December 20, 2024 • 45 mins
Become Your Dream Woman with these Life-Changing & Next-Level Tips!
00:00 Become Your Dream Woman!
00:44 Decide
03:37 No more asking for permission
07:55 Release blocks
12:57 Take Risk
18:16 Prioritize these selves
32:14 Make your mark
37:32 Never give up
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squadcaster-571i_1_12-18-20 (00:05):
Hey ladies, welcome back to another
video.
Today we are going to be talkingabout becoming your dream woman.
Now the order, some of the stepsthat I'm going to go over is not
in any particular order.
I just kind of them all down inthe middle of the blog.
So it doesn't have to be thestep by step kind of thing.
However, these are going to besome useful tools that is going
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to help you become your dreamself, become your dream woman so
that you can thrive in yourlife, in your business, in the
end of 2024 and going into 2025.
All right guys, so let's goahead and get into it.
So number one of becoming yourdream woman.
It's deciding that you get tobecome her.
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When you decide, making adecision is such a powerful
thing to do.
So, when you decide, that meansthat you are cutting off any
other option.
When you decide that you aregoing to become your dream
woman, you're done.
You're done.
You are done being the womanthat you are not meant to be.
It is so crucial for you tounderstand.
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That she is available to you.
There's a lot of times that welive and we Explore life with
the belief that some things arenot available to us but when we
start to open our mindset andopen up the mindset of Abundance
and how we truly have everythingthat we need within us.
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We have the gift of abundance.
We are creators.
And so that we can truly, trulycreate what is possible for us.
And that she is available to us.
When you decide that you get tobecome your dream self, you know
that she is available to you andthat not only is she available
to you, she is already inside ofyou.
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So your dream self is alreadyinside of you.
She's already there.
She is just waiting for you toreceive her.
Thank you.
And the best way that you canbegin receiving this person Is
by becoming this person.
I always talk about this andabout acting as if I talk about
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the practice of embodimentbecause the more that you embody
her do the things that youbelieve that she is going to be
doing be the person that youtruly believe that she is.
You write all of these thingsdown in a notebook, in your
journal, and look at it everysingle day, or at least almost
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every single day.
When you do this, you know whoyou need to act as on a daily
basis.
The closer you become her, thecloser you become me.
You are going to become yourdream self and the faster right
embodiment is truly the quickestway to becoming your dream self
and truly the only way to Startto embody this person is when
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you decide That you get tobecome her when you decide that
this is The only option that youare going to allow in your life
Is to become this person so nowthere's no other option than to
just be her.
Be her Do as her becauseeventually you're gonna have
you're gonna self actualize andactually become her.
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so you have to decide decidingthat you get to become her all
righty, so number two Rememberthis is not in any particular
order.
I was just jotting things down.
So number two is no longer seekor ask for permission.
Permission to follow yourdesires Permission for what you
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want to do with your lifepermission for who you want to
become Becoming your dream self.
You don't need to ask forpermission Anybody for
permission to become greaterthan who you are right now.
You don't need permission tofollow your desires Your dream
life is only going to be createdwhen you Decide that you get to
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become your dream self and whenyou don't ask permission outside
of yourself.
As someone who used to ask forpermission, I realized the more
that I asked for permission, themore I was disconnected from
myself.
And being able to make moreconfident decisions being able
to be more of a risk taker eventhough I was a risk taker.
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I still Didn't do as much as Iwanted to do Because of that
sense of permission should I dothis asking for validation?
When you want to become yourdream self, you have to learn
how to validate yourself Youtruly have to learn how to
validate yourself and no longerask for permission.
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So being able to follow thingslike what sparks you, what
brings you enjoyment, what, youknow, turns you on about life.
Following those things withouttaking permission.
Doing things such as what speaksto you, what you've been wanting
to do for such a long time thatyou haven't actually taken the
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step to do it yet.
It's only up to you.
You are the only person that cantruly, truly validate yourself.
So learn to validate yourself.
Go after those desires that ison your heart.
All of those desires that youwant to do, it is connected to
you.
It is, your desires is showingyou, it's showing you what your
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inner self wants.
It is showing you your innermostdesires, your inner child, it is
showing you what your true selfwant, your highest self want.
And the more you follow thosedesires, the more you're going
to be able to connect with theessence of the true you, your
dream self.
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When you start to validateyourself, you become so
unstoppable.
When you no longer need to askfor permission, you become so
unstoppable because you just do.
You no longer wait for a yesfrom somebody.
You decide and you put your footforward and you go, you go take
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care of what you want to do.
You become powerful when you nolonger ask for permission.
And the less you seekpermission, the more you become
your authentic self.
The more you become your mostconfident self.
The more you are connected toyour dark feminine energy.
All of these is a combinationthat is going to make you so
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magnetic.
It is going to magnetize you tothings that you want in life.
It is going to magnetize you tobeing seen as your dream self.
People are going to look at youand be like, oh my gosh.
Like.
What is it about her?
Like she has this aura about herIt's because you are showing up
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as your authentic self.
It's because you are Exudingconfidence.
It's because you are unleashing.
Your dark feminine energybecause you are no longer asking
for permission.
You are being truthful You'rebeing honest with yourself and
you are unleashing that.
Your dream self is trulyunleashed when you no longer ask
for permission.
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And also a crucial part of this,is learning to make yourself
feel safe to no longer ask forpermission.
When you realize that you aresafe, you are safe to go after
your desires, you are safe togive yourself permission, you
are safe to validate yourself.
You become unstoppable.
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So number three is releasingunhelpful blogs.
So things that I consider to beunhelpful blogs is things like
anger, bitterness, resentmentunforgiveness towards yourself
and other people.
Why those things are so crucial.
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is because in order to trulybecome your dream self you have
to be able to release releaseand free yourself up of burdens
and these things are burdens onyou it is holding so much such a
negative unhelpful energeticfield within your body is
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holding so much things that isholding back from truly
excelling Into your dream selffrom truly leaping into your
dream self.
When you are holding onto somany things that are, it is just
weighing you down.
These things are weighing youdown.
It is weighing down from trulythriving.
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When you hold onto these things,you're not going to be able to
thrive.
You have to free yourself when,just like we do when we're
decluttering.
Things in our home when we'redecluttering our car, when we
are dec decluttering our, youknow, computer, whatever it is.
When you are freeing yourself,you are decluttering all of that
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nastiness, all of that things,what within your body so that
you can make room for otherthings.
Your dream self is not a personthat's angry all the time.
Your dream self is not a person.
Who is better or resentful or ishave self hatred.
That is not your dream self,right?
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No.
Your dream self is a woman whois full of love, who is full of
joy, who is full of forgiveness,who is full of just peace of
mind, full of pleasure.
And one thing I learned is thatwhen you hold these things in,
It snatches those other thingsfrom you.
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It doesn't give you space inyour body to receive all of the
other good things that yourdream self requires.
That your dream self is going tothrive off of as women.
Like, we want to have thosethings.
We want to have joy.
We want to have peace.
Inner peace.
We want to have external peace.
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We want to have happiness.
and love and pleasure.
But in order for us to trulyreceive that, we have to learn
how to release unhelpful blocks.
One tip that I like to do when Ifeel like I need to release
unhelpful blocks.
Normally you can feel when thereare unhelpful blocks within your
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body.
You may feel tight, you may feelanxious, you may feel uneasy.
You may feel uncreative.
These are all signs that thereare some Unhelpful blocks within
your body So one thing that Ilike to do and I got this from a
book called the game of life andhow to play it It is such a good
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book.
