The Trauma Within Navigating Black Motherhood W/ Jade of All Jades

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Join us as we sit down with the incredible Jade of All Jades, co-host of Getting Grown and Jade in XD, for an episode that promises to touch your heart and tickle your funny bone. Jade shares her rich tapestry of life experiences, from her Gullah Geechee and Mexican heritage to her grounded upbringing in Texas. We get to know Jade as a multifaceted individual—mother, wife, friend, chef, and healer—who believes trauma is an unavoidable part of life that shapes who we are.

We then dive into the challenges faced by birthing parents, magnified by Jade's recounting of her own high-risk pregnancy during Hurricane Sandy. The conversation highlights systemic healthcare issues and the grueling reality of returning to work without maternity leave. This poignant discussion underscores the critical need for better maternity support and healthcare reforms, making it essential listening for advocates of social justice and parental rights.

But it’s not all heavy—Jade also brings her unique flair for storytelling to lighter moments that are no less captivating. From the chaos of a Costco trip turned fiasco to musings on love and authenticity, this episode is a rollercoaster of emotions. We wrap things up with a candid chat about social media boundaries, personal energy management, and even some laugh-out-loud fantasies about unconventional memorials. Whether you’re here for the wisdom or the laughs, this episode offers a rich, entertaining experience that you won't want to miss.

Thank you all for listening. Set a boundary with yourself this week, set a boundary with someone else. If someone else does not respect that boundary. LET THEM LOOSE YOU! Stay hydrated internally and externally. We do not have an ashy family.


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Episode Transcript

Speaker 2 (00:23):
y'all, I'm super excited to have this lovely
human on the show today.
Jade of All Jades is theco-host of Getting Grown.
She's also the co-host of Jadein XD.
She is a mother, a friend, adaughter, a chef, a healer, a

(00:47):
take no shit but a deeply lovingblack woman.
Y'all we got Jade Fabulous, soI'm excited to have this
conversation.
I talked to your other half theother day and she and I had a
good time.
We had a good time.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
The spirit the tears I have so many halves what's bad
, y'all got spiritual.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
We, you know we was talking about loss and just you
know.
So all the things.
So y'all will hear the otherhalf of getting grown.
But today we have this lovelyhuman who you've already heard
the intro.
But my first question, becauseI think it's so important,
because every day is differentand you might be having
different vibes.
So who are you?

Speaker 1 (01:37):
Oh, wow, who am I?
Um, I am Jade.
I am Jade of all Jades.
That name is intentionalbecause I am multifaceted.
I never thought of myself as acreative, but I guess I am a

(02:00):
lover of community, a lover ofhumanity, a great lover of
humanity.
I am a mother and a daughterand a wife and a sister and aunt
.
I'm all of the things.

(02:20):
Yeah, I think that sums it up.

Speaker 2 (02:24):
We love that we love that.

Speaker 1 (02:28):
How do we meet you and I?
We met through XD through XDand Chris Rogers Gay
relationship goal is what theyare.
They've been together for theequivalent of like 50 years In
the homo world that's how we met.
Xd is my one of my very bestfriends, um, probably my work

(02:53):
soulmate and, yeah, what like,like he's family at this point,
and chris rogers is too.
So, yes, that's how we met.
I love it, you know what, and Ilike to take them to wrestling
and have a time with them.

Speaker 2 (03:04):
Chris Rogers is too.
So, yes, that's how we metMm-hmm, mm-hmm.
I love it, you know what, and Ilike to take them to wrestling
and have a time with them.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
And they fucking love it.

Speaker 2 (03:15):
Come on now.
What does trauma mean to you?

Speaker 1 (03:20):
Trauma.
I believe trauma to beinevitable in everybody's life.
I think there are levels to it,but I believe that everybody
experiences some trauma on thespectrum of trauma, on the

(03:44):
spectrum of trauma, it issomething that has impacted your
life greatly.
You may have worked on it, youmay not have worked on it, but
it is something that hasimpacted your life.
That could come along withthings that trigger that trauma.
I guess, if you have not workedon that trauma, or even if you

(04:06):
have worked on it right, becausewe're all human beings, but I
think it is something that weall experience in one form or
another.
I could be wrong, though I haveno clue.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
You know, I asked this question to everyone
because I think that perspectiveis so helpful in understanding,
like, where people are.
I think trauma is what you makeit.
I think it's an experience,like you said, it's
life-changing.
So hearing like everyone'sanswers, I'm like you're not
wrong, you're not wrong, you'renot wrong.
So I love that, I love that.

(04:39):
So for the folks that don'tknow you, we're about to get in,
we're about to get in, we'reabout to get in.
So I was asking people, whatshould we talk about?
And they said talk aboutmotherhood and careers.
And I am excited because we havesome overlaps which I'm going
to slide in at some point.
But before we get into themotherhood, who was Jade?

(05:02):
What kind of family did yougrow up in?
Where did you grow up?
I'm a roots girl.
I think we need the rootsbefore we get to the present day
.

Speaker 1 (05:10):
Oh, all over the place.
Honestly, I come from an EastCoast born family, new York,
massachusetts, but we ended upmoving to Texas at a certain
point.
I think I don't really have alot of family there.
My family up and moved for abetter quality of life, a lower
cost of living.
Our roots are South Carolina,gullah Geechee roots.

(05:42):
My great-grandmother is fromVeracruz, mexico, and she's very
present in my life, very, verypresent, always has been.
She died when I was six, butshe's very present.
I live in Brooklyn and you'regoing to hear a lot of that.

Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know I have a lot of people in Brooklyn.
All y'all out there.

Speaker 1 (06:06):
I need just yeah, and you know, flat it's flat bush,
flat bushes are very, we getlive and direct and niggas are
okay.
They finally moved.
So, um, my family I do comefrom a two-parent household.
I was a unicorn.
Most of my friends didn't havetheir fathers around, and even

(06:28):
now, as a big, grown person, wehave a lot of conversations
around parents in general, andparenting played different parts
in our lives between me and mycommunity, and even still I'm
one of the very few who grew upwith their father present, um,
active, uh, and had a closerelationship with my, and I have

(06:52):
a close relationship with mydad.
Um, my family is hippie-ish,kind of crunchy, uh, still real
black.
Uh, they're, they'remultifaceted as well.
My dad is probably one of thefunniest people that I know.
We get along so well.
He likes to do all the things Ilike to do.

(07:13):
We like to eat, we like todrink.
You know we like to go out, sowe kick it.
My mother, I was raised by twoearth signs.
My father's a tourist and I'mgrounded and I'm a virgo.
So it was, uh, it was, a prettygrounded household, you know.
But I also grew up with youngparents.
My parents had me at 20 and soyou know they were relatively

(07:39):
young in the scope of things.
So even now in my own parentingI go back and I think about
some of the shit that we wentthrough and I'm like damn, y'all
were like 25 doing this withtwo kids.
Okay, let me.
That puts things intoperspective.
So I hope that gave you alittle ground.

Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yeah, yeah, I mean, you know we're about to talk
about how you got to be a mother.
Did you always want to be a mom?
Absolutely not.
No, Okay, great as someone thathas man desire.
Just, it doesn't speak to myministry.
I'd rather go get more tattoos.
How did you get here then Tohaving this lovely child?

