May 18, 2025 • 45 mins
Join TiredGato on TiredGato Talks for shocking Reddit infidelity stories. We dive into karma-filled tales of cheating spouses and unexpected turns. Get realistic advice on navigating betrayal and tricky family situations. If you love drama podcasts or shows like Two Hot Takes, this episode's for you!
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My ex tried to cheat. It didn't work out for him
though. Love and stupidity never win,
babe. Hey bestie, you made it.
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Join me as I deep dive into the world of sneaky clues and
Internet detectives who found out about cheating in the most
unexpected ways and the name of the moon we're dragging these
liars into the lights. Moon healing?
Nah moon leaving with receipts. Let's do it, bestie.
Let's be honest, we've all been in a relationship where the
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weird vibe hits and you start towonder if your partner's been
acting different or it's all in your head.
And trust me, this episode is all about the unexpected
cheating scandals Redditors uncovered that led to cheating
revelations. Well, let's uncover the sneaky
details that revealed cheating straight from Reddit.
Like look at this story. You won't believe how these
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people crack the case. Let's continue with this story.
Comes from a deleted account. So yeah.
Hopefully they deleted it because they figured it out.
Or they deleted it because they figured it out in a way they
didn't like. Titled my ex try to cheat.
It didn't work out for him though.
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After some time my ex would sleep with his phone in his
pockets. Weird red flag but I never said
anything when I noticed he wouldn't even pull up his phone
in front of me. I knew something was up but if
he just had like a wallpaper of his like dog and he was like
made fun of it, it was like dudebro that's fucking gay and so he
just doesn't want you to think he's gay.
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Hopefully that's how that this ends, but if I feel like it
doesn't. One night it slipped out of his
sweats and I woke up with it near my legs.
That's what she said. I was just going to put it on
the charger honestly but I saw he had a bunch of notifications
and messages from a dating app. Nope, it's not a dog wallpaper.
It is truly cheating man. I wanted to slap him awake but I
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didn't. Good on you Queen.
Control your anger. Deep breath in, deep breath out.
So I created a profile using a friend of mine's pictures that
he never met and I had her approval.
Good approval. Consent is sexy.
She was his type 100% and I knewhe loved blue eyes.
So when we matched like I knew we would, we got to chatting.
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We talked for about a week before I suggested beating up
flirting sexual stuff. He told her, which was me, that
he was single and lived with a friend.
So I suggested him paying for hotel room so we could fuck.
He said he would. We picked a spot.
Oh Lord have mercy when mind youI paid for everything because he
was unemployed after losing his job.
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He joined my savings account over the year with manipulation.
We're family, we take care of each other when we're in tough
spots. He would say whenever I told him
I didn't have extra money. I paid my student loans, all
bills of a one bedroom and the food real quick.
Best days is exactly why it's perfectly fine for you to hide
certain financial information toyour partner, even the
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healthiest of relationships you don't like.
I mean, I guess it varies for each but like if like if you get
the red flags, I don't know why I'm turning into Trump.
If you get the red flags. If you get the red flags that
like you don't feel comfortable talking about money, you
shouldn't be guilted into talking about money because
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money shouldn't even have to be brought up in a relationship
unless it is life or death. Like, let's be fucking real
here. Let's be fucking real.
Because the only other reason they want to talk about is
because they want a weird insight.
Yeah, no, because like it comes to the same like realization
that I need to see his charges. Why do you see his chargers?
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It's because you're acting that way because you want to make
sure he's not spending on only fans or he's going out and
buying things at the the Dr. thru and when you guys agreed on
a a diet, you know what I mean? Like those type of situations,
it doesn't fucking matter. It's their money, they earned
it. Same thing with whoever and
whatever the dynamic of the fucking relationship is.
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Unless it's a kink, unless there's like a financial
degradation kink, then whatever,as long as it's consensual.
Because remember, consent is sexy.
But that's not what's happening anytime somebody wants to know
somebody's money. Things like that.
To a tee. To where?
Oh but we're family we need. It's all manipulation.
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You never need to talk about money unless it's life or death
such as bills and food. Wow, isn't that crazy?
Isn't that insane that you need that to for survival?
Talk about that. But bruh, no, other than that,
if that happens to you, brother,that's already enough of a red
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flag. It's done because there's lack
in so many other aspects of trust.
Let's continue. This boy had the ball sack to
ask me for money in person. I love that comic ball sack that
his mom's birthday was coming upand he wanted to buy her
something nice. No, he didn't.
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Because if you wanted to buy action, speak louder than words.
If somebody wanted to do it and they'll figure out a way, trust
me, Trust me, I swear I'm looking at you bestie making eye
contact and for my my my audio stemmer bestie eye contact.
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So I gave him $50 just because it was hilarious.
At this point I still think about the smile on his face in
that moment. That weekend he left, said he
was going to his mom's and that he'd probably stay the night.
I kissed him goodbye and told him to have a great time.
Man, I couldn't be able to act like that.
Then I packed all of his stuff and left it outside.
I live in the US so it went fast.
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Got the locks changed. He messaged me a few times on
the app. I told him I was running late
because I wanted to look perfectbut I was coming and I'm so
sorry. My friend also sent me some sexy
sexy pictures to send him that that didn't fully include her
face. She's a real one.
I even talked him into jerking off and sending me a video.
Aren't you so happy that you're not married?
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Oh wait, is this? Is this a husband's story?
I don't even remember. I don't even remember Busty.
Then after making him sit until about 1, AMI messaged him on the
dating app a picture of his belong belongings being rummaged
through by a homeless man and toenjoy his stay in a hotel.
As soon as my phone rang, I blocked his number and went to
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bed. Hell yes.
Not even unhinged, honestly. You kept your cool.
I think that's an under reactionin my opinion.
He was outside of my door the Monday I came home from work,
ugly crying, begging, telling mehe was homeless and had nowhere
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to go. Bitch, you've been homeless.
You're a fucking. What do they call those
cockroaches? Yeah, one of those.
One of those when I wasn't having it.
He got angry per usual. Yep, manipulation didn't go
right. Now it's time to yell.
Once he started grabbing and trying to get into my apartment
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I called the police. Oh boy you're so lucky she
doesn't have a firearm. Filed a restraining order
because he did threaten my life and my pets for putting him out.
Found out he ended up moving a few hours away where his only
family is and has a job. Hopefully you learn something.
I don't think he learned anything other than the fact
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that he can't live with you because this is years and years
and years of enabling most likely done by the family.
Not saying they directly raised him to be around people or to
have the morals of doing this toa woman or a friend or anyone.
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It's more so there is not a solid foundation when it comes
to understanding the importance of relationship.
And if he goes back to his family, he's just going to keep
doing it again and again and again and again.
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They have an issue with boundaries because he left for a
reason in the 1st place. Left and stayed with you was
poor the entire time with you asking you for money was
unemployed. You know damn well they weren't.
He wasn't allowed to be unemployed over there.
That's why he's at job again. So he's just going to do it
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again when he doesn't want this job.
He's he honestly, most likely heprobably only got this job
because he's trying to find a girl to like swoon and get get
get another room. He he, he just roommates
surfing. Oh man got to love those type of
people. Oh man top comments Damn you are
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one bad bitch. You need to take the skill and
teach others You are one Jedi Master.
I bow down to your strength and discipline.
Opie replied. Always pass on what you have
learned Yoda, this is the way. OK, all right, bestie, if you
want to learn to stand your ground really hard when it comes
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to like a situation like this, that's extremely like life
altering 36180 flip where it's just everything is everything
will change based off of like figuring out somebody cheated,
right? We're going to use this as an
example, but it could be anywhere from like losing a job
to having to move a family, death, whatever it is, to be
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able to respond accordingly in the heat of the moment, you have
to sit with yourself and write out what your boundaries are.
And remember boundaries, they are not at all perceived to the
people around you unless you acton them.
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So a boundary is a rule. You need to make your rule book
and those are your rules of how you react to things like whether
it be by 20 days I will have, I will make sure that I have, I
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don't know like gotten a job or every month this is my cleaning
list or every year I have to have this much saved or every
day I have to make sure I clean these three things.
You, you have to invest in yourself.
You have to understand where youstand because nobody else knows.
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You see what I mean by when people say the way you treat
people is the way that people should treat you?
You see where I'm going with this?
That's what they mean. That's what they mean you.