I highly recommend it is to castyour burden now if you're
christian, you probably heardyou know cast your burdens on
christ But I truly didn'tunderstand it until I read the
book, The Game of Life, and howto play it.
And casting your burdens is sucha powerful way to truly release
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unhelpful blocks.
When I started to put that intopractice, whenever I will feel
resentment coming up, whenever Iwill feel any anger coming up, I
learned to release that.
any type of feelings that areunhelpful to you becoming your
dream self and is blocking youfrom seeing her to seeing how
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available she is to you.
Say this, I pass the burden ofDiscouragement on the Christ
within me and I am set free so Iwill say that and I will say
that over and over and overuntil I feel this sense of peace
over me and this is a releaseand When that happens, then I'm
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like, okay now I can moveforward and then I can see parts
of my dream self coming to lifebecause I'm no longer allowing
those things to weigh me down.
And another way is of coursemoving your body, right?
That's, that's the another wayof getting unhelpful energetic
things off of you is moving yourbody giving yourself pleasure,
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all types of things that, thatthat gives a certain physical
release is going to be sohelpful towards you releasing
unhelpful blocks.
But definitely casting thatburden on the Christ within you
so that you can be set free issuch an amazing, amazing way to
release those unhelpful blocks.
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But find whichever way worksbest for you.
All right, so number four istake risks.
Get more uncomfortable.
The more risks I've taken in mylife, the more I've tapped into
my dream self.
The more risks I've taken in mylife, the more I feel like I've
learned about myself.
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I learned what I'm capable of.
I learned that there is prettymuch nothing I can't come back
from, right?
I truly see that even when Ifail, even when I make mistakes,
I'm still always able to bounceback.
when I take risks, now I don'teven see, my risk can be scary,
it can be nerve wracking.
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However, I'm able to now see itas something exciting, something
that is, giving me life.
Because the more you take risks,the more you are connecting to
the dream version of yourself.
You're only taking risks becauseit's something that your dream
self desires.
At the end of the day, there isno risk in life that we take for
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the sake of staying the personthat we are now.
None whatsoever.
Every risk that we take isbecause we want to become a
higher version of ourselves Wewant to experience more than we
have experienced so far in lifeWe want to have more we want to
be more we want to do more Thoseare truly the reasons why
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majority of people who takerisks take risk because we want
that and so when you take risksYou are connecting to A better
version of yourself when youtake risks you are connecting to
your dream self.
However It is so easy That whena risk doesn't go the way that
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you maybe wanted it to go.
It threw you off course it youfailed maybe had a huge setback
And it shamed you andembarrassed you and now you want
to retreat now you want to tellyourself.
Oh, no Let me be moreresponsible No, I'm gonna take
in As much risks as I used totake, I am going to take a step
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backwards.
I highly recommend to keeptaking risks.
It is so easy to tell yourself,no more risks.
And I've done this to myself.
I told myself that I am nolonger being a huge risk taker
because of A huge setback and Ifelt so much embarrassment.
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I felt so much shame.
I felt so irresponsible andbecause of that I stopped myself
from taking risks.
But what happened when I stoppedmyself?
What happened?
I felt this craving, thisburning desire inside of me of
you want to take risks.
I felt uneasy.
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I felt like.
I was not moving forward.
I felt like I was staying like aperson that I didn't want to
stay anymore because takingrisks is, is a part of you
becoming a dream self.
And if you are not taking risksin your life, you are staying
the same.
You are not growing.
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You are not making yourselfuncomfortable.
So make yourself uncomfortable.
Get excited about beinguncomfortable.
Get excited about risk.
A great way to get used totaking risks is to Really see it
as an excitement to make yourbody feel excited.
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One thing that I do practice isthat when I feel nervous when I
feel a Little antsy from takingthis risk and I want to shock my
body into believing it asexcitement What I do is I
squeeze like this squeeze mybody and What happens is that?
Oh no Come on I did it again I'mnot starting over.
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I'm so sorry guys about theaudio.
I did it again.
Sorry.
Now the audio is better.
I will try my best to fix itwhen I'm editing.
when you're going Like that toyourself that's when we're
excited.
So doing that Tightening mybody.
It kind of tricks me tricks mymind into Believing that i'm
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excited and so that helps mewhen i'm taking risks that are
scary that is a little bituncomfortable And so that's
something that if you want toput into practice, I highly
recommend When you are takingrisks Take risks in your life.
The more you take risks, themore you connect to your dream
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self.
Trust me because you're onlytaking risks because your dream
self desires for you to takethose risks.
And something I wrote down is awoman who knows what she is
capable of is unstoppable.
When you take risk again, like Isaid, in the beginning of taking
risk, is that you begin to learnwhat you are capable of and when
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you learn what you are capableof, You become unstoppable.
Because you already know youbecome more resilient and you
get up and you do it again.
So number five, prioritize theseselves.
So self confidence.
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Self awareness, self love, selfrespect, self concept, self
worth.
All of these are an essence ofyour entire self esteem.
So let's start with selfconfidence.
Why you need to prioritizebuilding your self confidence is
because self confidence is goingto take you so many places.
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Confident woman.
She is unstoppable.
So self confidence has so manydifferent levels of confidence.
This is something that I teach.
It's a different levels ofconfidence.
And one of those main levels ofconfidence is being able to
trust yourself.
When you learn to trust yourself, you are going to become
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more of your dream self.
Because when you trust yourself,you know that you can do it.
You know that you can doanything you put your mind to.
You know that you can becomegreater.
You know that you can dogreater.
You honor your commitments.
You be honest with yourself.
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You show up for yourself.
this is one of the ways that youare truly going to build a self.
Confidence is being able to showup for yourself.
However, confidence is such aninnate thing that we have, but
we don't remember this, right?
We forget, but we had confidencesince we were born.
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We had that since we werebabies, when we learned to
crawl, when we learned to walk,confidence, is this something of
just knowing innately?
Is that a neat intuition of justknowing without thinking,
without needing someone to pushyou along?
You just have it.
There's babies when they'retrying to crawl, they fall, they
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get back up.
They fall, they get back up.
When you're trying to walk, theyfall, they get back up.
They're just doing what they'redoing.
They're doing what they wereborn to do.
When you become more confidentin yourself, you start doing
what you were created to do.
You become who you've beencreated to be.
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So prioritize building that selfconfidence.
Trusting yourself.
When you start trustingyourself, you get more ease in
your life, expressing thatconfidence that you have, right?
Knowing yourself without doubt,increasing that self belief in
yourself.
There's so many different levelsof confidence that you are going
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to go through.
Your dream self is connected toyour confidence It is so crucial
to build your self confidence sothat you can become your dream
self.
All right.
So the next one is selfawareness.
So Self awareness is the key tochanging everything When you
become self aware of somethingthat you don't like about
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yourself, you're able to changeit.
When you become self aware ofsomething that triggers you, you
are able to change it.
When you become self aware ofsomething that you don't like or
that you love about yourself,guess what?
You're either able to change itor you get to magnetize the
things you love about yourself.
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When you become aware of yourdesires, you get to go after
them.
Self awareness is key toeverything.
The more you become self awareof everything about you, what
you want, what you like, whatyou don't like, what you need in
your life to be happy, to bejoyful.
The more you do that, the moreyou become self-aware, the more
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you are going to become yourdream self.
The next self is self love soself love is such a big one as
well.
Self love is pouring love intoyourself, right?
Speak in love to yourself.
You are in relationship withyourself.
So how can you love yourself?
How can you love yourself?
so greatly to the point whereit's just beaming outside of
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you.
Just like when we fall in lovewith people, how can we fall in
love with ourselves?
