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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You've loved Timeless and Unfiltered to this point,
and we can't wait to share more.
Today, we're giving you thebest moments of what we shared
thus far Enjoy.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
This is Lagra.
This is Stephanie.
This is Cherie.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And this is Ivanya, and this is Evania.
And this is Timeless andUnfiltered, where we are
spilling the tea on midlife, onelaugh at a time.
Damn, we got kids Y'all makingus talk about the kids.
Well, I am Legra.
I am the creator of Timelessand Unfiltered, since we talking
(00:43):
about children.
I have one son who happens tobe the EP of our show.
Unfiltered, since we talkedabout children.
I have one son who happens tobe the EP.
he's the best and I have anadopted son.
You don't know it yet.
He's my adopted son.
I am a little bit everything.
I'm a serial entrepreneur andI'm just.
(01:04):
This idea just came in my mindbecause I am 55.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
And looking fine.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Lifetime fanny.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
And looking fine, yeah, come on.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
But something happened about 50.
Something happened about 50.
There was a shift in theatmosphere.
I wasn't a hot girl, no more.
You still are, you are.
I am to the youngins now.
I don't get carded anymore.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I'm a lot of things.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
I work hard, I work a lot, and now I'm co-host and I
am finding my voice.
I am blossoming, I'm growing.
And now I'm co-host Yay, and Iam finding my voice.
I am blossoming, I'm growingand I'm just so proud to be here
with you, ladies.
Aww, I'm sorry I forgot to talkabout my kids.
Oh okay, go ahead, go watchyour kids.
I got kids, three of them.
The body made me feel like shit.
She's like am I mother?
Speaker 5 (02:07):
I was like shit disregarded my children.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I had three children.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I love them.
I didn't either.
So three daughters, beautifuldaughters, adults, damn it right
.
Well, let's kind of tell them alittle bit how our, our podcast
is going to work.
Yeah, oh yeah we're going totalk about some topics.
You guys can suggest topics forus.
Oh wait, I'm sorry, I forgot tointroduce our fifth co-host.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Oh, I'm looking in your eyeball.
I know right your hair.
I'm like where is it?
I don't see it.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I know this is our fifth co-host because of the hot
flashes.
Hello midlife, the hot flashes.
You will see this come outquite often.
I usually try to slide it in onthe side or something, but uh,
you'll see, you'll see our fifthco-host this fan this is real
and raw real and raw because Iwill melt in front of this
camera if I don't have it.
(02:50):
So this, my fan follows meeverywhere and you'll, you'll
hear, uh, stephanie a few timeswith some of her little weird um
, and we gonna say weird they'retrue, her little, weird little
ways of fixing things.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
It's true.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Scientifically I'm a nerd.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
It's true, like clutching your butt cheeks if
you're going to cry Hiccups, howto stop the hiccups?
How to stop the hiccups, andI've just seen that if you lay,
if you're gassy, if you sleep onyour stomach and lift your butt
, that'll help with the release.
What See?
Okay, we doing the red.
(03:38):
No, might as well we in therenow.
I'm sick and tired of being inthe box.
I'm also sick and tired of if Ipee I mean not if I cough or
sneeze a pee on myself.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Sorry, it's gonna happen to everybody not being
included, not on the couch.
Not only don't laugh hard, it'sgonna happen.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Um, I'm sick and tired of the younger women
coming up to me saying auntie, Ihave 12 nieces and 12 nephews.
You're not one of them, sodon't call me auntie.
I'm tired of my kids making mefeel older than what I am.
It's the little running joke.
We need to get mom a life alert.
No, you don't.
(04:16):
I'm fine, I don't need a lifealert, I'm not that old.
Fuck them kids.
Fuck them kids, right.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
I'm sick and tired of when we talked about this.
I'm sick and tired of thesilver foxes getting all this
shine and being fine and beingzaddies and we, just old ass
women are supposed to be homeand not do anything with
ourselves.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I'm tired of judgments.
Speaker 5 (04:40):
Y'all got to wait a minute.
I'm tired, I'm tired.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
I'm tired of judgments.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
I'm tired of people, you know, judging you.
Get a damn life, go get a life.
And I'm going to tell yousomething I'm tired of the
bullies that's on social mediaEspecially and I'm just going to
keep it 100, the women, thewomen.
We've got to stop Everythingthat we see on social media.
When you start looking atcomments, the way we go for each
other and the things that wesay about each other, it really
(05:10):
shows your pain.
So a whole lot of people needsome healing.
Go find you a therapist.
I'm sick of it.
Like we gotta do better, and so, if this what we're doing right
now, don't do anything else,but help us understand who we
are so we can stop projectingour unhappiness on other people.
Yes, let's just do that, butI'm really sick of it All right,
(05:35):
man.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Well, we were going to play a little game.
At the end we were going to doa little rant, but Sharisa just
kicked that off, she kicked thatoff.
