April 1, 2025 • 36 mins
Discover the hilarious and positive side of menopause! Say goodbye to "period panties" and hello to the fun things that happen to women when menopause starts. Laugh your way through this important life change!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Today, y'all we are talking about menopause, all the
good things, the bad things.
But we're gonna start off withwhat that means to you and what
that means to us Freedom, nomore pads.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
No more pads.
I never knew when I was havinga cycle, so I always really had
to count that every 28 daysthere were no symptoms, no
cramps, no anything.
Two days on, completely done.
Two days.
I don't even know what that isbecause, like my cousins, would
start fanning and oh my God,come on, we got the fan on,
right.
I don't know what's going on.
(00:30):
So I literally went to mydoctor and said I think
something's not happening to mybody.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
Like I'm really concerned.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
This is Legra, this is Stephanie, this is Cherie and
this is Legra, this isStephanie, this is Cherie and
this is Ivanya.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
And this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are
spilling the tea on midlife, onelaugh at a time.
Hey you guys, Welcome toanother episode of Timeless and
Unfiltered.
I am Legra.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I'm Stephanie, I'm Cherie and Ivanya.
Today, y'all we are talkingabout menopause, all the good
things, the bad things, butwe're going to start off with
what that means to you and whatthat means to us Freedom, no
more pads, no more tampons, nomore unexpected visits.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
We're going to talk about periods and pads tampons.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
No more unexpected visit, talk about.
So it's in pants, okay, okay,but before we get started,
please, guys don't forget toLike, follow, subscribe and
share.
We want everybody to enjoythese sessions, yes yes, yes,
yes, yes, yes, we're filling thetea on midlife, oh, oh one last
time I feel yes, we
Speaker 3 (01:46):
are?
Yes, we are Well, since wetalking about midlife and you
got us talking about our cyclesand menopause.
So I guess what we gonna talkabout the good stuff.
Let's talk about the good stuff.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay, let's talk about the good stuff, because
it's enough bad stuff going onwith menopause.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
And since we were talking about the good stuff, I
know you told us to prepare andwrite, you know, a letter to our
period.
I want to share something withthe gang out here.
Yeah, I have something to share.
Oh, you done wrote something.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Yeah, Uh-huh, okay let's see what we got.
I done, wrote something.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
And this looks so old and dated that I printed it out
Instead of it on your phone.
No, it could have been on mywhole phone, but I typed it on
the computer in this print.
I've been in work mode, I'vebeen going crazy at work, so
anyway, okay, don't mind my bigpiece of paper, okay, okay.
(02:34):
So I said you were somethingthat happened to me.
A little late, I must say.
You came with a gush and a uhand I tried to pray you away.
What the just happened and whyis it so bad?
I told my grandma and shestated girl, let me go get you
some pads.
This is a part of life and whatmakes you great.
You're the giver of life.
And there's much more at stake.
We have birth nations andcreated wars.
(02:54):
These two, these baby, are thegivers and receivers of much,
much more now I got tired of youand I was seriously over it,
went to the doctor and said, sir, please sniff, snip, I don't
want her no more.
My childbearing years are doneand just like that, in 2020, my
new journey begun.
I parted ways with old girl andI must say I was feeling great.
(03:15):
But there was one more thingaround that corner, one more
thing to negate.
She reminded me of an old songand oh, her ass couldn't wait.
She waited, patiently andquietly grinding at the great
the gates, oh I'm coming.
And ooh, her ass couldn't wait.
She waited, patiently andquietly grinding at the gates oh
I'm coming.
And she wanted her applause.
She walked into the room andthe men of Paws coming to a
(03:35):
theater soon near you.
Damn, you want that.
Y'all put it last night.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
I'm a rapper.
Come on, rapper, now we needyou to perform it.
Come on, rapper, now we needyou to perform it, come on.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
No, listen.
Why are you playing?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Uh-oh, what is that, lou?
She got little Lou down there.
Little Lou, come on Where'slittle.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Lou at Little Lou, baby, come on.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
That was so good, thank you, thank you.
So we're talking about periodsand then a pause, y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Now keep in mind.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I sent the text out about 11 o'clock last night, so
you wrote that at 11 o'clocklast night you did yeah, you
good Got skills Got bars thetalent, Bars baby.
That was good, though that wasreally good.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Copyrighted.
Really good, you say, round thecorner was the menopause.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
For those who know where I'm going.
Y'all know where I'm going.
I tried to tell my boo thing.
I was like what?
Speaker 3 (04:31):
Menopause, baby Menopause.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
The men all pause, but this menopause yes.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Oh look, we got it, we got it we got it.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Sorry, server we got it, we got it, we got it, we got
it, we got it, we got it, wegot it.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
That was really good, thank you.
There we go.
I love red lipstick.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I love red lipstick yes, we do, yes, we do, oh
goodness.
Well, you got me with thatmiddle pause.
Now I don't even know if I wantto read my stuff later no don't
do that.
No, that was good and relatableyeah yes, as you said, your
grandmama said girl let me goget some pads, that's about all
that?
That's about all the uh,encouragement or excitement they
(05:08):
do like, yeah, let me go getyou something, and I started
late and late in my teen years,because my grandma was taking me
to the doctor like somethingwrong yeah, and
Speaker 4 (05:17):
it's because I was very active in sports and
everything.
So I just didn't and I thinkthe food was different back then
.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Everything was different back then because
these young girls are startingtheir cycle early.
Nine and ten.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
I was like those babies at schools with pads.
I started imagine a babycarrying pads.
I was 10 in fifth grade.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
I remember it like yesterday, fifth grade and I was
not prepared.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
I'm telling you, I'm sorry, I was not for me.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
I was 10 years old.
I remember the teacher had togive me something to wrap around
my waist.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
That's so scary yeah 10 years old.
Damn.
Oh wow, Gosh and my daughtersall started late too, Thank
Jesus.
I can't imagine babies inelementary school carrying pads.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Well, that's one of the good things about being in
this stage of life is I don'thave to carry no pads and
tampons anymore.
You know how many times youdone carry pads and tampons
anymore.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
You know how many times you didn't carry pads and
tampons and they fall out yourpurse or something at the wrong
time.
Oh yeah, the backup.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Yeah, sit in the car yes, sit the desk, send your
purse everywhere like I don'thave to worry about that stuff.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
No, more but I wouldn't have an ablation in
2020, so that's what I said whenI went to the doctor.
I was like yeah, I don't needthis anymore and I learned about
ablation probably like in 2013.
Um, I was used to do softwareimplementations and I went to a
center down in I think they werein Columbus, georgia, and all
(06:35):
the women that worked at theutility company were like oh we
got ablation.
I was like, what is ablation?
He was like it's like a.
You have your 2d laser laser towhere you don't bleed anymore.
But they say we still havesymptoms of a period, so they
call it a phantom period.
And I was like, well, how doyou do that?
One girl said I just told mydoctor I was cramping real bad
and the doctor did it for her.
So I think once I got into my40s my period started being more
(06:57):
erratic and I'm grown havingaccidents and I'm like, oh no,
because I couldn't count on it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Because, it's irregular, you don't know when
it's coming.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
Yeah, and it was, I guess, going through
perimenopause and I was like,yeah, I don't like that.
So I told him and I said oh man, I'm cramping real bad.
I ain't never had no cramps,I've never been a cramper.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
And I was like, yeah, and out procedure, it was
nothing crazy and I had that.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
No, I didn't feel anything.
No, you out.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I had mine last year best thing I ever did best thing
.
I have no worries.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I can trip on one, so you used to cramp.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I said I'm like, because I already had my tubes
tied.
So I'm like, but I'm stillgetting a period.
I'm like there's no need for meto have a period.
And so she's like well, we havethis thing called ablation.
Sign me up the next week, Loveit.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Love it.
See, I used to try to get mydoctor well, maybe because I was
telling her take my, take itall.
Oh, can you just get all theplumbing out, I don't need it no
more, I'm finished.
And she always said she wouldnever take it she's like, if
there's nothing wrong with it,just leave it alone, she said
don't, don't mess with it ifthere's nothing wrong with it.
But I never thought of theablation.
But mine stopped on its own,but it was, it was well.
(08:20):
First I thought you know youdon't have it and you're like,
okay, now, where have I had sexrecently?
Speaker 2 (08:26):
or whatever, because first thing you think of is
you're pregnant, because yourcycle is late, so I thought I
was.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I didn't think I was pregnant.
I was like wait, you ain't hadnone girl.
Who you fooling?