So talking to ourselves like weare in love with ourselves,
telling ourselves that we loveourselves treating our bodies as
we love ourselves, you know,taking care of it, nourishing
it, taking care of our health.
I'm taking our vitamins, workingout.
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Making sure we're clean, thatour hair is done, that we smell
good, giving ourselves pleasurein life.
Making yourself feel beautiful,taking care of your skin.
That is self love.
Dream women take care ofthemselves.
They take care of their, youknow, how they look, their
appearance, how you dress, howyou take care of yourself.
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It literally shows outside.
You are going to see how peopletreat you differently You are
going to see how you show up inthe world a little bit more
differently how you show up alittle bit more confident in
yourself and Not just trustingyourself in that confidence, but
you're able to express thatself.
The more self love we giveourselves, the more radiant we
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are.
The more we thrive in life, themore we become my dream self.
And the more you have self love,then you are going to be showing
people how to love you back.
Becoming your dream woman.
If you do not love yourself,then you are not your dream
woman period.
whatsoever.
And that's, that's loving theugly parts of you.
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That doesn't mean that you don'tchange the ugly parts of you
that you don't want to change,but loving her in a place that
she is right now.
So that is, you know, havingself compassion.
with this person of where she isright now.
If you don't like something, ifyou made a mistake yesterday, if
you made a mistake today,outside of character of the
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person that you know, you aretruly meant to be, how can you
love on her?
How can you You know, make herfeel like it's okay to make her
feel like it is safe to makemistakes.
That is room to make mistakes.
How can you do that for her?
How can you talk to her as ifyou truly, truly love her?
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That's a part of self love,right?
You have to be able to do thatto become your dream self.
Because if you don't allowyourself to make space for
mistakes and give yourself selfcompassion, you truly can't
become your dream self.
You can't become your dreamwoman.
You're a dream woman.
She needs to feel safe.
She needs to feel protected.
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She needs to feel that it isokay to mess up and be where she
is right now so that she cangrow, but also know that she is
powerful and that she can becomethe greatest version of her if
she truly, truly desires tobecome that great version of
her.
So this kind of falls into selflove because when you love
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yourself, you respect yourself,but more so in a sense of, yes,
boundaries, like respecting yourboundaries not letting other
people disrespect yourboundaries, not letting you
disrespect your boundaries,respecting yourself with how you
show up and how you carry carryyourself not allowing anyone to
take advantage of you.
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Not allowing anyone todisrespect you so these are
Holding yourself to a higherstandard holding yourself to the
standard of your dream self thatno one's gonna Be beneath you.
You're not above anybody.
No one is above you You're notinferior to no one when you
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believe that You are notinferior to no one You can truly
develop into your dream selfbecause of so many of us have
such an inferiority Complex,that's such a long word.
It's hard to renounce it.
So a lot of us have such acomplex and being inferior to
other people that we don't shineour light, that we let people
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disrespect us.
And, you know, we diminishourselves.
We make ourselves smaller.
However, no respect yourself,respect yourself by showing up
and taking up space and knowingthat you deserve to be here.
You deserve to be seen.
You deserve to be seen.
And of course that yourespecting your, your body, that
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is like another huge thing.
When you respect your body, yourbody is your temple.
When you respect your body.
You are definitely on your wayto becoming your dream woman.
Your dream woman respects herbody, period, because everything
comes from this.
This is our temple.
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We honor it.
Everything comes from that.
So self respect is so crucial.
The more you respect yourself,the higher your level of self
esteem becomes.
When you disrespect yourself,your self esteem goes womp,
womp, womp down the drain.
Trust me, every time Idisrespected myself, my self
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esteem was shot.
So, respect yourself as yourdream woman.
Respect yourself and watch youcontinue to become her and
flourish into that beautifulperson that you know you can
become.
Okay, so the next self is selfconcept and this is your
identity.
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This is how you see yourself,who you believe you are to be.
You as your dream woman, you getto decide the person that you
are.
What you believe, what youaccept to be true is who you
are.
A lot of our identity of who weare was created from family
members.
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Mo majority of that.
It was created from society,from school, from from just
being around a whole bunch ofdifferent people from social
media, right?
Like our identities were formedfrom everyone else besides
ourselves.
What happened is that we heardso many things so many times
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that we've officially agreed tothat and accepted it as true.
So what do you want to be trueabout you?
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You have the ability to be able to
create new identity foryourself.
You have the ability to be ableto let go of identities that you
no longer want to hold on to.
So what is the self concept thatyou want to hold on to?
Is it that you are Beautiful isit that you are confident does
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identity of I am So everythingyou say I am about is pretty
much labeling your self conceptyour identity Do you want to say
that I am capable?
I am confident.
I am trustworthy I am honest allof these things are things that
Are about your identity.
This is your self concept.
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You're a dream woman.
You're a dream self Has to havea higher level of concept A
higher level of identity to beable to truly see yourself as
this dream person So who areyou?
Every time you say I am justremember you're identifying With
that you're holding this as yourconcept.
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So if you say things like, Oh,I'm struggling.
Or I am, less than, These thingsare not a high level.
These are not a high levelvibration.
These are not high level words.
It's going to make you feel lessthan.
You're holding on to thatidentity.
You can crush labels that youdon't want.
If you don't not want a label ofI am something that's not your
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dream self, don't accept it.
No more.
You can.
Rebuke it.
You can reject it as much as youwant to.
Reject those beliefs, rejectthose identities, those labels
that are no longer to the dreamself that you know you can be.
And then the next one is selfworth.
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So self worth is something thatis given to you as innate from
the day you were born you hadworth.
There is nothing that can giveyou more worth, there's nothing
that can give you less worth.
That's just it.
You just have worth.
So when you prioritize buildingyourself worth, you detach from
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things.
Like you detach your worth fromyour success, That's a huge one.
Knowing that you are worthy ofliving, you are worthy of having
a good life, you are worthy ofbeing your dream self, despite
the level of success that youare right now.
You're able to detach your worthfrom someone else.
You're able to detach your worthfrom, you know, a relationship
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from your academic level.
You are able to detach yourworth from certain things when
you prioritize Your worth.
When you prioritize your worth,you are stepping into a higher
level of yourself, of your dreamself, your dream woman.
She knows what she is worth.
She knows that her worth isinnate.
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No one can give it to her.
No one can take it from her.
Nothing can give it to her andnothing can take it from her is
something that she holds withinher And when she honors her self
worth when she knows her selfworth it shows.
Your self worth is highly tiedto your self esteem the higher
level your self esteem is, thehigher level you are closer to
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being your dream woman, yourdream woman.
I'm sure she does not have a lowlevel of self esteem.
So prioritize these six cells,self confidence, self awareness,
self love, self respect, selfconcept, and self love.
Word.
number six, make your mark.
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This is going to help you becomeyour dream woman.
So making your mark is all aboutyou taking up space and making
an impact and living in yourpurpose with that impact.
Making your mark is connected toyour purpose and your purpose is
Connected to you becoming yourbest self becoming your dream
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self.
So the more you Pour into thatpurpose the more you're going to
become your dream self and themore you become your dream self
Then the more you get to pourinto your purpose in a greater
way.
So why is this important and howdoes this work?
Is because when you are, pouringinto your purpose, here's some
things that's going to happen toyou and what has happened for
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me.
You learn to set higherboundaries, you protect your
purpose, you make sure that youpour into your purpose, you know
that your purpose is somethingthat is tied to your fulfillment
in life.
When you feel unfulfilled, a lotof times it's because you're not
living in your purpose, you'renot pouring into your purpose,
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whatever that may be.
B, we have one large purpose,but we have, you know, multiple
purposes in which we serve aswell.
