July 16, 2025 • 22 mins
In this episode of Timeless and Unfiltered, we’re diving deep into the world of Evanya – the woman, the story, the truth. Raw, real, and unapologetically powerful, Evanya opens up like never before. From her personal journey to the pivotal moments that shaped her, this episode is a heartfelt ride through resilience, growth, and evolution.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let's start with that .
So I met Dr.
Oh, we're going to get thisfull government name.
Ok, let me get a sip of tea.
Let me get a sip of tea.
I'm going to claim them.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Do you think love is different now that you're a
little older?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
I think it is.
I think when we mature, we knowbetter what we want, what we
put up with.
You say you're not together.
You build together, like thisis Legra, this is Stephanie,
this is Cherie and this isEvania.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
And this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are
spilling the tea on midlife.
One laugh at a time.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Hey everybody, welcome back to Timeless and
Unfiltered.
I know y'all miss me.
I'm back.
I'm back.
I've been on the road, I'vebeen traveling, but here's
another episode, all aboutEvania.
Here is Legra.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
And we don't have Charisse and Stephanie today Not
right now, but they'll be back.
They'll be back.
What's going on?
We ain't seen you in forever.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
I'll tell you, I've been traveling, which is a good
thing.
It's a great thing.
I love traveling.
I love to haveback-to-back-to-back-to-back
trips.
I'm planning a trip while I'mon a trip.
Yeah, I've been gone, but Ijust got back this morning,
literally like a couple hoursago, so off the plane, straight
here.
So you're going to get somesleep when you finish, I'm going
to get some sleep and I fly outagain on Wednesday.
Okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Well, this is Timeless and Unfiltered, with
Allegra Devanya.
Where we it to your midlife,one laugh at a time well, miss
savannah been traveling um got anew love in her life.
Okay, is that?
Is that the reason why we'retraveling?
Yes, well, I could tell youwhat that's.
That smile hello, because ifyou show any more teeth,
(02:01):
somebody doing something right?
Speaker 1 (02:02):
yeah, he's in all areas.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Yes, oh well, that's so good.
I'm hating a little bit though,just in case you was wondering.
You know, everybody knows I'm alow-key hater.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I wish this for everybody, like what I have
right now.
I wish for everybody.
Oh, that's wonderful.
I'm the happiest I've ever been.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Well, we might as well start there, then we want
to get to know Evanya.
Why is Evanya smiling this damnhard?
Let's start with that.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So I met Dr Anthony Terrell.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Oh, we're going to give his full government name.
Okay, let me get a sip of tea.
Let me get a sip of tea.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
But yeah, former Navy SEAL professor, I don't say
where- Well, how did y'all meetmy cousin's wedding?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
So it was just an impromptu, just happened.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
It was actually supposed to be an engagement
party and it turned into asurprise wedding.
Okay, he knew he was going tomeet me.
I did not know I was going tomeet him.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Oh wait, I'm sorry.
He knew he was going to meetyou so they were setting, he
talked to my cousin.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah, they Stea.
It did not go well, like theconversation wasn't there.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Maybe he was nervous.
Maybe he was nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
No, he doesn't get nervous, he's just he had been
walking all day.
He walked all the way fromHilton downtown to Morehouse
College.
Why that part?
Okay, so he was kind of out of.
This is what he says.
He was out of sorts.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
So he tried to pick me up in the buffet line with
well, you know, mushrooms aregood for your microbiome.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Was that the hell line?
That was the hell yeah.
I was like well, first he didtry to introduce himself and
he's like oh, I know all aboutyou.
I was like, but and then hetried to recoup it again in the
buffet line and I was like, andthen I danced all night.
You know, cause it's not adance?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
floor.
Were you dancing with him all?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
night, no.
And I kept asking him well, doyou dance?
Yeah, I dance.
He never danced.
So I was like, nevermind, youknow.
I told my cousin.
I said, yeah, I think I'm toomuch for him.
And he's like, why did you nothit it up?
I was like I said we gotanother friend, just let me know
, you know.
But then he's like he told himto give me it.
See, he was probably a littlenervous, he might have been Now
(04:07):
he going to say he not.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
He going to say he not.
You know he going to say he not.
But he was probably a littlenervous because, like you said,
you didn't know that you weremeeting him.
I didn't.
He knew he was meeting you andif I know folks, they probably
sent him some pictures.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Oh yeah, and successful, that's all I got.
No name no occupation, noanything, and I didn't know when
.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I was supposed to meet him.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
So I had no idea, but it was a surprise.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
But it worked out.
Well, whatever it is, I stillputting a smile on your face.
Okay well, I am not mad at it.
I'm a low-key hater, though,but I'm not mad at it.
Mad at it, but I also know,just because you know, while
we're just barely just touchinga little bit on your personal
(04:56):
life, you come out of arelationship that you had been
in for some time, and we ain'tgot to go into detail.
We ain't got to go into detail,we ain't got to, we ain't got
to call no names or anything.
But what makes life and lovedifferent now, this, this time
around?
Speaker 1 (05:12):
first of all, it's a level of respect that you know
you're not getting, but you kindof put up with it.
But now you get it and this islike well this is how it should
have been all along just respect, love somebody that will do for
you and you do for them and youfeel like everything you do is
reciprocated.
