And there's still so much morethat I wanted to do, just like
you, right?
There's so much more that youwant to do.
But one thing I learned is thatYou have to be able to move
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forward and pursue your dreamgoals without approval of
boyfriends, friends, or parents,or any kind of relationship that
you're in because you need tomake yourself happy.
And so every time that I was inpursuit of a dream goal, there
was doubt from so many people,so many people, no matter what I
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did, it was either, are youcrazy?
Can you do this?
Are you sure this is possible?
I think maybe we should dosomething different.
It was always things like that.
However, however, every time.
I just did what I wanted to doand I pursued and I achieved
those dream goals.
This is what happened.
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Everyone was like, wow, I can'tbelieve you did that.
Wow, I'm surprised.
Oh, wow, you shocked me So itwas always things like that
every time I achieve my dreamgoals Those are the words that
will happen.
So what's gonna happen is thiswhen you pursue your dream
goals?
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And you actually achieve themdespite anyone's approval.
What's going to happen is thatyou are going to become a source
of inspiration.
Now people are going to belooking at you as, Oh my gosh,
you inspired me.
That's exactly what happened forme.
Every time I achieved, everytime I pursued a dream goal,
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every time I achieved it, whathappened at friends, I have
family members who say,boyfriends who say you inspire
me, you motivate me to be, to dobetter because you never give up
on yourself.
You don't quit.
And you will become a source ofinspiration.
And when you become a source ofinspiration, your confidence in
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yourself is going to continueand continue to build and you
pursuing your dream goals,right?
And every level you go, right?
Like you pursue one goal,there's always going to be
another goal that you're goingto pursue.
And it's going to continue tobuild your confidence.
But one powerful way to startbuilding unshakable confidence
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in you pursuing your dream goalsis to just start doing it
without the approval.
Stop asking people forpermission.
Don't ask a friend, don't ask afamily member, don't ask a
boyfriend, a husband.
Hey, do you think I should dothis?
Hey, like, what do you think?
Just do it.
Just do it and surprise them,shock them, shock them all.
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Because that's exactly what'sgoing to happen.
No one is going to believe inyou more than you believe in
yourself.
And that's something that I hadto build within myself.
No one is going to believe in memore than I believe in myself.
So, no longer ask for approvalwhen it comes to pursuing your
dreams, just pursue them.
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You got this.
The fourth way that I've builtunshakable confidence in me
pursuing my dream goals is I gotsuper clear on my desires and I
And how I was able to get superclear on my desires, I share in
my previous episode aboutunlocking your hidden desires
and discovering exactly what youwant for your life.
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Because when you start listeningand uncovering those hidden and
those suppressed desires, Whathappens?
Your imagination opens up, yourinspiration opens up, your
passion opens up.
And when you get clear on thatthat's when you can begin
pursuing.
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That's when that confidence comein because getting clear is
gaining clarity, of course.
So you gain clarity and that'swhat confidence comes from.
When you are stuck in confusion,there is no confidence
whatsoever.
I've been a person who has beenconfused a lot, a lot, a lot, a
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lot for so many years.
What should I do?
I don't know what I want.
I don't know what to do.
Those, if you're asking yourselfthat question, It's because you
haven't allowed yourself to justsit and listen to all of the
desires that you have suppressedthroughout your life.
All of the desires, you have somany desires that's within you
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and you can reveal it if youjust sit and listen to unlock
it.
When you get clear on that, younow have.
What you want, you know what youwant.
And when you know what you want,you can now start pursuing.
And one thing that's going tohelp you build confidence is
that when you gain clarity,these are the things that
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happen.
One, I already said, it helpsyou avoid confusion, but also it
helps you avoid doing thingssomeone else wants you to do.
It helps you avoid pursuing adream that someone else wants
you to pursue because they feellike this is what you're capable
of pursuing or this is what theywant for you.
When you get clear on yourdesires no one can kind of shift
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your direction.
You become in control of yourdirection.
This is why, this is what helpedme.
Truly build unshakableconfidence in pursuing my dream
goals.
Because every time I had a hugedesire and I got locked in and I
got super laser focused onachieving this goal and someone
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tried to stare me in a differentdirection because either they
didn't believe in me or theythought something else was
better.
I was able to say no.
No, that is not for me.
No, no, no saying no to otherthings is you saying yes to your
desires, to your goals.
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So this just unlocking is justgetting clear on my desires has
helped me truly build unshakableconfidence and pursuing my dream
goals.
And It's truly going to help youto unlock your desires I highly
recommend listening to theepisodes on how I was able to
unlock Hitting and suppressdesires, but if you truly know
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your desires Then there shouldbe no reason why you're not
pursuing it, right?
No reason whatsoever And youhave clarity you just have to
start moving have to startmoving in a direction that you
want to go.
Okay.
So the next way that has helpedme build unshakable confidence
and pursuing my dream goals is Ijust took action without
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thinking.
And what this looks like isliterally just following my
desires and allowing the logic,the me figuring out all of those
type of things to catch up.
One thing that is so importantthat I've learned is that you
can act and you can figure itout along the way.
I've done that so many times.
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I took action and I said, Oh,I'll figure it out along the
way.
