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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You've loved Timeless and Unfiltered to this point,
and we can't wait to share more.
Today, we're giving you thebest moments of what we shared
thus far Enjoy.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
This is Lagra.
This is Stephanie.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
This is Cherie and this is Ivanya.
Speaker 5 (00:26):
And this is Evania, and this is Timeless and
Unfiltered, where we arespilling the tea on midlife.
Speaker 6 (00:34):
one laugh at a time when I think I've said that
before I don't mind approachingsomebody, so that may be a part
of it too, but I'm not, I'm, I'mjust not falling to that.
I'm not falling into that thingabout what Atlanta look like
(00:58):
and what the other people womenare doing, because I just think
that we give the keep centerreceiver but the other person we
will.
We'll go after another womanand say what she's doing, but we
never sit back and look at whatthe person who's a receiver.
They're coming up, they gottacome after your man and what is
he doing?
And how did they get his number?
His number didn't jump in theirdamn pocket or phone.
But because we don't want todeal with it, the accountability
(01:18):
of holding that MFA responsible.
We don't want to be responsiblefor holding him accountable.
So we go jump on the otherperson and they got something to
do with it.
Actually, they don't owe meshit.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
They don't owe me anything.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
You owe me something and I'm not coming after you.
Speaker 6 (01:37):
I'm not trying to figure out what you're doing
when I don't feel comfortable orsafe it's time for me to go.
Speaker 5 (01:43):
It's just that simple atlanta or anywhere else.
Speaker 6 (01:55):
I don't think I've ever, I don't think I don't
think I have ever gone throughhis stuff.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Yeah because, why, never right, right.
Well, I'm gonna do call her upand say hey, I found your number
in your phone what People do?
Speaker 6 (02:05):
I've never.
People never see me swear.
I've never.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
And it's the truth.
It's like you said.
People still come up to me oh,you married.
Yes, are you happy?
What?
Speaker 6 (02:17):
People are bold.
They do, do that.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, they will ask you, they don't care they don't
care.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
But when you're I, I feel like I'm not married either
, but I feel like when yourrelationship is strong, even in
dating, if y'all have somethingas strong as that, you're
committed to or you really careabout this person, then you
really care about their emotions, and that comes with safety.
That's what feeling safe, feellike Like you're, we're here
(02:47):
together and I don't have toworry.
And the second those feelingscome up or something's going on.
I don't have to do, but thatcomes with mature conversations
with somebody.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Right.
Speaker 6 (02:59):
So when you're having mature conversations and you're
dating or you decide whateveryou're going to do, y'all do
know, as women, we could beseeing somebody and then after a
while we just assume we, they,whatever, and they never even
ask us.
You know, there's a lot ofassumptions, but once and I
always say we just doing thistill we don't, until somebody
(03:19):
asks the other person like wegotta have that conversation, we
have to have the adultconversation, right, right.
And then, once you do that, youhave to feel secure and safe and
be.
This is what it is, and as anadult, when it's not anymore,
then you have to be an adult andlet's have a conversation to
move this along.
Speaker 5 (03:37):
What are we?
Speaker 4 (03:37):
doing?
What are we doing?
Speaker 6 (03:40):
People just don't do that.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
It's communication.
We don't communicate like weshould.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Well, that's why I think friendships to build a
friendship first, is thefoundation.
Yes, and I build friendshipswith everyone that I've dated to
where I don't have like realbad breakups.
They're real amicable and I'mlike yeah, this ain't, this
ain't working out for me.
I release you out of love.
I can see her.
We just yeah, and so that'swhen they're well.
(04:05):
You have abandonment issuesbecause of your past and I'm
like, oh friend, you throwing upwhat's going on?
like, don't, don't do that andit's not to have abandonment
issues.
I'm just not gonna keep puttingup with your shit at the end of
the day and I release you.
I love and I I'm still coolwith a lot of my exes.
I we still have conversationsbecause I just don't have bad
breakups.
(04:25):
I really communicate as anadult, but I like what you said.
We're just.
What did you say?
We're doing this until we'renot.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Until we're not, yeah , until we're not.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Until we're not, until, we're not, until, we're
not, until, we're not.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Until we're not feel like we're not meshing and this
ain't going anywhere.
Hey, let's have a conversation,and I have adult conversations
and they're uncomfortable.
A lot of times they justsitting there tapping.
Can't believe you doing me likethis, hey.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
I mean me and Anthony have gone through phases where
we didn't talk.
I mean he worked that night, Iworked during the day and it
would just be Ships passing inthe night, just right, and just
be like like you said.
Then you got to be an adult,say okay.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
What's going on now?
What are we doing?
Right, Like what?
What?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Let's talk.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
So who's usually?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
the bigger person, you or him?
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Who's the bigger person you mean?
I feel like I'm the one thatalways has to back down, Because
I'm like rawr and Anthony willsit there like Real calm and
then you feel crazy Like dang hecalm, dang okay, because he's
not going to Dang, and it usedto be a place where I yelled a
(05:42):
lot and then I stopped andlooked and I was like he doesn't
hear me, okay, okay, I can'thear when you yell yeah.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
So then I stopped.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
And even my son had a situation where he upset me and
I nothing.
And for days my son was likeI'm gonna need you to yell at me
, cuss me out something ain'tright, something I don't like.
This I don't like this.
You not saying that that's likedanger, right?
There right and it would.
(06:19):
I got to a point now where I'llsay you know, the warning is
okay, you start running when Isay all right now because, I'm
not, I'm not, I'm not.
And that drives him crazy.
And he's like Cheryl, saysomething to me, what?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
what would you?
Speaker 4 (06:37):
like me to say oh, they hate that.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
I ain't got nothing.
No, we in trouble.
Speaker 6 (06:42):
I have a question now that we're talking, that we're
talking, my wheels are spinning.
Now, my wheels are spinning, soyou know you'll hear therapists
or people talk about.
Well, everybody, the ultimategoal is to get married.
Right so why, are you withsomebody?
Why are you doing that If y'alldon't plan on getting married?
You see that a lot on TikTok,Instagram and all of that stuff.
(07:04):
But first of all, I mean,everybody is not looking to get
married, but the question iswhen you're in this dating realm
, isn't that something that youthink that should be discussed?
If that's what your ultimategoal is, it's not wasting time,
right?
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yes, that's like I know you want your girl.
Speaker 6 (07:26):
Saying deaf partner is being that.
You want your deaf buddy.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Yeah, that's a conversation that you're having,
I'm fine yeah, okay, yeah, Iwas just curious about that yeah
, and my current one was like oh, I don't know one give me.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
And I'm like, so okay , we basically gonna do this
till it's done till you're nottill I'm not yeah, but there's
no surprise, yeah, you're gonnabe single don't okay yeah, I
have those conversations yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I let them know I'm dating with a purpose and this
is my intention.