Well we actually put a post upon social media and we selected
one that a caller a voicemailfrom one of our new followers
(05:56):
that I would love for you guysto hear.
It's a little bit of bit oftwist on it, okay, something
that one of our new followers issick and tired of, okay so we
gave.
We gave them a chance to be ableto rant as well okay, so we're
gonna play this for you guys,let's check this out.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
What's up?
What's up?
It's Felicia Hill, aka PhillyHill, out of Ohio, and let me
tell you what I'm sick of.
I'm sick of these entitledteenagers who act like the world
just opened up 15 years ago.
Shit, like everything theygoing through ain't nobody else
been through.
You can't tell them shit, youcan't give them shit, you can't
take away shit, you can't, youcan't do shit with them.
(06:40):
They so in and out, up and down.
And I'm also sick of socialmedia, for all you know
everybody getting catfishedbefore and's gonna put up a
before and after picture, yourmost ugliest picture, with your
most nappy hair and no teeth,and then turn around and put a
full face makeup on and youdon't look nothing like you
(07:01):
looked at man who does that?
Everybody's getting catfished.
Lastly, I'm a proud blacklesbian, but I want to go back
in the closet.
Hell, I don't know who to playwith.
We finally get some recognitionand we got men with full beards
, cinderella dresses and glitteron their eyelashes.
Bitches, everybody look likeLil Baby, except for the ones
(07:25):
who dress like TI.
And they got 5 inch eyelashesand 3 inch fingernails.
Who do I play with?
Oh damn, yep, put me back inthe closet.
Oh God, I'm going back in thecloset.
Oh God, deuces.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
When I tell you that lady sick and tired.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Oh Woo, sick and tired, I told you there was a
little bit of a twist, woo, Itold you there was a little bit
of a twist because, whether yoursexual orientation or not, you
are still a woman in midlife sowe have a midlife lesbian that
says she want to go back in thecloset.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
So we're sick and tired, get in the closet.
Going back in the closet oh,who do I play?
Speaker 1 (08:06):
with who do I play with?
Who do I play with who?
Speaker 2 (08:08):
do I play with?
Who do I play with?
Who do I play with?
Who do I play with?
You two?
We're going to have to separatey'all too, like we have to do
at school.
We're going to have to separatey'all like we do at school.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
So I thought that was a little bit of a twist,
because we needed to hear thatperspective.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
She tired.
Speaker 5 (08:27):
She tired, she sick.
And tired she is.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Jesus.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
Stephanie's stressed out.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Or you're going to just continue.
So do you deal with someonewith a side tooth or do you say
you know what?
I'm just not dating, Everybodygot problems and I'm just going
to chill on my own.
So, Allegra, side tooth or sidelines.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Well, I think it's unfair, since I just lost one of
my teeth.
It's okay.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
I've lost teeth too, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Well, I had a root canal and the crown came off.
And when I went to go have itreplaced, the doctor said I now
have to have a body odor mixedwith cologne.
You sure, do you?
Speaker 5 (09:10):
smell body odor mixed with cologne.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Sweet funk.
I've never, I've never.
I've never I've never, but youknow what, oh God?
It takes me to a story, oh Lord.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Y'all sit back, here we go.
Oh Jesus, stephanie and herstories, oh.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
God.
So, because I, like AmandaSmilga, I started dating this
guy and it was his birthday orwhatever, and I got him some
cologne and so my kids weresmaller and I would go to his
house and we'd hang out andthey'd be like, all right, I'll
see you tomorrow.
And I ran home before my kidsgot up to go to school.
So I never spent day in and dayout with him to see how his
(09:50):
hygiene and stuff was, but helived in a very nice place, a
high end place or whatever, andhe was making money or whatever.
So I was like, oh, he's a greatdude, and so we went on a
cruise.
And so then this is when I gotto be, you know, there with him
day in and day out, and Iremember it was my first cruise
(10:10):
and I had, like, all thesesuitcases.
It was only for three days, butI just had all these suitcases
because I didn't know any better, and he just had this one
little duffel bag.
I was like that's all you want.
Yeah, yeah, it don't take a lotof me.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
And I was like, oh OK , so we get on the ship and he's
like I'm gonna go play somebasketball, whatever he wants
and he plays basketball and sohe comes back we already we
already bracing ourselves forthis story where you going girl.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
He comes back and he takes all his clothes off in the
room and, just like, threweverything on the floor and he
ran in the shower and took ashower.
So he coming out, he talking,he drying off, drying off, and
then he picks the same drawers.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
Do not tell me that.
Do not tell me that he picks upthe same drawers he had on
flips them bitches inside outand put them back on.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I've seen a young girl do that before.
What?
Well, she was a child anddidn't know any better, because
that was what her mother taughther what?
So when she came to our houseshe did that and at you know,
god rest her soul my mother, umwould lay clothes out for her.
When she came, and she noticedall the clothes were gone except
(11:19):
for the underwear.
