Till The Wheels Fall Off

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re breaking down what it really means to regulate your nervous system and why practices like mindfulness and deep breathing won’t cut it if you’re still stuck in toxic situations. Paige explores how your environment and relationships shape your stress response, why temporary fixes can only take you so far, and the real changes you need to make to feel sa...

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In Part 3 of our anger series, we talk about the kind of anger that shows up after the relationship ends, when there’s more space, more clarity, and for a lot of people, a brutal realization of what you actually lived through. This is the anger that confuses you because you wanted peace. You thought leaving would automatically bring closure. But instead, your mind starts connecting dots: the patt...

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In this Mindset Monday, I’m answering a handful of listener questions that all point to the same thing.

You can be doing everything right and still feel off.

We talk about the loneliness that shows up not just during addiction, but during recovery too. Being home with the kids while your partner is in meetings, rebuilding, doing what they need to do. You’re proud of them. You wanted this. But it st...

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about the power of change and choices. How many times have you thought, “I’ve messed up. I’ll never change. I’ll never be enough”? Maybe it was after snapping at your kids, numbing out with your phone, or slipping back into an old pattern.

One bad moment doesn’t define you. It’s what you choose to do next that matters. Neuroscience shows us tha...

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Many partners expect relief when sobriety begins.
Instead, they may feel confused, guilty, and angry when everything is finally going well.

In this episode, Matt and Paige explore why anger often surfaces months or even years into recovery, not during the chaos itself. They break down how survival mode suppresses emotion, why the brain protects relationships through betrayal blindness, and how...

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So incredibly gracious for your understanding as we navigate the crazy schedules of youth sports and rework some of our older and favorite episodes. You can bet on us being back and better than every with new lessons, episodes, and perspectives as soon as we can come up for air and breathe a bit!

In this Mindset Monday episode, we’re calling out one of the most common excuses people use to avoid c...

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige goes back to something she rarely shares… her story.

Not the polished version. Not the “we made it through” version. The real one.

What it was like falling in love at 14, building a life together, and slowly realizing something wasn’t right. The confusion, the minimizing, the lies, the loneliness, and the moment everything finally came to the surface.

Sh...

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In part one of our three-part anger series, we are talking about what anger really is when you are living with someone in active addiction, emotional immaturity, or someone who may be sober but still completely unhealed.

Too many people have been taught that anger means they are bitter, toxic, dramatic, or “the problem.” But anger is often the part of you that knows something is wrong. It is the e...

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A classic replay for the absolutely insanely busy life we're living right now. 

I love this episode because it offers inspiration to those that are looking at their current life and a life of sobriety and wondering how it could ever happen...I promise you, it's possible and YOU can do this!

Getting sober is one thing. Staying sober - living sober in a world where alcohol is everywhere - i...

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I break down the difference between eustress (productive stress that builds resilience) and unsafe stress (toxic, chronic stress that erodes your health and peace). We’ll explore why your body often confuses the two, how adrenaline and cortisol show up in both, and the key markers that help you recognize whether stress is shaping you or breaking you.

You’ll ...

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Some people think our podcast is dangerous because it gives women standards, challenges unhealthy relationships, and forces hard conversations to happen.

In this episode, Matt responds to criticism that TWFO “ruins marriages” by making spouses more aware of manipulation, dishonesty, emotional abuse, and the reality of what they are living with.

He talks about why honesty, accountability, transparen...

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When addiction, trauma, or abuse shape your life, how much of that story is yours to share? In this raw and thought-provoking episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we tackle the controversial question of whether speaking out about your experiences is an act of healing or betrayal.

Too often, spouses of addicts are told to stay silent, to protect reputations, or to keep family struggles private. But...

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In this re-released Mindset Monday episode, Matt talks about one of the hardest parts of recovery and relationships: opening up.

This one’s for both sides of the table - the person who’s sober but still hiding, and the partner who’s done begging for honesty.

If you’re trying to rebuild, this is how we did it.

If you’ve already walked away, this may remind you why you made that choice.

I break down wh...

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In this week’s Paige’s Perspective, Paige talks about why so many spouses and partners become consumed with trying to understand addiction, trauma, mental health, or someone else’s past while slowly losing themselves in the process.

This episode is not about judging people for having trauma or struggles. It is about recognizing that understanding someone does not mean excusing their behavior.

Paige...

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Phrases such as "We just need to move forward," "The past is the past, get over it," "Stop bringing up the past" may have a time and place, but not in your relationship post-addiction or after betrayal of any kind. Emotions buried alive never die. While it may be difficult to discuss the past, it's important to discuss it for accountability and to set the stage ...

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In this episode, we’re talking about sex, intimacy, and the way so many men are taught to treat sex like the only way to feel loved, connected, reassured, or validated in a relationship. We’ll discuss why men and women often experience sex differently, why many men struggle to connect emotionally in other ways, and how sex can become a bargaining chip in relationships affected by addiction. We’ll...

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about something a lot of us struggle with… taking on other people’s emotions.

When someone we love is upset, it can feel automatic to fix it, manage it, or take responsibility for it. Over time, that leaves you exhausted and disconnected from yourself.

This episode is about learning how to let people feel without taking it on as your own.

We’ll b...

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Breaking free from generational cycles isn't just about addiction—it’s about rewiring everything you were conditioned to believe: how you communicate, how you cope, how you parent, and how you love. In this episode, we dive deep into what it really means to break toxic patterns, why it’s so hard, and how to measure progress. We explore the grief that comes with leaving behind the family dyna...

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This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid accountability by flipping the script and making you question your reality. You’ll learn what DARVO looks like, why it happens, and how to spot it in both loud and subtle forms (even the sweet, guilt-soaked kind that sounds like love but isn’t). I’ll also share what healthy accountability sound...