November 18, 2024 • 61 mins
Welcome to The Power Lounge! Join host Amy Vaughan and Diamond Drip as they delve into overcoming imposter syndrome, aligning with natural design, and achieving genuine leadership. Explore the experiences of two skilled women, emphasizing the importance of aligning with natural design for positive outcomes. Dive into human design profiles, urging internal validation. Reflect on emotional intelligence and societal impact.
Join us to learn how embracing authenticity and reshaping success can lead to genuine leadership and empowerment. Discover actionable insights for conquering imposter syndrome and unlocking your true potential.
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Guest Website: https://elevateherworth.com/diamond-drip/
Episode Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
00:51 - Empowering Women to Overcome Self-Doubt Limits
03:44 - Harnessing Video to Conquer Fear and Boost Confidence
09:09 - Navigating Pressure for Executive Leadership Development
12:09 - Embracing Human Design: Unlocking Innate Gifts
14:05 - Countering Imposter Syndrome by Embracing Uniqueness
21:38 - Simplifying Decision-Making by Trusting Gut Feelings
23:59 - Overcoming Fear of Judgment to Embrace Personal Power
28:11 - Understanding Energy and Design Capacity
32:52 - Empathy Without Emotional Overwhelm
34:37 - Valuing Intuition Amidst Logic Prioritization
40:20 - Trusting Internal Guidance and Self-Reflection
42:37 - Gene Keys: Transforming Shadows into Personal Strengths
47:33 - Following Instincts Beyond Algorithmic Engagement Rules
51:36 - Authenticity: Embracing Your True Self
53:56 - Access Human Design Chart and Resources on Website
57:47 - Balancing Knowledge, Reputation, and Advice with Human Design
01:00:45 - Outro
Quote of the Episode:
"When you follow what truly feels right for you, not only do you find more success, but you also experience greater fulfillment." - Diamond Drip
"To unlock our full potential, we must be true to ourselves and break free from societal pressures and false expectations."- Diamond Drip
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
All right.
Hello everyone, and welcome toour weekly power lounge.
This is your place to hearauthentic conversations from
those who have power to share.
My name is Amy Vaughn and I amthe owner and chief empowerment
officer of Together Digital, adiverse and collaborative
community of women who sharetheir knowledge, power and
connections.
You can join the movement attogetherindigitalcom, and today
(00:34):
we are tackling something thatresonates with so many of us
that nagging little voice calledimposter syndrome that whispers
to us to say that oftentimesthat you are not enough, and I
could not be more excited tointroduce to you our guest today
, diamond Drip, who is here toshow all of us how you can turn
that voice down or shut it downin most cases, let's hope right
(01:01):
With our authentic power.
Diamond is a brilliant coach anda speaker who has been featured
in New York Weekly and the QEDInc on QED Radio.
She has taken her background invisual communications and brand
strategy and combined it withthe fascinating worlds of human
design and gene keys to helpwomen break free from self-doubt
(01:23):
and step into their truepotential.
What I love about Diamond isthat she is not just sharing a
theory.
She has walked this pathherself, transforming from a
stressed out entrepreneur into aconfident leader who helps
others do the same.
And one of my favorite thingsthat she says is that the limit
doesn't exist, but fear andself-doubt will make you think
(01:44):
it does.
Love a good quote.
So whether you're questioningyour qualifications, gosh,
comparing yourself to otherstalk about the thief of joy
right there or you're ready tojust trust yourself more deeply,
you are in for some greatlearning and new tools to be
able to explore and helpyourself make that shift from
(02:07):
imposter to empowered.
Diamond.
Welcome to the Power Lounge.
Really excited to have you herewith us today and to dive into
this conversation.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I'm so excited to be here with you, amy, and our
listeners.
As much as I don't likeimposter syndrome, I love
talking about ways that you cancombat it, because so many of us
battle it.
It doesn't matter you know whatpoint you are.
Imposter syndrome kind of goeswith you.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Absolutely.
And it's been one thinghonestly lately that I have been
taking into account how manypeople feel it.
Not just women Men as well feela deep sense of this.
They're just not willing toadmit it.
So, fellas, if you're listening, this is for you too.
Okay, right, let's getvulnerable here.
And I also just want to say Ihave only just recently learned
(02:55):
of human design.
Oh my gosh, we could have awhole another hour episode on
this.
I think it's just absolutelyfascinating.
Everyone who listens to thispodcast knows I love personal
development, anything that helpsone me understand myself more
deeply, because what I loveabout that is it helps me
understand others more deeply.
I think it makes us betterhumans.
(03:16):
It makes us better parents,better leaders.
That kind of stuff is justreally cool.
Gene Keys is newer to me, soI'm excited to learn more about
both of those things and to letour listeners learn more about
these things, because I've beennerding out.
But before we get into any ofthat, I would love for you to
take us back to your days invisual communication and brand
strategy, a space a lot of ourwomen in Together Digital are in
(03:39):
, and share with us a little bitabout that and what really
first clued you into what mightbe.
You know, there might be adeeper layer into helping people
show up more authentically.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Absolutely so.
When I was predominantlytalking about visual
communications and brandstrategy, one of the ways that I
would always encourage myclients to get out there was
through video, and that's whenall the stuff would come up
right.
The fear of judgment, the fearof engagement, the fear of you
(04:14):
know what if I say somethingwrong and I'm like this is your
message how can you say yourmessage wrong?
Like it was baffling to me, andI was at a point in my own
professional journey where I wastrying to figure out what my
business superpower was and Ifound that it was.
(04:35):
When I found these tools,everything kind of just clicked.
And once I started to see howmuch these tools were helping me
step into my authenticity andnot just step into it, but be
confident in my ability to dothe thing, because so many of us
with imposter syndrome, wequestion our ability to do the
thing, we question whether weactually belong at the table.
(04:58):
And here I had this tangibleblueprint of like no, you're
designed to do the thing.
And once I startedexperimenting with how it could
work for me, I was like, oh,there's no way, right, like it's
like the best kept secret.
It's like no way, yeah, it's noway, especially because, like I
(05:19):
said, it helped me.
But then I received morevalidation on just how it worked
, because I pulled my daughter'sdesign, I pulled my partner's
design and I was like oh my gosh, these are cheat codes for you
guys too.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Oh, I love the term cheat codes, that's such a great
analogy, yeah, and we'll getinto the definition and into
deep diving more about humandesign and well and what that
means.
But you know you mentioned yourown journey from stressed out
entrepreneur to a confidentleader and I'm just curious,
like what was the turning pointthat made you realize that
(05:55):
something needed to change?
Like sometimes that's part ofthe journey, right Is like that
self awareness and recognitionthat I need to stop and slow
down and something has to change.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah.
So I was in a year-longbusiness coaching program that
taught a framework that you knowmany of us have been in this
scenario, especially if you'vebeen in the coaching space for a
while.
You enter this program and it'sknow we're gonna teach you the
steps that you need to createthis amazing income and impact
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in your business.
And you know I'm doing thethings.
I'm seeing other people havesuccess and I'm not having
success.
And I'm like how, how is thatpossible?
Like, especially coming from abackground where external
validation was something that,you know, I related or equated
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to my success, and so I wasalways a straight A student and
I'm like I'm doing all the stuffthat would give me a straight A
in executing these frameworksand somehow something is
misaligned.
And you know, when things didn'twork, I doubled down, I bought
into more intensives and I waslike this is insane.
(07:13):
How am I, you know, spendingall this time and money and
energy and effort learning theseframeworks and like somehow
there's still a disconnectframeworks, and like somehow
there's still a disconnect.
And so it wasn't, until Irealized I was like, well,
you're, you're actually like,you're doing things.
Some things are, you know,creating traction, creating some
(07:39):
form of success.
It just doesn't look how youwant.
So why don't you take a look atwhat you're defining as success
and you and you redefine thatfor yourself, for yourself.
So that was really like thebusiness coaching program.
It brought up a lot of stuff,and so that realization that you
know come to Jesus moment, asit were.
(07:59):
It was the thing that was like,okay, something has to change.
And instead of seeking out moreexternal things, why don't you
look internally and see what'sin there instead?
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Absolutely.
I want to share this storyreally quickly because it just
happened yesterday.
It's not exactly in alignmentwith, like, the human design
aspect of things, but it is this.
It's exactly what you'redescribing in the sense of we
often go outside of ourselves tofind the answers.
And in this context I'm in aroom full of women leaders going
(08:35):
through a women leader cohortfor mostly women in corporate,
and we're talking about anddiscussing executive presence.
And as we're discussing it,it's just rubbing me the wrong
way and I can't explain in themoment quite how it's rubbing me
(08:56):
the wrong way.
But as the other women in theroom are having their moments
kind of verbally processing andexpressing, what I'm hearing and
realizing is that they'regrappling with.
They want to really just knowwhat it means to be
authentically themselves asleaders and not be told what a
leader should look and act like.
(09:18):
And I said how often are menasked to work on their executive
leadership?
But how many times in an annualreview have you been asked or
approached to work on yourexecutive leadership or put in a
situation where you're likehere's this article women read
this article executive presence,you know, because it's just a
(09:40):
given.
And so it's like we'reconstantly being asked to put
into, be put into thesecontainers or work within these
guardrails.
And I do think burnout comesnot from the overextension of
ourselves in the sense ofconstantly working too much.
It's almost working against thethings that we think are
supposed to be the things thatwe're working towards.
So it's like the shoulds rightand it's like those constant
(10:03):
running up against the shouldsand the containers that other
people have built for us.
And there was just this momentthat when I was like you know,
why are we even talking aboutexecutive presence Like we have
it?
It's just really about how wewant to define it for ourselves.
This one woman who works for avery, very like corporate
company in the sense that theystill have to show up in suits
(10:25):
every day in the office fivedays a week says I have been
poring over executive presencebooks.
I probably have five of them athome.
I am throwing them all away.
I'm getting rid of all of them.
I'm throwing them all away andI am going to spend more time
with myself journaling andlooking at how I lead and how I
want to show up in the room, howI want to make people feel, and
(10:48):
journaling and looking at how Ilead and how I want to show up
in the room, how I want to makepeople feel, and that's going to
be my executive presence and itwas just such a wonderful
moment to see that it was justlike I want to stand up and
applaud for her, just to kind ofsee that.
I want to Right.
It was just so cool, I mean,because, especially I know I've
been there, I've been thatperson that's like this is the
model, this is the behavior.
If I want to succeed, this iswhat I need to follow and this
is where human design, I think,is such a fascinating,
(11:12):
fascinating break down what itis and why it is such a powerful
tool overall, but also in thecontext of overcoming imposter
syndrome.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Yeah, absolutely so.
Human design is a synthesis ofa bunch of different ancient and
modern sciences, and what itdoes is it actually maps them
over each other to create whatwe in human design call a body
graph, and when you look at thisbody graph, it shows you how
your energy flows, it shows youwhat your strengths are, and
(11:53):
there's so much insight that canbe gained down to what
environment you thrive best in,how you digest food, and what
your perspective is andmotivation is when you're moving
throughout the world.
And one of the things that Ihave found to be deeply
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satisfying in human design isthe main theory behind it.
So we as souls incarnated inthis lifetime to experience
ourselves, and so what I loveabout human design is it helps
you to almost navigate and movethrough and welcome
(12:35):
opportunities with lessresistance, similar to the story
that you told about the personthat you met a couple of days
ago, or was it yesterday?
We spend so much energy andeffort trying to be what we
think we should be, or trying tobe who other people expect us
(12:55):
to be, and what human designdoes is it's like no, this is
how you were designed.
These were the gifts that yoursoul chose in this lifetime to
be successful, and if you stoptrying to control everything,
because we as humans, especiallyfrom a cultural perspective, we
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have come to this belief thatif we just plan enough, if we
just do enough things that wecan control the outcome, we just
do enough things that we cancontrol the outcome.
And many of us are learning andseeing that that's actually not
.
That's actually not true.
Like there are so many sayingsabout you know, life is
happening.
Life is, you know, doing thingswhile you're busy making plans,
(13:38):
and it's so true.
So one of the things that Ilove most is that it's this kind
of surrender that happens.
It's like, OK, well, if we areable to let go of this sense of
control that we think that wehave over the situation and get
out of our heads and get intoour bodies and tap into the
wisdom of our vessel, and thegifts that we were, you know
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that are that we chose in thislifetime, the gifts that we were
, you know that are that wechose in this lifetime, we can
welcome and redefine successwith so much less resistance,
without bumping into so manydifferent things.
And so, when it comes to thecontext of imposter syndrome,
one of the things that I foundis that it helps you understand
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what makes you different.