So she called her back in theroom and was like sweetheart, um
, did you bring your ownunderwear or something she's
like?
No, I just put the ones on.
I already had.
I just turned them inside out.
They weren't that dirty, but ifthat's, what your her mother
taught her.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
Now, that was also a child.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Yeah that was also a child but, for a grown man not
just underwear.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
But you hooped in those yeah, that's what I'm
saying sweaty workout drawers.
I didn't talk to you the restof the cruise.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
It was so but you already gave him something,
though, didn't you?
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Before we got on the cruise.
And then that's when I realizedhe was dirty before the cruise
that was the first time he didthat.
Oh, that was terrible.
He was dirty before the cruise.
Yeah, I didn't talk to you therest of the cruise.
On the way back in the car Iwas like, don't call me.
Well, in the car I was likedon't call me.
(12:14):
Did you say anything?
Yes, and I was like yo, whathey?
He said I think in the military.
He said they taught them to dothat and I was like, yeah,
because you're in the jungle.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Yeah, that's different.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Yeah, but you're in the real world like you came I
was like oh and then that's whenI realized his hygiene wasn't
up to par and I was like, yeah,I can't be dealing with you,
it's just ew, that's a story foryou.
Speaker 5 (12:32):
It was so terrible, so that's why his bag was so
little.
He had no hair drawers.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
He only had the drawers he was wearing.
He didn't have briefs, that'sso terrible.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I thought you were going to say you were going to
put the shorts back on.
I was like ugh.
But then you said the drawers.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
I know I was like no the drawers.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Yeah, it was gross.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
But that's part of, I think, getting older.
Speaker 5 (12:53):
I don't know why this one think that if they bust it,
they're going to be the good toyou.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Yeah she always say the busted ones going to be, so
they're going to just love.
I think they feel like they canget anybody so they don't have
to treat you well.
The busted ones do too if theyfeel like they caught a woman of
a substance and a certain look,then they start feeling
(13:19):
themselves like, oh and then.
So what I have found is thatother women will be like, well,
why she with him?
He must have some money or helaying down some good pain, so
then them women will try him,knowing they ain't attracted to
him.
They just like why is she withhim?
She must be with him for acertain reason and they'll try
him and him like oh, I got morewomen.
(13:40):
Yeah and then they start messingaround and he like Fuck, I put
you on the map.
Speaker 5 (13:45):
That's why you can't be running around upgrading
people.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Stephanie, her being stories, the stories, the
stories, y'all the stories.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
She got them for sure .
Speaker 4 (13:58):
So this is one of them games that you kind of see
on Instagram too.
Nothing too crazy.
You have $12.
So every row has a dollar value, and you have to spend no more
than these $12 to build yourideal partner or your ideal
cutie.
So I'm going to put 30 secondson the clock.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Let's do 45 seconds 45 seconds on the clock For us
to think.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
Yeah, for you to think Get your answer together,
do your mental math, get yourcalculations and whatnot.
And then everybody got to givean answer Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Okay, calculations and whatnot.
And then everybody got to giveanswer Okay, okay, we got to
spend $12.
Speaker 4 (14:29):
12.
Yeah, they got $12.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
We have $12.
All right, 45 seconds.
I know I'm already over now.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Can we do two of the?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
same thing, yeah, yeah, you can do whichever.
Oh my God, I'm so.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
It's shallow Right.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
That too, I'm shallow .
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I'm shallow.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
I have a feeling I think I know.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
I want to say it's romantic.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
but or sexual prowess .
Oh, I want to, because sex isvery important, so I'm going to
go with sexual prowess.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
So he could be a little man, is what you're
saying?
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Well, it says six feet plus, but with my shoes and
my height I need six five.
So even six foot is too short.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
That's not fair.
My dad is six one.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
I know, but I wasn't wearing heels like this with
your daddy.
I was still hooping, so I wasin a lot of sneakers.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
So he could be a little man, as long as he has
sexual pride.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
No, he still can't be a little man, but you didn't
choose six feet plus yeah, sohe's going to be a little guy.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
No, yeah.
He's going to be a little guyand he's going to climb your
tree.
Yeah, and that's what you askedhim for.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
He's still going to be tall.
He's still going to be tall,but I'm going to say sexual
prowess Because I yeah sex gotto be good.
I don't care what anybody say,sex is important, would you?
Speaker 1 (15:59):
date a shorter guy.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
No, I don't date shorter men.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
What if he has everything else?
He has a whole board but he's515.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Well, this is part of my triggers, my trigger and and
um problems that I probablyneed to address from childhood,
but it was all.
I've been this height sinceI've been in the sixth grade
shit.
Now I only weigh, I look likeI've only weighed 90 pounds, but
I have been five nine.
I'm five nine, 5'9 right now.
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I've been 5'9 since the sixthgrade and so height it's a thing
for me, because I always I wastaller than most teachers I ever
had.
You know, remember back inelementary school how you used
to dress up for Halloween.
We used to play a game all thetime Back then.
