May 23, 2025 • 60 mins
Join TiredGato on TiredGato Talks for the top r/AITA stories that'll challenge your judgment! Dive into intense family dramas, from financial betrayal to in-law conflicts. These gripping Reddit tales will spark debate and make you question who's truly wrong or right. Tune in for some compelling Reddit relationship advice and heated discussions.
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Hey bestie, welcome back. Today we're diving into the top
Am I the asshole post from May 2025.
The stories that had Reddit buzzing, heated debates,
keyboards basically completely numbed out from so much typing
that the keys are just probably all faded.
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I know you've seen those pictures.
They're the posts that had everyone asking Am I the
asshole? Spoiler alert, sometimes the
answer is yes, and sometimes it's even messier than that.
So buckle up, get comfy, and getready to judge strangers on the
Internet with me because the topend of the asshole post of May
are officially here. January 2025 Reddit draws in 1.1
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billion visitors every month, and out of those, a massive 5.4
millionaire members of the Am I the Asshole community, making it
one of the biggest and most active corners of the Internet
for drama. This first story is ranked #5 of
all posts in the Am I the Asshole of May.
Let's read it Emma the asshole for finding out I've been
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unknowingly paying rent to my husband and his mom for two
years. Excuse me, let's read it.
I, 31 female, have been married to Brian, 33 male of two years.
Right after the wedding we movedinto an apartment he said was a
great deal from a family friend.We agreed to split rent and
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utilities 5050 to keep things equal fair since we were
starting fresh and wanting to avoid money fights.
So I've been sending him $700.00a month just for the rent of
this whole time already Right there OP, you're you're avoiding
a fight. That's not a fight, that's a
conversation. That should just be a
conversation. Not blaming OP, but there
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there's a red flag. Let's continue.
Three days ago at a BBQ I overheard his mom talking about
how it's nice getting rent from Brian's place and how smart they
were to keep it in the family. Turns out his mom's owned the
apartments and Brian's on the deed too.
I had no idea he never told me. Hmm, I wonder why?
Hmm, just let me keep paying rent for two years like a
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clueless roommate's. When I confronted him he said I
never asked this fucking bitch and that I'm overreacting
because we weren't overpaying. But I feel completely
blindsided. It's not just the money, it's
the secrecy. I told him I won't be keep
paying until we talk about a fair set up.
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Now he's acting like I'm the problem.
Am I the asshole? Oh let's see what Reddit has to
say about this. Let's see what Reddit has to say
with top comment being. It's not even that you didn't
ask. He said it was a family friend.
It wasn't. It was him.
Exactly OP. And this isn't fair because all
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the money that you're investing for your life with Brian, it's
all going into his mom's equity,which is your husband's equity.
You're getting fucked because who knows what her what her will
says What happens to this? You see what I mean?
Like it would be make more senseto invest it together as a
couple. Y'all are married.
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You're not married to his mom. So many questions and concerns.
I can see why this was number 5 though.
Let's go ahead and see the next comment.
Not the asshole, but girl, I'd be drafting divorce papers in a
Lisa Frank notebook because thisis giving financial betrayal and
Mama boy energy. Like imagine being married,
paying rents, and finding out you're the tenant in your own
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damn marriage. This man let you roommate his
investment property without telling you.
That's not just shady, that's premeditated.
You didn't marry a husband, you married a landlord with benefits
and it. Wow there's a lot of rewards on
these comments. Another comment.
Oh wow your husband does not understand what it is to be
married. I'm sorry to say but he does not
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trust, respect, or love. You really recommend seeing a
counselor at a minimum and leaving him as the best option.
I'm really sorry. Now I'm even more curious as to
when OP said in this post how they're just hey let's read it
right here since we were starting fresh and wanted to
avoid money fights. So I've been sending him $700.00
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a month just for rent this wholetime.
So they have a history of not being able to talk finances.
So Opie honey, this isn't going to stop.
It's only going to get more shady.
And I really, oh man, I really want to know what these
conversations were before the $700.00 a month agreement.
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What was happening? Let's take a look at O PS
account. Their name is Hexelpuff.
Hexelpuff. Let's see.
Let's see, just one post. Unfortunately no update.
But we do have a comment that they replied to saying yeah,
he's never shown me his half of the rent going anywhere.
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Starting to think I was the onlyone paying anything.
I didn't even hold on. I didn't even consider this.
I generally didn't. That's insane.
Another one saying things but doyou really think it's that
serious? Like divorce level serious?
OOP it's OK, the Nile is a riverin Egypt.
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Yes absolutely divorce level. They're literally financially
scheming to make money off of you.
That's not a thing you should doin a relationship unless y'all
are like brokers together or like stock market Bros together.
Other than that, no, there's there should be no financial
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gain other than the balance for both of you.
One person shouldn't be hit so hard man.
One person should not be hit so hard.
Whether it be somebody paying all the rent and then the other
person paying for all like the groceries and and like their
utilities and shit like that. That makes complete sense.
As long as the numbers equal out.
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It has to be a fair 5050 and it's especially especially when
the moms evolved like if it was really that serious and she
needed that money, all they could have done was had a
conversation with the mother andbe willing to pay the the money
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that they are paying now. Like there was no reason for
them to do behind her back because they were they're making
money off of her. That's all that is.
And it sucks because like it's all going to the mom's equity.
So like when you buy a house andyou're paying off the mortgage
or you're paying property taxes,or let's say if you're an
apartment, yes, you you put money into it, you don't get
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anything back except for just renting, which really sucks.
Same goes for like a house renting, condo renting, renting
in general just absolutely sucks.
So they're already in such a shitty situation of realizing
whatever money they put in it doesn't add up to their equity.
But plot twist it adds up to theequity in the reality of what
the husband and the mom are doing.
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So imagine that fucking slap in the face for this wife.
She's getting fucked while they make money off of her.
Lord have mercy. This isn't some like single mom
raise the rent meme. This is literally like raise the
rent on my wife and let me make money off of her.
What the hell? Here is the next story ranked #4
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out of all posts of May. Let's read it.
Am I the asshole for refusing torecover at home after surgery?
Wow, what a title. I-29 female.
Am really disappointed with my husband. 30, male and furious at
his mother. Hag aged F Sorry this is so long
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and throw away for privacy for contacts.
My husband is from the West Coast where his mother still
lives. He moved to the East Coast for
college and that's where we met.After graduation and the start
of our relationship, she would visit three to four times a year
and make him take paid time off so we could entertain her
throughout her visit. After two years of this, while
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we were still dating, I asked him how we are ever meant to go
on vacation together if his PTO is spent at home with his
visiting mother. I mean, he can do whatever he
wants with his PTO. Let's be fair.
We agreed to save PTO for a trip.
Never mind you guys agreed. Let me take back my last
sentence. We agreed to save PTO for a trip
to Europe we took in 2023 and heagreed to tell his mother he
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couldn't take off from work every time she visited.
In my last job I was able to work from home four days a week
and every time she visited she soaked all day like a puppy
who's had her toys taken away. But once my husband came home a
switch flicked and she was happyand clingy again.
Wait, why don't just you have the mom like come visit you in
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the time where it's works out for y'all?
Y'all are the one housing her. She cannot have her cake and eat
it too. OK so here's the issue.
Now husband and I moved states about six months ago.
Closer to my family. I have a new Doctor who
recommended me for a surgery that my old doctor kept putting
off. It's not a complicated procedure
and it will greatly increase my quality of life for decades.
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My mother-in-law decided she's due for a visit and wants to
explore our new town and she'd come to help around with the
house while I recover. I'm going to be out of surgery
and in pain and I really don't want to put up with her energy.
However, we agreed with my husband saying this isn't a
sightseeing visit. She's here to help out, to cook,
clean laundry so I can rest and recover.
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She can come for a proper visit later in the year.
My husband dropped me off at thehospital on Wednesday.
All right guys, go ahead and putin the comments.
What do you think's going to happen 'cause I think I know
what's going to happen. It was meant to be surgery.
Then one night overnight at the hospital for observations on
Thursday, the doctor told me my labs were not where he'd like
them to be and I should stay another night for observation
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and new lab work in the morning.Good be safe than sorry.
I called my husband and told himthat I'd probably hopefully be
home the next day over the phoneearly afternoon.
He did not visit on Thursday at all.
Oh I wonder what he was doing. Was he puppy sitting?
On Friday, I was discharged and called my husband to tell him
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that I'd be ready in about an hour.
It went straight to voicemail and I figured he's probably in a
meeting and I'll try again in a little bit.
After calling a few times over the course of an hour, I called
my sister who is lucky enough tobe excused from work for the
afternoon. Many thanks to her understanding
boss. Yo, real quick, husband, you
were just told that her labs weren't good enough for surgery,
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which increases a massive risk of, I don't know, death during
surgery, which is a massive risk.
You know, like the number one risk, The one thing about
surgery that they don't want. And you're you're literally
going to be just giving your mother attention during this
time. Are you are you kidding me, dog?
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Come on bro, Buck the fuck up. She drove 90 minutes to get me
and took me home and the house was in shambles.
Wow my God it's almost like it wasn't a helping visit.
Laundry baskets on the dining room table, the litter box not
clean since Wednesday morning. Days of dirty plates in the
sink. I just broke down crying.
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She packed me a bag and took me to her apartment to recover for
two weeks. That's how you know it was
really bad if like the friend went come on bro to my place
because what the fuck is this shit?
On Friday night my husband called me asking me where I am
and that the hospital said I wasalready discharged.
Brother, if you cared you would have called sooner 'cause that's
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Friday night brother. Oh my God, we're two days
without hearing from this motherfucker.
He had been on a hike with his mother and there was no cell
phone service so he had missed my calls, which also meant he
took PTO for his mom's visit again.
Wow. But not for your sickness.
Not for your sickness, OP. Oh my gosh that's heartbreaking.
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Obviously I can't ban him from taking PTO, but wouldn't you
rather spend that freed up time with your wife at the hospital
instead of on a date with your mom?
Bro it's not like she was getting a lip filler.
This was a life changing like surgery that would improve her
life. Really bro?
I told him that I no longer feelcomfortable recovering in our
house and I won't be returning until it's thoroughly cleaned
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and his mother is gone. He started calling me the
asshole because his mother just wanted to get to know our new
area and I wasn't able to leave the hospital anyway and that I
was making a big deal out of this.
I yelled that he essentially abandoned me at the hospital,
Not essentially. He literally didn't even contact
you and entertained someone who's being here was to help
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make recovery easier, not more stressful, and that she was here
for support, not on a vacation. Wow.
Maybe it's just the pain and pain meds, but am I in the wrong
here? Girly pop, just read your post
You're fine, you're fine. Just write it down and just read
it. There's even a thing where you
can copy and paste it and you can have like the Google voices
read it back to you because holyshit you're not the asshole.
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You are being neglected. Hell, I go to work and my
husband is immediately like feeling.
Neglected or trying to convey a strong sense of being ignored.
I want to assure you that I'm here to help and respond.
To. Your queries, what's making you
feel this way? Oh my.
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God what? OK for those that are just audio
stemming and listening in when Isaid go to Google and do that.
First of all, what the hell is up with this new Android update?
I actually hate it because now Isaid you could go to Google and
do Texas brother. It just did it.
It literally just said you it got this.
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This is the word it got for me. You're being neglected.
Hell, and it was giving me advice.
