April 9, 2024 • 31 mins
Do you want to reinvent your life after age fifty but don’t know where to begin? Beverley Glazer is a psychotherapist turned coach here to discuss how she helps women over fifty reinvent and find a purpose.
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Nan McKay (00:00):
Do you want to reinvent your life after age 50, but you just don't know where to
begin?Beverly Glaser is a psychotherapist turned
coach, here to discuss how she helps womenover 50 reinvent and find a purpose.
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This is Nan McKay, and I would like tointroduce you today to Beverly Glaser.
In today's episode, we are joined by Beverly,a seasoned therapist, internationally
certified addiction counselor, and thevisionary founder of Reinvent Impossible, Inc.
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With a storied career extending over 30 years,Beverly has transformed lives with her unique
blend of scientific knowledge and groundedwisdom.
She's the creator of the Reinvention formula,a groundbreaking coaching system that equips
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older women, especially those navigatingsignificant life transitions, with the tools
to rediscover their strengths and carve outnew, fulfilling paths.
As the voice behind the inspiring podcastaging with purpose and passion, Beverly echoes
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the empowering belief that it's never too lateto reinvent oneself and pursue newfound
dreams.
Join us as we explore Beverly's transformative
journey and the wealth of insights that sheoffers for those.
We're eager to embrace life's possibilities atany stage.
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So welcome, Beverly, thank you so much.
Beverly Glazer (02:16):
For that beautiful introduction.
Anne, thank you so much.
Nan McKay (02:20):
Beverly, could you start by telling us about the transition from a therapist to
founding Reinvent Impossible, Inc. And howyour past experiences maybe fueled this new
venture?
Beverly Glazer (02:36):
Okay, well, first of all, what's interesting is it's not a new venture.
I started reinventing possible income in 2013,and I was, or still kind of am, because right
now you've entered my office as of COVID Ihave given that up.
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COVID gave me the opportunity to be able to goonline full time and create, really, my
vision, which was reinvent impossible, to helpmany more people throughout the world.
And it allowed me to do that because whenyou're a therapist and you're working in an
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office, you are exhausted at the end of theday, you are also restricted as to who you can
serve and where you can serve these people.
And I learned quite a while ago that I was
actually, I was given the opportunity to speakon radio, and I had a radio show for five
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years, which was get a life with BeverlyGlaser.
And that's where you end up being the radiotherapist, but you can't really help people.
But I've reached so many people through thatthat I was got.
I got to know me, and of course I would beable to do therapy one on one.
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Well, reinvent impossible is a system whichI've put together.
It's a reinvention formula.
It's not for therapy.
Most of us, fortunately, don't need therapy.
But I chose to focus on women over 50 because
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through my career as a therapist, and as youmentioned, I work in addiction.
I've worked with really troubled families andpeople in all circumstances of life, and it
doesn't matter, rich or poor or whatever yourcircumstances are.
What I found is women hold it together.
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We really do.
And I may be stereotyping here, but I reallyam not.
I think most women can relate that whensomething goes wrong, she pulls it through for
the family.
She makes it work.
If something's wrong with him, we get himhelp.
Well over 50.
What happens is there's a wake up call, and
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I've noticed that throughout.
It's like, okay, I may be over 50, fine.
I feel good.
I am good.
But I lost my job, and my job was reallyimportant to me.
And maybe it wasn't the family income, it wasmy identity.
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But who am I now?Or mister wonderful has walked out and it
wasn't so great.
But you know what?
You knew what you had, or you don't havechildren, whatever the wake up call is.
And some people say, well, my life is justfine.
And I've seen a lot of people like that, butsomething is missing, and they notice it in
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themselves.
Why am I drinking so much or why am I eating
so much?What's going on there?
And so I help women, and that's my focus, andthat's what I've been doing primarily since
2023.
And you can't take the therapist out of the
person, but what you do is you can make this asimplistic process.
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You do not have to go through the pain incoaching, unfortunately, yes, you do in
therapy, but you don't have to do that.
There are simple ways of putting it together,
and that's what I've created, a coachingsystem to get you past where you are right
now.
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All that thinking, all that mess, and get you
where you want to be.
And then a lot of us don't know where we want
to be, but we just know where we are.
We're stuck.
And that comes after the kids, that comesafter the relationships, that comes after all
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that stuff.
So I've pinpointed 50 and yes, but it was a
whole old process starting in 2013.
Yeah.
Nan McKay (07:21):
I think a lot of people don't know the difference between a therapist, counseling
and coaching, and they are definitelydifferent.
Could you, because you've been on both sides,could you just elaborate on that just a bit?
Beverly Glazer (07:38):
Yes, sure.
In therapy, what you really have to do is
people come in pain, what's going on, and youhave to get through to the pain, and there's
many steps to do it, and it can take yearsdepending on the model that you go through.
So what happens in therapy is there is no endgoal.
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You come and you get what you need and youleave and you come back.
And we do have goals.
There are stepping stones, but there's no end
in coaching.
What I say in therapy, actually, in therapy,
the therapist does the work.
