May 28, 2024 • 16 mins
Have you ever felt stuck at a crossroads, unsure but ready for change? Join me, Mikita, as we end with Part 1 of the letting go season with real talk about self-acceptance, facing our inner doubts, and the bravery it takes to ask for help.
I’ll share my own stories—dealing with heartbreak, learning it’s okay to pause, and finding true work-life balance. It’s all about letting go of what doesn’t serve us and embracing who we are.
We’ll also chat about the real power of self-care and how having support can help us grow. Self-care isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a personal journey unique to each of us.
Thank you for being on this journey with me. As we close this season and look forward to the next, let’s carry a message of hope and remember: letting go of past regrets frees us to be there for ourselves and others fully.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And our biggest thing is we think that when we say I
need help is that we're notenough on our own, we're
incapable, we're weak, but itdoesn't mean any of that.
You're not weak for needinghelp.
You're more than enough justbecause you asked for help, and
the people in your life arethere to be that person for you.
(00:20):
Hey there, I'm Makita, a smalltown girl with dreams who
started a podcast with an oldheadset and a laptop at my
kitchen table and made my dreamscome true.
On my podcast, time for Teawith Makita, we chat about
living life unapologetically, onyour terms, from career advice,
entrepreneurship, relationshipsand everything in between.
(00:43):
This is your one-stop shop forreal conversations and
inspiration.
If you're looking forconnection, then you've found it
here.
Join me every Tuesday as wedive into those sometimes
hard-to-have conversations.
So grab your cup of tea orcoffee and get comfy, because
this is Time for Tea with Nikitaand the tea is definitely hot.
(01:05):
Ever feel like you need asuperpower boost of motivation
with exclusive tips and toolswith your goals in mind?
Well, say hello to your newinspiration hotspot the Tuesday
Tea Newsletter, your weeklyinfusion of big thinking energy
that will propel you to chaseyour wildest dreams and never
(01:25):
shy away from using the power ofyour voice.
Sign up for the Tuesday Teanewsletter today at
beautifullyunbalancedcom andelevate your goals to the next
level.
Welcome back.
It is definitely time for tea.
I'm your host, makita.
I just want to thank you somuch for sharing your time, your
space and, of course, youramazing energy with me.
I just want to thank you somuch for sharing your time, your
space and, of course, youramazing energy with me.
Wow, today has been such abeautiful day.
(01:48):
At the time of recording this,it is beautiful outside.
It's warm.
You know.
I got the opportunity to spendsome amazing time with both my
girls, my mom and my great niece, and we went to the park.
I played on the seesaw Like Ihaven't played on a seesaw in
years and it, to me, was justthose small moments of being
(02:10):
with family that really justgave me an opportunity to just
appreciate the small things inlife.
So, with all of that being said, welcome to the final episode
of this season of our podcast.
Now, throughout this season,we've explored the theme of
letting go.
I dive deep into topics likework-life balance,
(02:32):
self-acceptance, overcoming ourpast mistakes, redefining our
relationship with money andbattling imposter syndrome.
Today, we wrap up this journeyby reflecting on the power of
letting go and embracing change.
Personally, this season hasbeen transformative for me.
I've embarked on a journey ofself-discovery and growth.
(02:54):
I've learned some valuablelessons about what it means to
let go and to live authentically.
One of the biggest takeawaysfor me has been realizing that I
am enough just as I am, andthat leaning into the unknown
can lead to incredibleopportunities.
And no, it's not always easy.
(03:14):
When I started this year out andI picked my word of the year
letting go I knew that there wasa lot of things that I needed
to let go of.
This idea of not being enough,not doing enough, really was
taking like this.
I could feel it.
I could feel a shift, as if tosay all right, you've done the
(03:40):
work, it's time to let this go,it's time to step into it, it's
time to get over it.
It's time to step into it.
It's time to get over it.
Put your big girl pants on,lean into this uncomfortable
feeling and just know thatyou're going to be okay.
And that's what it was like.
