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Hey
ladies, welcome back to another
video today.
We are going to be talking aboutsomething that is so important
and that is learning yourability to Detach detach from
certain things so that you cantruly thrive On your
entrepreneurial journey withfull blown confidence in
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yourself and your dreams.
and most of all be able to bringyour joy back.
so let's go ahead and get intoit.
So first thing, one of the mostimportant things that I highly
recommend you detaching from isbeing able to detach your worth
from your success.
This here, right here, hascaused me so much heartache, so
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much pain on my entrepreneurialjourney and it has caused me
many times of losing myconfidence in myself and
questioning my my life.
Here my life purpose.
And so this is so important foryou to learn how to detach your
worth from your success and yourworth from your setbacks.
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Because when, of course, as youknow, when you are pursuing,
when you are on this journey.
You will have setbacks.
You will have challenges thatcomes along the way that is
meant to help you grow, is meantto help you learn is meant for
you to build resilience.
However, when you have yourworth, Attached to your success
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and your setbacks, it can trulymake you question just life in
general.
Your worth is innate.
Your worth came from God the dayyou were born.
You are worthy without thisbusiness.
This is something that you wantat the end of the day.
We don't need our business.
We don't need to beentrepreneurs.
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Is recommended is a beautifuljourney to give you your time
back to give you more freedom orsay so over your life.
However, you don't need it,right?
We do need money.
We knew we do need resources,but you don't need this specific
business.
If it makes you feel like youcan't live without it, then you
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You have to learn how to detachyour worth from it, your worth,
your ability to live, yourability to be happy, your
ability to enjoy life andpleasure and your ability to
just be able to love yourself iscompletely separated from your
success.
Your success is going to be areflection of how you are inside
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at the end of the day, becauseif you're killing yourself and
beating yourself up throughoutthe process, then what is it all
going to be worth in the end,right?
It's not going to feel thatgood.
So that's my number one thing,learning how to detach your
worth from your success.
Okay.
So the second thing that Ihighly recommend that you learn
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how to detach from is detachingfrom that outcome.
Now, this is slightly different.
This is different from detachingyour work from your success.
Of course, we want the outcomethat we want.
We want a dream life.
We want a dream business.
And It is so possible youdeserve the outcome that you are
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looking for 1, 000%.
However, why I say detach yourworth from, the outcome is
because the outcome is havingyou in a chokehold, right?
The outcome is making youobsessed with the timeframe.
And the reason why we have thisObsession with the outcome is
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because we're, we have thisobsession of what we believe
that our business can providefor us, right?
A business can provide finances.
Our business can providefreedom.
And we obsess with that outcomebecause we want it to happen now
on our However, what I, whatI've learned through my
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experience of years as anentrepreneur is that a lot of
times the reason why we aren'tgetting the things that we want
to get is not because you're notworth it is not because you're a
bad person is sometimes it trulycomes down to, it is either not
your time yet.
Or you just haven't became theperson that you truly need to
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become to withstand the businessthat you're building, to
withstand the outcome thatyou're, that you want to
receive.
Because maybe if you got itright now, maybe you wouldn't be
the person to hold it andnourish it and to grow it even
better.
So, that is something that I'velearned through my journey and
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also we never know, right?
We have this outcome in mind.
We never know, what is going tohappen.
Is actually in store for us.
We might have this little visionfor our life, but God probably
have this huge vision for ourlife.
This bigger vision for ourselvesthat we can't even see because
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we're so attached to thisoutcome.
We're so attached to thisspecific thing that it just, it
blocks us.
It blocks us from being, beingable to.
Envision more, to see more, tofeel more and We have to be able
to do that, right?
This is you being able toconnect to your intuition, being
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able to connect to yourcreativity.
When you are so attached to theoutcome, it blocks those things.
It blocks those ideas.
It blocks that intuition.
It blocks that creativity.
It doesn't allow you to be ableto do that.
The freedom to be able to pivotand the freedom to be able to
change directions.
And, and to just build thatability to see more, see more
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past than what you're seeingright now.
Right.
And so that's one thing, butthen also another thing, there's
so much attached to this, thiswhole outcome thing is that when
you're attached to the outcome,you're also so focused on
having, having, and we do thingsbackwards.
We focus on having, and then wefeel like we can become the
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person, right?
Just like I said, one of thereasons why, Maybe we haven't
gotten what we want to have isbecause we haven't became the
person yet.
So Becoming is normally thefirst thing that we are supposed
to do so that we can have soyou've heard people say in order
to have success you have tobecome success first You have to
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be a successful person if youwant to have riches then you
need to be rich And what I meanby be rich being rich like
energetically So who are you onan energetic on an energetic
level?