What are yours?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
oh, I know okay, whatever exercise you can do,
ladies, please, but yeah.
Speaker 5 (08:07):
I haven't had the the sneeze and I can't hold it like
I used to.
Yeah, so if I say, oh, I gottapee, it can wait just no, it
can't let me go and go to thebathroom.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I'm a camel, I can hold mine forever that's the one
, unless you sneeze but and Iwent to the doctor not told the
doctor I feel like I walk aroundsmelling like little pissy.
So he didn't know he was like Idon't know girl.
Yes, he looks like Prince, he'sso little and cute.
(08:40):
And so when he left the nurseshe's a woman of our age, she's
like that's because we're notemptying our bladder fully.
So she said, when you go to thebathroom and pee, she said,
because you always have maybelike two or three drops that you
didn't get out so she was likeyou lean forward and squeeze.
I do that them and see I Ididn't know that and she said
(09:01):
that's why you'll smell pee.
And she said because you mighthave two, two to three little
drops left that you didn't getout.
So she said lean over andsqueeze.
And she said you hear themlittle things yeah, you do, and
then you'll be fine, I was likenobody.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
I never well, I've never heard that.
Yeah, I do every time that Iuse the bathroom.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
When I finish, I lean forward yeah, and almost do a
kegel exercise and that lastlittle two, three drops come out
and be like yep, now I'm done.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
You walk around smelling fresh all day.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I don't really, but a little random, I have to think,
so a little random farts thathappen sometimes you say the
random farts, okay, nobody told.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Well, I think part of it is because things you used
to be able to eat you can't eatanymore.
Rated as much like you know,even us, we had lunch earlier
today.
I had to run upstairs and go tothe bathroom Like what is my
body doing?
Speaker 4 (09:47):
Something.
Speaker 5 (09:47):
I ate said nope, Anything else.
You wish someone had warned you.
Speaker 6 (09:55):
Just that it's hard to get the weight off after a
Sunday, Seriously like I justhad no idea.
I mean, I was had no idea yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
I mean.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
I was always 105 pounds.
They used to call me olive oiland then one day the weight kept
.
Really I hated it because Ialways had hips.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
It was a little skinny thing with hips.
She was slim, fit.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
I had these hips because the kids used to tease
me.
The boys used to tease me, thesame boys they loved it.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
You didn't know, I didn't know.
Speaker 6 (10:27):
So I was always 105 pounds, this little old thing,
right.
And then one day you wake upand this weight is here and you
can't.
I mean, I used to.
I don't know if anybodyremembers this.
This used to be this stuffcalled weight on.
Did you used to drink so youcould gain?
Speaker 2 (10:41):
weight Like protein.
It was like a place it wascalled, so I just.
Speaker 5 (10:48):
I wish you could give it back I know, right.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Like nobody ever said this is going to happen at a
certain age.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Make sure that you, you know, run or work out or do
something.
You just, I just assumed that Iwas going to be where I was at.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
You're going to be a hot girl forever.
You still a hot girl.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
I'm still a hot girl.
You see her cut her eyes at me.
I'm still a hot girl.
You still a hot girl.
It is harder.
Speaker 6 (11:11):
They don't got these hips, but you know I just wished
that somebody would have saidyou know, this is called a fupa
and all of that stuff.
Like nobody told me any of this.
Speaker 5 (11:24):
Okay, I'm going to steer you a little different
direction.
Look, don't look at us, don'tjudge us, mo, and it might just
be me.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
I know every woman is different, I know, I know every
woman's body is different, butyou remember when you used to
wet the whole bed when did thatstop?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
when did that?
I think it depends on theperson, honestly he's still
young, he's been on the personmessing with the women that
still went up the whole bed.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
When did that stop and what happened?
Speaker 5 (11:57):
to it right person?
Have you?
Yeah, no, the right person will.
But if you just looked at meand you went the floor.
I can't waste it for everybody,but but also, too, if you're
not sexually active as often asyou used to be.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
They also say, if you don't use it, you lose it, so
you know well run straight yes,we say the way we just say the
well, well, run straight that isgonna dig a little deeper.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
The last time that I did get some and it wasn't all
that long ago I had to start atest to see if she still worked.
I had a hot flash in the middle.
See, that's what I just said.
But the funny thing was he feltit oh shit, that he was like
what's going on.
Oh my God.
He probably loved that hotflash.
Speaker 6 (12:47):
Yeah, because it was warm.
Speaker 5 (12:48):
It made you warmer.
First of all, it's already warm.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Thank you it made it warm, but no, it was hot.
It wasn't warm, it was hot.
Speaker 5 (13:00):
He felt how hot my body got at the time.
He was kind of inside.
That's what I mean.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
They were trying to cook a what they liked, that
feeling, that's a hot flash.
Speaker 5 (13:10):
She was like oh my God, look at you.
He felt it, he felt how hot mybody instantly went from this to
this.
Yeah, I was burning up and likewe had to stop, give me a
minute, my temperature come backdown.
But at the time we were in theact and he felt he literally
(13:33):
felt it how hot I got internally.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Trying to make sure this is clean.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
You're definitely a hot girl.
Speaker 6 (13:42):
Trying to make sure this stays on the cleaver.
Speaker 5 (13:45):
That's a hot yes, A hot girl Look at her.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Now you had the man trying to comment.
Speaker 5 (13:53):
Can I try it out?
It was more than just a flat no, it was hot.
So does sex get better thanwhen you get older?
Speaker 6 (14:00):
I think so, I absolutely think so, no
inhibitions.
Yeah, we're not just doing amister.
Thing.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
You know the things that you don't know you turn.
Put your leg up there.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
Grab your ankles.
No, you're not.
No, you're not.
Speaker 6 (14:17):
You're not Unfiltered .
Speaker 5 (14:20):
No, I think it does.
Speaker 6 (14:22):
Because, like you, said you know, you've gotten to
a point where you know your body, you know what you like, you
know what you don't want.
And to me, I think it is moreenjoyable and you can verbalize
what you like, what you don'tlike, the things that when
you're younger you don't know,kind of conditioned to just be
like.
Well, whatever they want.
Speaker 5 (14:40):
I don't know.
I was never like that.
Sex was never like that for me.
Speaker 6 (14:44):
Well, no, it may not be like that for you.
What I'm saying is that's whatgirls are basically taught for
the most part, I want to sharesomething with the gang out here
.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
Yeah, I have something to share.
Oh, you done wrote something.
Yeah, uh-huh.
Speaker 5 (14:56):
Okay, let's see what we got.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
And this looks so old and dated that I printed it out
Instead of it on your phone.
It could have been on my wholephone, but I typed it on the
computer in this print.
