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February 4, 2025 26 mins

In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance.

Episode Highlights

  • The development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skill
  • How childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systems
  • Why hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuition
  • The physical and emotional toll of maintaining constant vigilance


Key Insights

  • 70% of children from alcoholic homes develop hypervigilant traits that persist into adulthood
  • Our body's stress response system gets programmed in childhood
  • Emotional threats are processed by our bodies the same way as physical threats
  • Hypervigilance can create false beliefs and misinterpretation of neutral situations


References Mentioned

  • "The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk - Purchase Book
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Time Stamps

[00:00:00] Introduction and welcome
[00:01:22] Personal story about childhood trauma
[00:05:04] Development of hypervigilance as a survival skill
[00:06:21] Scientific explanation of threat detection systems
[00:09:15] Research on childhood trauma and relationship hypervigilance
[00:15:07] Difference between curiosity and hypervigilance
[00:17:06] Body tension awareness exercise
[00:21:12] Reference to "The Body Keeps the Score" exercises
[00:22:18] Information about the bootcamp program
[00:25:52] Closing thoughts and practical steps forward

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