January 9, 2025 • 26 mins
This Episode is how you can Unlock Your Hidden and Suppressed Desires. I share ways I have unlocked my hidden and suppressed desires over several years that has helped me get unstuck and finally pursue my dream goals.
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squadcaster-2jj8_3_01-08-20 (00:05):
Hey ladies, welcome back to another
video.
Today we are going to be talkingabout ways that I've uncovered
my hidden desires or suppresseddesires.
squadcaster-2jj8_4_01-08-20 (00:18):
And the reason why I want to share
this with you is because thereare a lot of women, there are a
lot of us who have hidden andsuppress our desires and which
is keeping you stuck from trulyPursuing your dreams, achieving
your dream goals.
Because either you don't haveclarity on what you want or you
know what you want and you'rejust not taking action on it.
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So I'm going to share a few waysthat I've unlocked my hidden
desires because it led me toachieving my dream goals.
It led me to pursuing my dreamgoals and I want the same for
you.
So, The first way that I'veuncovered my hidden desires is
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when opportunities came, Ilistened to my body, right?
So I listened to things of, didI get super intrigued?
Did I get excited?
Did I get any nervous excitementwithin my body?
A huge example of this is thatthe first time I actually feel
like I unlocked the hiddendesire was years ago when I
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first got out of college and youknow, I was looking for jobs and
I was trying to figure out whatis it that I want to do.
I know that I don't really wantto be like this.
I don't really want astereotypical job, right?
People were telling me, Oh, gowork at a doctor's office or be
an admin.
I had zero interest in that, butI was like, okay, like that's
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what you're supposed to do.
But there was part of me whoknew that I didn't want to do
this.
So.
Lo and behold, I was presentedwith an opportunity and a
network marketing.
So walked into the office andwhat I saw with these fly
people, well, first I heard alot of chanting.
I heard, you know, peoplescreaming and, you know, just a
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field of energy, music playingand, people walked out the room
and my stomach was like,Butterflies, I was like, what is
this?
I was so excited I was just Iwas like, oh like who are these
people like everyone was dressedin suits They look so fly.
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They look so energized And Iknew like Deep within that this
was something different.
This was something unique,something that I never even
thought of.
And I was like, Ooh, I wanna dothis.
I don't even know what it isyet, but I know that I want to
do this.
And so when I got that jobright, I followed that desire.
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When I got that job, whathappened that unlock a desire
for me to be an entrepreneurbecause that position spark
entrepreneurship, that positionspark building your own
business.
I didn't know that being yourown boss was actually a thing.
I didn't even knowentrepreneurship existed.
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I didn't know.
And so when I realized that Iwas like, Oh, this is it.
This has been it all along.
And so that desire led me to,After that, being able to work
at home and be a stay at homemom with my daughter, when she
started school and build my ownreselling business that I had at
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the time, that was a desire.
That was an opportunity thatsparked.
But it unlocked a blockeddesire, a hidden desire that I
didn't even know existed.
But I felt it, I just didn'tput, I just didn't know exactly
what it was.
So the second way that Iunlocked a hidden desire or a
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suppressed desire is when I wasI was jealous of someone.
Sometimes we can look at it as abad thing, but honestly jealousy
can be a good thing for you.
It is a inner working.
It's an inner desire that iscoming to the surface.
It's showing you something thatyou actually want.
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You don't even know it or Youknow, you're suppressing it,
you're suppressing it for manydifferent reasons.
So sometimes jealousy can showup in science, like for me anger
annoyance, for example, Sobefore I went on this journey of
confidence, did confident peopleirritate me?
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Yes, they did.
Bold people.
Did they irritate me?
Yes, they did.
They irritated me, but theyirritated me because I was
jealous because it was a hiddendesire.
A desire that I wanted topursue.
I wanted to be a confidentperson.
I wanted to pursue, That was ahidden desire.
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So jealousy is a huge way thatyou can unlock your hidden
desires.
That's what it did for me.
You have to learn how toseparate from the annoyance and
actually ask yourself.
Why am I annoyed?
Is it because this is a traitthat they're doing something
they're being away They havesomething that I You I want to
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have, they have something that Iwant to achieve.
They're doing something that Iwant to do.
They have a personality that Iwould like to get a little bit
of, not saying you want to takeit all.
Right?
Not saying you want to be thisperson, not saying you want to
have everything this personhave, but just little things,
right?
Just little things about peoplethat you maybe just bits and
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pieces that you will to, youknow, learn about yourself.
Do you be a certain way?
So that is a great way.
That's how I've uncovered someof my hidden desires.
squadcaster-2jj8_3_01-08-202 (06:00):
So now let's get into the third way
of how I've unlocked my hiddendesires or suppressed desires.
So the third way is I paidattention to what I didn't like
and often thought of what Iwould rather be doing.
So I saw this thing And it saidthis, when you follow things
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rather than your desires.
You end up living a life thatyou was not supposed to live.