It sounds like you're feeling neglected or OK.
Well if you wanna ever talk to somebody that's not ChatGPT
because who the hell wants to pay $20.00 a month for more chat
support because they have like alimited amount of data.
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Gemini. Apparently if you have a phone
through Android you can talk to Gemini or not.
I call it Gemini Gemini and they'll they'll answer whatever.
Do that OP, you don't even have to go to ready.
Go to your fucking phone. That was funny.
That was not planned out. Wow.
I can't wait to look back at howconfused my face was.
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But no you're being neglected Opie.
This is not normal when I am at work like we don't even go more
than like probably like 4 hours like checking up on each other
and not in a like obsessive way just in AI love you and I want
you around me type of way which is like normal especially if
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both parties aren't feeling overwhelmed.
So you know what I mean. Every relationship is different
but to go that long with like a medical procedure.
Dude not even not even I just know for a fact he would go to
HEB. But I mean like 15 bouquets of
flowers and all the funny balloons to try to make me happy
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and probably get me a water burger Pico burger which is
coming out June 1st for those Whataburger enthusiasts.
But no this isn't normal. Like this dude literally treated
you worse than an enemy. Hell, an enemy would have been
like stalking and like trying toget information from other
people that knew to see like butlike to get like a demise from
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you. This dude wasn't even
interested. This dude literally didn't even
care. And remember an enemy would.
So what does that? What does that tell you OP?
Let's continue reading. Is there a stupid hell to die
on? There's a part of me telling me
to see a divorce lawyer just to see what my options are because
I'm not sure this will ever change.
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Absolutely. If you have a thought in your
mind, do it anytime. When it comes to educating
yourself, if you're not sure about something and you want to
know your options or you just can't see it from another
perspective, you can't do anything.
Just ask fucking questions. I know this is going to sound
incredibly selfish, but I want kids.
But I don't see myself having any with my husband in the
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foreseeable future. Nope.
Because you will be in delivery by yourself while he's showing
his mom the new zoo exhibit thatopens.
Oh man. And if this isn't going to work
out, I don't want to spend the next five years of wasting time
and money on therapy and missinga chance to find somebody I
actually can start a family with, someone who can't be a
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committed father and a husband before he's a son.
I love how she wrote that. I believe there's a lot of hope
for Opie. Many thanks to everyone who's
read all of this. And ladies and gentlemen, we
have an edit. Thank you everyone.
I stepped away for a while and came back to my support.
I think it's time to put my big girl pants on.
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Unfortunately, it's unfortunate until you get to lock eyes with
your new husband for the first time.
It'll all make sense then. Let's go ahead and take a look
at the top comments. He left you alone in the
hospital. He went somewhere without soul
service when he knew you were being discharged.
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He didn't call you back until that night, hours after you were
meant to be discharged. This is so fucking important.
Why did I think of this either? This is why.
This is why having community is so good.
Like I love, I love everybody's takes because yes, he knew that
he knew you were being discharged.
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Hello. Like even if like I like,
there's no justification. There's literally no
justification for that. He knew when you were going to
be discharged. He intentionally made sure like
he didn't have service for you. Like what the bollock bro this
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man is ridiculous and that is unforgivable.
Let his mom have him. You are not overreacting
thinking about divorce and you are definitely not the asshole.
Yikes. And this comment which oh it's
so beautifully and well written.Someone please get this person
into journalism. You ready for this one?
By the way, it's all in uppercase exciting.
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What the flying fuck. He is the asshole.
His mother is the asshole. You are not an asshole.
No, I didn't fall on caps lock. I am mad, not the asshole.
Additional OK, so this is not inall caps.
This is not a stupid hill to dieon.
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You're dying alone on that hill because your husband will be
hiking with his mother around the hill and ignore you.
Go and see a lawyer. He left you when you needed him
the most. Oh, boy, Opie, I know exactly
what's happening here. I think so you moved to a place
where you're closer to your family.
And from the looks of it, you don't rely on your family the
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way he relies on his family, right?
You see, You see what's going here?
Because you would have just contacted one of your family
members to come and help you, right?
But you didn't because you prioritized your husband before
your. Another family like the the
family that you have blood related.
You are prioritizing your relationship with your husband
as your main contact, which is extremely common and normal.
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He however is prioritizing his blood over you.
So I wonder how y'all's day-to-day life looks like when
it comes to when things happen. Seems like he I'm assuming he is
incapable of problem solving. He needs his mommy and he's
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probably tired of you being the what do you call that tough love
mom 'cause that's probably what you are.
You probably are his like tough love mom and he only sees it as
you like griping and bitching and moaning and complaining when
in reality bro just be a fuckingadult and the way he completely
has been avoiding you when it comes to his mom in the picture,
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I wouldn't be surprised if that's what's going on.
Wow. Cut your losses and leave him to
his mommy. This is why it's so important to
let your kids try to make friends and school.
Get them into extracurricular activities, man.
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And if you have and you're struggling, mom, send them to
the military. They'll, they'll learn a thing
you'd see when it comes to independence.
All right, if you're still here,unlike some people who clearly
can't handle a little accountability but can sure post
it online hiding behind a screen, you might just be the
ultimate moral investigator. Sup, buddy.
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So go ahead and hit that like button, subscribe, and let's
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And hey, if there's a spicy topic or subreddit mess you want
me to unravel, drop in the comments.
This isn't just my channel, it'sour wonderfully judge mental
corner of the Internet. Now let's get back to the chaos.
Let's go judge these people. Next story.
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This is rate #3 out of all postsof May 2025 in the subreddit
already. Am I the asshole for
embarrassing my mother-in-law infront of guests after she
implied I don't do real work? Nope, you're not the asshole.
Let's go ahead and get to the next story.
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Let's read it. I28 female work from home as a
software developer. Oh no, I bet you this bitch is a
fucking boomer and telling, telling this girl that does all
this engineering and programmingbehind a computer that it's not
real work because it's not tangible.
So fucking dumb. OK, Like, wait, hold on, ma'am,
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real quick. Who do you think?
Like, who do you think Major Candy Crush?
Like come on, you think that just out of air like a genie.
My mother-in-law 58 female has never understood or respected
that every time she visits she makes snide remarks like oh must
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be nice to sit in pajamas all day.
Or back in my day. Oh God back in my day we
actually had to commute to work.OK well bitch back in back in
your day used to be able to afford a fucking house on a gas
station salary. The fuck?
This past weekend we hosted a small BBQ during dinner.
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Someone asked what I do and before I could answer
mother-in-law chuckled and said oh she watches Netflix and calls
it coding. Oh hell, where's your where's
your husband at? Where's your husband at?
Please don't tell me the apple doesn't fall far from the tree
too with us but that's giving a beast.
I smiled and said yeah and that Netflix paid off your son's
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student loans and bought this house.
That's what you get, you dumb bitch.
Keep your damn name out of your mouth.
You're just mad because you're jealous.
Everyone laughed. mother-in-law got really quiet after they
left. My husband said I was being
unnecessarily mean and should have just let it slide.
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Ever the asshole. No, your husband should have
been like, fuck yeah, she paid off my debt.
What the fuck? Why?
Why? Why do we protect blood?
Why do we protect blood that doesn't even need to be
protected? So dumb.
Like, wow, are we all like, somehow related in some aspect
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or another? Or like, like what?
What did Tumblr used to say? How we're all made from like,
asteroids and like, moon sand and like, like space atoms and
all that. So, like, at that point, you
shouldn't. You shouldn't have to be mean to
anyone because we're all technically related or whatever,
like whatever they say in Alabama land where you fuck your
sister and you know what I mean?This is, it's, it's, it's
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absurd. It's absolutely absurd.
And I'm, I'm very excited to seewhat happens in the next 10
years when it comes to family ties of ties that should have
never been ties. They're just knots because it's
usually one person justifying their shitty actions and
convincing all these other people to justify it to save the
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piece when reality. Bitch, the only piece we're
saving is your fucking jaw. We're not fucking stomping in.
Let's. Anyways, let's go ahead and look
at the top comments. If you don't like the way I deal
with your mother belittling me, feel free to take over.
For me. The days of it going unaddressed
are over. Not the asshole.
Beautifully written another comment.
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Your mother-in-law has been unnecessarily mean for a long
time now and your husband hasn'tseen fit to deal with her and
get her to treat you with respect.
If he doesn't like how you dealtwith it next time he can make
sure his mom's behavior doesn't become your problem.
You know, to be fair, not justifying the husband's
inability to, I don't know, stand up for his wife, but I
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wouldn't be surprised that she was like this, like his whole
life. And imagine all the things that
she has belittled in his endeavors, such as like
football, like, oh, you're, you're, you're not the
quarterback, though. If he wasn't the quarterback.
And let's say he was a quarterback, like, oh, you're
not in champions, though. You're not this though, Like I
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bet you she has just belittled his entire fucking existence
from the beginning, the fucking beginning.
So it does make sense why he's not reacting to it because for
him, it's a lot easier to just not address it because obviously
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he addressed it as a kid. If this is the you know, I'm I'm
making up this whole entire world of O PS husband's back
story. But in the reality of it, this
could be a very viable possibility.
So let's say that's that's what's happened.
That has what their history has been and that's why he's not
saying anything because imagine the fights used to have with his
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mom about it just for him to defend himself as a kid where
you're still developing and learning and trying to
understand who you are. And through the end of it all,
if you have done everything in your power to try to explain to
your mother what you're proud ofor what makes you happy.
And hell, she might even use it against him.
And like, like for Christmas, bythe complete opposite of what he
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expressed interest in. Because, I don't know, sounds
like she's a fucking bitch and sounds like something that she
actually would actively act in. Like, genuinely would not cross
my mind. She didn't.
Yeah. I would just not entertain it.
And that's how he is dealing with the situation.
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I would in my opinion try to askprying questions but prying in
the way of background questions.Try to get a little bit of a
history. Try to understand how he handled
relationship his relationship with his mom in the past.
Obviously you most likely won't get the answer because that shit
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is something a lot of people don't want to talk about,
especially as a man because men get shamed a lot when it comes
to mental health. Not saying women don't either.
However, when we are growing up in school as little as
elementary school, you see the little boys having to open the
doors for the little girls. But the boys have cooties,
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right? And you're not supposed to even
talk to them. Like it's such a backhanded way
of growing up. And it really does suck.
It really does suck because it'sinstilled at a very young age.
And of course there are things that women are installed in at a
very young age, such as the beauty industry, what we are
seeing on TV. Definitely not Definitely not
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belittling the what what femaleshave to go through either.
I just want to very much so shine light on the perspective
of a male because it's a the. The post is literally a wife
trying to understand the man notstanding up for her.
And I wouldn't be surprised if the dude just doesn't entertain
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it anymore. You know what I mean?
Also, if you ever find yourself in like a communication dilemma
with either significant other ora friend of like the opposite
gender or or the same gender, but we're going to focus on the
topic of the story. So the opposite gender, try to
consider what their perspective was with day-to-day conflict.
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You know, just just consider that if you, if you can't see
the eye to eye, maybe it's because y'all both can't see
What you guys both were raised us.
Yeah, I love thinking like that.Just be careful when you think
like that because you can spiralout.
And we don't want spiraling bestie.
We want thoughts and curiosity. Here is the second to last story
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ranked #2 and all of the month of May.
Let's read it. Even the asshole for kicking an
autistic child out for misbehaving in my restaurant.