I don't feel bad giving.
(05:33):
You want to give and thatperson wants to give.
You have two givers and italways works out.
I say that all the time.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
When you're a giver, you have to match with another
giver, because a taker willdrain a giver.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
All they do is take and they expect you to take, and
the moment you say no, thenyou're selfish and you don't
care anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
And all this stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
So I think that's been the major part of it.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
And then he just cares.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
He's a protector, he's a provider.
All the stuff your dad wantsyou to have.
I have all of that in oneperson.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Oh that's wonderful, that's wonderful.
I'm still hating, though.
Just in case you were wondering, I'm still.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Just in case you were wondering Yours is coming,
yours is coming.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
It might.
He's out there, he's out there.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It is what it is.
You just got to be super tall.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Now do you think that part?
That part Because I need to beable to accommodate my shoes.
And these are my accommodate,my shoes.
I'm looking for you, though, myshoes.
Do you think love is differentnow that you're a little older?
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I think it is.
I think when we mature we knowbetter what we want, what we
will put up with.
Like you said, you're nottrying to build with somebody
Like they kind of have to havewhat they have already, and then
you have what you have and youput it together and you build
together.
Like I'm not trying to.
Honestly I don't want tosupport you in your dreams, but
I'm not trying to support you atthe base level, like if you're
(06:49):
somewhere and you're trying toget higher, that's different.
But if you're coming in withnothing and then I'm coming in,
I have what I have.
I can't give you everythingthat I have for you to.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
You always hear you know especially for men, I
always hear men say it, I veryrarely hear women say it what
you bring to the table yeah,like they always talk about what
you bring into the table, whatyou bring into the table and
stuff.
So yeah, I completely,completely get it love at this
stage.
Well, one let me say I applaudyou for finding love at this,
(07:22):
this stage, because it's wellfor it.
Well, it kind of ran you overand knocked you on the head.
There we go.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
It kind of ran you over and backed up what are you
saying?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And then had to back up.
Oh goodness, yeah, but findinglove or even dating just dating
at this stage of life is reallyweird.
I always say I'm kind of, Ialways feel like I'm in this
in-between stage.
Even though I'm in my fifties,I still feel like I'm in an
in-between stage, like there's aline between old, because I
(07:53):
used to like older men, but nowolder is old and there's a
difference between being old andbeing older.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
And that's what I ask too like is he old, does he act
old?
Because I've had people who areyoung and they act old and act
old and they have people who areolder and I'm like they have
more fun than me, right right.
It just kind of depends.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Yeah, and then you got the young ones that like the
older women but they're notattracted to me, I don't know.
And then also, just being asuccessful woman at this age,
(08:32):
also finding someone that's alsosuccessful in their own right,
and success don't always meanmoney.
When I say successful, peoplealways think you're talking
about like you've got to makethis and you've got to have that
.
But, like you said, you've gotto be on a journey to something,
something you got to be workingin, something towards something
, have something going for you.
Yeah, something going for you Atthis age you can't be fixing to
(08:54):
.
You know, I say that all thetime I'm going to be, I'm fixing
to Well when it start, becausewe about to retire, so when you
going to start?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
I'm looking, I can't take care of you when you keep.
I'm looking, I can't take careof you, you keep fixing to.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
You know, we in our 50s, you can't fix it no more.
Yeah, that's true.
So I get it.
I get it.
Well, what would?
What would Ivania want us toknow about her?
We've, we've had, I don't know,15, 16, however many episodes
(09:30):
you know.
When you have all thepersonalities on the couch, you
it's everybody has to get theirmoment, their time, but this is,
this is ivania's time.
What would you want us to know?
Because we see quiet ivania.
Yeah, we see, um well, I, untilyou turn music on.
Yeah, let me get my fifthco-host until we turn music on.
Then we see the other Avanya.
Well, at least some of us do,but from the camera perspective,
(09:51):
you know people that watch us.
What would you want them toknow about Avanya that maybe
they don't get or they can't seewhen we're all here because we
have to spread the love?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
You can see that I'm an introvert, but I would long
to be an extrovert you wouldlong to be I would long to be an
extrovert you would long to be.
I would love to at leastexperience it for at least one
day, to see what that feels likeBecause I'm always in my head.
I'm nervous.
Now the attention is kind oflike all on me.
I love attention, but I don'tlike the spotlight.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
If that makes sense, I like attention from a small
group, but being in front of alot of people is nerve-wracking.
So what made you?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
do this podcast knowing that people would see
you.
Now, look, we can't saymillions, but we will.
One day we're going to saymillions of people.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Right right, we can say thousands, we're
thousandaires, we'rethousandaires.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
We don't get to the millions.
We got a bill.
I'm incredibly, I'm veryinsecure and I'm trying to get
out of that too.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Which is so funny.
You know, we always say we'reour worst critics.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
I'm super insecure and I'm trying to get out of
that and I'm trying to get outof my head and just be me and I
feel like everybody on the couch.
We all have our ownpersonalities, yes, and it's
like sometimes I'm like okay, Ineed to be more like Stephanie,
I need to be funny and I need tobe more like Cerise, because
he's so sincere and there'sloving and caring.