(08:23):
Well, we know how you got herefucking, but how did you get?

Speaker 1 (08:29):
plainly and simply um , you know it's so funny, uh, as
you asked me that question.
Um, he's also going back toyour last question, very, very,
very blunt, right?
So you know, and very direct.
I remember when my parents gottheir first like house, house,
coming out of apartments and youknow for all of life, and my

(08:54):
father said I'm getting a petgoose.
He goes because they're meaningin dogs, and then he just goes
on about his business, like it'sthat kind of feeling.
But I say that to say when I gotpregnant, the first thing out
of my mother's mouth was you,like you?
And I was like I know that'scrazy, they were not.

(09:16):
But no, she was also verysurprised Because it wasn't
anything that I really likeaspired to ever.
I think I've always had like amotherly instinctly instinct or
like let me not even saymotherly, let me say nurturing.
Like I've always loved to cookfor people, I've loved to always
entertain my loved ones, like Ilove on them.

(09:37):
I will make you food, come intomy, I want to make you
comfortable, I'll make youdrinks and like host you and
then we sit around and reallylike soak up each other's energy
.
Um, so I've always had that, uh, but I, yeah, I think I just
got here fucking honestly.

Speaker 2 (09:59):
Okay, Okay, Wow, I mean that's.
That's the the, the big and thesmall of it.
As someone that is a Blackperson in this country in 2024,
what does it mean to be a Blackmother raising a Black daughter?

Speaker 1 (10:20):
Oh God, oh, it's so layered.
It's so funny because we'redealing with a lot right now.
She's 11.
So you know that's tweenhoodGetto.
Let me tell you.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
I bet y'all be.

Speaker 1 (10:34):
Oh, I want to fight, I don't.
She's, you know, she's sotender and I'm not, and so she's
been the greatest teacher thatI've ever had in my life.
And right now, while we're in avery transitional time, going
into middle school, the hormonesare starting to hormone Talk

(11:01):
about the changes in the bodyand all you know and all aspects
.
I find myself considering somany things, even in like school
choices.
So we're in the middle ofschool choices right now.
Which one of these three middleschools is she going to go to?
And I think about a lot of ourparents were like, oh, I got to
use somebody's address to sendyou to a better school so you

(11:22):
can have better education, andblah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
To send you to a better schoolso you can have better education
, and blah, blah, blah, blah,blah.
And as I'm making these notmaking these decisions, because
we talked to her about thesedecisions, which are things that
we didn't have it's so strangeto think about all of the
factors that have to come intoplay when we're picking schools.

(11:43):
I'm like, okay, this school hasless Black students, but they
got this gardening programthat's going to enrich you in
learning how to grow and toilthe land and they focus on
sustainability.
And you know our earth is I'mnot going.
I know our earth is kicking usoff quickly.

Speaker 2 (11:59):
So because earth's going to be and I'm like I get
it and I understand.

Speaker 1 (12:05):
You know what I'm saying, I understand.

Speaker 2 (12:07):
I got strong boundaries, I understand.

Speaker 1 (12:11):
But Earth is kicking us out quickly.
So I'm like, okay, well, thisis beautiful and it also last
school she went to.
I'm like, but she could go tothe school in the neighborhood
where she'll have more of asocial scope and, and you know,
a wider range of her communityand you know.
So, thinking about all thosedifferent things and how is this

(12:31):
going to factor into how shedevelops?
And, like you know, it's thingsthat you, when they're, even
when you're pregnant, you're noteven really thinking about all
of the things that you'll haveto think about until you got to
think about them.
So, yeah, yeah, I hope thatanswered it did.

Speaker 2 (12:49):
I was listening to Getting Grown the other day,
because you know I'll belistening, and you were
explaining to Noah because shewants a sibling, and you said,
well, we're going to talk aboutthat.
And when I was listening tothat I was like so glad we're
gonna talk about that.
And when I was listening tothat I was like so glad we're
about to have this talk.
Because, you know, I think, asblack women, people are always

(13:11):
like, well, when you about tohave a baby, oh, the little ones
, I'm like little who, that'swild.
Um, you know, there's so muchthat goes into birthing.
I had a friend that was a thatliterally on Monday, was a
surrogate, gave birth to thechild and the next day she was
like girl, I'm up.

(13:32):
I said what the hell?
And she just she pushed it out,one, the C-section.
I said, oh God, and I was justher job, didn't want to give her
time off Cause they were likeyou're not keeping the child.
She said I'm sorry, that's nothow this works.
Like wow, there's so muchtrauma that goes into giving

(13:56):
life.
As we're talking about thetrauma within these things, can
you, can you talk to us aboutyou know, before you get this
gift, you know what comes before.

Speaker 1 (14:09):
Oh, my God, oh, you want to talk about trauma and a
birthing story.
I got so much of it.
Okay, let me ask forclarification.

Speaker 2 (14:19):
What comes?

Speaker 1 (14:20):
before what specifically the child coming
the like?
Let me just get clarification.

Speaker 2 (14:28):
Sure, sure, sure sure .
The pre and the post.

Speaker 1 (14:34):
Okay, I think, right, my particular experience was
traumatic and it does play ahuge toll into my
decision-making now andeverything right.
So, as you know, in thiscountry, if you do not have
health insurance, you are onMedicaid and along with whatever

(14:57):
doctors they have available foryou to see and, you know,
limited on where you can go, andthen again you don't have a
choice really of who you can seein those places that you can go
.
Your healthcare is just not atthe top of anybody's priority
list.
On top of that, when I waspregnant, I was a bartender and

(15:17):
so was my husband my husband notmy husband at the time, but he
was a bartender as well and weboth we met at work.
So we both worked in the lowerManhattan, which means our job

(15:39):
was out of commission for likethree weeks, right.
So, on top of that, I'm earlyin my pregnancy, but I start
bleeding Now because of thisHurricane Sandy, they have taken
all of the patients in thehospitals in Manhattan and sent
them out to the outer boroughsof the Bronx and Queens and
Staten Island.

(15:59):
So you can imagine that thehospitals are overthrown with
people between a hurricane andall of that.
So I'm bleeding.
I go to the emergency room.
I wait there for six hours inthe waiting room.
It's a point where I almost gotin a fight with somebody, like
it was like a whole, and I toldmy husband I was like, take me
home, because if I'm gonna losethis baby, I'd rather do it not

(16:22):
in this waiting room.
Um, we ended up going toanother hospital, which is known
for many other issues, but theyare actually the ones who
helped to save Noah.
I was having what's called athreatened abortion is what it's

(16:42):
called with the bleeding that Iwas having.
So there's no cause for it,there's no reason, there's no
cure, it's just, you know, await and see type of situation.
Now, what's interesting is Itold them I was bleeding and
that I bartended, and so theywere like.
I was like am I still good towork?

(17:03):
I was going to quit.
Around the time I startedshowing and they're like oh,
yeah, yeah, no, you're fine,you're still fine.
But I noticed the more that Istood on my feet, the more I was
bleeding.
And I told them that and theywere like no, you're fine.
So me the decision for me tostop working, because we noticed
that the bleeding was rampingup and the more that I sat down,

(17:24):
the less that I bled.
So I stopped working.
So that was all within my firsttrimester Post having her, you
know.
Then the rest of it was kind ofdecent.
Went into labor, that was.
You know, that was a rideBecause I was.
So you have a baby at around 38, what is it?