You have to know how to treat yourself for other people to
treat you, or how you have to love yourself before you can
love anyone else. That's the same fucking concept.
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Because if she didn't love herself, Because investing in
yourself is love, it's dedication, it's hard work,
right? If she didn't love herself, she
wouldn't have been able to respond to this, right?
Because she wouldn't have made those rules that she has set in
stone that she established through herself.
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And yes, you can make these rules.
I actually highly recommend you best due to at least make 2
boundaries. 2 boundaries. Like you have to write it down.
I understand typing it in a noteapp or like I'm telling you, the
power of the pen on paper. Absolutely insane.
And I know you get a lot of junkmail and I know like you get a
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lot of things in the mail. Just just write on one of those,
man. And yeah, you just write on one
of those so you can visually seeit.
Write down to boundaries that you will always expect to happen
in your life. Don't make them too vague.
Don't be like I my boundary is to have a relationship that'll
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last forever. You have to make them realistic
because don't get me wrong, I want you to have a relationship
that lasts forever in your life.Absolutely.
I'm completely for that. That's not what a boundary is.
That's trying to set in stone the future that you don't have
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control over. More so think of how can I have
a relationship that'll last forever?
Let me think what a relationshipis to me.
Reverse break it down. So when you write down something
and you notice it's very vague and like God damn it, I'm stuck.
Look at the main like keywords. So like the, the nouns like the
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person, the place or the thing or the feeling, the emotion and
break that down. So I don't want to be sad this
today. I want to wake up, not sad.
Let's say that's one of them. Breakdown.
What sad means to you? What What is that feeling?
What is? What is something that you
notice, that you visually see orhear or taste that comes up a
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lot when you feel this way? Break it down, go backwards.
You need to identify the source.It's hard though.
If you have any questions I am genuinely more than help.
Happy to help y'all. Like genuinely, just keep it
simple. Make two of them.
That's that's your plan for today.
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And it shouldn't take you more than a couple minutes, but it
could take you quite a bit of time to break it down though.
And that's perfectly fine because there really isn't no no
time or kind of like grief. There's no correct way to do it
or order to do it. Just know there is a time limit
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and it's your life because your life is the longest thing you'll
ever experience. By the way, if you're still
here, unlike that ex you had in middle school or you're
basically a relationship detective to tap that like
button so you can stay sharp anduncover more of these stories
together. Also, if you have any other
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topics you want to discuss, let me know, OK?
This isn't just my world of the Internet, this is our corner of
the Internet. Got it?
OK, let's keep reading. Am I the asshole for making my
daughter leave because my husband is attracted to her?
Nope. You can just go ahead and close
this thread because I don't wantto know about this.
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This is this is extremely sad but we have to face the things
we don't want to know for changeto happen.
So let's read it. I-55 female, have been married
to my husband and my daughter's stepdad, 63 male for four years.
My 23 year old daughter and I have a complicated relationship.
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She has been diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder.
She has a lot of trauma and watching me and my husband's
horrible marriage go down and was bullied in school when she
told me she was being bullied bypeers.
My view that all children are innocence really tied my hands
because I told her that if I said anything to them I would be
an adult harassing a child. She has blamed me for that ever
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since and keeps referring to this one time where the kids at
school called her trash through the fact that she wasn't taking
care of her hygiene due to depression.
Part. Not all of my response was
telling her to take a shower andI bought her new clothes.
The bullying finally ended with a expulsion and a suspension of
the ringleaders. She still throws the fact that a
school clinic volunteer told herthat if she was their kid, she'd
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have permission to punch back ifadministration didn't do
anything. Hello, what are you doing, Ma?
What are you doing, Mama? Hello.
Wake up, I thought. Like having her live with me
while she finishes school and gets a job would help heal some
childhood wounds if my second husband and I modeled a healthy
relationship. Just because it helps you
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doesn't mean it's going to help them.
OK. However, my daughter now doesn't
get along with my husband. She is very introverted,
creative person who likes immersing herself in escapism.
So she'd get annoyed if she was sitting eating alone and my
husband would sit across from her and eat, saying she ate
later so she could eat alone. However, my husband started
acting distant from me and my daughter complained that his
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eyes lingered for too long. Dude, this mom should have never
been a mom. She got very angry and there was
a lot of shouting and slamming of doors.
Finally my husband admitted he'sattracted to her and it's hard
to be around her all day. Said she was walking temptation
and said that's why he was avoiding sex with me.
Straight to jail. Straight to jail.
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This poor girl, she's just getting bullied.
Mom's like oh they they it's just innocence.
It's just innocence. Nah bitch no.
See being passive gets you fucking nowhere when it comes to
endangerment. Specifically endangerment of
children. Jesus.
And then being passive about like the stepdad literally just
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told you he is a pedophile. Straight up a pedo APDF file and
he's not having sex with you because of it.
And you go to Reddit, not the police.
Oh my God I was so upset to hearthis.
I don't blame my daughter for this but at the same time the
situation has become unbearable.That sentence alone shouldn't
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have even been a thing. What do you mean?
But at the same time there should be No but you are allowed
to be upset to hear this. However you shouldn't even be
around this dude so it shouldn'tbe bearable at all.
Like you shouldn't. It should be done like set in
stone something I can't even read straight.
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Something would have to give andI couldn't collect my thoughts
with both of them still being inthe house.
Does he own the house? Because two things can happen
ma'am. Step one the house is not yours
because y'all married and he's he's APDF file and two if it's
your house kick him the fuck out.
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Wow, wow, problem solved. We love doing that.
We love solving complex problems.
Jesus. So I have my daughter money to
stay at an extended stay. Oh, so I gave my daughter money
to stay at an extended stay hotel and asked her to utilize
her college's emergency financial and housing resources
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they have for students in need. Send him to the hotel, have him
pay for it. No one.
Bro. I don't know how your daughter
you're still alive. Like, not in the mean way.
I hope she continues to do whatever she's doing to stay
alive, but holy fuck. She responded by storming out
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and telling my ex, who is now criticizing social media, using
it to paint me as the villain ofall villains.
News flash, bitch, you are. I'm not abandoning my daughter.
Yeah, you are. You took a dude's side that's
supposed to love you, that tellsyou he doesn't want to put his
Dick in you because he wants to put his Dick in your daughter
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and you send her away. OK, she qualifies for those
resources anyway. Since my ex is unemployed and we
are in substantial debt, I I really hope this is written by
AII. Hope this is rage bait.
I hope this is rage bait. I just need time to process the
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situation and don't want to leave my house to stay with my
daughter when I have a marriage to figure out whether or not to
save. Bitch you got better be saving
your daughter. Honestly at this point this is
just public execution on both parts.
Like kill the mom kill the dad. Like sorry you you are enabling
APDF file and you're enabling neglect like get the get the
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fuck out of here. What does Reddit have to say?
Tough comments. You're the asshole one.
I have hard time believing that her she did just come from
seeing you and your ex fights. DID stems from repeated trauma.
Oh dissociative identity disorder.
OK I was like what do you mean DID?
I must be so angry I can't even read straight.
So let's reread that top comment.
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You're the asshole one. I have a hard time believing
that her identity identity disorder just came from seeing
you and your ex fights. This stems from repeated trauma
before the age of 9. Two, you're punishing your
daughter for your husband being inappropriate.
Kick him out of the house while you figure things out.
I must have really put this story in the way back of my mind
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in the area where SpongeBob likes to like, burn and like
shred all the documents. For those that know, you know,
because I upvoted this comment. I don't even remember the story.
I'm like I got traumatized by this story because I don't even
remember reading it. Oh my gosh somebody replied to
this? I can't believe more people are
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mentioning this. Someone doesn't develop this
disorder from just watching their parents fight.
Hate to even imagine what kind of trauma that poor girl must
have been through to feel like her only way to escape and feel
safe was to split off aspects ofher personality into separate
beings. The mutter.
The mutter. I'm so mad I can't even speak
right. The mother is a piece of shit
for the way she is threatening her daughter now, but I would
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bet money that her mistreatment of her daughter goes way back.
Yeah. I mean, you heard about how like
the administration would have done something if she she was
the if they were the parent and not her.
But for some reason, the mom cango ahead and like, remember
that, but not further details tomake herself look like, oh, see,
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I listened to this, I listened to that.
Bro do not create fucking children if you can't fucking be
there for them. Damn, let's keep reading.