I need to be with you becauseyou're the boss, and I'm like
but those roles are alreadytaken.
So now I'm like where doesEvania fit in?
(11:13):
What's Evania's role besidesjust the quiet one?
and the shy and, you know, timidone, and I'm like and I'm still
trying to figure that out.
So that's the nerve wreckingpart for me.
Yeah, I get emotional, but Ithink about that all the time,
like where do I fit in, like howdo I mold with this group of
women?
(11:33):
And I wonder if there arepeople out there that kind of
fit into my narrative too.
I'm sure they do, because I feellike there's all the other
narratives there and I say Ican't be you, I can't be Sharice
, I can't be Stephanie, I can'tbe you, I can't be Sharice.
I can't be, stephanie I can beme, but I need to find out who
is that.
So that's why I'm like, becauseI think I'm a little bit of all
of you, but it's still.
I need to figure out what is,because you know, like the
(11:55):
Golden Girls, everybody hadtheir role so.
I'm like okay, so which one am Iwho?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
am I which one are you, the Golden Girls, the.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Golden Girls.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Oh, we got the tongue out because I see Blanche.
You see Blanche, I do, but lowkey, but hidden, hidden.
I see Blanche Really.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I'm thinking I don't want to say the dumb one, but I
see Rose, but she was funny, butshe was like she didn't know
she was funny but I was like sheseemed like a little clueless
sometimes.
Sometimes I feel a littleclueless.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Well, I think we all have those moments, especially
as we get older too, I think weall have those moments.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
What?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
am I doing today?
I see Blanche, I think you have, I think you're a hidden
Blanche.
I could be.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Blanche.
Now See, she was my favorite.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Yes, I could, because it would be unexpected.
I don't see Dorothy, I don'tsee Dorothy, but I love Dorothy
too.
I loved all of them I mean theyall had their thing, but I hope
well.
First let me back up.
I wouldn't want you to try tobe me.
I wouldn't want you to beStephanie.
I wouldn't want you to beStephanie, I wouldn't want you
to be Sharice.
I think your identity, yourpersonality, is just genuinely
(13:13):
you.
You know what I'm saying.
Like, it's just genuinely you,and I think that's why the four
of us sitting here work so welltogether.
I don't want to cry no, becausewhen I first thought about
doing this, I thought about, Ireally thought about who would
sit on the couch with me.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I'll have an overbearing personality
sometimes, see, and I'm peoplelike I know I do, and when you
say that, I'm always thinkinglike why would she choose me?
Speaker 2 (13:44):
No, because I wanted it to really represent.
I could have got other peopleto act just like me.
I know some people that actjust like me.
I didn't want it to be allfunny, I wanted heartfelt, so I
needed Sharice.
Stephanie is a wild card.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
We needed a wild card .
Speaker 2 (14:05):
You know what I'm saying, but I also wanted
someone a little more reservedand honestly.
We know each other, but I thinkI've learned more about you
sitting on this couch than thecouple of years that I've known
you you know what I'm sayinglike it's, everybody has their
own thing.
So I hope you.
I don't want you to feel likeyou have to be anybody.
(14:27):
I just want you to show up andbe Evania, because every I think
people love Sharice, peoplelove Stephanie.
There's people that love me,there's people that love you.
I think it we pull from allaspects of women, which is why I
think we work so well together.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Okay, I want people to want to watch me too.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
I want to bring something to the table no, you,
but I think you do, I think youdo and I think you'll when you
you feel more confident.
But've seen, but to be honestwith you, you came a long way
from episode one.
We was like, okay, y'all bequiet, let Yvonne speak now.
We can't hear you.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
We can't, we can't hear you.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
What'd you say?
Is she speaking in themicrophone?
Is?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
her microphone working, that really clicked.
I was like dang, like nobodycan hear me and I'm like I'm
really tough to me in my head.
I was like dang like nobody canhear me and I'm like I'm really
to me in my head.
I'm like I'm yelling and I'mlike, and they can't even hear
me Even when we do the micchecks.
I'm like hello and I'll yelland they're like, yeah, that's
good.
I was like that's good.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Like I'm yelling.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
But okay, I'm announcing and pronouncing and
all those terms Enunciating andall that stuff pronouncing and
all those terms Enunciating andall that stuff, because I do
have an accent, I'm countryy'all and I know how to speak
well, but I don't speak well allthe time.
When I'm comfortable, I don't,so I'm Geechee, you know what?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
that is, the Geechee community.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
It comes out when I'm comfortable.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Well, we waiting for the Geech, we waiting for the
Right.
Well, we like to say, well, wewaiting for the geech, we
waiting for the geech On thepeachy geech.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Well, you know what?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
One day we have to go to South Carolina.
You do.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
You can't go now.
It's hot though, but yeah, wegotta come.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
I've never.
I've always heard Charlestonwas beautiful.
It is it along to something?
The Rainbow?
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Rose, you know the waterfront?
Yeah, the waterfront, it'shistorical, not for the best
reasons.
I think where we go isdifferent.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
It's the South, ain't none of it for the best reasons
, but they go because it's allnostalgia and the plantation.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
We look at it differently.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
I won't even live nowhere, to say plantation.
