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And panicking about being kickedout.
And what do we say? Not my fault.
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Life sucks, so let's disassociate.
Reading other people's problems on the Internet, acting like we
have smart things to say. Let's do it, bestie.
Am I the asshole for paying for my dog surgery instead of
helping my girlfriend's sister with her rent?
I have a dog that's on the olderside at nine years old and a few
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weeks ago it lost the use of itsback legs.
I had to get surgery for him because I was not getting him
put down. All in all it came to 8.5 K in
euros, all of which I had to payout of pocket for.
This wasn't a huge problem because I have plenty saved up
and in general I am well off. Here's the issue.
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My girlfriend's sister has been struggling with rent.
Apparently it's not my fault. Apparently she's behind and by a
few months not my fault and panicking about being kicked
out. And what do we say?
Not my fault, when my girlfriendfound out what I paid for the
surgery she got really upset with me and said I was selfish.
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Oh man dude this. Not only did you save your dog's
life and get more time because it's your money and you have the
choice to, I don't know, do whatyou want with it.
You also like realized you don'thave a girlfriend anymore.
Her words were along the lines of quote, you'd spend 8 grand on
a dog but you won't even help mysister keep a roof over her
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head. What about you bitch?
What? That's your sister?
Since then my girlfriend has been pissed off with me and
keeps calling me cheap and selfish for not helping her
sister. I feel like I shouldn't have to
suffer for another person's poorlife choices.
Ding Ding Ding Ding, correct. Good job OP.
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The reason her sister is in thispredicament is because her
relationship fell apart and she's living in a place she
can't afford. What do we call that?
Ladies and gentlemen, you know it, let's stay together.
Not my problem. Further to that, I own a four
bedroom home and my girlfriend suggested her sister moving in
with us but I refused. It might be asshole for refusing
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to help with her sister. Hey Ylna.
Hey Ylna. You'd be the asshole to yourself
if you do top comment on this one, Not the asshole.
However, you need to dump your girlfriend who is determined to
make her sister's poor choices your problem.
See the Internet? The Internet.
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It's not always full of shit andsadness.
It's full of shitting on people's sadness.
Am I the asshole if I tell my son's stepmother she can't go to
a mother son dinner? Let's see O my 15 year old son
has a mother and son dinner event with his football team.
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I'm obviously planning to go as it'd be nice bonding time and
well, I'm his mother. Today my son told me that his
that my ex's wife was planning to go, but she didn't say a word
to me about it. In all honesty, I don't want her
to go. Yes, she's been in my son's life
the past like five years or so, but she's not his mom, nor did
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she have the respect to call or text me and ask how I felt about
it. Would I be the asshole if I
politely told her I didn't want her to go?
I'm just really conflicted. I mean, I'm not a mother, I'm
not a parent, right? However, the way that I
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understand parenting is it's about taking care of the kid and
showing up for the kid, not about if somebody kisses your
fucking ass or not. Edits.
Thank you for your comments. You made me realize that it's
not really my events, that it's my son.
So he should decide, correct? He said he'd like us both to go,
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which is perfectly fine with me.Wow, I'm shocked that he even
wanted that. Maybe he wanted that because you
would flip a fucking switch bro.I'm human and my feelings
clouded my judgement. Honestly.
Round of applause for OP Little claps here.
Get a little little platypus claps on that one.
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We have recognition, which is better than a apology in my
eyes. So that's my own personal
opinion by the way. Because if you, if you
apologize, are you apologizing because you got caught?
Are you apologizing because you look bad?
But for you to acknowledge why it's wrong, which she did, they
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clouded my judgement. I know why.
You're going to have a higher return of not doing that shit
again. I actually really appreciate
Reddit for this. Sometimes you just can't see the
entire picture. Thanks guys good job Opie with
top comment being I see your edit and I just want to say good
for you. You put your son first, you're a
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good mom. And I do agree I don't believe
that a parent is a bad parent for one mistake unless that
mistake is something that's extremely illegal.
And Opie replied I really appreciate that I do my best and
you do you are human too. This is your first time and
you're just going through life. Shit happens.
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Are your Co workers this bad? Am I the asshole for standing up
for myself when I was rudely called out by a Co worker?
Let's see. So for context I started working
in a small business about 3 weeks ago.
So small there's only three of us and we don't have fixed lunch
breaks. And usually I work with this
woman Elle, like from Death Note.
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Now this day I had bought my lunch in advance so I wouldn't
have to walk anywhere too far that day because I had hurt my
leg the week prior. About an hour into the day, Elle
said she's hungry and wants to go to the shop across the mall
where we work to get food, but wanted to wait for the boss to
bring the rest of the stock for the day.
I said it was not a problem. So the boss comes and delivers
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the stock and I innocently ask her if she wants to go get food
quickly, innocently. It's so weird.
That's when Elle goes off on me,telling me that she doesn't
answer to me and that I should stop pressuring her to do
things. I tried to calm her down by
saying that it's what she said she wanted to do and that I was
just trying to be courteous, butshe keeps going on and on about
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how I want to make her look bad for being out of the shop too
much and by getting my food before we open so I don't have
to leave. Seems like she's projecting.
Ella kept getting angrier so I finally tell her I won't allow
her to speak to me like that, and if she kept going I'd tell
her manager, the other person who works there.
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You didn't need to tell him thatyou'd tell.
Just just do it. Just a little word of advice
doesn't make you an asshole for saying that or not, but don't
threaten somebody with that. Just do it.
So I feel like I might have beenthe asshole to threaten Elle
with our manager, but it was obvious that nothing else was
going to calm her down. Am I the asshole?