So that was like, Oh my gosh,because this is so true.
So what this looks like, just togive you a clear example, right?
There's so many women, there'sso many us, We're interviewing
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for jobs.
You only think you can have,right, versus applying for jobs
that you actually want.
What ends up happening when youdecide to go against your
desires is this, that maybe youget stuck in a career that's
five years, 10 years, 15 years.
In a career that you thoughtthat you can have, that you
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thought that was the way, thebest way to go, but you suppress
that desire.
And now what ends up happening,I hear so many women all the
time is too late.
I'm too old to be trying topursue a dream.
Is too late to try to dosomething that I actually want
to do.
You end up living a life thatyou are not supposed to live or
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you end up going in a directionThat you were not supposed to
live that's what happens when wecontinue to do things that we
don't like versus allowingourselves our bodies, So follow
our desires, allowing us tofollow our desires because our
desires is truly key to uscreating our dream life.
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This is a way that I trulylearned how to unlock that
hidden desire.
And that was, I paid attention.
I paid attention to what my bodydid not like.
I paid attention to things thatI hated and I paid attention to
things that I constantly wouldthink I would rather be doing,
there's so many things we wouldrather be doing.
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And we think we have to dothings.
We don't have to do things,things that we don't like.
If we don't like certain things,we can always delegate.
We can always find ways to domore things that we like, to be
the person that we like.
Okay, the fourth thing and Iwill say this is something
similar to Jealousy the fourthway, but it's not it's kind of
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like it right?
But I paid attention to what Iadmired About somebody about
something for example, for me.
I admired people who create acontent.
I admired my confidence coach.
She inspired me to become a, aconfidence coach.
I admired seeing a woman speakon stage and.
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That admiration, it sparkssomething in me, it sparks
something in my body like, ooh,again, curiosity, excitement.
Of like, Ooh, I think I want totry something like that.
I want to do that.
I can do that, right?
You start thinking, startplanting seeds in your head.
I admire women who were creatingsoft life businesses.
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I've been an entrepreneur formany years and trust me, I've
been in the hustle.
I've been in a bustle.
I pursued my dream goals.
I achieved a lot of my dreamgoals.
And so once I realized, once Istarted admiring soft life
businesses, I said, wait, holdup.
I think this is possible.
This is something that I wantand I know that I can do it.
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So lo and behold, that is whatwe are creating a soft life
business, right?
So, when you admire something,these are things that I said
again, Ooh, I wish I can dothat.
That's so cool.
That's so inspiring.
That is something that I wouldlove to do.
I think I can do that.
Like little whispers like that,that you may say to yourself
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those are things that unlockthose hitting desires.
Those suppress desires.
I wouldn't say that was moresuppressed, but it was more
hitting.
Or actually those are thingsthat would made me realize my
suppressed desires.
Like, admiring people who createcontent.
I suppress that desire thedesire to be on YouTube.
I had the desire no lie forYears for years and when I look
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at old journals, I rememberTalking writing about it however
It took me years to start thatwas a suppressed desire And in a
few after I go over my next fewsteps i'm going to share with
you why?
How hidden desires andsuppressed desires happen.
All right, so my next way thatI've unlocked my hidden and
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suppressed desires that can helpyou as well is that I connected
with my inner child.
I thought back to that innergirl, that inner child.
And so one of the things, forexample, is my love for dance.
Ever since I was a little girl.
I've always wanted to be adancer.
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I've always wanted to be adancer.
I always wanted to dance.
What happened is that I suppressthat desire.
I hid that desire.
I kept that desire hidden fromlike my family, from my mom.
I suppressed it.
I kept it from my friends.
That burning desire that Ireally wanted to be a dancer.
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And so what that looked like wasme acting like I don't have any
passions.
And so over the years, I didn'tdance.
And what happened when I finallystarted dancing realize that
desire is still there.
And I decided to say, you knowwhat?
I'm going to pursue it.
I'm going to go to danceclasses.
What happened?
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I was not that great because ofall those years of those
suppress desires that happen.
But how did I keep realizing?
That that desire was suppressedis because every time someone
would ask me, Oh, what do youlike to do?
Or every time I will watch, youknow someone on stage, I would
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think, Ooh, like that would beso cute.
I would imagine myself, imaginemyself up there, imagine myself
doing things like that becauseit was a desire that I had, that
I suppress for so many years.
And so paying attention to that,connecting back to that inner
child.
There's a lot of things thatyour inner child wanted to do
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since you were young.
Maybe as art, maybe as designingclothes or, you know, whatever
it is, there is something thatwas within you since you were a
child that you possibly hidden,you possibly suppressed and
blocked it out of your mind.
And I'm going to share with youthe reasons why hidden surprise,
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like hidden desires happen,suppress desires happen from my
own experience.
This is what happened.
So what often leads to suppressand hidden desires?
So number one that is the fearof judgment.
The fear of looking stupid, thefear of looking embarrassed.
that is a huge one, right?