Came here to say this. I was diagnosed with dead and
2021 and have done extensive research.
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It stems from abuse so severe and ongoing that a child's mind
has to compart. Compartment mentalism.
That's a lot of syllables. Compartmentalism.
Compartmentalism that it's happening to them so that they
can develop as normally as possible.
This includes physical abuse, sexual abuse, extreme emotional
abuse, and extreme neglect. And some rare cases can also be
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developed. The child has serious medical
issues that requires invasive and traumatizing surgeries.
Her daughter did not get this from witnessing, she got it from
one that she endured. OP, you sound like my mother.
Just as selfish and delusional. You're the asshole, majorly.
Oh my God, please don't tell me this account suspended.
Please don't tell me this account suspended.
Scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll.
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Throw away me 4158. That's where that comes from.
OK, so no, this fucking bitch posted two years ago and she
didn't reply to no motherfuckingcomment.
No motherfucking comment. I hope you didn't reply to your
comment because you fucking killed yourself.
You, you offed yourself, you offed yourself and you're done.
And your, your daughter now has a house in her name that she can
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sell because fuck that stepdad. And she can go remake her own
life, leave the state, do whatever she needs to do because
wow, no, this is not normal. This is so bad.
This is why I am so happy peoplego to social platforms that are
public. Because you know damn well this
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mother would have never talked to anyone else about this.
Because she, she didn't want it,this story to be associated with
her ego and with her face and with whatever it however it
would spread. Because what if she's in a small
town? Because you know how small towns
are. One person knows one thing, you
know three other things about the next person down.
OK, so that's my theory on why this mom decided to do this.
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And yeah, wow. Good for her though, to have
this experience of just utter disgust, to not be a cycle for
this daughter. I hope that she can find it in
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her that love isn't all you need.
You need love from yourself. You need yourself.
You don't even have to fully love yourself.
You need to at least be able to tolerate yourself to build trust
with yourself. So that's what I hope for Opie's
daughter. Another comment real quick.
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I feel so bad for that young girl.
You are a terrible mother. You failed to protect her before
and you're doing it again. No wonder why she has issues.
What should have happened is that you sent that D bag husband
of yours packing. If it's your house, assure your
daughter that you'll protect her.
Yeah. No.
Straight to jail, straight to execution.
Not even injectable. She doesn't deserve injectable.
I believe that they, both stepdad and mother, both get
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firing squad, public firing squad.
Or, you know, eye for eye, toothfor tooth.
Send her out. Send her out to one of those
countries and let her see what it feels like to be in a place
where her opinion doesn't matter.
And the basement walls are very cold.
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Just caught wife of 18 years posted two months ago.
Let's read it. I got a friend request on
Facebook from a woman I didn't know.
OK, we had some of the same friends so I accepted it.
Come to find out she caught my wife and her husband and her bed
together. Whoa man, got to love similar
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friends. A similar friends doesn't like
Facebook like give you recommended friends based off of
like the GPS locations of where you hang out a lot.
I've heard about that. Have you ever experienced that?
Have you ever been jump scared by like a Co worker you hated?
You're like Oh my God block thatimmediately let's continue.
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She had her daughter in her armswhen this happened.
She knows my wife and thought they were friends.
I dropped my wife off at anotherfriend's house so they could go
to the Expo all weekend together.
Come to find out her friend was already there and this dude's
truck was parked on the streets when I left.
I started getting the messages so I went back and the truck was
gone and his wife said it was definitely his.
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We have two kids together and she has been using her daughter
as an excuse for months to go tothis other friend's house who
was covering for her while my daughter would stay overnight
with her daughter. This is why both parents should
do like that babysitting interview or like should both
meet the people who I don't know, watch your fucking kid
Your your your shared DNA that'swalking.
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OK I guess He also come has comeover to her friend's house when
my my doctor when my daughter and wife are there.
I'm finding all this out today after I drop her off.
I tried to call my wife but no answer so I text her that she is
caught and she denies it. I finally got her to admit it
after a few hours of back and forth text.
I'm hurt but feel glad that I know so I don't have to deal
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with an unfaithful wife. She doesn't work but I do and
I'd work a lot so we can afford to live.
What is up with these? Like these people that literally
don't have to work and they justtake advantage of the people
that give them the option to nothave to work.
Are you ridiculous? It's it's so delusional.
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So delusional. She doesn't work but I do and I
work a lot so we can afford to live.
I got a bonus last week for $8000 and it's all gone with my
paycheck from today as well. She really put me and her family
in a bad way. She not only wrecked the other
family but ours too. I never cheated and don't
understand why she did now. I think how many times she has
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done this over the years. Report that way that she lost
that money. Fraud that bitch.
Fraud that bitch. OK, you hear it?
Can we spell it out? FRAUDDABITCH.
Cool top comment. You have to leave her.
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If you don't, you won't rest well forever.
If you do, you will enter hell briefly.
Some people here will tell you don't leave the house, don't
start dating. That is the worst boilerplate
advice. These things should never be
said to anyone because they may work for some and they may kill
others. Exactly so important.
The way that somebody copes is so specific to their own
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perspective and experiences of life.
We talk about that a lot over inmy freaking Reddit community
that I made for us to where we talk about the what is hurting
not why it's hurting. It's called.
Why Did That hurt? Go over there.
I want to talk to you about emotions because I'm apparently
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the Doctor Phil now. OK, I guess I don't really.
I hope not because he's a prettyfucking bad person.
We can talk more about that if you'd like, because there are a
lot of stories that were posted online about who he really is.
Yeah, but yeah, no, I don't. Don't, dude.
Don't. Don't, don't, don't.
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The only thing that you're entertaining is the idea that
you're getting some type of revenge on her.
And unfortunately, these type ofpeople, the only thing that
hurts them is when they're cut off because they're parasites.
They're the little cockroaches of the of the human race, the
leeches, the the ones that can never, ever, ever pay anything
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out of pocket unless it's like for the cigarettes or for their
weed or for just. And if you though, unfortunately
have found yourself ever in thatsituation or you are currently
feeling like, wait, I have only been buying this.
I have only been doing that. I mean, nothing's wrong with you
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if that's all you're buying, right?
If that's all you're buying, whatever.
But like, are are you happy withhow are things going?
And by that I mean, what does happiness mean to you?
Is this something that you see yourself comfortable and
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sustainable in five years from now, a year from now, six months
from now? See, you see what I'm trying to
do here? I'm trying to make you think
because it's not to think to make you feel bad for living a
lifestyle that's like that. It's more so to make you think
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and be more conscious of your surroundings because it's easy
to get locked into your own mindand your own idea of like what
you think's going on around. Just just just take a step back
and think and make sure that thethe life you're living is
actually worth it. And it really is maybe not the
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actions, though. Maybe you can identify some
things that you can fix and adapt and change, and that's
perfectly fine. Nothing is perfect.
And I want you to be able to be uncomfortable because you have
to be uncomfortable to be comfortable.
You have to change. You cannot just stay.
You cannot just stay to who you are ever.
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That's why you have to trust yourself.
You see where I'm going with this?
It goes back to the foundations lesson that we had with that one
episode. OK, OK, just think about it.
And it's not to make you feel bad.
It's to make sure that you are happy.
That's all it is. Literally that's the whole point
of everything I'm doing on here is for you to make sure that you
can establish a relationship with you.
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OK, got it. Love you.
Or you could say it's aggressive, but I, I, I try to
hold your hand during it. OK, But I will not enable.
Love you bestie, a pretty heartbreaking title.
I already forgave her cheating but now I saw details and I
can't cope with the way she had sex.
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All righty, we have a really good lesson to learn here on
this story and it has to do withif you don't set your boundaries
for yourself, no one else will follow through because they
aren't mind readers and they don't know what you want, they
only know how you react. I am really freaking out right
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now and hope you guys can help me.
My girlfriend of 2.5 years has cheated and I already forgave
her. Now I learned that the sex was
much worse than I expected and Idon't know how to handle this.
What was she like getting fuckedby a horse?
It happened about two months ago.
My girlfriend was at a party at the shared apartment of some of
her friends. Nothing special.
I wasn't in town as I had to work in a different city.
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The next day she called me crying and told me that she had
cheated. I was shocked.
When I came back the day after that we had a long talk.
Hey, at least you didn't say shegot assaulted.