I'm working to get you where you have to be.
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In coaching, I give you the tools and thenwhat happens?
And we do have an end.
Like, my programs are generally three months.
You can continue, you can do other things, butby the end of three months there is a goal.
You know where you're going, you get what youneed and you can move on.
So it's not about getting into where you havebeen, you know where you have been.
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It's, let's get rid of that and move on.
So it's far more simplistic.
And like you said, it takes less out of me andmore for the client because the client has to
do the work.
And there are tools and there are modules and
there are, you know, templates and, and theydo have access to me for sure, but it's not a
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painful process.
And that's the difference, really between
therapy, what do I need, how do I get throughit?
And coaching.
This is where I am, how do I get out of it?
Nan McKay (09:19):
That was really a good explanation.
Can you elaborate on the reinvention formula,
like what makes it a surprisingly easycoaching system, and how has it really been
transforming lives?
Beverly Glazer (09:38):
Oh, I love that question.
Okay.
When we are stuck, we're stuck in our headsand we tell ourselves all kinds of stories
now, and I don't have to tell you, they arethe worst stories ever.
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And we get boggled down by those stories that,all that spin, right?
So let's say you find a coach and the coachsays, oh, well, let's rewrite your story.
Or the coach can say, okay, these areirrational beliefs, or you're taking programs
to get you out of problems with my family orspecific problems resentment issues.
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I contest that it will not work.
And the basis of that is, this is all pieces.
What it is, is I look at it, and this is howI've designed the program.
It's like, if everybody knows, it's likepsychology 101 pretty well.
It's brought into business as well.
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Maslow's hierarchy of needs, which is this
triangle.
And it starts on the basis with your safety
needs.
If we don't have safety and security needs,
how can we rise up?How can we find love in our life?
We are so busy with trying to get what we needon a base level.
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And of course, the tip of the iceberg isliterally enlightenment.
Well, how can you be enlightened if you'restruggling with whatever you're struggling
with?Right?
So how can we just rewrite issues simple likethat.
Or take that piecemeal when you don't reallybelieve it?
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So what goes on in the system is it's muchlike a triangle, but it's not about needs,
it's about us.
So it starts on a base level.
It's really owning it.
I have different levels that end up with
creating it.
And of course, the it is you.
And so it starts with owning it.
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Who are you?
And when you take a look at that, well, peoplesay, well, I'm a doctor, or I'm a lawyer, or
I'm a coach.
But that is not who you are.
That is what you do.
Who are you?
And why do you do what you do?And you may say, well, because I always wanted
to.
Well, what you do is you get right back to
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that base, ah, I'm a creative, ah, I love you.
Find yourself.
Because what happens is society, parents,everyone else has reprogrammed you, so you can
say, oh, I'm a CFO of a company.
No, you're not.
Maybe you're a scared, fragile little girl,and what you want is love and security.
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Or maybe it's an act.
Whatever it is, you own it.
And when you own it, that's so powerful.
And you build on that from owning it.
You close the past, and then afterwards, youstop those voices.
So you go through, literally, it takes threemonths to do it, to finally say, whoa, I am.
And then what happens is you create it, andyou will find that you will know exactly what
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you want to create.
Once you free all that garbage.
It's like, oh, wow, I am so empowered justbeing me now.
Will you hold that?Maybe, maybe not.
And as you know, with anything else in atriangle, we go up and down.
But at least what happens when you go down,you say, ah, that's where I am.
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And then you can climb back up, and you say,of course I feel that way, because.
And then you go back.
And so what happens is you never go low.
You just keep on building yourself from theinside.
And I don't know if that's too long anexplanation, but I can give you the example
you asked for, where I'm thinking of a CEO ofa company who came because, oh, she's
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wonderful.
I love all my clients.
So she came because things were just fallingapart in her life, and she couldn't figure out
why.
And everything sort of was going on, right?
But not.
But everything.
And that's.
Everyone can identify with that.
It's like, I don't get it.
But what she realized for her is she was
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drinking too much.
She was in relationships with people she
didn't want to be in relationships with, butshe thought that they were terrific.
It was just kind of scrambled.
And so what it is, is that was her wake up
call.
Like, why am I doing this?
When she did have a divorce, she was perfectlyhappy.
Her friends, or so her friends thought, and soshe would think.
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She had all the money.
She could do whatever she wanted, and yet,
whatever, what she wanted to do was change herjob.
She was upset with her family.
You're looking all on the outside.
And when she looked on the inside, sheliterally, of course, she did not like her
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job.
It was really male dominant, and she was
really under pressure with that.
But she loved being the CEO, and she knew
where her strong suits were, and she was ableto find another position, and she also learned
to deal with her family.
Everything came in a flow, Nan, because once
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she owned who she really was, which was notthe person that her mother intended her to be,
but the person that she had become.
You own the pieces you want.
You find your strengths, and they're yours.
And, yes, she changed her job.
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She did cherry pick what really matters toyou, and your life opens up, and so does your
career and so does your love life andrelationship and everything else you want,
because you will get it, because you feel youdeserve it.
