The Right Stuff (Being "Good" Isn't Good Enough)

 

US Birth rate 1.6

Young women are pursuing education instead of family - in part because there is an idea out there that men aren’t worth marrying…

 

What is the “right stuff” to be a good husband?

1. Good isn’t good enough - must be godly
   1. Right relationship with God…
      1. No man is in his right mind until he is right with God…
   2. Walk in the Spirit, not in the flesh
   3. Importance of knowing God’s Word…mirror and window…

 

1. Value of a Godly role model
   1. Watch how a person treats those “less than” himself - Matthew 25 principle…James 2 - no partiality, preference because of a person’s status or position…
   2. More is caught than taught
      1. Hard work, stewardship - the value of time and money
      2. Holding doors for ladies (others)
         1. Why?
            1. Demonstrates the value of the other person
            2. Uses your gifts and abilities (strength) to benefit others (not just about bettering yourself)
            3. Teaches patience
            4. Biblical principle - the first shall be last and the last shall be first - idea of servant leadership - Jesus came not to be served, but to serve…one simple way to serve others…
      3. The value of being “early”
         1. Again - demonstrates the value of others
         2. If you’re late, you can’t help out…things are already done…
         3. People can count on you - reliable…
      4. Importance of words
         1. Speak life into others…build up, not tear down
         2. David - prudent in speech…

 

1. Self-control (Titus 2)
   1. Psalm 16 - “pleasures” of God vs. pleasures of the world (Heb. 11:25 - fleeting pleasures of sin)
   2. Will power to say no - and let your yes be yes and your no be no
   3. Importance of discipline - David and Adonijah - never said “no”
   4. Connection to parents more important than connection to peers - Rehoboam…

 

1. Biblical perspective on women
   1. Helper - other than, not less than
   2. Cherish - husband means cultivator - she should be “better” with you
      1. 1 Peter 3 - “fine china”
   3. Love - what’s in her best interest

 

Men - sacrifice family for career - now women want to do that as well…

 

Children - quiver full of children is a blessing

• Importance of others ahead of yourself
• Dependence on God - not self-sufficiency, but God-reliance!

 

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