Yes.
You're going to fail.
Yes.
You're going to fumble.
Yes.
You're going to make mistakes,but these is the things that's
going to help you build thatunshakable confidence within
yourself is take an action.
I'm falling down, getting backup, falling down, getting back
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up, learning from a mistake andjust doing it.
So to give you one example, whenI first started my reselling
business, I just went all inwithout thinking because I truly
wanted to be a stay at home mom.
I wanted to be able to work fromhome and be home when my
daughter started school.
And so what I did is I juststarted, I went all in, I
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figured out how I can startmaking money from my clothes and
that was in my closet and thenWhat I did is I took the money
that I have saved up and I spentit on a whole bunch of wholesale
clothes and it did not sell, itdid not budge and I was like, oh
my gosh, what did I do?
I just spent a few hundreddollars, a few hundred dollars
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on these clothes and it was amistake.
I was following what I thoughtwas like the right thing to do,
but then I was just like, okay.
Now, let me figure out a betterway to do this.
So then I started studying alittle bit more, studying,
studying, studying, studying,allowing the logic to catch up.
And within like three months Iwas being able to make a full
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time income.
Within three months, because Idecided to act on my desire and
allow the logic to come true.
To catch up with me it had tofail along the way Once you
decide what you want you act onit You act on it without doing
too much thinking because whathappens is that when you start
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doing too much thinking and thisis something that you
consistently have to work on.
This is something that Iconsistently have to work on
Every time I want to pursue agoal If I'm not acting right
away, then maybe I'm thinking alittle bit too much but it's
about becoming aware of thosethings So what happens is that
when you start when you movewith the logic versus your body
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Then that's when the self doubtthat's when the super Strategy
and planning come in and youwanting everything to be perfect
It's going to slow you down.
It's going to slow you down orit's either going to stop you
and you not start anyways.
So one thing that is truly goingto help you, like it's helped
me, is being able to act withoutthinking too much.
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How can you get yourself to say,you know what, I'm just going to
do it.
I don't want to think about it.
I'm just going to do it.
I'm just going to, I'm justgoing to pursue this dream goal.
I don't want to think too muchabout it.
It is what it is.
I'll allow myself to fell on wayand I'll allow, everything that
I need to learn to catch upalong the way, because this is
what I want to do.
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And so that is one way that I'vebuilt unshakable confidence and
pursuing my dream goals.
Now, the sixth way that I'vebuilt unshakable confidence and
pursuing my dream goals hasbeen, I challenge my own
limiting beliefs.
So to me, limiting belief issomething that feels
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restrictive.
It's something that is holdingyou back from pursuing.
It's not allowing you to pursue.
To move anywhere so limitedbeliefs such as oh I have to
wait I have to wait for theperfect time to pursue my dream
goal I have to wait till I haveenough money to invest in myself
I have to have a certain degreeto make a certain amount of
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money.
I have to have a certificate tobe a coach.
I have to be perfect to starthelping other women.
Limited beliefs, but guess what?
I decided to say squash that anddo it any ways.
Limited beliefs is justsomething you have to become
aware of.
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It is always, every time, thisis the easiest way for me, like
I said, for you to know when youhave a limited belief that is
holding you back is literallywhen, if it's not moving you
forward, if it's keeping youstuck, if it's keeping you small
and feeling restrictive.
Then it is a limiting belief.
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There's a limiting belief thatyou have to, you know, just
break that belief.
You have to conquer that beliefand that just happens with
progress.
That just happens over time.
And it's just keeping you backfrom truly, truly reaching your
potential.
Because you can do so much.
Your potential is literally wayup here.
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We think there is not high, butwe have so much potential.
And so every time I crushed alimiting belief It just, it just
shocked me.
I was like, oh, like, oh mygosh, I can really do this.
Like I didn't know that I can dothis.
And every time watch, you willsee, every time you break a
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limit and belief, you willsurprise yourself.
You will shock yourself, andthat is so important in building
your confidence is being able toshock yourself and give yourself
proof.
But you get to create newbeliefs about yourself, you
know, ask yourself, is thisbelief holding me back or is it
moving forward?
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A lot of times we get limitingbeliefs from.
People, Our families, school,society, a lot of times our
limited beliefs are shaped fromthat, but you truly can build
new beliefs that you want tohold on to.
So Ask yourself, do you want tokeep this belief?
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If you have a belief that'smaking you feel restrictive, is
making you feel stuck, like abelief that I had before again
of, I need a certificate to be acoach or I have to be perfect to
start helping other women.
No, I don't have to be perfect.
I had to crush that livingbelief.
I can be a work in progress andstill be the perfect person to
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help other women.
whoever it is that I desire tohelp, whoever it is that needs
to hear this.
I'm still a work in progress.
However, I'm still the perfectpackage to be able to guide
women, to be able to guidewhoever, that I can truly help
through my own personalexperience.
So.
I had to crush that limitingbelief if I truly wanted to help
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other women also crush thatlimiting belief as well.
And so the seventh way that I'vebeen able to build unshakable
confidence in myself withpursuing my dream goals has
been, I began to think morehighly of myself, right, of
myself and who I am.