I'm not living in such and suchplantation, I'm not visiting.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
I'm not living in such and such plantation
subdivision.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
I'm not living nowhere that say plantation.
I'm not celebrating that.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Some people they love that, like they have cotton
places and they're decoratingwith cotton.
I'm like this is not decor.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
But you know what?
But that's the South.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
That's the South, but it's their South.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Yeah, but you know what?
That's still our South too.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Well, the thing is, I wish we were.
I feel like we're not includedin that South Like because
there's some little Southernoutfits I see the little white
ladies wear.
I'm like, oh, that's cute, Iwould wear that.
But I don't think they madethat outfit for me.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Well, hell, that's because being a black woman
period.
A lot of stuff ain't made forus, which is why we have to make
our own identity, our ownbrands, our own for us, by us.
Our own food booths we got tomake our own food booths.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
And here's some of that.
In Charleston there's a ladywho's African American and Asian
.
She had a little shop, the tinytassel.
She makes these type of dressesand she's black, but everybody
shops their white, black littleearrings and everything so super
cute.
Has a shop downtown Charlestonand then a lot of stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Well, I can't even say I was going to say they.
But I'm sorry, but theseCaucasians is thicker than us
most of them thicker thanrounder and butts bigger but
some of them naturally there'ssome cornbread eating, fried
chicken eating stuff too,because some of them are thicker
than us like wait she born likethat you know natural.
(17:52):
But you know, in the world ofcosmetic surgery we can all have
it.
Some of us just go a littleoverboard with it, but you know
yeah, you gotta go to Charlestonand okay beaches best beaches
in the world yeah, we'll have togo, stephanie.
We gonna have to go toCharleston well, stephanie, done
tried to go to Ellery's in thelast couple of weeks, probably
(18:17):
three, four times, and theynever got in the door.
We tried to go that other nightBecause it was crowded.
I think they were going on aFriday night and I think maybe 8
o'clock she said the line wasalready wrapped around the door.
See, because that's old people.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah, they got to get in there early.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Because they got ready to go to bed by 10.
11, so you know they got toparty from 6 to 10.
You know our party's now from 6to 10.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
We don't leave the house at 11 and 12.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
We used to leave the house at 11 and 12.
But now we back in and don'tshower.
Sometimes.
I know when I go places and Iwill come in and the boys will
be like you back, I'd be like,yeah, back already.
I had a good time my three,four hours.
You know, that's all we got inus.
Well, is there anything elseyou want us to know about you?
Speaker 1 (19:05):
I am a genuinely loyal person.
I'm actually a great person.
I'm a great friend.
I'm a great person and I'm notsaying that to my own heart.
I know I'm good at the core.
I know I'm a good person, so Ifeel like the stuff that I'm
getting now is all the things Ideserve.
I know I've made mistakes, butI think this is my time, so I'm
the bomb.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
You better say it.
You better say it.
She said I'm the bomb.
You better say it.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
I'm good people and I love being around good people
and I'm around good people.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
That's why you're on the couch.
I like to surround myself withgood people.
You can't have toxicity.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
If I get that word out At this stage of life, I
don't have time for that.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
You, we've definitely seen you blossom and blossoming
still still more to come, yeah,even just from our first
episode, and you're not quite 50yet.
So I'm gonna tell you right nowthat wait till that 5-0 hit.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
That's what I'm thinking is coming.
It's because I can see a littlebit.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
It's gonna hit you in the back of the head like
somebody just walked up andsmacked the shit out of you.
Wait till that 5-0 hit all thatinsecurity and stuff.
Because you get to a point.
It's something about that 5-0that you realize oh look,
because very few of us are gonnalive to 100.
Yeah, true, very few of us aregonna live to 100.
That 5-0 is a real eye-openerwhen you be like, oh, and I hate
(20:28):
that cliche I got more daysbehind me than I have ahead of
me, that whole.
It's a whole shift in theatmosphere that you don't care
what other people think of you.
You know your time is limited,no matter what.
We all are limited.
You know your time is limitedand I want to live every day to
the fullest.
You stop worrying about whatother people think and care
about you and I don't know whyyou have to actually see that
(20:51):
5-0 show up on that cake orsomething.
It's a whole shift in yourwhole thing.
So I hate to say it.
When they say that 50 and fuckit, it's a real thing, you don't
care about what anybody says.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
So I'm looking forward to seeing that Cat down
the zone.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I'm looking forward to seeing that Avanya.
We got a couple years but it'scoming, it's coming, it's coming
, it's coming.
All right, well, this is Avanyay'all.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
I'm glad y'all got that we finally got a chance.
I finally got back.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Hey, I'm not mad at you, girl, keep traveling.
This is the summer.
All of us are not on the couchbecause our schedules are crazy.
That's a good thing, because westill got life, we keep living
at this age we're not sittingdown and enjoy life.
Enjoy love.
Get all the sex you can,because I just want sex Can.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
I just have sex.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I don't even know if I want the man.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
I want you to have it too, girl.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I don't even know if I want the man, but you know,
we'll see.
We'll, we'll see, we'll justsee.
Anyway, this is legra withtimeless and unfiltered.
This is evan and we miss this.