I've been in work mode, I'vebeen going crazy at work, so
anyway, okay, don't mind my bigpiece of paper, okay, okay.
(15:17):
So I said you were somethingthat happened to me.
A little late, I must say.
You came with a gush in a uhand I tried to pray you away.
What the just happened and whyis it so bad?
I told my grandma and shestated girl, let me go get you
some pads.
This is a part of life and whatmakes you great.
You're the giver of life.
And there's much more at stake.
We have birth nations andcreated wars.
These two of these baby are thegivers and receivers of much,
(15:40):
much more.
Now I got tired of you and I wasseriously over it, went to the
doctor and said, sir, please,snip, snip, I don't want her no
more.
My childbearing years are doneand just like that, in 2020, my
new journey begun.
I parted ways with old girl andI must say, I was feeling great
.
But there was one more thingaround that corner, one more
(16:00):
thing to negate.
She reminded me of an old songand, ooh, her ass couldn't wait.
She waited patiently andquietly grinding at the gates oh
, I'm coming.
And she wanted her applause.
She walked into the room andthe men the men, of course
coming to a theater soon nearyou, damn I'm a rapper now we
(16:29):
need you to perform it, come,come on no listen.
Why are you playing?
Uh-oh, what is that?
Speaker 5 (16:35):
Lou.
She got little Lou down there.
Little Lou, come on.
Where's little Lou at?
Little Lou, baby, come on.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
That was so good.
I like it, I like it.
So we're talking about periodsand then a pause.
Speaker 5 (16:47):
Y'all Now keep in mind.
I sent the text out about 11o'clock last night, so you wrote
that at 11 o'clock last nightyou did.
You did, got skills, got bars.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
The talent.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Bars baby, that was good though.
Speaker 5 (17:00):
That was really good.
Copyrighted.
Really good, you said.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
around the corner was the menopause and for those who
know where I'm going y'all knowwhere I'm going.
Yes, I tried going.
Speaker 5 (17:11):
Y'all know where I'm going because I tried to tell my
boo thing like what a lot ofpeople underestimate the power
of the present moment.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Yes, because it's in this moment where you can unglue
yourself from what has happenedand what has been and the
cycles going on.
It's where you can really makethe decision, the actual choice
of how do you want to feel.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Where do you want to go, say that again.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Say that again.
It's in this present momentwhere you can make the decision
of how you want to feel yes,where do you want to go?
Yes, and then you get theresources or the pieces in place
to make that happen.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You want to feel happy.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Okay, what makes you happy?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
If you don't know the answer to that, then okay, we
do some homework there.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
All that happens in the present moment.
Speaker 6 (18:06):
There's a lot of noise.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
What happened before is real.
The people in your life thattrigger you are real.
Yes, all of the stressors arereal.
Yes, yes, yes there are noise,that you have to set limits.
If you can, take breaks awayfrom it, if you can, and just
make a decision that this partor this part of the day or this
(18:31):
hour I'm going to be here,where's here, here's where my
feet are and wherever my mindtries to leave, I'm going to
bring that little puppy back andsay okay we're going to sit
here and do the work that I needto do so that I can be okay.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
You started off with your little rap and everything
it's a poem.
It's a poem.
Did y'all write anything ory'all have anything prepared for
y'all cycle?
I did throw this at y'all inthe wee hours of the night last
night.
I have a little obituary.
Oh, she's going to wrote anobituary, good boy.
Okay, let's see what we got, ohmy gosh.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Let's see what we got .
This is my Aunt Flo obituary.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Okay, aunt Flo, come on, aunt Flo, that was her name.
That was her name too.
Come on Flo.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Okay.
With a mix of relief, mildannoyance and a few celebratory
chocolates, we announce thedeparture of our dear Aunt Flo.
For decades she visited us likeclockwork, arriving uninvited,
demanding attention andoccasionally making a dramatic
entrance with cramps, moodswings and an insatiable craving
for all things chocolate, andsometimes sweet and salty stuff
(19:42):
too.
Offload's visits were nevershort of dramatic.
She was a bit like that guestwho shows up at the worst
possible time, stays for severaldays and uses up all the hot
water.
She was the queen ofunpredictability, sometimes
early, sometimes fashionablylate, and always prepared to
throw a surprise curve ball,like appearing during a long
awaited vacation.
Now, as we honor our dearlydeparted Aunt Flo, we celebrate
(20:05):
her ability to teach usimportant life lessons
perseverance, a surprising levelof patience and the necessity
of carrying an emergency tamponand stash of painkillers at all
times.
Rest in peace, aunt Flo.
We may not miss your timing,but we'll always remember the
chaos, the humor and the many,many trips to the store.
Rest easy, old girl.
Rest easy.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Rest easy.
I like that.
Rest easy, that is rude Resteasy.
You know that reminded me of atwork, how we were saying you
had to have pads stashedeverywhere in your car, and at
work in my little drawer I had alittle jazzy like little pouch
that I stabbed, you know, and soI'm like and I have to grab and
try to hide it, yeah and walkthrough the office and I was
(20:47):
like, oh, this is just soterrible.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Girls get the tampon put in bra on.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
Right, it's like we have to be so discreet and they
don't sell.
You remember they used to sellthe pads and tampons in the
bathroom, oh yeah.
But sometimes even in corporatesituations, they would have
them in the bathrooms, but Iguess they just got tired of
stocking them.
What?
Speaker 2 (21:06):
about going to the grocery store and buying them.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
You got this big box, yeah, and the guy behind you is
like He'd look in and be likeyeah shut up, sir this is how
you got here.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
You better be happy, I'm wearing them thank you, you
better be happy I'm wearing them.
This also brings me to a storyhygiene and your period.
Oh yeah, some people you cansmell.
Okay, god forgive me and I praythis young lady is not watching
, but it is a true story.
Um, I used to take I don't wantto go into a whole lot of
(21:40):
detail, but I had a friend whoshe had an older parent, and you
know, um, first of all, that wewere born what 70s, 60s, 70s,
so for her to have an olderparent, her parent was probably
maybe what 40s or not even 40s,um, yeah, 40s, 30s.
(22:03):
So times were different thenthan even they were for our time
.
So she was raised, and she's myage.
She was raised not to get intowater yep, I've heard that
before at all.
Speaker 6 (22:15):
We don't get into water when you're on your cycle,
because that's what theybelieved the generation before
us.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
You do not submerge yourself in water.
So we would take, we would takeclasses.
We would take this class afterwork that involved us dancing
and sweating and stuff, andthere would be the smell that
would come up in the room, thatI would smell and I remember
coming out of class all the timebe like god don't know who is
that, because it's you know it'sa room full of women, you don't
(22:42):
know who it is, or whatever.