(17:46):
Uh, they say that your fullterm at like 38 weeks.
I think 37, 38 weeks.
I was 36 weeks.
The asked me why I was not moredilated when I went for one of
my final appointments and I waslike I don't, I don't know,
Cause I'm not doing it Like I'mnot the doctor.

(18:07):
I'm not at my due date either,so I would imagine that's
probably why I'm not moredilated.
He goes, I'm going to help you.

Speaker 2 (18:13):
He sticks his entire forearm.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
Oh, I got armed, whatever that's called.
I got four arms is what I gotto the point where it was more
painful than when I gave birthhis whole forearm up to his
elbow, inside my whole vagina,just tightened up ran.

Speaker 2 (18:45):
Can't afford for that to happen, remember so that's
the inside thing.

Speaker 1 (18:50):
Y'all don't worry about it yeah, no, you may not
know, it's not your business.
Um, I scream.
My husband jump up and fightlike it was a whole thing.
Right, puts me into this earlylabor.
I started having contractionsthat night this is on a
wednesday.
I started having contractionsthat afternoon.
By thursday afternoon I went tothe hospital.

(19:11):
By friday afternoon I had noah,but she also came out with a
breathing condition.
So I don't know if him doingsomething prematurely hated in
that because she was not fullydone developing.
Even if it was the last week ortwo, she still needed that last
bit of time to cook, you take acake out, even just a few

(19:32):
minutes, it's not going to beready.
So there was all of that trauma.
And then on top of that, I wasa bartender.
So that comes with no healthinsurance.
That comes with no maternityleave, that comes with no.
So we are trying to make it bythe skin of our teeth.
I have to go back to bartendingwhen she is six weeks.

(19:54):
So I'm six weeks, my baby issix weeks and I am on the train
with my titties leaking tooblivion.
I am in the bar with my tittiesrock hard in pain.
I have a pump, but there's notime to go and pump anywhere.
So that you know it.
Just it was.

(20:14):
And it also impacted ourfunding time, which I think is
so essential for birthing parentand child, for birthing parent
and child, for both parents andchild.
But for birthing parent andchild, you deserve to have that
time to bond, and we did nothave that, and so that was some

(20:37):
of the trauma of pre and postbeing a Black woman with no
health insurance, because ourcountry doesn't give a fuck, you
know, if you're not of aparticular economic status.

Speaker 2 (20:50):
Um, yeah, yeah as I, you know, I'll be on the tiktoks
and swiping and reading thenews.
I I know too much in the worldbecause of the work that I do.
I have two goddaughters, one ofthem just started middle school
, and the fear that I have allthe time of just having, first

(21:15):
off, two little Jewishgoddaughters out the gate.
So having them yes, yes, yes,having them and also just having
two little girls we know howfast things happen.
How do you navigate that?
Because when they were born wealready had a conversation.
So everybody's cool to go toprison if we need to.

Speaker 1 (21:39):
Everyone was like yep , yep.

Speaker 2 (21:42):
How do you fathom with knowing what happens in the
world, with knowing who'strying to run for president,
grabbing people by the puss andjust?
Oh my god you know, society,not society, not giving a fuck
about women.
Like how does that feel as amother of a black child who you
know we are over sexualizedpeople?

(22:03):
People's got a lot of feelingsand thoughts.

Speaker 1 (22:30):
You know, obviously, speak to Noah often about the
multiple genocides that arehappening in the world.
I speak to her because of theway that that ties back to us as
Black people on this land andI'm like I don't want you to get
this messed up that thesethings are different, because
they're not.
They're a full circle situation.

(22:51):
So I try to be very honest withher.
For me myself, even watchingthese circumstances and
tragedies and atrocitieshappening, it infuriates me that
everybody does not see all ofthese children as their children

(23:12):
and these women as theirsisters or their mothers or
their men as their fathers,their uncles, their brothers,
people as people, people aspeople in general.
Right, yeah, not to makeeverything binary, like, how do
you not just see humanssuffering in inhumane conditions

(23:33):
?
And so, as a Black mother, itit frightens me, but it
infuriates me because I don'tknow how to fix it.
There's no way to fix it.
So the only thing that I can dois make sure that I'm raising a
child, uh, with the awarenessof what's going on, so that she

(23:54):
can navigate this world fuckingway.
That she absolutely can,because it's ghetto from jump,
and so I don't try to sugarcoatthat for her.
I just I'm like this is what itis and I want you to make.
I want you to build yourhumanity off of knowing the
truth about everything.
So, yeah, that's kind of how.

(24:15):
That's my viewpoint.
Yeah, it pisses me off.

Speaker 2 (24:19):
I stay angry.
People be like, are you okay?

Speaker 1 (24:21):
I'm like listen.

Speaker 2 (24:23):
I'm like listen.
I might be sad, I might beangry, but I'm not ugly.
So I don't, you probably can'ttell, you probably can't tell.

Speaker 1 (24:31):
That's crazy, crazy, and I've grown right.
I don't always act on my anger.
I used to act on my anger a lotthough shit, you know all kinds
of things, but I don't ask forit, baby.

Speaker 2 (24:40):
The last time I punched, somebody, I was 28.
Look at us.

Speaker 1 (24:46):
I got in a fight with Noah, was four months at old
navy because the bitch wascoming at us crazy, had to hand
her off to her father and getbusy.
You know what I'm saying.
That's what happens when you'rea teen parent.
You know what I mean.
That's what I say even though Iwas 28 this is not teen mom.

Speaker 2 (25:07):
what the hell you worked?

Speaker 1 (25:08):
You worked at a bar 11 years ago, I was a fully
different person.
And so I'm like we had a babyat 27, 28 years old.
What you mean?

Speaker 2 (25:18):
Yeah, that's wild, I would never do that now.

Speaker 1 (25:22):
I mean, she deserved to get her ass beat, let's be
clear.
And today, right now, I wouldwhoop her ass, but with a baby I
probably wouldn't.
Maybe, we would have talked alittle bit first.
No, no, no, there was notalking.
This bitch was out of motherLike again I would snuff her now
.
She actually got it easy Backto responsible topics.

Speaker 2 (25:46):
You know what you know what you mentioned
community.

Speaker 1 (26:00):
How important and impactful was community raising
Noah Like is because it's stilla process.
I have the most awesomecommunity around me.
Noah is surrounded by not onlyblood family that loves her.
She's got her grandparents, whoall love her, to death.
She's got an aunt who'sbasically a bonus grandmother

(26:24):
because she's there with hergrandmother, and my parents also
.
But my chosen community, mychosen sisters, pour into her
and care about her so much andthey, like we all look at your
children or my children, mychildren or your children, like
I'm going to treat them as suchand so I'm just so, so, so, so

(26:47):
grateful for the people that Ihave around me.
So, so, so grateful for thepeople that I have around me.
We had us a little tween momenton her 11th birthday.
On the birthday, at thebirthday dinner, I wanted to go
spend the spend the nightsomewhere where I was like not
now, I'm not super comfortablewith that, not like I was like
no good idea and she was havinga fit honey and a girlfriend of
mine, who is like a sister, tookher to the side and had a

(27:11):
conversation with her based offof some of her own experiences,
but also saw like what, this isa time for me to step in.
It wasn't like a let me fallback because you talk to your
mom.
It was like a let me step inand help my sister and help my
niece, because there's aperspective sometimes that they
can offer that maybe your childmight receive better than from

(27:45):
you around me, because I knowthat she's going to be safe, no
matter where she chooses to turnfor advice.
You know a word inspiration ever.
And so, yeah, that is mylargest flex is my community.
It's so important and in thisraggedy fucking world, community
is going to be the only thingthat sustains us.