I had this feeling of thingswere going to be taking place
(04:03):
that I could not control, and ashard as that is, that has been
the biggest lesson for me that Icannot control everything, no
matter how much I try that Ihave to be vulnerable, even
though I hate it.
Sometimes I have to show myscars and people do appreciate
it.
Though it may hurt, sometimesyou will be okay it.
(04:24):
Though it may hurt, sometimesyou will be okay.
As I shifted and leaned intothis year, I went through a
couple of heartbreaks.
I lost my best friend and I hadto learn how to navigate
without her, and it hasn't beeneasy.
I don't think when you losesomeone it's ever easy.
I don't think when you losesomeone it's ever easy, but you
(04:54):
do learn how to appreciate thetime that you had with them and
be thankful for every momentthat you did.
Now I've had a lot ofconversations with some very
amazing guests that have beentruly enlightening, from
discussing the pearls ofworkaholism, from discussing the
(05:18):
idea of all work and no play,from discussing the idea of all
work and no play, and embracingour true selves and letting go
of past regrets.
Each guest has brought a uniqueperspective on the theme of
what it means to let go, but onecommon thread has been the
importance of self-awareness andthe courage to let go of what
no longer serves us.
(05:42):
When I talk about working allthe time and feeling like you
can never hit, stop or pause,that you have to be on the
hamster wheel at all times ordisaster will strike.
This idea has taught me that ifI don't rest, if I don't show
(06:08):
up for me, then there is no wayI'm going to be able to show up
for anyone else.
I value my rest, I and if youtruly believe that you are
enough, then if you do your best, if you work as hard as you can
(06:32):
, you make the best decisionthat you can in the moment, then
it's a time when you have tohit pause, you have to step back
and it's okay.
And one of the things that I'velearned and I'm going to tell
you sometimes it's really hardto sit and not do anything, but
(06:55):
what I learned is that we can'tdo everything by ourselves.
You have to have help.
You have to be okay with sayingI need help and, though it's
one of the toughest things thatwe can ever do, it's one of the
most rewarding to know that thepeople you have in your life are
there waiting for you to letthem know you need their help so
(07:20):
they can return the favor andbe there for you like you're
always showing up for them.
And sometimes we want people toread our mind and just know
that we need their help.
But until we ask, no one wantsto assume you need help when you
don't.
And the idea of asking for helpcan be sometimes one of the
(07:44):
most vulnerable things that youcan do.
And our biggest thing is wethink that when we say I need
help is that we're not enough onour own, we're incapable, we're
weak.
But it doesn't mean any of that.
You're not weak for needinghelp.
(08:05):
You're more than enough justbecause you asked for help and
the people in your life arethere to be that person for you.
It's an episode in Grey'sAnatomy where Merteth is like
her and Yang.
(08:25):
She's like she's my person, herand Yang.
She's like she's my person andI'm like, yes, I know what that
means to have a person that youcan call any time of the day.
You can show up, you can beyour messy self, and they don't
care.
They just love you for beingyou, for all the things that
(08:49):
make you you.
They are for it, they are therefor it and they're just waiting
for you to say can you help me,can you be there for me, can
you be my person?
So I think I've really, I'vereally like felt like these
conversations went beyond justtalking, but a chance to
(09:15):
self-reflect, a chance to lookat our lives in a different way,
from a different perspective.
We all have regrets, but wealso know we can't change the
past.
We can only change how we reactthe next time that it happens,
and know that as we grow, as welearn, the more tools that we
(09:39):
have in our toolbox, the betterdecisions that we can make with
the information that we have.
Letting go of the belief that wemust constantly work and
sacrifice.
Sleep for success is crucial,and finding balance and
prioritizing self-care not onlyimproves your well-being, but
(10:00):
also enhances your productivityand your creativity.
Now I'm all about redefiningself-care.
I don't feel like self-carefits in a box.
Now I'm all about redefiningself-care.
I don't feel like self-carefits in a box.
I don't think there's aone-size-fits-all shoe.