Stephanie and sharice, butthey'll be back next week and we
will keep on spilling the teaon midlife, one laugh at a time.
We'll see y'all next week,y'all.
Thanks for watching.
Let's start with that .
So I met Dr.
Oh, we're going to get thisfull government name.
Ok, let me get a sip of tea.
Let me get a sip of tea.
I'm going to claim them.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Do you think love is different now that you're a
little older?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
I think it is.
I think when we mature, we knowbetter what we want, what we
put up with.
You say you're not together.
You build together, like thisis Legra, this is Stephanie,
this is Cherie and this isEvania.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
And this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are
spilling the tea on midlife.
One laugh at a time.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Hey everybody, welcome back to Timeless and
Unfiltered.
I know y'all miss me.
I'm back.
I'm back.
I've been on the road, I'vebeen traveling, but here's
another episode, all aboutEvania.
Here is Legra.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
And we don't have Charisse and Stephanie today Not
right now, but they'll be back.
They'll be back.
What's going on?
We ain't seen you in forever.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
I'll tell you, I've been traveling, which is a good
thing.
It's a great thing.
I love traveling.
I love to haveback-to-back-to-back-to-back
trips.
I'm planning a trip while I'mon a trip.
Yeah, I've been gone, but Ijust got back this morning,
literally like a couple hoursago, so off the plane, straight
here.
So you're going to get somesleep when you finish, I'm going
to get some sleep and I fly outagain on Wednesday.
Okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Well, this is Timeless and Unfiltered, with
Allegra Devanya.
Where we it to your midlife,one laugh at a time well, miss
savannah been traveling um got anew love in her life.
Okay, is that?
Is that the reason why we'retraveling?
Yes, well, I could tell youwhat that's.
That smile hello, because ifyou show any more teeth,
(02:01):
somebody doing something right?
Speaker 1 (02:02):
yeah, he's in all areas.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Yes, oh well, that's so good.
I'm hating a little bit though,just in case you was wondering.
You know, everybody knows I'm alow-key hater.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I wish this for everybody, like what I have
right now.
I wish for everybody.
Oh, that's wonderful.
I'm the happiest I've ever been.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Well, we might as well start there, then we want
to get to know Evanya.
Why is Evanya smiling this damnhard?
Let's start with that.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So I met Dr Anthony Terrell.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Oh, we're going to give his full government name.
Okay, let me get a sip of tea.
Let me get a sip of tea.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
But yeah, former Navy SEAL professor, I don't say
where- Well, how did y'all meetmy cousin's wedding?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
So it was just an impromptu, just happened.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
It was actually supposed to be an engagement
party and it turned into asurprise wedding.
Okay, he knew he was going tomeet me.
I did not know I was going tomeet him.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Oh wait, I'm sorry.
He knew he was going to meetyou so they were setting, he
talked to my cousin.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah, they Stea.
It did not go well, like theconversation wasn't there.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Maybe he was nervous.
Maybe he was nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
No, he doesn't get nervous, he's just he had been
walking all day.
He walked all the way fromHilton downtown to Morehouse
College.
Why that part?
Okay, so he was kind of out of.
This is what he says.
He was out of sorts.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
So he tried to pick me up in the buffet line with
well, you know, mushrooms aregood for your microbiome.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Was that the hell line?
That was the hell yeah.
I was like well, first he didtry to introduce himself and
he's like oh, I know all aboutyou.
I was like, but and then hetried to recoup it again in the
buffet line and I was like, andthen I danced all night.
You know, cause it's not adance?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
floor.
Were you dancing with him all?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
night, no.
And I kept asking him well, doyou dance?
Yeah, I dance.
He never danced.
So I was like, nevermind, youknow.
I told my cousin.
I said, yeah, I think I'm toomuch for him.
And he's like, why did you nothit it up?
I was like I said we gotanother friend, just let me know
, you know.
But then he's like he told himto give me it.
See, he was probably a littlenervous, he might have been Now
(04:07):
he going to say he not.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
He going to say he not.
You know he going to say he not.
But he was probably a littlenervous because, like you said,
you didn't know that you weremeeting him.
I didn't.
He knew he was meeting you andif I know folks, they probably
sent him some pictures.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Oh yeah, and successful, that's all I got.
No name no occupation, noanything, and I didn't know when
.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I was supposed to meet him.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
So I had no idea, but it was a surprise.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
But it worked out.
Well, whatever it is, I stillputting a smile on your face.
Okay well, I am not mad at it.
I'm a low-key hater, though,but I'm not mad at it.
Mad at it, but I also know,just because you know, while
we're just barely just touchinga little bit on your personal
(04:56):
life, you come out of arelationship that you had been
in for some time, and we ain'tgot to go into detail.
We ain't got to go into detail,we ain't got to, we ain't got
to call no names or anything.
But what makes life and lovedifferent now, this, this time
around?
Speaker 1 (05:12):
first of all, it's a level of respect that you know
you're not getting, but you kindof put up with it.
But now you get it and this islike well this is how it should
have been all along just respect, love somebody that will do for
you and you do for them and youfeel like everything you do is
reciprocated.
I don't feel bad giving.
(05:33):
You want to give and thatperson wants to give.
You have two givers and italways works out.