So when you are not pouring intothat purpose, then you will feel
some sense of unfulfillment.
So because of that, you knowthat you are going to set strong
boundaries.
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You know that besides strongboundaries, you are going to do
deep inner work.
The reason why you're going todo deep inner work is because in
order to truly pour into yourpurpose, you truly need to
become your dream self.
You need to continue working onbecoming your dream self.
You need to continue working onbecoming better.
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You need to continue working onthings like taking risks, um,
making yourself uncomfortable.
You're going to work on thingslike releasing unhelpful blocks
within you, right?
Releasing those things asholding you back from pursuing
your purpose in a greater way.
you are going to do some of thethings like no longer asking for
permission, So when you arepursuing your purpose, At some
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point in order to truly pursueyour purpose, you're not going
to ask for permission.
You're going to be like, this iswhat I'm here to do.
So I'm going to do it with orwithout anyone's permission.
So this is why making your markis truly connected to becoming
your dream self, making yourmark.
With your purpose, with yourimpact as women, we are women of
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impact.
We impact in so many ways.
We impact the people in ourlives.
We impact the world.
We impact every single day.
We create life.
We are creators.
We are always impacting nomatter how big, no matter how
small.
Now for me.
What I truly believe is that oneof the greatest ways to make
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impact is through your voice, isthrough your ability to take up
space, through your ability to,to communicate your message,
through your ability to inspireand impact and lift up and
motivate and provide helpfultips, everything through your
voice.
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Your voice is your magic.
Your voice is a gateway to youbecoming your dream self.
A lot of times we don't thinkour voice is so powerful, but
our voice is powerful.
You have to learn how to connectwith your voice.
When you connect with yourvoice, you become your dream
self.
You become unstoppable.
When you learn how to connectwith your voice, your audible
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voice, and then your voice, yourinner voice, who is going to
give you those insights, giveyou those desires.
and then that audible that isgoing to actually make your
mark.
You're going to make yourimpact.
When you do that, you are goingto become your dream self
because again, making your mark,making your impact is key.
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Your purpose is tied to yourpurpose and whatever shape or
form.
How are you making your mark?
How are you doing that?
How can you make your impact Iwant you to think about that how
can you Begin to show up andtake up space with the greatness
that lies within you becauseit's in there So think about
that.
How can you make your mark andthen put it out there?
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The more you make your mark themore you become your dream self
Trust me when I started makingmy mark when I started making an
impact with this, with mypodcast, with YouTube, with
Instagram and TikTok, when Istarted doing things like that,
it just kept fueling my purpose.
It kept fueling me becoming mybest self.
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It kept fueling me becoming mydream self.
I wanted to learn more.
I wanted to do more, studymyself more, study new concepts.
When you do this, you willbecome your dream self.
And I only feel like my dreamwoman right now because I
decided to take up space andmake my mark and truly live in
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my purpose.
So when you do this, you aregoing to become your dream
woman.
You truly are.
and so number seven and how yougonna become your dream a woman
is Never give up never give upon yourself.
Becoming your dream woman.
You are going to have challengesYou are going to have setbacks.
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You are going to feel defeated.
You are going to feelUnaccomplished.
You are going to feelunsuccessful.
You are going to go through somany different levels of, things
that you feel like is conqueringyou, right?
However, never give up onyourself because what is going
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to happen is A lot of thesethings are temporary.
It is building you into thewoman that you are meant to
become.
It is building your resilience.
It is building your confidence.
It is building your self esteemit is building you into The
dream woman that you are trulymeant to be Because one of the
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thing is that in order for youto have the thing that you truly
want to have You have to becomeher and a lot of these things
that you are going through rightnow.
It is shaping Your dream womanit is shaping the person that
you need to become In order towithstand a thing that you truly
desire to have so never give upon yourself Never give up On
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yourself.
There are so many times in thepast where i've wanted to give
up And i'm so happy I did notWhen you think about giving up
things that I want you to tellyourself is this one you have
everything within you To becomebetter do better have better to
be greater to do greater to havegreater you have to Everything
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within you.
Number two is good things aresupposed to happen for you.
Everything is working out foryou.
No matter how it looks at anygiven point in time.
Literally tell yourself this.
Every time you feel like givingup on yourself.
And I promise you, one dayyou're going to look up and
you're going to be like, Ooh.
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I'm so happy I didn't give upwhen that happens.
You are going to realize thatyou are, you became your dream
woman.
Remember your dream woman self,she requires setback.
She requires rest.
That's the only way that you aregoing to break the habit of
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being your old self.
That's the only way that you aregoing to overcome Things that
are holding you down.
You have to go through it.
Unfortunately, you have to.
Not everything that we gothrough we have to go through.
But, you know what, we gothrough some things.
But one thing I want to say is,Never give up on yourself.
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Your dream woman would not giveup on herself whatsoever.
So when you think about that,think about who that person you
want to become.
Who is she?
What is she doing right now?
And would she quit?
If you knew you were about tohave everything that you truly
wanted to have, if you weregoing to be the most radiant,
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um, beautiful queen like womanthat you truly picture yourself
being, would she quit onherself?
So keep that image.
In your mind, keep it clear inyour mind.
Keep it clear on your mindBecause the more you keep it
clear in your mind, you will notforget who you are fighting for
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who you're working hard for youare Working to become your dream
Woman, it is awesome Meant foryou and it can happen and it
will happen You just have tobelieve it and never give up on
yourself All right.
If you want to go ahead and getsome coaching on building your
confidence and pursuing yourdreams the way that you truly
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want to, then head over toCleopatraWilliams.
com, sign up for coaching, oryou can click the link in the
description box.
If you want to become your dreamwoman, let me just rehash a few
things that I went over and thatis one, decide that you get to
become her.
You make a decision today thatbecoming your dream woman is
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available to you.
number two is no longer seek norask for permission to follow
your desires to become theperson you want to be.
No longer ask for it.
You validate yourself.
You give yourself permissiononly.
Number three is a releaseunhelpful blocks When you
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release unhelpful blocks you areclearing up things that are
holding you back from becomingyour dream self And you're
opening up the pathway for yourdream self to come in You're
opening up all the good thingsto love the fearlessness the
victor The The champion, thequeen like you, the love, the
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happiness, the joy, all of thosethings that come into you so
that you can become your dreamself, release those unhelpful
blocks.
Number four is take risks, getuncomfortable.
Your dream self needs you totake risks.
You are only going to take risksbecause you want more, you want
to be more, you want to do more.
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When you do that, you becomeyour dream self because the more
risks you take, the more youlearn about yourself.
So risk is inevitable.
If you don't want to become yourdream self, don't take risks.
But if you do Take more risk getcomfortable with taking risks.
Seek risk is going to changeyour life.
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Number five is prioritize theselves prioritize self
confidence Prioritize, um selfrespect prioritize self
awareness prioritize selfconcept prioritize self worth
and prioritize self love.
All of those are essences ofyour entire self esteem When you
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prioritize those six, you willtruly become yourself, your
dream self from the inside out.
Number six is make your mark,make your mark, make your
impact.
When you make an impact, you area queen of impact.
You are made to make an impactwith your purpose.
When you make an impact, you aregoing to become your dream self
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without a doubt, without adoubt.
You are going to have to inorder to make your mark in the
greatest way possible.
So make your mark.
Make your mark.
You becoming your dream self.
And number seven is never giveup on yourself.
Always, always bet on yourself.
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Always believe in yourself.
Never give up on yourself.
One day, you are going torealize everything that you
worked for.
Everything that you never gaveup on.
Only quit things that are nolonger working for you.
Only quit things that are not inalignment with the dream person
that you are truly becoming.