And one time, um, we went toclass, went to class together,
and she needed a ride to her carand and so she got in my car
and it hit me and I was like, ohmy God, it's my friend, I'm so
sorry Because I'm stuck on thenot getting in water.
You don't shower, wait a minute,you don't shower.
(23:05):
No, I've heard that you don'tscrub at the sink.
Speaker 6 (23:09):
Yeah, but why are you doing this, but no, but why are
you doing this?
Why are you doing this, but no,but why are you doing this?
Speaker 3 (23:13):
Why are you doing this?
No, because y'all know that'show we do it.
Speaker 5 (23:16):
That's how we do it.
No, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
My mother never said that to me.
You ain't never took the littlesink bath.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
My mother has never in our life allowed us to wash
up.
Have you ever washed up?
Never, because I passed that onto my son.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
My mother said as long, get everything prepared to
wash it to see you could havebeen in and out.
So if you were young and youhad a dude's house and y'all do
it real quick no, I usually takea shower.
I jump in the shower that theyparents house come on first of
all, what y'all in and theyparents house, stephanie nasty
little hot, I wasn't doing allof that, Stephanie.
Speaker 4 (23:51):
You didn't live until you snuck into somebody's house
.
Speaker 3 (23:53):
Yeah, I wasn't doing all of that, stephanie.
We had to do the little washoff.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Well, again, I can tell you all yeah, you have to.
Speaker 5 (24:02):
Of course I'm not going to lie and say I've never
had the washcloth because we allhad the washcloth moment.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Yeah, the washcloth moment.
You just hurry and laugh thetemporary until you get to the
shower.
Yeah, until you get to a shower.
Speaker 5 (24:11):
Well, if I'm staying at his house, I can shower.
No, we were Well.
First of all, y'all were hotasses, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
Her baby's early At least.
I wanted to wash them smellfresh.
For what?
Speaker 5 (24:25):
Because I was leaving To go home and take a bath.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
To walk in shame.
To walk in shame, that'shilarious.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Y'all made me forget my story.
Sorry, the girl didn't washyour ass, basically no, but
that's what you were taught.
Speaker 4 (24:40):
That's what you were taught.
That was the generation beforeus.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
You've heard it right .
Why can't you get in water?
Speaker 6 (24:47):
It was one of the old wives tales.
That's all.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
But her mother taught her that.
So I remember going home and Itold my mom.
I was like Mom, it was myfriend, it's my friend.
And my mother said, if that'syour friend, then you will tell
her.
So I had to tell her.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
You think?
Speaker 5 (25:03):
she didn't know Well no.
When I approached her and wehad the conversation because we
were friends and of course,there's a way to tell people
with love, yeah, discern and, ofcourse, there's a way to tell
people with love discern, notdiscernment, tact, right, with
love.
You know that there wassomething going on and I noticed
, you know that that it was you,and she was like, oh my god,
I'm so sorry, I'm on my period,and I was like, and I didn't
(25:25):
understand.
So I was like, okay, so whatdoes that mean?
So what does that mean?
And then that's when she saidwell, you know, you don't get in
the water, you don't.
And I was.
I was confused because I hadnever heard it before you don't
get in water.
And I was like, girl, if youdon't get you, a man, so I, I
introduced her to a vinegar bathand you know I was like, and
(25:48):
she thanked me for it because wewere friends.
You know you said that before,but that's how she was raised
man, I'm about to look that up.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
It it must be something religious.
I don't know why you're sayingsomething.
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (25:58):
It's just an old wives tale and I want to know
where it came from.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
That you do not, and I wonder if it's like cultural.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
That's like, yeah, I'm going to have to research
that this is an African-Americanblack woman, religious or it's
just people did it.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
If someone please comment.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
If someone please tell me the origination of that,
why, yeah, that you don't getin water?
Speaker 5 (26:20):
so confused but the hygiene.
And then I've had anotherincident where, um, first of all
, you already know when we go toevents and stuff with, the
women's line is always so long.
Oh yeah, and this was back inmy clubbing days.
I used to love to party.
Everybody cute and I hate tosay it, it was always that real,
real cute one that it seemedlike all the dudes wanted that
(26:42):
you would come behind them inthe bathroom.
I don't like to stand in linesand unless I seriously have to
go, I will hold it.
Because I don't like to smelleverybody before me.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
Everybody have to go.
Speaker 3 (26:56):
I will hold it because I don't like to smell
everybody before me Everybody'shygiene ain't the same.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Everybody's hygiene ain't the same.
When they're in there, theydon't dispose of things like
they're supposed to.
Speaker 5 (27:05):
I've gone into the bathroom and had to pee and
walked right back out justbecause I didn't want the person
behind me to think that smellwas me.
That ain't me, I've done that,I've done that, I've done that,
like yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
Yeah, I'm just waiting.
Speaker 5 (27:22):
I'm going to hold out until everybody go and I'll
come while the show is happeningand stuff.
I'm just going to misssomething.
OK well, let me remind realquick, and we're going to wrap
this up.
Look, we done sat here and hada whole conversation about our
period.
Okay, dear period girl, we donefor real this time.
You've been showing upuninvited for years and I
(27:43):
finally had enough.
I don't know who told you wewas in a lifelong situationship,
but, baby, I'm free now.
Yes, yes, first of all, I canfinally wear white Without
feeling like I'm playing Russianroulette.
No more side eye in my pantsall day.
No more emergency jacket Wraparound.
I'm strutting in my white withconfidence.
(28:05):
Now, period not included.
And let's talk about the wayyou used to Block my blessings,
specifically in the bedroom.
Every time I was trying to getsome here, you come with your
drama.
You was the biggest cock blockerin my life and I'm not gonna
(28:25):
lie, I resented you for it.
Oh, and I'm so glad I don'thave to carry them raggedy
tampons in my purse.
No more you ever had one ofthose things fall out in front
of a fine man at the checkoutline.
That's why when you said that, Istarted laughing Embarrassing.
So now my purse is classy andtampon free.
Classy like me, and don't evenget me started on them.
(28:49):
Busted period panties, you knowthe ones Faded, stretched out,
looking like they've beenthrough a war girl.
I threw them in the trash withyou.
Yep, I'm back in my sexy,high-cut lacy drawers living my
best life cheeks sitting realpretty.
(29:10):
So yeah, it's been real.
It's been real toxic.
I's been real toxic.
I wish you well, but I'm goodand I'm over it.
Me and my hormones are stilltrying to figure out some things
, but at least you're gone, sothere's no love loss.
This is from a grown ass.
Fine ass free ass woman.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yes, good job Good job.
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Y'all know, y'all crazy.
Speaker 4 (29:35):
Thank y'all for joining me on this one.
Speaker 5 (29:37):
This is Legra, with Timeless and Unfiltered.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
This is Stephanie, this is Cherise and this is
Evanya.