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Self concept of who I am,strengthening the identity that
I set for myself.
So saying things like, I can dothis, saying things that I am
capable or I'm confident, I'mworthy to pursue this, I'm
deserving to have this goal.
Things like that is truly iswhat helped me build my
confidence and being able topursue my dream goals.
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Just feeling my cup on knowingthat I am capable of this.
Thinking more highly of myselfof what I have to offer, knowing
that I have a voice that canimpact, knowing that I have a
message that I can share,knowing that I have experiences
that can help someone else,knowing how important I am to
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just be present, knowing howimportant I am to take up space
knowing how much I deserve to.
Be my dream woman to experiencemy dream life all of that Just
hyping myself up thinking morehighly of myself than I used to
has truly helped me buildconfidence in pursuing my dream
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goals And achieving my dreamgoals because the more highly I
thought about myself the moreagain overpowered, overweight,
any feelings of self doubt, anyfeelings of self sabotage
because I told myself, no, Ideserve this goal.
I deserve this goal.
I deserve to achieve this goal.
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And because of that, I'm goingto keep going.
I'm going to be more consistent.
I'm going to push myself.
I'm going to be uncomfortable.
I'm going to risk beingembarrassed.
I'm going to risk beingoverlooked.
All of that, because I decidedto think more highly of myself.
All of that because I decidedthat I am important enough to
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take up space and to pursue andreceive my dream goals and so
are you.
How can you think more highly ofyourself?
How can you think more highly ofyourself in a sense of like how
deserving you are, how worthyyou are of achieving these dream
goals that you truly want tohave?
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So that every time you're in theface of defeat or the face of
failure, or you know otherpeople doubting you, people that
you truly wanna believe in, you.
all the negative things I canpossibly go wrong and not be
helpful to your success andachieving your dream goals.
Are you going to hype yourselfup?
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Are you going to think morehighly of yourself and knowing
how deserving that you are, howworthy you are, how important
you are to have success?
To have this because it is yourbirthright, right?
Goodness is your birthright,your goals, your aspirations,
having the abundance of it yourdesires, it was placed in you.
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All of these things are yourbirthright.
So just understanding howdeserving you are is truly is
what helped me.
And I truly believe it can helpyou just build that unshakable
confidence and pursuing yourdream goals.
And so number eight, the finaltip that has helped me truly
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build unshakable confidence andpursue my dream goals is I gave
myself proof.
I gave myself proof of howcapable I am.
I gave myself proof of.
So many things that I can doover and over and over and over
and over and over and overagain.
The same can be for you.
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When you take steps, when youpush yourself out of your
comfort zone, when you pursueyour dream goals.
It don't even have to be thebiggest dream goal in the world,
right?
When you start pursuing one at atime and you actually achieve
it, what do you do?
It gives you proof.
It gives you proof of, of whoyou are.
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It gives you proof of what youcapable of.
It builds your confidence itshows you how resilient you are.
It shows you all the things thatyou can do when you Take chances
on yourself, when you bet onyourself, when you believe in
yourself.
So I gave myself proof over andover and over again.
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And it showed me that anythingthat I want, I can get.
Not saying that everything thatI want, I can get in the time
that I want to get it.
However, eventually, it alwayscomes.
Some happen faster than others.
However, every time, anythingthat I want, I can get.
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And so the same can go for you.
Give yourself proof.
Give yourself living proof ofwhat you are capable of.
How about, do this, write outall the accomplishments that you
have had over the past few yearsso you can see how capable you
are.
So you can see how smart youare, how intelligent you are,
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and you'll be surprised of allthe proof that you have of when
you've shown yourselfconfidence.
When you show, when you unleashthat innate confidence, even
when you didn't think that youdid.
That is probably one of the mostimpactful ways that I've been
able to improve my confidenceand pursue my dream goals is
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literally by giving myself proofover and over and over again.
And so all of these ways that Iwent over all of these little
things in different ways hasbuild my confidence and being
able to pursue my goals.
And I want to help you do thesame as well.
So if you desire, if you're in aplace and you're like, now it's
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2025, like I need to be pursuingmy dream goals and you want to
get You want to get unstuck fromseeking approval.
You want to get unstuck fromlimiting beliefs.
You want to get unstuck fromself doubt and self sabotage so
that you can truly beginpursuing your dream goals and
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achieving them.
and be able to unlock thatjuiciness, that deliciousness.
of desires that are hidden andsuppressed within you and you
would like some coaching andsome guidance to help you along
the way.
Then go ahead to the link andthe description box and where
you can go ahead and sign up forcoaching or you can just go to
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squadcaster-jeai_3_01-14-2 (26:42):
This is your year for you to pursue
your goals with unshakableconfidence.
It is for you.
You can do this and I'm here.
I'm in your corner.
And so just to quickly rehashthe things that has helped me
build unshakable confidence inpursuing my desires, pursuing my
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dream goals has been this.
One, I had to have a strong why.
That strong why.
Pushed me outside of my comfortzone, it kept me steady, it
helped me not give up on myselfin face of fear, in face of
failure, because that why wasstronger than just me alone.