I say that all the time.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
When you're a giver, you have to match with another
giver, because a taker willdrain a giver.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
All they do is take and they expect you to take, and
the moment you say no, thenyou're selfish and you don't
care anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
And all this stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
So I think that's been the major part of it.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
And then he just cares.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
He's a protector, he's a provider.
All the stuff your dad wantsyou to have.
I have all of that in oneperson.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Oh that's wonderful, that's wonderful.
I'm still hating, though.
Just in case you were wondering, I'm still.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Just in case you were wondering Yours is coming,
yours is coming.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
It might.
He's out there, he's out there.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It is what it is.
You just got to be super tall.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Now do you think that part?
That part Because I need to beable to accommodate my shoes.
And these are my accommodate,my shoes.
I'm looking for you, though, myshoes.
Do you think love is differentnow that you're a little older?
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I think it is.
I think when we mature we knowbetter what we want, what we
will put up with.
Like you said, you're nottrying to build with somebody
Like they kind of have to havewhat they have already, and then
you have what you have and youput it together and you build
together.
Like I'm not trying to.
Honestly I don't want tosupport you in your dreams, but
I'm not trying to support you atthe base level, like if you're
(06:49):
somewhere and you're trying toget higher, that's different.
But if you're coming in withnothing and then I'm coming in,
I have what I have.
I can't give you everythingthat I have for you to.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
You always hear you know especially for men, I
always hear men say it, I veryrarely hear women say it what
you bring to the table yeah,like they always talk about what
you bring into the table, whatyou bring into the table and
stuff.
So yeah, I completely,completely get it love at this
stage.
Well, one let me say I applaudyou for finding love at this,
(07:22):
this stage, because it's wellfor it.
Well, it kind of ran you overand knocked you on the head.
There we go.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
It kind of ran you over and backed up what are you
saying?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And then had to back up.
Oh goodness, yeah, but findinglove or even dating just dating
at this stage of life is reallyweird.
I always say I'm kind of, Ialways feel like I'm in this
in-between stage.
Even though I'm in my fifties,I still feel like I'm in an
in-between stage, like there's aline between old, because I
(07:53):
used to like older men, but nowolder is old and there's a
difference between being old andbeing older.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
And that's what I ask too like is he old, does he act
old?
Because I've had people who areyoung and they act old and act
old and they have people who areolder and I'm like they have
more fun than me, right right.
It just kind of depends.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Yeah, and then you got the young ones that like the
older women but they're notattracted to me, I don't know.
And then also, just being asuccessful woman at this age,
(08:32):
also finding someone that's alsosuccessful in their own right,
and success don't always meanmoney.
When I say successful, peoplealways think you're talking
about like you've got to makethis and you've got to have that
.
But, like you said, you've gotto be on a journey to something,
something you got to be workingin, something towards something
, have something going for you.
Yeah, something going for you Atthis age you can't be fixing to
(08:54):
.
You know, I say that all thetime I'm going to be, I'm fixing
to Well when it start, becausewe about to retire, so when you
going to start?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
I'm looking, I can't take care of you when you keep.
I'm looking, I can't take careof you, you keep fixing to.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
You know, we in our 50s, you can't fix it no more.
Yeah, that's true.
So I get it.
I get it.
Well, what would?
What would Ivania want us toknow about her?
We've, we've had, I don't know,15, 16, however many episodes
(09:30):
you know.
When you have all thepersonalities on the couch, you
it's everybody has to get theirmoment, their time, but this is,
this is ivania's time.
What would you want us to know?
Because we see quiet ivania.
Yeah, we see, um well, I, untilyou turn music on.
Yeah, let me get my fifthco-host until we turn music on.
Then we see the other Avanya.
Well, at least some of us do,but from the camera perspective,
(09:51):
you know people that watch us.
What would you want them toknow about Avanya that maybe
they don't get or they can't seewhen we're all here because we
have to spread the love?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
You can see that I'm an introvert, but I would long
to be an extrovert you wouldlong to be I would long to be an
extrovert you would long to be.
I would love to at leastexperience it for at least one
day, to see what that feels likeBecause I'm always in my head.
I'm nervous.
Now the attention is kind oflike all on me.
I love attention, but I don'tlike the spotlight.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
If that makes sense, I like attention from a small
group, but being in front of alot of people is nerve-wracking.
So what made you?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
do this podcast knowing that people would see
you.
Now, look, we can't saymillions, but we will.
One day we're going to saymillions of people.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Right right, we can say thousands, we're
thousandaires, we'rethousandaires.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
We don't get to the millions.
We got a bill.
I'm incredibly, I'm veryinsecure and I'm trying to get
out of that too.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Which is so funny.
You know, we always say we'reour worst critics.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
I'm super insecure and I'm trying to get out of
that and I'm trying to get outof my head and just be me and I
feel like everybody on the couch.
We all have our ownpersonalities, yes, and it's
like sometimes I'm like okay, Ineed to be more like Stephanie,
I need to be funny and I need tobe more like Cerise, because
he's so sincere and there'sloving and caring.
I need to be with you becauseyou're the boss, and I'm like
but those roles are alreadytaken.
So now I'm like where doesEvania fit in?