OK, let's read it. My name is Gina, 55, female from
upstate New York and I run a family owned pizzeria.
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My husband and I have been in the service industry for decades
and over the past few years we've noticed a huge increase in
rude customers, rude children, and a crazy level of
entitlement. Yeah, they're called iPad kits.
And yeah, one of the rules we have in a restaurant is that
nobody's allowed to talk on the speakerphone, play music out
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loud, or have anything playing on speaker from a personal
device. I swear I did not read this
before. I swear 'cause I think this is
about a motherfucking iPad kid probably playing Skippity toilet
at 100% volume while the parentsjust completely ignore their
kid. This is such a simple request
and something that has always been the standard.
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This was not even an issue or something that needed to be said
but before the pandemic. But now it seems parents feel
attacked if their children cannot watch Bluey on volume.
It's OK. It's probably skippity but we
have signs up asking people not to do this and we actually do
enforce this rule politely but firmly.
Good for y'all, good for y'all. A few weeks ago a woman was
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sitting with her nine year old son who was watching cartoons on
his tablet at full volume while also scrolling TikTok on a
phone. Bro, get this dude some keys,
put him behind a wheel while doing all that.
He's going to fit in perfectly to society because what is up
with all these distracted driver?
Oh, we could talk so much about that.
But dude, I told you, I fucking told you.
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I told you. This is the iPad kid.
IPad kid man 100% volume, the phone swiping on the side.
Immaculate. We are just evolving as a
species man. I nicely explained to the woman
that we do not allow this as it is as disruptive to other
customers and then asked her to please turn off the volume.
The woman rudely replied that her son both has ADHD and autism
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so he needs to do this in order to sit down without making a
fuss. Nope, this is called enabling
mental developmental disorders. Nope, this is actually enabling.
You have to raise somebody and it's just like with a dog or
with a cat. They get upset but they learn.
Isn't that insane? Oh man, I asked if she could
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please use headphones and she snapped at her son does not like
to use them. Oh man we're going to get like a
post like in 10 years of am I the asshole?
Told husband to turn off tablet during our wedding dinner or
like our our two year anniversary dinner.
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Oh dude. For real though these stories in
10 years. Oh I'm so excited dude.
I'm so excited that the teenagersubreddit on Reddit is going to
be popping off Fucking hilarious.
OK OK. I told her that this is
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unacceptable and to please either use headphones or set his
devices to silence. About 10 minutes later, I was in
the kitchen and heard loud banging noises coming from the
dining room. I came out to find the child
furiously banging his fists on the table while the mom just sat
there ignoring it. Whoa dude, these stories just
write themselves. Holy shit.
Oh my God. It was almost as if he was
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waiting for her to say something, but she did nothing.
I asked her to please stop him and she replied that his son is
on the spectrum and this is justhis normal behavior if he
doesn't have a device to calm him down.
No, it's like if you don't give the person the thing they're
used to, the only thing that interacts with them, they're
going to want it because you don't interact with them.
Wow, it's almost like your kid is just trying to be a human and
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connect. The boy then stood up and
started running around my restaurant punching and kicking
the other tables and chairs and knocking things over.
Another customer yelled at the mom to control your kid or I
will W customer W in Chatfra. She launched into a what sounded
like a pre rehearsed monologue about how autistic children
deserve to occupy the same spaces as everyone else.
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I agree with this, but everyone still needs to behave
appropriately. Yep Yep.
And to be fair, you're enabling your kid.
I told the woman that if she could not get her son's behavior
under control that she needs to leave.
She was furious and started yelling about how it is illegal
to discriminate against people who are on the spectrum and that
she would report me. My husband came out, put her
food into A to go box and just said to her get out right now W
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husband as well. She looked genuinely shocked and
said that kids should not be expected to just sit quietly and
that the world needs to be more accepting of those who are
different. This isn't different.
I mean, yeah, it's different in the sense that you you'd haven't
raised your kids in No, raising doesn't mean, oh, they have to
be exactly like perfect quiet tothemselves.
No kids are going to be kids. They can run around, they can do
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things, but the the anger, the emotional lack of regulation, it
is from neglect. Like this is neglect.
This kid literally won't get talked to because the mom won't.
And it's so hilarious how and she's blaming everyone else for
not being accommodating to this kid when I know for a fucking
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fact this mom has not accommodated for the way that he
has to learn. He can understand and he can
perceive things. She, she has probably only
taught him in a way that you would do for a normal fucking
kid. She has not done the research on
it and here we are. She's the one name blaming.
She's the one blaming, but in reality, she did not do her own
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research. She didn't.
She is not utilizing the resources for this kid.
And in that case, I think you should get your kids taken away.
And I don't think you're you're allowed to to reproduce because
you're endangering this kid. An autistic kid or kid on the
spectrum is has the same amount of life, quality of life than
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any other normal kid. They just have to learn things
differently. And it yeah, it's a little bit
like confusing at first, but there's resources like Free
State resources. No matter what state you're in,
it's fucking there. You're just a lazy piece of shit
mother that's probably using himfor a disability check will
probably abuse the system of that claiming it up till he's
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19. Because you can do that if your
kid has a disability and he won't ever see an ounce of that
money. You're probably not even
accommodating him when it comes to his educational endeavors.
He he probably has bad grades atschool.
He's probably you probably have so many parent conferences.
Which is why it sounded rehearsed.
It's probably exactly why OP said that it sounded like a
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rehearsed monologue. Because I bet you this is what
she says to the other teachers that are trying to help her in
the understanding how to make sure her son is able to regulate
his life. Having a life where you can't
control your emotions because people can't understand you
because of the way that he perceives things due to his
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condition. That's not a quality of life and
that's not fair to him and that's not fair to any other kid
she pops out of her stupid ass body because what the hell?
How are you going to? I'm sorry if you think I'm being
aggressive. Go because this is about safety
of children. That's all this is about, safety
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of children, no matter how or what or whatever they have or
don't have. It's about giving them quality
of fucking life. And if you're not OK with that,
congratulations. I bet you would be the same type
of mother that everyone hates and you probably get dirty looks
in public. Sorry to be the one to tell you
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that, and if you didn't even realize it until I said it,
honestly, I'm a lot happier because I would rather you have
to learn someday. Whether it be me yelling at you,
we're not yelling here. Whether it be me telling you the
reality of it all, so be it. At least you got here and it you
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got a long journey ahead. But if you have any fucking
questions, just ask me, OK? Just ask me.
But damn, neglect a kid. I'm coming for you.
I'm being. I'm so fucking for real that
shit doesn't fly here. And for some reason America
really sure likes to fucking letneglect fly when it comes to
children. Anyways.
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I love kids. My husband and I raised five of
them, even one with special needs.
But autism or not, nothing givesyou the right to behave this way
in a setting. If your child's issues are so
severe that simply sitting in a restaurant without the device
makes them freak out and throw atantrum, then maybe reconsider
taking them there in the 1st place.
Yep, I'm tired of rude kids and lazy parents who embolden them
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to have this way, refusing to discipline them or set any kinds
of rules or boundaries. This is not about ADHD, autism,
or any other condition. This is about entitlement, bad
parenting, and bad behavior as aresult.
Am I the asshole? No, you're not the asshole at
all. Not the asshole with top common
being. You know who else would hate
someone behaving like that in a public space they they expected
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to have quieter someone with autism?
Exactly dude. Exactly.
I would not be surprised if thiskiddo was also like misdiagnosed
because a lot of them just go Ohyeah on the spectrum and the
spectrum is massive dude, massive, absolutely massive.
And there's so many different like medications, different
therapy styles, different like exposure therapy.
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Oh my gosh, you got to get your kid a better plan of care.
You got to get the OK another comment.
I have an autistic son. When he was younger, 4:00 to
5:00-ish, he was awful in restaurants.
So guess what we did? We didn't go out to eat.
See. So don't get mad at me.
The ones that were writing comments saying you don't know
what it's like this. This person literally said the
same exact fucking thing I just said.
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Some autism autistic people willsay I deprived him of
experiences, but I see it as I avoided triggers.
Guess what? He's a well exactly.
Quality of motherfucking life. Quality of life.
This isn't about you anymore, babe.
This is this isn't about you. And by that I mean the mothers
out there and fathers out there that just push it under the rug
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and say, oh, he's just sick. No motherfucker, you're sick
because you're neglecting your fucking kid.
Guess what? He is a well behaved 24 year old
who wasn't traumatized because he didn't go to all.
I'm sorry, I'm so upset I can't even read.
Guess what? He is a well behaved 24 year old
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who wasn't traumatized because he didn't get to go out to eat
for a few years. We were all much happier.
Another comment, not the assholeADHD dad to ADHD children.
It's amazing how many parents use autism and ADHD as excuses
to not parent at all. Yep Yep Yep Yep.
Because imagine what this littleboy gets neglected at at home.
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Like how Opie even said like butlike like the kids was waiting
for a response from the mom he imagined.
Like the years it took for him to be put in this position to
have to yell for attention and then to where the mom can now
completely ignore it. That takes conditioning from the
mom and the kiddo. So you can't because
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conditioning is raising, it's training.
It's it's teaching somebody. You do this, this is your
outcome. And that's why it's so
difficult, especially with your terrible twos and your terrible
threes. Like when your kiddos 2 years
old or three years old, for those that aren't really into
the old kid thing or don't plan on having a kid, that's what
that's about. It's like you have to
continuously repeat the same, the same like punishment or the
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same like teaching lesson and bypunishment, no, don't, don't be
fucking like beating your fucking kids up a punishment.
I mean, Nope, you did this. That means no dessert.
This is our boundary. This is our setting.
And you have to continuously reinforce that if you break it,
which is it's really hard because they're they're like
sad, they're crying, they're hurt.
And you just want the sound to stop or you just want, you know,
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you want the yelling to stop, you want the crying to stop or
you just feel bad. You can't break it.
Like if you break it, you restart from the beginning.
Like it's just like conditioningan animal because we're animals,
we're humans. We're we're little kids are
little sponges that absorb information and learn from
action because they still don't know how to fully communicate
with words. So it's what is literally
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physically seen in front of themand what they can get.
Got it. Cool bestie, another comment,
not the asshole. I don't understand this
obsession with making everyone hear what you want to hear.
It's not just kids. Teenagers, adults and elderly
are all doing this. Thanks.
It's because we all hide behind a screen.
That's why. Don't get me wrong, there is
absolutely nothing with hiding behind a screen if that's what
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makes you comfortable and that'swhat makes like your life feel
at whole. Like if that's what you enjoy
doing, absolutely absolutely. But it's it becomes a fine line
where you're intentionally doingit, but doing things that you
would never do in person. That's the thing where it
becomes an issue because that's hiding.
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If you're doing things you enjoydoing behind a screen because
you're too scared to do it in person.
Try to talk to yourself today and understand why you're like
that. Not in a mean way, just in a is
there something that triggers mewhen I go out?
What is it exactly? What does that emotion mean to
me? And what is that emotion
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exactly? How do I define that emotion?
Just sit with you and talk and reflect, OK.
Because this is this is a big thing.
This is this is a big thing thatcauses it.
And it also, like, teaches people weird things because,
like, some of these comments, like, allow people to be like,
yeah, like they, they enable people to think like this.
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Mom, you know damn well they couldn't hold that conversation
face to face in public for an actual debate because human
connection is so important. Nothing's wrong with reading.