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Number two.
is I hate it not experiencing mygoals.
I wanted to experience my goals.
So that deep passion, thatburning desire, again, it pushed
me out of my comfort zone.
it overweighed the self doubt.
It overweighed impostersyndrome.
It overweighed anything that wasgoing to set me back that
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burning desire to experience mydream goal.
number three, the third way thathas helped me build unshakable
confidence is I decided to act.
Without approval.
I followed my own desires and Idid things my own way without
asking a boyfriend, a parent, afriend.
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I did it despite people'snegative beliefs, comments, Any
way that anyone can try topossibly deter me, I did not
care.
And what did that do?
That in return, after I achievedmy dream goals, that motivated
people.
That inspired people.
The same people who didn't, whodoubted.
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And it can do the same for you.
The fourth way is I got superclear on my desires.
Getting clear on my desireshelped me get clarity.
And when you get clarity, yougain confidence in what you want
in a direction that you aremeant to go in.
And number five is I just tookaction sometimes without
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thinking.
Being that risk taker, um,allowing myself to move on my
body.
Moving with my feminine energyand allowing my masculine energy
to catch up, allowing mythoughts to catch up, just
acting, just acting, just doingwithout thinking that is your
innate confidence kicking in.
Just doing, tapping into thatchildlike behavior, being a risk
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taker and just acting withoutdoing too much thinking.
Like allow the logic to catchup.
You will figure it out along theway.
Number six is I challenge mylimited beliefs.
Limited beliefs will hold youback.
It's going to keep yourestricted.
It's going to make you feel likeyou can't progress.
That is a limited belief.
It would hold you back.
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So challenging my limit beliefshas helped me build unshakable
confidence and pursue my dreamgoals.
Number seven is I begin to thinkmore highly of myself.
Telling myself that I deservethese dream goals.
I'm worthy of these dream goals.
I'm important enough to keeppursuing.
I'm important enough to take upspace.
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Do the same for yourself thingstart thing is so highly of
yourself That it is less thanyou to not want to pursue your
dream goals It's less than youto not take action on your dream
goals.
You deserve it.
You know that you're worthy ofit You know that you are
important that you're valuablethat you're Whatever you have to
offer is valuable, that youdeserve it, that you deserve to
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receive, that abundance is yourbirthright.
All of these things, we startthinking more highly of
yourself, your confidence, andthe pursuit.
Um, and then the eighth way is Igave myself proof.
Give yourself proof.
Every time you pursue, everytime you achieve a goal, you are
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giving yourself proof.
And every time there's proof,you get to look back and say,
Ooh, I did that.
I am capable.
I am confident that I can pursueand achieve anything that I put
my mind to.
I have everything within me toachieve my dream goals.
And so these are the ways thathas helped me build that
unshakable confidence.
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I know that it can truly helpyou as well.
Just taking a little bit ofthese tips.
Maybe you're doing some, butimplementing other ways as well.
And a lot of these things arejust internal work.
Most of it has nothing to dowith the external.
All of it is just internal workthat you have to work on
yourself.
And so I hope these help youladies.
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And until next time, bye.
Hey, ladies.
Welcome back to another videotoday.
We are going to be talking abouthow I've been able to build
unshakeable confidence andpursuing success.
My dream goals and being able toachieve most of them.
So I want to share this with youas a way to be able to help you
as well.
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Get in a driver's seat ofpursuing your dream goals and
achieving them also because itis possible you are ready to do
so.
All right.
So number one, the first waythat helped me Build unshakeable
confidence within pursuing mydream goals has been having a
strong why.
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So for me, my why comes fromwanting to be better for my
daughter, wanting to experiencemore in life, more than I've
ever experienced before, wantingto be able to give to my family
and give them experience morethan they ever had before.
And so, because of that strongwhy that has helped me push
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myself out of my comfort zone.
It has helped me move forward inthe face of doubt, it has helped
me move forward in the face oflimiting beliefs because of that
strong, strong why.
Why?
Knowing that my goal was morethan just about me and knowing
that it has more to do with, ofcourse, myself, but more than
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just me.
It has empowered me.
It has helped me build myconfidence within myself to
pursue those dream goals.
Any goal that I've everachieved, it was always because
I wanted either to be a stay athome mom for my daughter, give
her those experiences.
Everything, every goal that I'veever achieved has been always
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because of giving more to mydaughter and wanting to be
better for her.
My loved ones wanted to bebetter to give us a better
future.
So when you have a strong whyyou step into that innate
confidence that is alreadywithin you.
You just figure it out along theway and you're like, I am going
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to do this because it's biggerthan you.
When it's just about you alone.
Of course, self doubt.
Of course.
All of those things are going toget in the way because it's just
about you.
But when you can tie that goalto something that is so
important, when you can tie thatgoal to something beyond
yourself it is so possible tostart building unshakable
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confidence in pursuit that inpursuit of that goal because you
want it for more than justyourself, right?
You want it for something elseor someone else.
That is, that is very, veryimportant.
And so that has helped me buildunshakeable confidence and
pursuing my dream goals because.
I don't just want it for me.
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I also want it for my lovedones.
I also want it for my daughter.