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Never quit though.
Never quit on things that are inalignment that you truly want.
Never quit on yourself.
So that is it ladies.
I hope you enjoyed today'sepisode and until next time Bye
Hey ladies, welcome back to another
video.
Today we are going to be talkingabout becoming your dream woman.
Now the order, some of the stepsthat I'm going to go over is not
in any particular order.
I just kind of them all down inthe middle of the blog.
So it doesn't have to be thestep by step kind of thing.
However, these are going to besome useful tools that is going
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to help you become your dreamself, become your dream woman so
that you can thrive in yourlife, in your business, in the
end of 2024 and going into 2025.
All right guys, so let's goahead and get into it.
So number one of becoming yourdream woman.
It's deciding that you get tobecome her.
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When you decide, making adecision is such a powerful
thing to do.
So, when you decide, that meansthat you are cutting off any
other option.
When you decide that you aregoing to become your dream
woman, you're done.
You're done.
You are done being the womanthat you are not meant to be.
It is so crucial for you tounderstand.
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That she is available to you.
There's a lot of times that welive and we Explore life with
the belief that some things arenot available to us but when we
start to open our mindset andopen up the mindset of Abundance
and how we truly have everythingthat we need within us.
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We have the gift of abundance.
We are creators.
And so that we can truly, trulycreate what is possible for us.
And that she is available to us.
When you decide that you get tobecome your dream self, you know
that she is available to you andthat not only is she available
to you, she is already inside ofyou.
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So your dream self is alreadyinside of you.
She's already there.
She is just waiting for you toreceive her.
Thank you.
And the best way that you canbegin receiving this person Is
by becoming this person.
I always talk about this andabout acting as if I talk about
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the practice of embodimentbecause the more that you embody
her do the things that youbelieve that she is going to be
doing be the person that youtruly believe that she is.
You write all of these thingsdown in a notebook, in your
journal, and look at it everysingle day, or at least almost
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every single day.
When you do this, you know whoyou need to act as on a daily
basis.
The closer you become her, thecloser you become me.
You are going to become yourdream self and the faster right
embodiment is truly the quickestway to becoming your dream self
and truly the only way to Startto embody this person is when
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you decide That you get tobecome her when you decide that
this is The only option that youare going to allow in your life
Is to become this person so nowthere's no other option than to
just be her.
Be her Do as her becauseeventually you're gonna have
you're gonna self actualize andactually become her.
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so you have to decide decidingthat you get to become her all
righty, so number two Rememberthis is not in any particular
order.
I was just jotting things down.
So number two is no longer seekor ask for permission.
Permission to follow yourdesires Permission for what you
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want to do with your lifepermission for who you want to
become Becoming your dream self.
You don't need to ask forpermission Anybody for
permission to become greaterthan who you are right now.
You don't need permission tofollow your desires Your dream
life is only going to be createdwhen you Decide that you get to
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become your dream self and whenyou don't ask permission outside
of yourself.
As someone who used to ask forpermission, I realized the more
that I asked for permission, themore I was disconnected from
myself.
And being able to make moreconfident decisions being able
to be more of a risk taker eventhough I was a risk taker.
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I still Didn't do as much as Iwanted to do Because of that
sense of permission should I dothis asking for validation?
When you want to become yourdream self, you have to learn
how to validate yourself Youtruly have to learn how to
validate yourself and no longerask for permission.
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So being able to follow thingslike what sparks you, what
brings you enjoyment, what, youknow, turns you on about life.
Following those things withouttaking permission.
Doing things such as what speaksto you, what you've been wanting
to do for such a long time thatyou haven't actually taken the
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step to do it yet.
It's only up to you.
You are the only person that cantruly, truly validate yourself.
So learn to validate yourself.
Go after those desires that ison your heart.
All of those desires that youwant to do, it is connected to
you.
It is, your desires is showingyou, it's showing you what your
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inner self wants.
It is showing you your innermostdesires, your inner child, it is
showing you what your true selfwant, your highest self want.
And the more you follow thosedesires, the more you're going
to be able to connect with theessence of the true you, your
dream self.
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When you start to validateyourself, you become so
unstoppable.
When you no longer need to askfor permission, you become so
unstoppable because you just do.
You no longer wait for a yesfrom somebody.
You decide and you put your footforward and you go, you go take
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care of what you want to do.
You become powerful when you nolonger ask for permission.
And the less you seekpermission, the more you become
your authentic self.
The more you become your mostconfident self.
The more you are connected toyour dark feminine energy.
All of these is a combinationthat is going to make you so
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magnetic.
It is going to magnetize you tothings that you want in life.
It is going to magnetize you tobeing seen as your dream self.
People are going to look at youand be like, oh my gosh.
Like.
What is it about her?
Like she has this aura about herIt's because you are showing up
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as your authentic self.
It's because you are Exudingconfidence.
It's because you are unleashing.
Your dark feminine energybecause you are no longer asking
for permission.
You are being truthful You'rebeing honest with yourself and
you are unleashing that.
Your dream self is trulyunleashed when you no longer ask
for permission.
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And also a crucial part of this,is learning to make yourself
feel safe to no longer ask forpermission.
When you realize that you aresafe, you are safe to go after
your desires, you are safe togive yourself permission, you
are safe to validate yourself.
You become unstoppable.
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So number three is releasingunhelpful blogs.
So things that I consider to beunhelpful blogs is things like
anger, bitterness, resentmentunforgiveness towards yourself
and other people.
Why those things are so crucial.
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is because in order to trulybecome your dream self you have
to be able to release releaseand free yourself up of burdens
and these things are burdens onyou it is holding so much such a
negative unhelpful energeticfield within your body is
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holding so much things that isholding back from truly
excelling Into your dream selffrom truly leaping into your
dream self.
When you are holding onto somany things that are, it is just
weighing you down.
These things are weighing youdown.
It is weighing down from trulythriving.
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When you hold onto these things,you're not going to be able to
thrive.
You have to free yourself when,just like we do when we're
decluttering.
Things in our home when we'redecluttering our car, when we
are dec decluttering our, youknow, computer, whatever it is.
When you are freeing yourself,you are decluttering all of that
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nastiness, all of that things,what within your body so that
you can make room for otherthings.
Your dream self is not a personthat's angry all the time.
Your dream self is not a person.
Who is better or resentful or ishave self hatred.
That is not your dream self,right?
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No.
Your dream self is a woman whois full of love, who is full of
joy, who is full of forgiveness,who is full of just peace of
mind, full of pleasure.
And one thing I learned is thatwhen you hold these things in,
It snatches those other thingsfrom you.
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It doesn't give you space inyour body to receive all of the
other good things that yourdream self requires.
That your dream self is going tothrive off of as women.
Like, we want to have thosethings.
We want to have joy.
We want to have peace.
Inner peace.
We want to have external peace.
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We want to have happiness.
and love and pleasure.
But in order for us to trulyreceive that, we have to learn
how to release unhelpful blocks.
One tip that I like to do when Ifeel like I need to release
unhelpful blocks.
Normally you can feel when thereare unhelpful blocks within your
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body.
You may feel tight, you may feelanxious, you may feel uneasy.
You may feel uncreative.
These are all signs that thereare some Unhelpful blocks within
your body So one thing that Ilike to do and I got this from a
book called the game of life andhow to play it It is such a good
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book.
I highly recommend it is to castyour burden now if you're
christian, you probably heardyou know cast your burdens on
christ But I truly didn'tunderstand it until I read the
book, The Game of Life, and howto play it.
And casting your burdens is sucha powerful way to truly release
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unhelpful blocks.