(28:07):
I say it all the time, I agree,it's true.
Think about it.
It's going to be the only thingthat sustains us.
I say it all the time, I agree,it's true, think about it.
It's going to be the only thing.
The last thing and that is alsothis government and these nasty
powers that we have aimed to dois to isolate all of us from
one another.
That was part of, they say,social media, but it's
interesting because social mediahas actually and technology,

(28:30):
taken people more inward, towhere they're not branching out
into community.
Think about the amount of kidsthat are outside with each other
.
They don't know the other kidsin their building or in their
neighborhood because they arereally trying to design this for
us to be isolated.
So we have to lean intocommunity and be intentional
about the ones that we keeparound us.

Speaker 2 (28:51):
We definitely used to be outside smelling like
outside.
Kids don't smell like smellinglike outside.

Speaker 1 (28:56):
Oh not so much so, unless you're intentional with
your kids with that.
So it's it's sad to see, butit's like OK, I'm looking at
this happen.
How can I move differently?
Okay, I'm looking at thishappen.
How can I move differently?

Speaker 2 (29:12):
And so yeah, community is so is so important
to me and I'm so grateful for it.
I think parenting I'm in awe ofit again, from carrying a child
to growing a human in your bodyI think that is the baddest
thing.
I think that is the baddestthing.
I don't understand I'm going topause real quick in the sense

(29:33):
of how dare people that don'thave vaginas involve us,
predominantly men let's just getto it.
Men that want to talk all thisstuff but have come from the
womb of a woman but hate women.
That's crazy to me.

Speaker 1 (29:51):
Oh, that's trauma.
You asked what trauma is.
It's that that.

Speaker 2 (29:56):
Those niggas are.
Traumatized is what they are.
Give some therapy.

Speaker 1 (30:05):
We were talking about this the other day with certain
black men, and not that there'sanything wrong with interracial
dating.
It's your motive, right, it'syour intent.
And so we were talking abouthow some of that trauma affects
the way that they view you know.
You take a Quincy Jones whowill never come out of his mouth
and say anything bad aboutBlack women.
He shows it in a different way.

(30:25):
But that's because Quincy Joneswas raised by a schizophrenic
mother and a grandmother who wasthat he's one generation
removed from slavery.
Like what does that come alongwith, you know, understanding of
how they move in this world?
You ask me, what trauma is it?
Is that it is niggas talkingabout shit they don't have no
business talking about becausethey're hurt.

Speaker 2 (30:48):
The actual generational trauma?
Ok, yes, because that hurts theactual generational trauma.
Okay, yes, yes, being a parentto me it's like in those
categories of like adulting thatI just don't think I have the
capacity for.
Could I do it?
Sure, I could do a lot ofthings, do I want to?
No, but it seems like such abig job, which is where we're
going to transition into.

(31:10):
I know you've been out here inthese streets.
Oh yeah, you have had many jobsand many careers in many
different areas.
Tell us about it because I'mintrigued.

Speaker 1 (31:22):
Oh, God, I went to college in Texas, so I worked
for the mayor's office in Texas,okay, which was really
fascinating.
I speak often about this mannamed Tame.
I call his name every timebecause I wish the worst for him
.
He was the deputy chief ofstaff to the mayor when I was

(31:49):
and I worked directly forTerrence, and he was the most
rotten, awful nigga that I'veever encountered in my life.
I hate you.
I have prayed to God that if Irun into you nigga that I will
bust your kneecaps, and God hasnot let me run into you yet.
So amen, but yeah, so there wasthat.

(32:15):
You know I moved to oklahomaand worked for a specific, for
an indigenous law firm thatrepresented tribal business.
So I, you know, did multiplesins in different law firms, but
that was probably the mostinteresting.
Yeah, six months in Oklahomabecame a heavy drinker.

Speaker 2 (32:34):
What is there to do?

Speaker 1 (32:38):
I drink.
I found an incredible weed manwhich I was really astonished
about.
I mean, my job itself wasinteresting.
The legal world is not for me,but that particular realm of it
was interesting, to be able tokind of get a different
viewpoint of what was going on.
That was pretty dope.

(32:59):
But Oklahoma itself, no, thankyou.
Came back up north and, oh shit, worked for the music industry
for several different labels DefJam, rca, jive.
That was I really, really thatwas my.

(33:19):
That's what I thought I wasgoing to be doing.
I thought I was going to stayin the music industry.
And then I got laid off becausewe talk about the shifts and the
swings in the system and I waspart of those giant shifts and
swings.
As streaming came into play, abunch of us out as humans went

(33:42):
on into marketing and branding.
And marketing worked forseveral different brands in that
realm as a project andproduction manager different
brands in that realm as aproject and production manager.
And that was my last corporatestint because I'd always had a
love for food.
My grandmother is a phenomenal,not my mother's mother, my
father's mother.
She's a phenomenal cook.

(34:03):
My other grandma can't cook forshit, but I love the hell out
of her.
I really do, oh God, but herfood's wretched.
So I threw my passion into food, which is what I'd always
dabbled with catering andshadowing different chefs.
But because of having corporatejobs, you know, those were more

(34:25):
like passions.
So as I started podcastingabout 10 years ago and food
always being my passion, I wouldtalk about both of them.
You know it wasn't a food-basedpodcast Jayden XZ obviously
isn't, it's just a Torres and aVirgo.
But I said I'm going to takethis more seriously.

(34:49):
Also fun fact, I never graduatedfrom high school.
I got my GED, took myself tocommunity college, took myself
to a university after thatbecause I felt like it was
wasting my time.
It was a lot of fluff and I wasready to work even in college.

(35:12):
I went through all four yearsbut I never finished.
I went to high school, but Ididn't finish, and so I said you
know, I would like to dosomething for myself.
And so during the pandemic,even though I'd been doing
events and catering and chefingand doing all kinds of things, I
took myself to culinary schooljust for my formal training, and

(35:36):
that has been my focus since.
It has been podcasting, whichwas not ever supposed to happen
it's never an aspiration andthen being able to tie food in
there, which won me my firstJames Beard Award.
So you know, you want to talkabout something out of you.

(35:58):
I got affirmed, but it's been.
It's not been a linear path byany means Right.
I've gone all over the place tofind what really brings me joy
and satisfaction.

Speaker 2 (36:12):
Yes, ooh, how did you get into the podcasting?
My, I literally have a questionthat says how the hell did you
get here?
Wow.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
XD comes up so much in this episode, but he was my
one of my closest friends in myneighbor and so he would come
over all the time.
When I was pregnant he was withme every day.
So, you know, just be with me.
We'd go to the supermarkettogether and then when Noah was

(36:43):
born, he was there all the time.
So when Tristan would be atwork, xd was the one who was
carrying the car seat.
We'd go eat, we'd go, you know,do whatever.
And he came to me I know it wasaround six months and said you
want to start a podcast, and Ihad no fucking clue what a

(37:04):
podcast was.
The first time I'd heardpodcast was when my friends
Crystal and Fury came out withthe read, which was a year prior
, and even then those were justI was like they started some
internet radio show.
I don't know.
But congratulations, I'm hereto celebrate you like look at
all y'all now stupid, right.