A lot of people say that humandesign is the science of
differentiation, and so, withthat in mind, when you start to
understand that literally soI've pulled over 200 human
design charts at this point andnot a single one of them looks
exactly like somebody else's andso it's this kind of
(14:47):
understanding that how can youknow, there's that saying of
like comparing apples to oranges.
If we are all designeddifferently, why are we
comparing ourselves to thingsthat are outside of ourselves,
to people that are outside ofourselves, to accomplishments
that you know we?
We have our own accomplishmentsand so that's really at the
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root of imposter syndrome.
Is this kind of comparison,this feeling of being like you
know you should be further alongor you should have this many
things because that person hasas many things.
And when you start tounderstand that we're all like,
all know we're different, butlike this is like tangible, your
energy flows differently.
(15:31):
It's like well, how can Icompare myself to this other
person?
Speaker 1 (15:36):
yeah, yeah, it's like looking at two different cars.
It's like having like a tinylittle fuel efficient electric
car versus like a Ferrari andsaying they're going to get to
the same place at the same timein the same way.
You know, it's just, it's not,there's no comparison.
And when you take comparisonout of the equation, yeah, there
(15:56):
is a lot less suffering.
I also have loved learning.
You know outside of, like theenergy types, like the
manifesting type, specific andnon-specific, you know the ways
in which you are meant tomanifest.
I have two friends that are bothrestaurateurs, both about to
open up a restaurant actuallyone who has and one who is
working on it, and the one whoalready has is just, you know
(16:20):
it's been rough.
You know physically, mentally,emotionally, and you know I
worry about her in the sense oflike all that she has been
through to get this place openand she has just been planning
every moment of every day forthe last more than six months.
It's been a year and six monthsprobably.
She works close to 120 hours aweek and you know you can see it
(16:42):
and feel it on her week and youcan see it and feel it on her
and the other friend, so verysimilar type of restaurant is
working on opening it yet alsotraveling to Italy and had the
whole restaurant flood out twoweeks before the restaurant was
meant to open.
And we're getting together,we're having a conversation, and
(17:03):
one asks, you know, one asksthe other well, what are you
going to do?
Are you going to do a softopening?
Are you delaying your hardopening?
You know very specificquestions, right?
And the other friend's, likeyou know, I mean, I'll just,
I'll figure it out.
So very nonspecific, and in thatmoment I was like, oh my gosh,
I wonder what both of your humandesign types are like.
So I put them into, I pull uptheir charts, right, I know?
(17:31):
See, I'm such a nerd about thisalready.
Pull up their charts.
And what do you know?
One, they're both manifestinggenerators.
So not much of a surprise there.
They share some very similargifts and they are both
non-specific.
The first woman that is drivingherself into the ground and
making herself sick, who wasinsisting on being so specific,
is working so out of alignment,like she's getting there, but
she's so unwell in the process,you know, while the other one is
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, you know, you know, she's like, just like her, she's got a
catering business.
Everything is like going herway.
Sometimes I joke and say thatshe's like sat on a leprechaun
because she's just so damn lucky, like so much stuff comes her
way and it's just, you know, shejust manifests such great
opportunities and business forherself and such a great team
and again, definitely works hard, but it just it does like you
(18:19):
said, it just comes easy.
It seems to come so much easierand she's so much lighter
because of it and it really?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
I think it is non-specific.
Go ahead.
What?
Do you remember what herprofile was?
Does she have a two in there?
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Oh, let me look, I probably I have them in my app
so, yeah, I can tell you reallyquickly.
It's so I think they might'veeven had like the same.
They might've even had the samenumber types, and I do love
this you are right Like thiswhole having and being able to
put your people in.
So the no, actually, this isinteresting.
So they're both, they have samenumbers, but they're oh no,
(18:52):
they're both three fives.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Okay, okay.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
They're both three fives and I'm not quite as
familiar with, like the, thenumbers quite yet.
So yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
So the reason I asked , and it might even be in one of
their cause.
You know, on both sides there'sall those numbers next to the
planet.
So I'm wondering if one ofthose there's a two in like the
business sphere, because the twoand this kind of dives into
gene keys a little bit.
The two is like known as thedancer.
They kind of dance through lifeand so, consequently, they
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question whether or not theybelong at the table sometimes
because things just come easyand people kind of brush them
off.
But like it's, it's so visibleto see.
So I was.
I always get curious.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Yeah, it is fascinating.
So, like as I'm just havingthis conversation, I'm like, oh
well.
Well, crystal's clearlynonspecific because she's just
like I'm going to roll with this, like stuff happens and I'm
just going to go with it.
And Kristen's like, oh my gosh,everything has to be planned to
the nth degree.
And then when I pulled up herchart, I was like, oh wow, like
you're, I get that you feel thissense that this is how you have
(19:58):
to exist in the world, but yourdesign is saying that you're
nonspecific.
You're working against yourdesign.
What would it look like for youto just to let go a little bit,
you know, and maybe letmanifest things by letting
things just happen?
Speaker 2 (20:12):
That's really hard for three lines sometimes.
So the three is like the trialand error, the martyr, and so
with our conditioning,especially when you think about
like going into the restaurantbusiness there's so much
conditioning around like that'sone of like the hardest
businesses to start and keep,because so many businesses right
.
And so there's all thisconditioning, and so when, when
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you're I don't know if this wasthe first time they, they
learned their human design.
But when you're I don't know ifthis was the first time they,
they learned their human design.
But yeah, when you're a threeand you don't.
Yeah, when you're a three andyou don't know that you're a
three.
If you are constantly bumpinginto things like you through
conditioning, you shift intothis mode of like well, I don't
want to keep learning lessons, Iwant to just get it right the
(20:55):
first time, and they kind ofveer into perfectionism almost
versus embracing the three andjust being like, okay, well,
this didn't pan out how I wantedit to, but what can I learn
from this?
you know lesson?
And so talk about going againstyour design.
Threes are meant to bump intothings.
That's how they learn intothings.
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That's how they learn.
And so when you're intoperfectionism, it's like you're
gonna face resistance becauseyou're going against your
process of how you interact withthe world.
Oh gosh, yeah, oh wow.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
So I would say the other thing I love about human
design has been it's really beeninsightful for me and I think
this would really to help withpeople's imposter syndrome.
Honestly, is your authorityGetting more in touch with how
you make decisions?
I am sacral authority and solearning that my gut is how I
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make decisions and when theworld tells me that I shouldn't
be going on my instincts andthat I shouldn't go on my first
feeling, but also learning thatmy gut likes yes and no
questions so simple things likecoaching my husband to say don't
ask me what's for dinner orwhat do I want for dinner, say
do you want Thai food, I willsay the yes or no that I like
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Other questions will overwhelmme.
Outside of the decision fatiguealone.
Just learning and how to coachyou know friends, family,
coworkers, whomever own justlearning and how to coach you
know friends, family, co workers, whomever you know to sort of
appeal towards my sacralauthority really does help.
But then also just affirmingthat like my gut is my strongest
sense in decision making isgreat, because I can't tell you
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how many times that is alwaysproven.
You know, in my business andwork life where it's like this
has always been my first choice,and then people make me doubt
it, and then I have to go thelong route and then we always
just come back to where Istarted and I'm like, come on,
so learning, learning yourauthority, I think, is another
really, really great.
Like you said, it's almost likeit's, it's just it's
(22:52):
reaffirming and it helps you getpast that imposter syndrome
once you kind of understand yourdesign past that imposter
syndrome once you kind ofunderstand your design.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Yeah, like I would say, inner authority is probably
.
You know any person you askthey'd say that your strategy
and authority is the mostimportant thing about your human
design.
So the more you can experimentand practice with it.
So I love that you're likecoaching people around you to be
like yes or no questions andthen actually giving yourself
the space to just feel into yourbody and trust what comes up
(23:20):
for you.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Yeah, absolutely, and just trying to condition it to
be right because we've beenthere's so much to unlearn,
because it is hard, like I think, as women specifically, we're
put, we're taught to put otherpeople's needs before and
especially as mothers, which wewere just discussing before.
We got on the call, both of uswith head colds and sinuses,
kids colds yay, everybody'sneeds are put first.
(23:42):
So it's like reconditioning thatsecret authority is hard, so it
does take practice and time.
On that note, you've workedwith a lot of women leaders and
I was kind of curious what aresome of the most common
self-doubt patterns you see onthis topic of imposter syndrome,
and how does understanding yourhuman design help to start to
(24:03):
break them?
I feel like we've touched onsome of them, but what are some
other ones you've seen?
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Yeah, so some of the ones that we've touched on a
little bit already is this fearof judgment, this fear of
stepping into your voice, yourmessage, your power, really your
gifts, because you're afraidthat you might step on toes Like
even with like you were talkingabout sacred authority.
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That then implies that you havean open or undefined emotional
solar plexus, and for a lot ofpeople who have that, because
they take in the energy fromthose around them, people who
have that because they take inthe energy from those around
them like they want to, they'relike I don't want to see or feel
you like down or sad orwhatever, so like how can I fix
it, how can I make it better?
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Versus recognizing that theyjust kind of have to get through
it themselves.
And so it's kind of likereleasing this conditioning
around like what they think theyor how they think they should
or have to show up and steppinginto like no, and so one of the
things that I found that's beenreally helpful has been around
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the incarnation cross piece,which you know this this is
human design, but this is alsowhere you start bringing in some
of the gene keys a little bit.
But with the incarnation crossthere's three types.
There's a right angle, so thosepeople who are here to have a
really personal journey.
So they're here to learn how tooperate, they're here to heal
(25:34):
themselves and then, if they sochoose, they can then share that
information with other peopleso that they can heal themselves
as well.
If you're a left angle, thenyou came here and you've got
some karma from a past lifetimethat you're actually here to
clean up, so you're here to havea really transpersonal journey.
You need people in your life tohelp remind you of your purpose
(25:57):
, to help remind you of your why, and then you have
juxtaposition, which is like afixed fate, and so, even at that
base level, it's this again andI'll probably keep saying it to
many other questions it's thissurrender of like.
Okay, well, if I'm here to havethis, I'll say you know most.
(26:18):
I learned recently that mostpeople are actually right angle
crosses, so they're here to havethis relief.
Yeah, I was like.
Oh, I thought most of us wereleft angles, okay, um, but I
guess just the people that Iattract are left angles, cause
I'm like I'm going to say I'mleft angle.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
I just looked.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah, I'm like I must , but that's aligned, because
I'm here having thistranspersonal journey and.
I can have like tips andinsights about how I'm moving
through this transpersonaljourney.
For other left angles I'm, forexample, a right angle and I'm
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here to heal myself.
It then becomes empowering totake the time that you need for
yourself to recharge, to, tofigure out what works for you
and to understand that it's notselfish.
So many times there's thisconditioning around, like
especially like you're saying,like moms, women, working moms,
(27:19):
it's like what You're taking,you're taking time for yourself,
like what about your kids, whatabout your business?
And then it's kind of like theshaming that happens of like oh,
you were doing a spa day, like.
And it's like when you're, whenyou're a right angle, it's like
I'm here to heal myself.
And it can be really empoweringto you know, understand why
(27:41):
you're here on a soul level andto let the outside noise, you
know, cause, cause you to doubtyourself or to to make yourself
wrong for doing things that arealigned that feel good for you.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Right or to shame you into making yourself more
available than you really shouldbe.
Yeah, at the end of the day, youknow, because, like, we've had
that healing time and moment,like so this is great.
I'd actually never quiteunderstood or could follow, like
this whole right angle, leftangle thing.
So thank you for that.
That's, that's really awesome.
I just it never made a wholelot of sense to me, but then,
(28:18):
yeah, that brings a lot ofclarity to it.
But then, yeah, it also helpsme understand why it's like,
okay, I could show up and I'm agenerator too, so I also can
know why it's like I can show upand I can emit and provide and
give energy to others and emitenergy into the world, because
I'm not reflecting, I'm notprojecting.
I'm not reflecting, I'm notprojecting, I'm not, you know,
(28:40):
manifesting.
Um, those are all differenttypes of energies and once you
all start to get into all ofthis, I'm also not emotional,
which doesn't mean I don't haveemotions.
We can talk about that too herein a minute, if you'd like, but
um, yeah, it also because ofthat, all this combination plus
the left angle, it's just I justhave that capacity right From a
design standpoint and thisreally helps me to understand
(29:02):
like where I've been with myfriends and conversations lately
, where it's just I just havelike a capacity, a little bit
more of a capacity for somethings right now and for some
things than others, becausesometimes others just need like
more of that time and space.