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And it's oftentimes in front ofpeople that maybe, you know, of
course, having that, fear oflike, I don't know.
I don't want people like, whatare they going to think of me?
That is a huge reason why a lotof your desires have been
suppressed because you blockedit out of your mind because you
decided that you don't want toget embarrassed.
That was a huge reason why Iblocked out dance.
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is because I didn't want to getembarrassed.
I didn't want to be judged.
Right.
And so the second reason is afear of failure.
that insecurity of you don'tknow if you can actually do
this.
What if you fail?
Planting seeds in your head ofthe reasons why you shouldn't do
this.
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And the main reason is like,what if I failed, right?
Again, that goes back into lackof confidence.
The third reason is a hugereason and that is imposter
syndrome.
So imposter syndrome, all ofthis is an example of lack of
confidence, imposter syndrome,feeling of who do I think I am
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to pursue this?
This is not something for mebecause What happens, what
happens when you pursue goals?
What happens when you pursueyour dreams?
I've experienced this time andtime again.
You do step into a new identity.
You do create this new identityfor yourself.
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You have to, it's a shift thathappens, right?
So just like when I decided topursue entrepreneurship, I had
to step into the identity of anentrepreneur.
When I had The, I, theopportunity of network
marketing, I had to step intothe identity of a salesperson of
a network marketer.
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of a coach.
I had to do all of those things,And a lot of times imposter
syndrome came up, right?
So a lot of times why we don'tpursue certain things is because
of imposter syndrome, And so Thenext one is a huge one as well.
A huge reason to why yousuppress your desires.
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And that is because you sharedsomething with someone.
I've shared something withsomeone or people who have.
That oh no, you can't do thatYou share something with the
wrong person who deterred youwho made you feel like is
impossible Who made you feellike you shouldn't do this?
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Like who do you think you areand those negative thoughts?
Overweigh George so Whathappened?
You actually sought outapproval.
You sought out externalvalidation and you didn't learn
how to validate yourself.
How I was able to start pursuinga lot of my hidden desires is I
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blocked out approval.
I decided that I don't needanyone's approval.
So for things like start networkmarketing, nobody in my family
wanted me to do that.
Not one.
They asked me, are you crazy?
I did it.
I did not care.
I saw an opportunity.
I felt my desires and I decidedto jump on it.
When I decided to become a stayat home mom and decided that I
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want to work for myself I'mgoing to find out a way that I
can do this so that I can behome with my daughter start
school again.
Everybody looked at me.
Can you do this?
Are you crazy?
I did It's because I got my ownApproval when I decided that I
want to triple my income.
I want to double or triple myincome and move You back to New
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York and get a remote job again,people looked at me like, you're
crazy.
You're crazy.
You can't do this.
That's fine, that's youropinion.
I got my own approval.
What is going to be so importantfor you, is you have to get your
own approval.
Approve yourself.
This is a huge reason why a lotof our desires stay suppressed
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is because we Seek approval overour own approval.
This is how I was able to notonly pursue, but also achieve a
lot of my dream goals is becauseI gave myself, I validate my
desires.
I validated my approval becauseyour desires are not anyone
else's desires.
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And so the last way, the fifthway why your, why hidden and
suppressed desires happen iseasy, right?
Because you don't listen to it,you don't follow it.
That's like, if you don't useit, you lose it, right?
So if you're not connected, ifyou don't tap into following
your desires, what happens isthat you lose the ability to
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hear, to know when those desireshappen.
You don't lose it fully.
But it does lessen.
However, you can always build itback.
You can always build it back.
You can always grow it..
I am continually growing myintuition for my desires, right?
I don't feel like it's at 100percent because some things are
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still suppressed some things arehidden and also there are some
desires that have yet to beuncovered that have yet to be
discovered.
Right.
for yourself, there are somedesires that you didn't even
know existed two years ago.
I didn't even know that coachingexisted.
It didn't even know until I hadmy own coach and you know, the
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experience that I had andrealizing that I've coached for
years, I've, motivated peoplefor years.
I led by example for years, Idid things for years and I want
to do this.
Boom, that desire spark.
I didn't know that.
I mean, I saw people speaking onstage before, but I didn't know
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that that was possible.
So once I started realizingthat, Oh my God, that desire
came, right?
You become aware of differentdesires when you put yourself in
places, when you actually starttaking steps to pursue one
desire, then another desireopens up.
It always happens after onedesire, after you pursue one
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desire, another desire opens up,but that's how you discover it.
That's how you unleash it.
Ooh, ooh, ooh.
Okay.
I forgot.
One last step.
One last reason why a lot of ourdesires get suppressed or
blocked, and I've experiencedthis.
This is why I'm sharing this.
Is because we have, I guess thiscan go into external validation,
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but we have a fear ofinconveniencing someone or
making someone else comfortable.
Listen, listen, Linda, listen.
Okay.