It's about feeling, not about knowing.
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That's what it's about.
Nan McKay (16:16):
In your experience, what are some of the common challenges that older women face
during significant life transitions, and howdoes your approach help them navigate through
those challenges?
Beverly Glazer (16:31):
The biggest challenge, Nan, is I'm too old.
It's like the best years are over.
Resentment.
You laugh.
We both laugh, right?
But that's the feeling, okay?The feeling is you're looking at your children
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and life with another lens and you say, I'vebeen there and my time is up.
And so that is the biggest challenge, to getthat out of your head, but to understand that
that's all pre programming, that we are thefirst generation that's stepping up to the
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plate.
We can live to over 100 years old today.
They replace body parts like they changewheels of cars.
I mean, we keep on going.
So it's the mental attitude, and it's only
about mental attitude.
We feel we're not pretty enough.
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Our time has come.
This is all from past generations, and we've
bought into that story.
And I think we really have to rewrite another
story for our generation.
Nan McKay (17:48):
I do, too, because it's not that life is over, it's just beginning a different
chapter.
It's different, but it's really almost more
interesting sometimes than the past, becauseyou don't have to deal with so many of those
tasks and chores that you had to do as a womanwhen you had the kids and you were taking care
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of everybody.
Beverly Glazer (18:15):
Right, right.
But it's to get your head around that
thinking.
Nan McKay (18:19):
Yeah.
Beverly Glazer (18:20):
And you don't get the support from the other women around you.
That's also a thing people can be saying, youknow, like, what do you need to do?
Why are you doing what you do?What do you need to do?
Right.
The point is, not everybody has to work like
we are, but everybody needs a purpose.
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And that's what an older woman has to see,
your purpose.
You can love your grandchildren, and believe
me, I love mine, but I cannot.
And nobody should live through other people.
Other people should not be your purpose.
Your job should not be your purpose.
You have to have an internal purpose.
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I'm doing this for something larger.
And you have to be able to feel that you areworth it.
It's not getting up to go to a job or notgetting up because, hey, there's no reason.
It's a purpose.
And that's where all older women, men too, I
might add, can lose their purpose after a job.
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But there we go stereotyping again.
A woman will also push them out.
I know many a woman who continues to work and
finds a retirement coach for their man.
I don't want him just sitting, watching tv.
So that is what reinvention is.
Nan McKay (19:50):
Your podcast sounds much like your podcast because your podcast is aging with
purpose and passion, and that resonates deeplywith many, as you've said.
Can you share the inspiration behind startingthis podcast and some of the most maybe
profound stories or insights that have beenshared on the platform.
Beverly Glazer (20:14):
Oh, I'd love to, because every single story, nan, has so much inspiration
behind it.
And the reason I did this podcast is to
inspire other women with those stories,because these are ordinary women, just like
you.
Just like me.
It's not when we're looking to celebrities andsay, you know, this was their lot in life,
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and, wow, they had everything.
No. And what it is is you're listening to
other people's stories and how they reinventedthemselves.
And it's not easy, but everyone has motivationand everyone is determined, and somehow you
push through.
And I'm thinking of the story on my podcast
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that exemplifies that this was a woman, shewas a CEO during the.com era.
Can you remember Silicon Valley?Right?
This woman was flying.
She was in her thirties, she was all over the
world.
They had homes in California.
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And you're young, you think the bubble willnever burst.
Well, she decided, okay, I have more thanenough money, life is amazing.
I have homes, et cetera.
But I don't really see my little kids.
They're being taken care of by my mom.
So I think I'm going to move.
And where I'm going to move, I'm going to moveto Oregon.
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I'm going to buy another business.
And she bought a huge lot and built an
extravagant home and bought a business inOregon.
And she and her husband moved, and her husbandsaid, oh, no, you're leaving our wonderful
life in California.
Got it?
Yeah.
What happened was, as we know, the bubble
burst.
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And the company that she bought, although she
really did due diligence and it was a shellcompany, and, yeah, and she had moved her
family, she did everything.
She had lost her homes.
The housing market went as you know, whathappened with the mortgages in the US, all
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that tanked.
She lost her home, she put in a million
dollars into the startup, she said, or to thisshell company, she says, okay, I could turn
this around because, hey, I'm a CEO, I can dothis.
Well, what happened was she could not, and sheended up selling her properties, buying a
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small place, her mom moving in with her.
Fortunately, she'd moved her mom, but it was
bad.
And then came a divorce, and her husband went
back to California.
This is all on the podcast.
It's amazing.
Then what happens is she didn't know what to
do.
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I need to work.
And she finds herself in some small town inOregon, and she figured, okay, I can work in a
bank.
She goes to the bank.
She lasts only a short time, she can't work ina bank.
She's the CEO, okay?She can't take orders.
She tried three more jobs, and she was firedevery time.
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All she wanted to do, poor thing, was work,right?
So she was looking for a job.
What did she do?
There was a job opening on an indian reservethat was there.
And so she went on this reserve, and she wasworking in the office, and there wasn't too
much money that she could get, but at leastshe was getting some kind of work.
