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November 26, 2024 22 mins

Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.

THE HEART OF IT

  • The moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it)
  • Why we feel the need to prove we're "not stupid" in relationships
  • The protective pattern of "just so you know I know" statements
  • How choosing trust over proof can completely change your relationship


Have you ever noticed that quiet moment before you launch into relationship detective mode? That split second where your mind offers up a perfectly reasonable explanation, yet something pushes you to prove you're not easily fooled? Shanenn breaks down this fascinating pattern and reveals why our need to appear "aware" might actually be working against us.

Through real-life examples, she shows us how these small moments of choice can shift our entire relationship dynamic. Learn why phrases like "just so you know, I know" might be hurting your relationship.  Other topics covered in this episode are:

  • The split second when your rational brain offers the logical explanation
  • Why proving you're "aware" actually creates more anxiety
  • The freedom in choosing not to voice every suspicion
  • How tiny choices to trust can lead to massive relationship shifts


TRUTH BOMBS "Your life will be so much calmer, so much happier, and with less anxiety if you make the choice of saying, 'You know what, I'm going to go with this logical explanation.'"

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

  • [Coming Soon] "Triggered to Transformation" Course
  • Email: sbryant@topself.com (Share your moments of choosing trust over suspicion!)

YOUR NEXT STEPS (Choose Your Own Adventure)

  1. Notice when you're about to launch into "just so you know" mode
  2. Pause when your brain offers the logical explanation
  3. Try sitting with the peaceful explanation (just for 5 minutes!)
  4. Share your experience with Shanenn at sbryant@topself.com


Did this episode hit home? Share it with someone who's ready to choose peace over proof.

Remember: Choosing not to say "just so you know" doesn't make you naive - it makes you brave.


00:00 Introduction to Top Self Podcast
00:49 A Teenage Adventure: Sneaking Out
04:41 The Consequences and Realizations
09:10 Understanding Triggers and Jealousy
17:49 Making Healthier Choices
21:28 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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