You ain't married Virgin Maryyou ain't a virgin Mary you
ain't a virgin Mary and what isgoing on with your cycle.
And I just went to the doctorand they draw blood to see what
stage you're in and the funnything was they told me I was
post-menopause.
Oh dog, like I had already beenthrough menopause.
I was like really, but I hadn'tstarted having all the symptoms
(08:53):
and everything yet.
I didn't start having symptomsmaybe about a year before I was
diagnosed with cancer.
But yeah, mine just stopped Oneminute.
It was there and then it wasn'tthere, and then you might have
one the next month, three monthslater and stuff, and then it
was just gone.
But I don't miss those periodpanties.
(09:14):
Y'all know the period panties.
I don't miss the period panties.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
You're not messing up those nice panties, see y'all
we have a couple gentlemen overhere, Like the boy's acting like
he's so into his phone rightnow.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Mo over here, I can see his eyes going all over.
See y'all, these are the thingsthat men didn't have to deal
with.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
See, y'all got to see the cute drawers, but we got
them big granny panties.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Hold them.
Crannies With bleach stains onthem because you bleached them
and I only wear black underwear.
I only wear black underwear,but I always bleached them
anyway.
So they got all the bleachstains, all them and everything
we got them.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Oh, the ugly y'all got the raggedy drawers too you
know, you got them raggedycomfortable drawers.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
We have raggedy drawers that you only wore when
you were on your cycle.
So y'all see, y'all got themold, cute lacy panties and stuff
where y'all got to see them.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
We got period panties and that's what we call well.
They would see it once.
When you're in a relationship,you're with that person day in
and day out.
You would see that, but everyonce in a while.
Yeah, everyone's one whoever Iwas with saw it.
Listen.
We, we together, we in thishouse together.
You just go go.
Yeah, this is what you're goingto see, that's what you're
(10:26):
going to get.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
How do y'all feel about those not that we have to
worry about it those new pantiesnow that you just bleed into
what's new panties.
Oh, the period panties.
Now you bleed into the panties.
Yeah, you haven't heard ofthose.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
Well, first of all, I ain't had a cycle in a minute,
but I've seen commercials aboutit, I was like I don't sound
right.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
But yeah, you just keep the same underwear, you
don't use a pad or anything.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
The disposable panties.
Yeah, I've always been a tampongirl.
I don't want nothing in mydrawers or to touch my skin.
I haven't used a towel.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
I'm a tampon girl.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
I was always a tampon girl, I don't want nothing
touching me.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
And then I play sports.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Especially once I started, you know, in college,
and it's funny because athletes,I'm sure you can all understand
, I'm sure we always did periodchecks and you know, women start
syncing up.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Yeah, I remember that I don't know why you start
syncing up.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
So the whole basketball team is on their
period At the same time.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
We don't know how that happens.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
I think it's the mood or something.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
And you got home games and away games and your
home games you wore the lightcolors, like if you had white
and all that kind of stuff.
So we always everybody do likeeverybody period check.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
So you're always checking your friends.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
If somebody had to check you because you're running
up and down a basketball court,so you need to maybe do a check
.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
And I don't miss that where you put your pad on and
you're like can you see my pad?
But back then they had a biglumpy pad Like.
Can you see?
It Looked like you had that bigblock in the back of your butt
like a baby tampon.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Oh, I hated that.
It was terrible.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
But I do like not having to schedule sex around.
Yeah, they got the tampons, butI do like not having to
schedule sex around.
Yeah, period, well, I ain'tgetting none right now but I'm
going back in the day it was athing.
She's back, she's back, she'sback.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
She's back Me and Becky Style.
You're going to have a hot girlsummer together.
She's back.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Then we'll run the red lights.
Remember when.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
I.
The crib is gone and theplaypen is there.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
I love that.
That's what I meant.
You don't have to worry aboutthat anymore.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
It's just like hey.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Because you do.
You have to schedule sex aroundyour period.
And I'm sure, being in arelationship.
You got you know.
Hey, boo, I'm sorry, I'm on myperiod.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Yeah, oh, you ain't coming over now.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Right, you just used me for that You're asking too
hard though, aw.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Like ew.
Yeah, so there's some goodthings about it.
I love, I love.
Well, I used to cramp reallybad as a younger adult, like
when it very first started, andI think that's just your body
going through whatever hormonalchanges and all that kind of
stuff.
But because I was an athleteand stuff, well, I can't even
(13:09):
say that I got maybe it was justme because some of our other
athletes would have really badcramps, but I was so active and
stuff.
Hell well, I didn't have timeto cramp, I got your coaches and
stuff didn't care nothing aboutthat.
It was the game time.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
You know you can go at home and say but when I did,
somebody told me if I do likesit-ups, for some reason it
would stop.
And it actually worked yeah,why you're moving in so yeah, I
actually did it, but I never hadlike really really bad, but
when I did I would do sit-upsmm-hmm, I don't think I.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
I ain't never heard of it.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
I don't know who told me, but it make it worse
Because you're exercising thatmuscle, the muscle's like so
tense and doing, but if you'removing it then you're kind of I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
I'm making it up it worked for me, it worked for you
.
Some women go to the gym.
See, yeah, would you say.
Some women go to the gym.
wow, I don't know well, I was sobusy like I said I was playing
sports a lot, so I don't know.
And then even after I finishedin college, when I got married,
(14:16):
we still played sports almostevery day, every other day or
whatever.
It was because we played a lotof co-ed stuff.
We played co-ed basketball,volleyball.
It was because we played a lotof co-ed stuff, we played co-ed
basketball, volleyball, softball.
So we played sports all thetime, all the time.
And then I think after that,like even in my 30s I don't know
(14:38):
, in my 30s, well, you know my30s was a little fun.
Yeah, I'm doing 30, 30, I don'teven remember everything I'm
doing when you can't say it allout loud and stuff, and then I
don't know.
I think I think I startedmenopause early in my 40s,
because it is starting early forsome a lot and I see a lot of
(15:01):
people, young girls like intheir 30s, talking about.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
A lot.
So you know, menopause istechnically only one day,
menopause is scientifically onlyone day.
And what happens?
Speaker 3 (15:11):
on that day.
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Everything after is post-menopause.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Post-menopause.
So what's?
Speaker 4 (15:16):
perimenopause.
You're getting ready totransition into that one full
day of menopause and then you goand you transition into
post-menopause.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
So what happens on the?
Speaker 4 (15:24):
one day.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
So what's on the one?
Speaker 4 (15:25):
day, who knows?
Well, girl, don't bring it upin Google.
Now I got to Google.
But if you Google it, it'sliterally only one day that you
actually transition.
I know, I literally missed it.
Yeah, because you said younever Literally.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I never knew when I was having a cycle, so I always
really had to count that every28 days there were no symptoms,
no cramps, no anything.
Two days on, completely done.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Two days.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Two days I had no idea that I was like.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
For me, honestly, going through menopause is.
I don't even know what that is,because, like my cousins, would
start fanning and, oh my God, Idon't know what's going on, so
I literally went to my doctorand said I think something's not
happening to my body.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
Like I'm really concerned.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
And she drew the blood work and said you're done.
I'm like, and I literally wokeup one day and just never had
another cycle.
But like I never had.
I never had a night sweat, Inever had a hot flash, mood
swings.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Anything like that I never had the mood swings.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Yeah, I never had anything and I didn't have.
Now my daughters bless theirhearts.
They be crawling on the groundwith cramps.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
I never I still get the mood swings, even with the
ablation I used to bleed for awhole week straight, and then,
and then sometime it'll run itback like so.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
I could bleed for seven days straight and not like
that's a long time and then Icould bleed for a whole week.
You might be off two, threedays and then that sucker would
run back because my cycles werereally irregular.
But that's one reason why I wasput on the birth control pill
at an early age because thebirth control pill regulates
(17:08):
period because I was soirregular, I was getting them
all the time.
So, honey, when that thing's,when it was like it was stopping
, I was like wait, are you sureI ain't gonna do this no more?
Yeah, I probably bled.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
I should be dead now I need a blood infusion, as much
blood as.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I've probably lost.
I need an infusion.
That's a lot.
I still have a big box oftampons I got from Costco.
Speaker 4 (17:32):
I don't get them right.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
I can't take them to Goodwill, your daughter's she's
on birth control, so she stopsher.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
So she didn't have a period.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
She takes the birth control so birth control that
you ain't got a half a pill.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
If you take the real pill like you just never take
the placenta.
Yeah, you just take the pit,the real pill, all the time and
when I was on the depo shot.