When you unlock your desires,some people are going to be
inconvenienced, right?
Some people in your life aregoing to be uncomfortable.
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bong If you have a desire to Youknow begin waking up early to
begin a morning routine and youhave a partner Who is so used to
waking up later than you or youguys are used to waking up at a
certain time Guess what?
It may make that personuncomfortable.
If you have a desire to Stopdrinking.
It may make some of your friendsuncomfortable, but guess what?
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You have this desire.
But a lot of times we suppressthose because we have a fear of
inconveniencing someone else.
We have a fear of making someoneelse uncomfortable.
No, no, no.
When it's time to pursue thatdesire, someone's going to get
inconvenienced.
Someone's going to getuncomfortable and it's okay.
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It is perfectly fine because youhave to level up.
You have to pursue your goals.
You have to pursue your desires.
That's the only way, the onlyway to truly, truly start
Tapping into start creating yourdream life.
Your desires isn't innerknowing.
It is telling you, it is showingyou the way it is, showing you
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what you want to create this,this life that you truly desire,
this life that you want.
Your desires give you claritywhen you learn to listen to it,
right?
When you learn to connect to itand clarity is key.
Clarity is key.
These are things that helped me.
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I truly know that I can help youto take one or two or take all
of it, right?
How to, How you can startUnlocking your blocked and
hidden desires.
All right, so I truly trulydesire to help you You know
unlock those desires unlock thatpassion within you So that you
can truly get unstuck and startpursuing your dream goals
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because it's possible It startswith a desire.
It starts with a desire and onceyou know what your desire is You
get to take off girl, you get tostart pursuing your dreams.
You get to start achieving yourdream goals, no matter how big,
no matter how small you get topursue it.
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And it is beginning of the year,right?
One year can truly change yourlife.
A few months can change yourlife.
Again, it doesn't matter how bigor small your desire is.
Start pursuing it, startpursuing it and get clarity.
And so I truly want to help youget clarity.
I truly want to help you getinto the vehicle of you pursuing
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your dream goals.
And so that you can start, youknow, making things happen for
yourself of what you truly seefor yourself, because it is
possible.
And so if this is something thatyou want to do, if you want
support, if you want coaching onhow you can gain more clarity,
start pursuing your desires andyour goals, then you can go
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ahead and click the link in thedescription box.
Or you can just go tocleopatrawilliams.
com and go to the coachings tab.
Because pursuing your desires isa very very very Necessary is
there for a reason is there foryou to follow is there for you
to design?
The life that you want to have.
Let me know what are somedesires that you feel are
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unlocked that you are ready topursue, ready to take on 2025
because let this be your year,let this be a year of you no
longer suppressing those innerdesires.
desires, your passions, becauseit's shown itself to you
probably multiple times.
Right.
Remember the ways that I said touncover.
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So just to rehash it reallyquick, I'm going to let you know
again, is two one.
When opportunities came, Ilistened to my body.
So when opportunities presentitself to you, listen to your
body.
Does it spark curiosity?
Does it spark excitement?
Does it make you feel internallygood?
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Maybe even a little bit nervous,but good, not anxious, right?
If it's something that makes youanxious and make your stomach
drop in a way of like that makesyou feel on edge, then a sinking
feeling, then that's a not sogood feeling, but there's a
difference between nervousexcitement.
Listen to that.
Okay.
The second way was what made mejealous.
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If there's things that make youjealous or make you irritated
with people.
Figure out why a huge reason towhy you're jealous or irritated.
Oftentimes it's because there issomething in that person that is
showing you a part of you thatyou want this, you want to be
like this person.
You want to do that noteverything but maybe a certain
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little thing, right?
It could be a personality tradesomeone who's bold and maybe
you're shy but that boldnessirritates you, right?
That could be a reason becausemaybe you want to be a little
bit more bold as well.
The third way was I paidattention to things that I
didn't like And the things Iwould rather be doing.
So if I'm consistently doingsomething that I don't like, and
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I'm thinking about what I'drather be doing, clearly, this
is not something I need to bedoing.
Finding out what you don't likeis a great way for you to
uncover desires, right?
Because you realize you don'tlike this.
You desire to be doing somethingelse.
You would rather give this tosomeone else to do.
You will rather be doingsomething else.
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So listen to that.
The things that you don't like,pay attention to it.
And listen to the things thatyou would rather be doing.
The fourth way is I paidattention to people or things
that I admire.
I admire content creators, Iadmire coaches.
What is something that youadmire in someone else?
That is a sign, that is a signof a hidden desire.
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Maybe you want to do it.
If you thought to yourself, Ican do that too.
That's so cool.
You know, Oh, I wish I can dothat.
Listen to that.
And the next way is I connectedto my inner child.
What excited me as a child?
What did I want to do as achild, right?
That has been suppressed.
So these are ways that I'veunlocked my hidden and
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suppressed desires.
And once I unlock thosesuppressed desires, That's it is
either time to pursue or keep itsuppressed, right?
