Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!)
In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself.
Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why your inner child needs a time-out from running your relationships.
Key Takeaways
- Why are you testing your partner with "abandonment scales" that don't exist
- How suppressing emotions is actually self-abandonment in disguise
- The truth about external validation and why it's like trying to fill a leaky bucket
- Why building self-trust doesn't mean becoming a totally independent island
- How to stop abandoning yourself (even when you're feeling super insecure)
Memorable Quotes
💭 "Self-trust is the belief that you can rely on yourself to make decisions, handle emotions, and honor your needs"
Signs You Might Be Abandoning Yourself
- Ignoring or suppressing your true feelings
- Saying "yes" when you really mean "no"
- Overworking to prove your worth
- Putting others' needs first (even when you're running on empty)
- Tolerating disrespect to keep the peace
Your Self-Trust Action Plan
- Notice when you're seeking external validation
- Challenge your black-and-white thinking
- Start honoring your emotions
- Practice setting boundaries
- Trust that you can handle whatever comes your way
Episode Timeline
- 00:00 Welcome & Episode Recap
- 02:33 The Only Person Who Can't Abandon You
- 07:15 What Would Complete Self-Trust Feel Like?
- 12:45 The Closet Meltdown Story
- 18:30 Understanding Self-Abandonment
- 25:45 Building Real Self-Trust
- 29:20 Final Thoughts & Resources
Resources Mentioned
- Free Self-Discovery Workshop (Registration is Open!)
- Last Week's Episode with Dr. Brittany McGeehan (Episode 100)
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