March 25, 2025 • 43 mins
True confidence isn't about faking it until you make it—it's about moving through life with the unwavering belief that success is inevitable. We explore how carrying yourself with authentic confidence can transform your trajectory and create opportunities before you even speak.
• Moving like you already "got it" means walking with confidence that others can feel when you enter a room
• Confidence and self-esteem aren't the same, though they're often confused
• Pivotal "reset moments" in life often force us to rebuild stronger confidence
• Traditional signs of respect like firm handshakes and eye contact still matter in first impressions
• Many people struggle with confidence because they've never been taught to think independently
• Taking calculated risks is necessary—waiting for perfect alignment puts you behind others who act
• Stop allowing negative self-talk to sabotage your potential
• Faith and belief in yourself creates the foundation for confident action
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
This is Trench to Trophies Podcast, where we talk
real success, no fluff.
If you want to level up, yougot to start moving, like you
already got it.
Let's get it, let's get it.
Let's get it, let's get it,let's get it, let's get it,
let's get it, let's get it,let's get it, let's get it,
let's get it, let's do it.
(00:26):
Today we're getting intosomething that can literally
change how life moves for you.
We're going to move like youalready got it.
Yeah, yeah, hell, yeah Mostdefinitely.
Success, peace, love.
That's what we're going to talkabout today, y'all.
When we talk about move likeyou already got it we're talking
about standing on your team.
(00:47):
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, yeah, moving confidently.
What they used to say back inthe day like fake it till you
make it type shit.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Yeah but you can't say that now, boy.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
It's got a bad connotation now, but we used to
know what it meant back then.
You know what I'm saying itused to mean go in that
interview and do what you needto do to get that job, type shit
.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
You know what I'm saying?
You make a scam answer they gotto get it.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
That's what I'm saying.
It's a different mentalitynowadays.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Did y'all know MC Hammer used to hire his own
people and go to the club andhad them take pictures and shit
to the motherfuckers, like whois that dude, who is that damn,
hey get that's him so the nexttime when he came other people
was like that's hammer, you knowwhat I'm saying.
So, yeah, but I wouldn'tnecessarily say fake it till you
(01:36):
make it, but have thatmentality that you are gonna
make it.
You know what I'm saying it'sjust about having confidence.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah, if you move like you already got it.
You Step in, how you need toChest out.
You know what I'm saying?
Head up, walk with confidenceand everybody should be able to
feel your aura when you walkinto a room.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
That's how you move, like you already got it in my
eyes.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I fuck with that.
I fuck with that.
So like you got any momentswhere you feel like you had to
walk like that to be able to getan opportunity, you feel like
you was always on default.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
That's how you always move the room I always been
like that you feel like youalways just kind of step in this
shit, like you got it, like Idon't always be like that, like
hell, I'm good, but likeremember, I used to say I told
you my partner used to be likebro, I got more chicks than you
because I got this car and blah,blah, blah.
I was like bro, I'm gettingchicks walking, nigga what you
(02:35):
talking about.
So it really.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So that's something you feel like you were born with
.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yeah, just confidence , bro, and I always believed in
myself.
I could understand certainpeople that they got a bad
mental or whatever.
They really don't think theycan do it.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Don't have any self-confidence.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yeah, I can't speak for that, you know what I'm
saying, but I can understand.
I can understand where they'recoming from, because having that
that confidence, it got me towhere I am today.
But I can see that a personthat was kind of like man this
all I can do, you know, I cansee them being stagnant, so I
(03:19):
understand and so you feel likehaving self-confidence and
having or having noself-confidence and a low
self-esteem, but one and thesame.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I don't.
I think they get that played upas the same.
But I also think that that hasa lot to do with mindset, right,
like y'all was just talkingabout being stagnant versus
people who walk into it likethey know they got it.
That's got a lot to do with howyou, how you was framed early
on, like how you think aboutopportunities and shit.
(03:52):
Like I have read some shit onInstagram where people was like
black people are in a situationwhere they always want somebody
to lead them to the water andmake them drink Right, and it
made me and it made a lot ofsense to me.
But it's also based on how welearn, right.
What used to happen to us.
We used to get dropped off atschool and made other people
(04:12):
responsible for us picking up abook, us learning our ABCs, us
learning anything outside ofnormal shit in the household.
You learn chores and shitgrowing up.
You know what I'm saying.
Parents out here pacifying theirkids but I'm saying but I think
that's what causes like lowself-esteem and shit.
It's not that they overall justhave low confidence.
(04:32):
It's that people aren't exposedto being able to make their own
decisions and to be able to,like, walk through life and and
do you know what I'm saying?
Like and build something ontheir own.
Like a lot of people don't getthe opportunity until they grown
as fuck, and by that time youset into your ways you know what
I mean it takes somebody inyour life to like reset you, or
a moment to reset you.