We have choices.
So that is it guys.
I hope you enjoyed this videoand until next time, bye.
Hey ladies, welcome back to another
video.
Today we are going to be talkingabout ways that I've uncovered
my hidden desires or suppresseddesires.
squadcaster-2jj8_4_01-08-20 (00:18):
And the reason why I want to share
this with you is because thereare a lot of women, there are a
lot of us who have hidden andsuppress our desires and which
is keeping you stuck from trulyPursuing your dreams, achieving
your dream goals.
Because either you don't haveclarity on what you want or you
know what you want and you'rejust not taking action on it.
(00:39):
So I'm going to share a few waysthat I've unlocked my hidden
desires because it led me toachieving my dream goals.
It led me to pursuing my dreamgoals and I want the same for
you.
So, The first way that I'veuncovered my hidden desires is
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when opportunities came, Ilistened to my body, right?
So I listened to things of, didI get super intrigued?
Did I get excited?
Did I get any nervous excitementwithin my body?
A huge example of this is thatthe first time I actually feel
like I unlocked the hiddendesire was years ago when I
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first got out of college and youknow, I was looking for jobs and
I was trying to figure out whatis it that I want to do.
I know that I don't really wantto be like this.
I don't really want astereotypical job, right?
People were telling me, Oh, gowork at a doctor's office or be
an admin.
I had zero interest in that, butI was like, okay, like that's
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what you're supposed to do.
But there was part of me whoknew that I didn't want to do
this.
So.
Lo and behold, I was presentedwith an opportunity and a
network marketing.
So walked into the office andwhat I saw with these fly
people, well, first I heard alot of chanting.
I heard, you know, peoplescreaming and, you know, just a
(02:07):
field of energy, music playingand, people walked out the room
and my stomach was like,Butterflies, I was like, what is
this?
I was so excited I was just Iwas like, oh like who are these
people like everyone was dressedin suits They look so fly.
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They look so energized And Iknew like Deep within that this
was something different.
This was something unique,something that I never even
thought of.
And I was like, Ooh, I wanna dothis.
I don't even know what it isyet, but I know that I want to
do this.
And so when I got that jobright, I followed that desire.
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When I got that job, whathappened that unlock a desire
for me to be an entrepreneurbecause that position spark
entrepreneurship, that positionspark building your own
business.
I didn't know that being yourown boss was actually a thing.
I didn't even knowentrepreneurship existed.
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I didn't know.
And so when I realized that Iwas like, Oh, this is it.
This has been it all along.
And so that desire led me to,After that, being able to work
at home and be a stay at homemom with my daughter, when she
started school and build my ownreselling business that I had at
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the time, that was a desire.
That was an opportunity thatsparked.
But it unlocked a blockeddesire, a hidden desire that I
didn't even know existed.
But I felt it, I just didn'tput, I just didn't know exactly
what it was.
So the second way that Iunlocked a hidden desire or a
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suppressed desire is when I wasI was jealous of someone.
Sometimes we can look at it as abad thing, but honestly jealousy
can be a good thing for you.
It is a inner working.
It's an inner desire that iscoming to the surface.
It's showing you something thatyou actually want.
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You don't even know it or Youknow, you're suppressing it,
you're suppressing it for manydifferent reasons.
So sometimes jealousy can showup in science, like for me anger
annoyance, for example, Sobefore I went on this journey of
confidence, did confident peopleirritate me?
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Yes, they did.
Bold people.
Did they irritate me?
Yes, they did.
They irritated me, but theyirritated me because I was
jealous because it was a hiddendesire.
A desire that I wanted topursue.
I wanted to be a confidentperson.
I wanted to pursue, That was ahidden desire.
(05:03):
So jealousy is a huge way thatyou can unlock your hidden
desires.
That's what it did for me.
You have to learn how toseparate from the annoyance and
actually ask yourself.
Why am I annoyed?
Is it because this is a traitthat they're doing something
they're being away They havesomething that I You I want to
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have, they have something that Iwant to achieve.
They're doing something that Iwant to do.
They have a personality that Iwould like to get a little bit
of, not saying you want to takeit all.
Right?
Not saying you want to be thisperson, not saying you want to
have everything this personhave, but just little things,
right?
Just little things about peoplethat you maybe just bits and
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pieces that you will to, youknow, learn about yourself.
Do you be a certain way?
So that is a great way.
That's how I've uncovered someof my hidden desires.
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So now let's get into the third way
of how I've unlocked my hiddendesires or suppressed desires.
So the third way is I paidattention to what I didn't like
and often thought of what Iwould rather be doing.
So I saw this thing And it saidthis, when you follow things
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rather than your desires.
You end up living a life thatyou was not supposed to live.
So that was like, Oh my gosh,because this is so true.
So what this looks like, just togive you a clear example, right?
There's so many women, there'sso many us, We're interviewing
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for jobs.