Who are you?
Are you being the person thatyou truly need to be to be able
to have the goals that you trulywant to have to be able to have
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this outcome?
Are you being her?
Are you focused on being her,becoming her to the highest
level that you can truly be?
Because when you lose thatattachment to the outcome, when
you know.
For a fact that, that outcome isgoing to happen because, one,
it's supposed to happen if, ifit's If the vision was given to
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you, then it's yours.
But when you know that you'regoing to have the outcome
because of who you are and basedoff who you are, you're doing
the things as, as if this personwill do, then you know for a
fact that you're going to have.
So it was about being first,being a successful person, being
the person who has that outcomebecause the faster and the
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closer you are to.
Being her the closer you willhave the closer you will get to
Achieving an outcome and itwon't and it won't feel so You
know It won't feel so stressfulit won't feel so hard and
frustrating because You're moreattached to becoming the person
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versus attached to receiving theoutcome Your outcome is already
here.
The outcome is already here Itis waiting to be received, but
you have to become the personfirst.
All right.
So that is the second onedetached from the outcome.
Now the third one is detach fromfollowing a specific order and
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being logical.
So this right here is how youare going to learn how to
quantum leap.
How are you going to learn howto jump levels on your
entrepreneurial journey?
It is so easy to be attached todoing certain things a certain
way, to following a step by stepby step kind of phase.
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And thinking that you have tofollow a specific order to get
the things that you want tohave, but you've seen proof.
You've seen proof of people whohave, one minute they're here
and then the next minute, likethey're way over here.
They're they quantum leap theirlife in like six months or a
year, two years.
But how was that possible?
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How was that possible for them?
is that they didn't think thatthey had to go in a step by step
by step order.
So, lose your attachment togoing in this one order.
What I recommend doing isLearning how to be a risk taker,
learning how to be illogical andgoing against common sense.
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Yes, we need common sense, okay?
We need common sense.
We need to have some, you know,smartness, some brilliance up in
there.
We need to be able to, you know,have common sense and know not
to walk in front of a movingcar, right?
Like that's, that's commonsense.
However, when you areentrepreneur sometimes you have
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to go against the grain.
You have to go against whateveryone seemed, what everyone
thinks to be common sense.
And this is a huge part oflearning how to connect with
your intuition and moving withyour body.
and connecting to your feminineenergy and this process as a
entrepreneur.
So when you are focused on doingstep by step by step, following
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this super strategic order andbeing super in your head and
super logical, then you'reheavily operating out of your
masculine energy.
Which is not a bad thing.
We need those.
We need strategy.
We need logic.
We need those in our business.
We need those as entrepreneurs.
However, as women, we can be somuch more powerful.
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When we learn to connect withour body and be able to build
our business and create ourbusiness and pursue our
entrepreneurship journey and ourbody what feels good to us what
feels good for our business.
What What we have this intensedesire to do Right what even if
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no one else is doing it\ but youhave this desire, doesn't make
common sense.
We'll say, well, no one else isdoing this right now.
So don't be stupid.
Like don't do that.
You're going to fail, but movingwith your body and letting the
logic catch up later is youactually saying, Nope, I'm going
to do this and I'll figure itout along the way.
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That is you leading with your.
Feminine energy and allowingyour masculine energies to catch
up because that's exactly whatthis is going to do.
It's going to chase you, it'sgoing to follow behind you as
long as you learn to move withyour body.
And listen to your heart'sdesires.
Listen to your heart's desireand lose that attachment to
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always feeling you have to dothings the right way.
You have to follow thissequential order.
Absolutely not.
You don't have to, you canquantum leak your life.
you can jump levels ahead.
If you Detach from always beingin your head, always having to
follow this order.
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You can absolutely jump levelsby leading with your body first
and then allowing the logic to,follow and figure out along the
way that is one of the best waysto pursue Entrepreneurship is
moving with your body andletting the logic move away.
Every entrepreneur who have mostentrepreneurs who have who've
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made their mark, like made ahuge mark, who built crazy
businesses, is not because theyfollow their logic, is when they
were going against common sense,when they allowed themselves to
move with their body, And lookstupid and look crazy, but then
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allow the logic to catch up.
If you have a desire in yourmind, if you have a desire in
your heart, lead with that firstand everything else will come
along.
And another reason that I wantto point out why I feel like
this is super, super importantfor you is because creativity
moves.
And so what I mean by that, ifyou have a desire on your heart.