Like, look at us. We're reading.
I talked to y'all. I talked to you, Bestie.
They're reading your comments. I actually love doing that.
But I have my face out here because I want because it's what
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makes me happy. It's what I like to do.
At first I was very scared so fucking lutely.
I was terrified of showing like my face.
I mean, of course I've like, I like post on Instagram in my
face before all this. I've it's just the idea of
physical me talking live. I was so paranoid.
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I was so like, but what if this happens?
What if that happens? What if this happens?
And then I realized I was enabling myself and not being
able to learn about you Bestie II'm so happy I overcame that and
my experience and my story of hiding behind a screen is not
the same story that you could have bestie.
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And that is perfectly fine. You can absolutely not very have
to show yourself. I will never hate you for that.
I also just want the best quality of life for you and that
varies. That varies from bestie to the
next. However, it will break my heart
if I know that you're doing certain things out of fear and
self doubt. That's where I want you to
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reflect. That's where I want you to
reflect. Let's continue reading.
Also, I appreciate that you're trying to control this in your
restaurants and edit. I've also seen so many kids
running around in restaurants and playing and if they're not
bothering or harassing anyone, no one says anything.
This is not a subject of different or sitting still.
Yeah, there's a lot of comments,a lot of comments.
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So I guess I'm going to go aheadand wrap up my final thought
here because I've been talking alot about this.
I have a lot of dedication when it comes to children neglect.
Oh my gosh. And people are getting crafty
with it these days by masking itwith diagnosis or masking it
with the way that oh, this social media person does it or
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those TikTok moms, there's TikTok dads or how you see, oh,
if they're all doing it at Walmart or Target, then it's OK
if my kid does this. Eww, OK.
Like that's the same way of literally of well, Hitler and
everyone else was doing it. So I went ahead and did it Like,
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you see what I mean? Or oh, Mr. Mr. Beast or who was
it Logan Paul, one of the Paul brothers that was doing like
the, the crypto scams or the mystery boxes where you pay
money and you get a item and it can be anywhere from like not
prayer to like supreme designer bullshit.
I don't know if you guys even know what I'm talking about.
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It's actually funny. You should look it up from a
couple of years ago. And it's just so other creators
are like, I can also do like lottery scam shit.
And then you 2 got to crack downon that because people don't
have motherfucking morals anymore.
They just do the bandwagon trainwhere other people are doing it.
So so can I. And unfortunately it's most
likely for a cash grab. And yeah, these parents most
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likely are doing it for cash grab because if your kid is
still sick and not able to communicate and provide for
themselves, the government's there for their paycheck.
Bestie and bestie men. This is the top #1 post on the
community for May of 2025. Let's get at it.
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Am I the asshole for telling my daughter that her mom cheated on
me when my daughter said my new girlfriend looks like an only
fans chick? Oh freaking fuck.
Let's read it thoroughly. Account and fake names.
I 49 male got divorced from my wife Emily 49 female because she
cheated on me with multiple men.Good for you King.
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We have a son and a daughter. Our son Nick, 22, male, has
always been closer to his mom, OK.
And our daughter Skylar, 19, female, has always been closer
to me. OK.
Not knowing why we got divorced,the kids took their mom's side,
oop oop oop oop oop. Oh his mom, his Mama mom
manipulating these little kiddos.
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I recently started dating Lisa, 54, female.
She has a fun personality, she'ssmoking hot and she dresses very
fun. When I introduced Lisa to my
kids, Nick took a liking to her while Skylar looked annoyed.
Days later, Skylar said that Lisa looks like an Only Fans
chick. Wow, if you knew Skylar, you
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would be shocked that she would use that as a way to insult
another woman. I told her that her mom, Emily
was the one who cheated on me and that I met Lisa after the
divorce. Skylar just said oh and got
quiet. Told you I told you the mom's
fucking scheming on these littlekiddos.
But the next day my ex-wife Emily confronted me.
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I reminded her that I never promised to keep her cheating a
secret. Good for you, King.
Remind that bitch. Remind that cheating more.
She said that I implied that it would be kept a secret based on
the fact that I never said whether or not I would tell her
kids. Am I the asshole?
No, no you're not. You're teaching your daughter
not to be a fucking cunt. Because bro it is so hard to
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maintain a female friendship these days because moms enable
their kiddos like this and thesekiddos.
Like let's say you weren't raised like by a mom like this
but look at your friends. Not saying everyone but there's
some people that are really competitive in a very bad way
chasing a high they'll never getbecause they can't invest in
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themselves. It takes a learning process.
Don't get me wrong, nobody's a lost case.
But no, you're not the asshole because you're trying to not let
bitches get away with shit. We do have an edit, something of
an update since I posted. Even though my daughter is in
her bedroom in my house, I messaged her because she said
she doesn't want to see anyone. She sent me a very, very long
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message she had written beforehand.
And the message? My daughter admitted that her
mom and her maternal aunt said those kinds of things about
Lisa. Like I said, bitches get away
with shit that they don't need to.
They don't need to, bro. They don't need to.
Yes, dudes get away with things here, but we're talking about
the theme of the story, so I'm going to focus on that.
I'm not saying one's worse than another, but it's something that
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needs to be addressed because it's story themed.
OK? So don't, don't get mad at me,
OK? I, I'm just because someone's
talking about something that's related to the topic of this
does not mean they're discrediting everything else.
Got it. Got got, got it.
Bestie, You probably already do best.
You're you're not. You seem pretty patient, and I
appreciate you, but let's continue.
She sent me a very, very long message she had written
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beforehand. In the message, my daughter
admitted that her mom and her maternal aunt said those kinds
of things about Lisa. She said she's embarrassed that
she repeated those awful things.Apple doesn't fall far from the
tree. She said she thought that I was
the one who cheated on her mom. She said she thought I had
cheated on her mom with Lisa. She said she's not mad at me.
She said she's mad at her mom. Good.
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Because a lot of people, when they get new information,
they're in denial, so they don'ttake the information more than a
grain of salt. She said.
Lisa seems like a wonderful woman.
She said she wants to talk aboutthis face to face, but not
anytime soon. Good for her.
Very mature. Very.
This is this is beautiful. This is like a new opening of an
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amazing relationship. OK, wow.
She said. She'll tell me when she's up to
talking about it face to face when she thinks she can do it
without crying. Man dude your daughter is like.
I think your daughter realized she's been getting played and
now she's like questioning everyconversation she's had with her
mom leading up to this top comment.
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Not the asshole. Your ex is upset because she
knows she's in the wrong and shehas to continue to live with the
consequences of her actions. Ding Ding Ding.
She knew what she was doing whenshe cheated.
She knew there was a chance people would find out.
Just because she managed to delay the exposure doesn't mean
the risk goes away. She's mad at you because you she
has no one else to blame except herself.
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Another comment. Dad, your girlfriend dresses
like a whore. Yeah, well, your mom is a whore.
Never judge a book by its cover,bestie.
Never, ever, ever. And what is dressing fun?
That's one of the things and notthe asshole cheaters of
consequences. So this is can loot me back to a
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theory that I'm very passionate about.
It's called the open door theoryand it's basically allows like
it enables females to get away with shit because think about it
from the beginning, like the previous story, boys are raised
to open doors for girls. So even at the beginning,
there's a servant mindset. It's or a action to be done for
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me mindset. It doesn't even have to be as
extreme as servants. OK, I get you might have been a
dramatic word choice, but it's the idea that a basic task
that's not for me. I don't do that.
So that's already like planted in.
So like it just when you're driving, when you're driving,
when you're driving, think aboutit.
Or when you're on a public transportation or if you don't
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even pay attention to this, lookout for this.
How many of the times do people even with their turn signal on?
Most of the times, not like very.
So most of the times it's a woman in a car going in to
another lane without checking because they're just so used to
things being done for them. That's that's the shit I
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absolutely fucking hate because it makes it harder for me as a
female in this day and age to connect with another woman due
to the severity of how common this is.
There is nothing wrong with the door being open for you.
It's the expectation that's yourissue and that's OK.
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I'm just here to, I make people conscious of it because I'm
going to be completely honest, Idon't think it's done
intentionally more than half thetime.
Don't get me wrong. People are going to absolutely
take advantage of it. Like absolutely duh.
It's human. Like I could say that about so
many different things and peopleand genders and everything when
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it comes to there's always goingto be somebody that just
completely exploits the system, right?
But no, let's be a little bit more like conscience of or
actions or how much do you actually expect versus how much
of it do you earn? And by earn, I mean respect, OK?
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Do you get butthurt that somebody doesn't open the door
for you? Was it more so somebody not
going out of their way? Because most of the times that
might be why you're upset. However, I completely get it.
If someone slams the door on your face, absolutely be mad.
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Be pissed, bestie. Perfectly, perfectly justified,
justifiable anger. But no, let's be a little bit
more conscious, ladies. Like like the genuinely.
Maybe that's why these dudes these days are being like
absolute assholes. And yes, you, you probably are
doing exactly the right thing. I'm not mad at you that I'm not.
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This isn't like elementary school where you had like some
of the class like talking the entire time.
So everybody has to be punished.That's not what's happening
here. I just want you to be conscious
and I want you to also call out your friends for this dumb
fucking door theory behavior. You can't just go into a lane
without checking. You can't just go into a lane
just because you're the fucking turn signal on.
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You can't just be on your God damn phone while driving because
you think people will get out ofthe way for you.
No, I'm mad about it because you're endangering other people
that care. It sucks, it really sucks.
And we're better than that, wouldn't you think?
Because I think you are better than that, bestie.
I think I'm better than that. I've had to talk to myself about
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it too. I've had to reflect a lot and I
had to figure out what is it that I'm expecting?
What is it that I'm not expecting when it came to
building my own boundaries? I'm telling you, man, invest in
yourself. Be more conscious of your
decisions and your subconscious thoughts.
Think about what makes you angry.
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Think about why you're angry. Telling you no more, no more of
this. Let's let's stop this open door
theory, OK? And nothing wrong with having a
door open for you, got it, got it.
Just don't expect it and stop endangering people's lives.
Put down your fucking phone. Put down your fucking phone.
Stop endangering people's lives.Stop thinking that people are
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just going to let you into your lane.
I'm sorry I'm keep repeating this because I'm trying to
condition y'all. Like yes it might not be you but
God fucking damn it bro, becauseI know you, you are you.
Hang out with other friends, pull this shit out.
It's not cool. It's endangering death.
Happens from this conditioning. Got to break it together.
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One person on a motherfucking time.
OK, OK. Because I'm just one person and
it's who knows? Who knows?
It's it's it's a, it's a chain effect.
It's a domino effect, literally.I mean, that's how anything is
spread word of mouth. Everything starts from
somewhere, right? We got this busty, it'll be OK.
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Just call it out, address it. That's the first step.
Like that's the first step in like A and a classes like
Alcohol Anonymous or AAI said A and AI read too many Reddit
stories of am I the asshole? But no, like pointing it out and
addressing it is like the first step.
They're just like being conscious of it.
So step one, let's do that together.
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It'll make more sense. Just go over there.
Thanks for spending time with metoday.
Remember, you're not weird, you're just human.
And sometimes being human means accidentally becoming the
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That's OK though, sometimes theydeserved it.
Justifiable asshole ISM is a thing.