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And there was a paycheck.
And she always believed that if somebody's
going to be giving me money, regardless of howmuch, it must be worth something.
So she was doing her job, and she realized,well, you know, that they were needing
problems with their health.
The elders were having difficulty with the,
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you know, navigating the system.
They really didn't understand.
So she was helping with that.
And then she got another job.
She ended up being a bingo caller on thereserve, if you could imagine.
Okay.
And she became a bingo caller.
And now she's working in the office and abingo caller as well.
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And she got fired from the.
And she was sitting there wondering, what am I
going to do with my life?And when she was doing that, she got a call
from nowhere.
And this man said, you know, I want to talk to
you.
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I need help, and I will pay you to help me
navigate the system, the medical system.
And so what she did was she was helping him
and he paid her.
And then she started helping other people.
And because she's a CEO, she realized thatolder people need help navigating the system.
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And she was writing reports and goodness knowswhat.
And she became involved in, with the governorof Oregon to present different programs to
help people negotiate the system.
She now has more than one company.
She has quite a few.
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She's the CEO again, helping people, you know,
just.
And, you know, there are people now within her
company.
She doesn't do it alone to help people
navigate the system, to do the paperwork, toget that, get them what they need.
And if that's not an incredible story.
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There are so many incredible stories.
But when you think about that, when you thinkabout how devastated she must have been and
how many falls, you know, oh, and she'smarried.
Okay?She found the love of her life also.
He happens to be an indigenous person, and herlife has never changed.
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It was really good.
I mean, it's changed big time.
But she, you know, as far as her children areconcerned, she even says on, on, on the, on
podcast that they say, we had a wonderfullife.
Mom, we want to be just like you.
Can you imagine?
Nan McKay (26:46):
That's really nice.
As someone who's been an empowering force for
older women, what advice would you give to ourlisteners who might be feeling stuck or
powerless in their current life situations?
Beverly Glazer (27:02):
I'd go right up, right back to that reinvention formula.
There is no such thing as can't.
You can.
You are not stuck.
There always is a way.
And if you think of that woman that fell fromgrace, literally, with the.com era to being a
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bingo caller, okay, there is always a way.
But what you do is you just keep going and you
will find a way.
If you give up, you've lost it.
But if you say, I'm stuck, there's always away you can reach out.
And when you reach out, if this person doesn'twork or that person gives you the wrong advice
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or whatever it is, find what's in your heartthat starts from the very beginning.
Own it.
What do you really believe?
Do you believe there is absolutely no,nothing?
You're totally stuck.
If you do, you will stay stuck.
But usually when you have that perception,there's a little glimmer, there's a little
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spark that says, no, there's a maybe.
And if you have that maybe there is a way.
So just keep on going.
Push through.
Keep pushing through and find people.
They were out there.
The Internet is a vast place.
And one more thing, do not listen to the
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naysayers.
You'll always find those.
Okay.
Always follow your heart.
Nan McKay (28:42):
That's really interesting.
Well, finally, as we look forward, what are
some exciting developments or upcomingprojects that listeners can anticipate from?
From reinvent impossible?
Beverly Glazer (28:56):
Well, first of all, I always give free workshops, so there will be a free
workshop coming up.
And, you know, as I was telling you before, my
new website is going to be up.
It's all going to be on there.
But I'm also, I'm thrilled with technology, asyou know.
And I'm going to have a free mini course,which is going to be on there, which people
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are going to be able to get, and it'sgamified.
So I love fun.
You know, when we're thinking of being stuck,
when we're thinking of being miserable, right.
You can't keep thinking like that.
You have to expand your mind.
The only way you could do it is to have fun.
Even when you think bingo, right.
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You're getting out of your head with bingo.
It's ridiculous, but you can do it.
And there's people around you.
So what gamification is with this little thingis it's really you're taking to find your
purpose for women over 50 and it just expandsyou.
You interested in this?Are you interested in that?
Where can I go with that?That also is going to be free.
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But I'm just excited about doing that anddoing these offerings which will all be on my
site.
Nan McKay (30:03):
So how can people contact you?
Beverly Glazer (30:07):
Beverlyglazer at beverlyglazer or reinventimpossible.com.
And the old website is up.
Everything will work.
The URL will just transfer.
So you could always find me.
And I do give a free call.
It's also on the website.
You can talk to me at any time to see whereyou're stuck.
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And sometimes that free 15 minutes is all youneed.
It's like, ah, you get a new idea and away yougo with it.
Nan McKay (30:37):
Well, thank you so much, Beverly.
I really appreciate you taking your time and
then just imparting all of your knowledge andyour experience to other people because I know
there's many people out there that are stuckand this will really, I think, help them open
up their life to say what else is out there.
It's not impossible.
Beverly Glazer (30:59):
No, it's not.
Thank you so much, Natalie.
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This is Nan McKay, and I would like tointroduce you today to Beverly Glaser.
In today's episode, we are joined by Beverly,a seasoned therapist, internationally
certified addiction counselor, and thevisionary founder of Reinvent Impossible, Inc.