I didn't have a period foryears like, if you're going on
vacation, you just take the realpill during your vacation so
(18:01):
you wouldn't have periods, ain't?
Speaker 3 (18:03):
that something.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
I was in the struggle , but think about that Going on
vacation.
You got to plan when to take apill, yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
But you got to plan that, and especially as much as
I travel right now.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yeah.
I can't go swimming Like TicTacs.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
You can't get in the pool.
It's a lot the.
Yeah, that was the thing.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
What'd you say If you were in?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
the ocean swimming you couldn't go in the ocean and
hear your period.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Because, the sharks would come eat, you Like a
little drop of blood.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
They smell it, Baby they down there hovering they
won't go get you.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I don't know what we're going to do?
Speaker 1 (18:38):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Scientifically, did you know no.
Speaker 4 (18:41):
I think it's some bullshit.
I think it's some bullshit.
I think it's just a myth, but Iheard that too though don't go
to the ocean.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
There's gonna be some doctor on here listening to us.
Speaker 4 (18:49):
Yeah giving all this false information giving all
this false information this wasa black mama narrative, oh my
god.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
But I think too the this was a black mama narrative
oh my God, yeah, I heard that.
But I think too the good thingtoo about not having
psychologically, because a lotof women go through this thing
about oh my God, it's theofficial sign that you're old,
it's the official sign, you know, of not being able to have more
(19:21):
children.
I was so happy about thatbecause I wouldn't have no more,
no way, and I couldn't get thedoctors to do like snip cut
something it's like no, there'snothing wrong with your plumbing
miss colon, I'm gonna keep thatwe're.
We're not gonna go and just do asurgery.
I'm like, well, cut that offyou know or whatever, but a lot
of women go through thispsychological thing of when
they're real but for me it wasconfidence.
(19:43):
Yeah, mine wasn't depression orwasn't either.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Well, because I think , because I made the choice it
didn't happen to me.
I chose to do it, so I thinkthat changes it, but yeah I
think if I was going through itlike naturally, I probably would
feel a little oh my god youwould feel sad a little not that
I want kids or anything, butjust the fact that it's
happening, because that's thenext stage of life, like oh.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Because we're kind of taught that once you hit
menopause you're going to theend of your life.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Yeah, basically.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
That's the other side , and so for a lot of women,
when you think about it, weyoung, we're agile, we're doing
things.
When you get to that point,it's just like huh, you know, so
I was happy, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
I was just happy.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
I was happy that you know what?
Of course, not having cyclesanymore, not having to worry
about getting pregnant.
See y't scare.
Speaker 4 (20:40):
Don't scare.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
You don't have pregnancy scares.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
You know, what's so funny is I was always so careful
I never really had pregnancyscares.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I was always careful.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
I was always too fearful of and this is no knock
against anyone that had to dowhat they had to do.
I've watched or I had to takepeople to the clinic too many
times that.
I never wanted to be in thatsituation in that.
That seat now the first time Itook someone to the clinic.
That was when the protesterswould all be outside.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Get past all that, get past them.
And they banged on your car andthey called you all kind of
killers and all that kind ofstuff and I was like it ain't me
it ain't me.
Speaker 4 (21:28):
Oh, my God.
They knew your friend allthrough the night.
It's her, it's her.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
It's the driver.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
But yeah, they were aggressive and all that kind of
stuff, and even though theyweren't, allowed to come on the
premises.
Speaker 3 (21:40):
They would be at the gate so you had to get past them
, you know, drive past them andall that kind of stuff.
And I think I just never wantedto be in that position.
So I was always very careful,very careful.
And then because, especiallyonce I started being on the pill
, it was like clockwork.
So if it was late I was like,ok, I'm going to give her a day,
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I'm going to give her a day andshe need to show up.
But I always never wanted tohave that pregnancy scare.
But that's another thing is youcan have all the sex you want,
I ain't got to worry about beingpregnant.
And of course we got diseaseswe have all the pregnancy scare
yes, yes, but that pregnancyscare is something else.
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Well, you started off with yourlittle rap and everything.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
It's a poem.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
It's a poem.
Did y'all write anything ory'all have anything prepared for
y'all cycle?
I did throw this at y'all inthe wee hours of the night last
night.
I have a little obituary.
Oh, she's going to wrote anobituary, oh Lord.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Goodbye, dear.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Let's see what we got .
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Let's see what we got .
This is my Aunt Flo obituary.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
Come on.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Flo, that's her name.
Speaker 4 (22:49):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
With a mix of relief, mild annoyance and a few
celebratory chocolates, weannounce the departure of our
dear Aunt Flo.
For decades she visited us likeclockwork, arriving uninvited,
demanding attention andoccasionally making a dramatic
entrance with cramps, moodswings and an insatiable craving
for all things chocolate, andsometimes sweet and salty stuff
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too.
Aunt Flo's visits were nevershort of dramatic.
She was a bit like that guestwho shows up at the worst
possible time, stays for several, several days and uses up all
the hot water.
She was the queen ofunpredictability, sometimes
early, sometimes fashionablylate, and always prepared to
throw a surprise curveball, likeappearing during a long awaited
vacation.
Yes, now, as we honor our dailydeparted on flow, we celebrate
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her ability to teach usimportant life lessons
Perseverance, a surprising levelof patience and the necessity
of carrying an emergency tamponand stash of painkillers at all
times.
Rest in peace, aunt Flo.
We may not miss your timing,but we'll always remember the
chaos, the humor and the many,many trips to the store.
Rest easy, old girl, rest easy,rest easy, I like that Rest
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easy.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
That is rude Rest easy, you know.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
That reminded me of at work, how we were saying you
had to have pads stashedeverywhere in your car, and at
work in my little drawer I had alittle jazzy like little pouch
that I stabbed, you know, and soI'm like and I have to grab and
yeah, and try to hide it.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Yeah, and try to hide it.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Yeah, and walk through the office and I was
like, oh, this is just soterrible.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Girls get a tampon put in my bra Right.
They don't think of that.
Speaker 4 (24:24):
It's like we have to be so discreet.
And they don't sell.
You remember they used to sellthe pads and tampons in the
bathroom.
Oh, yeah, yeah In the publicbathroom, but sometimes, even in
corporate situations, theywould have them in the bathrooms
, tired of stocking them.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
What about going to the grocery store and buying
them?
You got this big box and theguy behind you is like Shut up,
sir.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
This is how you got here.
You better be happy, I'm wearingthem.
Thank you, you better be happy,I'm wearing them.
This also brings me to a storyHygiene and your period.
Oh yeah, some people you cansmell.
Okay, god forgive me and I praythis young lady is not watching
(25:07):
, but it is a true story.
Um, I used to take I don't wantto go into a whole lot of
detail, but I had a friend whoshe had an older parent and you
know, um, first of all, we wereborn in what?
70s, 60s, 70s, so for her tohave an older parent, her parent
(25:27):
was probably maybe what 40s, ornot even 40s, yeah, 40s, 30s.
So times were different thenthan even they were for our time
.
So she was raised, and she's myage.
She was raised not to get intowater yep, I've heard that
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before at all.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
We don't get into water when you're on your cycle,
because that's what theybelieved the generation before
us.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
You do not submerge yourself in water.
So we would take, we would takeclasses.
We would take this class afterwork that involved us dancing
and sweating and stuff, andthere would be this smell that
would come up in the room.
That I would smell.
And I remember coming out ofclass all the time and being
like God who is that?
Because you know it's a roomfull of women, you don't know
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who it is, or whatever.
And one time we went to classtogether and she needed a ride
to her car and so she got in mycar and it hit me and I was like
, oh my God, it's my friend, I'mso sorry because I'm stuck on
the not getting in water youdon't shower, wait a minute.
Speaker 4 (26:38):
You don't shower.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
No, I've heard that you don't scrub at the sink.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Yeah, but why are you doing this?
Speaker 4 (26:45):
Why are you doing this?
No, because y'all know that'show we do it.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
No, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (26:51):
You ain't never took the little sink bath.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
My mother has never in our life allowed us to wash
up.
Have you ever washed up?
Never, because I passed that onto my son.
My mother said as long as ittook for you to run that water,
get everything prepared to washthe seat you could have been in
and out the bathroom or theshower.
Speaker 4 (27:08):
If you were young and you had a dude's house and
y'all do it real quick, you'd belike, oh, I gotta go home.
No, I usually would jump in theshower that they parents' house
.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
First of all, I wasn't boning in they parents'
house.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Stephanie Nasty little hot ass.
I wasn't doing all of that,Stephanie.