And I think I always I alwayswant to recognize and respect
that and I think design isanother way like understanding
(29:23):
your design and others.
Design is a really great way todo that.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Oh yeah, absolutely Like um.
So my partner is anon-emotional and both my
daughter and I are emotional andso, um, even getting him to
understand, you know, like we wewould have so many fights
because, especially in the past,because he, when he is
(29:51):
passionate about something, hewants to talk about it right
then he's like if I wait, thenI'm going to like lose interest,
I'm not going gonna feel aspassionately about it as I do
right now.
I want to talk about it rightnow.
And he would poke the bear andtry and get me to talk and I'd
be like I don't want to talkright now because I'm gonna say
something that's gonna hurt yourfeelings.
(30:12):
In this state that I'm in, right, all my emotions, feeling all
the feels, and I'm not gonna belike I am not gonna know how to
come back from that.
Right, I'm going to be scaredthat you're going to like use it
against me.
So I'd rather, if we're havinga heated discussion, take some
time to really reflect andassess how I feel and then come
(30:32):
back neutrally and that's.
You know, human design hashelped him understand that
because he's like, oh yeah, likehe sees, he sees my emotional
wave with my business and sohe's like I understand that it's
not just a me thing, it's notjust you know, and it just
creates that deeper level ofunderstanding and empathy and
(30:52):
encouragement to actually, youknow, give the person what they
need, which is sometimes space.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Right, right and correct me if I'm wrong.
I feel like non-emotionals tolike, tend to like.
Emotionals tend to put out alot of emotion, like emit a lot
of emotions in the waygenerators emit a lot of energy
or provide a lot of energy intothe world, but non-emotionals
tend to receive.
So like.
For me, like as a non-emotionaleven though I again, we have we
(31:20):
all have emotions it's moreabout like I can hold space for
people's emotions.
I tend to be and my daughter'salso non-emotional but very,
very empathic, and so it can bevery draining in that sense of
like I can kind of hold.
When I'm holding space forothers, I'm holding back and
(31:40):
holding down my emotions, and sothat can be very exhausting and
very draining.
So you have to kind of reallybe like intentional about how,
when and where you're spendingyour energy and your emotion and
giving time and space for yourown emotions, because as a
non-emotional you don't expressit often or you don't often feel
like you can.
Right, because you're thecontainer versus the one
(32:03):
emitting it.
Would you agree?
Is that right?
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Yeah, emotionals put out that energy.
And it's funny because I havethis example now.
We went to dinner and I have afavorite restaurant at this, uh,
a favorite restaurant, afavorite waitress at this
restaurant, and the host waslike, okay, you're gonna be in
mercia section.
(32:27):
And I was like, oh yay, I lovemercia, like this is great, it's
gonna be great.
And then this other waitresscomes and her name is jessica
and she's like hi, I'm jessica,I'll be your waitress.
And and I just kind of was likebut you're like, you're not
Marcia.
Yeah, and so, um, you know,eventually they fixed it and
(32:48):
Marcia came over and she waslike yeah, I'll be your waitress
, and things like that.
And he's like I felt youdeflate, like I felt your energy
.
He was like you are so excitedyou can read the room?
Yes, and it's because you knowand I want to address the
non-emotional thing rightEveryone has emotions.
We are emotional beings, likehands down.
(33:09):
The thing with people who havean open or undefined solar
plexus, which makes you anon-emotional in human design,
is that you are empatheticbecause you take in the energy
from your environment and fromother people.
And for a lot of people, youknow, when I'm doing readings,
I'm like, you know, as a childit probably was difficult and
(33:31):
you were labeled as emotionalbecause it was difficult for you
to you know, figure like isthis mine or is this?
And so sometimes people whodon't have that solar plexus
defined, they have short fusesbecause they're just like I'm
taking in all this.
Speaker 1 (33:48):
What are you doing?
It's going to spit in my gob atyou.
Yes, but you guys are veryempathetic, which is which,
which is I'm glad that you havethat with your, with your
daughter yeah, yeah, becauseshe's even more so, like she
just picks up on all the energyI feel like even more so than me
(34:10):
, or maybe I have just, maybeeven just I've forgotten that
part of myself over the yearsand have conditioned myself for
more to to take in less.
But yeah, no, she definitelyshe feels it all.
She feels it all, which issometimes just hard to see
because she's, you know, only 11.
It's like, don't do that toyourself, you know, but yeah.
(34:33):
So we talked a little bitearlier about trusting your gut.
I want to come back to that.
Through human design and thislens, what does that actually
mean to practically for some ofthese different types?
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Yeah.
So I consider trusting your gutto be synonymous with intuition
.
And so we live in a culturalcontext where certainty is
praised over flow and it's youknow, statistics and logic, and
everything is praised overintuition.
(35:08):
And so for any type, anyauthority, with the exception of
, like mental authority because,like, that's a, that's a rare
breed of authority where, like,actually everything is happening
in your, in your head, but youhave to talk it out and have the
sounding board you know, to seehow it.
But even then it's like you aretechnically labeled as mental
(35:30):
authority, but you have to talkit out with other people, you
have to be in the rightenvironment with those you trust
so that they are your soundingboard and you can hear what's
being reflected back to you andsee how it lands in your body
once you speak it out.
So in every single authoritythere's this element of like
(35:51):
body.
If it's your, if you'reemotional, it's, you know,
riding out your emotional waveand coming to a decision from an
emotionally neutral place.
If it's splenic, it's in themoment, you know.
Right then, and there I'veheard many people, many splenic
projectors, talk about thiswhole body like hell, yes, that
happens.
Or like, if there's hesitation.
(36:13):
It's probably a no or not rightnow, even for self-projected
authority.
Like they have to talk it out,they have to, they have to hear
their truth and their aura inorder to gain that clarity.
And so in all of these, younotice how there's not, like you
know, planning or like logic.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
There's no pros and cons list like logic.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
There's no pros and cons list.
Right, there's no.
Which way do I do?
And so it's.
It's this return to the wisdomthat's actually in the body, and
it's so hard for people, whenthey first find human design to
to trust that, because we'vebeen conditioned for so long
that you know, if you can't backit up with a 10 point
PowerPoint presentation, thenlike it's not valid and
(37:06):
intuition doesn't have that.
Like you said, it doesn't havea pros and cons list.
You feel something or you don't, and it's.
It's a process of realigningand learning how to trust the
wisdom in the body, but reallytrust yourself, because this is
(37:30):
something like for me as anemotional authority.
I was diagnosed with bipolar 2when I was 14.
And so, for you know, over adecade I made myself wrong for
my emotions.
I thought that there wassomething wrong with me for
having really strong emotions orhaving these up and down waves,
(37:52):
and so it took a long time andI'm still on that path of like.
Okay, what do I feel?
Because for so long my feelingswere invalidated.
I grew up, my mom didn't have adefined solar plexus and she
had a lot of mental like.
Her head is defined and herAjna is defined, and so where
(38:13):
you have definition, that's theenergy that you put out.
And so a lot of times, you know, I would talk about how I felt
and she'd be like, but right,and then, with her undiagnosed
borderline personality withnarcissistic tendencies, I would
be made wrong for feeling whatI felt.
(38:34):
And so there was always thiselement of questioning how I
felt.
And now I'm in a place whereI'm like, no, that's actually
what I'm supposed to do.
But how do I navigate these upsand downs?
And that's what the experimentis all about is like learning
how to trust yourself againafter years of being basically
programmed not to Right.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
And I mean talk about seeing, being able to see that
disconnect, and then when youcan see that kind of a
disconnect one, you're findingalignment with yourself.
But then you're also findingthe reason behind the disconnect
, so that there's not shame orblame, right, because you can
see like what's behind thedisconnect, right, and I think
that that really helps becausesometimes it's like we talk to
other people, because you cansee like what's behind the
(39:18):
disconnect, right, and I thinkthat that really helps, because
sometimes it's like we talk toother people, we look at other
people and we're just like whatthe hell are you thinking?
Where are you coming from?
I don't understand you.
And it's because we're notdesigned the same.
We don't, we don't, we don'tprocess the same, we don't
always emote the same, and soit's like if we can kind of just
(39:39):
use a little bit ofunderstanding and compassion,
that's one way.
But also, I think this humandesign stuff there's some really
just cool factors to it.
Um for sure, and I love whatyou were just saying there too
about um.
You know, one of my favoritequotes is just never outsource
your knowing.
And if anybody here also againfans of the podcast, no, I'm
(40:03):
peacemaker and like harmony andso general consensus used to be
like my mo, and it still is likewhen it comes to certain
decisions.
Right, but as far as decisionsthat come, it was far as I am
concerned.
Now I am with human design, Ifeel like I'm much more informed
as to how I want to move in theworld and make certain
(40:24):
decisions for myself.
Um, because it's just, you know, having that other information.
It like the Enneagram, to me ismore of like that shadow type
of work where, like, the designis kind of like more of that
internal knowledge, you know.
And again, I don't have to likekeep going outside of myself to
get the consensus fromeverybody else.
(40:45):
You know, it's like nice tohave that alignment from other
people when certain matters, butit doesn't need to be in all
things.
So, yeah, that used to be theway I went about everything, and
now I'm like no, I don't needto call and complain or talk to
everybody and process this outSometimes, I just need to sit
with myself, you know, and thinkthrough this or work through
this, or trust the gut feelingthat I have about this that it
(41:06):
isn't the right thing for me andI need to make a move.
So, yeah, all right, let's diginto gene keys a little bit,
because this is new for me.
How does it complement humandesign when it comes to building
authentic leadership?
Speaker 2 (41:19):
Yeah so gene keys takes a closer look at the 64
gates in human design and genekeys they're called the 64 keys,
and so it takes a closer lookat the Chinese I Ching element
and the quantum physics, in thatevery single key, every single
gate has these three frequencies.
(41:39):
And so the shadow is kind ofthe challenge, really.
So, when you talk about likethe shadow work with the
enneagram, like gene keys,really so, when you talk about
like the, the shadow work withthe enneagram, like gene keys,
this is a perfect yeah so, um,the shadow is the challenge that
you're here to overcome.
It's, it's gonna keep showingup and the gift, which is the
(42:00):
next frequency up, that's what.
When you embrace your creativepower, that's what shines
through, that's when you stepinto your authenticity, when
you're aligned, when you'removing on your path, like that's
what shines through.
And then the highest frequencyis the city.
And so this is a transcendentrealization of you know, it's
(42:21):
like a culmination of like okay,this is, this is a line, this
is that feeling of satisfaction,that feeling of satisfaction,
that feeling of success, thatfeeling of surprise that happens
when you just kind of surrenderto life and just live within
your gifts.
And so it complements, becausehuman design I like to see as
(42:43):
very practical.
It's like this is how you makedecisions, these are your gifts
and this is how your energyflows.
This is where some of yourconditioning comes in.
And then Gene Keys is for a lot.
I like to see it as a morein-depth personal development
tool because it involves a lotof contemplation.
It involves a lot of thinkingabout your past and how these
(43:07):
shadows have shown up and howcould you have turned those into
the gift, how can you be inyour awareness more so that you
don't dip into whatever thatshadow is Like.
For me, in my brand sphere, inmy what I'm here to do in this
lifetime, I'm here to be a forceof continual expansion, and
that's actually the gift ofexpansion.
(43:29):
But the shadow is immaturity,this being in a place of
external fixation and externalvalidation and not being
internally grounded.
And you can see therelationship of when you let go
of this.
Need this fixation for externalpeople to say like, oh, you're
(43:49):
doing great, which the schoolsystem does not help this at all
because it's all about likegrades and everything.
But you have to like, let go ofthat.
And once you're able tovalidate yourself.
Once you're able to have thatinternal stillness, you do
expand more, you're able to stepinto more things and at its
highest frequency, the city issuper abundance, which that was
(44:11):
a trip for me, because it it wasa push to actually even
redefine what I thought of asabundance, cause so many of us
we equate abundance with moneyor or this you know, outside
things, but there's so manydifferent variations.
There's health abundance,there's time abundance, there's,
you know, relationshipabundance.
(44:32):
There's so many differentelements that can be pulled in
there, and so I think that itcomplements because you know,
when you've been in theexperiment for a long time but
you're still hitting some ofthose blocks in your
conditioning, the gene keys,being able to look at some of
those, you know, tumultuoustimes in your life where maybe
(44:53):
you chose the shadow out of fear, out of lack, out of scarcity,
out of this distrust, like howcan you trust yourself enough to
live in the gift, to show up inthe highest frequency that you
can?
Speaker 1 (45:10):
Yeah, I love that so much and it kind of brings it
back to where you started, whichis redefining success Right,
stop chasing the things thataren't truly for you, because
what's going to happen is you'regoing to work your ass off,
you're going to get there andyou're going to go.