Because a lot of a lot of stories, sometimes they they do
those cry wolf cards, the fake Rcard.
Yeah it's absolutely ridiculous.I'm I'm glad she didn't take
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that route. When I came back the day after
that we had a long talk. She didn't tell me much details
and I didn't ask for it. She said that she had a few
drinks and just went with the flow and then had sex from
there. Not the makeup sex bro.
She didn't even get STD checked.I actually didn't ask with who.
Oh no my bad my bad my bad. I was just my brain is just
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assuming honestly the worst thatOpie with the title because I'm
like how are you going to be? How are you going to say you
like are OK with us and then getupset later?
But no, she said that she had a few drinks and just went with
the flow and then had sex there.OK, never mind understand now
got it. Actually seemed to be very
sorry. I tried to get over it.
It took me some time but I actually managed to really
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forgive her and I thought her relationship was on a good track
again. Her cheating was a topic at all
anymore. I meant that I was wondering
about details from time to time,but I didn't want to talk about
it and thought that it doesn't matter.
Well, it does matter. If you want to think about it,
it's another thing. Stop dismissing your emotions
because it'll just bottle up andexplode.
Literally talk about it and if you can't talk about it,
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eliminate it. Not your thought, but the
trigger. However, I was very very wrong.
Yesterday I talked to a guy who was there as well and he seemed
to be very surprised that I had been able to forgive her.
I oh God it was a gang bang I bet.
I tried to explain to him that Iappreciate her honesty and that
she never tried to hide it at all.
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I wasn't able to understand his confusion until I was finally
brave enough to ask about details.
I was blacked out when he told me.
Oh my God. To cut a Long story short, it
wasn't just normal sex with one guy.
She apparently slept with all, at least three of them, and did
things she'd never do with me. I still have no words for it
actually. I thought he was making this up,
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but he had proof and I can't getthis off my mind now.
I don't know how to ever cope with this.
I know that I didn't ask for details, but it still feels like
she lied to me even though she technically maybe didn't.
I mean, she left that part out for a reason.
That's lying still. Because you're clouding
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judgments. You're changing the the story
for a reason, for her benefit. That's lying.
I hate that I went through a lotof mental trouble to keep this
relationship alive and now have to learn this.
I'm completely freaking out right now.
Yeah, go ahead and go ahead and kick her out and go ahead and
download some dating apps and get your frustration out.
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Opie. Top comment.
You just happen to stumble upon this.
Imagine what you don't know. Yep Yep.
Especially if she comes around saying that she's pregnant.
Dude, she's going to try to say it's yours.
That's all I'm going to say. And the relationship has done
OP. She's not been too totally
honest with what went down. You'll never trust her again.
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I'm sorry you went through that.She probably delighted she's
managed to get away with it without you knowing the whole
story. Yep.
And they have proof and it's a video.
That's probably where she gets her finances from.
That's all I'm going to say OK From ask Reddit, what's the
wildest cheating story you've witnessed or happened to you?
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Top comment. My ex-wife pretended to be
admitted to a mental health wardfor long term treatment while
actually staying with her new man and cheating on me.
Wow, an addiction to sex and adultery.
What a wonderful ex-wife title. You should probably put that on
a trophy. I know there's some like stores
that do that. My friend's mom was in a
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relationship with a guy for years and they ended up getting
engaged and marry. The guy was a senior director of
a company for which he travelledevery week abroad for business.
Eventually the guy had a heart attack and when my friend's mom
turned up at the hospital, his wife and two kids were there
also. Oh bitch.
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Oh shit, oh God damn, get Jerry Springer in here.
Turned out he was already married with children and living
a double life. The whole time when he went
abroad for business he was simply going back to his actual
family. I can't trust anyone these days.
Not even men with jobs. Huh.
In a small town the husband kepttelling people he had an open
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marriage. Finally someone asked his wife
about it. She was unaware of this new
arrangement. I wonder if he had the Poly
stare. You know how you know, like why
they always look like that? Oh man, I knew a guy years ago
that was a private investigator.Many times he was approached by
a spouse who suspected their partner was cheating.
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He had a slam dunk strategy. He would suggest to his client
sign up for a course, whether a hobby thing or educational.
The key was that the class wouldhappen for a period of weeks,
all on the same day of the week and all at the same time of the
day. Then while his client was in
class, he would follow. The spouse caught them every
time. Wow.
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He also ran a pottery course every Wednesday at 3:00.
What the hell dude? Bro, just work in the sex
industry if you want to fuck on the clock.
There's the last I'm going to read.
My mother-in-law is API preventing investigator.
I would assume it still works every single time according to
her. What does that mean?
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What does that mean? What does that mean?
Let's pull it open. What does API mean?
Uh, I've just realized this is the first time I've ever heard a
woman being in Pi. In fiction it's always a dude,
as are the few I've seen in reallife.
A guy went to uni with was a classic Stoner skater he and
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worked as a Is it? Is it .0 in the porn industry?
What the hell it is API mean? Am IA little like behind on
this? Hold on.
We're Googling it. Googling.
Always Google something you don't know.
Stay curious. OK, hold on, hold on, hold on.
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Yeah, it is API. Yeah, because.
OK, gotcha. Cool.
I just want to make sure. OK, I just want to make sure.
Safe than sorry. Education is key.
Education is key. But that's pretty funny.
That's really, man, I could honestly read these for a while.
Genuinely. All right, bestie, it's time to
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see what you had to say about the question of the day.
Today's question, drum roll. What's a random fact about you
no one ever believes? And right here we have a comment
coming from Chris. I never got diagnosed with any
disability because according to the doctor I can hear, but it
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turns out I might be autistic and dyslexic.
Bestie, get a different doctor. Check out his reviews.
I have a feeling this doctor is not giving you the proper care
you deserve. OK, let me know if you have any
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questions. Another one from time when I was
a kid, my hair went from straight to curly.
Like, did you change locations or did it maybe?
Yeah, I guess. I guess people don't really
believe that one because I'm over here questioning it too.
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Did you like change states? Are you in the same state?
How do you how do you do that? Did you get a perm?
Do you have a sibling that hatesyou and like put like perm gel
in your cream like your your shampoo and from squishy dog?
Loving these usernames by the way.
I have an incredibly accurate gut instinct and I have dreams
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about events before they happen.Say all you want, I dreamed of
people I didn't know existed until years later when it
happened. Squishy dog.
I have so many questions. Not questioning you, just I want
to know more about it. Wow and I got hit by a bat.
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What we have another person saying I have dreams before bad
things happen. Before I got in an accident.
My brother's accident in the Navy body found on the bike
trail. Why is my algorithm picking up
all these psychics? I mean, I'm not complaining,
that's awesome. Another comment that I'm the
second oldest of my siblings. I've been confused for my little
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sister, four years younger than me and the sibling lineup, and I
really don't think I look that much younger that people don't
believe I am my age. That has to be extremely
frustrating because how are you going to question my age?
My birthday, my family dynamic, like at that point, like nobody
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even just believes anything about you.
That sucks, I'm sorry. I'm sorry about that.
And that comment came from Tan. Another one by Zachary.
I can only see out of one eye, but I can change which eye it
is. What if you gasped, laughed, or
just knew what was coming? Like, comment, share and
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subscribe maybe. And you can also unlock bonus
episodes on Spotify at $3 a month and join the Gato
Guardians here on YouTube for exclusive perks.
And if you want to spell the T on your own wild story, we've
got a whole community on Reddit called Why Did That Hurt where
we focus on the why and not the what.
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Just go over there, it'll make sense.
Read the description and please,please don't just post karma
farming AI slop. OK?
We need a break. It's it's like when you go to
any like convention nowadays, you just have 3D printed slop
all the time. But we, we need that.
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We need that in a way to remind us how bad it is.
And this subreddit isn't one of those reminders.
It's a reminder that humans can be creative in storytelling
their own experiences. You get it, bestie.
OK, thanks for spending time with me today.
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Remember, cheaters get caught, besties get smarter, and karma's
got better aimed than Tuxedo Mask.
I'll be here next time. Same place.
My ex tried to cheat. It didn't work out for him
though. Love and stupidity never win,
babe. Hey bestie, you made it.
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Join me as I deep dive into the world of sneaky clues and
Internet detectives who found out about cheating in the most
unexpected ways and the name of the moon we're dragging these
liars into the lights. Moon healing?