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They're the posts that had everyone asking Am I the
asshole? Spoiler alert, sometimes the
answer is yes, and sometimes it's even messier than that.
So buckle up, get comfy, and getready to judge strangers on the
Internet with me because the topend of the asshole post of May
are officially here. January 2025 Reddit draws in 1.1
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billion visitors every month, and out of those, a massive 5.4
millionaire members of the Am I the Asshole community, making it
one of the biggest and most active corners of the Internet
for drama. This first story is ranked #5 of
all posts in the Am I the Asshole of May.
Let's read it Emma the asshole for finding out I've been
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unknowingly paying rent to my husband and his mom for two
years. Excuse me, let's read it.
I, 31 female, have been married to Brian, 33 male of two years.
Right after the wedding we movedinto an apartment he said was a
great deal from a family friend.We agreed to split rent and
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utilities 5050 to keep things equal fair since we were
starting fresh and wanting to avoid money fights.
So I've been sending him $700.00a month just for the rent of
this whole time already Right there OP, you're you're avoiding
a fight. That's not a fight, that's a
conversation. That should just be a
conversation. Not blaming OP, but there
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there's a red flag. Let's continue.
Three days ago at a BBQ I overheard his mom talking about
how it's nice getting rent from Brian's place and how smart they
were to keep it in the family. Turns out his mom's owned the
apartments and Brian's on the deed too.
I had no idea he never told me. Hmm, I wonder why?
Hmm, just let me keep paying rent for two years like a
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clueless roommate's. When I confronted him he said I
never asked this fucking bitch and that I'm overreacting
because we weren't overpaying. But I feel completely
blindsided. It's not just the money, it's
the secrecy. I told him I won't be keep
paying until we talk about a fair set up.
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Now he's acting like I'm the problem.
Am I the asshole? Oh let's see what Reddit has to
say about this. Let's see what Reddit has to say
with top comment being. It's not even that you didn't
ask. He said it was a family friend.
It wasn't. It was him.
Exactly OP. And this isn't fair because all
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the money that you're investing for your life with Brian, it's
all going into his mom's equity,which is your husband's equity.
You're getting fucked because who knows what her what her will
says What happens to this? You see what I mean?
Like it would be make more senseto invest it together as a
couple. Y'all are married.
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You're not married to his mom. So many questions and concerns.
I can see why this was number 5 though.
Let's go ahead and see the next comment.
Not the asshole, but girl, I'd be drafting divorce papers in a
Lisa Frank notebook because thisis giving financial betrayal and
Mama boy energy. Like imagine being married,
paying rents, and finding out you're the tenant in your own
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damn marriage. This man let you roommate his
investment property without telling you.
That's not just shady, that's premeditated.
You didn't marry a husband, you married a landlord with benefits
and it. Wow there's a lot of rewards on
these comments. Another comment.
Oh wow your husband does not understand what it is to be
married. I'm sorry to say but he does not
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trust, respect, or love. You really recommend seeing a
counselor at a minimum and leaving him as the best option.
I'm really sorry. Now I'm even more curious as to
when OP said in this post how they're just hey let's read it
right here since we were starting fresh and wanted to
avoid money fights. So I've been sending him $700.00
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a month just for rent this wholetime.
So they have a history of not being able to talk finances.
So Opie honey, this isn't going to stop.
It's only going to get more shady.
And I really, oh man, I really want to know what these
conversations were before the $700.00 a month agreement.
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What was happening? Let's take a look at O PS
account. Their name is Hexelpuff.
Hexelpuff. Let's see.
Let's see, just one post. Unfortunately no update.
But we do have a comment that they replied to saying yeah,
he's never shown me his half of the rent going anywhere.
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Starting to think I was the onlyone paying anything.
I didn't even hold on. I didn't even consider this.
I generally didn't. That's insane.
Another one saying things but doyou really think it's that
serious? Like divorce level serious?
OOP it's OK, the Nile is a riverin Egypt.
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Yes absolutely divorce level. They're literally financially
scheming to make money off of you.
That's not a thing you should doin a relationship unless y'all
are like brokers together or like stock market Bros together.
Other than that, no, there's there should be no financial
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gain other than the balance for both of you.
One person shouldn't be hit so hard man.
One person should not be hit so hard.
Whether it be somebody paying all the rent and then the other
person paying for all like the groceries and and like their
utilities and shit like that. That makes complete sense.
As long as the numbers equal out.
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It has to be a fair 5050 and it's especially especially when
the moms evolved like if it was really that serious and she
needed that money, all they could have done was had a
conversation with the mother andbe willing to pay the the money
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that they are paying now. Like there was no reason for
them to do behind her back because they were they're making
money off of her. That's all that is.
And it sucks because like it's all going to the mom's equity.
So like when you buy a house andyou're paying off the mortgage
or you're paying property taxes,or let's say if you're an
apartment, yes, you you put money into it, you don't get
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anything back except for just renting, which really sucks.
Same goes for like a house renting, condo renting, renting
in general just absolutely sucks.
So they're already in such a shitty situation of realizing
whatever money they put in it doesn't add up to their equity.
But plot twist it adds up to theequity in the reality of what
the husband and the mom are doing.
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So imagine that fucking slap in the face for this wife.
She's getting fucked while they make money off of her.
Lord have mercy. This isn't some like single mom
raise the rent meme. This is literally like raise the
rent on my wife and let me make money off of her.
What the hell? Here is the next story ranked #4
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out of all posts of May. Let's read it.
Am I the asshole for refusing torecover at home after surgery?
Wow, what a title. I-29 female.
Am really disappointed with my husband. 30, male and furious at
his mother. Hag aged F Sorry this is so long
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and throw away for privacy for contacts.
My husband is from the West Coast where his mother still
lives. He moved to the East Coast for
college and that's where we met.After graduation and the start
of our relationship, she would visit three to four times a year
and make him take paid time off so we could entertain her
throughout her visit. After two years of this, while
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we were still dating, I asked him how we are ever meant to go
on vacation together if his PTO is spent at home with his
visiting mother. I mean, he can do whatever he
wants with his PTO. Let's be fair.
We agreed to save PTO for a trip.
Never mind you guys agreed. Let me take back my last
sentence. We agreed to save PTO for a trip
to Europe we took in 2023 and heagreed to tell his mother he
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couldn't take off from work every time she visited.
In my last job I was able to work from home four days a week
and every time she visited she soaked all day like a puppy
who's had her toys taken away. But once my husband came home a
switch flicked and she was happyand clingy again.
Wait, why don't just you have the mom like come visit you in
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the time where it's works out for y'all?
Y'all are the one housing her. She cannot have her cake and eat
it too. OK so here's the issue.
Now husband and I moved states about six months ago.
Closer to my family. I have a new Doctor who
recommended me for a surgery that my old doctor kept putting
off. It's not a complicated procedure
and it will greatly increase my quality of life for decades.
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My mother-in-law decided she's due for a visit and wants to
explore our new town and she'd come to help around with the
house while I recover. I'm going to be out of surgery
and in pain and I really don't want to put up with her energy.
However, we agreed with my husband saying this isn't a
sightseeing visit. She's here to help out, to cook,
clean laundry so I can rest and recover.
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She can come for a proper visit later in the year.
My husband dropped me off at thehospital on Wednesday.
All right guys, go ahead and putin the comments.
What do you think's going to happen 'cause I think I know
what's going to happen. It was meant to be surgery.
Then one night overnight at the hospital for observations on
Thursday, the doctor told me my labs were not where he'd like
them to be and I should stay another night for observation
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and new lab work in the morning.Good be safe than sorry.
I called my husband and told himthat I'd probably hopefully be
home the next day over the phoneearly afternoon.
He did not visit on Thursday at all.
Oh I wonder what he was doing. Was he puppy sitting?
On Friday, I was discharged and called my husband to tell him
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that I'd be ready in about an hour.
It went straight to voicemail and I figured he's probably in a
meeting and I'll try again in a little bit.
After calling a few times over the course of an hour, I called
my sister who is lucky enough tobe excused from work for the
afternoon. Many thanks to her understanding
boss. Yo, real quick, husband, you
were just told that her labs weren't good enough for surgery,
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which increases a massive risk of, I don't know, death during
surgery, which is a massive risk.
You know, like the number one risk, The one thing about
surgery that they don't want. And you're you're literally
going to be just giving your mother attention during this
time. Are you are you kidding me, dog?
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Come on bro, Buck the fuck up. She drove 90 minutes to get me
and took me home and the house was in shambles.
Wow my God it's almost like it wasn't a helping visit.
Laundry baskets on the dining room table, the litter box not
clean since Wednesday morning. Days of dirty plates in the
sink. I just broke down crying.
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She packed me a bag and took me to her apartment to recover for
two weeks. That's how you know it was
really bad if like the friend went come on bro to my place
because what the fuck is this shit?
On Friday night my husband called me asking me where I am
and that the hospital said I wasalready discharged.
Brother, if you cared you would have called sooner 'cause that's
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Friday night brother. Oh my God, we're two days
without hearing from this motherfucker.
He had been on a hike with his mother and there was no cell
phone service so he had missed my calls, which also meant he
took PTO for his mom's visit again.
Wow. But not for your sickness.
Not for your sickness, OP. Oh my gosh that's heartbreaking.
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Obviously I can't ban him from taking PTO, but wouldn't you
rather spend that freed up time with your wife at the hospital
instead of on a date with your mom?
Bro it's not like she was getting a lip filler.
This was a life changing like surgery that would improve her
life. Really bro?
I told him that I no longer feelcomfortable recovering in our
house and I won't be returning until it's thoroughly cleaned
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and his mother is gone. He started calling me the
asshole because his mother just wanted to get to know our new
area and I wasn't able to leave the hospital anyway and that I
was making a big deal out of this.
I yelled that he essentially abandoned me at the hospital,
Not essentially. He literally didn't even contact
you and entertained someone who's being here was to help
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make recovery easier, not more stressful, and that she was here
for support, not on a vacation. Wow.
Maybe it's just the pain and pain meds, but am I in the wrong
here? Girly pop, just read your post
You're fine, you're fine. Just write it down and just read
it. There's even a thing where you
can copy and paste it and you can have like the Google voices
read it back to you because holyshit you're not the asshole.
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You are being neglected. Hell, I go to work and my
husband is immediately like feeling.
Neglected or trying to convey a strong sense of being ignored.
I want to assure you that I'm here to help and respond.
To. Your queries, what's making you
feel this way? Oh my.
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God what? OK for those that are just audio
stemming and listening in when Isaid go to Google and do that.
First of all, what the hell is up with this new Android update?
I actually hate it because now Isaid you could go to Google and
do Texas brother. It just did it.
It literally just said you it got this.
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This is the word it got for me. You're being neglected.
Hell, and it was giving me advice.
It sounds like you're feeling neglected or OK.
Well if you wanna ever talk to somebody that's not ChatGPT
because who the hell wants to pay $20.00 a month for more chat
support because they have like alimited amount of data.
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Gemini. Apparently if you have a phone
through Android you can talk to Gemini or not.
I call it Gemini Gemini and they'll they'll answer whatever.
Do that OP, you don't even have to go to ready.
Go to your fucking phone. That was funny.
That was not planned out. Wow.
I can't wait to look back at howconfused my face was.
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But no you're being neglected Opie.
This is not normal when I am at work like we don't even go more
than like probably like 4 hours like checking up on each other
and not in a like obsessive way just in AI love you and I want
you around me type of way which is like normal especially if
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both parties aren't feeling overwhelmed.