(37:27):
So he came to me and said youwant to do a podcast.
And I said, well, what the fuckis that?
He's like you know the the shitthat that that marian crystal
are doing?
And I was like, well, no, Idon't want to do that.
I was like I'm not stepping ontheir toes, like he's like
that's not.
That can be many.
There's many radio shows.
I was like, well, I like, whyno.

(37:48):
I was like, well, I like, whyno.
He was like, well, I think youwould be really good.
And somebody came and approachedme about doing a gay podcast
because you know, he's the uncleruckus of homosexuality, uh.
And so he was like I don't wantto do a fully gay podcast.
But I got a home girl who wouldbe perfect.

(38:08):
And so I was like, all right,I'll try this shit out for a
little while.
But it was not a job, it wasreally something a habit and
hobby.
Went to the first recordingwith Noah and Tristan, like we
pulled up as a family to go intothe studio Like we here so
what's up and literally have notstopped since.

(38:29):
That is how.

Speaker 2 (38:30):
I started podcasting.

Speaker 1 (38:31):
Yeah, and so it's just.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
The homie was like crazy you free or not, and
that's how you got here.

Speaker 1 (38:37):
No, I don't want to do that I know I don't want to
do that, and here I am stillrunning my jibs 11 fucking years
later.

Speaker 2 (38:44):
Almost so, but like y'all are, y'all are like, like
you have been able to finagle,being on the internet, on, you
know, these airways into a formof payment.

Speaker 1 (38:59):
Yeah, no, you're not wrong.
Gratitude, gratitude.
You're not wrong about that.
I can take care of my familyand sustain myself, which is not
anything I ever thoughtpossible in that way, right, so
I'm grateful for that what's thewildest job you've had?
Oh, the wildest job I've had.

(39:19):
Oh, have I ever had a wild job?
Oh, I worked on my uncle's icecream truck oh cute.

Speaker 2 (39:28):
Well, was he selling ice cream, or?

Speaker 1 (39:30):
wild.
Yeah, I would know he wouldsell ice cream.
Now, granted, everybody didn'tknow, he had, like mad foster
spears snow cone ice, but uh,that's all I was like well, what
was?
He selling I'm sure there wassome other things going on.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
Okay, there it is there umest the wildest job?

Speaker 1 (39:52):
Have I ever even had a wild job?
I'm wondering, what is a wildjob to you?

Speaker 2 (40:01):
How would you classify that?

Speaker 1 (40:04):
I mean you're asking me.

Speaker 2 (40:04):
I know right, Kitty cat club.

Speaker 1 (40:08):
It ain't been, that I can tell you that.

Speaker 2 (40:11):
Well, yeah, I, I mean a wild job.
You don't sit on stage and popthings out your cooch.
You know that's wild.
Uh, maybe you was like alow-key drug runner back in the
day, I don't know.
Maybe you, you know, maybe wedon't say that out loud, don't
even respond.
Uh, maybe, yeah yeah, I wouldnot.
Maybe you were selling animals,I don't say that out loud,
don't even respond.

Speaker 1 (40:30):
Maybe, yeah, I would not, maybe you were selling
animals I don't know.
It was not wild for the natureof the job, it was wild for the
people that were around me and,like the circumstances I had to
deal with working there, workingthere, so in college, before
actually the job right beforethe mayor's office, which was

(40:53):
kind of a wild job within itself.
Honestly.
The deputy chief of staff forthe mayor, wilston College, for
the worst nigga alive, that waspretty wild.
Working for this managementcompany, I worked under the
South African, the South AfricanJewish couple, right, who had

(41:15):
the most problem analogies knownto men.
So when I came for my interview, their last name was Reagan
Bomb and they would say oh well,you know, welcome, hello, james
.
Well, you may call us,everybody calls us Mr and mrs.
And I was like no, I'm gonnacall you mr and mrs reagan, I'm

(41:36):
not calling nobody mr and mrs.
And I remember we were goingout to a property way out
somewhere and mrs reagan bombwas sitting in the front seat
and it was another black managernamed Tim I'm in the back seat
and Mrs.
This is not funny at all.

Speaker 2 (41:56):
I'm about to laugh.
This is oh, no yeah.

Speaker 1 (42:00):
Anybody Nervous Next D knows I'm laughing Shit.
I'm not supposed to.
But Mrs Regenbaum says to Timthis feels racist.
I'm nervous.
This Mrs Regenbaum says to Timoh Tim, if this was 40 years ago
, you'd get pulled over from thefront seat with you and she
giggles.
And before I could even controlmyself I said why the fuck

(42:22):
would you say that.

Speaker 2 (42:26):
But like this is not driving, miss Daisy, what are we
doing?

Speaker 1 (42:30):
No At all, but that's are we doing instead of just
like that.
I can't implicate myself bysaying what I did, but I
definitely sent mrs reichenbaumhome for a couple of days before
like some wild.
Yeah, she went home.
You mean, you sent her home.
I'm gonna leave it right there.
I I feel like the statute oflimitations is up, but I'm gonna

(42:54):
still leave it alone but um Idefinitely sent her ass home
because I couldn't.
I couldn't with the wild shitthat would come out of her mouth
uh so that was probably one ofthat does sound like a time
while this jobs that I had andthen that, that fucking mayor's
office with that goddamnterrence fontaine too.

Speaker 2 (43:16):
Yeah, every place is wild, like sony was wild, you
know music in general kmichelle's not allowed to speak
about it, but I can't k michelle.

Speaker 1 (43:28):
She was in a.
She was in an abusiverelationship at the time.

Speaker 2 (43:31):
I will say that yeah, we did note that.

Speaker 1 (43:34):
Uh-huh, she's not allowed to talk about that.
I am not on a cease and desist.
And so you know they used to bearguing, but she used to be
drunk running up and down thehallways of Sony on the 13th
floor.
One day this bitch gets sodrunk she takes a Costco-sized,
industrial-sized hand sanitizer,throws it at one of my

(43:57):
coworkers.
I swear to God, swear to God.
So I think all my jobs justhave like.

Speaker 2 (44:05):
You was like I don't have none.
Oh, you know what?

Speaker 1 (44:10):
Wild things follow me , and my sister in we're too.
Totally, she's a nurse, butlike, have these encounters that
are just, they're wild withinthemselves.
I don't think I've ever had awild job.

Speaker 2 (44:23):
I've always had wild circumstances well yeah, listen
as someone that has worked inmany mental health facilities
and now works in pro wrestlingyou have a wild job, wild jobs.

Speaker 1 (44:37):
You've had nothing but wild jobs no, it's true,
it's true.

Speaker 2 (44:42):
Yeah, um, even in the sex ed stuff, like when I first
got into sex ed, I like was soexcited I was 28, you was having
a baby and I was going toorgies.
You know, we were just ondifferent paths.

Speaker 1 (44:54):
I love that for us.
Yeah, still, we use our vaginaswell, see, I was a watcher.