So what is a huge why that youhave that's going to help you
build unshakable confidencewithin yourself to go and pursue
your goals.
This is just the beginningsteps.
Okay.
So the second thing that hashelped me build unshakable
confidence and pursuing my dreamgoals kind of ties to the first
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one but just a tad bitdifferent.
And that is the hating thefeeling of not experiencing my
desires, that feelingoverweighed Anything, just like
the feeling of it being biggerthan yourself when you're not
experiencing, when you're notexperiencing your dream life,
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when you're not experiencingyour dream relationships, when
you're not experiencing yourdream income, your dream career,
your dream body.
What does that do?
When you can hate it so much,That will overweigh any self
doubt, any imposter syndrome,any limiting beliefs.
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Because.
For me, me, me, myself hatedexperiencing, not experiencing
my goals.
It overweighed all of thosethings, any doubts, any limited
beliefs, any imposter syndrome,me starting YouTube, me becoming
a coach.
Of course I had self doubt.
Of course I had impostersyndrome.
Of course I had so many thoughtsof what can go wrong.
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However, Those desires, were sostrong that I hated not
experiencing them.
And because of that, that pushedme to step out of my comfort
zone.
That pushed me to beuncomfortable.
That pushed me to conquer anyself doubt, any limiting
beliefs.
So for you, how bad do you wantyour desire?
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How bad do you want how much doyou hate not experiencing
everything that you want in yourlife, right?
Your dream body, your dreamrelationship.
How bad do you want it?
Because when you hate notexperiencing it, you're going to
do everything in your power toexperience those desires.
That is one step in movingtowards building unshakable
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confidence within pursuing yourdream goals, because it is going
to just keep showing you levelsof yourself that you are capable
of.
So the third way that I've builtunshakable confidence in
pursuing my dream goals has beenI started pursuing my dream
goals without approval, withoutvalidation.
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Without validation fromboyfriends, without validation
from friends, without validationfrom parents, I did everything
that I wanted to do.
And there's still so much morethat I wanted to do, just like
you, right?
There's so much more that youwant to do.
But one thing I learned is thatYou have to be able to move
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forward and pursue your dreamgoals without approval of
boyfriends, friends, or parents,or any kind of relationship that
you're in because you need tomake yourself happy.
And so every time that I was inpursuit of a dream goal, there
was doubt from so many people,so many people, no matter what I
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did, it was either, are youcrazy?
Can you do this?
Are you sure this is possible?
I think maybe we should dosomething different.
It was always things like that.
However, however, every time.
I just did what I wanted to doand I pursued and I achieved
those dream goals.
This is what happened.
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Everyone was like, wow, I can'tbelieve you did that.
Wow, I'm surprised.
Oh, wow, you shocked me So itwas always things like that
every time I achieve my dreamgoals Those are the words that
will happen.
So what's gonna happen is thiswhen you pursue your dream
goals?
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And you actually achieve themdespite anyone's approval.
What's going to happen is thatyou are going to become a source
of inspiration.
Now people are going to belooking at you as, Oh my gosh,
you inspired me.
That's exactly what happened forme.
Every time I achieved, everytime I pursued a dream goal,
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every time I achieved it, whathappened at friends, I have
family members who say,boyfriends who say you inspire
me, you motivate me to be, to dobetter because you never give up
on yourself.
You don't quit.
And you will become a source ofinspiration.
And when you become a source ofinspiration, your confidence in
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yourself is going to continueand continue to build and you
pursuing your dream goals,right?
And every level you go, right?
Like you pursue one goal,there's always going to be
another goal that you're goingto pursue.
And it's going to continue tobuild your confidence.
But one powerful way to startbuilding unshakable confidence
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in you pursuing your dream goalsis to just start doing it
without the approval.
Stop asking people forpermission.
Don't ask a friend, don't ask afamily member, don't ask a
boyfriend, a husband.
Hey, do you think I should dothis?
Hey, like, what do you think?
Just do it.
Just do it and surprise them,shock them, shock them all.
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Because that's exactly what'sgoing to happen.
No one is going to believe inyou more than you believe in
yourself.
And that's something that I hadto build within myself.
No one is going to believe in memore than I believe in myself.
So, no longer ask for approvalwhen it comes to pursuing your
dreams, just pursue them.
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You got this.
The fourth way that I've builtunshakable confidence in me
pursuing my dream goals is I gotsuper clear on my desires and I
And how I was able to get superclear on my desires, I share in
my previous episode aboutunlocking your hidden desires
and discovering exactly what youwant for your life.
(09:23):
Because when you start listeningand uncovering those hidden and
those suppressed desires, Whathappens?
Your imagination opens up, yourinspiration opens up, your
passion opens up.
And when you get clear on thatthat's when you can begin
pursuing.
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That's when that confidence comein because getting clear is
gaining clarity, of course.
So you gain clarity and that'swhat confidence comes from.
When you are stuck in confusion,there is no confidence
whatsoever.
I've been a person who has beenconfused a lot, a lot, a lot, a
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lot for so many years.
What should I do?
I don't know what I want.
I don't know what to do.