So you know what I mean. Every relationship is different
but to go that long with like a medical procedure.
Dude not even not even I just know for a fact he would go to
HEB. But I mean like 15 bouquets of
flowers and all the funny balloons to try to make me happy
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and probably get me a water burger Pico burger which is
coming out June 1st for those Whataburger enthusiasts.
But no this isn't normal. Like this dude literally treated
you worse than an enemy. Hell, an enemy would have been
like stalking and like trying toget information from other
people that knew to see like butlike to get like a demise from
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you. This dude wasn't even
interested. This dude literally didn't even
care. And remember an enemy would.
So what does that? What does that tell you OP?
Let's continue reading. Is there a stupid hell to die
on? There's a part of me telling me
to see a divorce lawyer just to see what my options are because
I'm not sure this will ever change.
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Absolutely. If you have a thought in your
mind, do it anytime. When it comes to educating
yourself, if you're not sure about something and you want to
know your options or you just can't see it from another
perspective, you can't do anything.
Just ask fucking questions. I know this is going to sound
incredibly selfish, but I want kids.
But I don't see myself having any with my husband in the
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foreseeable future. Nope.
Because you will be in delivery by yourself while he's showing
his mom the new zoo exhibit thatopens.
Oh man. And if this isn't going to work
out, I don't want to spend the next five years of wasting time
and money on therapy and missinga chance to find somebody I
actually can start a family with, someone who can't be a
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committed father and a husband before he's a son.
I love how she wrote that. I believe there's a lot of hope
for Opie. Many thanks to everyone who's
read all of this. And ladies and gentlemen, we
have an edit. Thank you everyone.
I stepped away for a while and came back to my support.
I think it's time to put my big girl pants on.
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Unfortunately, it's unfortunate until you get to lock eyes with
your new husband for the first time.
It'll all make sense then. Let's go ahead and take a look
at the top comments. He left you alone in the
hospital. He went somewhere without soul
service when he knew you were being discharged.
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He didn't call you back until that night, hours after you were
meant to be discharged. This is so fucking important.
Why did I think of this either? This is why.
This is why having community is so good.
Like I love, I love everybody's takes because yes, he knew that
he knew you were being discharged.
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Hello. Like even if like I like,
there's no justification. There's literally no
justification for that. He knew when you were going to
be discharged. He intentionally made sure like
he didn't have service for you. Like what the bollock bro this
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man is ridiculous and that is unforgivable.
Let his mom have him. You are not overreacting
thinking about divorce and you are definitely not the asshole.
Yikes. And this comment which oh it's
so beautifully and well written.Someone please get this person
into journalism. You ready for this one?
By the way, it's all in uppercase exciting.
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What the flying fuck. He is the asshole.
His mother is the asshole. You are not an asshole.
No, I didn't fall on caps lock. I am mad, not the asshole.
Additional OK, so this is not inall caps.
This is not a stupid hill to dieon.
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You're dying alone on that hill because your husband will be
hiking with his mother around the hill and ignore you.
Go and see a lawyer. He left you when you needed him
the most. Oh, boy, Opie, I know exactly
what's happening here. I think so you moved to a place
where you're closer to your family.
And from the looks of it, you don't rely on your family the
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way he relies on his family, right?
You see, You see what's going here?
Because you would have just contacted one of your family
members to come and help you, right?
But you didn't because you prioritized your husband before
your. Another family like the the
family that you have blood related.
You are prioritizing your relationship with your husband
as your main contact, which is extremely common and normal.
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He however is prioritizing his blood over you.
So I wonder how y'all's day-to-day life looks like when
it comes to when things happen. Seems like he I'm assuming he is
incapable of problem solving. He needs his mommy and he's
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probably tired of you being the what do you call that tough love
mom 'cause that's probably what you are.
You probably are his like tough love mom and he only sees it as
you like griping and bitching and moaning and complaining when
in reality bro just be a fuckingadult and the way he completely
has been avoiding you when it comes to his mom in the picture,
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I wouldn't be surprised if that's what's going on.
Wow. Cut your losses and leave him to
his mommy. This is why it's so important to
let your kids try to make friends and school.
Get them into extracurricular activities, man.
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And if you have and you're struggling, mom, send them to
the military. They'll, they'll learn a thing
you'd see when it comes to independence.
All right, if you're still here,unlike some people who clearly
can't handle a little accountability but can sure post
it online hiding behind a screen, you might just be the
ultimate moral investigator. Sup, buddy.
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Let's go judge these people. Next story.
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This is rate #3 out of all postsof May 2025 in the subreddit
already. Am I the asshole for
embarrassing my mother-in-law infront of guests after she
implied I don't do real work? Nope, you're not the asshole.
Let's go ahead and get to the next story.
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Let's read it. I28 female work from home as a
software developer. Oh no, I bet you this bitch is a
fucking boomer and telling, telling this girl that does all
this engineering and programmingbehind a computer that it's not
real work because it's not tangible.
So fucking dumb. OK, Like, wait, hold on, ma'am,
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real quick. Who do you think?
Like, who do you think Major Candy Crush?
Like come on, you think that just out of air like a genie.
My mother-in-law 58 female has never understood or respected
that every time she visits she makes snide remarks like oh must
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be nice to sit in pajamas all day.
Or back in my day. Oh God back in my day we
actually had to commute to work.OK well bitch back in back in
your day used to be able to afford a fucking house on a gas
station salary. The fuck?
This past weekend we hosted a small BBQ during dinner.
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Someone asked what I do and before I could answer
mother-in-law chuckled and said oh she watches Netflix and calls
it coding. Oh hell, where's your where's
your husband at? Where's your husband at?
Please don't tell me the apple doesn't fall far from the tree
too with us but that's giving a beast.
I smiled and said yeah and that Netflix paid off your son's
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student loans and bought this house.
That's what you get, you dumb bitch.
Keep your damn name out of your mouth.
You're just mad because you're jealous.
Everyone laughed. mother-in-law got really quiet after they
left. My husband said I was being
unnecessarily mean and should have just let it slide.
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Ever the asshole. No, your husband should have
been like, fuck yeah, she paid off my debt.
What the fuck? Why?
Why? Why do we protect blood?
Why do we protect blood that doesn't even need to be
protected? So dumb.
Like, wow, are we all like, somehow related in some aspect
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or another? Or like, like what?
What did Tumblr used to say? How we're all made from like,
asteroids and like, moon sand and like, like space atoms and
all that. So, like, at that point, you
shouldn't. You shouldn't have to be mean to
anyone because we're all technically related or whatever,
like whatever they say in Alabama land where you fuck your
sister and you know what I mean?This is, it's, it's, it's
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absurd. It's absolutely absurd.
And I'm, I'm very excited to seewhat happens in the next 10
years when it comes to family ties of ties that should have
never been ties. They're just knots because it's
usually one person justifying their shitty actions and
convincing all these other people to justify it to save the
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piece when reality. Bitch, the only piece we're
saving is your fucking jaw. We're not fucking stomping in.
Let's. Anyways, let's go ahead and look
at the top comments. If you don't like the way I deal
with your mother belittling me, feel free to take over.
For me. The days of it going unaddressed
are over. Not the asshole.
Beautifully written another comment.
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Your mother-in-law has been unnecessarily mean for a long
time now and your husband hasn'tseen fit to deal with her and
get her to treat you with respect.
If he doesn't like how you dealtwith it next time he can make
sure his mom's behavior doesn't become your problem.
You know, to be fair, not justifying the husband's
inability to, I don't know, stand up for his wife, but I
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wouldn't be surprised that she was like this, like his whole
life. And imagine all the things that
she has belittled in his endeavors, such as like
football, like, oh, you're, you're, you're not the
quarterback, though. If he wasn't the quarterback.
And let's say he was a quarterback, like, oh, you're
not in champions, though. You're not this though, Like I
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bet you she has just belittled his entire fucking existence
from the beginning, the fucking beginning.
So it does make sense why he's not reacting to it because for
him, it's a lot easier to just not address it because obviously
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he addressed it as a kid. If this is the you know, I'm I'm
making up this whole entire world of O PS husband's back
story. But in the reality of it, this
could be a very viable possibility.
So let's say that's that's what's happened.
That has what their history has been and that's why he's not
saying anything because imagine the fights used to have with his
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mom about it just for him to defend himself as a kid where
you're still developing and learning and trying to
understand who you are. And through the end of it all,
if you have done everything in your power to try to explain to
your mother what you're proud ofor what makes you happy.
And hell, she might even use it against him.
And like, like for Christmas, bythe complete opposite of what he
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expressed interest in. Because, I don't know, sounds
like she's a fucking bitch and sounds like something that she
actually would actively act in. Like, genuinely would not cross
my mind. She didn't.
Yeah. I would just not entertain it.
And that's how he is dealing with the situation.
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I would in my opinion try to askprying questions but prying in
the way of background questions.Try to get a little bit of a
history. Try to understand how he handled
relationship his relationship with his mom in the past.
Obviously you most likely won't get the answer because that shit
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is something a lot of people don't want to talk about,
especially as a man because men get shamed a lot when it comes
to mental health. Not saying women don't either.
However, when we are growing up in school as little as
elementary school, you see the little boys having to open the
doors for the little girls. But the boys have cooties,
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right? And you're not supposed to even
talk to them. Like it's such a backhanded way
of growing up. And it really does suck.
It really does suck because it'sinstilled at a very young age.
And of course there are things that women are installed in at a
very young age, such as the beauty industry, what we are
seeing on TV. Definitely not Definitely not
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belittling the what what femaleshave to go through either.
I just want to very much so shine light on the perspective
of a male because it's a the. The post is literally a wife
trying to understand the man notstanding up for her.
And I wouldn't be surprised if the dude just doesn't entertain
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it anymore. You know what I mean?
Also, if you ever find yourself in like a communication dilemma
with either significant other ora friend of like the opposite
gender or or the same gender, but we're going to focus on the
topic of the story. So the opposite gender, try to
consider what their perspective was with day-to-day conflict.
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You know, just just consider that if you, if you can't see
the eye to eye, maybe it's because y'all both can't see
What you guys both were raised us.
Yeah, I love thinking like that.Just be careful when you think
like that because you can spiralout.
And we don't want spiraling bestie.
We want thoughts and curiosity. Here is the second to last story
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ranked #2 and all of the month of May.
Let's read it. Even the asshole for kicking an
autistic child out for misbehaving in my restaurant.
OK, let's read it. My name is Gina, 55, female from
upstate New York and I run a family owned pizzeria.
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My husband and I have been in the service industry for decades
and over the past few years we've noticed a huge increase in
rude customers, rude children, and a crazy level of
entitlement. Yeah, they're called iPad kits.
And yeah, one of the rules we have in a restaurant is that
nobody's allowed to talk on the speakerphone, play music out
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loud, or have anything playing on speaker from a personal
device. I swear I did not read this
before. I swear 'cause I think this is
about a motherfucking iPad kid probably playing Skippity toilet
at 100% volume while the parentsjust completely ignore their
kid. This is such a simple request
and something that has always been the standard.
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This was not even an issue or something that needed to be said
but before the pandemic. But now it seems parents feel
attacked if their children cannot watch Bluey on volume.
It's OK. It's probably skippity but we
have signs up asking people not to do this and we actually do
enforce this rule politely but firmly.