That's when every costume hadmasks you know, you went to the
(16:50):
store, you had the ghost mask,you had the every costume came
with a mask, so you would cometo school in your mask and you
can sit anywhere because youknow you had assigned seats.
You could sit anywhere in theroom and the teacher would have
to guess who was who they knewyou every time.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Yeah, they knew you every time.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
I was was who they knew you every time I'm the
first one because I was tallerthan all the boys.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
I was taller than everybody, so you always knew
who I was.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
so for me height is important.
No, I do not date a man smallerthan me or shorter than me, and
he must accommodate my heels,because for me that's part of my
security, that's part of mefeeling safe, that's part of me
feeling protected.
And I am a tomboy, so thattomboy kind of come out with a
little man.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
Aw, you throw him away, get your little ass.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
On a later episode we'll talk to a therapist and
unpack that but for me right now, yes, life is important, so we
go with sex because sex isimportant um, I also want, I
don't think, five dollars hasever had that much meaning to me
.
Speaker 5 (18:06):
$5.
Let me eat.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Get your $5 worth.
Get your $5 worth.
Okay, he has to have a goodsense of humor.
I was going to say financiallystable.
I would have said financiallystable a few years ago, years
ago.
I agree with that, but at thisstage, you're going to get what
you're going to get.
Get what you're going to get,and if I'm in a financial
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position to manage the familyand whatever we contribute
together, I'm okay with memaking more money than him and
stuff I mean, I don't want himto be frivolous with money, but
he has to have a good sense ofhumor.
I want to be able to have funand enjoy the person.
I want to like you even ifwe're not dating Right Okay, and
enjoy the person that I want.
I want to like you even ifwe're not dating.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Right, okay.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
So you've got to have a good sense of humor.
And I'm around some crazy-assfolks.
Hello, so you've got to have agood sense of humor.
So that's nine, and then I'mgoing to go with, because none
of the other ones really matterto me too much.
I'm going to go with.
Always smell good.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Okay, okay.
In today's society, having yourown car is not not always
guaranteed.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
So you know, I was gonna say your own car me too,
but that's cool.
Speaker 4 (19:15):
You can pick him up from the bus stop and be like
you smell good, you smell sogood.
Speaker 5 (19:19):
Hey, I can't even.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
I can't even smell that water on you, baby.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
You smell good right at the bus stop you in a good
way.
Yeah, right at the bus stop.
Yeah, hey, he might, but youknow what a lot of people take
uber and don't have cars somepeople live in the city don't
need cars the car.
Ain't that important to me?
Not at this stage.
Younger leger would be like youain't got.
Speaker 5 (19:40):
Your own car, you ain't got this.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
But yeah, but at this stage and only because the
other ones nice body, all thatkind of stuff, hell, we all in
the gym still trying to get ittogether.
So I'm okay with that and Ilike a little big boy, I like a
little meat on him.
Okay, that might have been toomuch for you, but I like a
little meat on him.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
Yeah, we were pushing it with sexual prowess.
I know you're right.
I think we've crossed that line.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
I didn't go into detail, but you know what I'm
saying.
Okay, miss Evania, I just wantto say for the record Stephanie,
your hair is killing, right now.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
It's so cute.
I'm looking at the print.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Turn to the camera so I can see the design and the
print I was just like.
Come on, stephanie.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
She's so jazzy y'all.
The original barber doll.
Okay, well, show her, that'sright.
The original barber doll.
Okay, where'd they find her?
She bad, where'd she?
Speaker 5 (20:34):
go Katie On.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Instagram Original barber doll.
Speaker 5 (20:37):
That's a cute doll.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
That's a cute doll.
I love that.
Yeah, she slayed your hair.
These people Ersher, hello,name drop.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Stephanie, are we doing the same thing?
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Are you using the same?
Speaker 3 (20:46):
clip the same clippers.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Stephanie Put his clippers on me, girl.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Yes, yes, yes I just had to say that I caught a look
and I was like, okay, look, I'mthrough hair, thank you.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
But, sometimes it's hard to set boundaries with your
adult children, With yourchildren because I've set
boundaries.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
You guys figure it out.
That's my thing now, because Iknow I've done what I needed to
do and I'm not going to be asaccessible to you.
But then I'll get a voicemail,a message on my phone.
I don't care if you're on adate, you answer the phone for
us and I'm like they're bullyingme, like I'm being like cyber
bully from my kids because I setthat boundary.
(21:27):
I'm like well, how did yourespond?
Speaker 5 (21:29):
my girl please, and.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I'll clap my phone and put it up.
No, no, you're gonna be okay.
And another episode of timelessis unfiltered and I'm legra.
I'm.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Stephanie, I'm Sharice and I'm Evania and we
gonna keep on, keep on, keep onspilling the tea on midlife one
laugh at a time, thank you guyslike follow subscribe.
Yes, like follow and subscriberight now.
Thanks for watching.