(01:04):
With a storied career extending over 30 years,Beverly has transformed lives with her unique
blend of scientific knowledge and groundedwisdom.
She's the creator of the Reinvention formula,a groundbreaking coaching system that equips
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older women, especially those navigatingsignificant life transitions, with the tools
to rediscover their strengths and carve outnew, fulfilling paths.
As the voice behind the inspiring podcastaging with purpose and passion, Beverly echoes
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the empowering belief that it's never too lateto reinvent oneself and pursue newfound
dreams.
Join us as we explore Beverly's transformative
journey and the wealth of insights that sheoffers for those.
We're eager to embrace life's possibilities atany stage.
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So welcome, Beverly, thank you so much.
Beverly Glazer (02:16):
For that beautiful introduction.
Anne, thank you so much.
Nan McKay (02:20):
Beverly, could you start by telling us about the transition from a therapist to
founding Reinvent Impossible, Inc. And howyour past experiences maybe fueled this new
venture?
Beverly Glazer (02:36):
Okay, well, first of all, what's interesting is it's not a new venture.
I started reinventing possible income in 2013,and I was, or still kind of am, because right
now you've entered my office as of COVID Ihave given that up.
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COVID gave me the opportunity to be able to goonline full time and create, really, my
vision, which was reinvent impossible, to helpmany more people throughout the world.
And it allowed me to do that because whenyou're a therapist and you're working in an
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office, you are exhausted at the end of theday, you are also restricted as to who you can
serve and where you can serve these people.
And I learned quite a while ago that I was
actually, I was given the opportunity to speakon radio, and I had a radio show for five
(03:48):
years, which was get a life with BeverlyGlaser.
And that's where you end up being the radiotherapist, but you can't really help people.
But I've reached so many people through thatthat I was got.
I got to know me, and of course I would beable to do therapy one on one.
(04:09):
Well, reinvent impossible is a system whichI've put together.
It's a reinvention formula.
It's not for therapy.
Most of us, fortunately, don't need therapy.
But I chose to focus on women over 50 because
(04:34):
through my career as a therapist, and as youmentioned, I work in addiction.
I've worked with really troubled families andpeople in all circumstances of life, and it
doesn't matter, rich or poor or whatever yourcircumstances are.
What I found is women hold it together.
(04:57):
We really do.
And I may be stereotyping here, but I reallyam not.
I think most women can relate that whensomething goes wrong, she pulls it through for
the family.
She makes it work.
If something's wrong with him, we get himhelp.
Well over 50.
What happens is there's a wake up call, and
(05:19):
I've noticed that throughout.
It's like, okay, I may be over 50, fine.
I feel good.
I am good.
But I lost my job, and my job was reallyimportant to me.
And maybe it wasn't the family income, it wasmy identity.
(05:40):
But who am I now?Or mister wonderful has walked out and it
wasn't so great.
But you know what?
You knew what you had, or you don't havechildren, whatever the wake up call is.
And some people say, well, my life is justfine.
And I've seen a lot of people like that, butsomething is missing, and they notice it in
(06:03):
themselves.
Why am I drinking so much or why am I eating
so much?What's going on there?
And so I help women, and that's my focus, andthat's what I've been doing primarily since
2023.
And you can't take the therapist out of the
person, but what you do is you can make this asimplistic process.
(06:28):
You do not have to go through the pain incoaching, unfortunately, yes, you do in
therapy, but you don't have to do that.
There are simple ways of putting it together,
and that's what I've created, a coachingsystem to get you past where you are right
now.
(06:49):
All that thinking, all that mess, and get you
where you want to be.
And then a lot of us don't know where we want
to be, but we just know where we are.
We're stuck.
And that comes after the kids, that comesafter the relationships, that comes after all
(07:10):
that stuff.
So I've pinpointed 50 and yes, but it was a
whole old process starting in 2013.
Yeah.
Nan McKay (07:21):
I think a lot of people don't know the difference between a therapist, counseling
and coaching, and they are definitelydifferent.
Could you, because you've been on both sides,could you just elaborate on that just a bit?
Beverly Glazer (07:38):
Yes, sure.
In therapy, what you really have to do is
people come in pain, what's going on, and youhave to get through to the pain, and there's
many steps to do it, and it can take yearsdepending on the model that you go through.
So what happens in therapy is there is no endgoal.
(08:00):
You come and you get what you need and youleave and you come back.
And we do have goals.
There are stepping stones, but there's no end
in coaching.
What I say in therapy, actually, in therapy,
the therapist does the work.
I'm working to get you where you have to be.
(08:22):
In coaching, I give you the tools and thenwhat happens?
And we do have an end.
Like, my programs are generally three months.
You can continue, you can do other things, butby the end of three months there is a goal.
You know where you're going, you get what youneed and you can move on.
So it's not about getting into where you havebeen, you know where you have been.
(08:46):
It's, let's get rid of that and move on.
So it's far more simplistic.
And like you said, it takes less out of me andmore for the client because the client has to
do the work.