Nah moon leaving with receipts. Let's do it, bestie.
Let's be honest, we've all been in a relationship where the
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weird vibe hits and you start towonder if your partner's been
acting different or it's all in your head.
And trust me, this episode is all about the unexpected
cheating scandals Redditors uncovered that led to cheating
revelations. Well, let's uncover the sneaky
details that revealed cheating straight from Reddit.
Like look at this story. You won't believe how these
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people crack the case. Let's continue with this story.
Comes from a deleted account. So yeah.
Hopefully they deleted it because they figured it out.
Or they deleted it because they figured it out in a way they
didn't like. Titled my ex try to cheat.
It didn't work out for him though.
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After some time my ex would sleep with his phone in his
pockets. Weird red flag but I never said
anything when I noticed he wouldn't even pull up his phone
in front of me. I knew something was up but if
he just had like a wallpaper of his like dog and he was like
made fun of it, it was like dudebro that's fucking gay and so he
just doesn't want you to think he's gay.
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Hopefully that's how that this ends, but if I feel like it
doesn't. One night it slipped out of his
sweats and I woke up with it near my legs.
That's what she said. I was just going to put it on
the charger honestly but I saw he had a bunch of notifications
and messages from a dating app. Nope, it's not a dog wallpaper.
It is truly cheating man. I wanted to slap him awake but I
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didn't. Good on you Queen.
Control your anger. Deep breath in, deep breath out.
So I created a profile using a friend of mine's pictures that
he never met and I had her approval.
Good approval. Consent is sexy.
She was his type 100% and I knewhe loved blue eyes.
So when we matched like I knew we would, we got to chatting.
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We talked for about a week before I suggested beating up
flirting sexual stuff. He told her, which was me, that
he was single and lived with a friend.
So I suggested him paying for hotel room so we could fuck.
He said he would. We picked a spot.
Oh Lord have mercy when mind youI paid for everything because he
was unemployed after losing his job.
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He joined my savings account over the year with manipulation.
We're family, we take care of each other when we're in tough
spots. He would say whenever I told him
I didn't have extra money. I paid my student loans, all
bills of a one bedroom and the food real quick.
Best days is exactly why it's perfectly fine for you to hide
certain financial information toyour partner, even the
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healthiest of relationships you don't like.
I mean, I guess it varies for each but like if like if you get
the red flags, I don't know why I'm turning into Trump.
If you get the red flags. If you get the red flags that
like you don't feel comfortable talking about money, you
shouldn't be guilted into talking about money because
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money shouldn't even have to be brought up in a relationship
unless it is life or death. Like, let's be fucking real
here. Let's be fucking real.
Because the only other reason they want to talk about is
because they want a weird insight.
Yeah, no, because like it comes to the same like realization
that I need to see his charges. Why do you see his chargers?
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It's because you're acting that way because you want to make
sure he's not spending on only fans or he's going out and
buying things at the the Dr. thru and when you guys agreed on
a a diet, you know what I mean? Like those type of situations,
it doesn't fucking matter. It's their money, they earned
it. Same thing with whoever and
whatever the dynamic of the fucking relationship is.
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Unless it's a kink, unless there's like a financial
degradation kink, then whatever,as long as it's consensual.
Because remember, consent is sexy.
But that's not what's happening anytime somebody wants to know
somebody's money. Things like that.
To a tee. To where?
Oh but we're family we need. It's all manipulation.
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You never need to talk about money unless it's life or death
such as bills and food. Wow, isn't that crazy?
Isn't that insane that you need that to for survival?
Talk about that. But bruh, no, other than that,
if that happens to you, brother,that's already enough of a red
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flag. It's done because there's lack
in so many other aspects of trust.
Let's continue. This boy had the ball sack to
ask me for money in person. I love that comic ball sack that
his mom's birthday was coming upand he wanted to buy her
something nice. No, he didn't.
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Because if you wanted to buy action, speak louder than words.
If somebody wanted to do it and they'll figure out a way, trust
me, Trust me, I swear I'm looking at you bestie making eye
contact and for my my my audio stemmer bestie eye contact.
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So I gave him $50 just because it was hilarious.
At this point I still think about the smile on his face in
that moment. That weekend he left, said he
was going to his mom's and that he'd probably stay the night.
I kissed him goodbye and told him to have a great time.
Man, I couldn't be able to act like that.
Then I packed all of his stuff and left it outside.
I live in the US so it went fast.
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Got the locks changed. He messaged me a few times on
the app. I told him I was running late
because I wanted to look perfectbut I was coming and I'm so
sorry. My friend also sent me some sexy
sexy pictures to send him that that didn't fully include her
face. She's a real one.
I even talked him into jerking off and sending me a video.
Aren't you so happy that you're not married?
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Oh wait, is this? Is this a husband's story?
I don't even remember. I don't even remember Busty.
Then after making him sit until about 1, AMI messaged him on the
dating app a picture of his belong belongings being rummaged
through by a homeless man and toenjoy his stay in a hotel.
As soon as my phone rang, I blocked his number and went to
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bed. Hell yes.
Not even unhinged, honestly. You kept your cool.
I think that's an under reactionin my opinion.
He was outside of my door the Monday I came home from work,
ugly crying, begging, telling mehe was homeless and had nowhere
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to go. Bitch, you've been homeless.
You're a fucking. What do they call those
cockroaches? Yeah, one of those.
One of those when I wasn't having it.
He got angry per usual. Yep, manipulation didn't go
right. Now it's time to yell.
Once he started grabbing and trying to get into my apartment
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I called the police. Oh boy you're so lucky she
doesn't have a firearm. Filed a restraining order
because he did threaten my life and my pets for putting him out.
Found out he ended up moving a few hours away where his only
family is and has a job. Hopefully you learn something.
I don't think he learned anything other than the fact
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that he can't live with you because this is years and years
and years of enabling most likely done by the family.
Not saying they directly raised him to be around people or to
have the morals of doing this toa woman or a friend or anyone.
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It's more so there is not a solid foundation when it comes
to understanding the importance of relationship.
And if he goes back to his family, he's just going to keep
doing it again and again and again and again.
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They have an issue with boundaries because he left for a
reason in the 1st place. Left and stayed with you was
poor the entire time with you asking you for money was
unemployed. You know damn well they weren't.
He wasn't allowed to be unemployed over there.
That's why he's at job again. So he's just going to do it
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again when he doesn't want this job.
He's he honestly, most likely heprobably only got this job
because he's trying to find a girl to like swoon and get get
get another room. He he, he just roommates
surfing. Oh man got to love those type of
people. Oh man top comments Damn you are
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one bad bitch. You need to take the skill and
teach others You are one Jedi Master.
I bow down to your strength and discipline.
Opie replied. Always pass on what you have
learned Yoda, this is the way. OK, all right, bestie, if you
want to learn to stand your ground really hard when it comes
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to like a situation like this, that's extremely like life
altering 36180 flip where it's just everything is everything
will change based off of like figuring out somebody cheated,
right? We're going to use this as an
example, but it could be anywhere from like losing a job
to having to move a family, death, whatever it is, to be
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able to respond accordingly in the heat of the moment, you have
to sit with yourself and write out what your boundaries are.
And remember boundaries, they are not at all perceived to the
people around you unless you acton them.
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So a boundary is a rule. You need to make your rule book
and those are your rules of how you react to things like whether
it be by 20 days I will have, I will make sure that I have, I
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don't know like gotten a job or every month this is my cleaning
list or every year I have to have this much saved or every
day I have to make sure I clean these three things.
You, you have to invest in yourself.
You have to understand where youstand because nobody else knows.
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You see what I mean by when people say the way you treat
people is the way that people should treat you?
You see where I'm going with this?
That's what they mean. That's what they mean you.
You have to know how to treat yourself for other people to
treat you, or how you have to love yourself before you can
love anyone else. That's the same fucking concept.
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Because if she didn't love herself, Because investing in
yourself is love, it's dedication, it's hard work,
right? If she didn't love herself, she
wouldn't have been able to respond to this, right?
Because she wouldn't have made those rules that she has set in
stone that she established through herself.
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And yes, you can make these rules.
I actually highly recommend you best due to at least make 2
boundaries. 2 boundaries. Like you have to write it down.
I understand typing it in a noteapp or like I'm telling you, the
power of the pen on paper. Absolutely insane.