The idea of self-care can looktotally different for each one
(10:21):
of us.
For some people, it's buyingyourself some flowers every
Friday.
For some of us, it's makingsure that we show up for
ourselves, that we take the timeout to do the little things
like meditate, journal, spendingtime with family and friends.
Self-care can look like sittingwith yourself in silence,
(10:49):
reminding yourself that you'reenough, reminding yourself that
you're enough, remindingyourself that you are valued.
Self-care can look like goahead and buying yourself that
outfit that you wanted, thatpurse that you've been eyeing.
Self-care can look like goingfor the job that you know you
(11:10):
deserve.
It could be speaking up foryourself when normally you shy
away from standing up.
You define it.
No one else and I think that'sthe biggest thing for me is
understanding and knowing that Ican define what self-care is
going to look like depending onhow I feel.
(11:32):
Each and day I get to change it.
Sometimes it's like adding anextra 10 minutes to my sleep.
Sometimes it's sitting in bedand doing nothing, just enjoying
the peace and quiet, the peaceand quiet.
(11:55):
And sometimes it looks likebuying my favorite ice cream and
not caring about anything elsebut delicious chocolate
gooeyness.
And that's okay too.
In this season we talked aboutimposter syndrome how it can be
crippling, but acknowledging ouraccomplishments and knowing our
worth when we let go ofself-doubt, it allows us to step
(12:18):
into our power and achieve ourgoals and imposter syndrome that
we.
I think one of the things wehave to understand is, when we
talk about imposter syndrome isthat we all feel it in some form
.
Some way, we all go throughperiods where we're like what am
I doing?
Who said I should be havingthis job?
And then reminding ourselvesthat we're more than equipped.
(12:39):
We're not supposed to knoweverything, but we're supposed
to learn and to grow, and wecan't evolve if we never give
ourselves a fair chance.
We also talked about the powerof leaning into the unknown and,
like I said earlier, leaninginto the unknown is not my
strong suit.
It's actually one of thetoughest things that I do.
(13:03):
Embracing uncertainty and takingrisks can lead to incredible
growth and discoveries, but italways seems easier when someone
else does it.
It's always great looking infrom the outside and cheering
someone else on, but it's muchharder to look in ourselves and
cheer ourselves on, because webuild up all these roadblocks
(13:25):
for ourselves.
Right, we can always see howsomeone else can do it and all
the people that they have intheir corner and all the great
attributes that they have, butit's much harder to look at
ourselves and say you got this.
Look at all of these thingsthat you've done and look at how
you've grown.
(13:46):
You can definitely step intothis.
You can do it.
It's stepping out of our comfortzone that opens us up to the
world of possibilities andrecognizing that when we're
doing something amazing, it'sgoing to be uncomfortable
because it's going to challengeus, and that's okay.
It's not pretty, sometimes it'svery messy, sometimes it looks
(14:11):
like coming home shedding tears,sometimes it looks like sitting
in the car wondering what yougot yourself into, and sometimes
it's like patting yourself onthe back saying I knew you could
do it all along, and I know youcan do it.
As we continue to lean into allthe uncomfortable moments, to
(14:34):
shift, to pivot, to change, theone thing I hope that you took
away from this season is thatyou're capable of amazing things
and that as you start to let goand peel back the layers, as
you lean into your uncomfortable, know that you're not alone,
that you have a team, a crew,your peeps, your person that is
(15:01):
cheering you on every step ofthe way.
As we wrap up this season, Iwant to express my gratitude to
each and every one of you, toeveryone that I saw, who've
embraced me, who has reminded methat each and every episode has
inspired them in some way, insome form.
(15:22):
I thank you and rememberletting go is not about giving
up, but rather about freeingyourself from what holds us back
.
And remember to stay tuned fornext season.
We will be exploring new themesas we continue our journey of
growth together.
And if you haven't listened tosome of the episodes that I
(15:44):
talked about, go back, catch upand remember the tea is always
hot.
All right, you guys, that's allthe tea that I have to spill
today, but please join me eachand every Tuesday as we spill
more delicious hot tea.
