Till The Wheels Fall Off

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In this powerful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood concepts in recovery and relationships: natural consequences. We unpack the difference between allowing natural consequences versus trying to teach lessons or punish, and why intentions matter so much.

We share real-life examples - from substance abuse, lying, and emotional unavailability to paren...

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This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid accountability by flipping the script and making you question your reality. You’ll learn what DARVO looks like, why it happens, and how to spot it in both loud and subtle forms (even the sweet, guilt-soaked kind that sounds like love but isn’t). I’ll also share what healthy accountability sound...

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Matt sits down for an unfiltered, no-holds-barred conversation about the moment everything changed - the exact point he knew he couldn’t lie one more time, couldn’t hide one more day, and had to choose either transformation or destruction. Paige asks the raw questions our listeners always want answered: What finally made you get sober? What was rock bottom really like? Do you ever miss that life?...

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You’ve said it. Maybe weekly.
 “He’s just stressed.”
 “He only acts like this when he’s drinking.”
 “That's just how they were raised.”

But here’s the truth: just because you’ve gotten used to it… doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

In this episode, Paige breaks down the quiet ways we minimize emotional abuse and excuse hurtful behavior—especially in relationships shaped by addiction, traum...

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We all screw up, but how you respond to a mistake says way more about you than the mistake itself. In this episode, we have a raw, honest conversation about emotional regulation, accountability, and how to bounce back after you’ve messed up. Whether it’s a bad tone with your kids or a history of bigger mistakes like addiction or abuse, this episode explores how to repair, rebuild, and move forwar...

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Do you ever feel afraid to love yourself? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this episode, Paige gets real about the fear, discomfort, and confusion that often comes with the concept of self-love. She unpacks why loving yourself can feel unsafe, selfish, or even threatening depending on your past, your programming, and your current relationships.

From trauma bonds to people-pleasing, and f...

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Revenge might feel good for a moment—but what does it really get you? In this raw and hilarious episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we unpack the difference between being petty and being powerful. From glitter bombs to passive-aggressive laundry comments to clapback culture on social media, they explore why pettiness is so seductive (especially after betrayal or injustice) and why it ultimately ...

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In this episode, Paige gets real about the toll social media can take on our nervous systems, identity, and sense of reality. Inspired by a quote—“Normal is 7 hours of screen time a day”—she opens up about why she’s taking a step back, how social media may create low-agency behavior, and what it really means to get back to the basics.

This isn’t a lecture—it’s a wake-up call for anyone feeling ove...

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In Part Two of our High Agency series, Matt and Paige dive even deeper into what it really means to live a high agency life—and what gets in the way.

We unpack the traps that keep people stuck: the vague trap, the midwit trap, the rumination trap, and the overwhelm trap. You’ll hear how overthinking and searching for the perfect, risk-free solution leaves people paralyzed, stuck in fantasy instead...

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“What if they relapse?” “What if I mess up?” “What if everything falls apart?” If those questions live rent-free in your mind, this episode is for you. I’ll show you how one simple shift—from “What if” to “Even if”—can change the way you cope with stress, fear, and uncertainty. You’ll hear mindset exercises, honest stories, and practical ways to handle life when it doesn’t go according to plan. B...

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In this solo episode, Matt breaks down the core beliefs that define high agency—an empowering mindset rooted in action, clarity, and personal responsibility. Inspired by George Mack’s High Agency essay, Matt explores five foundational beliefs that high agency people carry and shares practical exercises you can start using today to apply them in your own life.

You’ll learn:
 – Why leaving isn’t...

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If silence makes you restless, anxious, or uneasy, you’re not alone. For many, silence isn’t peaceful. The second things get quiet, all the thoughts, emotions, and fears we’ve been avoiding start creeping in. And if you’ve been living in survival mode, silence doesn’t feel safe, it feels like the calm before the next storm.

But what if silence isn’t something to fear? What if sitting in it is actu...

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Has common sense officially left the building? In this unapologetically real episode, we dive into why people are more confused than ever despite having access to endless information. From the rise of pop psychology trends and over-pathologizing human behavior to the pitfalls of therapy culture and self-diagnosis spirals, we break down how modern society has made everything way more complicated t...

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If you’ve loved someone struggling with addiction—whether you’re still in the relationship or you’ve left—the fear of rejection can feel overwhelming. It’s not just about someone saying “no,” it feels personal. It feels like proof that you weren’t enough. But what if rejection isn’t what you think it is? In this episode, I break down how unhealthy relationships mess with your sense of self-worth,...

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We get it—healing feels like something you have to do alone. But what if that’s exactly what’s keeping you stuck? In this episode, we’re breaking down why community isn’t just helpful—it’s essential. We saw it firsthand this past weekend, and we’re here to tell you that if you’re not already part of a supportive group, you’re missing out.

We’re talking about why connecting with others speeds up yo...

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Do you feel like you're constantly battling anxiety, even when there’s no real threat? In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re diving into irrational anxiety—when fear and worry take over your mind despite the lack of actual danger. I share my personal journey with anxiety, the bandaid solutions that didn’t work, and the hard truths that finally helped me break free.

We’ll discuss how t...

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Are your feelings keeping you stuck? Whether you’re a spouse of an addict waiting for them to change, someone considering divorce but trapped by fear, struggling with weight loss, or trying to build a better career or life—you might be making one crucial mistake: waiting for the right feeling to take action.

In this episode, we challenge the dangerous myth that motivation is the key to success. It...

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Are your emotions guiding you or controlling you? In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we break down the difference between feeling your emotions and being ruled by them.

You’ve heard us say “Feel the Feels,” but also “Eff your feelings.” So which one is it? Both. Emotional regulation isn’t about ignoring feelings or letting them dictate your actions—it’s about finding the middle ground.

We’ll t...

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What makes a great relationship? Is it knowing everything about your partner, or is it feeling truly known by them? In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dig deep into what it means to be seen, heard, and understood in our closest relationships.

Drawing from personal experiences, text conversations, and research—including a study that confirms feeling known by your partner is a stronger ...