Good for y'all, good for y'all. A few weeks ago a woman was
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sitting with her nine year old son who was watching cartoons on
his tablet at full volume while also scrolling TikTok on a
phone. Bro, get this dude some keys,
put him behind a wheel while doing all that.
He's going to fit in perfectly to society because what is up
with all these distracted driver?
Oh, we could talk so much about that.
But dude, I told you, I fucking told you.
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I told you. This is the iPad kid.
IPad kid man 100% volume, the phone swiping on the side.
Immaculate. We are just evolving as a
species man. I nicely explained to the woman
that we do not allow this as it is as disruptive to other
customers and then asked her to please turn off the volume.
The woman rudely replied that her son both has ADHD and autism
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so he needs to do this in order to sit down without making a
fuss. Nope, this is called enabling
mental developmental disorders. Nope, this is actually enabling.
You have to raise somebody and it's just like with a dog or
with a cat. They get upset but they learn.
Isn't that insane? Oh man, I asked if she could
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please use headphones and she snapped at her son does not like
to use them. Oh man we're going to get like a
post like in 10 years of am I the asshole?
Told husband to turn off tablet during our wedding dinner or
like our our two year anniversary dinner.
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Oh dude. For real though these stories in
10 years. Oh I'm so excited dude.
I'm so excited that the teenagersubreddit on Reddit is going to
be popping off Fucking hilarious.
OK OK. I told her that this is
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unacceptable and to please either use headphones or set his
devices to silence. About 10 minutes later, I was in
the kitchen and heard loud banging noises coming from the
dining room. I came out to find the child
furiously banging his fists on the table while the mom just sat
there ignoring it. Whoa dude, these stories just
write themselves. Holy shit.
Oh my God. It was almost as if he was
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waiting for her to say something, but she did nothing.
I asked her to please stop him and she replied that his son is
on the spectrum and this is justhis normal behavior if he
doesn't have a device to calm him down.
No, it's like if you don't give the person the thing they're
used to, the only thing that interacts with them, they're
going to want it because you don't interact with them.
Wow, it's almost like your kid is just trying to be a human and
(34:05):
connect. The boy then stood up and
started running around my restaurant punching and kicking
the other tables and chairs and knocking things over.
Another customer yelled at the mom to control your kid or I
will W customer W in Chatfra. She launched into a what sounded
like a pre rehearsed monologue about how autistic children
deserve to occupy the same spaces as everyone else.
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I agree with this, but everyone still needs to behave
appropriately. Yep Yep.
And to be fair, you're enabling your kid.
I told the woman that if she could not get her son's behavior
under control that she needs to leave.
She was furious and started yelling about how it is illegal
to discriminate against people who are on the spectrum and that
she would report me. My husband came out, put her
food into A to go box and just said to her get out right now W
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husband as well. She looked genuinely shocked and
said that kids should not be expected to just sit quietly and
that the world needs to be more accepting of those who are
different. This isn't different.
I mean, yeah, it's different in the sense that you you'd haven't
raised your kids in No, raising doesn't mean, oh, they have to
be exactly like perfect quiet tothemselves.
No kids are going to be kids. They can run around, they can do
(35:13):
things, but the the anger, the emotional lack of regulation, it
is from neglect. Like this is neglect.
This kid literally won't get talked to because the mom won't.
And it's so hilarious how and she's blaming everyone else for
not being accommodating to this kid when I know for a fucking
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fact this mom has not accommodated for the way that he
has to learn. He can understand and he can
perceive things. She, she has probably only
taught him in a way that you would do for a normal fucking
kid. She has not done the research on
it and here we are. She's the one name blaming.
She's the one blaming, but in reality, she did not do her own
(35:57):
research. She didn't.
She is not utilizing the resources for this kid.
And in that case, I think you should get your kids taken away.
And I don't think you're you're allowed to to reproduce because
you're endangering this kid. An autistic kid or kid on the
spectrum is has the same amount of life, quality of life than
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any other normal kid. They just have to learn things
differently. And it yeah, it's a little bit
like confusing at first, but there's resources like Free
State resources. No matter what state you're in,
it's fucking there. You're just a lazy piece of shit
mother that's probably using himfor a disability check will
probably abuse the system of that claiming it up till he's
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19. Because you can do that if your
kid has a disability and he won't ever see an ounce of that
money. You're probably not even
accommodating him when it comes to his educational endeavors.
He he probably has bad grades atschool.
He's probably you probably have so many parent conferences.
Which is why it sounded rehearsed.
It's probably exactly why OP said that it sounded like a
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rehearsed monologue. Because I bet you this is what
she says to the other teachers that are trying to help her in
the understanding how to make sure her son is able to regulate
his life. Having a life where you can't
control your emotions because people can't understand you
because of the way that he perceives things due to his
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condition. That's not a quality of life and
that's not fair to him and that's not fair to any other kid
she pops out of her stupid ass body because what the hell?
How are you going to? I'm sorry if you think I'm being
aggressive. Go because this is about safety
of children. That's all this is about, safety
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of children, no matter how or what or whatever they have or
don't have. It's about giving them quality
of fucking life. And if you're not OK with that,
congratulations. I bet you would be the same type
of mother that everyone hates and you probably get dirty looks
in public. Sorry to be the one to tell you
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that, and if you didn't even realize it until I said it,
honestly, I'm a lot happier because I would rather you have
to learn someday. Whether it be me yelling at you,
we're not yelling here. Whether it be me telling you the
reality of it all, so be it. At least you got here and it you
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got a long journey ahead. But if you have any fucking
questions, just ask me, OK? Just ask me.
But damn, neglect a kid. I'm coming for you.
I'm being. I'm so fucking for real that
shit doesn't fly here. And for some reason America
really sure likes to fucking letneglect fly when it comes to
children. Anyways.
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I love kids. My husband and I raised five of
them, even one with special needs.
But autism or not, nothing givesyou the right to behave this way
in a setting. If your child's issues are so
severe that simply sitting in a restaurant without the device
makes them freak out and throw atantrum, then maybe reconsider
taking them there in the 1st place.
Yep, I'm tired of rude kids and lazy parents who embolden them
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to have this way, refusing to discipline them or set any kinds
of rules or boundaries. This is not about ADHD, autism,
or any other condition. This is about entitlement, bad
parenting, and bad behavior as aresult.
Am I the asshole? No, you're not the asshole at
all. Not the asshole with top common
being. You know who else would hate
someone behaving like that in a public space they they expected
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to have quieter someone with autism?
Exactly dude. Exactly.
I would not be surprised if thiskiddo was also like misdiagnosed
because a lot of them just go Ohyeah on the spectrum and the
spectrum is massive dude, massive, absolutely massive.
And there's so many different like medications, different
therapy styles, different like exposure therapy.
(39:59):
Oh my gosh, you got to get your kid a better plan of care.
You got to get the OK another comment.
I have an autistic son. When he was younger, 4:00 to
5:00-ish, he was awful in restaurants.
So guess what we did? We didn't go out to eat.
See. So don't get mad at me.
The ones that were writing comments saying you don't know
what it's like this. This person literally said the
same exact fucking thing I just said.
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Some autism autistic people willsay I deprived him of
experiences, but I see it as I avoided triggers.
Guess what? He's a well exactly.
Quality of motherfucking life. Quality of life.
This isn't about you anymore, babe.
This is this isn't about you. And by that I mean the mothers
out there and fathers out there that just push it under the rug
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and say, oh, he's just sick. No motherfucker, you're sick
because you're neglecting your fucking kid.
Guess what? He is a well behaved 24 year old
who wasn't traumatized because he didn't go to all.
I'm sorry, I'm so upset I can't even read.
Guess what? He is a well behaved 24 year old
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who wasn't traumatized because he didn't get to go out to eat
for a few years. We were all much happier.
Another comment, not the assholeADHD dad to ADHD children.
It's amazing how many parents use autism and ADHD as excuses
to not parent at all. Yep Yep Yep Yep.
Because imagine what this littleboy gets neglected at at home.
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Like how Opie even said like butlike like the kids was waiting
for a response from the mom he imagined.
Like the years it took for him to be put in this position to
have to yell for attention and then to where the mom can now
completely ignore it. That takes conditioning from the
mom and the kiddo. So you can't because
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conditioning is raising, it's training.
It's it's teaching somebody. You do this, this is your
outcome. And that's why it's so
difficult, especially with your terrible twos and your terrible
threes. Like when your kiddos 2 years
old or three years old, for those that aren't really into
the old kid thing or don't plan on having a kid, that's what
that's about. It's like you have to
continuously repeat the same, the same like punishment or the
(42:14):
same like teaching lesson and bypunishment, no, don't, don't be
fucking like beating your fucking kids up a punishment.
I mean, Nope, you did this. That means no dessert.
This is our boundary. This is our setting.
And you have to continuously reinforce that if you break it,
which is it's really hard because they're they're like
sad, they're crying, they're hurt.
And you just want the sound to stop or you just want, you know,
(42:36):
you want the yelling to stop, you want the crying to stop or
you just feel bad. You can't break it.
Like if you break it, you restart from the beginning.
Like it's just like conditioningan animal because we're animals,
we're humans. We're we're little kids are
little sponges that absorb information and learn from
action because they still don't know how to fully communicate
with words. So it's what is literally
(42:57):
physically seen in front of themand what they can get.
Got it. Cool bestie, another comment,
not the asshole. I don't understand this
obsession with making everyone hear what you want to hear.
It's not just kids. Teenagers, adults and elderly
are all doing this. Thanks.
It's because we all hide behind a screen.
That's why. Don't get me wrong, there is
absolutely nothing with hiding behind a screen if that's what
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makes you comfortable and that'swhat makes like your life feel
at whole. Like if that's what you enjoy
doing, absolutely absolutely. But it's it becomes a fine line
where you're intentionally doingit, but doing things that you
would never do in person. That's the thing where it
becomes an issue because that's hiding.
(43:43):
If you're doing things you enjoydoing behind a screen because
you're too scared to do it in person.
Try to talk to yourself today and understand why you're like
that. Not in a mean way, just in a is
there something that triggers mewhen I go out?
What is it exactly? What does that emotion mean to
me? And what is that emotion
(44:04):
exactly? How do I define that emotion?
Just sit with you and talk and reflect, OK.
Because this is this is a big thing.
This is this is a big thing thatcauses it.
And it also, like, teaches people weird things because,
like, some of these comments, like, allow people to be like,
yeah, like they, they enable people to think like this.
(44:24):
Mom, you know damn well they couldn't hold that conversation
face to face in public for an actual debate because human
connection is so important. Nothing's wrong with reading.
Like, look at us. We're reading.
I talked to y'all. I talked to you, Bestie.
They're reading your comments. I actually love doing that.
But I have my face out here because I want because it's what
(44:44):
makes me happy. It's what I like to do.
At first I was very scared so fucking lutely.
I was terrified of showing like my face.
I mean, of course I've like, I like post on Instagram in my
face before all this. I've it's just the idea of
physical me talking live. I was so paranoid.
(45:05):
I was so like, but what if this happens?
What if that happens? What if this happens?
And then I realized I was enabling myself and not being
able to learn about you Bestie II'm so happy I overcame that and
my experience and my story of hiding behind a screen is not
the same story that you could have bestie.
(45:27):
And that is perfectly fine. You can absolutely not very have
to show yourself. I will never hate you for that.
