Ever started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’re not broken. You’re human.
In this episode, Shanenn explores why “safe” love can trigger your nervous system, especially if you grew up in chaos or experienced emotionally unpredictable relationships. You’ll learn:
- Why peace can feel like a red flag to a dysregulated nervous system
- The hidden link between chaos and connection
- Subtle ways we sabotage healthy love without realizing it
- A powerful affirmation to ground yourself when you’re spiraling
- How to begin rewiring your system to trust calm instead of rejecting it
If you’re ready to stop pushing away the love you crave, this episode is for you.
💎 Golden Nugget: “Peace isn’t the problem. My pattern is.”
Timestamps:
- 1:15 – Why calm triggers fear in a chaos-wired nervous system
- 3:00 – How your past relationships shaped your patterns
- 6:30 – A real-life story (with a German Shepherd!) that explains stored trauma
- 10:40 – Signs of self-sabotage when things feel “too good”
- 12:50 – Tools to rewire your nervous system for trust
- 15:40 – The mantra that can change everything
Resources & Links:
📄 Free Download: 5 Signs You’re Subconsciously Sabotaging
📞 Book a Free Discovery Call with Shanenn
🔗 Follow Shanenn on Instagram: @topselfco
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