Why aren't I happy?
I worked so hard?
Where's that shining moment ofsuccess and triumph?
I just it falls flat and you'rewondering why?
Here's why I love it All.
(45:33):
Right, we've talked aboutcomparison a lot today, but I
think it just it's, it's so youjust can't say it enough.
It's.
You know, we live in a verydigital, heavy, social media
heavy world where comparisons isjust constantly in our face.
How can women use some of thesetools that we've talked about
today to stay grounded and kindof find their unique value, to
just avoid this trap?
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Yeah, so I found that really leaning into your gifts,
so doing.
I always say do a readingbecause it's the quickest way.
Like I am a one line in humandesign and so that's the
investigator, researcher, so Ilove going down a good rabbit
hole.
I've watched videos, I've readdifferent books and so you know
(46:19):
human design is one of thosethings that lots of people can
go and Google and find differentinformation.
But if you really want likepractical strategies and tips
for your design, I always saygrab a reading so you can get
that understanding.
Because once you have anunderstanding of what you're
here to do in this lifetime likeI always start with like the
(46:39):
incarnation cross, because ittells you what you're here to do
, what you're here to learn whatdeeply fulfills you and what
your purpose is, and once youknow and understand what that is
for yourself, then other peopletrying to push you on a
different path or make you besomething that you're not,
you're just like.
That's not.
You know that's not the way Iwas designed, that's not in
(47:01):
alignment, and you're able tohave that validation with these
tools of like I was designedthis way, I'm.
This is how I, my soul, choseto show up in this lifetime, how
my energy presents itself tothose around me and how I
interact with the world, and soit can be really empowering to
lean into these tools and toexit out the outside noise.
(47:26):
Like one of the things that Irecently had to do in my
business was figure out all ofthe little things that I was
leaning into that was causing meto exert more energy and effort
in my business than wasactually needed at the time.
Like, many of us use socialmedia in our business and
there's this kind of unspoken,sometimes spoken, rule I don't
(47:50):
know if it's still spokenbecause I've been in the process
of exiting out outside noisebut there's this rule of like if
someone comments, you have torespond back like within an hour
or the algorithm's going toding you or whatever.
And I'm like, and I spent somuch time and effort trying to
adhere to these unspoken rulesthat you know I've just been,
(48:14):
you know, hearing about, andwhat I found is that when you
actually do what feels right foryou, you still like you have
much more success.
And not only do you have muchmore success, you, you feel
better, like you were sayingthere's this, this, when you're
trying to do all the things thatpeople say that you should do
(48:36):
in order to find that joy, tofind that fulfillment.
It's almost like, well, I didthe things and I don't have that
, so what, what am I not doing?
And then you, you're forced tocontinually get that external
noise in trying to tell you like, okay, well, you did these
things and it you don't have it,so why don't you do these other
(48:58):
things?
And then you spend so much timeand energy like doing things
versus like being able tovalidate yourself, being able to
say like this is what feelsright in my business, being able
to, to bring those elements out.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
Yeah, and then again, you're not comparing you're not
comparing and you're not tryingthe things that aren't going to
be working for you.
What would you say is the mostsurprising insight you've
discovered about leadershipthrough combining both your
brand strategy and human design?
Speaker 2 (49:30):
The most surprising thing that I found about
leadership.
With this combination so many ofus we have a message that
sometimes people are scared toshare.
So we put on these, these masksof what we think we should be
sharing, and it has been thegreatest joy to see the surprise
(49:55):
on my client's face when I'mlike well, this is actually in
your like, for example, in yourMercury.
You're designed to share or youknow, this is in your North or
South mode, and so this is howthis has shown up in your life
and this is what you're movinginto, and it's actually a line
for you to talk about that.
And they're like, oh my gosh,like I thought people were gonna
(50:18):
shun me for that.
And so just giving them theencouragement of like no, yeah,
like that's actually, and thenseeing the, the transformation
that happens when they startleaning into what it is that's
actually aligned for them toshare.
It's like, oh my gosh, I didn'tknow it could be this easy
(50:40):
because we've been conditionedto believe that is hard.
It's you got to grind andhustle and do all this.
Speaker 1 (50:49):
Yeah, so it's kind of like helping them, so it's like
affirming right, that internalvoice, not the imposter syndrome
, the opposite, right, theauthentic, true voice that the
imposter syndrome has beenspeaking over and rudely
interrupting for God knows howlong, right, and it's like the
human design has been able tosort of tap that voice and say
(51:10):
hey, yo, actually you are theone we're supposed to be
listening to and hearing, butsocial conditioning has been
telling us, you know, keep itdown, keep it shut.
And it is so true I think youknow.
All of this aside, I think itwas interesting.
I was actually having aconversation with my husband
last night.
When we started thisconversation, I said you know,
imposter syndrome is real forboth men and women.
(51:30):
He left academia and went intothe professional world for the
first time in his entire lifeand it's been different.
You know it's a different worldand you know he's a researcher,
he's introverted, but he wantsto be social, he wants to feel
connected, he wants to havefriends.
And you know, I told him I saidone of the biggest unlocks for
(51:53):
me, I think, was really justfinding that people want to know
the real you, they want to hearyour true, authentic voice and
that if you are willing to justopen up and share a little bit
more and hold back a little bitless I'm not saying you just
need to go out and be likeobnoxious and rude and
inappropriate, but I think ifyou just be, you know what would
it look like to be 10% more you, 10% more authentic, you know,
(52:20):
because he's a wonderful humanbeing with loads of great ideas.
So I'm like I don't know whatyou're trying to hold back, but
like it's like if you were tojust be a little bit more that,
what would that look like?
You know, because I feel likethe more granted you know, we
have such a great safe spacehere with Together Digital where
women can kind of really stepinto and practice that authentic
voice in a space that theydon't have to worry about being
(52:40):
shamed for or, you know, havingbacklash for.
So I have that privilege of justhaving that all the time and I
forget how to act in politesociety.
So I'm just used to just beingable to talk about all the
things.
But yeah, you know not havingthat privilege, I understand.
You know a lot of us pick upand put on sometimes mini masks
(53:01):
in one day and I just do think alot of this.
So any tool that you can pickup and start to use for
self-awareness, to tap into,find that authentic voice and
give yourself permission.
When you put that out, peopleare so afraid it's going to
detract, but it really doesattract, like you said, it
attracts opportunity, itattracts friendship and
(53:21):
connections in ways that you'rejust going to be so surprised by
.
Speaker 2 (53:25):
Yeah, exactly Yay.
Speaker 1 (53:27):
Can you tell I just love all this stuff?
Surprised by yeah, exactly, yay.
Can you tell I just love allthis stuff so much?
All right, we've got some folkslistening live, as always, so
we love having our livelistening audience.
Before we go into our fun powerround of questions, just want
to make sure that you all knowyou can ask questions in the
chat If you have them.
I know all this stuff.
You guys are like some of them.
(53:47):
You're like what do you guys?
I don't know what's been goingon for the last hour, but you've
all hung in there.
So a couple of questions.
Actually, like I want to makesure that we ask before we go to
the power round, questions too.
Is you know, if folks want tolearn more about human design,
what are some good generalresources for them?
Speaker 2 (54:04):
Yeah, so on my website they can pull their
chart and I actually send them acheat sheet that helps them
decode their design, as well asa playlist on my YouTube channel
which goes into visualexplanations of these different
things.
Another resource that I havefound super helpful a lot of
people know the traditionalhuman design language, but Karen
(54:26):
Curry Parker she actually haslanguage in quantum human design
which actually takes it a stepfurther and talks about
emotional authority as creativeauthority, and so it's a little
bit more empowering and itbrings in some of the different
quantum elements of inside thebody.
So I'd say any of her work isamazing to learn more about
(54:49):
human design.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
Oh, that rabbit hole just got a little bit deeper for
me.
Oh, my goodness, I will be sureto include some of those links
for the YouTube channel and yourwebsite into our show notes as
well.
All right, I checking the.
Let me check the chat to see ifwe've got anything in there.
No questions yet, but all right, we'll hit the the um.
(55:11):
Let me make sure I have theright open live stream chat.
There we go.
Oh, look at that, danielle.
Thank you so much.
She's my woman today on the umand all the resources and the
links.
Look at her, she's on fire.
Speaker 2 (55:25):
You're the best.
Speaker 1 (55:26):
Yeah, I was in the wrong chat.
I was like I have a sense I'min the wrong chat.
All right, cool, cool, cool,fantastic.
Um, sharon was asking what appare we using?
Do you have an app that you usefor any of?
Speaker 2 (55:40):
this.
So I know Jenna has her app,the my Human Design app.
Most of the time I just havepeople download their chart so
they can have it as a quickreference.
Mine is actually my screensaver.
Speaker 1 (55:56):
That's a great idea.
Quick reference.
Speaker 2 (55:58):
Yeah, I'm like oh wait, they're talking about Gay
28.
I think I have that.
Oh, okay, Now I can really lockin and tune in.
Speaker 1 (56:06):
That's fantastic.
And then Grinnell was asking ifthere's like something about
the numbers, what are thenumbers?
Oh, the profile Did that forjust a second, yeah.
Speaker 2 (56:15):
Yeah, the profile line.
So there are six differentlines, 12 different profiles in
human design, and so essentiallythis goes into how your energy
shows up in the world.
So the first part of thefraction looking number is how
other people see you.
It's kind of like what youraura presents to the world.
And then the second part of thefraction is your underlying
(56:38):
script of how you interact withthe world.
So you know, as we were talkingabout earlier with the three
five, so a lot of peopleprobably see these women if,
yeah, you said they're the same,they see them like trying out a
bunch of stuff.
They see them, you know,bumping into things, learning
things through that.
But the five is the solutionsperson, the challenge solver,
(57:04):
the save the day kind of energy,and so they're always going to
be looking to to fix something,and so that's just their
underlying script.
For me, I'm a five one, soother people need to, yes, yes,
and I and I kind of sense thatwhen you're like, oh, this is
(57:25):
going to take me deeper and so,like, the five is, you know,
like about the expectations thatwe set for people, because if
they project that, we can helpthem with something that
(57:47):
actually we don't have afoundation in, then it turns
very quickly from oh my gosh,you're my savior, you're awesome
, you're amazing, to like oh myGod, I hate you.
Like why did you give me thisadvice?
Like it didn't work for me.
And then your reputation is kindof on the line.
So the five lines have to bereally careful about.
You know who they're attractingand what solutions they're
(58:09):
providing.
And then our one line we'reinvestigators.
We love getting to the bottomof stuff, we love a good rabbit
hole, a strong foundation ofknowledge, which we also have to
be careful because sometimes itcan be hard to trust that you
know enough to then take it tothe, to the world.
That was one of the thingsabout human design that really
(58:31):
resonated with me yeah, yeah,that's so, so interesting.
Speaker 1 (58:35):
I love that.
Yeah, this whole like when youwere talking earlier too, I
almost brought up my five one.
When you were talking about thefix, the fixer, I was like, oh,
when I was reading that portionof it, the challenge solver, I
was like, oh, okay, yeah, yeah,no, I don't have to try to fix
everything.
But then also, being like thevoluntold one constantly where
(58:57):
you know it's like I get it thatyou might have natural
leadership tendencies, but it'sjust ridiculous how you could
walk into a room and say verylittle and somehow still, how do
I walk out of the room beingthe one told like, oh, you're
going to lead this right.
I'm like I didn't even sayanything.
How did this happen?
But once I read that I was like, oh, okay, got it.
(59:19):
Yes, oh, my goodness.
Well, thank you all for droppingthe questions in during the
conversation.
I love it.
I love it, and don't be afraidto reach out to Diamond as well
if you have any additionalquestions after yes, all right,
let's go through these rapidfire questions real quick.
What is your go-to mantra whenself-doubt creeps in?
Speaker 2 (59:41):
It's one of two things.
So what's on the other side ofthis, or what story am I telling
myself here?
Speaker 1 (59:47):
Oh, I like both of those.
Those are great.
Three words or less.
What's the biggest mistakepeople make when dealing with
imposter syndrome?
Speaker 2 (59:55):
Caught in comparison.
Speaker 1 (59:57):
Yes, ma'am, can't say that enough.
If you could put one message ona billboard about authentic
leadership, what would it say?
Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
Yeah, so sometimes the bravest thing you can do is
trust that inner voice that'ssaying there's another way.
Speaker 1 (01:00:13):
I love it too.
All right, last one, completethe sentence.
The moment you'll know you'restepping into your power is when
.