We are spilling the tea onmidlife one laugh at a time.
Bye, thanks for watching.
You've loved Timeless and Unfiltered to this point,
and we can't wait to share more.
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Speaker 3 (00:14):
This is Lagra.
This is Stephanie.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
This is Cherie and this is Ivanya.
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And this is Evania, and this is Timeless and
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Speaker 6 (00:34):
one laugh at a time when I think I've said that
before I don't mind approachingsomebody, so that may be a part
of it too, but I'm not, I'm, I'mjust not falling to that.
I'm not falling into that thingabout what Atlanta look like
(00:58):
and what the other people womenare doing, because I just think
that we give the keep centerreceiver but the other person we
will.
We'll go after another womanand say what she's doing, but we
never sit back and look at whatthe person who's a receiver.
They're coming up, they gottacome after your man and what is
he doing?
And how did they get his number?
His number didn't jump in theirdamn pocket or phone.
But because we don't want todeal with it, the accountability
(01:18):
of holding that MFA responsible.
We don't want to be responsiblefor holding him accountable.
So we go jump on the otherperson and they got something to
do with it.
Actually, they don't owe meshit.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
They don't owe me anything.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
You owe me something and I'm not coming after you.
Speaker 6 (01:37):
I'm not trying to figure out what you're doing
when I don't feel comfortable orsafe it's time for me to go.
Speaker 5 (01:43):
It's just that simple atlanta or anywhere else.
Speaker 6 (01:55):
I don't think I've ever, I don't think I don't
think I have ever gone throughhis stuff.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Yeah because, why, never right, right.
Well, I'm gonna do call her upand say hey, I found your number
in your phone what People do?
Speaker 6 (02:05):
I've never.
People never see me swear.
I've never.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
And it's the truth.
It's like you said.
People still come up to me oh,you married.
Yes, are you happy?
What?
Speaker 6 (02:17):
People are bold.
They do, do that.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, they will ask you, they don't care they don't
care.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
But when you're I, I feel like I'm not married either
, but I feel like when yourrelationship is strong, even in
dating, if y'all have somethingas strong as that, you're
committed to or you really careabout this person, then you
really care about their emotions, and that comes with safety.
That's what feeling safe, feellike Like you're, we're here
(02:47):
together and I don't have toworry.
And the second those feelingscome up or something's going on.
I don't have to do, but thatcomes with mature conversations
with somebody.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Right.
Speaker 6 (02:59):
So when you're having mature conversations and you're
dating or you decide whateveryou're going to do, y'all do
know, as women, we could beseeing somebody and then after a
while we just assume we, they,whatever, and they never even
ask us.
You know, there's a lot ofassumptions, but once and I
always say we just doing thistill we don't, until somebody
(03:19):
asks the other person like wegotta have that conversation, we
have to have the adultconversation, right, right.
And then, once you do that, youhave to feel secure and safe and
be.
This is what it is, and as anadult, when it's not anymore,
then you have to be an adult andlet's have a conversation to
move this along.
Speaker 5 (03:37):
What are we?
Speaker 4 (03:37):
doing?
What are we doing?
Speaker 6 (03:40):
People just don't do that.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
It's communication.
We don't communicate like weshould.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Well, that's why I think friendships to build a
friendship first, is thefoundation.
Yes, and I build friendshipswith everyone that I've dated to
where I don't have like realbad breakups.
They're real amicable and I'mlike yeah, this ain't, this
ain't working out for me.
I release you out of love.
I can see her.
We just yeah, and so that'swhen they're well.
(04:05):
You have abandonment issuesbecause of your past and I'm
like, oh friend, you throwing upwhat's going on?
like, don't, don't do that andit's not to have abandonment
issues.
I'm just not gonna keep puttingup with your shit at the end of
the day and I release you.
I love and I I'm still coolwith a lot of my exes.
I we still have conversationsbecause I just don't have bad
breakups.
(04:25):
I really communicate as anadult, but I like what you said.
We're just.
What did you say?
We're doing this until we'renot.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Until we're not, yeah , until we're not.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Until we're not, until, we're not, until, we're
not, until, we're not.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Until we're not feel like we're not meshing and this
ain't going anywhere.
Hey, let's have a conversation,and I have adult conversations
and they're uncomfortable.
A lot of times they justsitting there tapping.
Can't believe you doing me likethis, hey.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
I mean me and Anthony have gone through phases where
we didn't talk.
I mean he worked that night, Iworked during the day and it
would just be Ships passing inthe night, just right, and just
be like like you said.
Then you got to be an adult,say okay.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
What's going on now?
What are we doing?
Right, Like what?
What?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Let's talk.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
So who's usually?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
the bigger person, you or him?
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Who's the bigger person you mean?
I feel like I'm the one thatalways has to back down, Because
I'm like rawr and Anthony willsit there like Real calm and
then you feel crazy Like dang hecalm, dang okay, because he's
not going to Dang, and it usedto be a place where I yelled a
(05:42):
lot and then I stopped andlooked and I was like he doesn't
hear me, okay, okay, I can'thear when you yell yeah.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
So then I stopped.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
And even my son had a situation where he upset me and
I nothing.
And for days my son was likeI'm gonna need you to yell at me
, cuss me out something ain'tright, something I don't like.
This I don't like this.
You not saying that that's likedanger, right?
There right and it would.
(06:19):
I got to a point now where I'llsay you know, the warning is
okay, you start running when Isay all right now because, I'm
not, I'm not, I'm not.
And that drives him crazy.
And he's like Cheryl, saysomething to me, what?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
what would you?
Speaker 4 (06:37):
like me to say oh, they hate that.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
I ain't got nothing.
No, we in trouble.
Speaker 6 (06:42):
I have a question now that we're talking, that we're
talking, my wheels are spinning.
Now, my wheels are spinning, soyou know you'll hear therapists
or people talk about.
Well, everybody, the ultimategoal is to get married.
Right so why, are you withsomebody?
Why are you doing that If y'alldon't plan on getting married?
You see that a lot on TikTok,Instagram and all of that stuff.
(07:04):
But first of all, I mean,everybody is not looking to get
married, but the question iswhen you're in this dating realm
, isn't that something that youthink that should be discussed?
If that's what your ultimategoal is, it's not wasting time,
right?
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yes, that's like I know you want your girl.
Speaker 6 (07:26):
Saying deaf partner is being that.
You want your deaf buddy.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Yeah, that's a conversation that you're having,
I'm fine yeah, okay, yeah, Iwas just curious about that yeah
, and my current one was like oh, I don't know one give me.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
And I'm like, so okay , we basically gonna do this
till it's done till you're nottill I'm not yeah, but there's
no surprise, yeah, you're gonnabe single don't okay yeah, I
have those conversations yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I let them know I'm dating with a purpose and this
is my intention.