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Right now, but you're stoppingyourself from pursuing this
desire because you feel like youdon't have a big enough audience
because you don't feel like youhave enough listeners because
you feel like You don't haveenough subscribers or you just
you know, you don't have enoughof something you're not in the
right place You don't haveenough money, whatever it is If
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you've been feeling like thatand you've been stopping
yourself from doing it Let metell you something that happens
from personal experience Numberone one thing that can happen is
is eventually not that you loseinterest Well, you can lose
interest but not just that youlose interest but over time you
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forget some of the things thatyou Been wanting to put out it
doesn't that same creativitythat you have right now that's
sparking in you is probably notgoing to spark In you, you know,
if you wait a year or two years,it's not gonna feel the same So
when you when you finally get tothe place that you think you
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should be to actually make thatleap it's going to feel a
little, it's going to feel notso right.
It's not going to feel the same.
It's not going to feel like thesame magic as you felt when you
first got that.
And that super deep desire isnot going to feel the same.
Another thing that I want to sayis, yeah, you can lose interest
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in it.
And then guess what?
You never do it.
And, and then what, right?
It, that doesn't.
Fuel your creativity when youdon't do something.
The less you do something theless you it's like you lose it
just like when people say iflike Just like working out if
you are not working out whathappens you lose it when you are
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not Intentionally, living inthat creative field, you lose
it.
Another thing is if you don't donothing with it, that desire is
going to go to someone else andsomeone else is going to put it
out there.
That, that feeling, that visionthat you got for yourself.
That you got for that you wantedto create and put out if you
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don't do it Someone else will itis just energy is your intuition
But guess what like is going tomove creativity moves.
It does not stay If it's notmeant to be stayed, okay, so use
it Just take the leap move withyour body and everything else
will catch up later.
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So number four is detach fromyour fear of failure again, just
like your obsession with theoutcome, your fear of failure
will also have you in achokehold.
Your fear of failing will keepyou from.
Doing things.
If you want to thrive as anentrepreneur, you have to lose
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that attachment to, you know,being scared of failing, failing
is gonna happen.
We're gonna have setbacks.
But through those failures,these are the things that happen
when you fail.
When you have setbacks, youlearn more about yourself.
You learn more about yourresilience.
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You build more confidence.
Depending on how you view thefailure.
If you view the failure as ifyou know you failed because
you're a sucky person or you'renot good enough.
Then of course your confidenceis going to go to shit but if
you view your failure as anopportunity to learn and as
like, Ooh, I feel that that, butI got better this time I got
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back up.
So that means like, I'mresilient.
I can keep going when you viewit that way, you start to gain
confidence in yourself becauseyou know, that.
that there's nothing you can'tcome back from, right?
You know that you can bounceback and bounce back.
And the more you bounce back andthe more you view your failures
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in a more confident light and amore positive light, even though
it sucks, it's not a goodfeeling to fail.
It's not a good feeling.
It's a sucky feeling.
But if you view it as thisopportunity to learn and try
something different, It is goingto increase your confidence and
failure is just an illusion.
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You really don't fail unless youthink you failed.
It's just an illusion.
If you tell yourself, Oh, I fellout of that, then you failed.
But if you tell yourself that Ididn't fail, I actually learned
something, then that's acompletely different
perspective.
So it's really based on yourperception.
So lose the attachment toFearing that you're going to
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fail because if you want tothrive as an entrepreneur, you
are going to want to challengeyourself.
You are going to want to risk.
You're going to want to be arisk taker.
Being a risk taker.
That's what's going to makethings happen.
Risk takers are moneymakers.
Risk takers are game changers.
Risk takers are world changers.
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So.
As an entrepreneur, we have tolose that attachment to our fear
of failing.
We truly don't know if we'regoing to fail.
You don't know if you're goingto fail because what if you
didn't, what if you didn't fail,you know, but what if you did?
Then what's the worst thatwhat's the worst is going to
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happen when you can develop thatmindset of what's the worst
that's going to happen?
I get embarrassed, you don't gethurt.
You don't die from failing, It'smore so the embarrassment and
it's really tied to our ego.
Us not wanting to beembarrassed, not us not wanting
to be judged and be, you know,made fun of.
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But it's all in our heads.
The fear of failure is just anillusion.
We don't know if it's actuallygoing to happen.
So, lose that attachment to fearof failing, detach from it,
detach from it and, seek failurebecause when you seek failure,
that's you actually knowing thatyou are pushing yourself out of
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your comfort zone, that you arerisking embarrassment, that you
are risking judgment, that youare, risking and you're taking
chances to change your entirelife.
So Don't be ashamed of failing,you know, it sucks doesn't feel
good But how are we going tothrive is detaching from that,
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that fear of failing.
That's one of the only ways wecan truly thrive as
entrepreneurs and in life ingeneral.