And I know you get a lot of junkmail and I know like you get a
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lot of things in the mail. Just just write on one of those,
man. And yeah, you just write on one
of those so you can visually seeit.
Write down to boundaries that you will always expect to happen
in your life. Don't make them too vague.
Don't be like I my boundary is to have a relationship that'll
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last forever. You have to make them realistic
because don't get me wrong, I want you to have a relationship
that lasts forever in your life.Absolutely.
I'm completely for that. That's not what a boundary is.
That's trying to set in stone the future that you don't have
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control over. More so think of how can I have
a relationship that'll last forever?
Let me think what a relationshipis to me.
Reverse break it down. So when you write down something
and you notice it's very vague and like God damn it, I'm stuck.
Look at the main like keywords. So like the, the nouns like the
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person, the place or the thing or the feeling, the emotion and
break that down. So I don't want to be sad this
today. I want to wake up, not sad.
Let's say that's one of them. Breakdown.
What sad means to you? What What is that feeling?
What is? What is something that you
notice, that you visually see orhear or taste that comes up a
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lot when you feel this way? Break it down, go backwards.
You need to identify the source.It's hard though.
If you have any questions I am genuinely more than help.
Happy to help y'all. Like genuinely, just keep it
simple. Make two of them.
That's that's your plan for today.
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And it shouldn't take you more than a couple minutes, but it
could take you quite a bit of time to break it down though.
And that's perfectly fine because there really isn't no no
time or kind of like grief. There's no correct way to do it
or order to do it. Just know there is a time limit
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and it's your life because your life is the longest thing you'll
ever experience. By the way, if you're still
here, unlike that ex you had in middle school or you're
basically a relationship detective to tap that like
button so you can stay sharp anduncover more of these stories
together. Also, if you have any other
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topics you want to discuss, let me know, OK?
This isn't just my world of the Internet, this is our corner of
the Internet. Got it?
OK, let's keep reading. Am I the asshole for making my
daughter leave because my husband is attracted to her?
Nope. You can just go ahead and close
this thread because I don't wantto know about this.
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This is this is extremely sad but we have to face the things
we don't want to know for changeto happen.
So let's read it. I-55 female, have been married
to my husband and my daughter's stepdad, 63 male for four years.
My 23 year old daughter and I have a complicated relationship.
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She has been diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder.
She has a lot of trauma and watching me and my husband's
horrible marriage go down and was bullied in school when she
told me she was being bullied bypeers.
My view that all children are innocence really tied my hands
because I told her that if I said anything to them I would be
an adult harassing a child. She has blamed me for that ever
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since and keeps referring to this one time where the kids at
school called her trash through the fact that she wasn't taking
care of her hygiene due to depression.
Part. Not all of my response was
telling her to take a shower andI bought her new clothes.
The bullying finally ended with a expulsion and a suspension of
the ringleaders. She still throws the fact that a
school clinic volunteer told herthat if she was their kid, she'd
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have permission to punch back ifadministration didn't do
anything. Hello, what are you doing, Ma?
What are you doing, Mama? Hello.
Wake up, I thought. Like having her live with me
while she finishes school and gets a job would help heal some
childhood wounds if my second husband and I modeled a healthy
relationship. Just because it helps you
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doesn't mean it's going to help them.
OK. However, my daughter now doesn't
get along with my husband. She is very introverted,
creative person who likes immersing herself in escapism.
So she'd get annoyed if she was sitting eating alone and my
husband would sit across from her and eat, saying she ate
later so she could eat alone. However, my husband started
acting distant from me and my daughter complained that his
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eyes lingered for too long. Dude, this mom should have never
been a mom. She got very angry and there was
a lot of shouting and slamming of doors.
Finally my husband admitted he'sattracted to her and it's hard
to be around her all day. Said she was walking temptation
and said that's why he was avoiding sex with me.
Straight to jail. Straight to jail.
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This poor girl, she's just getting bullied.
Mom's like oh they they it's just innocence.
It's just innocence. Nah bitch no.
See being passive gets you fucking nowhere when it comes to
endangerment. Specifically endangerment of
children. Jesus.
And then being passive about like the stepdad literally just
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told you he is a pedophile. Straight up a pedo APDF file and
he's not having sex with you because of it.
And you go to Reddit, not the police.
Oh my God I was so upset to hearthis.
I don't blame my daughter for this but at the same time the
situation has become unbearable.That sentence alone shouldn't
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have even been a thing. What do you mean?
But at the same time there should be No but you are allowed
to be upset to hear this. However you shouldn't even be
around this dude so it shouldn'tbe bearable at all.
Like you shouldn't. It should be done like set in
stone something I can't even read straight.
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Something would have to give andI couldn't collect my thoughts
with both of them still being inthe house.
Does he own the house? Because two things can happen
ma'am. Step one the house is not yours
because y'all married and he's he's APDF file and two if it's
your house kick him the fuck out.
(18:59):
Wow, wow, problem solved. We love doing that.
We love solving complex problems.
Jesus. So I have my daughter money to
stay at an extended stay. Oh, so I gave my daughter money
to stay at an extended stay hotel and asked her to utilize
her college's emergency financial and housing resources
(19:20):
they have for students in need. Send him to the hotel, have him
pay for it. No one.
Bro. I don't know how your daughter
you're still alive. Like, not in the mean way.
I hope she continues to do whatever she's doing to stay
alive, but holy fuck. She responded by storming out
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and telling my ex, who is now criticizing social media, using
it to paint me as the villain ofall villains.
News flash, bitch, you are. I'm not abandoning my daughter.
Yeah, you are. You took a dude's side that's
supposed to love you, that tellsyou he doesn't want to put his
Dick in you because he wants to put his Dick in your daughter
(20:05):
and you send her away. OK, she qualifies for those
resources anyway. Since my ex is unemployed and we
are in substantial debt, I I really hope this is written by
AII. Hope this is rage bait.
I hope this is rage bait. I just need time to process the
(20:28):
situation and don't want to leave my house to stay with my
daughter when I have a marriage to figure out whether or not to
save. Bitch you got better be saving
your daughter. Honestly at this point this is
just public execution on both parts.
Like kill the mom kill the dad. Like sorry you you are enabling
APDF file and you're enabling neglect like get the get the
(20:53):
fuck out of here. What does Reddit have to say?
Tough comments. You're the asshole one.
I have hard time believing that her she did just come from
seeing you and your ex fights. DID stems from repeated trauma.
Oh dissociative identity disorder.
OK I was like what do you mean DID?
I must be so angry I can't even read straight.
So let's reread that top comment.
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You're the asshole one. I have a hard time believing
that her identity identity disorder just came from seeing
you and your ex fights. This stems from repeated trauma
before the age of 9. Two, you're punishing your
daughter for your husband being inappropriate.
Kick him out of the house while you figure things out.
I must have really put this story in the way back of my mind
(21:37):
in the area where SpongeBob likes to like, burn and like
shred all the documents. For those that know, you know,
because I upvoted this comment. I don't even remember the story.
I'm like I got traumatized by this story because I don't even
remember reading it. Oh my gosh somebody replied to
this? I can't believe more people are
(21:59):
mentioning this. Someone doesn't develop this
disorder from just watching their parents fight.
Hate to even imagine what kind of trauma that poor girl must
have been through to feel like her only way to escape and feel
safe was to split off aspects ofher personality into separate
beings. The mutter.
The mutter. I'm so mad I can't even speak
right. The mother is a piece of shit
for the way she is threatening her daughter now, but I would
(22:20):
bet money that her mistreatment of her daughter goes way back.
Yeah. I mean, you heard about how like
the administration would have done something if she she was
the if they were the parent and not her.
But for some reason, the mom cango ahead and like, remember
that, but not further details tomake herself look like, oh, see,
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I listened to this, I listened to that.
Bro do not create fucking children if you can't fucking be
there for them. Damn, let's keep reading.
Came here to say this. I was diagnosed with dead and
2021 and have done extensive research.
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It stems from abuse so severe and ongoing that a child's mind
has to compart. Compartment mentalism.
That's a lot of syllables. Compartmentalism.
Compartmentalism that it's happening to them so that they
can develop as normally as possible.
This includes physical abuse, sexual abuse, extreme emotional
abuse, and extreme neglect. And some rare cases can also be
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developed. The child has serious medical
issues that requires invasive and traumatizing surgeries.