You've loved Timeless and Unfiltered to this point,
and we can't wait to share more.
Today, we're giving you thebest moments of what we shared
thus far Enjoy.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
This is Lagra.
This is Stephanie.
This is Cherie.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And this is Ivanya, and this is Evania.
And this is Timeless andUnfiltered, where we are
spilling the tea on midlife, onelaugh at a time.
Damn, we got kids Y'all makingus talk about the kids.
Well, I am Legra.
I am the creator of Timelessand Unfiltered, since we talking
(00:43):
about children.
I have one son who happens tobe the EP of our show.
Unfiltered, since we talkedabout children.
I have one son who happens tobe the EP.
he's the best and I have anadopted son.
You don't know it yet.
He's my adopted son.
I am a little bit everything.
I'm a serial entrepreneur andI'm just.
(01:04):
This idea just came in my mindbecause I am 55.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
And looking fine.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Lifetime fanny.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
And looking fine, yeah, come on.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
But something happened about 50.
Something happened about 50.
There was a shift in theatmosphere.
I wasn't a hot girl, no more.
You still are, you are.
I am to the youngins now.
I don't get carded anymore.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I'm a lot of things.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
I work hard, I work a lot, and now I'm co-host and I
am finding my voice.
I am blossoming, I'm growing.
And now I'm co-host Yay, and Iam finding my voice.
I am blossoming, I'm growingand I'm just so proud to be here
with you, ladies.
Aww, I'm sorry I forgot to talkabout my kids.
Oh okay, go ahead, go watchyour kids.
I got kids, three of them.
The body made me feel like shit.
She's like am I mother?
Speaker 5 (02:07):
I was like shit disregarded my children.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I had three children.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I love them.
I didn't either.
So three daughters, beautifuldaughters, adults, damn it right
.
Well, let's kind of tell them alittle bit how our, our podcast
is going to work.
Yeah, oh yeah we're going totalk about some topics.
You guys can suggest topics forus.
Oh wait, I'm sorry, I forgot tointroduce our fifth co-host.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Oh, I'm looking in your eyeball.
I know right your hair.
I'm like where is it?
I don't see it.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I know this is our fifth co-host because of the hot
flashes.
Hello midlife, the hot flashes.
You will see this come outquite often.
I usually try to slide it in onthe side or something, but uh,
you'll see, you'll see our fifthco-host this fan this is real
and raw real and raw because Iwill melt in front of this
camera if I don't have it.
(02:50):
So this, my fan follows meeverywhere and you'll, you'll
hear, uh, stephanie a few timeswith some of her little weird um
, and we gonna say weird they'retrue, her little, weird little
ways of fixing things.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
It's true.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Scientifically I'm a nerd.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
It's true, like clutching your butt cheeks if
you're going to cry Hiccups, howto stop the hiccups?
How to stop the hiccups, andI've just seen that if you lay,
if you're gassy, if you sleep onyour stomach and lift your butt
, that'll help with the release.
What See?
Okay, we doing the red.
(03:38):
No, might as well we in therenow.
I'm sick and tired of being inthe box.
I'm also sick and tired of if Ipee I mean not if I cough or
sneeze a pee on myself.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Sorry, it's gonna happen to everybody not being
included, not on the couch.
Not only don't laugh hard, it'sgonna happen.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Um, I'm sick and tired of the younger women
coming up to me saying auntie, Ihave 12 nieces and 12 nephews.
You're not one of them, sodon't call me auntie.
I'm tired of my kids making mefeel older than what I am.
It's the little running joke.
We need to get mom a life alert.
No, you don't.
(04:16):
I'm fine, I don't need a lifealert, I'm not that old.
Fuck them kids.
Fuck them kids, right.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
I'm sick and tired of when we talked about this.
I'm sick and tired of thesilver foxes getting all this
shine and being fine and beingzaddies and we, just old ass
women are supposed to be homeand not do anything with
ourselves.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I'm tired of judgments.
Speaker 5 (04:40):
Y'all got to wait a minute.
I'm tired, I'm tired.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
I'm tired of judgments.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
I'm tired of people, you know, judging you.
Get a damn life, go get a life.
And I'm going to tell yousomething I'm tired of the
bullies that's on social mediaEspecially and I'm just going to
keep it 100, the women, thewomen.
We've got to stop Everythingthat we see on social media.
When you start looking atcomments, the way we go for each
other and the things that wesay about each other, it really
(05:10):
shows your pain.
So a whole lot of people needsome healing.
Go find you a therapist.
I'm sick of it.
Like we gotta do better, and so, if this what we're doing right
now, don't do anything else,but help us understand who we
are so we can stop projectingour unhappiness on other people.
Yes, let's just do that, butI'm really sick of it All right,
(05:35):
man.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Well, we were going to play a little game.
At the end we were going to doa little rant, but Sharisa just
kicked that off, she kicked thatoff.