Speaker 2 (01:00:21):
The moment you'll know you're stepping into your
power is when, without any extraeffort other than living your
truth and teaching what you'vemastered, the universe starts to
bring you opportunities thatyou're excited to take advantage
of.
Speaker 1 (01:00:34):
Oh, I love it.
You're so prepared.
Speaker 2 (01:00:36):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (01:00:37):
Thank you so much, diamond.
This was wonderful.
I hope all of our listenersreally enjoyed this and again
just found one more tool and wayto learn more about themselves,
feel empowered and hopefullyunderstand and empower others as
well.
This is fantastic, diamond,thank you so much thank you of
course, of course, and thank youlive listeners.
We appreciate you all and ourpodcast listeners.
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We're excited to have you againback with us next week.
Until then, everyone, keep,everyone, keep asking, keep
giving and keep growing.
We'll see you then.
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Hello everyone, and welcome toour weekly power lounge.
This is your place to hearauthentic conversations from
those who have power to share.
My name is Amy Vaughn and I amthe owner and chief empowerment
officer of Together Digital, adiverse and collaborative
community of women who sharetheir knowledge, power and
connections.
You can join the movement attogetherindigitalcom, and today
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we are tackling something thatresonates with so many of us
that nagging little voice calledimposter syndrome that whispers
to us to say that oftentimesthat you are not enough, and I
could not be more excited tointroduce to you our guest today
, diamond Drip, who is here toshow all of us how you can turn
that voice down or shut it downin most cases, let's hope right
(01:01):
With our authentic power.
Diamond is a brilliant coach anda speaker who has been featured
in New York Weekly and the QEDInc on QED Radio.
She has taken her background invisual communications and brand
strategy and combined it withthe fascinating worlds of human
design and gene keys to helpwomen break free from self-doubt
(01:23):
and step into their truepotential.
What I love about Diamond isthat she is not just sharing a
theory.
She has walked this pathherself, transforming from a
stressed out entrepreneur into aconfident leader who helps
others do the same.
And one of my favorite thingsthat she says is that the limit
doesn't exist, but fear andself-doubt will make you think
(01:44):
it does.
Love a good quote.
So whether you're questioningyour qualifications, gosh,
comparing yourself to otherstalk about the thief of joy
right there or you're ready tojust trust yourself more deeply,
you are in for some greatlearning and new tools to be
able to explore and helpyourself make that shift from
(02:07):
imposter to empowered.
Diamond.
Welcome to the Power Lounge.
Really excited to have you herewith us today and to dive into
this conversation.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I'm so excited to be here with you, amy, and our
listeners.
As much as I don't likeimposter syndrome, I love
talking about ways that you cancombat it, because so many of us
battle it.
It doesn't matter you know whatpoint you are.
Imposter syndrome kind of goeswith you.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Absolutely.
And it's been one thinghonestly lately that I have been
taking into account how manypeople feel it.
Not just women Men as well feela deep sense of this.
They're just not willing toadmit it.
So, fellas, if you're listening, this is for you too.
Okay, right, let's getvulnerable here.
And I also just want to say Ihave only just recently learned
(02:55):
of human design.
Oh my gosh, we could have awhole another hour episode on
this.
I think it's just absolutelyfascinating.
Everyone who listens to thispodcast knows I love personal
development, anything that helpsone me understand myself more
deeply, because what I loveabout that is it helps me
understand others more deeply.
I think it makes us betterhumans.
(03:16):
It makes us better parents,better leaders.
That kind of stuff is justreally cool.
Gene Keys is newer to me, soI'm excited to learn more about
both of those things and to letour listeners learn more about
these things, because I've beennerding out.
But before we get into any ofthat, I would love for you to
take us back to your days invisual communication and brand
strategy, a space a lot of ourwomen in Together Digital are in
(03:39):
, and share with us a little bitabout that and what really
first clued you into what mightbe.
You know, there might be adeeper layer into helping people
show up more authentically.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Absolutely so.
When I was predominantlytalking about visual
communications and brandstrategy, one of the ways that I
would always encourage myclients to get out there was
through video, and that's whenall the stuff would come up
right.
The fear of judgment, the fearof engagement, the fear of you
(04:14):
know what if I say somethingwrong and I'm like this is your
message how can you say yourmessage wrong?
Like it was baffling to me, andI was at a point in my own
professional journey where I wastrying to figure out what my
business superpower was and Ifound that it was.
(04:35):
When I found these tools,everything kind of just clicked.
And once I started to see howmuch these tools were helping me
step into my authenticity andnot just step into it, but be
confident in my ability to dothe thing, because so many of us
with imposter syndrome, wequestion our ability to do the
thing, we question whether weactually belong at the table.
(04:58):
And here I had this tangibleblueprint of like no, you're
designed to do the thing.
And once I startedexperimenting with how it could
work for me, I was like, oh,there's no way, right, like it's
like the best kept secret.
It's like no way, yeah, it's noway, especially because, like I
(05:19):
said, it helped me.
But then I received morevalidation on just how it worked
, because I pulled my daughter'sdesign, I pulled my partner's
design and I was like oh my gosh, these are cheat codes for you
guys too.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Oh, I love the term cheat codes, that's such a great
analogy, yeah, and we'll getinto the definition and into
deep diving more about humandesign and well and what that
means.
But you know you mentioned yourown journey from stressed out
entrepreneur to a confidentleader and I'm just curious,
like what was the turning pointthat made you realize that
(05:55):
something needed to change?
Like sometimes that's part ofthe journey, right Is like that
self awareness and recognitionthat I need to stop and slow
down and something has to change.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Yeah.
So I was in a year-longbusiness coaching program that
taught a framework that you knowmany of us have been in this
scenario, especially if you'vebeen in the coaching space for a
while.
You enter this program and it'sknow we're gonna teach you the
steps that you need to createthis amazing income and impact
(06:29):
in your business.
And you know I'm doing thethings.
I'm seeing other people havesuccess and I'm not having
success.
And I'm like how, how is thatpossible?
Like, especially coming from abackground where external
validation was something that,you know, I related or equated
(06:51):
to my success, and so I wasalways a straight A student and
I'm like I'm doing all the stuffthat would give me a straight A
in executing these frameworksand somehow something is
misaligned.
And you know, when things didn'twork, I doubled down, I bought
into more intensives and I waslike this is insane.
(07:13):
How am I, you know, spendingall this time and money and
energy and effort learning theseframeworks and like somehow
there's still a disconnectframeworks, and like somehow
there's still a disconnect.
And so it wasn't, until Irealized I was like, well,
you're, you're actually like,you're doing things.
Some things are, you know,creating traction, creating some
(07:39):
form of success.
It just doesn't look how youwant.
So why don't you take a look atwhat you're defining as success
and you and you redefine thatfor yourself, for yourself.
So that was really like thebusiness coaching program.
It brought up a lot of stuff,and so that realization that you
know come to Jesus moment, asit were.
(07:59):
It was the thing that was like,okay, something has to change.
And instead of seeking out moreexternal things, why don't you
look internally and see what'sin there instead?
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Absolutely.
I want to share this storyreally quickly because it just
happened yesterday.
It's not exactly in alignmentwith, like, the human design
aspect of things, but it is this.
It's exactly what you'redescribing in the sense of we
often go outside of ourselves tofind the answers.
And in this context I'm in aroom full of women leaders going
(08:35):
through a women leader cohortfor mostly women in corporate,
and we're talking about anddiscussing executive presence.
And as we're discussing it,it's just rubbing me the wrong
way and I can't explain in themoment quite how it's rubbing me
(08:56):
the wrong way.
But as the other women in theroom are having their moments
kind of verbally processing andexpressing, what I'm hearing and
realizing is that they'regrappling with.
They want to really just knowwhat it means to be
authentically themselves asleaders and not be told what a
leader should look and act like.
(09:18):
And I said how often are menasked to work on their executive
leadership?
But how many times in an annualreview have you been asked or
approached to work on yourexecutive leadership or put in a
situation where you're likehere's this article women read
this article executive presence,you know, because it's just a
(09:40):
given.
And so it's like we'reconstantly being asked to put
into, be put into thesecontainers or work within these
guardrails.
And I do think burnout comesnot from the overextension of
ourselves in the sense ofconstantly working too much.
It's almost working against thethings that we think are
supposed to be the things thatwe're working towards.
So it's like the shoulds rightand it's like those constant
(10:03):
running up against the shouldsand the containers that other
people have built for us.
And there was just this momentthat when I was like you know,
why are we even talking aboutexecutive presence Like we have
it?
It's just really about how wewant to define it for ourselves.
This one woman who works for avery, very like corporate
company in the sense that theystill have to show up in suits
(10:25):
every day in the office fivedays a week says I have been
poring over executive presencebooks.
I probably have five of them athome.
I am throwing them all away.
I'm getting rid of all of them.
I'm throwing them all away andI am going to spend more time
with myself journaling andlooking at how I lead and how I
want to show up in the room, howI want to make people feel, and
(10:48):
journaling and looking at how Ilead and how I want to show up
in the room, how I want to makepeople feel, and that's going to
be my executive presence and itwas just such a wonderful
moment to see that it was justlike I want to stand up and
applaud for her, just to kind ofsee that.
I want to Right.
It was just so cool, I mean,because, especially I know I've
been there, I've been thatperson that's like this is the
model, this is the behavior.
If I want to succeed, this iswhat I need to follow and this
is where human design, I think,is such a fascinating,
(11:12):
fascinating break down what itis and why it is such a powerful
tool overall, but also in thecontext of overcoming imposter
syndrome.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Yeah, absolutely so.
Human design is a synthesis ofa bunch of different ancient and
modern sciences, and what itdoes is it actually maps them
over each other to create whatwe in human design call a body
graph, and when you look at thisbody graph, it shows you how
your energy flows, it shows youwhat your strengths are, and
(11:53):
there's so much insight that canbe gained down to what
environment you thrive best in,how you digest food, and what
your perspective is andmotivation is when you're moving
throughout the world.
And one of the things that Ihave found to be deeply
(12:13):
satisfying in human design isthe main theory behind it.
So we as souls incarnated inthis lifetime to experience
ourselves, and so what I loveabout human design is it helps
you to almost navigate and movethrough and welcome
(12:35):
opportunities with lessresistance, similar to the story
that you told about the personthat you met a couple of days
ago, or was it yesterday?
We spend so much energy andeffort trying to be what we
think we should be, or trying tobe who other people expect us
(12:55):
to be, and what human designdoes is it's like no, this is
how you were designed.
These were the gifts that yoursoul chose in this lifetime to
be successful, and if you stoptrying to control everything,
because we as humans, especiallyfrom a cultural perspective, we
(13:16):
have come to this belief thatif we just plan enough, if we
just do enough things that wecan control the outcome, we just
do enough things that we cancontrol the outcome.
And many of us are learning andseeing that that's actually not
.
That's actually not true.
Like there are so many sayingsabout you know, life is
happening.
Life is, you know, doing thingswhile you're busy making plans,
(13:38):
and it's so true.
So one of the things that Ilove most is that it's this kind
of surrender that happens.
It's like, OK, well, if we areable to let go of this sense of
control that we think that wehave over the situation and get
out of our heads and get intoour bodies and tap into the
wisdom of our vessel, and thegifts that we were, you know
(14:02):
that are that we chose in thislifetime, the gifts that we were
, you know that are that wechose in this lifetime, we can
welcome and redefine successwith so much less resistance,
without bumping into so manydifferent things.
And so, when it comes to thecontext of imposter syndrome,
one of the things that I foundis that it helps you understand
(14:24):
what makes you different.
A lot of people say that humandesign is the science of
differentiation, and so, withthat in mind, when you start to
understand that literally soI've pulled over 200 human
design charts at this point andnot a single one of them looks
exactly like somebody else's andso it's this kind of
(14:47):
understanding that how can youknow, there's that saying of
like comparing apples to oranges.
If we are all designeddifferently, why are we
comparing ourselves to thingsthat are outside of ourselves,
to people that are outside ofourselves, to accomplishments
that you know we?
We have our own accomplishmentsand so that's really at the
(15:10):
root of imposter syndrome.
Is this kind of comparison,this feeling of being like you
know you should be further alongor you should have this many
things because that person hasas many things.
And when you start tounderstand that we're all like,
all know we're different, butlike this is like tangible, your
energy flows differently.
(15:31):
It's like well, how can Icompare myself to this other
person?
Speaker 1 (15:36):
yeah, yeah, it's like looking at two different cars.
It's like having like a tinylittle fuel efficient electric
car versus like a Ferrari andsaying they're going to get to
the same place at the same timein the same way.