When I started to put that intopractice, whenever I will feel
resentment coming up, whenever Iwill feel any anger coming up, I
learned to release that.
any type of feelings that areunhelpful to you becoming your
dream self and is blocking youfrom seeing her to seeing how
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available she is to you.
Say this, I pass the burden ofDiscouragement on the Christ
within me and I am set free so Iwill say that and I will say
that over and over and overuntil I feel this sense of peace
over me and this is a releaseand When that happens, then I'm
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like, okay now I can moveforward and then I can see parts
of my dream self coming to lifebecause I'm no longer allowing
those things to weigh me down.
And another way is of coursemoving your body, right?
That's, that's the another wayof getting unhelpful energetic
things off of you is moving yourbody giving yourself pleasure,
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all types of things that, thatthat gives a certain physical
release is going to be sohelpful towards you releasing
unhelpful blocks.
But definitely casting thatburden on the Christ within you
so that you can be set free issuch an amazing, amazing way to
release those unhelpful blocks.
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But find whichever way worksbest for you.
All right, so number four istake risks.
Get more uncomfortable.
The more risks I've taken in mylife, the more I've tapped into
my dream self.
The more risks I've taken in mylife, the more I feel like I've
learned about myself.
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I learned what I'm capable of.
I learned that there is prettymuch nothing I can't come back
from, right?
I truly see that even when Ifail, even when I make mistakes,
I'm still always able to bounceback.
when I take risks, now I don'teven see, my risk can be scary,
it can be nerve wracking.
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However, I'm able to now see itas something exciting, something
that is, giving me life.
Because the more you take risks,the more you are connecting to
the dream version of yourself.
You're only taking risks becauseit's something that your dream
self desires.
At the end of the day, there isno risk in life that we take for
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the sake of staying the personthat we are now.
None whatsoever.
Every risk that we take isbecause we want to become a
higher version of ourselves Wewant to experience more than we
have experienced so far in lifeWe want to have more we want to
be more we want to do more Thoseare truly the reasons why
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majority of people who takerisks take risk because we want
that and so when you take risksYou are connecting to A better
version of yourself when youtake risks you are connecting to
your dream self.
However It is so easy That whena risk doesn't go the way that
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you maybe wanted it to go.
It threw you off course it youfailed maybe had a huge setback
And it shamed you andembarrassed you and now you want
to retreat now you want to tellyourself.
Oh, no Let me be moreresponsible No, I'm gonna take
in As much risks as I used totake, I am going to take a step
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backwards.
I highly recommend to keeptaking risks.
It is so easy to tell yourself,no more risks.
And I've done this to myself.
I told myself that I am nolonger being a huge risk taker
because of A huge setback and Ifelt so much embarrassment.
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I felt so much shame.
I felt so irresponsible andbecause of that I stopped myself
from taking risks.
But what happened when I stoppedmyself?
What happened?
I felt this craving, thisburning desire inside of me of
you want to take risks.
I felt uneasy.
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I felt like.
I was not moving forward.
I felt like I was staying like aperson that I didn't want to
stay anymore because takingrisks is, is a part of you
becoming a dream self.
And if you are not taking risksin your life, you are staying
the same.
You are not growing.
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You are not making yourselfuncomfortable.
So make yourself uncomfortable.
Get excited about beinguncomfortable.
Get excited about risk.
A great way to get used totaking risks is to Really see it
as an excitement to make yourbody feel excited.
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One thing that I do practice isthat when I feel nervous when I
feel a Little antsy from takingthis risk and I want to shock my
body into believing it asexcitement What I do is I
squeeze like this squeeze mybody and What happens is that?
Oh no Come on I did it again I'mnot starting over.
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I'm so sorry guys about theaudio.
I did it again.
Sorry.
Now the audio is better.
I will try my best to fix itwhen I'm editing.
when you're going Like that toyourself that's when we're
excited.
So doing that Tightening mybody.
It kind of tricks me tricks mymind into Believing that i'm
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excited and so that helps mewhen i'm taking risks that are
scary that is a little bituncomfortable And so that's
something that if you want toput into practice, I highly
recommend When you are takingrisks Take risks in your life.
The more you take risks, themore you connect to your dream
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self.
Trust me because you're onlytaking risks because your dream
self desires for you to takethose risks.
And something I wrote down is awoman who knows what she is
capable of is unstoppable.
When you take risk again, like Isaid, in the beginning of taking
risk, is that you begin to learnwhat you are capable of and when
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you learn what you are capableof, You become unstoppable.
Because you already know youbecome more resilient and you
get up and you do it again.
So number five, prioritize theseselves.
So self confidence.
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Self awareness, self love, selfrespect, self concept, self
worth.
All of these are an essence ofyour entire self esteem.
So let's start with selfconfidence.
Why you need to prioritizebuilding your self confidence is
because self confidence is goingto take you so many places.
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Confident woman.
She is unstoppable.
So self confidence has so manydifferent levels of confidence.
This is something that I teach.
It's a different levels ofconfidence.
And one of those main levels ofconfidence is being able to
trust yourself.
When you learn to trust yourself, you are going to become
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more of your dream self.
Because when you trust yourself,you know that you can do it.
You know that you can doanything you put your mind to.
You know that you can becomegreater.
You know that you can dogreater.
You honor your commitments.
You be honest with yourself.
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You show up for yourself.
this is one of the ways that youare truly going to build a self.
Confidence is being able to showup for yourself.
However, confidence is such aninnate thing that we have, but
we don't remember this, right?
We forget, but we had confidencesince we were born.
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We had that since we werebabies, when we learned to
crawl, when we learned to walk,confidence, is this something of
just knowing innately?
Is that a neat intuition of justknowing without thinking,
without needing someone to pushyou along?
You just have it.
There's babies when they'retrying to crawl, they fall, they
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get back up.
They fall, they get back up.
When you're trying to walk, theyfall, they get back up.
They're just doing what they'redoing.
They're doing what they wereborn to do.
When you become more confidentin yourself, you start doing
what you were created to do.
You become who you've beencreated to be.
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So prioritize building that selfconfidence.
Trusting yourself.
When you start trustingyourself, you get more ease in
your life, expressing thatconfidence that you have, right?
Knowing yourself without doubt,increasing that self belief in
yourself.
There's so many different levelsof confidence that you are going
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to go through.
Your dream self is connected toyour confidence It is so crucial
to build your self confidence sothat you can become your dream
self.
All right.
So the next one is selfawareness.
So Self awareness is the key tochanging everything When you
become self aware of somethingthat you don't like about
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yourself, you're able to changeit.
When you become self aware ofsomething that triggers you, you
are able to change it.
When you become self aware ofsomething that you don't like or
that you love about yourself,guess what?
You're either able to change itor you get to magnetize the
things you love about yourself.
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When you become aware of yourdesires, you get to go after
them.
Self awareness is key toeverything.
The more you become self awareof everything about you, what
you want, what you like, whatyou don't like, what you need in
your life to be happy, to bejoyful.
The more you do that, the moreyou become self-aware, the more
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you are going to become yourdream self.
The next self is self love soself love is such a big one as
well.
Self love is pouring love intoyourself, right?
Speak in love to yourself.
You are in relationship withyourself.
So how can you love yourself?
How can you love yourself?
so greatly to the point whereit's just beaming outside of
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you.
Just like when we fall in lovewith people, how can we fall in
love with ourselves?
So talking to ourselves like weare in love with ourselves,
telling ourselves that we loveourselves treating our bodies as
we love ourselves, you know,taking care of it, nourishing
it, taking care of our health.
I'm taking our vitamins, workingout.