All right.
So let's go ahead and move tonumber five.
number five is detaching fromperfectionism.
So perfectionism is somethingthat I thought that I did not
have.
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I thought I was never aperfectionist.
I thought I was, you know, Iconsider myself a risk taker
and, you know, someone who justputs things out.
But.
What I learned this year is thatI am very much like I clearly
struggled a little bit withperfectionism And the more I
uncovered, you know, did moreinner work and uncovered things
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about myself.
I realized that, Ooh, there issome kind of, you know, there's
a little perfectionist up inthere.
And so I shared this examplebefore and how, like my first
podcast name was called becomingconfident.
And then when I decided tochange the name, because I
wanted to go into a differentdirection and who I was speaking
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to and the topics I was talkingabout.
It took me six months toactually release new episodes
And the main reason why it tookme six months is because I was
so focused on doing things,going back to following a
specific order being logical,and I was so attached to doing
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it the right way and needing tohave a specific amount of
episodes out.
A specific amount of recordingsrecorded and make sure that it's
perfectly edited and make surethat it was fully scripted on
paper and then on a computer sothat I can put in a little
teleprompter.
All of those things held me upand it took me six months to
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release new episodes.
Even though it was Deep downinside I hated it.
I just wanted to release.
I just wanted to put things outand I knew over the course of
those six months that I wasputting myself behind.
I knew that I could be so muchfurther ahead and that showed me
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that I struggled withperfectionism.
And so what I want to say to youbecause of that is detached from
perfectionism.
It is going to, it is going tohold you back if you are a new
entrepreneur.
If you're an aspiringentrepreneur, it is going to
hold you back.
This goes into.
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Listening to your body justgoing and letting everything
else catch up but start Don'trely on being perfect is going
to hold you back.
It is time consuming and it'sjust an inhibition is you
stressing and worrying aboutbeing perfect So that you don't
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be looked at a certain way Sothat you don't get embarrassed
that you don't get judged.
It is hindering your progress.
That's exactly what it is.
What is hindering your progressright now, I want you to ask
yourself that.
What is something in your lifethat.
You are being a perfectionist inand it is hindering your
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progress?
That is what inhibition is.
Perfectionism is a inhibition.
So detached from that andnothing is perfect.
Most things never started withbeing perfect.
It started by being messy.
Being messy and You know, justmaybe being a little bit all
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over the all over the place.
We have to learn to brace themessiness of just being in flow
and just, you know, just doing.
Just starting just putting itout there.
That's you leading with yourbody.
That's you being connected withyour feminine energy.
And as you pursue your dreambusiness, this is what's going
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to help you just flourish overtime.
Nothing is perfect.
And guess what?
If you are new, if you areaspiring, someone is waiting for
you.
So chop, chop, chop, chop,whatever it is that you want to
do.
Someone is waiting for you toput it out there.
So detach from being aperfectionist.
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So the next one is detachingfrom approval to pursue your
dreams.
This is a big one Because theone thing that I know is that
People don't have your dream.
People don't see your vision.
And one thing is that they aregoing to put their obstacles on
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you.
They're going to put their fearson you because they think they
can't do it.
They don't think you can do it.
You have to learn how to detachfrom that approval.
Whatever it is pursue yourdreams pursue your goals Even if
you've already been anentrepreneur for a few years And
you have ideas of wanting to dosomething Yeah, like if you want
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to get a coach if you want toget a mentor Those are those are
things that are so useful highlyrecommend those things However,
you don't need anyone'sapproval.
You don't need anybody'sapproval You To start something
different to try somethingdifferent to pursue this dream.
When you allow yourself todetach from that Then you start
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creating your own life.
You start creating your own pathand you learn how to validate
yourself.
You are going to have to Learnhow to believe in yourself more
than other people Are going tobelieve in you more than you
want people to believe in youYou have to build it up that
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self belief.
You have to believe thatAnything you touch turns to gold
that any dream that you have cancome to life that any vision
that was given to you Is areflection of the need out in
this world that everything youhave within you you can Become
greater do greater have greateryou have to learn how to foster
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That that type of belief inyourself for you to truly learn
how to detach from other peopleFrom others approval of you
pursuing your dreams If you wantto thrive in your
entrepreneurship journey if youwant to thrive in it trust me
when I tell you learn how toDetach from the approval of
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others because that will holdyou back Back.
It will hold you back.
It will hold you back in yourbusiness.
It will hold you back in life.
If you need approval to datesomeone, if you need approval to
start dance classes, if you needapproval to start working out,
it will hold you up if you don'tapprove yourself, if you don't
validate yourself and tellyourself that you are beautiful.