Those, if you're asking yourselfthat question, It's because you
haven't allowed yourself to justsit and listen to all of the
desires that you have suppressedthroughout your life.
All of the desires, you have somany desires that's within you
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and you can reveal it if youjust sit and listen to unlock
it.
When you get clear on that, younow have.
What you want, you know what youwant.
And when you know what you want,you can now start pursuing.
And one thing that's going tohelp you build confidence is
that when you gain clarity,these are the things that
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happen.
One, I already said, it helpsyou avoid confusion, but also it
helps you avoid doing thingssomeone else wants you to do.
It helps you avoid pursuing adream that someone else wants
you to pursue because they feellike this is what you're capable
of pursuing or this is what theywant for you.
When you get clear on yourdesires no one can kind of shift
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your direction.
You become in control of yourdirection.
This is why, this is what helpedme.
Truly build unshakableconfidence in pursuing my dream
goals.
Because every time I had a hugedesire and I got locked in and I
got super laser focused onachieving this goal and someone
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tried to stare me in a differentdirection because either they
didn't believe in me or theythought something else was
better.
I was able to say no.
No, that is not for me.
No, no, no saying no to otherthings is you saying yes to your
desires, to your goals.
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So this just unlocking is justgetting clear on my desires has
helped me truly build unshakableconfidence and pursuing my dream
goals.
And It's truly going to help youto unlock your desires I highly
recommend listening to theepisodes on how I was able to
unlock Hitting and suppressdesires, but if you truly know
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your desires Then there shouldbe no reason why you're not
pursuing it, right?
No reason whatsoever And youhave clarity you just have to
start moving have to startmoving in a direction that you
want to go.
Okay.
So the next way that has helpedme build unshakable confidence
and pursuing my dream goals is Ijust took action without
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thinking.
And what this looks like isliterally just following my
desires and allowing the logic,the me figuring out all of those
type of things to catch up.
One thing that is so importantthat I've learned is that you
can act and you can figure itout along the way.
I've done that so many times.
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I took action and I said, Oh,I'll figure it out along the
way.
Yes.
You're going to fail.
Yes.
You're going to fumble.
Yes.
You're going to make mistakes,but these is the things that's
going to help you build thatunshakable confidence within
yourself is take an action.
I'm falling down, getting backup, falling down, getting back
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up, learning from a mistake andjust doing it.
So to give you one example, whenI first started my reselling
business, I just went all inwithout thinking because I truly
wanted to be a stay at home mom.
I wanted to be able to work fromhome and be home when my
daughter started school.
And so what I did is I juststarted, I went all in, I
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figured out how I can startmaking money from my clothes and
that was in my closet and thenWhat I did is I took the money
that I have saved up and I spentit on a whole bunch of wholesale
clothes and it did not sell, itdid not budge and I was like, oh
my gosh, what did I do?
I just spent a few hundreddollars, a few hundred dollars
(14:13):
on these clothes and it was amistake.
I was following what I thoughtwas like the right thing to do,
but then I was just like, okay.
Now, let me figure out a betterway to do this.
So then I started studying alittle bit more, studying,
studying, studying, studying,allowing the logic to catch up.
And within like three months Iwas being able to make a full
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time income.
Within three months, because Idecided to act on my desire and
allow the logic to come true.
To catch up with me it had tofail along the way Once you
decide what you want you act onit You act on it without doing
too much thinking because whathappens is that when you start
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doing too much thinking and thisis something that you
consistently have to work on.
This is something that Iconsistently have to work on
Every time I want to pursue agoal If I'm not acting right
away, then maybe I'm thinking alittle bit too much but it's
about becoming aware of thosethings So what happens is that
when you start when you movewith the logic versus your body
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Then that's when the self doubtthat's when the super Strategy
and planning come in and youwanting everything to be perfect
It's going to slow you down.
It's going to slow you down orit's either going to stop you
and you not start anyways.
So one thing that is truly goingto help you, like it's helped
me, is being able to act withoutthinking too much.
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How can you get yourself to say,you know what, I'm just going to
do it.
I don't want to think about it.
I'm just going to do it.
I'm just going to, I'm justgoing to pursue this dream goal.
I don't want to think too muchabout it.
It is what it is.
I'll allow myself to fell on wayand I'll allow, everything that
I need to learn to catch upalong the way, because this is
what I want to do.
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And so that is one way that I'vebuilt unshakable confidence and
pursuing my dream goals.
Now, the sixth way that I'vebuilt unshakable confidence and
pursuing my dream goals hasbeen, I challenge my own
limiting beliefs.
So to me, limiting belief issomething that feels
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restrictive.
It's something that is holdingyou back from pursuing.
It's not allowing you to pursue.
To move anywhere so limitedbeliefs such as oh I have to
wait I have to wait for theperfect time to pursue my dream
goal I have to wait till I haveenough money to invest in myself
I have to have a certain degreeto make a certain amount of
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money.
I have to have a certificate tobe a coach.
I have to be perfect to starthelping other women.
Limited beliefs, but guess what?
I decided to say squash that anddo it any ways.
Limited beliefs is justsomething you have to become
aware of.