That's why most people got to goto jail or lose somebody close
(04:55):
to them.
Well, you know what I'm saying.
Some shit like that too butthey understand like, oh shit,
this is how I'm supposed to bewalking through life, like I
gotta get up and go get it now.
I can't just sit and wait forlife to happen to me like that's
what.
It's always like a click momentyou watch any movie, that's
kind of.
It's always like a dramaticsituation the nigga mentor die
or something you know what I'msaying?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
what was it for you?
Then speak for yourself, bro.
Like I, gotta.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
I had a couple reset moments within my life, like,
but as far as the one that kindof set me on the on the right
path, bro, I lost everything inuh back in 2018, and I mean like
everything.
So people close to me, theperson I was with at the time,
nigga, my dog like I had losteverything.
So, like, for me it was, it waslike life kind of forced me to
(05:38):
reset, you know, I mean, and Ifrom that, from that moment, I
had to relearn what motivated meand what would be my next why
you know what I mean.
And so that took a lot.
It was a lot of dark places.
It was niggas on the bus,didn't have a car.
You know what I'm saying.
I had to go through a momentand build after that, do you
(05:58):
feel that?
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Because it's going back into confidence, then yeah.
Because I know at a younger ageage, just seeing how you move
you had a certain level ofconfidence about yourself,
absolutely, um, that you feellike going through that
situation killed it and you hadto regain it, or you always had
that mystique and you needed tofind your way through life I
(06:19):
think for me, the important partand I'm glad you asked that
question I had to relearn it.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
That's the thing.
Stuff that I like theconfidence that I had didn't
work no more, is that.
It ain't that I didn't have it,it's that the the way that I
was walking, the way that I wasmoving about life wouldn't.
It didn't work for the levelthat I was supposed to be
getting ready for.
So because of that, all of mybehaviors had to change, my
mindset had to change myenvironment had to change.
Yeah, bro, like.
(06:45):
But that's what I'd be, bro.
Pain is what make you grow, bro, I don't care who you are, pain
is what grow you in anysituation, bro.
That's why people be runningfrom it.
That's why I take you so longto learn all these lessons.
You scared of the hard partrunning from it, you know what
I'm saying.
So it's like for me I coulddefinitely speak today because I
feel like I've been throughmoments where I've had low
self-confidence or lowself-esteem and I kind of stood
(07:07):
a step before I jumped into anopportunity.
But it's like I feel like amindset is necessary, like no
matter what other people tellyou, they could big you up, they
could give you all the flowersthat you need, but you got to
sit down and understand who youare and how to tap into those
skills.
You know what I mean mean,because most people have an
innate talent, something thatthey do.
(07:27):
They're just kind of good atoff rip.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying, but you got to learn
how to tap into it in themoments that you need to tap
into it that's how you get tothat next level you know, I've
always felt like I could doanything, bro, like I mean
anything bro, like can't nobody,I mean and especially shit on
youtube now.
So it's another, it's nothingthat I can't learn, bro and and
(07:51):
go do for myself.
So I don't.
I've.
I've always known it, you know,and part of me feel like I was
more advanced than most people,but I was.
I was hanging around my bigcousins when I was like 12, they
was 16, I was getting in clubsand stuff.
So for me I was thinkingfurther than most people.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
You know what I'm saying you took advantage of
that, though I think that's thepart you gotta like really
highlight, because a lot ofpeople be in a circle, bro, and
they be like damn cuz, like Ifeel like I could do better, but
all the people around me isdoing x, y and z.
So the fact that you even actedon the fact that you was
different, it's something else.
You know what I mean, becausethere's a lot of cats in the
(08:32):
hood who was different or couldhave been like-minded like you.
They just didn't take that jump.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
They ain't take their leap yeah, and I mean,
sometimes you need that persontoo to tell you like you
different, you better than that,because my cousins, they always
tried to keep me out the street.
Every time we used to get intosomething at the club, he'd be
like go to the car, start thecar, don't get into nothing.
(08:56):
I'm like, bro, I'm getting intoa job man, you know what I'm
saying?
Speaker 3 (09:01):
I'm a child, yeah for real, because't going to lie.
We was raised like who you gowith, who you leave with.
So if I'm going in this spotwith you, I'm going to make sure
I leave out with you, becauseyou my partner.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
That's how I was raised too, we're supposed to be
linked up.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
All right, so now let me shift to this real quick.
We got to talking aboutconfidence.
I know what we talking about.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Moving like you got it.
We're just confidence.
You know what I'm saying.
So they go hand in hand.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
That's something.
Lately I've been kind of, Iguess, teaching my son yeah yeah
, yeah.
About how he carry himself.