I also just want the best quality of life for you and that
varies. That varies from bestie to the
next. However, it will break my heart
if I know that you're doing certain things out of fear and
self doubt. That's where I want you to
(45:49):
reflect. That's where I want you to
reflect. Let's continue reading.
Also, I appreciate that you're trying to control this in your
restaurants and edit. I've also seen so many kids
running around in restaurants and playing and if they're not
bothering or harassing anyone, no one says anything.
This is not a subject of different or sitting still.
Yeah, there's a lot of comments,a lot of comments.
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So I guess I'm going to go aheadand wrap up my final thought
here because I've been talking alot about this.
I have a lot of dedication when it comes to children neglect.
Oh my gosh. And people are getting crafty
with it these days by masking itwith diagnosis or masking it
with the way that oh, this social media person does it or
(46:32):
those TikTok moms, there's TikTok dads or how you see, oh,
if they're all doing it at Walmart or Target, then it's OK
if my kid does this. Eww, OK.
Like that's the same way of literally of well, Hitler and
everyone else was doing it. So I went ahead and did it Like,
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you see what I mean? Or oh, Mr. Mr. Beast or who was
it Logan Paul, one of the Paul brothers that was doing like
the, the crypto scams or the mystery boxes where you pay
money and you get a item and it can be anywhere from like not
prayer to like supreme designer bullshit.
I don't know if you guys even know what I'm talking about.
(47:15):
It's actually funny. You should look it up from a
couple of years ago. And it's just so other creators
are like, I can also do like lottery scam shit.
And then you 2 got to crack downon that because people don't
have motherfucking morals anymore.
They just do the bandwagon trainwhere other people are doing it.
So so can I. And unfortunately it's most
likely for a cash grab. And yeah, these parents most
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likely are doing it for cash grab because if your kid is
still sick and not able to communicate and provide for
themselves, the government's there for their paycheck.
Bestie and bestie men. This is the top #1 post on the
community for May of 2025. Let's get at it.
(48:02):
Am I the asshole for telling my daughter that her mom cheated on
me when my daughter said my new girlfriend looks like an only
fans chick? Oh freaking fuck.
Let's read it thoroughly. Account and fake names.
I 49 male got divorced from my wife Emily 49 female because she
cheated on me with multiple men.Good for you King.
(48:25):
We have a son and a daughter. Our son Nick, 22, male, has
always been closer to his mom, OK.
And our daughter Skylar, 19, female, has always been closer
to me. OK.
Not knowing why we got divorced,the kids took their mom's side,
oop oop oop oop oop. Oh his mom, his Mama mom
manipulating these little kiddos.
(48:46):
I recently started dating Lisa, 54, female.
She has a fun personality, she'ssmoking hot and she dresses very
fun. When I introduced Lisa to my
kids, Nick took a liking to her while Skylar looked annoyed.
Days later, Skylar said that Lisa looks like an Only Fans
chick. Wow, if you knew Skylar, you
(49:07):
would be shocked that she would use that as a way to insult
another woman. I told her that her mom, Emily
was the one who cheated on me and that I met Lisa after the
divorce. Skylar just said oh and got
quiet. Told you I told you the mom's
fucking scheming on these littlekiddos.
But the next day my ex-wife Emily confronted me.
(49:27):
I reminded her that I never promised to keep her cheating a
secret. Good for you, King.
Remind that bitch. Remind that cheating more.
She said that I implied that it would be kept a secret based on
the fact that I never said whether or not I would tell her
kids. Am I the asshole?
No, no you're not. You're teaching your daughter
not to be a fucking cunt. Because bro it is so hard to
(49:49):
maintain a female friendship these days because moms enable
their kiddos like this and thesekiddos.
Like let's say you weren't raised like by a mom like this
but look at your friends. Not saying everyone but there's
some people that are really competitive in a very bad way
chasing a high they'll never getbecause they can't invest in
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themselves. It takes a learning process.
Don't get me wrong, nobody's a lost case.
But no, you're not the asshole because you're trying to not let
bitches get away with shit. We do have an edit, something of
an update since I posted. Even though my daughter is in
her bedroom in my house, I messaged her because she said
she doesn't want to see anyone. She sent me a very, very long
(50:33):
message she had written beforehand.
And the message? My daughter admitted that her
mom and her maternal aunt said those kinds of things about
Lisa. Like I said, bitches get away
with shit that they don't need to.
They don't need to, bro. They don't need to.
Yes, dudes get away with things here, but we're talking about
the theme of the story, so I'm going to focus on that.
I'm not saying one's worse than another, but it's something that
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needs to be addressed because it's story themed.
OK? So don't, don't get mad at me,
OK? I, I'm just because someone's
talking about something that's related to the topic of this
does not mean they're discrediting everything else.
Got it. Got got, got it.
Bestie, You probably already do best.
You're you're not. You seem pretty patient, and I
appreciate you, but let's continue.
She sent me a very, very long message she had written
(51:16):
beforehand. In the message, my daughter
admitted that her mom and her maternal aunt said those kinds
of things about Lisa. She said she's embarrassed that
she repeated those awful things.Apple doesn't fall far from the
tree. She said she thought that I was
the one who cheated on her mom. She said she thought I had
cheated on her mom with Lisa. She said she's not mad at me.
She said she's mad at her mom. Good.
(51:36):
Because a lot of people, when they get new information,
they're in denial, so they don'ttake the information more than a
grain of salt. She said.
Lisa seems like a wonderful woman.
She said she wants to talk aboutthis face to face, but not
anytime soon. Good for her.
Very mature. Very.
This is this is beautiful. This is like a new opening of an
(52:00):
amazing relationship. OK, wow.
She said. She'll tell me when she's up to
talking about it face to face when she thinks she can do it
without crying. Man dude your daughter is like.
I think your daughter realized she's been getting played and
now she's like questioning everyconversation she's had with her
mom leading up to this top comment.
(52:22):
Not the asshole. Your ex is upset because she
knows she's in the wrong and shehas to continue to live with the
consequences of her actions. Ding Ding Ding.
She knew what she was doing whenshe cheated.
She knew there was a chance people would find out.
Just because she managed to delay the exposure doesn't mean
the risk goes away. She's mad at you because you she
has no one else to blame except herself.
(52:45):
Another comment. Dad, your girlfriend dresses
like a whore. Yeah, well, your mom is a whore.
Never judge a book by its cover,bestie.
Never, ever, ever. And what is dressing fun?
That's one of the things and notthe asshole cheaters of
consequences. So this is can loot me back to a
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theory that I'm very passionate about.
It's called the open door theoryand it's basically allows like
it enables females to get away with shit because think about it
from the beginning, like the previous story, boys are raised
to open doors for girls. So even at the beginning,
there's a servant mindset. It's or a action to be done for
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me mindset. It doesn't even have to be as
extreme as servants. OK, I get you might have been a
dramatic word choice, but it's the idea that a basic task
that's not for me. I don't do that.
So that's already like planted in.
So like it just when you're driving, when you're driving,
when you're driving, think aboutit.
Or when you're on a public transportation or if you don't
(53:55):
even pay attention to this, lookout for this.
How many of the times do people even with their turn signal on?
Most of the times, not like very.
So most of the times it's a woman in a car going in to
another lane without checking because they're just so used to
things being done for them. That's that's the shit I
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absolutely fucking hate because it makes it harder for me as a
female in this day and age to connect with another woman due
to the severity of how common this is.
There is nothing wrong with the door being open for you.
It's the expectation that's yourissue and that's OK.
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I'm just here to, I make people conscious of it because I'm
going to be completely honest, Idon't think it's done
intentionally more than half thetime.
Don't get me wrong. People are going to absolutely
take advantage of it. Like absolutely duh.
It's human. Like I could say that about so
many different things and peopleand genders and everything when
(55:05):
it comes to there's always goingto be somebody that just
completely exploits the system, right?
But no, let's be a little bit more like conscience of or
actions or how much do you actually expect versus how much
of it do you earn? And by earn, I mean respect, OK?
(55:30):
Do you get butthurt that somebody doesn't open the door
for you? Was it more so somebody not
going out of their way? Because most of the times that
might be why you're upset. However, I completely get it.
If someone slams the door on your face, absolutely be mad.
(55:52):
Be pissed, bestie. Perfectly, perfectly justified,
justifiable anger. But no, let's be a little bit
more conscious, ladies. Like like the genuinely.
Maybe that's why these dudes these days are being like
absolute assholes. And yes, you, you probably are
doing exactly the right thing. I'm not mad at you that I'm not.
(56:17):
This isn't like elementary school where you had like some
of the class like talking the entire time.
So everybody has to be punished.That's not what's happening
here. I just want you to be conscious
and I want you to also call out your friends for this dumb
fucking door theory behavior. You can't just go into a lane
without checking. You can't just go into a lane
just because you're the fucking turn signal on.
(56:38):
You can't just be on your God damn phone while driving because
you think people will get out ofthe way for you.
No, I'm mad about it because you're endangering other people
that care. It sucks, it really sucks.
And we're better than that, wouldn't you think?
Because I think you are better than that, bestie.
I think I'm better than that. I've had to talk to myself about
(57:01):
it too. I've had to reflect a lot and I
had to figure out what is it that I'm expecting?
What is it that I'm not expecting when it came to
building my own boundaries? I'm telling you, man, invest in
yourself. Be more conscious of your
decisions and your subconscious thoughts.
Think about what makes you angry.
(57:22):
Think about why you're angry. Telling you no more, no more of
this. Let's let's stop this open door
theory, OK? And nothing wrong with having a
door open for you, got it, got it.
Just don't expect it and stop endangering people's lives.
Put down your fucking phone. Put down your fucking phone.
Stop endangering people's lives.Stop thinking that people are
(57:44):
just going to let you into your lane.
I'm sorry I'm keep repeating this because I'm trying to
condition y'all. Like yes it might not be you but
God fucking damn it bro, becauseI know you, you are you.
Hang out with other friends, pull this shit out.
It's not cool. It's endangering death.
Happens from this conditioning. Got to break it together.
(58:08):
One person on a motherfucking time.
OK, OK. Because I'm just one person and
it's who knows? Who knows?
It's it's it's a, it's a chain effect.
It's a domino effect, literally.I mean, that's how anything is
spread word of mouth. Everything starts from
somewhere, right? We got this busty, it'll be OK.
(58:30):
Just call it out, address it. That's the first step.
Like that's the first step in like A and a classes like
Alcohol Anonymous or AAI said A and AI read too many Reddit
stories of am I the asshole? But no, like pointing it out and
addressing it is like the first step.
They're just like being conscious of it.
So step one, let's do that together.
(58:51):
Sounds good, sounds good. If you gasped, felt secondhand
rage, or silently judge somebodylike your life depended on it,
go ahead and like, comment, share and subscribe.
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and behind the scenes T. And if you love to overanalyze
Internet drama like it's a groupproject, come hang out with us
on Reddit at the community. Why did that hurt?
Where we figure out why we were so reactive to something?
Not if. See what I mean?
(59:31):
It'll make more sense. Just go over there.
Thanks for spending time with metoday.
Remember, you're not weird, you're just human.
And sometimes being human means accidentally becoming the
asshole in someone's Reddit post.
That's OK though, sometimes theydeserved it.
Justifiable asshole ISM is a thing.
I'll be here next time. Same place, busty.
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