Speaker 4 (27:25):
You didn't live until you snuck into somebody's house
.
I wasn't doing all of that,stephanie, we had to do the
little wash off.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Well, yeah, you have to.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Of course I'm not going to lie and say I've never
had the washcloth because we allhad the washcloth moment.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
You just hurry and laugh.
The the washcloth, because weall had a washcloth moment.
You just hurry him up thetemporary until you get to the
shower.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
Yeah, until you get to a shower.
Well, if I'm staying at hishouse, I can shower.
No, we might not.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Well, first of all, y'all were hot asses I'm sorry,
her baby's early, her baby'searly.
Speaker 4 (27:55):
At least I wanted to wash them, smell fresh.
For what?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Because I was leaving To go home and take a bath To
walk in shame.
Speaker 4 (28:02):
To walk in shame, that's hilarious.
Don't make me forget my story.
Sorry, the girl didn't washyour hands.
Well, basically no, but that'swhat you were taught.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
That's what you were taught.
That was the generation beforeus.
You've heard it right.
Why can't you get in water?
Speaker 2 (28:20):
It was one of the old wives tales, that's all.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
But her mother taught her that.
So I remember going home and Itold my mom.
I was like mom, it was myfriend, it's my friend.
And my mother said, if that'syour friend, then you will tell
her.
So I had to tell her.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
You think?
Speaker 3 (28:36):
she didn't know.
Well, no, when I approached herand we had the conversation
because we were friends and ofcourse there's a way to tell
people- with love, notdiscernment tact Right with love
.
You know that there wassomething going on and I noticed
, you know that it was you, andshe was like oh my God, I'm so
sorry, I'm on my period.
And I was like, and I didn'tunderstand.
(28:58):
So I was like, okay, so whatdoes that mean?
So what does that mean?
And then that's when she said,well, you know, you don't get in
the water, you don't.
And I was.
I was confused because I hadnever heard it before you don't
get in water.
And I was like, girl, if youdon't get you, a vinegar bath.
So I I introduced her to avinegar bath and you know I was
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like, and she thanked me for itbecause we were friends.
You know she thanked me for it,but that's how she was raised.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Man, I'm about to look that up.
It must be something religiousor something I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
It's just an old wives tale and I want to know
where it came from.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
And I wonder if it's like cultural.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
That's like yeah, I'm going to have to research that
this is an African-Americanblack woman.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
That's what I'm saying, but that's all.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
It wasn't religious or it's just People did it.
I don't know If someone pleasecomment.
Speaker 4 (29:48):
If someone please tell me the origination of that,
why, yeah that you don't get inwater?
I?
Speaker 3 (29:53):
am so confused.
But the hygiene.
And then I've had anotherincident where, first of all,
you already know, when we go toevents and stuff, the women's
line is always so long.
Oh yeah, and this was back inmy clubbing days.
I used to love to party.
Everybody cute and, I hate tosay it, it was always that real,
real cute one that it seemedlike all the dudes wanted that
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you would come behind them inthe bathroom.
I don't like to stand in linesand unless I seriously have to
go, I will hold it because Idon't like to smell everybody
before me.
Everybody's hygiene ain't thesame everybody's hygiene ain't
the same.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
When they're in there they don't dispose of things
like they're supposed to.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
I've gone into the bathroom and had to pee and
walked right back out.
Just because I didn't into thebathroom and had to pee and
walked right back out justbecause I didn't want the person
behind me to think that smellwas me.
I've done that.
I've done that.
Yeah, I'm sorry.
I'm going to just wait, I'mgoing to hold out until
everybody gone.
(30:57):
I'll come while the show ishappening and stuff.
I'm just going to misssomething because you always
think it's the person that justwalked right out the bathroom,
but all the mixtures of smellsand everything.
So I don't miss the, because Iwas always so paranoid about my
hygiene, especially during mycycle, to make sure that
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everything was right.
And then look, I've had anotherincident where it was a young
lady, that it was only her.
It was an office and she wentto the restroom and then I came
behind her and I was like what,what's?
What's, something's going on?
Oh yeah, yeah, I'm on my periodno, sweetheart, that's called
an infection.
Speaker 4 (31:35):
Oh god, like that's not your period should not smell
like that.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Right, you know what I'm saying so the one of the
things I love about menopause isnot having to worry about the
period, the hygiene of theperiod and all that stuff too,
Because, again, everybody'shygiene is not the same and we
were not all taught the same?
Speaker 4 (31:53):
Apparently not, and I think, everybody's pH balance.
I know everybody's pH balanceis the same there might be
certain pads that will affectyour pH.
I think they started havingscented pads.
Everybody can wear scented pads.
Yeah, I never wore scentedstuff.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
I don't want to smell perfume mixed with everything
else.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
But that's just like my deodorant.
I didn't want no smells to comeout.
Yeah, I don't want nothing orscented.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
Yeah, I don't want any of that, but, charisse, did
you have something prepared foryou?
Speaker 2 (32:20):
I don't have anything prepared.
You don't have a planner, soyou know by the time you said
that, thing, I know.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
I know.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
But what I could say about just that part is that I
thank you for allowing me togive life to my three beautiful
daughters.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
Yes, we birth nations .
Look, you don't even need towrite nothing.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
But bitch bye, because I just didn't like any
of it, even though it was twodays.
It's everything we just said,just the planning.
And oh, I bought this cutewhite swimsuit.
Okay, well, she came and damn,this is my vacation day.
I didn't know about takingthose pills, but you know what I
mean.
They might not even have hadthat when we were.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
So you know, it's just like oh, I'm going on
vacation, and then you know ifyou're taking off with your boo
thing you've got to kind of thewhole thing, is changed, that'd
be theworst and think about all of the
women that you know you gotyour anniversary or they're
getting married.
You can't change it.
Anniversary or they gettingmarried, you can't change it.
(33:23):
You don't know that far inadvance when you're planning.
So you know what back I I justI don't miss it at all.
It wasn't painful, I didn't gothrough a lot, but I don't miss
it.
Speaker 4 (33:31):
But I'm grateful for what it allowed to happen in my
life, them babies, they broughteverybody them girls something
else, them feisty girls.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
Now I'd be like jesus yes, yes, yes, okay.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
Well, let me remind real quick and do a great to
wrap this up.
Look, we done sat here and hada whole conversation about our
period.
Okay, dear period girl, we donefor real this time.
You've been showing upuninvited for years and I
finally had enough.
I don't know who told you wewas in a lifelong situationship,
(34:07):
but, baby, I'm free now.
Yes, yes.
First of all, I can finallywear white without feeling like
I'm playing russian roulette.
No more side eye in my pantsall day.
No more emergency jacketwraparounds.
I'm strutting in my white withconfidence now.
Period Not included oh, thewraparound.
And let's talk about the wayyou used to block my blessings.
(34:29):
Oh what?
Specifically in the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
In the bedroom.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Oh my God, Every time I was trying to get some here
you come with your drama.
You was the biggest cockblocker in my life and, I'm not
gonna lie, I resented you for it.
Oh, and I'm so glad I don'thave to carry them raggedy
tampons in my purse.
No more you ever had one ofthose things fall out in front
(34:54):
of a fine man at the checkoutline.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
That's why, when you said that, I started laughing
embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
So now my purse is classy and tampon free.
Classy like me, and don't evenget me started on them.
Busted period panties, you know, the ones faded, stretched out,
looking like they've beenthrough a war girl, I threw them
in the trash with you.
I'm back in my sexy, high cutlacy drawers, living my best
(35:22):
life, cheeks sitting real pretty.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
I'm back in my sexy high-cut lacy drawers Living my
best life.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
Cheeks sitting real pretty.
So yeah, it's been real.
It's been real toxic.
I wish you well, but I'm goodand I'm over it.
Me and my hormones are stilltrying to figure out some things
, but at least you're gone, sothere's no love loss.
Speaker 4 (35:42):
This is from a grown-ass fine-ass free-ass
woman, freaky ass, yes, yes,good job.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Y'all know y'all crazy.
Thank y'all for joining me onthis.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I think she said y'all know, y'all crazy, y'all
knew it, your stuff was just ascrazy and funny as mine.
Speaker 3 (36:01):
Y'all crazy, Y'all be like what?
Speaker 2 (35:59):
Because y'all stuff was just as crazy and funny as
mine.
Speaker 3 (35:59):
It was funny as mine, but you know, thank you for the
period for the daughters, thankyou for the children.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
But other than that bye bitch.