Speaker 2 (45:01):
I was sitting up there like, oh my god, what's
happening?
Guys, I don't know.
But a girlfriend I was out herenow.
Was I a slut, slut bucket?
Yes, absolutely, she is slutbucket now, but just I'm tired.
So just one person really getit.
But but it's interesting.
It's interesting how we look atall of these things that have

(45:23):
happened to us, like having achild being in these spaces.
Something that comes to me inand in both areas and just in
general as being a Black person,being a Black woman, is safety.
How do you navigate safety inyour existence in all of these
different spaces, as being amother, having to go to the

(45:44):
school and not tussle withnobody, being on the internet
when people want to be acting up, and you know, like, how do you
navigate it?
You know going outside inBrooklyn, how do you navigate
safety internally and externally?

Speaker 1 (45:56):
Yeah, externally, I feel like having a child has
made me more cautious in how Imove, right before I, you know,
I I never I wasn't an instigatorof fights, but I was absolutely
a finish him girl.
You know what I mean.
Like I was, like you know I'mnot gonna ever start this, but
if this is true, let's go.

(46:17):
But I find myself being waymore cautious in that way
because people are out of theirfucking minds, self-included,
but some people worse, right.
So I'm like I don't want to doanything that's going to put me
in jeopardy, you know, as aplacement in her life and I
don't want to do anything.
So it's made me more cautiousin that way.

(46:40):
Still listen, still motherlioness, though Like don't,
because if it comes to timeswhere I have to defend her,
that's what I'm going to do.
I've had to go up to the schooland have uncomfortable
conversations where I'm like nogirl, I believe my kid and it's
not one of those people thatthinks their kid can do no wrong
, but I know that you're onbullshit right now, adult or not

(47:02):
.
So making sure that she knowsthat I have her back, that has
to be forefront.
As far as myself, you know,I've had to get real, real clear
.
In the last couple of yearsjust doing I know we overuse but
get real clear in that, even inlike certain conversations I'll
have with my own mother orcertain ways that I'll let her

(47:24):
interject into my parenting, orcertain people that I will allow
around me or not allow aroundme, I told you how important and
how intentional I am withcommunity and so I have a lot of
fallouts.
You know, over the yearsthere's been one or two people
who have shown their asses andit's like uh-uh, I gotta put up
my release now, whether I loveyou or not it doesn't absolve

(47:48):
you of whatever bullshit you'vebeen on.
So I think that's how I navigatemy safety in this world as a
black woman on top of a taser onme and pepper spray, and I will
fry you like a piece of catfish.

Speaker 2 (48:01):
It's no problem I just want y'all to know she stay
ready.
It's on her.

Speaker 1 (48:08):
Okay, it's on her charged on her police grade.
Oh, did you get the shooter?
Yeah, oh, okay, I I don't them,but it is their grade.
So just in case a nigga wantsto get silly with me on the road
, yeah, you know what?

Speaker 2 (48:29):
Because you know, as you've been out to Los Angeles.
Our houseless community is verylarge and drugs are thriving
and safety outside.
You know it's as someone thatyou know volunteers and works
with an org in LA, seeing howquickly you know safety can

(48:50):
switch up on you.
You'd be having a good time.
You feed somebody.
Now they didn't threw coffee atyou, didn't called you a nigger
.
Let me tell you, I've been onthe street.
I had to walk away.
They're like why are you crying?
I say because because I want tofight but I cannot fight a
houseless person.

Speaker 1 (49:06):
But I can tell you racist as shit and you not
getting nothing for me today,which is so crazy, it's so nutty
right and I feel so bad because, again, you all like losing is
is just uh um, it's a componentof how awful our system is, how
they don't give a fuck aboutpeople with with mental health

(49:27):
challenges, with, uh emotionalchallenges, uh, veterans, even
though I think the military isthe worst entity known to men,
but y'all still don't get youand fuck you up.
You have fucked up.
Um, you know they houselesspeople like they don't give a
fuck but a a racist houselessperson.

Speaker 2 (49:51):
Okay, great, same page, because how are you mad at
me?

Speaker 1 (49:57):
and I'm young and broke, you know what I'm saying.
I was at sony, I was at lunchand I walked over, I think, to
Avenue which was the next avenue, over, and there was a black
houseless man on the corner withhis cup, you know, and he is
pleasant, and I said, I'm sorry,my brother, I don't have no
cash on me, like I don't evenhave any change.
And that's when I said youblack bitch, you black bitch.

(50:19):
And when I tell you, I screamedin laughter and pissed him off
even more, because what?
Oh, I hollered, I hollered, Ihollered.
I was like you know what?
My brother like.
I'm not even gonna do this withyou.

(50:40):
But yes, back to your originaltopic.
You, I would imagine that that,even though you understand the
why, that doesn't keep you fromhaving to.
You know, watch your back andkeep yourself protected.

Speaker 2 (50:54):
No safety in general is wild outside.
We we're going to get back withthe.
A weeks ago I had a millennialday.
I had a millennial day.

Speaker 1 (51:08):
Are you listening to Nelly?

Speaker 2 (51:10):
No, I'm going to tell you what happened.
Shut the hell up, I'm not, youknow what.
Remind me to tell you about himwhen we get off, because he's
on a list I'm working on.
Remind me, but remind me, it'stea, okay.

Speaker 1 (51:25):
I will.

Speaker 2 (51:27):
But so I okay guess the movie of what my day was
inspired by.
So I go to get gas at Costco.
I'm having a great time Like ooh, gas go.
I go to leave but wait to theend of the day for you to guess
the movie.
I go to leave my key snaps inthe ignition with the car on.
I said I don't know.

(51:48):
I said I don't know.
So I reached over and grabbedmy weed and I hit my vape and I
said okay, mood.
I said okay, self.
I got the Costco people.
I said I'm so sorry.
He said it's fine, put somecones, got me some water, so
nice.
Called AAA.
They said it'll be four hoursand $500.
I said, oh, I don't have.

(52:08):
I have the five, but I don'thave that.

Speaker 1 (52:11):
AAA has been affected by the inflation $500.

Speaker 2 (52:15):
$500.

Speaker 1 (52:17):
Okay, all right.

Speaker 2 (52:37):
Oh, my God day.
I go see my friend.
She's hosting an award show ata sex toy expo.
See, my life is different.
It's all the sex toys in theworld, just in the space they
got their new stuff.
It's the time I got a mushroomvape pen.
Remind me to show you that whenwe finish I'll show you.

(52:58):
You got to take notes of thingsyou got to remind me.
We do the show.
We do the show.
We go to dinner.
I am driving home having a great.
I'm like we had a deliciousdinner.
I'm driving through downtownLos Angeles.
I'm going under an underpass.
So when I'm driving I like tobe in cruise control, because if

(53:20):
I start getting into my music Islow down.
I can't be doing 60 in LA, so Iput it on.
I go to switch lanes.
I go to switch lanes and I'mslowed down a little bit and out
is 1030 pm and I'm going underan overpass.
Well, what happens was darknessfell because someone threw a
fucking scooter off the overpass.

(53:41):
Darkness fell because someonethrew a fucking scooter off the
overpass and the only thing thatsaved me is I had just switched
lanes.
So it fell directly in front ofmy car and snatched that shit
back.
So the bottom part of the rightside of my car is fucked up.
It's still messed up because Iwant six hundred for some
plastic.
It's fine, we'll figure it out,okay.

