Till The Wheels Fall Off

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If you’ve heard this from a partner or found yourself asking it, this episode breaks down exactly why rebuilding trust isn’t a single moment. It’s a layered process that takes time, consistency, and real change.

In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige walk you through the four essential layers of trust that had to be rebuilt after addiction nearly destroyed their relationship:

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Trust gets asked about all the time. “How do I trust them again?”  But that question is usually hiding something deeper, like “How do I stop feeling anxious?” or “How do I get back to normal?” In this audio newsletter, Matt talks about why that question might be the wrong place to start.

This episode touches on the neuroscience and evolutionary basis of trust - why your brain wants to reconnect wi...

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige gets real about something many of us are doing in the name of healing: self-monitoring everything—our sleep, food, steps, moods, routines. What starts as a tool for awareness can quickly turn into another form of anxiety and self-doubt, especially for those recovering from relational trauma.

Paige shares her personal story of ditching her Apple Watch, ...

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Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Why don’t they just leave?

In this raw and powerful episode, Matt and Paige break down the complex psychological tactics that manipulators use to keep their partners stuck—DARVO, gaslighting, love bombing, guilt-tripping, isolation, and more. Inspired by recent high-profile stories, they connect the dots between emotional abuse in the public eye and wha...

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Self-care isn’t always candles and calm. In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige breaks down what real self-care actually looks like—and calls out the way many people use self-care as a cover for avoidance. From the difference between self-care and self-indulgence to the six key categories (mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, environmental, and social), you’ll learn how to tell if your ...

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In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationship...

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You’ve rewritten the message in your notes app a dozen times. You’ve softened your tone, used “I” statements, stayed calm, and begged them to meet you halfway—but nothing changes. In this episode, Paige breaks down the hard truth: most of you don’t have a communication problem. You have a respect problem. A values problem. A partner who’s not ready—or willing—to show up.

We explore why so many peo...

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In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige take on one of the most controversial topics in the recovery world - the disease model of addiction. Is it a disease? Yes. But is it an excuse? Absolutely not. They break down the origins of the disease model, where it helps, where it massively fails, and how it’s been weaponized to avoid accountability and silence those harmed by addict...

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It’s May—aka Maycember—that time of year when school events, sports, recitals, end-of-year chaos, and mental overload all collide. If you're feeling stretched thin, resentful, or like you might snap over a missed sign-up genius… you're not alone.

In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m talking about the emotional weight of this season, what you can give yourself grace on, and what sh...

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 The recovery world loves to talk about healing, but what about the people most impacted by the chaos? In this brutally honest episode, Matt and Paige pull back the curtain on what treatment centers, therapists, and traditional recovery programs often miss: the spouse’s experience.

Why are partners immediately labeled codependent? Why is their anger pathologized while the addict’s pain is protecte...

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You don’t need more clarity. You need permission to trust what you already know.

This episode is about cutting through the noise, the over-explaining, and the endless justifications. Paige brings it back to the basics: it’s not about the substance — it’s about the behavior. Always has been.

You’ll hear the truth about how we overcomplicate addiction by focusing on trauma, diagnoses, and potential w...

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If life feels impossibly heavy right now, you’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. In this episode, we unpack why so many people are struggling with their mental health in 2025 and why blame - whether it’s directed at politics, finances, partners, or the system - often becomes a trap that keeps us stuck.

We don’t sugarcoat the chaos, but we also won’t leave you without a roadmap. From high-agency t...

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Mother’s Day can feel complicated, especially when life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Maybe you’re raising kids alone. Maybe your partner is deep in addiction. Maybe you have an unequal partner and just feel all the feels.

In this episode, I talk directly to the women who feel unseen, forgotten, or unappreciated on a day that’s meant to celebrate them. We’ll walk through five gentle s...

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This episode isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s not about getting the outcome you’re hoping for. It’s about you - how you respond when you're frustrated, dismissed, overwhelmed, or ignored. We’re talking tone, delivery, body language, and why 93% of communication has nothing to do with the words you use. Whether you’re arguing with a partner in active addiction, managing stress at work, o...

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In this special audio edition of the newsletter, Matt shares a listener story that’s all too familiar: someone begins the work: therapy, sobriety, growth - but eventually hits a wall and stops. What do you do when your partner says things like “I’m tired of doing the work” or “What if this is the best I get?” How do you support someone without enabling them? How do you hold space without losing y...

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re cutting through the noise and getting back to the basics — because somewhere along the way, we started overcomplicating what’s right in front of us.

Addiction. Trauma. ADHD. Nervous system dysregulation. You name it — there’s a label for every behavior now, and we’ve been trained to see the story before we see the impact. But here’s the thing:
Beh...

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In this powerful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood concepts in recovery and relationships: natural consequences. We unpack the difference between allowing natural consequences versus trying to teach lessons or punish, and why intentions matter so much.

We share real-life examples - from substance abuse, lying, and emotional unavailability to paren...

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This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid accountability by flipping the script and making you question your reality. You’ll learn what DARVO looks like, why it happens, and how to spot it in both loud and subtle forms (even the sweet, guilt-soaked kind that sounds like love but isn’t). I’ll also share what healthy accountability sound...

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Matt sits down for an unfiltered, no-holds-barred conversation about the moment everything changed - the exact point he knew he couldn’t lie one more time, couldn’t hide one more day, and had to choose either transformation or destruction. Paige asks the raw questions our listeners always want answered: What finally made you get sober? What was rock bottom really like? Do you ever miss that life?...