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You're the asshole to yourself for making yourself look like a
like you're not able to stand upfor yourself without having to
get a higher person involved, because it just seems like an
empty threat if you're using it to calm somebody down rather
than actually using the communication ladder for
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situations like this. Top comments.
No, you dealt with that very well, very maturely.
You de escalated, not the asshole.
I mean we can call it de escalating because nothing worse
happened, right? Another comment, not the
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asshole. Maybe we're missing contacts,
but it seems a bit of an extremereaction from her next story.
Am I the asshole for using a grocery plastic bag to hold my
used period products? I mean, are you like leaving it
out in the open? And was there a hole in it and
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you didn't check? Even then you wouldn't be the
asshole. But let's see, let's read it
instead of making up our own story.
I share a bathroom with my olderbrother and I get periods.
You don't have to put enough. So naturally I keep a little
trash bag to throw the trash away.
Today he complained to me that he gets grossed out because he
can't see what I'm throwing away.
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He's not going to like. He's not going to like his first
girlfriend then, or his first girlfriend's not going to like
him. I told this to my BFF and she
said she doesn't like the periodstuff so she understands my
brother and agrees I should hideit.
To me it feels weird to have to go to the extra effort to hide
some trash. Our bathroom is messy and we've
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been doing some work to it so wedon't currently have a trash can
in there. What the fuck are you doing?
Why can't you have a trash can in there?
It's not like you don't have floors otherwise you wouldn't be
able to use the bathroom in there or walk in it.
Very interesting on that. Seems like it's a little bit of.
I don't like the way you're writing this, Opie.
OK, nor do we have room. There's desk trash cans.
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There's also you can like what? OK, no, I just hang the bag on
the shelf we have in there. It's not like you can see any
gore, it's just really rolled uppads.
First of all, gore is not just blood.
Blood is the result of gore. But that's OK.
Am I the asshole? Should I hide the trash?
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Top comment? Top comment on that one.
Absolutely not the asshole. If you're grossed out knowing
something is in the trash, imagine living with it in your
pants. Grow up, you'll need a spine if
you ever have a girlfriend or a daughter.
My answer you're everyone sucks here because you wouldn't want
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to see his fucking blue ball rags, would you?
Or the result of not having those because it's inside of
him, right? Because that is a bodily
function that has to happen. You have to ejaculate.
I know that sounds fucking weird, but you actually have to
look it up scientifically. But the reason why I say she
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sucks isn't because Oh my God she's bleeding.
EW, what a no motherfucker. That's not what I'm saying.
What I'm saying is the way that she is saying that there's not
room for it and she hangs it up on the bad thing.
Like no, I it seems like no matter what, OP wasn't going to
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compromise with this. She was just, it's called
stubbornness. And I mean, it's not like it
affects him in the 1st place, but you can't just say you don't
have room for it because if you don't have room for a trash can,
you don't have room for your feet.
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Like one of those little tiny metal ones.
Like they have really small deskones, like 5 below has them.
Uh, I don't know. That's why I think everybody
sucks here. I don't think we're getting the
full story. I know that sounds dumb and
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silly, however just the way she wrote it.
Meh. Little trust issues there.
However. Nobody's an asshole for having a
period, but you will be an asshole if you lie.
Because you're lying, bro. What do you mean you don't have
a room? Sorry, I'm just really trying to
think of how to be nice about it.
So I yeah, next story. Am I the asshole for not letting
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my group project partner redo mywork after they procrastinated
until the last minute? What if somebody's wanting to do
your work but they didn't even do their shit?
OK, let's read it. I'm in college, sorry to hear
that and currently working on a group project with two
classmates. And sorry to hear that as well.
One of my partners consistently procrastinated and left most of
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their portion until the night before our deadline.
I know you have probably screenshots or something like an
excel thing where you can see like the last time edited by.
Just take screenshots of that and go ahead and just send.
Send the professor the e-mail ofit.
Bro that's it, blood off your hands.
Let's keep reading. I had already finished my part
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carefully and shared it with them as a reference.
The night before the submission my classmates messaged me, asked
me if they could completely redomy section because they had a
better idea, and I refuse their suggestion because I spent hours
researching and writing that part and it was done according
to the project requirements. Letting them redo it at the last
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minute would have been stressful, risky and unfair to
me If something went wrong. And it seems my classmates are
not getting my point and keep asking me why and that I should
just trust them to improve it. He'll know they're probably
sabotaging you. Of course I trust my group mates
I I wouldn't. At the same time the work was
already complete and it wasn't my responsibility to let them
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overwrite my effort due to theirpoor time management.
Correct. Emma the asshole refusing to let
my partner redo my work when they procrastinated.
Nope, it's called group project.Not do your fucking work and
have somebody else gaslight you to fuck up your shit.
That's ass top comment on that one.
Not the asshole. They wanted to have constructive
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feedback. It should have happened way
earlier. I would not let somebody blindly
submit something that I couldn'tspeak to to if the professor
asked me about it. Opie replied.
Right. If they brought it up earlier, I
had been more open to feedback the last minute.
No way. And you're spot on.
I don't want to be stuck defending work.
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I didn't even write if the professor asks.
Like I said, screenshot that shit, send it to the professor
and send them your finished partof the project to make sure they
cross check it because who's to say they're not going to just, I
don't know, ignore your request because it kind of people that
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do shit like that, they tend to not ask for your permission.
They're just warning you and letting you know that that's
just what's going to happen. People suck sometime.
Also, real quick, you're not theasshole because you're doing
things for yourself. Fucking weird people are weird.
Or like you don't see eye to eyewith somebody.
That doesn't make somebody bad. Doesn't unless it's illegal,
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like you know what I mean? Thanks for hanging with me
today. If you want to star, just
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Gatekeeping's bad. I gotta hang up for now.
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Talk to you soon. Bye.