(11:13):
What's Evania's role besidesjust the quiet one?
and the shy and, you know, timidone, and I'm like and I'm still
trying to figure that out.
So that's the nerve wreckingpart for me.
Yeah, I get emotional, but Ithink about that all the time,
like where do I fit in, like howdo I mold with this group of
women?
(11:33):
And I wonder if there arepeople out there that kind of
fit into my narrative too.
I'm sure they do, because I feellike there's all the other
narratives there and I say Ican't be you, I can't be Sharice
, I can't be Stephanie, I can'tbe you, I can't be Sharice.
I can't be, stephanie I can beme, but I need to find out who
is that.
So that's why I'm like, becauseI think I'm a little bit of all
of you, but it's still.
I need to figure out what is,because you know, like the
(11:55):
Golden Girls, everybody hadtheir role so.
I'm like okay, so which one am Iwho?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
am I which one are you, the Golden Girls, the.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Golden Girls.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Oh, we got the tongue out because I see Blanche.
You see Blanche, I do, but lowkey, but hidden, hidden.
I see Blanche Really.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I'm thinking I don't want to say the dumb one, but I
see Rose, but she was funny, butshe was like she didn't know
she was funny but I was like sheseemed like a little clueless
sometimes.
Sometimes I feel a littleclueless.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Well, I think we all have those moments, especially
as we get older too, I think weall have those moments.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
What?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
am I doing today?
I see Blanche, I think you have, I think you're a hidden
Blanche.
I could be.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Blanche.
Now See, she was my favorite.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Yes, I could, because it would be unexpected.
I don't see Dorothy, I don'tsee Dorothy, but I love Dorothy
too.
I loved all of them I mean theyall had their thing, but I hope
well.
First let me back up.
I wouldn't want you to try tobe me.
I wouldn't want you to beStephanie.
I wouldn't want you to beStephanie, I wouldn't want you
to be Sharice.
I think your identity, yourpersonality, is just genuinely
(13:13):
you.
You know what I'm saying.
Like, it's just genuinely you,and I think that's why the four
of us sitting here work so welltogether.
I don't want to cry no, becausewhen I first thought about
doing this, I thought about, Ireally thought about who would
sit on the couch with me.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I'll have an overbearing personality
sometimes, see, and I'm peoplelike I know I do, and when you
say that, I'm always thinkinglike why would she choose me?
Speaker 2 (13:44):
No, because I wanted it to really represent.
I could have got other peopleto act just like me.
I know some people that actjust like me.
I didn't want it to be allfunny, I wanted heartfelt, so I
needed Sharice.
Stephanie is a wild card.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
We needed a wild card .
Speaker 2 (14:05):
You know what I'm saying, but I also wanted
someone a little more reservedand honestly.
We know each other, but I thinkI've learned more about you
sitting on this couch than thecouple of years that I've known
you you know what I'm sayinglike it's, everybody has their
own thing.
So I hope you.
I don't want you to feel likeyou have to be anybody.
(14:27):
I just want you to show up andbe Evania, because every I think
people love Sharice, peoplelove Stephanie.
There's people that love me,there's people that love you.
I think it we pull from allaspects of women, which is why I
think we work so well together.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Okay, I want people to want to watch me too.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
I want to bring something to the table no, you,
but I think you do, I think youdo and I think you'll when you
you feel more confident.
But've seen, but to be honestwith you, you came a long way
from episode one.
We was like, okay, y'all bequiet, let Yvonne speak now.
We can't hear you.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
We can't, we can't hear you.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
What'd you say?
Is she speaking in themicrophone?
Is?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
her microphone working, that really clicked.
I was like dang, like nobodycan hear me and I'm like I'm
really tough to me in my head.
I was like dang like nobody canhear me and I'm like I'm really
to me in my head.
I'm like I'm yelling and I'mlike, and they can't even hear
me Even when we do the micchecks.
I'm like hello and I'll yelland they're like, yeah, that's
good.
I was like that's good.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Like I'm yelling.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
But okay, I'm announcing and pronouncing and
all those terms Enunciating andall that stuff pronouncing and
all those terms Enunciating andall that stuff, because I do
have an accent, I'm countryy'all and I know how to speak
well, but I don't speak well allthe time.
When I'm comfortable, I don't,so I'm Geechee, you know what?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
that is, the Geechee community.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
It comes out when I'm comfortable.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Well, we waiting for the Geech, we waiting for the
Right.
Well, we like to say, well, wewaiting for the geech, we
waiting for the geech On thepeachy geech.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Well, you know what?
Speaker 2 (15:59):
One day we have to go to South Carolina.
You do.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
You can't go now.
It's hot though, but yeah, wegotta come.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
I've never.
I've always heard Charlestonwas beautiful.
It is it along to something?
The Rainbow?
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Rose, you know the waterfront?
Yeah, the waterfront, it'shistorical, not for the best
reasons.
I think where we go isdifferent.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
It's the South, ain't none of it for the best reasons
, but they go because it's allnostalgia and the plantation.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
We look at it differently.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
I won't even live nowhere, to say plantation.
I'm not living in such and suchplantation, I'm not visiting.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
I'm not living in such and such plantation
subdivision.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
I'm not living nowhere that say plantation.