You know, it's just, it's not,there's no comparison.
And when you take comparisonout of the equation, yeah, there
(15:56):
is a lot less suffering.
I also have loved learning.
You know outside of, like theenergy types, like the
manifesting type, specific andnon-specific, you know the ways
in which you are meant tomanifest.
I have two friends that are bothrestaurateurs, both about to
open up a restaurant actuallyone who has and one who is
working on it, and the one whoalready has is just, you know
(16:20):
it's been rough.
You know physically, mentally,emotionally, and you know I
worry about her in the sense oflike all that she has been
through to get this place openand she has just been planning
every moment of every day forthe last more than six months.
It's been a year and six monthsprobably.
She works close to 120 hours aweek and you know you can see it
(16:42):
and feel it on her week and youcan see it and feel it on her
and the other friend, so verysimilar type of restaurant is
working on opening it yet alsotraveling to Italy and had the
whole restaurant flood out twoweeks before the restaurant was
meant to open.
And we're getting together,we're having a conversation, and
(17:03):
one asks, you know, one asksthe other well, what are you
going to do?
Are you going to do a softopening?
Are you delaying your hardopening?
You know very specificquestions, right?
And the other friend's, likeyou know, I mean, I'll just,
I'll figure it out.
So very nonspecific, and in thatmoment I was like, oh my gosh,
I wonder what both of your humandesign types are like.
So I put them into, I pull uptheir charts, right, I know?
(17:31):
See, I'm such a nerd about thisalready.
Pull up their charts.
And what do you know?
One, they're both manifestinggenerators.
So not much of a surprise there.
They share some very similargifts and they are both
non-specific.
The first woman that is drivingherself into the ground and
making herself sick, who wasinsisting on being so specific,
is working so out of alignment,like she's getting there, but
she's so unwell in the process,you know, while the other one is
(17:55):
, you know, you know, she's like, just like her, she's got a
catering business.
Everything is like going herway.
Sometimes I joke and say thatshe's like sat on a leprechaun
because she's just so damn lucky, like so much stuff comes her
way and it's just, you know, shejust manifests such great
opportunities and business forherself and such a great team
and again, definitely works hard, but it just it does like you
(18:19):
said, it just comes easy.
It seems to come so much easierand she's so much lighter
because of it and it really?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
I think it is non-specific.
Go ahead.
What?
Do you remember what herprofile was?
Does she have a two in there?
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Oh, let me look, I probably I have them in my app
so, yeah, I can tell you reallyquickly.
It's so I think they might'veeven had like the same.
They might've even had the samenumber types, and I do love
this you are right Like thiswhole having and being able to
put your people in.
So the no, actually, this isinteresting.
So they're both, they have samenumbers, but they're oh no,
(18:52):
they're both three fives.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Okay, okay.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
They're both three fives and I'm not quite as
familiar with, like the, thenumbers quite yet.
So yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
So the reason I asked , and it might even be in one of
their cause.
You know, on both sides there'sall those numbers next to the
planet.
So I'm wondering if one ofthose there's a two in like the
business sphere, because the twoand this kind of dives into
gene keys a little bit.
The two is like known as thedancer.
They kind of dance through lifeand so, consequently, they
(19:25):
question whether or not theybelong at the table sometimes
because things just come easyand people kind of brush them
off.
But like it's, it's so visibleto see.
So I was.
I always get curious.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Yeah, it is fascinating.
So, like as I'm just havingthis conversation, I'm like, oh
well.
Well, crystal's clearlynonspecific because she's just
like I'm going to roll with this, like stuff happens and I'm
just going to go with it.
And Kristen's like, oh my gosh,everything has to be planned to
the nth degree.
And then when I pulled up herchart, I was like, oh wow, like
you're, I get that you feel thissense that this is how you have
(19:58):
to exist in the world, but yourdesign is saying that you're
nonspecific.
You're working against yourdesign.
What would it look like for youto just to let go a little bit,
you know, and maybe letmanifest things by letting
things just happen?
Speaker 2 (20:12):
That's really hard for three lines sometimes.
So the three is like the trialand error, the martyr, and so
with our conditioning,especially when you think about
like going into the restaurantbusiness there's so much
conditioning around like that'sone of like the hardest
businesses to start and keep,because so many businesses right
.
And so there's all thisconditioning, and so when, when
(20:34):
you're I don't know if this wasthe first time they, they
learned their human design.
But when you're I don't know ifthis was the first time they,
they learned their human design.
But yeah, when you're a threeand you don't.
Yeah, when you're a three andyou don't know that you're a
three.
If you are constantly bumpinginto things like you through
conditioning, you shift intothis mode of like well, I don't
want to keep learning lessons, Iwant to just get it right the
(20:55):
first time, and they kind ofveer into perfectionism almost
versus embracing the three andjust being like, okay, well,
this didn't pan out how I wantedit to, but what can I learn
from this?
you know lesson?
And so talk about going againstyour design.
Threes are meant to bump intothings.
That's how they learn intothings.
(21:19):
That's how they learn.
And so when you're intoperfectionism, it's like you're
gonna face resistance becauseyou're going against your
process of how you interact withthe world.
Oh gosh, yeah, oh wow.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
So I would say the other thing I love about human
design has been it's really beeninsightful for me and I think
this would really to help withpeople's imposter syndrome.
Honestly, is your authorityGetting more in touch with how
you make decisions?
I am sacral authority and solearning that my gut is how I
(21:49):
make decisions and when theworld tells me that I shouldn't
be going on my instincts andthat I shouldn't go on my first
feeling, but also learning thatmy gut likes yes and no
questions so simple things likecoaching my husband to say don't
ask me what's for dinner orwhat do I want for dinner, say
do you want Thai food, I willsay the yes or no that I like
(22:09):
Other questions will overwhelmme.
Outside of the decision fatiguealone.
Just learning and how to coachyou know friends, family,
coworkers, whomever own justlearning and how to coach you
know friends, family, co workers, whomever you know to sort of
appeal towards my sacralauthority really does help.
But then also just affirmingthat like my gut is my strongest
sense in decision making isgreat, because I can't tell you
(22:30):
how many times that is alwaysproven.
You know, in my business andwork life where it's like this
has always been my first choice,and then people make me doubt
it, and then I have to go thelong route and then we always
just come back to where Istarted and I'm like, come on,
so learning, learning yourauthority, I think, is another
really, really great.
Like you said, it's almost likeit's, it's just it's
(22:52):
reaffirming and it helps you getpast that imposter syndrome
once you kind of understand yourdesign past that imposter
syndrome once you kind ofunderstand your design.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Yeah, like I would say, inner authority is probably
.
You know any person you askthey'd say that your strategy
and authority is the mostimportant thing about your human
design.
So the more you can experimentand practice with it.
So I love that you're likecoaching people around you to be
like yes or no questions andthen actually giving yourself
the space to just feel into yourbody and trust what comes up
(23:20):
for you.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Yeah, absolutely, and just trying to condition it to
be right because we've beenthere's so much to unlearn,
because it is hard, like I think, as women specifically, we're
put, we're taught to put otherpeople's needs before and
especially as mothers, which wewere just discussing before.
We got on the call, both of uswith head colds and sinuses,
kids colds yay, everybody'sneeds are put first.
(23:42):
So it's like reconditioning thatsecret authority is hard, so it
does take practice and time.
On that note, you've workedwith a lot of women leaders and
I was kind of curious what aresome of the most common
self-doubt patterns you see onthis topic of imposter syndrome,
and how does understanding yourhuman design help to start to
(24:03):
break them?
I feel like we've touched onsome of them, but what are some
other ones you've seen?
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Yeah, so some of the ones that we've touched on a
little bit already is this fearof judgment, this fear of
stepping into your voice, yourmessage, your power, really your
gifts, because you're afraidthat you might step on toes Like
even with like you were talkingabout sacred authority.
(24:28):
That then implies that you havean open or undefined emotional
solar plexus, and for a lot ofpeople who have that, because
they take in the energy fromthose around them, people who
have that because they take inthe energy from those around
them like they want to, they'relike I don't want to see or feel
you like down or sad orwhatever, so like how can I fix
it, how can I make it better?
(24:49):
Versus recognizing that theyjust kind of have to get through
it themselves.
And so it's kind of likereleasing this conditioning
around like what they think theyor how they think they should
or have to show up and steppinginto like no, and so one of the
things that I found that's beenreally helpful has been around
(25:12):
the incarnation cross piece,which you know this this is
human design, but this is alsowhere you start bringing in some
of the gene keys a little bit.
But with the incarnation crossthere's three types.
There's a right angle, so thosepeople who are here to have a
really personal journey.
So they're here to learn how tooperate, they're here to heal
(25:34):
themselves and then, if they sochoose, they can then share that
information with other peopleso that they can heal themselves
as well.
If you're a left angle, thenyou came here and you've got
some karma from a past lifetimethat you're actually here to
clean up, so you're here to havea really transpersonal journey.
You need people in your life tohelp remind you of your purpose
(25:57):
, to help remind you of your why, and then you have
juxtaposition, which is like afixed fate, and so, even at that
base level, it's this again andI'll probably keep saying it to
many other questions it's thissurrender of like.
Okay, well, if I'm here to havethis, I'll say you know most.
(26:18):
I learned recently that mostpeople are actually right angle
crosses, so they're here to havethis relief.
Yeah, I was like.
Oh, I thought most of us wereleft angles, okay, um, but I
guess just the people that Iattract are left angles, cause
I'm like I'm going to say I'mleft angle.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
I just looked.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah, I'm like I must , but that's aligned, because
I'm here having thistranspersonal journey and.
I can have like tips andinsights about how I'm moving
through this transpersonaljourney.
For other left angles I'm, forexample, a right angle and I'm
(26:58):
here to heal myself.
It then becomes empowering totake the time that you need for
yourself to recharge, to, tofigure out what works for you
and to understand that it's notselfish.
So many times there's thisconditioning around, like
especially like you're saying,like moms, women, working moms,
(27:19):
it's like what You're taking,you're taking time for yourself,
like what about your kids, whatabout your business?
And then it's kind of like theshaming that happens of like oh,
you were doing a spa day, like.
And it's like when you're, whenyou're a right angle, it's like
I'm here to heal myself.
And it can be really empoweringto you know, understand why
(27:41):
you're here on a soul level andto let the outside noise, you
know, cause, cause you to doubtyourself or to to make yourself
wrong for doing things that arealigned that feel good for you.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Right or to shame you into making yourself more
available than you really shouldbe.
Yeah, at the end of the day, youknow, because, like, we've had
that healing time and moment,like so this is great.
I'd actually never quiteunderstood or could follow, like
this whole right angle, leftangle thing.
So thank you for that.
That's, that's really awesome.
I just it never made a wholelot of sense to me, but then,
(28:18):
yeah, that brings a lot ofclarity to it.
But then, yeah, it also helpsme understand why it's like,
okay, I could show up and I'm agenerator too, so I also can
know why it's like I can show upand I can emit and provide and
give energy to others and emitenergy into the world, because
I'm not reflecting, I'm notprojecting.
I'm not reflecting, I'm notprojecting, I'm not, you know,
(28:40):
manifesting.
Um, those are all differenttypes of energies and once you
all start to get into all ofthis, I'm also not emotional,
which doesn't mean I don't haveemotions.
We can talk about that too herein a minute, if you'd like, but
um, yeah, it also because ofthat, all this combination plus
the left angle, it's just I justhave that capacity right From a
design standpoint and thisreally helps me to understand
(29:02):
like where I've been with myfriends and conversations lately
, where it's just I just havelike a capacity, a little bit
more of a capacity for somethings right now and for some
things than others, becausesometimes others just need like
more of that time and space.
And I think I always I alwayswant to recognize and respect
that and I think design isanother way like understanding
(29:23):
your design and others.
Design is a really great way todo that.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Oh yeah, absolutely Like um.
So my partner is anon-emotional and both my
daughter and I are emotional andso, um, even getting him to
understand, you know, like we wewould have so many fights
because, especially in the past,because he, when he is
(29:51):
passionate about something, hewants to talk about it right
then he's like if I wait, thenI'm going to like lose interest,
I'm not going gonna feel aspassionately about it as I do
right now.
I want to talk about it rightnow.
And he would poke the bear andtry and get me to talk and I'd
be like I don't want to talkright now because I'm gonna say
something that's gonna hurt yourfeelings.
(30:12):
In this state that I'm in, right, all my emotions, feeling all
the feels, and I'm not gonna belike I am not gonna know how to
come back from that.
Right, I'm going to be scaredthat you're going to like use it
against me.