And there are tools and there are modules and
there are, you know, templates and, and theydo have access to me for sure, but it's not a
(09:09):
painful process.
And that's the difference, really between
therapy, what do I need, how do I get throughit?
And coaching.
This is where I am, how do I get out of it?
Nan McKay (09:19):
That was really a good explanation.
Can you elaborate on the reinvention formula,
like what makes it a surprisingly easycoaching system, and how has it really been
transforming lives?
Beverly Glazer (09:38):
Oh, I love that question.
Okay.
When we are stuck, we're stuck in our headsand we tell ourselves all kinds of stories
now, and I don't have to tell you, they arethe worst stories ever.
(09:59):
And we get boggled down by those stories that,all that spin, right?
So let's say you find a coach and the coachsays, oh, well, let's rewrite your story.
Or the coach can say, okay, these areirrational beliefs, or you're taking programs
to get you out of problems with my family orspecific problems resentment issues.
(10:25):
I contest that it will not work.
And the basis of that is, this is all pieces.
What it is, is I look at it, and this is howI've designed the program.
It's like, if everybody knows, it's likepsychology 101 pretty well.
It's brought into business as well.
(10:46):
Maslow's hierarchy of needs, which is this
triangle.
And it starts on the basis with your safety
needs.
If we don't have safety and security needs,
how can we rise up?How can we find love in our life?
We are so busy with trying to get what we needon a base level.
(11:07):
And of course, the tip of the iceberg isliterally enlightenment.
Well, how can you be enlightened if you'restruggling with whatever you're struggling
with?Right?
So how can we just rewrite issues simple likethat.
Or take that piecemeal when you don't reallybelieve it?
(11:28):
So what goes on in the system is it's muchlike a triangle, but it's not about needs,
it's about us.
So it starts on a base level.
It's really owning it.
I have different levels that end up with
creating it.
And of course, the it is you.
And so it starts with owning it.
(11:50):
Who are you?
And when you take a look at that, well, peoplesay, well, I'm a doctor, or I'm a lawyer, or
I'm a coach.
But that is not who you are.
That is what you do.
Who are you?
And why do you do what you do?And you may say, well, because I always wanted
to.
Well, what you do is you get right back to
(12:12):
that base, ah, I'm a creative, ah, I love you.
Find yourself.
Because what happens is society, parents,everyone else has reprogrammed you, so you can
say, oh, I'm a CFO of a company.
No, you're not.
Maybe you're a scared, fragile little girl,and what you want is love and security.
(12:37):
Or maybe it's an act.
Whatever it is, you own it.
And when you own it, that's so powerful.
And you build on that from owning it.
You close the past, and then afterwards, youstop those voices.
So you go through, literally, it takes threemonths to do it, to finally say, whoa, I am.
And then what happens is you create it, andyou will find that you will know exactly what
(13:03):
you want to create.
Once you free all that garbage.
It's like, oh, wow, I am so empowered justbeing me now.
Will you hold that?Maybe, maybe not.
And as you know, with anything else in atriangle, we go up and down.
But at least what happens when you go down,you say, ah, that's where I am.
(13:29):
And then you can climb back up, and you say,of course I feel that way, because.
And then you go back.
And so what happens is you never go low.
You just keep on building yourself from theinside.
And I don't know if that's too long anexplanation, but I can give you the example
you asked for, where I'm thinking of a CEO ofa company who came because, oh, she's
(13:57):
wonderful.
I love all my clients.
So she came because things were just fallingapart in her life, and she couldn't figure out
why.
And everything sort of was going on, right?
But not.
But everything.
And that's.
Everyone can identify with that.
It's like, I don't get it.
But what she realized for her is she was
(14:20):
drinking too much.
She was in relationships with people she
didn't want to be in relationships with, butshe thought that they were terrific.
It was just kind of scrambled.
And so what it is, is that was her wake up
call.
Like, why am I doing this?
When she did have a divorce, she was perfectlyhappy.
Her friends, or so her friends thought, and soshe would think.
(14:44):
She had all the money.
She could do whatever she wanted, and yet,
whatever, what she wanted to do was change herjob.
She was upset with her family.
You're looking all on the outside.
And when she looked on the inside, sheliterally, of course, she did not like her
(15:05):
job.
It was really male dominant, and she was
really under pressure with that.
But she loved being the CEO, and she knew
where her strong suits were, and she was ableto find another position, and she also learned
to deal with her family.
Everything came in a flow, Nan, because once
(15:29):
she owned who she really was, which was notthe person that her mother intended her to be,
but the person that she had become.
You own the pieces you want.
You find your strengths, and they're yours.
And, yes, she changed her job.
(15:52):
She did cherry pick what really matters toyou, and your life opens up, and so does your
career and so does your love life andrelationship and everything else you want,
because you will get it, because you feel youdeserve it.
It's about feeling, not about knowing.
(16:13):
That's what it's about.
Nan McKay (16:16):
In your experience, what are some of the common challenges that older women face
during significant life transitions, and howdoes your approach help them navigate through
those challenges?
Beverly Glazer (16:31):
The biggest challenge, Nan, is I'm too old.
