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Struggling with jealousy, insecurity, or self-doubt? You're not alone. Join Pattern Transformation Expert Shanenn Bryant as she combines humor, hard-won wisdom, and practical strategies to help you break free from the patterns keeping you stuck. From 2 AM social media stalking sessions to second-guessing yourself at work, each episode tackles the real struggles women face with jealousy, insecurity and confidence. Shanenn draws from her experience and expertise in attachment theory to help women transform from overwhelming insecurity to unshakeable confidence in both relationships and career. Whether you're battling relationship jealousy or letting imposter syndrome hold you back in the workplace, you'll discover how to recognize your patterns, regulate your emotions, and transform your story. Ready to stop letting insecurity and jealousy run your life? Subscribe now to start writing a new story - one that isn't controlled by old patterns or endless overthinking.

Episodes

April 1, 2025 34 mins

In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who shares her remarkable journey from growing up in an alcoholic home to becoming 16 years sober and helping others transform their lives. From IV drug use at 18 to finding sobriety and purpose, Leah's story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling with addiction, unhealthy patterns, or leadership challenges.


Golden Nugget...

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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom.

From his concept of "the house of your heart" to practical techniques like "embra...

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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nurture lasting love and embrace conflict as an opportunity for growth.

Golden...

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🤣 🤣  Get ready to laugh your way through relationship real talk! 

In this episode, we're joined by the hilarious duo from the "We're Not Fine" podcast - relationship therapist Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen - for an unfiltered discussion about those "Is this normal?" relationship questions.

Shanenn, Talia, and Doug dive into:

  • The great memorabilia debate: Is it okay to keep items from past relati...
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❤️ The Date Doctor is Here!

In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony matchmaker, and author of the upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate." Dr. K shares her expert insights on building healthy relationships, understanding family dynamics, and navigating the modern dating landscape with authenticity and purpose.


Key Moments

🎯 [02:04] The uni...

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February 4, 2025 28 mins

In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance.

Episode Highlights

  • The development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skill
  • How childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systems
  • Why hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuition
  • The physical and emotional toll of maintaini...
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January 28, 2025 22 mins

Wanna know the science behind being happier?  Check out this week's episode with Tedx speaker and happiness expert Tia Graham.

Tia Graham shares some powerful stuff about choosing happiness, managing triggers, and transforming childhood trauma. 

From practical happiness frameworks to deeply personal stories about motherhood and healing, this episode is jammed packed with valuable tools for anyone looking to i...

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January 21, 2025 22 mins

Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!) 
 
In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself. 
 
Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why your inner child need...

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This episode is fire! 🔥

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn talks with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, who dropped a major truth bomb that made her stop everything: You’ll have to hit play to hear it.  This may be the only thing you need to hear today!   


Dr. McGeehan, a licensed psychologist and performance coach specializing in empowering high-achieving female CEOs, shares the "Drama Triangle" and why we keep gett...

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January 7, 2025 12 mins

Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities.

What We're Diving Into:

  • The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfolio, showing up everywhere in your life from dating, to work, t...
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December 31, 2024 7 mins

What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now?

Will it be the same thoughts you're having today?  Will you're focus be on the same things?

In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" or better known as a thought spiral and suggest...

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This episode talks about the crucial difference between guilt and shame, and why one might be secretly sabotaging your relationship growth.

Shanenn shares:

• How guilt is like your relationship GPS - letting you know when you've made a wrong turn, while shame is more like a brick wall blocking all possible r...

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Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time?  Do you feel like you use your time wisely?  When I am insecure and jealous, I don't!  

When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache.

In this episode, Shanenn and Dr. Adam Dorsay talk about the concept of conne...

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Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode.

Key Takeaways:

  • A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-opening fact)
  • Only 20-23%...
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Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.

THE HEART OF IT

  • The moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it)
  • Why ...
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🎙️ Where my freaks at?  Control Freaks that is.  
 
 In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour.
 
 Shanenn and Joanna talk about:
 

  • How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been messing with you since you lost your first too...
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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves.

From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy ...

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Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread?  Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship? 

I was there too but you can turn things around.  Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference. 

It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take...

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I'm talking about you on this week's episode.  The REAL you.  Often we think we have to transform into someone else to overcome jealousy and insecurity and that seems like a huge feat to become your future self you want to be.

However, you alrea...

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October 8, 2024 30 mins

Feeling needy?  Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?

It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self.  In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.

She shares the importance of becoming the captain of y...

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