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It is always, every time, thisis the easiest way for me, like
I said, for you to know when youhave a limited belief that is
holding you back is literallywhen, if it's not moving you
forward, if it's keeping youstuck, if it's keeping you small
and feeling restrictive.
Then it is a limiting belief.
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There's a limiting belief thatyou have to, you know, just
break that belief.
You have to conquer that beliefand that just happens with
progress.
That just happens over time.
And it's just keeping you backfrom truly, truly reaching your
potential.
Because you can do so much.
Your potential is literally wayup here.
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We think there is not high, butwe have so much potential.
And so every time I crushed alimiting belief It just, it just
shocked me.
I was like, oh, like, oh mygosh, I can really do this.
Like I didn't know that I can dothis.
And every time watch, you willsee, every time you break a
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limit and belief, you willsurprise yourself.
You will shock yourself, andthat is so important in building
your confidence is being able toshock yourself and give yourself
proof.
But you get to create newbeliefs about yourself, you
know, ask yourself, is thisbelief holding me back or is it
moving forward?
(18:32):
A lot of times we get limitingbeliefs from.
People, Our families, school,society, a lot of times our
limited beliefs are shaped fromthat, but you truly can build
new beliefs that you want tohold on to.
So Ask yourself, do you want tokeep this belief?
(18:53):
If you have a belief that'smaking you feel restrictive, is
making you feel stuck, like abelief that I had before again
of, I need a certificate to be acoach or I have to be perfect to
start helping other women.
No, I don't have to be perfect.
I had to crush that livingbelief.
I can be a work in progress andstill be the perfect person to
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help other women.
whoever it is that I desire tohelp, whoever it is that needs
to hear this.
I'm still a work in progress.
However, I'm still the perfectpackage to be able to guide
women, to be able to guidewhoever, that I can truly help
through my own personalexperience.
So.
I had to crush that limitingbelief if I truly wanted to help
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other women also crush thatlimiting belief as well.
And so the seventh way that I'vebeen able to build unshakable
confidence in myself withpursuing my dream goals has
been, I began to think morehighly of myself, right, of
myself and who I am.
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Self concept of who I am,strengthening the identity that
I set for myself.
So saying things like, I can dothis, saying things that I am
capable or I'm confident, I'mworthy to pursue this, I'm
deserving to have this goal.
Things like that is truly iswhat helped me build my
confidence and being able topursue my dream goals.
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Just feeling my cup on knowingthat I am capable of this.
Thinking more highly of myselfof what I have to offer, knowing
that I have a voice that canimpact, knowing that I have a
message that I can share,knowing that I have experiences
that can help someone else,knowing how important I am to
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just be present, knowing howimportant I am to take up space
knowing how much I deserve to.
Be my dream woman to experiencemy dream life all of that Just
hyping myself up thinking morehighly of myself than I used to
has truly helped me buildconfidence in pursuing my dream
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goals And achieving my dreamgoals because the more highly I
thought about myself the moreagain overpowered, overweight,
any feelings of self doubt, anyfeelings of self sabotage
because I told myself, no, Ideserve this goal.
I deserve this goal.
I deserve to achieve this goal.
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And because of that, I'm goingto keep going.
I'm going to be more consistent.
I'm going to push myself.
I'm going to be uncomfortable.
I'm going to risk beingembarrassed.
I'm going to risk beingoverlooked.
All of that, because I decidedto think more highly of myself.
All of that because I decidedthat I am important enough to
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take up space and to pursue andreceive my dream goals and so
are you.
How can you think more highly ofyourself?
How can you think more highly ofyourself in a sense of like how
deserving you are, how worthyyou are of achieving these dream
goals that you truly want tohave?
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So that every time you're in theface of defeat or the face of
failure, or you know otherpeople doubting you, people that
you truly wanna believe in, you.
all the negative things I canpossibly go wrong and not be
helpful to your success andachieving your dream goals.
Are you going to hype yourselfup?
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Are you going to think morehighly of yourself and knowing
how deserving that you are, howworthy you are, how important
you are to have success?
To have this because it is yourbirthright, right?
Goodness is your birthright,your goals, your aspirations,
having the abundance of it yourdesires, it was placed in you.
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All of these things are yourbirthright.
So just understanding howdeserving you are is truly is
what helped me.
And I truly believe it can helpyou just build that unshakable
confidence and pursuing yourdream goals.
And so number eight, the finaltip that has helped me truly
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build unshakable confidence andpursue my dream goals is I gave
myself proof.
I gave myself proof of howcapable I am.
I gave myself proof of.
So many things that I can doover and over and over and over
and over and over and overagain.
The same can be for you.
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When you take steps, when youpush yourself out of your
comfort zone, when you pursueyour dream goals.
It don't even have to be thebiggest dream goal in the world,
right?
When you start pursuing one at atime and you actually achieve
it, what do you do?
It gives you proof.
It gives you proof of, of whoyou are.
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It gives you proof of what youcapable of.
It builds your confidence itshows you how resilient you are.
It shows you all the things thatyou can do when you Take chances
on yourself, when you bet onyourself, when you believe in
yourself.
So I gave myself proof over andover and over again.
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And it showed me that anythingthat I want, I can get.