It's like the best years are over.
Resentment.
You laugh.
We both laugh, right?
But that's the feeling, okay?The feeling is you're looking at your children
(16:54):
and life with another lens and you say, I'vebeen there and my time is up.
And so that is the biggest challenge, to getthat out of your head, but to understand that
that's all pre programming, that we are thefirst generation that's stepping up to the
(17:16):
plate.
We can live to over 100 years old today.
They replace body parts like they changewheels of cars.
I mean, we keep on going.
So it's the mental attitude, and it's only
about mental attitude.
We feel we're not pretty enough.
(17:36):
Our time has come.
This is all from past generations, and we've
bought into that story.
And I think we really have to rewrite another
story for our generation.
Nan McKay (17:48):
I do, too, because it's not that life is over, it's just beginning a different
chapter.
It's different, but it's really almost more
interesting sometimes than the past, becauseyou don't have to deal with so many of those
tasks and chores that you had to do as a womanwhen you had the kids and you were taking care
(18:13):
of everybody.
Beverly Glazer (18:15):
Right, right.
But it's to get your head around that
thinking.
Nan McKay (18:19):
Yeah.
Beverly Glazer (18:20):
And you don't get the support from the other women around you.
That's also a thing people can be saying, youknow, like, what do you need to do?
Why are you doing what you do?What do you need to do?
Right.
The point is, not everybody has to work like
we are, but everybody needs a purpose.
(18:44):
And that's what an older woman has to see,
your purpose.
You can love your grandchildren, and believe
me, I love mine, but I cannot.
And nobody should live through other people.
Other people should not be your purpose.
Your job should not be your purpose.
You have to have an internal purpose.
(19:07):
I'm doing this for something larger.
And you have to be able to feel that you areworth it.
It's not getting up to go to a job or notgetting up because, hey, there's no reason.
It's a purpose.
And that's where all older women, men too, I
might add, can lose their purpose after a job.
(19:29):
But there we go stereotyping again.
A woman will also push them out.
I know many a woman who continues to work and
finds a retirement coach for their man.
I don't want him just sitting, watching tv.
So that is what reinvention is.
Nan McKay (19:50):
Your podcast sounds much like your podcast because your podcast is aging with
purpose and passion, and that resonates deeplywith many, as you've said.
Can you share the inspiration behind startingthis podcast and some of the most maybe
profound stories or insights that have beenshared on the platform.
Beverly Glazer (20:14):
Oh, I'd love to, because every single story, nan, has so much inspiration
behind it.
And the reason I did this podcast is to
inspire other women with those stories,because these are ordinary women, just like
you.
Just like me.
It's not when we're looking to celebrities andsay, you know, this was their lot in life,
(20:37):
and, wow, they had everything.
No. And what it is is you're listening to
other people's stories and how they reinventedthemselves.
And it's not easy, but everyone has motivationand everyone is determined, and somehow you
push through.
And I'm thinking of the story on my podcast
(21:00):
that exemplifies that this was a woman, shewas a CEO during the.com era.
Can you remember Silicon Valley?Right?
This woman was flying.
She was in her thirties, she was all over the
world.
They had homes in California.
(21:21):
And you're young, you think the bubble willnever burst.
Well, she decided, okay, I have more thanenough money, life is amazing.
I have homes, et cetera.
But I don't really see my little kids.
They're being taken care of by my mom.
So I think I'm going to move.
And where I'm going to move, I'm going to moveto Oregon.
(21:42):
I'm going to buy another business.
And she bought a huge lot and built an
extravagant home and bought a business inOregon.
And she and her husband moved, and her husbandsaid, oh, no, you're leaving our wonderful
life in California.
Got it?
Yeah.
What happened was, as we know, the bubble
burst.
(22:04):
And the company that she bought, although she
really did due diligence and it was a shellcompany, and, yeah, and she had moved her
family, she did everything.
She had lost her homes.
The housing market went as you know, whathappened with the mortgages in the US, all
(22:26):
that tanked.
She lost her home, she put in a million
dollars into the startup, she said, or to thisshell company, she says, okay, I could turn
this around because, hey, I'm a CEO, I can dothis.
Well, what happened was she could not, and sheended up selling her properties, buying a
(22:48):
small place, her mom moving in with her.
Fortunately, she'd moved her mom, but it was
bad.
And then came a divorce, and her husband went
back to California.
This is all on the podcast.
It's amazing.
Then what happens is she didn't know what to
do.
(23:10):
I need to work.
And she finds herself in some small town inOregon, and she figured, okay, I can work in a
bank.
She goes to the bank.
She lasts only a short time, she can't work ina bank.
She's the CEO, okay?She can't take orders.
She tried three more jobs, and she was firedevery time.
(23:35):
All she wanted to do, poor thing, was work,right?
So she was looking for a job.
What did she do?
There was a job opening on an indian reservethat was there.
And so she went on this reserve, and she wasworking in the office, and there wasn't too
much money that she could get, but at leastshe was getting some kind of work.
(23:57):
And there was a paycheck.