You only think you can have,right, versus applying for jobs
that you actually want.
What ends up happening when youdecide to go against your
desires is this, that maybe youget stuck in a career that's
five years, 10 years, 15 years.
In a career that you thoughtthat you can have, that you
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thought that was the way, thebest way to go, but you suppress
that desire.
And now what ends up happening,I hear so many women all the
time is too late.
I'm too old to be trying topursue a dream.
Is too late to try to dosomething that I actually want
to do.
You end up living a life thatyou are not supposed to live or
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you end up going in a directionThat you were not supposed to
live that's what happens when wecontinue to do things that we
don't like versus allowingourselves our bodies, So follow
our desires, allowing us tofollow our desires because our
desires is truly key to uscreating our dream life.
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This is a way that I trulylearned how to unlock that
hidden desire.
And that was, I paid attention.
I paid attention to what my bodydid not like.
I paid attention to things thatI hated and I paid attention to
things that I constantly wouldthink I would rather be doing,
there's so many things we wouldrather be doing.
(08:07):
And we think we have to dothings.
We don't have to do things,things that we don't like.
If we don't like certain things,we can always delegate.
We can always find ways to domore things that we like, to be
the person that we like.
Okay, the fourth thing and Iwill say this is something
similar to Jealousy the fourthway, but it's not it's kind of
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like it right?
But I paid attention to what Iadmired About somebody about
something for example, for me.
I admired people who create acontent.
I admired my confidence coach.
She inspired me to become a, aconfidence coach.
I admired seeing a woman speakon stage and.
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That admiration, it sparkssomething in me, it sparks
something in my body like, ooh,again, curiosity, excitement.
Of like, Ooh, I think I want totry something like that.
I want to do that.
I can do that, right?
You start thinking, startplanting seeds in your head.
I admire women who were creatingsoft life businesses.
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I've been an entrepreneur formany years and trust me, I've
been in the hustle.
I've been in a bustle.
I pursued my dream goals.
I achieved a lot of my dreamgoals.
And so once I realized, once Istarted admiring soft life
businesses, I said, wait, holdup.
I think this is possible.
This is something that I wantand I know that I can do it.
(09:37):
So lo and behold, that is whatwe are creating a soft life
business, right?
So, when you admire something,these are things that I said
again, Ooh, I wish I can dothat.
That's so cool.
That's so inspiring.
That is something that I wouldlove to do.
I think I can do that.
Like little whispers like that,that you may say to yourself
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those are things that unlockthose hitting desires.
Those suppress desires.
I wouldn't say that was moresuppressed, but it was more
hitting.
Or actually those are thingsthat would made me realize my
suppressed desires.
Like, admiring people who createcontent.
I suppress that desire thedesire to be on YouTube.
I had the desire no lie forYears for years and when I look
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at old journals, I rememberTalking writing about it however
It took me years to start thatwas a suppressed desire And in a
few after I go over my next fewsteps i'm going to share with
you why?
How hidden desires andsuppressed desires happen.
All right, so my next way thatI've unlocked my hidden and
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suppressed desires that can helpyou as well is that I connected
with my inner child.
I thought back to that innergirl, that inner child.
And so one of the things, forexample, is my love for dance.
Ever since I was a little girl.
I've always wanted to be adancer.
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I've always wanted to be adancer.
I always wanted to dance.
What happened is that I suppressthat desire.
I hid that desire.
I kept that desire hidden fromlike my family, from my mom.
I suppressed it.
I kept it from my friends.
That burning desire that Ireally wanted to be a dancer.
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And so what that looked like wasme acting like I don't have any
passions.
And so over the years, I didn'tdance.
And what happened when I finallystarted dancing realize that
desire is still there.
And I decided to say, you knowwhat?
I'm going to pursue it.
I'm going to go to danceclasses.
What happened?
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I was not that great because ofall those years of those
suppress desires that happen.
But how did I keep realizing?
That that desire was suppressedis because every time someone
would ask me, Oh, what do youlike to do?
Or every time I will watch, youknow someone on stage, I would
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think, Ooh, like that would beso cute.
I would imagine myself, imaginemyself up there, imagine myself
doing things like that becauseit was a desire that I had, that
I suppress for so many years.
And so paying attention to that,connecting back to that inner
child.
There's a lot of things thatyour inner child wanted to do
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since you were young.
Maybe as art, maybe as designingclothes or, you know, whatever
it is, there is something thatwas within you since you were a
child that you possibly hidden,you possibly suppressed and
blocked it out of your mind.
And I'm going to share with youthe reasons why hidden surprise,
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like hidden desires happen,suppress desires happen from my
own experience.
This is what happened.
So what often leads to suppressand hidden desires?
So number one that is the fearof judgment.
The fear of looking stupid, thefear of looking embarrassed.
that is a huge one, right?
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And it's oftentimes in front ofpeople that maybe, you know, of
course, having that, fear oflike, I don't know.
I don't want people like, whatare they going to think of me?