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Deserve it at the end of the dayyou deserve exactly what you
want at the end of the day Allright, so detach from that The
seventh thing that I recommendto detach from is detach from
Always doing always always doing.And this is something that I
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started to put into practiceabout maybe a year and a half
ago when I decided that Ideserve a life of ease in life
and in business.
So, I highly recommend this.
As women like Why we need tooverwork?
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We don't need to work Superhard.
We don't need to overworkourselves.
We don't need to be burnt out.
Super detached from thatcompletely i'm so detached from
that and so I want you to bedetached from it too because
it's going to feel so muchbetter internally when you
release yourself from alwaysdoing.
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We have to learn how to nourishourselves with pleasure and play
and rest.
Those things are essential isessential for your
entrepreneurial journey isessential to, you know, close
the laptop to put down yourphone is essential to,
disconnect from business and bepresent wherever you are.
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It, whether it is taking ashower, whether it is cooking
and, eating dinner We have tolearn how to disconnect from it.
I love just putting my phone inmy room and going in the living
room with my daughter andcooking and just chilling with
her for like two hours.
And then I go back to my phone.
I'm like, Oh, there you are.
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Like it is such a good feeling.
It's simple things like that togive yourself a sense of
pleasure in your life.
We need those things to nourishour business.
We need fun.
We need pleasure.
We need rest.
We need all of these things.
I know exactly how it feels tobe always doing and you lose
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sight of everything else.
That's also important.
I learned that You don't havetrue confidence kind of there's
a there's a little lack ofconfidence in What you're doing
is a little lack of confidencein your goal and you truly
believing that this is possible,that it's going to stay here,
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that it's not going to go away.
If you just rest for a littlebit, it's not going to, it's not
going to go away.
If you decided to take a breakor take a vacation.
There's a lack of confidence andbelief that you are safe that
you are protected in yourbusiness.
You are loved by your businessThat you are cared for By your
business And this is somethingthat I talk about in one of an
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episode that I just recordedmaybe this will come out first
or the other episode will comeout later and how It's a How our
dream business can is tied toour own masculine energy is just
tied to our relationship withmasculine energy because, we
view the idea of a business ofthis place that can, of this
thing that can protect us, thatcan take care of us, that can
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provide for us, that can make usfeel safe and valued in life.
And so, That's the same way wefeel with with men, right?
We want to feel safe.
We want to feel cared for.
We want to feel valued and sothat's either going to cause us
to either be constantly doingdoing doing chasing chasing
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chasing And hustling because wewanted we wanted to love us
back.
We want our business to want usback so badly Or we are going to
not do as much.
We're not going to go all in.
we're not going to be consistentor committed because there's a
lack of trust that has happened,Our heart got broken from my
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business or from this man,right?
We've put it all out therebefore and it didn't work out.
So it's kind of is either Youain't doing nothing.
You are either not supercommitted.
You're not going all in or youare Overly gone all in and so
when you're always doing thereis a little bit of a Wounded
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relationship with our own likemasculine energy within our
business because our dreambusiness is that masculine
energy, right?
It is that structure.
It is that thing that we feel isgoing to provide and keep us
safe and so We do do do do do somuch because we want it So badly
to take care of us and we feellike if we don't if we feel like
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if we just take a step back It'sgoing to leave us or It's not
going to provide for us like wewant it to.
However detached from doing youdeserve to rest you deserve to
bring pleasure back into yourlife If you're anything like me
you stopped yourself from havingfun.
You told yourself that you can'thave fun.
You can't go out.
You can't do anything If yourbusiness isn't where you want it
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to be but then that just takesthe joy out of it.
That sucks the joy out ofbuilding your business, you
know, because who knows how longit's going to take to really
build your dream business.
And then what you just spentlike, what, one, two, three,
four, five, 10 years doingnothing, being like lonely and,
restricting yourself for rest,restricting yourself for play,
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restricting yourself a pleasure.
And then, and then for what,right, that's one of those
sacrifices that I talk about inmy previous episode of, you
deciding as the boss of yourbusiness, what you want to
sacrifice.
Is those things something thatyou want to sacrifice because as
we get to the end and we we wantit We got it and we're like, oh
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dang.
I'm exhausted.
You know, was that worth it?
So yes detach from always doingenjoy the process enjoy the
progress that you're making.
It's going to help you evenattract your business more to
you when you learn how to trustit.
And you know that the outcome isalready there and you don't need
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to chase it.
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You can do the work and alsoreceive and be that attraction
to your business.
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is in your life and in yourbusiness.
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and that is it for today'sepisode guys and until next time
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