Her daughter did not get this from witnessing, she got it from
one that she endured. OP, you sound like my mother.
Just as selfish and delusional. You're the asshole, majorly.
Oh my God, please don't tell me this account suspended.
Please don't tell me this account suspended.
Scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll.
(23:48):
Throw away me 4158. That's where that comes from.
OK, so no, this fucking bitch posted two years ago and she
didn't reply to no motherfuckingcomment.
No motherfucking comment. I hope you didn't reply to your
comment because you fucking killed yourself.
You, you offed yourself, you offed yourself and you're done.
And your, your daughter now has a house in her name that she can
(24:12):
sell because fuck that stepdad. And she can go remake her own
life, leave the state, do whatever she needs to do because
wow, no, this is not normal. This is so bad.
This is why I am so happy peoplego to social platforms that are
public. Because you know damn well this
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mother would have never talked to anyone else about this.
Because she, she didn't want it,this story to be associated with
her ego and with her face and with whatever it however it
would spread. Because what if she's in a small
town? Because you know how small towns
are. One person knows one thing, you
know three other things about the next person down.
OK, so that's my theory on why this mom decided to do this.
(24:57):
And yeah, wow. Good for her though, to have
this experience of just utter disgust, to not be a cycle for
this daughter. I hope that she can find it in
(25:17):
her that love isn't all you need.
You need love from yourself. You need yourself.
You don't even have to fully love yourself.
You need to at least be able to tolerate yourself to build trust
with yourself. So that's what I hope for Opie's
daughter. Another comment real quick.
(25:38):
I feel so bad for that young girl.
You are a terrible mother. You failed to protect her before
and you're doing it again. No wonder why she has issues.
What should have happened is that you sent that D bag husband
of yours packing. If it's your house, assure your
daughter that you'll protect her.
Yeah. No.
Straight to jail, straight to execution.
Not even injectable. She doesn't deserve injectable.
I believe that they, both stepdad and mother, both get
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firing squad, public firing squad.
Or, you know, eye for eye, toothfor tooth.
Send her out. Send her out to one of those
countries and let her see what it feels like to be in a place
where her opinion doesn't matter.
And the basement walls are very cold.
(26:22):
Just caught wife of 18 years posted two months ago.
Let's read it. I got a friend request on
Facebook from a woman I didn't know.
OK, we had some of the same friends so I accepted it.
Come to find out she caught my wife and her husband and her bed
together. Whoa man, got to love similar
(26:42):
friends. A similar friends doesn't like
Facebook like give you recommended friends based off of
like the GPS locations of where you hang out a lot.
I've heard about that. Have you ever experienced that?
Have you ever been jump scared by like a Co worker you hated?
You're like Oh my God block thatimmediately let's continue.
(27:03):
She had her daughter in her armswhen this happened.
She knows my wife and thought they were friends.
I dropped my wife off at anotherfriend's house so they could go
to the Expo all weekend together.
Come to find out her friend was already there and this dude's
truck was parked on the streets when I left.
I started getting the messages so I went back and the truck was
gone and his wife said it was definitely his.
(27:25):
We have two kids together and she has been using her daughter
as an excuse for months to go tothis other friend's house who
was covering for her while my daughter would stay overnight
with her daughter. This is why both parents should
do like that babysitting interview or like should both
meet the people who I don't know, watch your fucking kid
Your your your shared DNA that'swalking.
(27:48):
OK I guess He also come has comeover to her friend's house when
my my doctor when my daughter and wife are there.
I'm finding all this out today after I drop her off.
I tried to call my wife but no answer so I text her that she is
caught and she denies it. I finally got her to admit it
after a few hours of back and forth text.
I'm hurt but feel glad that I know so I don't have to deal
(28:09):
with an unfaithful wife. She doesn't work but I do and
I'd work a lot so we can afford to live.
What is up with these? Like these people that literally
don't have to work and they justtake advantage of the people
that give them the option to nothave to work.
Are you ridiculous? It's it's so delusional.
(28:32):
So delusional. She doesn't work but I do and I
work a lot so we can afford to live.
I got a bonus last week for $8000 and it's all gone with my
paycheck from today as well. She really put me and her family
in a bad way. She not only wrecked the other
family but ours too. I never cheated and don't
understand why she did now. I think how many times she has
(28:53):
done this over the years. Report that way that she lost
that money. Fraud that bitch.
Fraud that bitch. OK, you hear it?
Can we spell it out? FRAUDDABITCH.
Cool top comment. You have to leave her.
(29:14):
If you don't, you won't rest well forever.
If you do, you will enter hell briefly.
Some people here will tell you don't leave the house, don't
start dating. That is the worst boilerplate
advice. These things should never be
said to anyone because they may work for some and they may kill
others. Exactly so important.
The way that somebody copes is so specific to their own
(29:34):
perspective and experiences of life.
We talk about that a lot over inmy freaking Reddit community
that I made for us to where we talk about the what is hurting
not why it's hurting. It's called.
Why Did That hurt? Go over there.
I want to talk to you about emotions because I'm apparently
(29:55):
the Doctor Phil now. OK, I guess I don't really.
I hope not because he's a prettyfucking bad person.
We can talk more about that if you'd like, because there are a
lot of stories that were posted online about who he really is.
Yeah, but yeah, no, I don't. Don't, dude.
Don't. Don't, don't, don't.
(30:16):
The only thing that you're entertaining is the idea that
you're getting some type of revenge on her.
And unfortunately, these type ofpeople, the only thing that
hurts them is when they're cut off because they're parasites.
They're the little cockroaches of the of the human race, the
leeches, the the ones that can never, ever, ever pay anything
(30:43):
out of pocket unless it's like for the cigarettes or for their
weed or for just. And if you though, unfortunately
have found yourself ever in thatsituation or you are currently
feeling like, wait, I have only been buying this.
I have only been doing that. I mean, nothing's wrong with you
(31:05):
if that's all you're buying, right?
If that's all you're buying, whatever.
But like, are are you happy withhow are things going?
And by that I mean, what does happiness mean to you?
Is this something that you see yourself comfortable and
(31:25):
sustainable in five years from now, a year from now, six months
from now? See, you see what I'm trying to
do here? I'm trying to make you think
because it's not to think to make you feel bad for living a
lifestyle that's like that. It's more so to make you think
(31:46):
and be more conscious of your surroundings because it's easy
to get locked into your own mindand your own idea of like what
you think's going on around. Just just just take a step back
and think and make sure that thethe life you're living is
actually worth it. And it really is maybe not the
(32:08):
actions, though. Maybe you can identify some
things that you can fix and adapt and change, and that's
perfectly fine. Nothing is perfect.
And I want you to be able to be uncomfortable because you have
to be uncomfortable to be comfortable.
You have to change. You cannot just stay.
You cannot just stay to who you are ever.
(32:30):
That's why you have to trust yourself.
You see where I'm going with this?
It goes back to the foundations lesson that we had with that one
episode. OK, OK, just think about it.
And it's not to make you feel bad.
It's to make sure that you are happy.
That's all it is. Literally that's the whole point
of everything I'm doing on here is for you to make sure that you
can establish a relationship with you.
(32:53):
OK, got it. Love you.
Or you could say it's aggressive, but I, I, I try to
hold your hand during it. OK, But I will not enable.
Love you bestie, a pretty heartbreaking title.
I already forgave her cheating but now I saw details and I
can't cope with the way she had sex.
(33:17):
All righty, we have a really good lesson to learn here on
this story and it has to do withif you don't set your boundaries
for yourself, no one else will follow through because they
aren't mind readers and they don't know what you want, they
only know how you react. I am really freaking out right
(33:38):
now and hope you guys can help me.
My girlfriend of 2.5 years has cheated and I already forgave
her. Now I learned that the sex was
much worse than I expected and Idon't know how to handle this.
What was she like getting fuckedby a horse?
It happened about two months ago.
My girlfriend was at a party at the shared apartment of some of
her friends. Nothing special.
I wasn't in town as I had to work in a different city.
(34:01):
The next day she called me crying and told me that she had
cheated. I was shocked.
When I came back the day after that we had a long talk.
Hey, at least you didn't say shegot assaulted.
Because a lot of a lot of stories, sometimes they they do
those cry wolf cards, the fake Rcard.