Speaker 4 (36:15):
This is Legra with.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
Timeless and Unfiltered.
This is Stephanie, this isSharice and this is Evanya.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
We are spilling the tea on midlife.
One laugh at a time Bye.
Today, y'all we are talking about menopause, all the
good things, the bad things.
But we're gonna start off withwhat that means to you and what
that means to us Freedom, nomore pads.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
No more pads.
I never knew when I was havinga cycle, so I always really had
to count that every 28 daysthere were no symptoms, no
cramps, no anything.
Two days on, completely done.
Two days.
I don't even know what that isbecause, like my cousins, would
start fanning and oh my God,come on, we got the fan on,
right.
I don't know what's going on.
(00:30):
So I literally went to mydoctor and said I think
something's not happening to mybody.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
Like I'm really concerned.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
This is Legra, this is Stephanie, this is Cherie and
this is Legra, this isStephanie, this is Cherie and
this is Ivanya.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
And this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are
spilling the tea on midlife, onelaugh at a time.
Hey you guys, Welcome toanother episode of Timeless and
Unfiltered.
I am Legra.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I'm Stephanie, I'm Cherie and Ivanya.
Today, y'all we are talkingabout menopause, all the good
things, the bad things, butwe're going to start off with
what that means to you and whatthat means to us Freedom, no
more pads, no more tampons, nomore unexpected visits.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
We're going to talk about periods and pads tampons.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
No more unexpected visit, talk about.
So it's in pants, okay, okay,but before we get started,
please, guys don't forget toLike, follow, subscribe and
share.
We want everybody to enjoythese sessions, yes yes, yes,
yes, yes, yes, we're filling thetea on midlife, oh, oh one last
time I feel yes, we
Speaker 3 (01:46):
are?
Yes, we are Well, since wetalking about midlife and you
got us talking about our cyclesand menopause.
So I guess what we gonna talkabout the good stuff.
Let's talk about the good stuff.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay, let's talk about the good stuff, because
it's enough bad stuff going onwith menopause.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
And since we were talking about the good stuff, I
know you told us to prepare andwrite, you know, a letter to our
period.
I want to share something withthe gang out here.
Yeah, I have something to share.
Oh, you done wrote something.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Yeah, Uh-huh, okay let's see what we got.
I done, wrote something.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
And this looks so old and dated that I printed it out
Instead of it on your phone.
No, it could have been on mywhole phone, but I typed it on
the computer in this print.
I've been in work mode, I'vebeen going crazy at work, so
anyway, okay, don't mind my bigpiece of paper, okay, okay.
(02:34):
So I said you were somethingthat happened to me.
A little late, I must say.
You came with a gush and a uhand I tried to pray you away.
What the just happened and whyis it so bad?
I told my grandma and shestated girl, let me go get you
some pads.
This is a part of life and whatmakes you great.
You're the giver of life.
And there's much more at stake.
We have birth nations andcreated wars.
(02:54):
These two, these baby, are thegivers and receivers of much,
much more now I got tired of youand I was seriously over it,
went to the doctor and said, sir, please sniff, snip, I don't
want her no more.
My childbearing years are doneand just like that, in 2020, my
new journey begun.
I parted ways with old girl andI must say I was feeling great.
(03:15):
But there was one more thingaround that corner, one more
thing to negate.
She reminded me of an old songand oh, her ass couldn't wait.
She waited, patiently andquietly grinding at the great
the gates, oh I'm coming.
And ooh, her ass couldn't wait.
She waited, patiently andquietly grinding at the gates oh
I'm coming.
And she wanted her applause.
She walked into the room andthe men of Paws coming to a
(03:35):
theater soon near you.
Damn, you want that.
Y'all put it last night.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
I'm a rapper.
Come on, rapper, now we needyou to perform it.
Come on, rapper, now we needyou to perform it, come on.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
No, listen.
Why are you playing?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Uh-oh, what is that, lou?
She got little Lou down there.
Little Lou, come on Where'slittle.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Lou at Little Lou, baby, come on.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
That was so good, thank you, thank you.
So we're talking about periodsand then a pause, y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Now keep in mind.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I sent the text out about 11 o'clock last night, so
you wrote that at 11 o'clocklast night you did yeah, you
good Got skills Got bars thetalent, Bars baby.
That was good, though that wasreally good.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Copyrighted.
Really good, you say, round thecorner was the menopause.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
For those who know where I'm going.
Y'all know where I'm going.
I tried to tell my boo thing.
I was like what?
Speaker 3 (04:31):
Menopause, baby Menopause.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
The men all pause, but this menopause yes.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Oh look, we got it, we got it we got it.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Sorry, server we got it, we got it, we got it, we got
it, we got it, we got it, wegot it.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
That was really good, thank you.
There we go.
I love red lipstick.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I love red lipstick yes, we do, yes, we do, oh
goodness.
Well, you got me with thatmiddle pause.
Now I don't even know if I wantto read my stuff later no don't
do that.
No, that was good and relatableyeah yes, as you said, your
grandmama said girl let me goget some pads, that's about all
that?
That's about all the uh,encouragement or excitement they
(05:08):
do like, yeah, let me go getyou something, and I started
late and late in my teen years,because my grandma was taking me
to the doctor like somethingwrong yeah, and
Speaker 4 (05:17):
it's because I was very active in sports and
everything.
So I just didn't and I thinkthe food was different back then
.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Everything was different back then because
these young girls are startingtheir cycle early.
Nine and ten.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
I was like those babies at schools with pads.
I started imagine a babycarrying pads.
I was 10 in fifth grade.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
I remember it like yesterday, fifth grade and I was
not prepared.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
I'm telling you, I'm sorry, I was not for me.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
I was 10 years old.
I remember the teacher had togive me something to wrap around
my waist.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
That's so scary yeah 10 years old.
Damn.
Oh wow, Gosh and my daughtersall started late too, Thank
Jesus.
I can't imagine babies inelementary school carrying pads.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Well, that's one of the good things about being in
this stage of life is I don'thave to carry no pads and
tampons anymore.
You know how many times youdone carry pads and tampons
anymore.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
You know how many times you didn't carry pads and
tampons and they fall out yourpurse or something at the wrong
time.
Oh yeah, the backup.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Yeah, sit in the car yes, sit the desk, send your
purse everywhere like I don'thave to worry about that stuff.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
No, more but I wouldn't have an ablation in
2020, so that's what I said whenI went to the doctor.
I was like yeah, I don't needthis anymore and I learned about
ablation probably like in 2013.
Um, I was used to do softwareimplementations and I went to a
center down in I think they werein Columbus, georgia, and all
(06:35):
the women that worked at theutility company were like oh we
got ablation.
I was like, what is ablation?
He was like it's like a.
You have your 2d laser laser towhere you don't bleed anymore.
But they say we still havesymptoms of a period, so they
call it a phantom period.
And I was like, well, how doyou do that?
One girl said I just told mydoctor I was cramping real bad
and the doctor did it for her.
So I think once I got into my40s my period started being more
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erratic and I'm grown havingaccidents and I'm like, oh no,
because I couldn't count on it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Because, it's irregular, you don't know when
it's coming.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
Yeah, and it was, I guess, going through
perimenopause and I was like,yeah, I don't like that.
So I told him and I said oh man, I'm cramping real bad.
I ain't never had no cramps,I've never been a cramper.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
And I was like, yeah, and out procedure, it was
nothing crazy and I had that.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
No, I didn't feel anything.
No, you out.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I had mine last year best thing I ever did best thing
.
I have no worries.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I can trip on one, so you used to cramp.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I said I'm like, because I already had my tubes
tied.
So I'm like, but I'm stillgetting a period.
I'm like there's no need for meto have a period.
And so she's like well, we havethis thing called ablation.
Sign me up the next week, Loveit.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Love it.
See, I used to try to get mydoctor well, maybe because I was
telling her take my, take itall.
Oh, can you just get all theplumbing out, I don't need it no
more, I'm finished.
And she always said she wouldnever take it she's like, if
there's nothing wrong with it,just leave it alone, she said
don't, don't mess with it ifthere's nothing wrong with it.
But I never thought of theablation.
But mine stopped on its own,but it was, it was well.
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First I thought you know youdon't have it and you're like,
okay, now, where have I had sexrecently?
Speaker 2 (08:26):
or whatever, because first thing you think of is
you're pregnant, because yourcycle is late, so I thought I
was.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I didn't think I was pregnant.
I was like wait, you ain't hadnone girl.
Who you fooling?
You ain't married Virgin Maryyou ain't a virgin Mary you
ain't a virgin Mary and what isgoing on with your cycle.