And if you've not yet connectedwith me on social, you know
where to find me.
(16:04):
Find me at Makita Smithunderscore on Instagram, makita
Smith on Facebook, and I can'twait to connect with you.
Dm me, send me a message, letme know how I can be there to
support you along the way.
All right, you guys, until nexttime, namaste.
And our biggest thing is we think that when we say I
need help is that we're notenough on our own, we're
incapable, we're weak, but itdoesn't mean any of that.
You're not weak for needinghelp.
You're more than enough justbecause you asked for help, and
the people in your life arethere to be that person for you.
(00:20):
Hey there, I'm Makita, a smalltown girl with dreams who
started a podcast with an oldheadset and a laptop at my
kitchen table and made my dreamscome true.
On my podcast, time for Teawith Makita, we chat about
living life unapologetically, onyour terms, from career advice,
entrepreneurship, relationshipsand everything in between.
(00:43):
This is your one-stop shop forreal conversations and
inspiration.
If you're looking forconnection, then you've found it
here.
Join me every Tuesday as wedive into those sometimes
hard-to-have conversations.
So grab your cup of tea orcoffee and get comfy, because
this is Time for Tea with Nikitaand the tea is definitely hot.
(01:05):
Ever feel like you need asuperpower boost of motivation
with exclusive tips and toolswith your goals in mind?
Well, say hello to your newinspiration hotspot the Tuesday
Tea Newsletter, your weeklyinfusion of big thinking energy
that will propel you to chaseyour wildest dreams and never
(01:25):
shy away from using the power ofyour voice.
Sign up for the Tuesday Teanewsletter today at
beautifullyunbalancedcom andelevate your goals to the next
level.
Welcome back.
It is definitely time for tea.
I'm your host, makita.
I just want to thank you somuch for sharing your time, your
space and, of course, youramazing energy with me.
I just want to thank you somuch for sharing your time, your
space and, of course, youramazing energy with me.
Wow, today has been such abeautiful day.
(01:48):
At the time of recording this,it is beautiful outside.
It's warm.
You know.
I got the opportunity to spendsome amazing time with both my
girls, my mom and my great niece, and we went to the park.
I played on the seesaw Like Ihaven't played on a seesaw in
years and it, to me, was justthose small moments of being
(02:10):
with family that really justgave me an opportunity to just
appreciate the small things inlife.
So, with all of that being said, welcome to the final episode
of this season of our podcast.
Now, throughout this season,we've explored the theme of
letting go.
I dive deep into topics likework-life balance,
(02:32):
self-acceptance, overcoming ourpast mistakes, redefining our
relationship with money andbattling imposter syndrome.
Today, we wrap up this journeyby reflecting on the power of
letting go and embracing change.
Personally, this season hasbeen transformative for me.
I've embarked on a journey ofself-discovery and growth.
(02:54):
I've learned some valuablelessons about what it means to
let go and to live authentically.
One of the biggest takeawaysfor me has been realizing that I
am enough just as I am, andthat leaning into the unknown
can lead to incredibleopportunities.
And no, it's not always easy.
(03:14):
When I started this year out andI picked my word of the year
letting go I knew that there wasa lot of things that I needed
to let go of.
This idea of not being enough,not doing enough, really was
taking like this.
I could feel it.
I could feel a shift, as if tosay all right, you've done the
(03:40):
work, it's time to let this go,it's time to step into it, it's
time to get over it.
It's time to step into it.
It's time to get over it.
Put your big girl pants on,lean into this uncomfortable
feeling and just know thatyou're going to be okay.
And that's what it was like.
I had this feeling of thingswere going to be taking place
(04:03):
that I could not control, and ashard as that is, that has been
the biggest lesson for me that Icannot control everything, no
matter how much I try that Ihave to be vulnerable, even
though I hate it.
Sometimes I have to show myscars and people do appreciate
it.
Though it may hurt, sometimesyou will be okay it.
(04:24):
Though it may hurt, sometimesyou will be okay.