So I'd rather, if we're havinga heated discussion, take some
time to really reflect andassess how I feel and then come
(30:32):
back neutrally and that's.
You know, human design hashelped him understand that
because he's like, oh yeah, likehe sees, he sees my emotional
wave with my business and sohe's like I understand that it's
not just a me thing, it's notjust you know, and it just
creates that deeper level ofunderstanding and empathy and
(30:52):
encouragement to actually, youknow, give the person what they
need, which is sometimes space.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Right, right and correct me if I'm wrong.
I feel like non-emotionals tolike, tend to like.
Emotionals tend to put out alot of emotion, like emit a lot
of emotions in the waygenerators emit a lot of energy
or provide a lot of energy intothe world, but non-emotionals
tend to receive.
So like.
For me, like as a non-emotionaleven though I again, we have we
(31:20):
all have emotions it's moreabout like I can hold space for
people's emotions.
I tend to be and my daughter'salso non-emotional but very,
very empathic, and so it can bevery draining in that sense of
like I can kind of hold.
When I'm holding space forothers, I'm holding back and
(31:40):
holding down my emotions, and sothat can be very exhausting and
very draining.
So you have to kind of reallybe like intentional about how,
when and where you're spendingyour energy and your emotion and
giving time and space for yourown emotions, because as a
non-emotional you don't expressit often or you don't often feel
like you can.
Right, because you're thecontainer versus the one
(32:03):
emitting it.
Would you agree?
Is that right?
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Yeah, emotionals put out that energy.
And it's funny because I havethis example now.
We went to dinner and I have afavorite restaurant at this, uh,
a favorite restaurant, afavorite waitress at this
restaurant, and the host waslike, okay, you're gonna be in
mercia section.
(32:27):
And I was like, oh yay, I lovemercia, like this is great, it's
gonna be great.
And then this other waitresscomes and her name is jessica
and she's like hi, I'm jessica,I'll be your waitress.
And and I just kind of was likebut you're like, you're not
Marcia.
Yeah, and so, um, you know,eventually they fixed it and
(32:48):
Marcia came over and she waslike yeah, I'll be your waitress
, and things like that.
And he's like I felt youdeflate, like I felt your energy
.
He was like you are so excitedyou can read the room?
Yes, and it's because you knowand I want to address the
non-emotional thing rightEveryone has emotions.
We are emotional beings, likehands down.
(33:09):
The thing with people who havean open or undefined solar
plexus, which makes you anon-emotional in human design,
is that you are empatheticbecause you take in the energy
from your environment and fromother people.
And for a lot of people, youknow, when I'm doing readings,
I'm like, you know, as a childit probably was difficult and
(33:31):
you were labeled as emotionalbecause it was difficult for you
to you know, figure like isthis mine or is this?
And so sometimes people whodon't have that solar plexus
defined, they have short fusesbecause they're just like I'm
taking in all this.
Speaker 1 (33:48):
What are you doing?
It's going to spit in my gob atyou.
Yes, but you guys are veryempathetic, which is which,
which is I'm glad that you havethat with your, with your
daughter yeah, yeah, becauseshe's even more so, like she
just picks up on all the energyI feel like even more so than me
(34:10):
, or maybe I have just, maybeeven just I've forgotten that
part of myself over the yearsand have conditioned myself for
more to to take in less.
But yeah, no, she definitelyshe feels it all.
She feels it all, which issometimes just hard to see
because she's, you know, only 11.
It's like, don't do that toyourself, you know, but yeah.
(34:33):
So we talked a little bitearlier about trusting your gut.
I want to come back to that.
Through human design and thislens, what does that actually
mean to practically for some ofthese different types?
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Yeah.
So I consider trusting your gutto be synonymous with intuition
.
And so we live in a culturalcontext where certainty is
praised over flow and it's youknow, statistics and logic, and
everything is praised overintuition.
(35:08):
And so for any type, anyauthority, with the exception of
, like mental authority because,like, that's a, that's a rare
breed of authority where, like,actually everything is happening
in your, in your head, but youhave to talk it out and have the
sounding board you know, to seehow it.
But even then it's like you aretechnically labeled as mental
(35:30):
authority, but you have to talkit out with other people, you
have to be in the rightenvironment with those you trust
so that they are your soundingboard and you can hear what's
being reflected back to you andsee how it lands in your body
once you speak it out.
So in every single authoritythere's this element of like
(35:51):
body.
If it's your, if you'reemotional, it's, you know,
riding out your emotional waveand coming to a decision from an
emotionally neutral place.
If it's splenic, it's in themoment, you know.
Right then, and there I'veheard many people, many splenic
projectors, talk about thiswhole body like hell, yes, that
happens.
Or like, if there's hesitation.
(36:13):
It's probably a no or not rightnow, even for self-projected
authority.
Like they have to talk it out,they have to, they have to hear
their truth and their aura inorder to gain that clarity.
And so in all of these, younotice how there's not, like you
know, planning or like logic.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
There's no pros and cons list like logic.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
There's no pros and cons list.
Right, there's no.
Which way do I do?
And so it's.
It's this return to the wisdomthat's actually in the body, and
it's so hard for people, whenthey first find human design to
to trust that, because we'vebeen conditioned for so long
that you know, if you can't backit up with a 10 point
PowerPoint presentation, thenlike it's not valid and
(37:06):
intuition doesn't have that.
Like you said, it doesn't havea pros and cons list.
You feel something or you don't, and it's.
It's a process of realigningand learning how to trust the
wisdom in the body, but reallytrust yourself, because this is
(37:30):
something like for me as anemotional authority.
I was diagnosed with bipolar 2when I was 14.
And so, for you know, over adecade I made myself wrong for
my emotions.
I thought that there wassomething wrong with me for
having really strong emotions orhaving these up and down waves,
(37:52):
and so it took a long time andI'm still on that path of like.
Okay, what do I feel?
Because for so long my feelingswere invalidated.
I grew up, my mom didn't have adefined solar plexus and she
had a lot of mental like.
Her head is defined and herAjna is defined, and so where
(38:13):
you have definition, that's theenergy that you put out.
And so a lot of times, you know, I would talk about how I felt
and she'd be like, but right,and then, with her undiagnosed
borderline personality withnarcissistic tendencies, I would
be made wrong for feeling whatI felt.
(38:34):
And so there was always thiselement of questioning how I
felt.
And now I'm in a place whereI'm like, no, that's actually
what I'm supposed to do.
But how do I navigate these upsand downs?
And that's what the experimentis all about is like learning
how to trust yourself againafter years of being basically
programmed not to Right.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
And I mean talk about seeing, being able to see that
disconnect, and then when youcan see that kind of a
disconnect one, you're findingalignment with yourself.
But then you're also findingthe reason behind the disconnect
, so that there's not shame orblame, right, because you can
see like what's behind thedisconnect, right, and I think
that that really helps becausesometimes it's like we talk to
other people, because you cansee like what's behind the
(39:18):
disconnect, right, and I thinkthat that really helps, because
sometimes it's like we talk toother people, we look at other
people and we're just like whatthe hell are you thinking?
Where are you coming from?
I don't understand you.
And it's because we're notdesigned the same.
We don't, we don't, we don'tprocess the same, we don't
always emote the same, and soit's like if we can kind of just
(39:39):
use a little bit ofunderstanding and compassion,
that's one way.
But also, I think this humandesign stuff there's some really
just cool factors to it.
Um for sure, and I love whatyou were just saying there too
about um.
You know, one of my favoritequotes is just never outsource
your knowing.
And if anybody here also againfans of the podcast, no, I'm
(40:03):
peacemaker and like harmony andso general consensus used to be
like my mo, and it still is likewhen it comes to certain
decisions.
Right, but as far as decisionsthat come, it was far as I am
concerned.
Now I am with human design, Ifeel like I'm much more informed
as to how I want to move in theworld and make certain
(40:24):
decisions for myself.
Um, because it's just, you know, having that other information.
It like the Enneagram, to me ismore of like that shadow type
of work where, like, the designis kind of like more of that
internal knowledge, you know.
And again, I don't have to likekeep going outside of myself to
get the consensus fromeverybody else.
(40:45):
You know, it's like nice tohave that alignment from other
people when certain matters, butit doesn't need to be in all
things.
So, yeah, that used to be theway I went about everything, and
now I'm like no, I don't needto call and complain or talk to
everybody and process this outSometimes, I just need to sit
with myself, you know, and thinkthrough this or work through
this, or trust the gut feelingthat I have about this that it
(41:06):
isn't the right thing for me andI need to make a move.
So, yeah, all right, let's diginto gene keys a little bit,
because this is new for me.
How does it complement humandesign when it comes to building
authentic leadership?
Speaker 2 (41:19):
Yeah so gene keys takes a closer look at the 64
gates in human design and genekeys they're called the 64 keys,
and so it takes a closer lookat the Chinese I Ching element
and the quantum physics, in thatevery single key, every single
gate has these three frequencies.
(41:39):
And so the shadow is kind ofthe challenge, really.
So, when you talk about likethe shadow work with the
enneagram, like gene keys,really so, when you talk about
like the, the shadow work withthe enneagram, like gene keys,
this is a perfect yeah so, um,the shadow is the challenge that
you're here to overcome.
It's, it's gonna keep showingup and the gift, which is the
(42:00):
next frequency up, that's what.
When you embrace your creativepower, that's what shines
through, that's when you stepinto your authenticity, when
you're aligned, when you'removing on your path, like that's
what shines through.
And then the highest frequencyis the city.
And so this is a transcendentrealization of you know, it's
(42:21):
like a culmination of like okay,this is, this is a line, this
is that feeling of satisfaction,that feeling of satisfaction,
that feeling of success, thatfeeling of surprise that happens
when you just kind of surrenderto life and just live within
your gifts.
And so it complements, becausehuman design I like to see as
(42:43):
very practical.
It's like this is how you makedecisions, these are your gifts
and this is how your energyflows.
This is where some of yourconditioning comes in.
And then Gene Keys is for a lot.
I like to see it as a morein-depth personal development
tool because it involves a lotof contemplation.
It involves a lot of thinkingabout your past and how these
(43:07):
shadows have shown up and howcould you have turned those into
the gift, how can you be inyour awareness more so that you
don't dip into whatever thatshadow is Like.
For me, in my brand sphere, inmy what I'm here to do in this
lifetime, I'm here to be a forceof continual expansion, and
that's actually the gift ofexpansion.
(43:29):
But the shadow is immaturity,this being in a place of
external fixation and externalvalidation and not being
internally grounded.
And you can see therelationship of when you let go
of this.
Need this fixation for externalpeople to say like, oh, you're
(43:49):
doing great, which the schoolsystem does not help this at all
because it's all about likegrades and everything.
But you have to like, let go ofthat.
And once you're able tovalidate yourself.
Once you're able to have thatinternal stillness, you do
expand more, you're able to stepinto more things and at its
highest frequency, the city issuper abundance, which that was
(44:11):
a trip for me, because it it wasa push to actually even
redefine what I thought of asabundance, cause so many of us
we equate abundance with moneyor or this you know, outside
things, but there's so manydifferent variations.
There's health abundance,there's time abundance, there's,
you know, relationshipabundance.
(44:32):
There's so many differentelements that can be pulled in
there, and so I think that itcomplements because you know,
when you've been in theexperiment for a long time but
you're still hitting some ofthose blocks in your
conditioning, the gene keys,being able to look at some of
those, you know, tumultuoustimes in your life where maybe
(44:53):
you chose the shadow out of fear, out of lack, out of scarcity,
out of this distrust, like howcan you trust yourself enough to
live in the gift, to show up inthe highest frequency that you
can?
Speaker 1 (45:10):
Yeah, I love that so much and it kind of brings it
back to where you started, whichis redefining success Right,
stop chasing the things thataren't truly for you, because
what's going to happen is you'regoing to work your ass off,
you're going to get there andyou're going to go.
Why aren't I happy?
I worked so hard?
Where's that shining moment ofsuccess and triumph?
I just it falls flat and you'rewondering why?
Here's why I love it All.
(45:33):
Right, we've talked aboutcomparison a lot today, but I
think it just it's, it's so youjust can't say it enough.
It's.
You know, we live in a verydigital, heavy, social media
heavy world where comparisons isjust constantly in our face.
How can women use some of thesetools that we've talked about
today to stay grounded and kindof find their unique value, to
just avoid this trap?
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Yeah, so I found that really leaning into your gifts,
so doing.
I always say do a readingbecause it's the quickest way.
Like I am a one line in humandesign and so that's the
investigator, researcher, so Ilove going down a good rabbit
hole.