Not saying that everything thatI want, I can get in the time
that I want to get it.
However, eventually, it alwayscomes.
Some happen faster than others.
However, every time, anythingthat I want, I can get.
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And so the same can go for you.
Give yourself proof.
Give yourself living proof ofwhat you are capable of.
How about, do this, write outall the accomplishments that you
have had over the past few yearsso you can see how capable you
are.
So you can see how smart youare, how intelligent you are,
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and you'll be surprised of allthe proof that you have of when
you've shown yourselfconfidence.
When you show, when you unleashthat innate confidence, even
when you didn't think that youdid.
That is probably one of the mostimpactful ways that I've been
able to improve my confidenceand pursue my dream goals is
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literally by giving myself proofover and over and over again.
And so all of these ways that Iwent over all of these little
things in different ways hasbuild my confidence and being
able to pursue my goals.
And I want to help you do thesame as well.
So if you desire, if you're in aplace and you're like, now it's
(25:53):
2025, like I need to be pursuingmy dream goals and you want to
get You want to get unstuck fromseeking approval.
You want to get unstuck fromlimiting beliefs.
You want to get unstuck fromself doubt and self sabotage so
that you can truly beginpursuing your dream goals and
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achieving them.
and be able to unlock thatjuiciness, that deliciousness.
of desires that are hidden andsuppressed within you and you
would like some coaching andsome guidance to help you along
the way.
Then go ahead to the link andthe description box and where
you can go ahead and sign up forcoaching or you can just go to
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CleopatraWilliams.
com and sign up for coachingthere as well.
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This is your year for you to pursue
your goals with unshakableconfidence.
It is for you.
You can do this and I'm here.
I'm in your corner.
And so just to quickly rehashthe things that has helped me
build unshakable confidence inpursuing my desires, pursuing my
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dream goals has been this.
One, I had to have a strong why.
That strong why.
Pushed me outside of my comfortzone, it kept me steady, it
helped me not give up on myselfin face of fear, in face of
failure, because that why wasstronger than just me alone.
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Number two.
is I hate it not experiencing mygoals.
I wanted to experience my goals.
So that deep passion, thatburning desire, again, it pushed
me out of my comfort zone.
it overweighed the self doubt.
It overweighed impostersyndrome.
It overweighed anything that wasgoing to set me back that
(27:48):
burning desire to experience mydream goal.
number three, the third way thathas helped me build unshakable
confidence is I decided to act.
Without approval.
I followed my own desires and Idid things my own way without
asking a boyfriend, a parent, afriend.
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I did it despite people'snegative beliefs, comments, Any
way that anyone can try topossibly deter me, I did not
care.
And what did that do?
That in return, after I achievedmy dream goals, that motivated
people.
That inspired people.
The same people who didn't, whodoubted.
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And it can do the same for you.
The fourth way is I got superclear on my desires.
Getting clear on my desireshelped me get clarity.
And when you get clarity, yougain confidence in what you want
in a direction that you aremeant to go in.
And number five is I just tookaction sometimes without
(28:49):
thinking.
Being that risk taker, um,allowing myself to move on my
body.
Moving with my feminine energyand allowing my masculine energy
to catch up, allowing mythoughts to catch up, just
acting, just acting, just doingwithout thinking that is your
innate confidence kicking in.
Just doing, tapping into thatchildlike behavior, being a risk
(29:13):
taker and just acting withoutdoing too much thinking.
Like allow the logic to catchup.
You will figure it out along theway.
Number six is I challenge mylimited beliefs.
Limited beliefs will hold youback.
It's going to keep yourestricted.
It's going to make you feel likeyou can't progress.
That is a limited belief.
It would hold you back.
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So challenging my limit beliefshas helped me build unshakable
confidence and pursue my dreamgoals.
Number seven is I begin to thinkmore highly of myself.
Telling myself that I deservethese dream goals.
I'm worthy of these dream goals.
I'm important enough to keeppursuing.
I'm important enough to take upspace.
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Do the same for yourself thingstart thing is so highly of
yourself That it is less thanyou to not want to pursue your
dream goals It's less than youto not take action on your dream
goals.
You deserve it.
You know that you're worthy ofit You know that you are
important that you're valuablethat you're Whatever you have to
offer is valuable, that youdeserve it, that you deserve to
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receive, that abundance is yourbirthright.
All of these things, we startthinking more highly of
yourself, your confidence, andthe pursuit.
Um, and then the eighth way is Igave myself proof.
Give yourself proof.
Every time you pursue, everytime you achieve a goal, you are
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giving yourself proof.
And every time there's proof,you get to look back and say,
Ooh, I did that.
I am capable.
I am confident that I can pursueand achieve anything that I put
my mind to.
I have everything within me toachieve my dream goals.
And so these are the ways thathas helped me build that
unshakable confidence.
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I know that it can truly helpyou as well.
Just taking a little bit ofthese tips.
Maybe you're doing some, butimplementing other ways as well.
And a lot of these things arejust internal work.
Most of it has nothing to dowith the external.
All of it is just internal workthat you have to work on
yourself.
And so I hope these help youladies.
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And until next time, bye.
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