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Making sure we're clean, thatour hair is done, that we smell
good, giving ourselves pleasurein life.
Making yourself feel beautiful,taking care of your skin.
That is self love.
Dream women take care ofthemselves.
They take care of their, youknow, how they look, their
appearance, how you dress, howyou take care of yourself.
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It literally shows outside.
You are going to see how peopletreat you differently You are
going to see how you show up inthe world a little bit more
differently how you show up alittle bit more confident in
yourself and Not just trustingyourself in that confidence, but
you're able to express thatself.
The more self love we giveourselves, the more radiant we
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are.
The more we thrive in life, themore we become my dream self.
And the more you have self love,then you are going to be showing
people how to love you back.
Becoming your dream woman.
If you do not love yourself,then you are not your dream
woman period.
whatsoever.
And that's, that's loving theugly parts of you.
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That doesn't mean that you don'tchange the ugly parts of you
that you don't want to change,but loving her in a place that
she is right now.
So that is, you know, havingself compassion.
with this person of where she isright now.
If you don't like something, ifyou made a mistake yesterday, if
you made a mistake today,outside of character of the
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person that you know, you aretruly meant to be, how can you
love on her?
How can you You know, make herfeel like it's okay to make her
feel like it is safe to makemistakes.
That is room to make mistakes.
How can you do that for her?
How can you talk to her as ifyou truly, truly love her?
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That's a part of self love,right?
You have to be able to do thatto become your dream self.
Because if you don't allowyourself to make space for
mistakes and give yourself selfcompassion, you truly can't
become your dream self.
You can't become your dreamwoman.
You're a dream woman.
She needs to feel safe.
She needs to feel protected.
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She needs to feel that it isokay to mess up and be where she
is right now so that she cangrow, but also know that she is
powerful and that she can becomethe greatest version of her if
she truly, truly desires tobecome that great version of
her.
So this kind of falls into selflove because when you love
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yourself, you respect yourself,but more so in a sense of, yes,
boundaries, like respecting yourboundaries not letting other
people disrespect yourboundaries, not letting you
disrespect your boundaries,respecting yourself with how you
show up and how you carry carryyourself not allowing anyone to
take advantage of you.
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Not allowing anyone todisrespect you so these are
Holding yourself to a higherstandard holding yourself to the
standard of your dream self thatno one's gonna Be beneath you.
You're not above anybody.
No one is above you You're notinferior to no one when you
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believe that You are notinferior to no one You can truly
develop into your dream selfbecause of so many of us have
such an inferiority Complex,that's such a long word.
It's hard to renounce it.
So a lot of us have such acomplex and being inferior to
other people that we don't shineour light, that we let people
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disrespect us.
And, you know, we diminishourselves.
We make ourselves smaller.
However, no respect yourself,respect yourself by showing up
and taking up space and knowingthat you deserve to be here.
You deserve to be seen.
You deserve to be seen.
And of course that yourespecting your, your body, that
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is like another huge thing.
When you respect your body, yourbody is your temple.
When you respect your body.
You are definitely on your wayto becoming your dream woman.
Your dream woman respects herbody, period, because everything
comes from this.
This is our temple.
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We honor it.
Everything comes from that.
So self respect is so crucial.
The more you respect yourself,the higher your level of self
esteem becomes.
When you disrespect yourself,your self esteem goes womp,
womp, womp down the drain.
Trust me, every time Idisrespected myself, my self
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esteem was shot.
So, respect yourself as yourdream woman.
Respect yourself and watch youcontinue to become her and
flourish into that beautifulperson that you know you can
become.
Okay, so the next self is selfconcept and this is your
identity.
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This is how you see yourself,who you believe you are to be.
You as your dream woman, you getto decide the person that you
are.
What you believe, what youaccept to be true is who you
are.
A lot of our identity of who weare was created from family
members.
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Mo majority of that.
It was created from society,from school, from from just
being around a whole bunch ofdifferent people from social
media, right?
Like our identities were formedfrom everyone else besides
ourselves.
What happened is that we heardso many things so many times
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that we've officially agreed tothat and accepted it as true.
So what do you want to be trueabout you?
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You have the ability to be able to
create new identity foryourself.
You have the ability to be ableto let go of identities that you
no longer want to hold on to.
So what is the self concept thatyou want to hold on to?
Is it that you are Beautiful isit that you are confident does
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identity of I am So everythingyou say I am about is pretty
much labeling your self conceptyour identity Do you want to say
that I am capable?
I am confident.
I am trustworthy I am honest allof these things are things that
Are about your identity.
This is your self concept.
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You're a dream woman.
You're a dream self Has to havea higher level of concept A
higher level of identity to beable to truly see yourself as
this dream person So who areyou?
Every time you say I am justremember you're identifying With
that you're holding this as yourconcept.
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So if you say things like, Oh,I'm struggling.
Or I am, less than, These thingsare not a high level.
These are not a high levelvibration.
These are not high level words.
It's going to make you feel lessthan.
You're holding on to thatidentity.
You can crush labels that youdon't want.
If you don't not want a label ofI am something that's not your
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dream self, don't accept it.
No more.
You can.
Rebuke it.
You can reject it as much as youwant to.
Reject those beliefs, rejectthose identities, those labels
that are no longer to the dreamself that you know you can be.
And then the next one is selfworth.
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So self worth is something thatis given to you as innate from
the day you were born you hadworth.
There is nothing that can giveyou more worth, there's nothing
that can give you less worth.
That's just it.
You just have worth.
So when you prioritize buildingyourself worth, you detach from
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things.
Like you detach your worth fromyour success, That's a huge one.
Knowing that you are worthy ofliving, you are worthy of having
a good life, you are worthy ofbeing your dream self, despite
the level of success that youare right now.
You're able to detach your worthfrom someone else.
You're able to detach your worthfrom, you know, a relationship
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from your academic level.
You are able to detach yourworth from certain things when
you prioritize Your worth.
When you prioritize your worth,you are stepping into a higher
level of yourself, of your dreamself, your dream woman.
She knows what she is worth.
She knows that her worth isinnate.
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No one can give it to her.
No one can take it from her.
Nothing can give it to her andnothing can take it from her is
something that she holds withinher And when she honors her self
worth when she knows her selfworth it shows.
Your self worth is highly tiedto your self esteem the higher
level your self esteem is, thehigher level you are closer to
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being your dream woman, yourdream woman.
I'm sure she does not have a lowlevel of self esteem.
So prioritize these six cells,self confidence, self awareness,
self love, self respect, selfconcept, and self love.
Word.
number six, make your mark.
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This is going to help you becomeyour dream woman.
So making your mark is all aboutyou taking up space and making
an impact and living in yourpurpose with that impact.
Making your mark is connected toyour purpose and your purpose is
Connected to you becoming yourbest self becoming your dream
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self.
So the more you Pour into thatpurpose the more you're going to
become your dream self and themore you become your dream self
Then the more you get to pourinto your purpose in a greater
way.
So why is this important and howdoes this work?
Is because when you are, pouringinto your purpose, here's some
things that's going to happen toyou and what has happened for
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me.
You learn to set higherboundaries, you protect your
purpose, you make sure that youpour into your purpose, you know
that your purpose is somethingthat is tied to your fulfillment
in life.
When you feel unfulfilled, a lotof times it's because you're not
living in your purpose, you'renot pouring into your purpose,
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whatever that may be.
B, we have one large purpose,but we have, you know, multiple
purposes in which we serve aswell.
So when you are not pouring intothat purpose, then you will feel
some sense of unfulfillment.
So because of that, you knowthat you are going to set strong
boundaries.
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You know that besides strongboundaries, you are going to do
deep inner work.