I've watched videos, I've readdifferent books and so you know
(46:19):
human design is one of thosethings that lots of people can
go and Google and find differentinformation.
But if you really want likepractical strategies and tips
for your design, I always saygrab a reading so you can get
that understanding.
Because once you have anunderstanding of what you're
here to do in this lifetime likeI always start with like the
(46:39):
incarnation cross, because ittells you what you're here to do
, what you're here to learn whatdeeply fulfills you and what
your purpose is, and once youknow and understand what that is
for yourself, then other peopletrying to push you on a
different path or make you besomething that you're not,
you're just like.
That's not.
You know that's not the way Iwas designed, that's not in
(47:01):
alignment, and you're able tohave that validation with these
tools of like I was designedthis way, I'm.
This is how I, my soul, choseto show up in this lifetime, how
my energy presents itself tothose around me and how I
interact with the world, and soit can be really empowering to
lean into these tools and toexit out the outside noise.
(47:26):
Like one of the things that Irecently had to do in my
business was figure out all ofthe little things that I was
leaning into that was causing meto exert more energy and effort
in my business than wasactually needed at the time.
Like, many of us use socialmedia in our business and
there's this kind of unspoken,sometimes spoken, rule I don't
(47:50):
know if it's still spokenbecause I've been in the process
of exiting out outside noisebut there's this rule of like if
someone comments, you have torespond back like within an hour
or the algorithm's going toding you or whatever.
And I'm like, and I spent somuch time and effort trying to
adhere to these unspoken rulesthat you know I've just been,
(48:14):
you know, hearing about, andwhat I found is that when you
actually do what feels right foryou, you still like you have
much more success.
And not only do you have muchmore success, you, you feel
better, like you were sayingthere's this, this, when you're
trying to do all the things thatpeople say that you should do
(48:36):
in order to find that joy, tofind that fulfillment.
It's almost like, well, I didthe things and I don't have that
, so what, what am I not doing?
And then you, you're forced tocontinually get that external
noise in trying to tell you like, okay, well, you did these
things and it you don't have it,so why don't you do these other
(48:58):
things?
And then you spend so much timeand energy like doing things
versus like being able tovalidate yourself, being able to
say like this is what feelsright in my business, being able
to, to bring those elements out.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
Yeah, and then again, you're not comparing you're not
comparing and you're not tryingthe things that aren't going to
be working for you.
What would you say is the mostsurprising insight you've
discovered about leadershipthrough combining both your
brand strategy and human design?
Speaker 2 (49:30):
The most surprising thing that I found about
leadership.
With this combination so many ofus we have a message that
sometimes people are scared toshare.
So we put on these, these masksof what we think we should be
sharing, and it has been thegreatest joy to see the surprise
(49:55):
on my client's face when I'mlike well, this is actually in
your like, for example, in yourMercury.
You're designed to share or youknow, this is in your North or
South mode, and so this is howthis has shown up in your life
and this is what you're movinginto, and it's actually a line
for you to talk about that.
And they're like, oh my gosh,like I thought people were gonna
(50:18):
shun me for that.
And so just giving them theencouragement of like no, yeah,
like that's actually, and thenseeing the, the transformation
that happens when they startleaning into what it is that's
actually aligned for them toshare.
It's like, oh my gosh, I didn'tknow it could be this easy
(50:40):
because we've been conditionedto believe that is hard.
It's you got to grind andhustle and do all this.
Speaker 1 (50:49):
Yeah, so it's kind of like helping them, so it's like
affirming right, that internalvoice, not the imposter syndrome
, the opposite, right, theauthentic, true voice that the
imposter syndrome has beenspeaking over and rudely
interrupting for God knows howlong, right, and it's like the
human design has been able tosort of tap that voice and say
(51:10):
hey, yo, actually you are theone we're supposed to be
listening to and hearing, butsocial conditioning has been
telling us, you know, keep itdown, keep it shut.
And it is so true I think youknow.
All of this aside, I think itwas interesting.
I was actually having aconversation with my husband
last night.
When we started thisconversation, I said you know,
imposter syndrome is real forboth men and women.
(51:30):
He left academia and went intothe professional world for the
first time in his entire lifeand it's been different.
You know it's a different worldand you know he's a researcher,
he's introverted, but he wantsto be social, he wants to feel
connected, he wants to havefriends.
And you know, I told him I saidone of the biggest unlocks for
(51:53):
me, I think, was really justfinding that people want to know
the real you, they want to hearyour true, authentic voice and
that if you are willing to justopen up and share a little bit
more and hold back a little bitless I'm not saying you just
need to go out and be likeobnoxious and rude and
inappropriate, but I think ifyou just be, you know what would
it look like to be 10% more you, 10% more authentic, you know,
(52:20):
because he's a wonderful humanbeing with loads of great ideas.
So I'm like I don't know whatyou're trying to hold back, but
like it's like if you were tojust be a little bit more that,
what would that look like?
You know, because I feel likethe more granted you know, we
have such a great safe spacehere with Together Digital where
women can kind of really stepinto and practice that authentic
voice in a space that theydon't have to worry about being
(52:40):
shamed for or, you know, havingbacklash for.
So I have that privilege of justhaving that all the time and I
forget how to act in politesociety.
So I'm just used to just beingable to talk about all the
things.
But yeah, you know not havingthat privilege, I understand.
You know a lot of us pick upand put on sometimes mini masks
(53:01):
in one day and I just do think alot of this.
So any tool that you can pickup and start to use for
self-awareness, to tap into,find that authentic voice and
give yourself permission.
When you put that out, peopleare so afraid it's going to
detract, but it really doesattract, like you said, it
attracts opportunity, itattracts friendship and
(53:21):
connections in ways that you'rejust going to be so surprised by
.
Speaker 2 (53:25):
Yeah, exactly Yay.
Speaker 1 (53:27):
Can you tell I just love all this stuff?
Surprised by yeah, exactly, yay.
Can you tell I just love allthis stuff so much?
All right, we've got some folkslistening live, as always, so
we love having our livelistening audience.
Before we go into our fun powerround of questions, just want
to make sure that you all knowyou can ask questions in the
chat If you have them.
I know all this stuff.
You guys are like some of them.
(53:47):
You're like what do you guys?
I don't know what's been goingon for the last hour, but you've
all hung in there.
So a couple of questions.
Actually, like I want to makesure that we ask before we go to
the power round, questions too.
Is you know, if folks want tolearn more about human design,
what are some good generalresources for them?
Speaker 2 (54:04):
Yeah, so on my website they can pull their
chart and I actually send them acheat sheet that helps them
decode their design, as well asa playlist on my YouTube channel
which goes into visualexplanations of these different
things.
Another resource that I havefound super helpful a lot of
people know the traditionalhuman design language, but Karen
(54:26):
Curry Parker she actually haslanguage in quantum human design
which actually takes it a stepfurther and talks about
emotional authority as creativeauthority, and so it's a little
bit more empowering and itbrings in some of the different
quantum elements of inside thebody.
So I'd say any of her work isamazing to learn more about
(54:49):
human design.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
Oh, that rabbit hole just got a little bit deeper for
me.
Oh, my goodness, I will be sureto include some of those links
for the YouTube channel and yourwebsite into our show notes as
well.
All right, I checking the.
Let me check the chat to see ifwe've got anything in there.
No questions yet, but all right, we'll hit the the um.
(55:11):
Let me make sure I have theright open live stream chat.
There we go.
Oh, look at that, danielle.
Thank you so much.
She's my woman today on the umand all the resources and the
links.
Look at her, she's on fire.
Speaker 2 (55:25):
You're the best.
Speaker 1 (55:26):
Yeah, I was in the wrong chat.
I was like I have a sense I'min the wrong chat.
All right, cool, cool, cool,fantastic.
Um, sharon was asking what appare we using?
Do you have an app that you usefor any of?
Speaker 2 (55:40):
this.
So I know Jenna has her app,the my Human Design app.
Most of the time I just havepeople download their chart so
they can have it as a quickreference.
Mine is actually my screensaver.
Speaker 1 (55:56):
That's a great idea.
Quick reference.
Speaker 2 (55:58):
Yeah, I'm like oh wait, they're talking about Gay
28.
I think I have that.
Oh, okay, Now I can really lockin and tune in.
Speaker 1 (56:06):
That's fantastic.
And then Grinnell was asking ifthere's like something about
the numbers, what are thenumbers?
Oh, the profile Did that forjust a second, yeah.
Speaker 2 (56:15):
Yeah, the profile line.
So there are six differentlines, 12 different profiles in
human design, and so essentiallythis goes into how your energy
shows up in the world.
So the first part of thefraction looking number is how
other people see you.
It's kind of like what youraura presents to the world.
And then the second part of thefraction is your underlying
(56:38):
script of how you interact withthe world.
So you know, as we were talkingabout earlier with the three
five, so a lot of peopleprobably see these women if,
yeah, you said they're the same,they see them like trying out a
bunch of stuff.
They see them, you know,bumping into things, learning
things through that.
But the five is the solutionsperson, the challenge solver,
(57:04):
the save the day kind of energy,and so they're always going to
be looking to to fix something,and so that's just their
underlying script.
For me, I'm a five one, soother people need to, yes, yes,
and I and I kind of sense thatwhen you're like, oh, this is
(57:25):
going to take me deeper and so,like, the five is, you know,
like about the expectations thatwe set for people, because if
they project that, we can helpthem with something that
(57:47):
actually we don't have afoundation in, then it turns
very quickly from oh my gosh,you're my savior, you're awesome
, you're amazing, to like oh myGod, I hate you.
Like why did you give me thisadvice?
Like it didn't work for me.
And then your reputation is kindof on the line.
So the five lines have to bereally careful about.
You know who they're attractingand what solutions they're
(58:09):
providing.
And then our one line we'reinvestigators.
We love getting to the bottomof stuff, we love a good rabbit
hole, a strong foundation ofknowledge, which we also have to
be careful because sometimes itcan be hard to trust that you
know enough to then take it tothe, to the world.
That was one of the thingsabout human design that really
(58:31):
resonated with me yeah, yeah,that's so, so interesting.
Speaker 1 (58:35):
I love that.
Yeah, this whole like when youwere talking earlier too, I
almost brought up my five one.
When you were talking about thefix, the fixer, I was like, oh,
when I was reading that portionof it, the challenge solver, I
was like, oh, okay, yeah, yeah,no, I don't have to try to fix
everything.
But then also, being like thevoluntold one constantly where
(58:57):
you know it's like I get it thatyou might have natural
leadership tendencies, but it'sjust ridiculous how you could
walk into a room and say verylittle and somehow still, how do
I walk out of the room beingthe one told like, oh, you're
going to lead this right.
I'm like I didn't even sayanything.
How did this happen?
But once I read that I was like, oh, okay, got it.
(59:19):
Yes, oh, my goodness.
Well, thank you all for droppingthe questions in during the
conversation.
I love it.
I love it, and don't be afraidto reach out to Diamond as well
if you have any additionalquestions after yes, all right,
let's go through these rapidfire questions real quick.
What is your go-to mantra whenself-doubt creeps in?
Speaker 2 (59:41):
It's one of two things.
So what's on the other side ofthis, or what story am I telling
myself here?
Speaker 1 (59:47):
Oh, I like both of those.
Those are great.
Three words or less.
What's the biggest mistakepeople make when dealing with
imposter syndrome?
Speaker 2 (59:55):
Caught in comparison.
Speaker 1 (59:57):
Yes, ma'am, can't say that enough.
If you could put one message ona billboard about authentic
leadership, what would it say?
Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
Yeah, so sometimes the bravest thing you can do is
trust that inner voice that'ssaying there's another way.
Speaker 1 (01:00:13):
I love it too.
All right, last one, completethe sentence.
The moment you'll know you'restepping into your power is when
.
Speaker 2 (01:00:21):
The moment you'll know you're stepping into your
power is when, without any extraeffort other than living your
truth and teaching what you'vemastered, the universe starts to
bring you opportunities thatyou're excited to take advantage
of.
Speaker 1 (01:00:34):
Oh, I love it.
You're so prepared.
Speaker 2 (01:00:36):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (01:00:37):
Thank you so much, diamond.
This was wonderful.
I hope all of our listenersreally enjoyed this and again
just found one more tool and wayto learn more about themselves,
feel empowered and hopefullyunderstand and empower others as
well.
This is fantastic, diamond,thank you so much thank you of
course, of course, and thank youlive listeners.
We appreciate you all and ourpodcast listeners.
(01:00:58):
We're excited to have you againback with us next week.
Until then, everyone, keep,everyone, keep asking, keep
giving and keep growing.
We'll see you then.
Bye, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la
, la, la, la, la la.
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