That is a huge reason why a lotof your desires have been
suppressed because you blockedit out of your mind because you
decided that you don't want toget embarrassed.
That was a huge reason why Iblocked out dance.
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is because I didn't want to getembarrassed.
I didn't want to be judged.
Right.
And so the second reason is afear of failure.
that insecurity of you don'tknow if you can actually do
this.
What if you fail?
Planting seeds in your head ofthe reasons why you shouldn't do
this.
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And the main reason is like,what if I failed, right?
Again, that goes back into lackof confidence.
The third reason is a hugereason and that is imposter
syndrome.
So imposter syndrome, all ofthis is an example of lack of
confidence, imposter syndrome,feeling of who do I think I am
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to pursue this?
This is not something for mebecause What happens, what
happens when you pursue goals?
What happens when you pursueyour dreams?
I've experienced this time andtime again.
You do step into a new identity.
You do create this new identityfor yourself.
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You have to, it's a shift thathappens, right?
So just like when I decided topursue entrepreneurship, I had
to step into the identity of anentrepreneur.
When I had The, I, theopportunity of network
marketing, I had to step intothe identity of a salesperson of
a network marketer.
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of a coach.
I had to do all of those things,And a lot of times imposter
syndrome came up, right?
So a lot of times why we don'tpursue certain things is because
of imposter syndrome, And so Thenext one is a huge one as well.
A huge reason to why yousuppress your desires.
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And that is because you sharedsomething with someone.
I've shared something withsomeone or people who have.
That oh no, you can't do thatYou share something with the
wrong person who deterred youwho made you feel like is
impossible Who made you feellike you shouldn't do this?
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Like who do you think you areand those negative thoughts?
Overweigh George so Whathappened?
You actually sought outapproval.
You sought out externalvalidation and you didn't learn
how to validate yourself.
How I was able to start pursuinga lot of my hidden desires is I
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blocked out approval.
I decided that I don't needanyone's approval.
So for things like start networkmarketing, nobody in my family
wanted me to do that.
Not one.
They asked me, are you crazy?
I did it.
I did not care.
I saw an opportunity.
I felt my desires and I decidedto jump on it.
When I decided to become a stayat home mom and decided that I
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want to work for myself I'mgoing to find out a way that I
can do this so that I can behome with my daughter start
school again.
Everybody looked at me.
Can you do this?
Are you crazy?
I did It's because I got my ownApproval when I decided that I
want to triple my income.
I want to double or triple myincome and move You back to New
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York and get a remote job again,people looked at me like, you're
crazy.
You're crazy.
You can't do this.
That's fine, that's youropinion.
I got my own approval.
What is going to be so importantfor you, is you have to get your
own approval.
Approve yourself.
This is a huge reason why a lotof our desires stay suppressed
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is because we Seek approval overour own approval.
This is how I was able to notonly pursue, but also achieve a
lot of my dream goals is becauseI gave myself, I validate my
desires.
I validated my approval becauseyour desires are not anyone
else's desires.
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And so the last way, the fifthway why your, why hidden and
suppressed desires happen iseasy, right?
Because you don't listen to it,you don't follow it.
That's like, if you don't useit, you lose it, right?
So if you're not connected, ifyou don't tap into following
your desires, what happens isthat you lose the ability to
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hear, to know when those desireshappen.
You don't lose it fully.
But it does lessen.
However, you can always build itback.
You can always build it back.
You can always grow it..
I am continually growing myintuition for my desires, right?
I don't feel like it's at 100percent because some things are
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still suppressed some things arehidden and also there are some
desires that have yet to beuncovered that have yet to be
discovered.
Right.
for yourself, there are somedesires that you didn't even
know existed two years ago.
I didn't even know that coachingexisted.
It didn't even know until I hadmy own coach and you know, the
(18:45):
experience that I had andrealizing that I've coached for
years, I've, motivated peoplefor years.
I led by example for years, Idid things for years and I want
to do this.
Boom, that desire spark.
I didn't know that.
I mean, I saw people speaking onstage before, but I didn't know
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that that was possible.
So once I started realizingthat, Oh my God, that desire
came, right?
You become aware of differentdesires when you put yourself in
places, when you actually starttaking steps to pursue one
desire, then another desireopens up.
It always happens after onedesire, after you pursue one
(19:31):
desire, another desire opens up,but that's how you discover it.
That's how you unleash it.
Ooh, ooh, ooh.
Okay.
I forgot.
One last step.
One last reason why a lot of ourdesires get suppressed or
blocked, and I've experiencedthis.
This is why I'm sharing this.
Is because we have, I guess thiscan go into external validation,
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but we have a fear ofinconveniencing someone or
making someone else comfortable.
Listen, listen, Linda, listen.
Okay.
When you unlock your desires,some people are going to be
inconvenienced, right?
Some people in your life aregoing to be uncomfortable.