And I just went to the doctorand they draw blood to see what
stage you're in and the funnything was they told me I was
post-menopause.
Oh dog, like I had already beenthrough menopause.
I was like really, but I hadn'tstarted having all the symptoms
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and everything yet.
I didn't start having symptomsmaybe about a year before I was
diagnosed with cancer.
But yeah, mine just stopped Oneminute.
It was there and then it wasn'tthere, and then you might have
one the next month, three monthslater and stuff, and then it
was just gone.
But I don't miss those periodpanties.
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Y'all know the period panties.
I don't miss the period panties.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
You're not messing up those nice panties, see y'all
we have a couple gentlemen overhere, Like the boy's acting like
he's so into his phone rightnow.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Mo over here, I can see his eyes going all over.
See y'all, these are the thingsthat men didn't have to deal
with.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
See, y'all got to see the cute drawers, but we got
them big granny panties.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Hold them.
Crannies With bleach stains onthem because you bleached them
and I only wear black underwear.
I only wear black underwear,but I always bleached them
anyway.
So they got all the bleachstains, all them and everything
we got them.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Oh, the ugly y'all got the raggedy drawers too you
know, you got them raggedycomfortable drawers.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
We have raggedy drawers that you only wore when
you were on your cycle.
So y'all see, y'all got themold, cute lacy panties and stuff
where y'all got to see them.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
We got period panties and that's what we call well.
They would see it once.
When you're in a relationship,you're with that person day in
and day out.
You would see that, but everyonce in a while.
Yeah, everyone's one whoever Iwas with saw it.
Listen.
We, we together, we in thishouse together.
You just go go.
Yeah, this is what you're goingto see, that's what you're
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going to get.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
How do y'all feel about those not that we have to
worry about it those new pantiesnow that you just bleed into
what's new panties.
Oh, the period panties.
Now you bleed into the panties.
Yeah, you haven't heard ofthose.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
Well, first of all, I ain't had a cycle in a minute,
but I've seen commercials aboutit, I was like I don't sound
right.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
But yeah, you just keep the same underwear, you
don't use a pad or anything.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
The disposable panties.
Yeah, I've always been a tampongirl.
I don't want nothing in mydrawers or to touch my skin.
I haven't used a towel.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
I'm a tampon girl.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
I was always a tampon girl, I don't want nothing
touching me.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
And then I play sports.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Especially once I started, you know, in college,
and it's funny because athletes,I'm sure you can all understand
, I'm sure we always did periodchecks and you know, women start
syncing up.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Yeah, I remember that I don't know why you start
syncing up.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
So the whole basketball team is on their
period At the same time.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
We don't know how that happens.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
I think it's the mood or something.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
And you got home games and away games and your
home games you wore the lightcolors, like if you had white
and all that kind of stuff.
So we always everybody do likeeverybody period check.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
So you're always checking your friends.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
If somebody had to check you because you're running
up and down a basketball court,so you need to maybe do a check
.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
And I don't miss that where you put your pad on and
you're like can you see my pad?
But back then they had a biglumpy pad Like.
Can you see?
It Looked like you had that bigblock in the back of your butt
like a baby tampon.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Oh, I hated that.
It was terrible.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
But I do like not having to schedule sex around.
Yeah, they got the tampons, butI do like not having to
schedule sex around.
Yeah, period, well, I ain'tgetting none right now but I'm
going back in the day it was athing.
She's back, she's back, she'sback.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
She's back Me and Becky Style.
You're going to have a hot girlsummer together.
She's back.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Then we'll run the red lights.
Remember when.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
I.
The crib is gone and theplaypen is there.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
I love that.
That's what I meant.
You don't have to worry aboutthat anymore.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
It's just like hey.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Because you do.
You have to schedule sex aroundyour period.
And I'm sure, being in arelationship.
You got you know.
Hey, boo, I'm sorry, I'm on myperiod.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Yeah, oh, you ain't coming over now.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Right, you just used me for that You're asking too
hard though, aw.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Like ew.
Yeah, so there's some goodthings about it.
I love, I love.
Well, I used to cramp reallybad as a younger adult, like
when it very first started, andI think that's just your body
going through whatever hormonalchanges and all that kind of
stuff.
But because I was an athleteand stuff, well, I can't even
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say that I got maybe it was justme because some of our other
athletes would have really badcramps, but I was so active and
stuff.
Hell well, I didn't have timeto cramp, I got your coaches and
stuff didn't care nothing aboutthat.
It was the game time.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
You know you can go at home and say but when I did,
somebody told me if I do likesit-ups, for some reason it
would stop.
And it actually worked yeah,why you're moving in so yeah, I
actually did it, but I never hadlike really really bad, but
when I did I would do sit-upsmm-hmm, I don't think I.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
I ain't never heard of it.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
I don't know who told me, but it make it worse
Because you're exercising thatmuscle, the muscle's like so
tense and doing, but if you'removing it then you're kind of I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
I'm making it up it worked for me, it worked for you
.
Some women go to the gym.
See, yeah, would you say.
Some women go to the gym.
wow, I don't know well, I was sobusy like I said I was playing
sports a lot, so I don't know.
And then even after I finishedin college, when I got married,
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we still played sports almostevery day, every other day or
whatever.
It was because we played a lotof co-ed stuff.
We played co-ed basketball,volleyball.
It was because we played a lotof co-ed stuff, we played co-ed
basketball, volleyball, softball.
So we played sports all thetime, all the time.
And then I think after that,like even in my 30s I don't know
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, in my 30s, well, you know my30s was a little fun.
Yeah, I'm doing 30, 30, I don'teven remember everything I'm
doing when you can't say it allout loud and stuff, and then I
don't know.
I think I think I startedmenopause early in my 40s,
because it is starting early forsome a lot and I see a lot of
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people, young girls like intheir 30s, talking about.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
A lot.
So you know, menopause istechnically only one day,
menopause is scientifically onlyone day.
And what happens?
Speaker 3 (15:11):
on that day.
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Everything after is post-menopause.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Post-menopause.
So what's?
Speaker 4 (15:16):
perimenopause.
You're getting ready totransition into that one full
day of menopause and then you goand you transition into
post-menopause.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
So what happens on the?
Speaker 4 (15:24):
one day.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
So what's on the one?
Speaker 4 (15:25):
day, who knows?
Well, girl, don't bring it upin Google.
Now I got to Google.
But if you Google it, it'sliterally only one day that you
actually transition.
I know, I literally missed it.
Yeah, because you said younever Literally.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I never knew when I was having a cycle, so I always
really had to count that every28 days there were no symptoms,
no cramps, no anything.
Two days on, completely done.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Two days.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Two days I had no idea that I was like.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
For me, honestly, going through menopause is.
I don't even know what that is,because, like my cousins, would
start fanning and, oh my God, Idon't know what's going on, so
I literally went to my doctorand said I think something's not
happening to my body.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
Like I'm really concerned.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
And she drew the blood work and said you're done.
I'm like, and I literally wokeup one day and just never had
another cycle.
But like I never had.
I never had a night sweat, Inever had a hot flash, mood
swings.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Anything like that I never had the mood swings.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Yeah, I never had anything and I didn't have.
Now my daughters bless theirhearts.
They be crawling on the groundwith cramps.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
I never I still get the mood swings, even with the
ablation I used to bleed for awhole week straight, and then,
and then sometime it'll run itback like so.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
I could bleed for seven days straight and not like
that's a long time and then Icould bleed for a whole week.
You might be off two, threedays and then that sucker would
run back because my cycles werereally irregular.
But that's one reason why I wasput on the birth control pill
at an early age because thebirth control pill regulates
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period because I was soirregular, I was getting them
all the time.
So, honey, when that thing's,when it was like it was stopping
, I was like wait, are you sureI ain't gonna do this no more?
Yeah, I probably bled.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
I should be dead now I need a blood infusion, as much
blood as.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I've probably lost.
I need an infusion.
That's a lot.
I still have a big box oftampons I got from Costco.
Speaker 4 (17:32):
I don't get them right.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
I can't take them to Goodwill, your daughter's she's
on birth control, so she stopsher.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
So she didn't have a period.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
She takes the birth control so birth control that
you ain't got a half a pill.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
If you take the real pill like you just never take
the placenta.
Yeah, you just take the pit,the real pill, all the time and
when I was on the depo shot.
I didn't have a period foryears like, if you're going on
vacation, you just take the realpill during your vacation so
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you wouldn't have periods, ain't?