Yeah it's absolutely ridiculous.I'm I'm glad she didn't take
(34:22):
that route. When I came back the day after
that we had a long talk. She didn't tell me much details
and I didn't ask for it. She said that she had a few
drinks and just went with the flow and then had sex from
there. Not the makeup sex bro.
She didn't even get STD checked.I actually didn't ask with who.
Oh no my bad my bad my bad. I was just my brain is just
(34:47):
assuming honestly the worst thatOpie with the title because I'm
like how are you going to be? How are you going to say you
like are OK with us and then getupset later?
But no, she said that she had a few drinks and just went with
the flow and then had sex there.OK, never mind understand now
got it. Actually seemed to be very
sorry. I tried to get over it.
It took me some time but I actually managed to really
(35:08):
forgive her and I thought her relationship was on a good track
again. Her cheating was a topic at all
anymore. I meant that I was wondering
about details from time to time,but I didn't want to talk about
it and thought that it doesn't matter.
Well, it does matter. If you want to think about it,
it's another thing. Stop dismissing your emotions
because it'll just bottle up andexplode.
Literally talk about it and if you can't talk about it,
(35:30):
eliminate it. Not your thought, but the
trigger. However, I was very very wrong.
Yesterday I talked to a guy who was there as well and he seemed
to be very surprised that I had been able to forgive her.
I oh God it was a gang bang I bet.
I tried to explain to him that Iappreciate her honesty and that
she never tried to hide it at all.
(35:51):
I wasn't able to understand his confusion until I was finally
brave enough to ask about details.
I was blacked out when he told me.
Oh my God. To cut a Long story short, it
wasn't just normal sex with one guy.
She apparently slept with all, at least three of them, and did
things she'd never do with me. I still have no words for it
actually. I thought he was making this up,
(36:11):
but he had proof and I can't getthis off my mind now.
I don't know how to ever cope with this.
I know that I didn't ask for details, but it still feels like
she lied to me even though she technically maybe didn't.
I mean, she left that part out for a reason.
That's lying still. Because you're clouding
(36:31):
judgments. You're changing the the story
for a reason, for her benefit. That's lying.
I hate that I went through a lotof mental trouble to keep this
relationship alive and now have to learn this.
I'm completely freaking out right now.
Yeah, go ahead and go ahead and kick her out and go ahead and
download some dating apps and get your frustration out.
(36:53):
Opie. Top comment.
You just happen to stumble upon this.
Imagine what you don't know. Yep Yep.
Especially if she comes around saying that she's pregnant.
Dude, she's going to try to say it's yours.
That's all I'm going to say. And the relationship has done
OP. She's not been too totally
honest with what went down. You'll never trust her again.
(37:14):
I'm sorry you went through that.She probably delighted she's
managed to get away with it without you knowing the whole
story. Yep.
And they have proof and it's a video.
That's probably where she gets her finances from.
That's all I'm going to say OK From ask Reddit, what's the
wildest cheating story you've witnessed or happened to you?
(37:36):
Top comment. My ex-wife pretended to be
admitted to a mental health wardfor long term treatment while
actually staying with her new man and cheating on me.
Wow, an addiction to sex and adultery.
What a wonderful ex-wife title. You should probably put that on
a trophy. I know there's some like stores
that do that. My friend's mom was in a
(37:59):
relationship with a guy for years and they ended up getting
engaged and marry. The guy was a senior director of
a company for which he travelledevery week abroad for business.
Eventually the guy had a heart attack and when my friend's mom
turned up at the hospital, his wife and two kids were there
also. Oh bitch.
(38:20):
Oh shit, oh God damn, get Jerry Springer in here.
Turned out he was already married with children and living
a double life. The whole time when he went
abroad for business he was simply going back to his actual
family. I can't trust anyone these days.
Not even men with jobs. Huh.
In a small town the husband kepttelling people he had an open
(38:42):
marriage. Finally someone asked his wife
about it. She was unaware of this new
arrangement. I wonder if he had the Poly
stare. You know how you know, like why
they always look like that? Oh man, I knew a guy years ago
that was a private investigator.Many times he was approached by
a spouse who suspected their partner was cheating.
(39:03):
He had a slam dunk strategy. He would suggest to his client
sign up for a course, whether a hobby thing or educational.
The key was that the class wouldhappen for a period of weeks,
all on the same day of the week and all at the same time of the
day. Then while his client was in
class, he would follow. The spouse caught them every
time. Wow.
(39:23):
He also ran a pottery course every Wednesday at 3:00.
What the hell dude? Bro, just work in the sex
industry if you want to fuck on the clock.
There's the last I'm going to read.
My mother-in-law is API preventing investigator.
I would assume it still works every single time according to
her. What does that mean?
(39:44):
What does that mean? What does that mean?
Let's pull it open. What does API mean?
Uh, I've just realized this is the first time I've ever heard a
woman being in Pi. In fiction it's always a dude,
as are the few I've seen in reallife.
A guy went to uni with was a classic Stoner skater he and
(40:05):
worked as a Is it? Is it .0 in the porn industry?
What the hell it is API mean? Am IA little like behind on
this? Hold on.
We're Googling it. Googling.
Always Google something you don't know.
Stay curious. OK, hold on, hold on, hold on.
(40:34):
Yeah, it is API. Yeah, because.
OK, gotcha. Cool.
I just want to make sure. OK, I just want to make sure.
Safe than sorry. Education is key.
Education is key. But that's pretty funny.
That's really, man, I could honestly read these for a while.
Genuinely. All right, bestie, it's time to
(40:56):
see what you had to say about the question of the day.
Today's question, drum roll. What's a random fact about you
no one ever believes? And right here we have a comment
coming from Chris. I never got diagnosed with any
disability because according to the doctor I can hear, but it
(41:17):
turns out I might be autistic and dyslexic.
Bestie, get a different doctor. Check out his reviews.
I have a feeling this doctor is not giving you the proper care
you deserve. OK, let me know if you have any
(41:38):
questions. Another one from time when I was
a kid, my hair went from straight to curly.
Like, did you change locations or did it maybe?
Yeah, I guess. I guess people don't really
believe that one because I'm over here questioning it too.
(42:00):
Did you like change states? Are you in the same state?
How do you how do you do that? Did you get a perm?
Do you have a sibling that hatesyou and like put like perm gel
in your cream like your your shampoo and from squishy dog?
Loving these usernames by the way.
I have an incredibly accurate gut instinct and I have dreams
(42:22):
about events before they happen.Say all you want, I dreamed of
people I didn't know existed until years later when it
happened. Squishy dog.
I have so many questions. Not questioning you, just I want
to know more about it. Wow and I got hit by a bat.
(42:46):
What we have another person saying I have dreams before bad
things happen. Before I got in an accident.
My brother's accident in the Navy body found on the bike
trail. Why is my algorithm picking up
all these psychics? I mean, I'm not complaining,
that's awesome. Another comment that I'm the
second oldest of my siblings. I've been confused for my little
(43:08):
sister, four years younger than me and the sibling lineup, and I
really don't think I look that much younger that people don't
believe I am my age. That has to be extremely
frustrating because how are you going to question my age?
My birthday, my family dynamic, like at that point, like nobody
(43:29):
even just believes anything about you.
That sucks, I'm sorry. I'm sorry about that.
And that comment came from Tan. Another one by Zachary.
I can only see out of one eye, but I can change which eye it
is. What if you gasped, laughed, or
just knew what was coming? Like, comment, share and
(43:51):
subscribe maybe. And you can also unlock bonus
episodes on Spotify at $3 a month and join the Gato
Guardians here on YouTube for exclusive perks.
And if you want to spell the T on your own wild story, we've
got a whole community on Reddit called Why Did That Hurt where
we focus on the why and not the what.
(44:13):
Just go over there, it'll make sense.
Read the description and please,please don't just post karma
farming AI slop. OK?
We need a break. It's it's like when you go to
any like convention nowadays, you just have 3D printed slop
all the time. But we, we need that.
(44:35):
We need that in a way to remind us how bad it is.
And this subreddit isn't one of those reminders.
It's a reminder that humans can be creative in storytelling
their own experiences. You get it, bestie.
OK, thanks for spending time with me today.
(44:55):
Remember, cheaters get caught, besties get smarter, and karma's
got better aimed than Tuxedo Mask.
I'll be here next time. Same place.
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