(54:03):
So the frame of the car is good.
The bottom the fog lightsripped off.
Somehow.
There's a huge dent on the sideof the passenger door
underneath it.
And I am driving and I'm justlike are you fucking?
Is this real life?
Is this real life?
And I'm driving and I call mypartner and I was like you

(54:24):
sleeping.
He was like yeah, I said get up.
What?
What do you mean?
A scooter?
I said a scooter fell.
It was like darkness fell andso safety looks like I'm just
going to drive home.
I just kept driving and I gotout the car and I got out and I
was like this is crazy, this iscrazy that is endless like okay,

(54:52):
what movie as a millennial?
what movie?
Final Destination?
Absolutely, absolutelyabsolutely millennial.

Speaker 1 (55:06):
I, my first one was gonna be set it off, because
after that nigga, I am shootingup everything like I'm robbing
it, because like I'm over it,fuck everybody.
No, yeah, that was finaldestination, all god, you see.
And I don't even drive behindthose big trucks with those big
metal things on the back of them.

Speaker 2 (55:26):
But a scooter falling off the overpass is absolutely
nuts yeah, everyone was like didyou call the police?
I said, for what, or what am Igonna say?

Speaker 1 (55:38):
over policing in this goddamn country.
What the fuck I'm gonna callthem niggas for?
So they come shoot me becausethe scooter fell off the
overpass.

Speaker 2 (55:46):
No, absolutely, not absolutely now imagine that
headline I didn't got shotbecause somebody didn't fuck.
That's crazy you're, I'm notgonna be a hashtag.

Speaker 1 (55:57):
Just as crazy we've seen.
Just as crazy.
Oh, somehow you had to havemade that scooter fall over your
head and now you're going tothrow the scooter at us.
So we're going to shoot you.
No, we're not calling thepolice.
I'm sorry.
I was like darkness fell out.

Speaker 2 (56:12):
No, it's true, but also I was like why am I calling
the police?
And I remind people, policingwas created because of slavery.
Therefore, they are not helpfulto anything they like to show
up after and get in the businessand fuck shit up.
Let's have the realconversation.

Speaker 1 (56:32):
Don't get me on my shit, because you know I'll go
there, and that is not the themetoday.

Speaker 2 (56:38):
Listen, it's not.
It's not, we're going to getback.
I just had to tell you safety,it fluctuates.
Yeah, no, it's not.
It's not, we're going to getback.
I just had to tell you safety,it fluctuates.

Speaker 1 (56:43):
Yeah, no, it does.
And safety, it's such aspectrum right, Because this is
not somebody actually comingafter you.
No, it's darkness.
This is literal, justcircumstance, it's just darkness
, it's darkness, everybody.
Oh, poor boo.
Did your day get better afterthat?
I imagine?

Speaker 2 (57:05):
you didn't make it to the sex toy convention.
Oh no, I did, you did.

Speaker 1 (57:08):
Yeah, jimineka, jimineka you are well.

Speaker 2 (57:14):
The scooter was after the car.
The key snapped was first.

Speaker 1 (57:18):
Okay but you got that fix on site.
Yeah, the scooter was after theaward ceremony.

Speaker 2 (57:25):
Yeah, copy okay, yeah okay, so this is another place
when you come.
We got to go to the prince.
It's old school LA.
The chicken is a Korean friedchicken.
You're in, okay, yeah, yeah, soit's a schedule to be a
schedule, it's a schedule.
I love it.

Speaker 1 (57:45):
Yeah, I'm all the way in.

Speaker 2 (57:47):
I have three more questions.
Three more questions Self-carehow does Jade take care of
herself balancing all of thisstuff?

Speaker 1 (57:58):
I smoke a lot of weed .
I smoke a lot of weed.
I can smoke your daddy underthe table.
I could smoke your uncle underthe table.
Um, I can go toe to toe withwhiz or Snoop.
Uh, I smoke a lot of weed andit really just keeps me very in
all of the chaos of everythingelse that I can't control.

(58:20):
I can control my blunts.
Wow, that's often my answer.
Yeah, no, that's, that's reallylike.
That's my number one girlfriend, that's my number one ground
there.
But I also, I, I, I do a lot oforganizing and cleaning because
it actually keeps me like, yeah, I am, I am, like I am it's a

(58:47):
disgusting Virgo stereotype thatI hold, but I am, I am a
cleaner and an organizer and itlike keeps me in a place, calm
and doing things, and it alsokeeps my head clear, right,
because when things get chaotic,you know me, I I get chaotic,
so I gotta keep things in a way,but I actually enjoy doing that

(59:09):
wow, not my gemini ass,absolutely not.
Keep it to yourself y'all arebusy, though, and I find gemini
is like I love gemini's, becauseyou all are not scared to try
everything.
I'm the trier everything yeahyeah, everything.
The gemini's that I know arenot scared to try anything and

(59:30):
you guys delve into what and youdo it right.
You don't do shoddy shoddy shitright, you get into what you're
like oh, this nigga is a blackbelt and taekwondo now Like
that's nuts.
So I love Gemini's, I love theenergy that you all possess,
because I don't have it.

Speaker 2 (59:47):
You've got to look at a full chart, though, because
some of us yeah, yeah, yeah,gemini.
Cancer Aries.
Okay, she's got the fullspectrum.

Speaker 1 (59:57):
You're balanced, but you got a lot going on.

Speaker 2 (01:00:00):
Try me, yeah, yeah, you're balanced, but you got a
lot going on.
Try me, yeah, yeah, try me ifyou want to.

Speaker 1 (01:00:05):
A lot going on over there.

Speaker 2 (01:00:07):
I do, I did, I did.
That's not what today is about,jade, but she be busy, she be
busy.

Speaker 1 (01:00:16):
Yes, she be busy and her pendulum swings in all
directions.

Speaker 2 (01:00:21):
Listen, I love that.
Something that I've beenthinking about, um, something
I've been thinking about formyself, uh, a lot lately, is
like legacy and like how do Iwant to be remembered?
And what I came up with formyself is I want to be
remembered for showing up.
What do you want to beremembered for?

Speaker 1 (01:00:46):
That's a good question.
I think the same thing, whichis why I do show up.
I think that's what drives meshowing up, back to that aspect,
really pouring into people inwhatever way, that I do that and

(01:01:06):
I think I will be rememberedthat way.
I want the people around me toknow that I love them, whether I
know them or not.
You know what.
I'm saying that love comes withchallenging conversations,
honest conversations.
That love comes withchallenging conversations,
honest conversations.
That love comes with showing up.
That love comes with healingyou know, helping someone in

(01:01:29):
their own healing.
That love comes in so manyforms.
There's so many ways to show upand I think that not to copy
off of you, but that's what Iwould.
I want to be remember, showingup as a, as a, as a good person,
like a person who gave a fuckabout other persons.

Speaker 2 (01:01:50):
OK, we're going to go left real quick, because you
just said I'd be swinging, soand then we have the last
question, then we're going to bemessy.
But as someone who doesn'treally fuck with everybody, like
people think I do but I don'tI'm very, I'm very picky about
who's around me, cause energy isso important, especially with
the work that I do.