I'm not celebrating that.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Some people they love that, like they have cotton
places and they're decoratingwith cotton.
I'm like this is not decor.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
But you know what?
But that's the South.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
That's the South, but it's their South.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Yeah, but you know what?
That's still our South too.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Well, the thing is, I wish we were.
I feel like we're not includedin that South Like because
there's some little Southernoutfits I see the little white
ladies wear.
I'm like, oh, that's cute, Iwould wear that.
But I don't think they madethat outfit for me.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Well, hell, that's because being a black woman
period.
A lot of stuff ain't made forus, which is why we have to make
our own identity, our ownbrands, our own for us, by us.
Our own food booths we got tomake our own food booths.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
And here's some of that.
In Charleston there's a ladywho's African American and Asian
.
She had a little shop, the tinytassel.
She makes these type of dressesand she's black, but everybody
shops their white, black littleearrings and everything so super
cute.
Has a shop downtown Charlestonand then a lot of stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Well, I can't even say I was going to say they.
But I'm sorry, but theseCaucasians is thicker than us
most of them thicker thanrounder and butts bigger but
some of them naturally there'ssome cornbread eating, fried
chicken eating stuff too,because some of them are thicker
than us like wait she born likethat you know natural.
(17:52):
But you know, in the world ofcosmetic surgery we can all have
it.
Some of us just go a littleoverboard with it, but you know
yeah, you gotta go to Charlestonand okay beaches best beaches
in the world yeah, we'll have togo, stephanie.
We gonna have to go toCharleston well, stephanie, done
tried to go to Ellery's in thelast couple of weeks, probably
(18:17):
three, four times, and theynever got in the door.
We tried to go that other nightBecause it was crowded.
I think they were going on aFriday night and I think maybe 8
o'clock she said the line wasalready wrapped around the door.
See, because that's old people.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah, they got to get in there early.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Because they got ready to go to bed by 10.
11, so you know they got toparty from 6 to 10.
You know our party's now from 6to 10.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
We don't leave the house at 11 and 12.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
We used to leave the house at 11 and 12.
But now we back in and don'tshower.
Sometimes.
I know when I go places and Iwill come in and the boys will
be like you back, I'd be like,yeah, back already.
I had a good time my three,four hours.
You know, that's all we got inus.
Well, is there anything elseyou want us to know about you?
Speaker 1 (19:05):
I am a genuinely loyal person.
I'm actually a great person.
I'm a great friend.
I'm a great person and I'm notsaying that to my own heart.
I know I'm good at the core.
I know I'm a good person, so Ifeel like the stuff that I'm
getting now is all the things Ideserve.
I know I've made mistakes, butI think this is my time, so I'm
the bomb.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
You better say it.
You better say it.
She said I'm the bomb.
You better say it.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
I'm good people and I love being around good people
and I'm around good people.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
That's why you're on the couch.
I like to surround myself withgood people.
You can't have toxicity.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
If I get that word out At this stage of life, I
don't have time for that.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
You, we've definitely seen you blossom and blossoming
still still more to come, yeah,even just from our first
episode, and you're not quite 50yet.
So I'm gonna tell you right nowthat wait till that 5-0 hit.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
That's what I'm thinking is coming.
It's because I can see a littlebit.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
It's gonna hit you in the back of the head like
somebody just walked up andsmacked the shit out of you.
Wait till that 5-0 hit all thatinsecurity and stuff.
Because you get to a point.
It's something about that 5-0that you realize oh look,
because very few of us are gonnalive to 100.
Yeah, true, very few of us aregonna live to 100.
That 5-0 is a real eye-openerwhen you be like, oh, and I hate
(20:28):
that cliche I got more daysbehind me than I have ahead of
me, that whole.
It's a whole shift in theatmosphere that you don't care
what other people think of you.
You know your time is limited,no matter what.
We all are limited.
You know your time is limitedand I want to live every day to
the fullest.
You stop worrying about whatother people think and care
about you and I don't know whyyou have to actually see that
(20:51):
5-0 show up on that cake orsomething.
It's a whole shift in yourwhole thing.
So I hate to say it.
When they say that 50 and fuckit, it's a real thing, you don't
care about what anybody says.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
So I'm looking forward to seeing that Cat down
the zone.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I'm looking forward to seeing that Avanya.
We got a couple years but it'scoming, it's coming, it's coming
, it's coming.
All right, well, this is Avanyay'all.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
I'm glad y'all got that we finally got a chance.
I finally got back.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Hey, I'm not mad at you, girl, keep traveling.
This is the summer.
All of us are not on the couchbecause our schedules are crazy.
That's a good thing, because westill got life, we keep living
at this age we're not sittingdown and enjoy life.
Enjoy love.
Get all the sex you can,because I just want sex Can.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
I just have sex.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I don't even know if I want the man.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
I want you to have it too, girl.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I don't even know if I want the man, but you know,
we'll see.
We'll, we'll see, we'll justsee.
Anyway, this is legra withtimeless and unfiltered.
This is evan and we miss this.
Stephanie and sharice, butthey'll be back next week and we
will keep on spilling the teaon midlife, one laugh at a time.
We'll see y'all next week,y'all.
Thanks for watching.
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