What are yours?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
oh, I know okay, whatever exercise you can do,
ladies, please, but yeah.
Speaker 5 (08:07):
I haven't had the the sneeze and I can't hold it like
I used to.
Yeah, so if I say, oh, I gottapee, it can wait just no, it
can't let me go and go to thebathroom.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I'm a camel, I can hold mine forever that's the one
, unless you sneeze but and Iwent to the doctor not told the
doctor I feel like I walk aroundsmelling like little pissy.
So he didn't know he was like Idon't know girl.
Yes, he looks like Prince, he'sso little and cute.
(08:40):
And so when he left the nurseshe's a woman of our age, she's
like that's because we're notemptying our bladder fully.
So she said, when you go to thebathroom and pee, she said,
because you always have maybelike two or three drops that you
didn't get out so she was likeyou lean forward and squeeze.
I do that them and see I Ididn't know that and she said
(09:01):
that's why you'll smell pee.
And she said because you mighthave two, two to three little
drops left that you didn't getout.
So she said lean over andsqueeze.
And she said you hear themlittle things yeah, you do, and
then you'll be fine, I was likenobody.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
I never well, I've never heard that.
Yeah, I do every time that Iuse the bathroom.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
When I finish, I lean forward yeah, and almost do a
kegel exercise and that lastlittle two, three drops come out
and be like yep, now I'm done.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
You walk around smelling fresh all day.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I don't really, but a little random, I have to think,
so a little random farts thathappen sometimes you say the
random farts, okay, nobody told.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Well, I think part of it is because things you used
to be able to eat you can't eatanymore.
Rated as much like you know,even us, we had lunch earlier
today.
I had to run upstairs and go tothe bathroom Like what is my
body doing?
Speaker 4 (09:47):
Something.
Speaker 5 (09:47):
I ate said nope, Anything else.
You wish someone had warned you.
Speaker 6 (09:55):
Just that it's hard to get the weight off after a
Sunday, Seriously like I justhad no idea.
I mean, I was had no idea yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
I mean.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
I was always 105 pounds.
They used to call me olive oiland then one day the weight kept
.
Really I hated it because Ialways had hips.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
It was a little skinny thing with hips.
She was slim, fit.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
I had these hips because the kids used to tease
me.
The boys used to tease me, thesame boys they loved it.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
You didn't know, I didn't know.
Speaker 6 (10:27):
So I was always 105 pounds, this little old thing,
right.
And then one day you wake upand this weight is here and you
can't.
I mean, I used to.
I don't know if anybodyremembers this.
This used to be this stuffcalled weight on.
Did you used to drink so youcould gain?
Speaker 2 (10:41):
weight Like protein.
It was like a place it wascalled, so I just.
Speaker 5 (10:48):
I wish you could give it back I know, right.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Like nobody ever said this is going to happen at a
certain age.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Make sure that you, you know, run or work out or do
something.
You just, I just assumed that Iwas going to be where I was at.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
You're going to be a hot girl forever.
You still a hot girl.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
I'm still a hot girl.
You see her cut her eyes at me.
I'm still a hot girl.
You still a hot girl.
It is harder.
Speaker 6 (11:11):
They don't got these hips, but you know I just wished
that somebody would have saidyou know, this is called a fupa
and all of that stuff.
Like nobody told me any of this.
Speaker 5 (11:24):
Okay, I'm going to steer you a little different
direction.
Look, don't look at us, don'tjudge us, mo, and it might just
be me.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
I know every woman is different, I know, I know every
woman's body is different, butyou remember when you used to
wet the whole bed when did thatstop?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
when did that?
I think it depends on theperson, honestly he's still
young, he's been on the personmessing with the women that
still went up the whole bed.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
When did that stop and what happened?
Speaker 5 (11:57):
to it right person?
Have you?
Yeah, no, the right person will.
But if you just looked at meand you went the floor.
I can't waste it for everybody,but but also, too, if you're
not sexually active as often asyou used to be.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
They also say, if you don't use it, you lose it, so
you know well run straight yes,we say the way we just say the
well, well, run straight that isgonna dig a little deeper.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
The last time that I did get some and it wasn't all
that long ago I had to start atest to see if she still worked.
I had a hot flash in the middle.
See, that's what I just said.
But the funny thing was he feltit oh shit, that he was like
what's going on.
Oh my God.
He probably loved that hotflash.
Speaker 6 (12:47):
Yeah, because it was warm.
Speaker 5 (12:48):
It made you warmer.
First of all, it's already warm.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Thank you it made it warm, but no, it was hot.
It wasn't warm, it was hot.
Speaker 5 (13:00):
He felt how hot my body got at the time.
He was kind of inside.
That's what I mean.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
They were trying to cook a what they liked, that
feeling, that's a hot flash.
Speaker 5 (13:10):
She was like oh my God, look at you.
He felt it, he felt how hot mybody instantly went from this to
this.
Yeah, I was burning up and likewe had to stop, give me a
minute, my temperature come backdown.
But at the time we were in theact and he felt he literally
(13:33):
felt it how hot I got internally.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Trying to make sure this is clean.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
You're definitely a hot girl.
Speaker 6 (13:42):
Trying to make sure this stays on the cleaver.
Speaker 5 (13:45):
That's a hot yes, A hot girl Look at her.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Now you had the man trying to comment.
Speaker 5 (13:53):
Can I try it out?
It was more than just a flat no, it was hot.
So does sex get better thanwhen you get older?
Speaker 6 (14:00):
I think so, I absolutely think so, no
inhibitions.
Yeah, we're not just doing amister.
Thing.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
You know the things that you don't know you turn.
Put your leg up there.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
Grab your ankles.
No, you're not.
No, you're not.
Speaker 6 (14:17):
You're not Unfiltered .
Speaker 5 (14:20):
No, I think it does.
Speaker 6 (14:22):
Because, like you, said you know, you've gotten to
a point where you know your body, you know what you like, you
know what you don't want.
And to me, I think it is moreenjoyable and you can verbalize
what you like, what you don'tlike, the things that when
you're younger you don't know,kind of conditioned to just be
like.
Well, whatever they want.
Speaker 5 (14:40):
I don't know.
I was never like that.
Sex was never like that for me.
Speaker 6 (14:44):
Well, no, it may not be like that for you.
What I'm saying is that's whatgirls are basically taught for
the most part, I want to sharesomething with the gang out here
.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
Yeah, I have something to share.
Oh, you done wrote something.
Yeah, uh-huh.
Speaker 5 (14:56):
Okay, let's see what we got.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
And this looks so old and dated that I printed it out
Instead of it on your phone.
It could have been on my wholephone, but I typed it on the
computer in this print.
I've been in work mode, I'vebeen going crazy at work, so
anyway, okay, don't mind my bigpiece of paper, okay, okay.