Speaker 3 (18:03):
that something.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
I was in the struggle , but think about that Going on
vacation.
You got to plan when to take apill, yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
But you got to plan that, and especially as much as
I travel right now.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yeah.
I can't go swimming Like TicTacs.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
You can't get in the pool.
It's a lot the.
Yeah, that was the thing.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
What'd you say If you were in?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
the ocean swimming you couldn't go in the ocean and
hear your period.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Because, the sharks would come eat, you Like a
little drop of blood.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
They smell it, Baby they down there hovering they
won't go get you.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I don't know what we're going to do?
Speaker 1 (18:38):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Scientifically, did you know no.
Speaker 4 (18:41):
I think it's some bullshit.
I think it's some bullshit.
I think it's just a myth, but Iheard that too though don't go
to the ocean.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
There's gonna be some doctor on here listening to us.
Speaker 4 (18:49):
Yeah giving all this false information giving all
this false information this wasa black mama narrative, oh my
god.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
But I think too the this was a black mama narrative
oh my God, yeah, I heard that.
But I think too the good thingtoo about not having
psychologically, because a lotof women go through this thing
about oh my God, it's theofficial sign that you're old,
it's the official sign, you know, of not being able to have more
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children.
I was so happy about thatbecause I wouldn't have no more,
no way, and I couldn't get thedoctors to do like snip cut
something it's like no, there'snothing wrong with your plumbing
miss colon, I'm gonna keep thatwe're.
We're not gonna go and just do asurgery.
I'm like, well, cut that offyou know or whatever, but a lot
of women go through thispsychological thing of when
they're real but for me it wasconfidence.
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Yeah, mine wasn't depression orwasn't either.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Well, because I think , because I made the choice it
didn't happen to me.
I chose to do it, so I thinkthat changes it, but yeah I
think if I was going through itlike naturally, I probably would
feel a little oh my god youwould feel sad a little not that
I want kids or anything, butjust the fact that it's
happening, because that's thenext stage of life, like oh.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Because we're kind of taught that once you hit
menopause you're going to theend of your life.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Yeah, basically.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
That's the other side , and so for a lot of women,
when you think about it, weyoung, we're agile, we're doing
things.
When you get to that point,it's just like huh, you know, so
I was happy, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
I was just happy.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
I was happy that you know what?
Of course, not having cyclesanymore, not having to worry
about getting pregnant.
See y't scare.
Speaker 4 (20:40):
Don't scare.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
You don't have pregnancy scares.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
You know, what's so funny is I was always so careful
I never really had pregnancyscares.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I was always careful.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
I was always too fearful of and this is no knock
against anyone that had to dowhat they had to do.
I've watched or I had to takepeople to the clinic too many
times that.
I never wanted to be in thatsituation in that.
That seat now the first time Itook someone to the clinic.
That was when the protesterswould all be outside.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Get past all that, get past them.
And they banged on your car andthey called you all kind of
killers and all that kind ofstuff and I was like it ain't me
it ain't me.
Speaker 4 (21:28):
Oh, my God.
They knew your friend allthrough the night.
It's her, it's her.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
It's the driver.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
But yeah, they were aggressive and all that kind of
stuff, and even though theyweren't, allowed to come on the
premises.
Speaker 3 (21:40):
They would be at the gate so you had to get past them
, you know, drive past them andall that kind of stuff.
And I think I just never wantedto be in that position.
So I was always very careful,very careful.
And then because, especiallyonce I started being on the pill
, it was like clockwork.
So if it was late I was like,ok, I'm going to give her a day,
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I'm going to give her a day andshe need to show up.
But I always never wanted tohave that pregnancy scare.
But that's another thing is youcan have all the sex you want,
I ain't got to worry about beingpregnant.
And of course we got diseaseswe have all the pregnancy scare
yes, yes, but that pregnancyscare is something else.
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Well, you started off with yourlittle rap and everything.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
It's a poem.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
It's a poem.
Did y'all write anything ory'all have anything prepared for
y'all cycle?
I did throw this at y'all inthe wee hours of the night last
night.
I have a little obituary.
Oh, she's going to wrote anobituary, oh Lord.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Goodbye, dear.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Let's see what we got .
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Let's see what we got .
This is my Aunt Flo obituary.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
Come on.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Flo, that's her name.
Speaker 4 (22:49):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
With a mix of relief, mild annoyance and a few
celebratory chocolates, weannounce the departure of our
dear Aunt Flo.
For decades she visited us likeclockwork, arriving uninvited,
demanding attention andoccasionally making a dramatic
entrance with cramps, moodswings and an insatiable craving
for all things chocolate, andsometimes sweet and salty stuff
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too.
Aunt Flo's visits were nevershort of dramatic.
She was a bit like that guestwho shows up at the worst
possible time, stays for several, several days and uses up all
the hot water.
She was the queen ofunpredictability, sometimes
early, sometimes fashionablylate, and always prepared to
throw a surprise curveball, likeappearing during a long awaited
vacation.
Yes, now, as we honor our dailydeparted on flow, we celebrate
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her ability to teach usimportant life lessons
Perseverance, a surprising levelof patience and the necessity
of carrying an emergency tamponand stash of painkillers at all
times.
Rest in peace, aunt Flo.
We may not miss your timing,but we'll always remember the
chaos, the humor and the many,many trips to the store.
Rest easy, old girl, rest easy,rest easy, I like that Rest
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easy.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
That is rude Rest easy, you know.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
That reminded me of at work, how we were saying you
had to have pads stashedeverywhere in your car, and at
work in my little drawer I had alittle jazzy like little pouch
that I stabbed, you know, and soI'm like and I have to grab and
yeah, and try to hide it.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Yeah, and try to hide it.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Yeah, and walk through the office and I was
like, oh, this is just soterrible.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Girls get a tampon put in my bra Right.
They don't think of that.
Speaker 4 (24:24):
It's like we have to be so discreet.
And they don't sell.
You remember they used to sellthe pads and tampons in the
bathroom.
Oh, yeah, yeah In the publicbathroom, but sometimes, even in
corporate situations, theywould have them in the bathrooms
, tired of stocking them.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
What about going to the grocery store and buying
them?
You got this big box and theguy behind you is like Shut up,
sir.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
This is how you got here.
You better be happy, I'm wearingthem.
Thank you, you better be happy,I'm wearing them.
This also brings me to a storyHygiene and your period.
Oh yeah, some people you cansmell.
Okay, god forgive me and I praythis young lady is not watching
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, but it is a true story.
Um, I used to take I don't wantto go into a whole lot of
detail, but I had a friend whoshe had an older parent and you
know, um, first of all, we wereborn in what?
70s, 60s, 70s, so for her tohave an older parent, her parent
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was probably maybe what 40s, ornot even 40s, yeah, 40s, 30s.
So times were different thenthan even they were for our time
.
So she was raised, and she's myage.
She was raised not to get intowater yep, I've heard that
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before at all.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
We don't get into water when you're on your cycle,
because that's what theybelieved the generation before
us.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
You do not submerge yourself in water.
So we would take, we would takeclasses.
We would take this class afterwork that involved us dancing
and sweating and stuff, andthere would be this smell that
would come up in the room.
That I would smell.
And I remember coming out ofclass all the time and being
like God who is that?
Because you know it's a roomfull of women, you don't know
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who it is, or whatever.
And one time we went to classtogether and she needed a ride
to her car and so she got in mycar and it hit me and I was like
, oh my God, it's my friend, I'mso sorry because I'm stuck on
the not getting in water youdon't shower, wait a minute.
Speaker 4 (26:38):
You don't shower.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
No, I've heard that you don't scrub at the sink.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Yeah, but why are you doing this?
Speaker 4 (26:45):
Why are you doing this?
No, because y'all know that'show we do it.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
No, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (26:51):
You ain't never took the little sink bath.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
My mother has never in our life allowed us to wash
up.
Have you ever washed up?
Never, because I passed that onto my son.
My mother said as long as ittook for you to run that water,
get everything prepared to washthe seat you could have been in
and out the bathroom or theshower.
Speaker 4 (27:08):
If you were young and you had a dude's house and
y'all do it real quick, you'd belike, oh, I gotta go home.
No, I usually would jump in theshower that they parents' house
.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
First of all, I wasn't boning in they parents'
house.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Stephanie Nasty little hot ass.
I wasn't doing all of that,Stephanie.
Speaker 4 (27:25):
You didn't live until you snuck into somebody's house
.