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bong If you have a desire to Youknow begin waking up early to
begin a morning routine and youhave a partner Who is so used to
waking up later than you or youguys are used to waking up at a
certain time Guess what?
It may make that personuncomfortable.
If you have a desire to Stopdrinking.
It may make some of your friendsuncomfortable, but guess what?
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You have this desire.
But a lot of times we suppressthose because we have a fear of
inconveniencing someone else.
We have a fear of making someoneelse uncomfortable.
No, no, no.
When it's time to pursue thatdesire, someone's going to get
inconvenienced.
Someone's going to getuncomfortable and it's okay.
(21:06):
It is perfectly fine because youhave to level up.
You have to pursue your goals.
You have to pursue your desires.
That's the only way, the onlyway to truly, truly start
Tapping into start creating yourdream life.
Your desires isn't innerknowing.
It is telling you, it is showingyou the way it is, showing you
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what you want to create this,this life that you truly desire,
this life that you want.
Your desires give you claritywhen you learn to listen to it,
right?
When you learn to connect to itand clarity is key.
Clarity is key.
These are things that helped me.
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I truly know that I can help youto take one or two or take all
of it, right?
How to, How you can startUnlocking your blocked and
hidden desires.
All right, so I truly trulydesire to help you You know
unlock those desires unlock thatpassion within you So that you
can truly get unstuck and startpursuing your dream goals
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because it's possible It startswith a desire.
It starts with a desire and onceyou know what your desire is You
get to take off girl, you get tostart pursuing your dreams.
You get to start achieving yourdream goals, no matter how big,
no matter how small you get topursue it.
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And it is beginning of the year,right?
One year can truly change yourlife.
A few months can change yourlife.
Again, it doesn't matter how bigor small your desire is.
Start pursuing it, startpursuing it and get clarity.
And so I truly want to help youget clarity.
I truly want to help you getinto the vehicle of you pursuing
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your dream goals.
And so that you can start, youknow, making things happen for
yourself of what you truly seefor yourself, because it is
possible.
And so if this is something thatyou want to do, if you want
support, if you want coaching onhow you can gain more clarity,
start pursuing your desires andyour goals, then you can go
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ahead and click the link in thedescription box.
Or you can just go tocleopatrawilliams.
com and go to the coachings tab.
Because pursuing your desires isa very very very Necessary is
there for a reason is there foryou to follow is there for you
to design?
The life that you want to have.
Let me know what are somedesires that you feel are
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unlocked that you are ready topursue, ready to take on 2025
because let this be your year,let this be a year of you no
longer suppressing those innerdesires.
desires, your passions, becauseit's shown itself to you
probably multiple times.
Right.
Remember the ways that I said touncover.
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So just to rehash it reallyquick, I'm going to let you know
again, is two one.
When opportunities came, Ilistened to my body.
So when opportunities presentitself to you, listen to your
body.
Does it spark curiosity?
Does it spark excitement?
Does it make you feel internallygood?
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Maybe even a little bit nervous,but good, not anxious, right?
If it's something that makes youanxious and make your stomach
drop in a way of like that makesyou feel on edge, then a sinking
feeling, then that's a not sogood feeling, but there's a
difference between nervousexcitement.
Listen to that.
Okay.
The second way was what made mejealous.
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If there's things that make youjealous or make you irritated
with people.
Figure out why a huge reason towhy you're jealous or irritated.
Oftentimes it's because there issomething in that person that is
showing you a part of you thatyou want this, you want to be
like this person.
You want to do that noteverything but maybe a certain
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little thing, right?
It could be a personality tradesomeone who's bold and maybe
you're shy but that boldnessirritates you, right?
That could be a reason becausemaybe you want to be a little
bit more bold as well.
The third way was I paidattention to things that I
didn't like And the things Iwould rather be doing.
So if I'm consistently doingsomething that I don't like, and
(25:30):
I'm thinking about what I'drather be doing, clearly, this
is not something I need to bedoing.
Finding out what you don't likeis a great way for you to
uncover desires, right?
Because you realize you don'tlike this.
You desire to be doing somethingelse.
You would rather give this tosomeone else to do.
You will rather be doingsomething else.
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So listen to that.
The things that you don't like,pay attention to it.
And listen to the things thatyou would rather be doing.
The fourth way is I paidattention to people or things
that I admire.
I admire content creators, Iadmire coaches.
What is something that youadmire in someone else?
That is a sign, that is a signof a hidden desire.
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Maybe you want to do it.
If you thought to yourself, Ican do that too.
That's so cool.
You know, Oh, I wish I can dothat.
Listen to that.
And the next way is I connectedto my inner child.
What excited me as a child?
What did I want to do as achild, right?
That has been suppressed.
So these are ways that I'veunlocked my hidden and
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suppressed desires.
And once I unlock thosesuppressed desires, That's it is
either time to pursue or keep itsuppressed, right?
We have choices.
So that is it guys.
I hope you enjoyed this videoand until next time, bye.
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