As I shifted and leaned intothis year, I went through a
couple of heartbreaks.
I lost my best friend and I hadto learn how to navigate
without her, and it hasn't beeneasy.
I don't think when you losesomeone it's ever easy.
I don't think when you losesomeone it's ever easy, but you
(04:54):
do learn how to appreciate thetime that you had with them and
be thankful for every momentthat you did.
Now I've had a lot ofconversations with some very
amazing guests that have beentruly enlightening, from
discussing the pearls ofworkaholism, from discussing the
(05:18):
idea of all work and no play,from discussing the idea of all
work and no play, and embracingour true selves and letting go
of past regrets.
Each guest has brought a uniqueperspective on the theme of
what it means to let go, but onecommon thread has been the
importance of self-awareness andthe courage to let go of what
no longer serves us.
(05:42):
When I talk about working allthe time and feeling like you
can never hit, stop or pause,that you have to be on the
hamster wheel at all times ordisaster will strike.
This idea has taught me that ifI don't rest, if I don't show
(06:08):
up for me, then there is no wayI'm going to be able to show up
for anyone else.
I value my rest, I and if youtruly believe that you are
enough, then if you do your best, if you work as hard as you can
(06:32):
, you make the best decisionthat you can in the moment, then
it's a time when you have tohit pause, you have to step back
and it's okay.
And one of the things that I'velearned and I'm going to tell
you sometimes it's really hardto sit and not do anything, but
(06:55):
what I learned is that we can'tdo everything by ourselves.
You have to have help.
You have to be okay with sayingI need help and, though it's
one of the toughest things thatwe can ever do, it's one of the
most rewarding to know that thepeople you have in your life are
there waiting for you to letthem know you need their help so
(07:20):
they can return the favor andbe there for you like you're
always showing up for them.
And sometimes we want people toread our mind and just know
that we need their help.
But until we ask, no one wantsto assume you need help when you
don't.
And the idea of asking for helpcan be sometimes one of the
(07:44):
most vulnerable things that youcan do.
And our biggest thing is wethink that when we say I need
help is that we're not enough onour own, we're incapable, we're
weak.
But it doesn't mean any of that.
You're not weak for needinghelp.
(08:05):
You're more than enough justbecause you asked for help and
the people in your life arethere to be that person for you.
It's an episode in Grey'sAnatomy where Merteth is like
her and Yang.
(08:25):
She's like she's my person, herand Yang.
She's like she's my person andI'm like, yes, I know what that
means to have a person that youcan call any time of the day.
You can show up, you can beyour messy self, and they don't
care.
They just love you for beingyou, for all the things that
(08:49):
make you you.
They are for it, they are therefor it and they're just waiting
for you to say can you help me,can you be there for me, can
you be my person?
So I think I've really, I'vereally like felt like these
conversations went beyond justtalking, but a chance to
(09:15):
self-reflect, a chance to lookat our lives in a different way,
from a different perspective.
We all have regrets, but wealso know we can't change the
past.
We can only change how we reactthe next time that it happens,
and know that as we grow, as welearn, the more tools that we
(09:39):
have in our toolbox, the betterdecisions that we can make with
the information that we have.
Letting go of the belief that wemust constantly work and
sacrifice.
Sleep for success is crucial,and finding balance and
prioritizing self-care not onlyimproves your well-being, but
(10:00):
also enhances your productivityand your creativity.
Now I'm all about redefiningself-care.
I don't feel like self-carefits in a box.
Now I'm all about redefiningself-care.
I don't feel like self-carefits in a box.
I don't think there's aone-size-fits-all shoe.
The idea of self-care can looktotally different for each one
(10:21):
of us.
For some people, it's buyingyourself some flowers every
Friday.
For some of us, it's makingsure that we show up for
ourselves, that we take the timeout to do the little things
like meditate, journal, spendingtime with family and friends.
Self-care can look like sittingwith yourself in silence,
(10:49):
reminding yourself that you'reenough, reminding yourself that
you're enough, remindingyourself that you are valued.