I wasn't doing all of that,stephanie, we had to do the
little wash off.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Well, yeah, you have to.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Of course I'm not going to lie and say I've never
had the washcloth because we allhad the washcloth moment.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
You just hurry and laugh.
The the washcloth, because weall had a washcloth moment.
You just hurry him up thetemporary until you get to the
shower.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
Yeah, until you get to a shower.
Well, if I'm staying at hishouse, I can shower.
No, we might not.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Well, first of all, y'all were hot asses I'm sorry,
her baby's early, her baby'searly.
Speaker 4 (27:55):
At least I wanted to wash them, smell fresh.
For what?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Because I was leaving To go home and take a bath To
walk in shame.
Speaker 4 (28:02):
To walk in shame, that's hilarious.
Don't make me forget my story.
Sorry, the girl didn't washyour hands.
Well, basically no, but that'swhat you were taught.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
That's what you were taught.
That was the generation beforeus.
You've heard it right.
Why can't you get in water?
Speaker 2 (28:20):
It was one of the old wives tales, that's all.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
But her mother taught her that.
So I remember going home and Itold my mom.
I was like mom, it was myfriend, it's my friend.
And my mother said, if that'syour friend, then you will tell
her.
So I had to tell her.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
You think?
Speaker 3 (28:36):
she didn't know.
Well, no, when I approached herand we had the conversation
because we were friends and ofcourse there's a way to tell
people- with love, notdiscernment tact Right with love
.
You know that there wassomething going on and I noticed
, you know that it was you, andshe was like oh my God, I'm so
sorry, I'm on my period.
And I was like, and I didn'tunderstand.
(28:58):
So I was like, okay, so whatdoes that mean?
So what does that mean?
And then that's when she said,well, you know, you don't get in
the water, you don't.
And I was.
I was confused because I hadnever heard it before you don't
get in water.
And I was like, girl, if youdon't get you, a vinegar bath.
So I I introduced her to avinegar bath and you know I was
(29:20):
like, and she thanked me for itbecause we were friends.
You know she thanked me for it,but that's how she was raised.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Man, I'm about to look that up.
It must be something religiousor something I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
It's just an old wives tale and I want to know
where it came from.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
And I wonder if it's like cultural.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
That's like yeah, I'm going to have to research that
this is an African-Americanblack woman.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
That's what I'm saying, but that's all.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
It wasn't religious or it's just People did it.
I don't know If someone pleasecomment.
Speaker 4 (29:48):
If someone please tell me the origination of that,
why, yeah that you don't get inwater?
I?
Speaker 3 (29:53):
am so confused.
But the hygiene.
And then I've had anotherincident where, first of all,
you already know, when we go toevents and stuff, the women's
line is always so long.
Oh yeah, and this was back inmy clubbing days.
I used to love to party.
Everybody cute and, I hate tosay it, it was always that real,
real cute one that it seemedlike all the dudes wanted that
(30:15):
you would come behind them inthe bathroom.
I don't like to stand in linesand unless I seriously have to
go, I will hold it because Idon't like to smell everybody
before me.
Everybody's hygiene ain't thesame everybody's hygiene ain't
the same.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
When they're in there they don't dispose of things
like they're supposed to.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
I've gone into the bathroom and had to pee and
walked right back out.
Just because I didn't into thebathroom and had to pee and
walked right back out justbecause I didn't want the person
behind me to think that smellwas me.
I've done that.
I've done that.
Yeah, I'm sorry.
I'm going to just wait, I'mgoing to hold out until
everybody gone.
(30:57):
I'll come while the show ishappening and stuff.
I'm just going to misssomething because you always
think it's the person that justwalked right out the bathroom,
but all the mixtures of smellsand everything.
So I don't miss the, because Iwas always so paranoid about my
hygiene, especially during mycycle, to make sure that
(31:18):
everything was right.
And then look, I've had anotherincident where it was a young
lady, that it was only her.
It was an office and she wentto the restroom and then I came
behind her and I was like what,what's?
What's, something's going on?
Oh yeah, yeah, I'm on my periodno, sweetheart, that's called
an infection.
Speaker 4 (31:35):
Oh god, like that's not your period should not smell
like that.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Right, you know what I'm saying so the one of the
things I love about menopause isnot having to worry about the
period, the hygiene of theperiod and all that stuff too,
Because, again, everybody'shygiene is not the same and we
were not all taught the same?
Speaker 4 (31:53):
Apparently not, and I think, everybody's pH balance.
I know everybody's pH balanceis the same there might be
certain pads that will affectyour pH.
I think they started havingscented pads.
Everybody can wear scented pads.
Yeah, I never wore scentedstuff.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
I don't want to smell perfume mixed with everything
else.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
But that's just like my deodorant.
I didn't want no smells to comeout.
Yeah, I don't want nothing orscented.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
Yeah, I don't want any of that, but, charisse, did
you have something prepared foryou?
Speaker 2 (32:20):
I don't have anything prepared.
You don't have a planner, soyou know by the time you said
that, thing, I know.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
I know.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
But what I could say about just that part is that I
thank you for allowing me togive life to my three beautiful
daughters.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
Yes, we birth nations .
Look, you don't even need towrite nothing.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
But bitch bye, because I just didn't like any
of it, even though it was twodays.
It's everything we just said,just the planning.
And oh, I bought this cutewhite swimsuit.
Okay, well, she came and damn,this is my vacation day.
I didn't know about takingthose pills, but you know what I
mean.
They might not even have hadthat when we were.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
So you know, it's just like oh, I'm going on
vacation, and then you know ifyou're taking off with your boo
thing you've got to kind of thewhole thing, is changed, that'd
be theworst and think about all of the
women that you know you gotyour anniversary or they're
getting married.
You can't change it.
Anniversary or they gettingmarried, you can't change it.
(33:23):
You don't know that far inadvance when you're planning.
So you know what back I I justI don't miss it at all.
It wasn't painful, I didn't gothrough a lot, but I don't miss
it.
Speaker 4 (33:31):
But I'm grateful for what it allowed to happen in my
life, them babies, they broughteverybody them girls something
else, them feisty girls.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
Now I'd be like jesus yes, yes, yes, okay.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
Well, let me remind real quick and do a great to
wrap this up.
Look, we done sat here and hada whole conversation about our
period.
Okay, dear period girl, we donefor real this time.
You've been showing upuninvited for years and I
finally had enough.
I don't know who told you wewas in a lifelong situationship,
(34:07):
but, baby, I'm free now.
Yes, yes.
First of all, I can finallywear white without feeling like
I'm playing russian roulette.
No more side eye in my pantsall day.
No more emergency jacketwraparounds.
I'm strutting in my white withconfidence now.
Period Not included oh, thewraparound.
And let's talk about the wayyou used to block my blessings.
(34:29):
Oh what?
Specifically in the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
In the bedroom.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Oh my God, Every time I was trying to get some here
you come with your drama.
You was the biggest cockblocker in my life and, I'm not
gonna lie, I resented you for it.
Oh, and I'm so glad I don'thave to carry them raggedy
tampons in my purse.
No more you ever had one ofthose things fall out in front
(34:54):
of a fine man at the checkoutline.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
That's why, when you said that, I started laughing
embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
So now my purse is classy and tampon free.
Classy like me, and don't evenget me started on them.
Busted period panties, you know, the ones faded, stretched out,
looking like they've beenthrough a war girl, I threw them
in the trash with you.
I'm back in my sexy, high cutlacy drawers, living my best
(35:22):
life, cheeks sitting real pretty.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
I'm back in my sexy high-cut lacy drawers Living my
best life.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
Cheeks sitting real pretty.
So yeah, it's been real.
It's been real toxic.
I wish you well, but I'm goodand I'm over it.
Me and my hormones are stilltrying to figure out some things
, but at least you're gone, sothere's no love loss.
Speaker 4 (35:42):
This is from a grown-ass fine-ass free-ass
woman, freaky ass, yes, yes,good job.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Y'all know y'all crazy.
Thank y'all for joining me onthis.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
I think she said y'all know, y'all crazy, y'all
knew it, your stuff was just ascrazy and funny as mine.
Speaker 3 (36:01):
Y'all crazy, Y'all be like what?
Speaker 2 (35:59):
Because y'all stuff was just as crazy and funny as
mine.
Speaker 3 (35:59):
It was funny as mine, but you know, thank you for the
period for the daughters, thankyou for the children.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
But other than that bye bitch.
Speaker 4 (36:15):
This is Legra with.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
Timeless and Unfiltered.
This is Stephanie, this isSharice and this is Evanya.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
We are spilling the tea on midlife.
One laugh at a time Bye.
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