Till The Wheels Fall Off

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This week on Mindset Monday, Matt takes on one of the biggest traps we fall into—waiting for the “right time.” Whether it’s getting sober, leaving a toxic relationship, or simply taking the next step toward the life you want, we convince ourselves that better conditions will magically arrive to make change easier. The truth? Rock bottom isn’t some tragic event - it’s the moment you stop digging.

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I share why I don’t like talking about addiction — and why I believe it’s often just a convenient cover for behaviors that need to be addressed no matter what. Too often we focus on understanding addiction, thinking it will give us the answers we need to heal, when the truth is, those behaviors exist with or without the substance. I talk about my own experi...

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In this follow-up to one of our most popular episodes, Matt dives deeper into the questions wives, girlfriends, and partners send in about men, addiction, recovery, and relationships. From understanding why logic rarely works with someone in active addiction, to how appreciation, boundaries, and emotional support really land with men, this episode covers it all - the raw truth, the uncomfortable ...

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In this Mindset Monday, Matt takes men beyond sobriety into the deeper work that actually rebuilds trust and creates lasting change. Drawing from his own journey of repairing his marriage after a decade of addiction, he unpacks the five components of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, social skills, empathy, and motivation. He contrasts them with the destructive patterns of ...

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In this week’s episode of Paige’s Perspective, I unpack a quote from Ted Lasso that stopped me in my tracks: “This didn’t happen to me; it happened for me.” I talk about what it’s like to sit with anger, resentment, and grief (even after years of healing) and why it’s okay to not be grateful for the pain itself, but still be proud of the person it shaped.

From learning to trust your gut, to settin...

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If you’ve ever wanted to understand what was actually going on in my head when I was lying, numbing, and pretending to change, this is the episode to save or reference back to. I'm not an authority on all of the questions you may have about your addicted loved one, but I've been through it myself and walked through it with countless people over the years and I hope it's insightful.

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This episode is for the man standing at the crossroads, the one who knows the truth but hasn’t taken action yet. The one who’s tired of lying to everyone, especially himself.

Matt gets brutally honest about what it really takes to change...not just to get sober, but to become the kind of man you can respect. The kind of man you promised you'd be.

He dives into the comfort of dysfunction, the i...

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In this powerful follow-up to our recent episode on family dynamics, we go deeper into what it’s like to grow up in a dysfunctional family system and what it takes to break free. We talk about emotionally immature parents, the painful dynamics of enmeshment, and the subtle but lasting damage of emotional neglect.

If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” had to parent your parents, or felt ...

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In this deeply honest Mindset Monday episode, Matt speaks directly to the men who find themselves stuck in the messy middle of knowing they need to change but not knowing how. Whether it’s addiction, emotional immaturity, broken trust, or just being a shell of the man you hoped to be—saying “I don’t know” might be real, but it’s not where the journey ends.

Matt shares the stages of change, calls o...

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We don’t talk enough about how hard the “normal” stuff can feel when you’re coming out of survival mode. In this episode, I’m diving into the power of micro-wins; why they matter, why we dismiss them, and how they help retrain your brain and rebuild your sense of safety. This one’s for anyone who feels stuck, unseen, or like they’re not doing enough. You are. Let me show you.

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This episode dives into one of the hardest issues couples face in recovery: toxic family dynamics. Is your spouse enabled by their family, are they kept under control or in the family system because of wealth? This one's for you.

We’re talking about the emotional chaos that comes when one partner sees the dysfunction and the other doesn’t. We cover enmeshment, financial control, emo...

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In this audio newsletter (or maybe Mindset Mondays - still not sure here...working title), Matt tackles one of the most misunderstood and misused ideas in recovery: Step 9’s infamous “except when to do so would injure them or others” clause. Too often, this line becomes a get-out-of-accountability-free card used to avoid hard conversations, hide the truth, and protect ego instead of healing relat...

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In this honest follow-up to Wheelie Rehab, Paige shares where she’s at in her nervous system reset—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. From slow mornings and ASMR background vibes to decluttering closets and skipping caffeine, she’s rebuilding structure to save herself from burnout. But this episode is about more than routines; it’s about reclaiming your life before it crumbles. P...

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Sobriety changes everything. Not just for the person getting sober, but for the relationship too. In this episode, Matt and Paige talk about what really happens when the chaos ends, the roles shift, and the people in the relationship start to realize they're not who they used to be.

Some relationships were built on survival, not stability. And once sobriety enters the picture, everything gets...

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This one’s for the guys who never ask, and for the partners who wish they would. I answered 12 of the most honest, uncomfortable, and important questions I get asked (usually in DMs) from men trying to figure out who the hell they are, how to change, and how to make things right.

We’re talking shame, trust, accountability, marriage, relapse, what Paige actually did that helped, and whether love is...

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This week’s Paige’s Perspective isn’t polished; it’s personal. I’m in the middle of a full-blown nervous system reset because burnout caught up with me, and pushing through stopped working. I talk about overwhelm, guilt, hustle culture, and why I’ve traded productivity for consistency, structure, naps, and sun. If you’ve ever felt like your system is shot and you just want to hide under a rock, t...

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In this episode, we talk with a guest who opens up about the quiet, painful, and often invisible process of leaving a long-term relationship with someone struggling with addiction. This is not a story of one big moment. It’s about years of internal conflict, emotional detachment, financial planning, and facing the truth that love alone wasn't going to fix it.

She shares what it felt like to c...

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about something most healing journeys overlook—validation. You’ve probably heard things like “just trust yourself” or “you don’t need anyone else’s opinion.” But what if you’ve been gaslit, manipulated, blamed, and lied to by someone you loved? What if you spent years questioning your own reality?

Here’s the truth: you do need external validati...

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This might be one of our most important conversations yet.

In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige take a deeper look at how patriarchy still influences recovery, relationships, and the systems that claim to support healing. We break down how women are often expected to stay silent, show grace, and be endlessly patient, even in situations that cause deep emotional harm.

We explo...