Well we actually put a post upon social media and we selected
one that a caller a voicemailfrom one of our new followers
(05:56):
that I would love for you guysto hear.
It's a little bit of bit oftwist on it, okay, something
that one of our new followers issick and tired of, okay so we
gave.
We gave them a chance to be ableto rant as well okay, so we're
gonna play this for you guys,let's check this out.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
What's up?
What's up?
It's Felicia Hill, aka PhillyHill, out of Ohio, and let me
tell you what I'm sick of.
I'm sick of these entitledteenagers who act like the world
just opened up 15 years ago.
Shit, like everything theygoing through ain't nobody else
been through.
You can't tell them shit, youcan't give them shit, you can't
take away shit, you can't, youcan't do shit with them.
(06:40):
They so in and out, up and down.
And I'm also sick of socialmedia, for all you know
everybody getting catfishedbefore and's gonna put up a
before and after picture, yourmost ugliest picture, with your
most nappy hair and no teeth,and then turn around and put a
full face makeup on and youdon't look nothing like you
(07:01):
looked at man who does that?
Everybody's getting catfished.
Lastly, I'm a proud blacklesbian, but I want to go back
in the closet.
Hell, I don't know who to playwith.
We finally get some recognitionand we got men with full beards
, cinderella dresses and glitteron their eyelashes.
Bitches, everybody look likeLil Baby, except for the ones
(07:25):
who dress like TI.
And they got 5 inch eyelashesand 3 inch fingernails.
Who do I play with?
Oh damn, yep, put me back inthe closet.
Oh God, I'm going back in thecloset.
Oh God, deuces.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
When I tell you that lady sick and tired.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Oh Woo, sick and tired, I told you there was a
little bit of a twist, woo, Itold you there was a little bit
of a twist because, whether yoursexual orientation or not, you
are still a woman in midlife sowe have a midlife lesbian that
says she want to go back in thecloset.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
So we're sick and tired, get in the closet.
Going back in the closet oh,who do I play?
Speaker 1 (08:06):
with who do I play with?
Who do I play with who?
Speaker 2 (08:08):
do I play with?
Who do I play with?
Who do I play with?
Who do I play with?
You two?
We're going to have to separatey'all too, like we have to do
at school.
We're going to have to separatey'all like we do at school.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
So I thought that was a little bit of a twist,
because we needed to hear thatperspective.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
She tired.
Speaker 5 (08:27):
She tired, she sick.
And tired she is.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Jesus.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
Stephanie's stressed out.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Or you're going to just continue.
So do you deal with someonewith a side tooth or do you say
you know what?
I'm just not dating, Everybodygot problems and I'm just going
to chill on my own.
So, Allegra, side tooth or sidelines.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Well, I think it's unfair, since I just lost one of
my teeth.
It's okay.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
I've lost teeth too, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Well, I had a root canal and the crown came off.
And when I went to go have itreplaced, the doctor said I now
have to have a body odor mixedwith cologne.
You sure, do you?
Speaker 5 (09:10):
smell body odor mixed with cologne.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Sweet funk.
I've never, I've never.
I've never I've never, but youknow what, oh God?
It takes me to a story, oh Lord.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Y'all sit back, here we go.
Oh Jesus, stephanie and herstories, oh.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
God.
So, because I, like AmandaSmilga, I started dating this
guy and it was his birthday orwhatever, and I got him some
cologne and so my kids weresmaller and I would go to his
house and we'd hang out andthey'd be like, all right, I'll
see you tomorrow.
And I ran home before my kidsgot up to go to school.
So I never spent day in and dayout with him to see how his
(09:50):
hygiene and stuff was, but helived in a very nice place, a
high end place or whatever, andhe was making money or whatever.
So I was like, oh, he's a greatdude, and so we went on a
cruise.
And so then this is when I gotto be, you know, there with him
day in and day out, and Iremember it was my first cruise
(10:10):
and I had, like, all thesesuitcases.
It was only for three days, butI just had all these suitcases
because I didn't know any better, and he just had this one
little duffel bag.
I was like that's all you want.
Yeah, yeah, it don't take a lotof me.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
And I was like, oh OK , so we get on the ship and he's
like I'm gonna go play somebasketball, whatever he wants
and he plays basketball and sohe comes back we already we
already bracing ourselves forthis story where you going girl.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
He comes back and he takes all his clothes off in the
room and, just like, threweverything on the floor and he
ran in the shower and took ashower.
So he coming out, he talking,he drying off, drying off, and
then he picks the same drawers.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
Do not tell me that.
Do not tell me that he picks upthe same drawers he had on
flips them bitches inside outand put them back on.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I've seen a young girl do that before.
What?
Well, she was a child anddidn't know any better, because
that was what her mother taughther what?
So when she came to our houseshe did that and at you know,
god rest her soul my mother, umwould lay clothes out for her.
When she came, and she noticedall the clothes were gone except
(11:19):
for the underwear.
So she called her back in theroom and was like sweetheart, um
, did you bring your ownunderwear or something she's
like?