(15:17):
So I said you were somethingthat happened to me.
A little late, I must say.
You came with a gush in a uhand I tried to pray you away.
What the just happened and whyis it so bad?
I told my grandma and shestated girl, let me go get you
some pads.
This is a part of life and whatmakes you great.
You're the giver of life.
And there's much more at stake.
We have birth nations andcreated wars.
These two of these baby are thegivers and receivers of much,
(15:40):
much more.
Now I got tired of you and I wasseriously over it, went to the
doctor and said, sir, please,snip, snip, I don't want her no
more.
My childbearing years are doneand just like that, in 2020, my
new journey begun.
I parted ways with old girl andI must say, I was feeling great
.
But there was one more thingaround that corner, one more
(16:00):
thing to negate.
She reminded me of an old songand, ooh, her ass couldn't wait.
She waited patiently andquietly grinding at the gates oh
, I'm coming.
And she wanted her applause.
She walked into the room andthe men the men, of course
coming to a theater soon nearyou, damn I'm a rapper now we
(16:29):
need you to perform it, come,come on no listen.
Why are you playing?
Uh-oh, what is that?
Speaker 5 (16:35):
Lou.
She got little Lou down there.
Little Lou, come on.
Where's little Lou at?
Little Lou, baby, come on.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
That was so good.
I like it, I like it.
So we're talking about periodsand then a pause.
Speaker 5 (16:47):
Y'all Now keep in mind.
I sent the text out about 11o'clock last night, so you wrote
that at 11 o'clock last nightyou did.
You did, got skills, got bars.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
The talent.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Bars baby, that was good though.
Speaker 5 (17:00):
That was really good.
Copyrighted.
Really good, you said.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
around the corner was the menopause and for those who
know where I'm going y'all knowwhere I'm going.
Yes, I tried going.
Speaker 5 (17:11):
Y'all know where I'm going because I tried to tell my
boo thing like what a lot ofpeople underestimate the power
of the present moment.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Yes, because it's in this moment where you can unglue
yourself from what has happenedand what has been and the
cycles going on.
It's where you can really makethe decision, the actual choice
of how do you want to feel.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Where do you want to go, say that again.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Say that again.
It's in this present momentwhere you can make the decision
of how you want to feel yes,where do you want to go?
Yes, and then you get theresources or the pieces in place
to make that happen.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You want to feel happy.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Okay, what makes you happy?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
If you don't know the answer to that, then okay, we
do some homework there.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
All that happens in the present moment.
Speaker 6 (18:06):
There's a lot of noise.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
What happened before is real.
The people in your life thattrigger you are real.
Yes, all of the stressors arereal.
Yes, yes, yes there are noise,that you have to set limits.
If you can, take breaks awayfrom it, if you can, and just
make a decision that this partor this part of the day or this
(18:31):
hour I'm going to be here,where's here, here's where my
feet are and wherever my mindtries to leave, I'm going to
bring that little puppy back andsay okay we're going to sit
here and do the work that I needto do so that I can be okay.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
You started off with your little rap and everything
it's a poem.
It's a poem.
Did y'all write anything ory'all have anything prepared for
y'all cycle?
I did throw this at y'all inthe wee hours of the night last
night.
I have a little obituary.
Oh, she's going to wrote anobituary, good boy.
Okay, let's see what we got, ohmy gosh.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Let's see what we got .
This is my Aunt Flo obituary.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Okay, aunt Flo, come on, aunt Flo, that was her name.
That was her name too.
Come on Flo.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Okay.
With a mix of relief, mildannoyance and a few celebratory
chocolates, we announce thedeparture of our dear Aunt Flo.
For decades she visited us likeclockwork, arriving uninvited,
demanding attention andoccasionally making a dramatic
entrance with cramps, moodswings and an insatiable craving
for all things chocolate, andsometimes sweet and salty stuff
(19:42):
too.
Offload's visits were nevershort of dramatic.
She was a bit like that guestwho shows up at the worst
possible time, stays for severaldays and uses up all the hot
water.
She was the queen ofunpredictability, sometimes
early, sometimes fashionablylate, and always prepared to
throw a surprise curve ball,like appearing during a long
awaited vacation.
Now, as we honor our dearlydeparted Aunt Flo, we celebrate
(20:05):
her ability to teach usimportant life lessons
perseverance, a surprising levelof patience and the necessity
of carrying an emergency tamponand stash of painkillers at all
times.
Rest in peace, aunt Flo.
We may not miss your timing,but we'll always remember the
chaos, the humor and the many,many trips to the store.
Rest easy, old girl.
Rest easy.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Rest easy.
I like that.
Rest easy, that is rude Resteasy.
You know that reminded me of atwork, how we were saying you
had to have pads stashedeverywhere in your car, and at
work in my little drawer I had alittle jazzy like little pouch
that I stabbed, you know, and soI'm like and I have to grab and
try to hide it, yeah and walkthrough the office and I was
(20:47):
like, oh, this is just soterrible.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Girls get the tampon put in bra on.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
Right, it's like we have to be so discreet and they
don't sell.
You remember they used to sellthe pads and tampons in the
bathroom, oh yeah.
But sometimes even in corporatesituations, they would have
them in the bathrooms, but Iguess they just got tired of
stocking them.
What?
Speaker 2 (21:06):
about going to the grocery store and buying them.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
You got this big box, yeah, and the guy behind you is
like He'd look in and be likeyeah shut up, sir this is how
you got here.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
You better be happy, I'm wearing them thank you, you
better be happy I'm wearing them.
This also brings me to a storyhygiene and your period.
Oh yeah, some people you cansmell.
Okay, god forgive me and I praythis young lady is not watching
, but it is a true story.
Um, I used to take I don't wantto go into a whole lot of
(21:40):
detail, but I had a friend whoshe had an older parent, and you
know, um, first of all, that wewere born what 70s, 60s, 70s,
so for her to have an olderparent, her parent was probably
maybe what 40s or not even 40s,um, yeah, 40s, 30s.
(22:03):
So times were different thenthan even they were for our time
.
So she was raised, and she's myage.
She was raised not to get intowater yep, I've heard that
before at all.
Speaker 6 (22:15):
We don't get into water when you're on your cycle,
because that's what theybelieved the generation before
us.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
You do not submerge yourself in water.
So we would take, we would takeclasses.
We would take this class afterwork that involved us dancing
and sweating and stuff, andthere would be the smell that
would come up in the room, thatI would smell and I remember
coming out of class all the timebe like god don't know who is
that, because it's you know it'sa room full of women, you don't
(22:42):
know who it is, or whatever.
And one time, um, we went toclass, went to class together,
and she needed a ride to her carand and so she got in my car
and it hit me and I was like, ohmy God, it's my friend, I'm so
sorry Because I'm stuck on thenot getting in water.