And she always believed that if somebody's
going to be giving me money, regardless of howmuch, it must be worth something.
So she was doing her job, and she realized,well, you know, that they were needing
problems with their health.
The elders were having difficulty with the,
(24:17):
you know, navigating the system.
They really didn't understand.
So she was helping with that.
And then she got another job.
She ended up being a bingo caller on thereserve, if you could imagine.
Okay.
And she became a bingo caller.
And now she's working in the office and abingo caller as well.
(24:38):
And she got fired from the.
And she was sitting there wondering, what am I
going to do with my life?And when she was doing that, she got a call
from nowhere.
And this man said, you know, I want to talk to
you.
(24:59):
I need help, and I will pay you to help me
navigate the system, the medical system.
And so what she did was she was helping him
and he paid her.
And then she started helping other people.
And because she's a CEO, she realized thatolder people need help navigating the system.
(25:25):
And she was writing reports and goodness knowswhat.
And she became involved in, with the governorof Oregon to present different programs to
help people negotiate the system.
She now has more than one company.
She has quite a few.
(25:45):
She's the CEO again, helping people, you know,
just.
And, you know, there are people now within her
company.
She doesn't do it alone to help people
navigate the system, to do the paperwork, toget that, get them what they need.
And if that's not an incredible story.
(26:06):
There are so many incredible stories.
But when you think about that, when you thinkabout how devastated she must have been and
how many falls, you know, oh, and she'smarried.
Okay?She found the love of her life also.
He happens to be an indigenous person, and herlife has never changed.
(26:29):
It was really good.
I mean, it's changed big time.
But she, you know, as far as her children areconcerned, she even says on, on, on the, on
podcast that they say, we had a wonderfullife.
Mom, we want to be just like you.
Can you imagine?
Nan McKay (26:46):
That's really nice.
As someone who's been an empowering force for
older women, what advice would you give to ourlisteners who might be feeling stuck or
powerless in their current life situations?
Beverly Glazer (27:02):
I'd go right up, right back to that reinvention formula.
There is no such thing as can't.
You can.
You are not stuck.
There always is a way.
And if you think of that woman that fell fromgrace, literally, with the.com era to being a
(27:23):
bingo caller, okay, there is always a way.
But what you do is you just keep going and you
will find a way.
If you give up, you've lost it.
But if you say, I'm stuck, there's always away you can reach out.
And when you reach out, if this person doesn'twork or that person gives you the wrong advice
(27:48):
or whatever it is, find what's in your heartthat starts from the very beginning.
Own it.
What do you really believe?
Do you believe there is absolutely no,nothing?
You're totally stuck.
If you do, you will stay stuck.
But usually when you have that perception,there's a little glimmer, there's a little
(28:12):
spark that says, no, there's a maybe.
And if you have that maybe there is a way.
So just keep on going.
Push through.
Keep pushing through and find people.
They were out there.
The Internet is a vast place.
And one more thing, do not listen to the
(28:33):
naysayers.
You'll always find those.
Okay.
Always follow your heart.
Nan McKay (28:42):
That's really interesting.
Well, finally, as we look forward, what are
some exciting developments or upcomingprojects that listeners can anticipate from?
From reinvent impossible?
Beverly Glazer (28:56):
Well, first of all, I always give free workshops, so there will be a free
workshop coming up.
And, you know, as I was telling you before, my
new website is going to be up.
It's all going to be on there.
But I'm also, I'm thrilled with technology, asyou know.
And I'm going to have a free mini course,which is going to be on there, which people
(29:16):
are going to be able to get, and it'sgamified.
So I love fun.
You know, when we're thinking of being stuck,
when we're thinking of being miserable, right.
You can't keep thinking like that.
You have to expand your mind.
The only way you could do it is to have fun.
Even when you think bingo, right.
(29:37):
You're getting out of your head with bingo.
It's ridiculous, but you can do it.
And there's people around you.
So what gamification is with this little thingis it's really you're taking to find your
purpose for women over 50 and it just expandsyou.
You interested in this?Are you interested in that?
Where can I go with that?That also is going to be free.
(29:57):
But I'm just excited about doing that anddoing these offerings which will all be on my
site.
Nan McKay (30:03):
So how can people contact you?
Beverly Glazer (30:07):
Beverlyglazer at beverlyglazer or reinventimpossible.com.
And the old website is up.
Everything will work.
The URL will just transfer.
So you could always find me.
And I do give a free call.
It's also on the website.
You can talk to me at any time to see whereyou're stuck.
(30:29):
And sometimes that free 15 minutes is all youneed.
It's like, ah, you get a new idea and away yougo with it.
Nan McKay (30:37):
Well, thank you so much, Beverly.
I really appreciate you taking your time and
then just imparting all of your knowledge andyour experience to other people because I know
there's many people out there that are stuckand this will really, I think, help them open
up their life to say what else is out there.
It's not impossible.
Beverly Glazer (30:59):
No, it's not.
Thank you so much, Natalie.
Nan McKay (31:02):
Thank you.
Thanks for being with us.
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