Speaker 1 (01:02:09):
And okay, this is where it goes left.

Speaker 2 (01:02:11):
So I'd be thinking about my funeral and I knew it
was going to be here.
I'd be thinking about myfuneral and I I saw like shannon
doherty had wrote like a listof people that can't come, they
can't get in, and I said, bitch,I was thinking about a list

(01:02:32):
that you can't come.
Why are you here?
She didn't want you here yeah,are you gonna have a list of
people that can't come in?

Speaker 1 (01:02:40):
um, I have a short, potent list anyway, uh, of
niggas out busting the kneecapsin general, and I don't think
that they would try to show upto my feud.
It's short but it's potent,like I feel, very strong people
that are on there.
I, while I I heard shannondoherty was a terrible person,

(01:03:04):
but I also found that particularmove to be absolutely legendary
.
It made me laugh, as you cansee, I can't stop laughing about
it.
I laughed from the moment.
Every time it comes to my mindwhen someone brings it up I
think it's hilarious and I loveit as well.
Yeah, I would hope that thepeople.

(01:03:26):
It's funny.
Okay, let me tell you a shortstory.
A home girl of mine told merecently that when she like when
we're all together she's one ofmy and when we're all together,
somebody else will hit her upand say oh, you're kind of close
with Jade.
I can never tell if she likesme or not Every time I'm around

(01:03:51):
her and I have no clue who thisperson is.
she won't tell me, but so I tolda couple of our other friends
in that same like oh, well thenif they don't know that you
probably don't.

Speaker 2 (01:03:59):
I was like I probably don't.

Speaker 1 (01:04:02):
I'm pretty kind Right right, I'm a kind person, I'm
never gonna okay, are you nice?
No, but I'm kind I fame.
I don't think I'm that nice.
So, like, kind, absolutelypeople you're, you're back, does
that?
I'ma greet you.
You know what I'm saying?
Somebody comes up, I'm notgonna be nasty to you.
I'm a human, so like, I don'tknow what I'm in the middle of,

(01:04:24):
which is why, from time to time,I'll ask people like was I nice
to you what I meant?
Well, you know, was I decent toyou what I meant, you?
But, um, for the most part I'ma kind person and and, and if I
don't fuck with you, it is forsomething specific.
You have rubbedbed me wrong insome form or another.

(01:04:45):
That doesn't mean everybody wasrubbing me wrong.
I don't fuck with you know somepeople you end up finding later
on like, oh, this is you know,that's how we became friends,
that's our origin story.
But there's a couple of peoplewho have rubbed me wrong and I'm
like, ah, get them out of here.
I don't want nothing to do withthat person.
I don't care if you fuck withthem I don't, I don't want to, I

(01:05:06):
don't want to do it.
Um, so, with that, I I yes, Ithink I am kind not nice.
I forgot what your question was, but I think I answered it.
You're gonna have a list.

Speaker 2 (01:05:17):
Yeah, oh, yes am.

Speaker 1 (01:05:18):
I gonna have a list?

Speaker 2 (01:05:19):
yeah, probably not because they know not to come
over here.
Well, I also thought about this, because I also thought about
how I want my afterness to be.
I want to be made into jewelry.

Speaker 1 (01:05:32):
Oh, yes, I would like to be a strain.
Oh, I'm not surprised by this.
Use my ashes and fertilize meto relax hundreds of thousands
of niggas.
Honestly, yes, it makes me astrain.

Speaker 2 (01:05:50):
Oh, you know what you should become?
Oh, put some of that in somemushrooms.

Speaker 1 (01:05:55):
Yeah, hello, let me be your medicine.

Speaker 2 (01:05:59):
Yes, Wow, wow, right now, that's wild.

Speaker 1 (01:06:03):
I like that that.

Speaker 2 (01:06:04):
Wow, wow, right now, that's wild.
I like that.
That's going to be so the lastquestion of the show.
I asked the same question toeveryone, since we we fluctuate,
talking about hard things andwhatnot.
This question is cause I'm nosyand I think we should end in a
little laughter, okay.
What is the wildest thing thatsomeone has texted, emailed or
DMG in the last two weeks, andwild is perspective oh, in the

(01:06:28):
last two weeks.

Speaker 1 (01:06:29):
All right, let's look we've had some very interesting
answers.

Speaker 2 (01:06:39):
It's's been a time.

Speaker 1 (01:06:41):
I'm like people don't really say too many crazy
things to me.
Let's see, oh, this is boring.
Oh, my mother, she sent me apicture of her fucking ankle.

(01:07:02):
She sprained it.
It that's not wild.
No, that's sad it is.
But you know she just be Okay,I found it.
It's T-Boz dancing with a trashbag.
That's sort of weird Glad ass.
Hold on, I'll show you why?

Speaker 2 (01:07:30):
what is exactly?
Oh, it's because chili out herewith matthew and she don't have
nobody to talk to.
Matthew who Lawrence?
You know, chili with one of theLawrences.
Wait, whoa.

Speaker 1 (01:07:46):
Joey, wait what?
No, the middle brother of theokay, hold on who the hell is
his name?

Speaker 2 (01:07:53):
no, I thought his name is Matthew, the middle one.
There's three of them.

Speaker 1 (01:07:58):
Matthew.
Lawrence, I was like I thinkthat's who Chili's with oh okay,
oh yeah, and that's one of thepictures that popped up.
Well, that's random.
Yes, he was the son of MrsDoubtfire.

Speaker 2 (01:08:13):
Yes, yes, yes, they've been together for a few
years.

Speaker 1 (01:08:19):
Oh, I had no clue.
Well, I don't know what thathas to do with miss mama's
dancing with this trash bag butI just, you know your friend's
busy.
I received that and I was likewhat the why?
Just same way, I was like whatthe fuck is this and why?
So yes, that's probably thewildest thing I've gotten.

Speaker 2 (01:08:35):
I want y'all to go look that up, because that was
crazy.
Um, this has been so fun, likeI I knew it was going to be, so
thank you.
Thank you for having me, please, please, and there's more.
We just going to turn this off,okay, before we get out of here
, where can he, she, they them,zz, everybody, honey, where can

(01:08:57):
they find you, get your business, support you.

Speaker 1 (01:09:00):
Oh, you can find me sometimes on Instagram.
I don't post a lot, but I dopost stories, most of them being
political.
The girls are irritated with mebecause I used to post a bunch
of bullshit that made me laugh,but now you know it's really
about genocide.
So if you want to know aboutwhat's going on with that, I'm

(01:09:23):
usually usually postingsomething about that.
Uh, sometimes I'm on tiktok, um, with a random thought as it
comes to my head, like when Ifirst learned about gina curls,
which is like very curl 2.0, yes.

Speaker 2 (01:09:39):
so you know audacity and it's a white woman.

Speaker 1 (01:09:44):
It's fascinating to me.
But anyway, Jade of all Jades.
Everywhere is Jade of all Jades.
I am not on Twitter anymore, Uh, so you can't find me there, Um
, and you can find me every weekon and Jade and XD.
I am slightly problematic, butnever out to hurt anybody, so I

(01:10:07):
don't.
I try not to be harmful, but II do toe the line.
Have a good time.

Speaker 2 (01:10:11):
Okay, well, at least you know yourself, at least you
know yourself, I do.
Well, until next time, y'all.