No, I just put the ones on.
I already had.
I just turned them inside out.
They weren't that dirty, but ifthat's, what your her mother
taught her.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
Now, that was also a child.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Yeah that was also a child but, for a grown man not
just underwear.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
But you hooped in those yeah, that's what I'm
saying sweaty workout drawers.
I didn't talk to you the restof the cruise.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
It was so but you already gave him something,
though, didn't you?
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Before we got on the cruise.
And then that's when I realizedhe was dirty before the cruise
that was the first time he didthat.
Oh, that was terrible.
He was dirty before the cruise.
Yeah, I didn't talk to you therest of the cruise.
On the way back in the car Iwas like, don't call me.
Well, in the car I was likedon't call me.
(12:14):
Did you say anything?
Yes, and I was like yo, whathey?
He said I think in the military.
He said they taught them to dothat and I was like, yeah,
because you're in the jungle.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Yeah, that's different.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Yeah, but you're in the real world like you came I
was like oh and then that's whenI realized his hygiene wasn't
up to par and I was like, yeah,I can't be dealing with you,
it's just ew, that's a story foryou.
Speaker 5 (12:32):
It was so terrible, so that's why his bag was so
little.
He had no hair drawers.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
He only had the drawers he was wearing.
He didn't have briefs, that'sso terrible.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I thought you were going to say you were going to
put the shorts back on.
I was like ugh.
But then you said the drawers.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
I know I was like no the drawers.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Yeah, it was gross.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
But that's part of, I think, getting older.
Speaker 5 (12:53):
I don't know why this one think that if they bust it,
they're going to be the good toyou.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Yeah she always say the busted ones going to be, so
they're going to just love.
I think they feel like they canget anybody so they don't have
to treat you well.
The busted ones do too if theyfeel like they caught a woman of
a substance and a certain look,then they start feeling
(13:19):
themselves like, oh and then.
So what I have found is thatother women will be like, well,
why she with him?
He must have some money or helaying down some good pain, so
then them women will try him,knowing they ain't attracted to
him.
They just like why is she withhim?
She must be with him for acertain reason and they'll try
him and him like oh, I got morewomen.
(13:40):
Yeah and then they start messingaround and he like Fuck, I put
you on the map.
Speaker 5 (13:45):
That's why you can't be running around upgrading
people.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Stephanie, her being stories, the stories, the
stories, y'all the stories.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
She got them for sure .
Speaker 4 (13:58):
So this is one of them games that you kind of see
on Instagram too.
Nothing too crazy.
You have $12.
So every row has a dollar value, and you have to spend no more
than these $12 to build yourideal partner or your ideal
cutie.
So I'm going to put 30 secondson the clock.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Let's do 45 seconds 45 seconds on the clock For us
to think.
Speaker 4 (14:20):
Yeah, for you to think Get your answer together,
do your mental math, get yourcalculations and whatnot.
And then everybody got to givean answer Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Okay, calculations and whatnot.
And then everybody got to giveanswer Okay, okay, we got to
spend $12.
Speaker 4 (14:29):
12.
Yeah, they got $12.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
We have $12.
All right, 45 seconds.
I know I'm already over now.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Can we do two of the?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
same thing, yeah, yeah, you can do whichever.
Oh my God, I'm so.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
It's shallow Right.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
That too, I'm shallow .
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I'm shallow.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
I have a feeling I think I know.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
I want to say it's romantic.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
but or sexual prowess .
Oh, I want to, because sex isvery important, so I'm going to
go with sexual prowess.
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
So he could be a little man, is what you're
saying?
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Well, it says six feet plus, but with my shoes and
my height I need six five.
So even six foot is too short.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
That's not fair.
My dad is six one.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
I know, but I wasn't wearing heels like this with
your daddy.
I was still hooping, so I wasin a lot of sneakers.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
So he could be a little man, as long as he has
sexual pride.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
No, he still can't be a little man, but you didn't
choose six feet plus yeah, sohe's going to be a little guy.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
No, yeah.
He's going to be a little guyand he's going to climb your
tree.
Yeah, and that's what you askedhim for.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
He's still going to be tall.
He's still going to be tall,but I'm going to say sexual
prowess Because I yeah sex gotto be good.
I don't care what anybody say,sex is important, would you?
Speaker 1 (15:59):
date a shorter guy.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
No, I don't date shorter men.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
What if he has everything else?
He has a whole board but he's515.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Well, this is part of my triggers, my trigger and and
um problems that I probablyneed to address from childhood,
but it was all.
I've been this height sinceI've been in the sixth grade
shit.
Now I only weigh, I look likeI've only weighed 90 pounds, but
I have been five nine.
I'm five nine, 5'9 right now.
(16:27):
I've been 5'9 since the sixthgrade and so height it's a thing
for me, because I always I wastaller than most teachers I ever
had.
You know, remember back inelementary school how you used
to dress up for Halloween.