You don't shower, wait a minute,you don't shower.
(23:05):
No, I've heard that you don'tscrub at the sink.
Speaker 6 (23:09):
Yeah, but why are you doing this, but no, but why are
you doing this?
Why are you doing this, but no,but why are you doing this?
Speaker 3 (23:13):
Why are you doing this?
No, because y'all know that'show we do it.
Speaker 5 (23:16):
That's how we do it.
No, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
My mother never said that to me.
You ain't never took the littlesink bath.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
My mother has never in our life allowed us to wash
up.
Have you ever washed up?
Never, because I passed that onto my son.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
My mother said as long, get everything prepared to
wash it to see you could havebeen in and out.
So if you were young and youhad a dude's house and y'all do
it real quick no, I usually takea shower.
I jump in the shower that theyparents house come on first of
all, what y'all in and theyparents house, stephanie nasty
little hot, I wasn't doing allof that, Stephanie.
Speaker 4 (23:51):
You didn't live until you snuck into somebody's house
.
Speaker 3 (23:53):
Yeah, I wasn't doing all of that, stephanie.
We had to do the little washoff.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Well, again, I can tell you all yeah, you have to.
Speaker 5 (24:02):
Of course I'm not going to lie and say I've never
had the washcloth because we allhad the washcloth moment.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Yeah, the washcloth moment.
You just hurry and laugh thetemporary until you get to the
shower.
Yeah, until you get to a shower.
Speaker 5 (24:11):
Well, if I'm staying at his house, I can shower.
No, we were Well.
First of all, y'all were hotasses, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
Her baby's early At least.
I wanted to wash them smellfresh.
For what?
Speaker 5 (24:25):
Because I was leaving To go home and take a bath.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
To walk in shame.
To walk in shame, that'shilarious.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Y'all made me forget my story.
Sorry, the girl didn't washyour ass, basically no, but
that's what you were taught.
Speaker 4 (24:40):
That's what you were taught.
That was the generation beforeus.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
You've heard it right .
Why can't you get in water?
Speaker 6 (24:47):
It was one of the old wives tales.
That's all.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
But her mother taught her that.
So I remember going home and Itold my mom.
I was like Mom, it was myfriend, it's my friend.
And my mother said, if that'syour friend, then you will tell
her.
So I had to tell her.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
You think?
Speaker 5 (25:03):
she didn't know Well no.
When I approached her and wehad the conversation because we
were friends and of course,there's a way to tell people
with love, yeah, discern and, ofcourse, there's a way to tell
people with love discern, notdiscernment, tact, right, with
love.
You know that there wassomething going on and I noticed
, you know that that it was you,and she was like, oh my god,
I'm so sorry, I'm on my period,and I was like, and I didn't
(25:25):
understand.
So I was like, okay, so whatdoes that mean?
So what does that mean?
And then that's when she saidwell, you know, you don't get in
the water, you don't.
And I was.
I was confused because I hadnever heard it before you don't
get in water.
And I was like, girl, if youdon't get you, a man, so I, I
introduced her to a vinegar bathand you know I was like, and
(25:48):
she thanked me for it because wewere friends.
You know you said that before,but that's how she was raised
man, I'm about to look that up.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
It it must be something religious.
I don't know why you're sayingsomething.
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (25:58):
It's just an old wives tale and I want to know
where it came from.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
That you do not, and I wonder if it's like cultural.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
That's like, yeah, I'm going to have to research
that this is an African-Americanblack woman, religious or it's
just people did it.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
If someone please comment.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
If someone please tell me the origination of that,
why, yeah, that you don't getin water?
Speaker 5 (26:20):
so confused but the hygiene.
And then I've had anotherincident where, um, first of all
, you already know when we go toevents and stuff with, the
women's line is always so long.
Oh yeah, and this was back inmy clubbing days.
I used to love to party.
Everybody cute and I hate tosay it, it was always that real,
real cute one that it seemedlike all the dudes wanted that
(26:42):
you would come behind them inthe bathroom.
I don't like to stand in linesand unless I seriously have to
go, I will hold it.
Because I don't like to smelleverybody before me.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
Everybody have to go.
Speaker 3 (26:56):
I will hold it because I don't like to smell
everybody before me Everybody'shygiene ain't the same.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Everybody's hygiene ain't the same.
When they're in there, theydon't dispose of things like
they're supposed to.
Speaker 5 (27:05):
I've gone into the bathroom and had to pee and
walked right back out justbecause I didn't want the person
behind me to think that smellwas me.
That ain't me, I've done that,I've done that, I've done that,
like yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
Yeah, I'm just waiting.
Speaker 5 (27:22):
I'm going to hold out until everybody go and I'll
come while the show is happeningand stuff.
I'm just going to misssomething.
OK well, let me remind realquick, and we're going to wrap
this up.
Look, we done sat here and hada whole conversation about our
period.
Okay, dear period girl, we donefor real this time.
You've been showing upuninvited for years and I
(27:43):
finally had enough.
I don't know who told you wewas in a lifelong situationship,
but, baby, I'm free now.
Yes, yes, first of all, I canfinally wear white Without
feeling like I'm playing Russianroulette.
No more side eye in my pantsall day.
No more emergency jacket Wraparound.
I'm strutting in my white withconfidence.
(28:05):
Now, period not included.
And let's talk about the wayyou used to Block my blessings,
specifically in the bedroom.
Every time I was trying to getsome here, you come with your
drama.
You was the biggest cock blockerin my life and I'm not gonna
(28:25):
lie, I resented you for it.
Oh, and I'm so glad I don'thave to carry them raggedy
tampons in my purse.
No more you ever had one ofthose things fall out in front
of a fine man at the checkoutline.
That's why when you said that, Istarted laughing Embarrassing.
So now my purse is classy andtampon free.
Classy like me, and don't evenget me started on them.
(28:49):
Busted period panties, you knowthe ones Faded, stretched out,
looking like they've beenthrough a war girl.
I threw them in the trash withyou.
Yep, I'm back in my sexy,high-cut lacy drawers living my
best life cheeks sitting realpretty.
(29:10):
So yeah, it's been real.
It's been real toxic.
I's been real toxic.
I wish you well, but I'm goodand I'm over it.
Me and my hormones are stilltrying to figure out some things
, but at least you're gone, sothere's no love loss.
This is from a grown ass.
Fine ass free ass woman.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yes, good job Good job.
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Y'all know, y'all crazy.
Speaker 4 (29:35):
Thank y'all for joining me on this one.
Speaker 5 (29:37):
This is Legra, with Timeless and Unfiltered.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
This is Stephanie, this is Cherise and this is
Evanya.
We are spilling the tea onmidlife one laugh at a time.
Bye, thanks for watching.
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