The reason why you're going todo deep inner work is because in
order to truly pour into yourpurpose, you truly need to
become your dream self.
You need to continue working onbecoming your dream self.
You need to continue working onbecoming better.
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You need to continue working onthings like taking risks, um,
making yourself uncomfortable.
You're going to work on thingslike releasing unhelpful blocks
within you, right?
Releasing those things asholding you back from pursuing
your purpose in a greater way.
you are going to do some of thethings like no longer asking for
permission, So when you arepursuing your purpose, At some
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point in order to truly pursueyour purpose, you're not going
to ask for permission.
You're going to be like, this iswhat I'm here to do.
So I'm going to do it with orwithout anyone's permission.
So this is why making your markis truly connected to becoming
your dream self, making yourmark.
With your purpose, with yourimpact as women, we are women of
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impact.
We impact in so many ways.
We impact the people in ourlives.
We impact the world.
We impact every single day.
We create life.
We are creators.
We are always impacting nomatter how big, no matter how
small.
Now for me.
What I truly believe is that oneof the greatest ways to make
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impact is through your voice, isthrough your ability to take up
space, through your ability to,to communicate your message,
through your ability to inspireand impact and lift up and
motivate and provide helpfultips, everything through your
voice.
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Your voice is your magic.
Your voice is a gateway to youbecoming your dream self.
A lot of times we don't thinkour voice is so powerful, but
our voice is powerful.
You have to learn how to connectwith your voice.
When you connect with yourvoice, you become your dream
self.
You become unstoppable.
When you learn how to connectwith your voice, your audible
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voice, and then your voice, yourinner voice, who is going to
give you those insights, giveyou those desires.
and then that audible that isgoing to actually make your
mark.
You're going to make yourimpact.
When you do that, you are goingto become your dream self
because again, making your mark,making your impact is key.
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Your purpose is tied to yourpurpose and whatever shape or
form.
How are you making your mark?
How are you doing that?
How can you make your impact Iwant you to think about that how
can you Begin to show up andtake up space with the greatness
that lies within you becauseit's in there So think about
that.
How can you make your mark andthen put it out there?
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The more you make your mark themore you become your dream self
Trust me when I started makingmy mark when I started making an
impact with this, with mypodcast, with YouTube, with
Instagram and TikTok, when Istarted doing things like that,
it just kept fueling my purpose.
It kept fueling me becoming mybest self.
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It kept fueling me becoming mydream self.
I wanted to learn more.
I wanted to do more, studymyself more, study new concepts.
When you do this, you willbecome your dream self.
And I only feel like my dreamwoman right now because I
decided to take up space andmake my mark and truly live in
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my purpose.
So when you do this, you aregoing to become your dream
woman.
You truly are.
and so number seven and how yougonna become your dream a woman
is Never give up never give upon yourself.
Becoming your dream woman.
You are going to have challengesYou are going to have setbacks.
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You are going to feel defeated.
You are going to feelUnaccomplished.
You are going to feelunsuccessful.
You are going to go through somany different levels of, things
that you feel like is conqueringyou, right?
However, never give up onyourself because what is going
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to happen is A lot of thesethings are temporary.
It is building you into thewoman that you are meant to
become.
It is building your resilience.
It is building your confidence.
It is building your self esteemit is building you into The
dream woman that you are trulymeant to be Because one of the
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thing is that in order for youto have the thing that you truly
want to have You have to becomeher and a lot of these things
that you are going through rightnow.
It is shaping Your dream womanit is shaping the person that
you need to become In order towithstand a thing that you truly
desire to have so never give upon yourself Never give up On
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yourself.
There are so many times in thepast where i've wanted to give
up And i'm so happy I did notWhen you think about giving up
things that I want you to tellyourself is this one you have
everything within you To becomebetter do better have better to
be greater to do greater to havegreater you have to Everything
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within you.
Number two is good things aresupposed to happen for you.
Everything is working out foryou.
No matter how it looks at anygiven point in time.
Literally tell yourself this.
Every time you feel like givingup on yourself.
And I promise you, one dayyou're going to look up and
you're going to be like, Ooh.
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I'm so happy I didn't give upwhen that happens.
You are going to realize thatyou are, you became your dream
woman.
Remember your dream woman self,she requires setback.
She requires rest.
That's the only way that you aregoing to break the habit of
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being your old self.
That's the only way that you aregoing to overcome Things that
are holding you down.
You have to go through it.
Unfortunately, you have to.
Not everything that we gothrough we have to go through.
But, you know what, we gothrough some things.
But one thing I want to say is,Never give up on yourself.
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Your dream woman would not giveup on herself whatsoever.
So when you think about that,think about who that person you
want to become.
Who is she?
What is she doing right now?
And would she quit?
If you knew you were about tohave everything that you truly
wanted to have, if you weregoing to be the most radiant,
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um, beautiful queen like womanthat you truly picture yourself
being, would she quit onherself?
So keep that image.
In your mind, keep it clear inyour mind.
Keep it clear on your mindBecause the more you keep it
clear in your mind, you will notforget who you are fighting for
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who you're working hard for youare Working to become your dream
Woman, it is awesome Meant foryou and it can happen and it
will happen You just have tobelieve it and never give up on
yourself All right.
If you want to go ahead and getsome coaching on building your
confidence and pursuing yourdreams the way that you truly
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want to, then head over toCleopatraWilliams.
com, sign up for coaching, oryou can click the link in the
description box.
If you want to become your dreamwoman, let me just rehash a few
things that I went over and thatis one, decide that you get to
become her.
You make a decision today thatbecoming your dream woman is
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available to you.
number two is no longer seek norask for permission to follow
your desires to become theperson you want to be.
No longer ask for it.
You validate yourself.
You give yourself permissiononly.
Number three is a releaseunhelpful blocks When you
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release unhelpful blocks you areclearing up things that are
holding you back from becomingyour dream self And you're
opening up the pathway for yourdream self to come in You're
opening up all the good thingsto love the fearlessness the
victor The The champion, thequeen like you, the love, the
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happiness, the joy, all of thosethings that come into you so
that you can become your dreamself, release those unhelpful
blocks.
Number four is take risks, getuncomfortable.
Your dream self needs you totake risks.
You are only going to take risksbecause you want more, you want
to be more, you want to do more.
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When you do that, you becomeyour dream self because the more
risks you take, the more youlearn about yourself.
So risk is inevitable.
If you don't want to become yourdream self, don't take risks.
But if you do Take more risk getcomfortable with taking risks.
Seek risk is going to changeyour life.
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Number five is prioritize theselves prioritize self
confidence Prioritize, um selfrespect prioritize self
awareness prioritize selfconcept prioritize self worth
and prioritize self love.
All of those are essences ofyour entire self esteem When you
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prioritize those six, you willtruly become yourself, your
dream self from the inside out.
Number six is make your mark,make your mark, make your
impact.
When you make an impact, you area queen of impact.
You are made to make an impactwith your purpose.
When you make an impact, you aregoing to become your dream self
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without a doubt, without adoubt.
You are going to have to inorder to make your mark in the
greatest way possible.
So make your mark.
Make your mark.
You becoming your dream self.
And number seven is never giveup on yourself.
Always, always bet on yourself.
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Always believe in yourself.
Never give up on yourself.
One day, you are going torealize everything that you
worked for.
Everything that you never gaveup on.
Only quit things that are nolonger working for you.
Only quit things that are not inalignment with the dream person
that you are truly becoming.
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Never quit though.
Never quit on things that are inalignment that you truly want.
Never quit on yourself.
So that is it ladies.
I hope you enjoyed today'sepisode and until next time Bye
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