We used to play a game all thetime Back then.
That's when every costume hadmasks you know, you went to the
(16:50):
store, you had the ghost mask,you had the every costume came
with a mask, so you would cometo school in your mask and you
can sit anywhere because youknow you had assigned seats.
You could sit anywhere in theroom and the teacher would have
to guess who was who they knewyou every time.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Yeah, they knew you every time.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
I was was who they knew you every time I'm the
first one because I was tallerthan all the boys.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
I was taller than everybody, so you always knew
who I was.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
so for me height is important.
No, I do not date a man smallerthan me or shorter than me, and
he must accommodate my heels,because for me that's part of my
security, that's part of mefeeling safe, that's part of me
feeling protected.
And I am a tomboy, so thattomboy kind of come out with a
little man.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
Aw, you throw him away, get your little ass.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
On a later episode we'll talk to a therapist and
unpack that but for me right now, yes, life is important, so we
go with sex because sex isimportant um, I also want, I
don't think, five dollars hasever had that much meaning to me
.
Speaker 5 (18:06):
$5.
Let me eat.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Get your $5 worth.
Get your $5 worth.
Okay, he has to have a goodsense of humor.
I was going to say financiallystable.
I would have said financiallystable a few years ago, years
ago.
I agree with that, but at thisstage, you're going to get what
you're going to get.
Get what you're going to get,and if I'm in a financial
(18:29):
position to manage the familyand whatever we contribute
together, I'm okay with memaking more money than him and
stuff I mean, I don't want himto be frivolous with money, but
he has to have a good sense ofhumor.
I want to be able to have funand enjoy the person.
I want to like you even ifwe're not dating Right Okay, and
enjoy the person that I want.
I want to like you even ifwe're not dating.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Right, okay.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
So you've got to have a good sense of humor.
And I'm around some crazy-assfolks.
Hello, so you've got to have agood sense of humor.
So that's nine, and then I'mgoing to go with, because none
of the other ones really matterto me too much.
I'm going to go with.
Always smell good.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Okay, okay.
In today's society, having yourown car is not not always
guaranteed.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
So you know, I was gonna say your own car me too,
but that's cool.
Speaker 4 (19:15):
You can pick him up from the bus stop and be like
you smell good, you smell sogood.
Speaker 5 (19:19):
Hey, I can't even.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
I can't even smell that water on you, baby.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
You smell good right at the bus stop you in a good
way.
Yeah, right at the bus stop.
Yeah, hey, he might, but youknow what a lot of people take
uber and don't have cars somepeople live in the city don't
need cars the car.
Ain't that important to me?
Not at this stage.
Younger leger would be like youain't got.
Speaker 5 (19:40):
Your own car, you ain't got this.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
But yeah, but at this stage and only because the
other ones nice body, all thatkind of stuff, hell, we all in
the gym still trying to get ittogether.
So I'm okay with that and Ilike a little big boy, I like a
little meat on him.
Okay, that might have been toomuch for you, but I like a
little meat on him.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
Yeah, we were pushing it with sexual prowess.
I know you're right.
I think we've crossed that line.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
I didn't go into detail, but you know what I'm
saying.
Okay, miss Evania, I just wantto say for the record Stephanie,
your hair is killing, right now.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
It's so cute.
I'm looking at the print.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Turn to the camera so I can see the design and the
print I was just like.
Come on, stephanie.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
She's so jazzy y'all.
The original barber doll.
Okay, well, show her, that'sright.
The original barber doll.
Okay, where'd they find her?
She bad, where'd she?
Speaker 5 (20:34):
go Katie On.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Instagram Original barber doll.
Speaker 5 (20:37):
That's a cute doll.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
That's a cute doll.
I love that.
Yeah, she slayed your hair.
These people Ersher, hello,name drop.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Stephanie, are we doing the same thing?
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Are you using the same?
Speaker 3 (20:46):
clip the same clippers.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Stephanie Put his clippers on me, girl.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Yes, yes, yes I just had to say that I caught a look
and I was like, okay, look, I'mthrough hair, thank you.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
But, sometimes it's hard to set boundaries with your
adult children, With yourchildren because I've set
boundaries.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
You guys figure it out.
That's my thing now, because Iknow I've done what I needed to
do and I'm not going to be asaccessible to you.
But then I'll get a voicemail,a message on my phone.
I don't care if you're on adate, you answer the phone for
us and I'm like they're bullyingme, like I'm being like cyber
bully from my kids because I setthat boundary.
(21:27):
I'm like well, how did yourespond?
Speaker 5 (21:29):
my girl please, and.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I'll clap my phone and put it up.
No, no, you're gonna be okay.
And another episode of timelessis unfiltered and I'm legra.
I'm.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Stephanie, I'm Sharice and I'm Evania and we
gonna keep on, keep on, keep onspilling the tea on midlife one
laugh at a time, thank you guyslike follow subscribe.
Yes, like follow and subscriberight now.
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