Self-care can look like goahead and buying yourself that
outfit that you wanted, thatpurse that you've been eyeing.
Self-care can look like goingfor the job that you know you
(11:10):
deserve.
It could be speaking up foryourself when normally you shy
away from standing up.
You define it.
No one else and I think that'sthe biggest thing for me is
understanding and knowing that Ican define what self-care is
going to look like depending onhow I feel.
(11:32):
Each and day I get to change it.
Sometimes it's like adding anextra 10 minutes to my sleep.
Sometimes it's sitting in bedand doing nothing, just enjoying
the peace and quiet, the peaceand quiet.
(11:55):
And sometimes it looks likebuying my favorite ice cream and
not caring about anything elsebut delicious chocolate
gooeyness.
And that's okay too.
In this season we talked aboutimposter syndrome how it can be
crippling, but acknowledging ouraccomplishments and knowing our
worth when we let go ofself-doubt, it allows us to step
(12:18):
into our power and achieve ourgoals and imposter syndrome that
we.
I think one of the things wehave to understand is, when we
talk about imposter syndrome isthat we all feel it in some form
.
Some way, we all go throughperiods where we're like what am
I doing?
Who said I should be havingthis job?
And then reminding ourselvesthat we're more than equipped.
(12:39):
We're not supposed to knoweverything, but we're supposed
to learn and to grow, and wecan't evolve if we never give
ourselves a fair chance.
We also talked about the powerof leaning into the unknown and,
like I said earlier, leaninginto the unknown is not my
strong suit.
It's actually one of thetoughest things that I do.
(13:03):
Embracing uncertainty and takingrisks can lead to incredible
growth and discoveries, but italways seems easier when someone
else does it.
It's always great looking infrom the outside and cheering
someone else on, but it's muchharder to look in ourselves and
cheer ourselves on, because webuild up all these roadblocks
(13:25):
for ourselves.
Right, we can always see howsomeone else can do it and all
the people that they have intheir corner and all the great
attributes that they have, butit's much harder to look at
ourselves and say you got this.
Look at all of these thingsthat you've done and look at how
you've grown.
(13:46):
You can definitely step intothis.
You can do it.
It's stepping out of our comfortzone that opens us up to the
world of possibilities andrecognizing that when we're
doing something amazing, it'sgoing to be uncomfortable
because it's going to challengeus, and that's okay.
It's not pretty, sometimes it'svery messy, sometimes it looks
(14:11):
like coming home shedding tears,sometimes it looks like sitting
in the car wondering what yougot yourself into, and sometimes
it's like patting yourself onthe back saying I knew you could
do it all along, and I know youcan do it.
As we continue to lean into allthe uncomfortable moments, to
(14:34):
shift, to pivot, to change, theone thing I hope that you took
away from this season is thatyou're capable of amazing things
and that as you start to let goand peel back the layers, as
you lean into your uncomfortable, know that you're not alone,
that you have a team, a crew,your peeps, your person that is
(15:01):
cheering you on every step ofthe way.
As we wrap up this season, Iwant to express my gratitude to
each and every one of you, toeveryone that I saw, who've
embraced me, who has reminded methat each and every episode has
inspired them in some way, insome form.
(15:22):
I thank you and rememberletting go is not about giving
up, but rather about freeingyourself from what holds us back
.
And remember to stay tuned fornext season.
We will be exploring new themesas we continue our journey of
growth together.
And if you haven't listened tosome of the episodes that I
(15:44):
talked about, go back, catch upand remember the tea is always
hot.
All right, you guys, that's allthe tea that I have to spill
today, but please join me eachand every Tuesday as we spill
more delicious hot tea.
And if you've not yet connectedwith me on social, you know
where to find me.
(16:04):
Find me at Makita Smithunderscore on Instagram, makita
Smith on Facebook, and I can'twait to connect with you.
Dm me, send me a message, letme know how I can be there to
support you along the way.
All right, you guys, until nexttime, namaste.
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