Like I want to make sure hecarry himself a certain way and
you know, even when he walk like, y'all know his injury he had.
So that's besides that.
But just having that confidencewhen you walk Like don't walk
with your head down, you knowwhat I'm saying.
(09:45):
Walk with your head up Even whenhe speak.
You know what I'm saying.
I be acting like even though Idon't hear him, because I know I
got tinnitus.
I know my ears be ringing, butstill when I feel like he
talking low, I be like hon.
What you say Speak up.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah so you can have that confidence with you.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
That's a good lesson to teach At the end of the day,
keep it a stack, ain't no womangonna want you Sitting there
like hey hey, how you doing, manget out my face.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Bro.
But that's Even in business,bro.
Think about if you you doingbusiness with somebody and they
come to the table All timid.
Oh hey, do you think this wouldbe?
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Unless you, Michael Jackson RIP.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah, I mean, but even Mike didn't move like that
he sounded like you know what.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I'm saying he had an aura behind him.
Yeah, bro.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
But, he was about that.
Mike used to talk that shit.
You know what I'm saying.
You come back to the room, gether number.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Come back, look at her.
Hello, the fishes Get was awild boy.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Go look back some old movies.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Great representation of of moving like you got it,
bro, since he was a young boybro prince too, bro, all the all
the, all the greats.
Yeah, like all the greats move,like they got it.
I mean even today's day and age, if you look at it, bro, a lot
of these, a lot of these catsand you know who we big up, or
whatever in the music scene, oreven actors or whatever like
they move, like they got atleast in front of the camera.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
You know what I'm saying.
There's a lot of capping nowgoing on, but you know that it's
a lot of that going on in theindustry.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
A lot of them cats get coached too, though, so it's
like you got that benefit of,you got something to learn.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
But then you got the dudes out here that got the
money and they always been lame,you remember that to this day.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Every time some of these cats open their mouth, I'm
like how you get so much money,bro?
You lame as hell, bro, smart,yeah, I mean, and but even then
something like nigga, you ain'tthat.
It'd be connections too.
It'd be sometimes just who youknow or where you, at at the
right time, you attach to theright person.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
You know what I'm saying but somebody hear that
and say you hating that's cool.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I'll be hating that nigga till I'm in that room,
like it is what it is, because Iknow some people work hard to
go get it bro, but it's a lot ofcats who, who don't they?
You know I'm saying they on theback of somebody else and then
they try to talk like they gotit.
At least that's the lesson,shit, they talking like they.
You know I'm saying like theyabout it.
But I I say this people feel it.
(12:04):
You know I'm saying like whenyou got a confidence about
yourself, like you said, mikehad an aura.
You never met him before inyour life.
You saw him on tv, you know I'msaying, but you could tell by
the way he moved, by the way hewalked through a room.
People could feel it, bro, thisnigga.
But but for real, bro, catsknow when you walk in a room,
you could.
Bro, when the cat shake yourhand we all talk about this you
(12:26):
give me a limp handshake, bro.
I know you a hoe already likeoff.
You give me like for real, bro,if I can you go to my hand.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Let's break it down.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Let's break it down real quick, like real quick,
just so people know every realman knows that how to give a
handshake, like you supposed togive a decent grip.
Like some of these things betaking it overboard, be trying
to break your hand when you givehim a handshake.
I'd rather that over like somelady fingers.
Don't set your hand in my handlike grab it, pause, even even
(12:54):
go back a little further.
If I'm sitting down and heenters another man into the room
, I'm standing up, you'resupposed to stand up and greet
that man face to face his hand,even if he's six, five, it don't
matter, bro.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Like you, it depends I'm just getting ready to say I
know he throws some context init, go ahead it depends, because
what has happened to you?
Speaker 2 (13:16):
there's a particular fellow.
Hey, there's a particularfellow.
You know that I I feltdisrespected.
Sit down.
You know what I'm saying.
We were, we were supposed tohave a, a man-to-man
conversation and he was like youcan have a seat.
(13:37):
And I mean, all right, now, hecould have taken a seat.
Now it seems a little petty.
I'm older now and I ain't gotmy chest poked out.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
But at the time.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
How old were you at the time?
I was probably like 28.
Probably like 27, 28.
So I was still on my you niggascan't touch this, so so I was
pretty much like I don't, Idon't want nobody to talk to me.
Crazy, I don't want nobody todisrespect me or I don't want
(14:15):
them to say nothing, that I feeldisrespected and that I felt
like that was kind ofdisrespectful.
You can sit down, like what youmean, even though I'm in your
house.
You know what what I'm saying,but to me at that point it
depend on who you are.
You know what I mean.
Like, if I ain't even going tosay, if I have a problem, if I
(14:36):
just don't respect you in acertain type of way, I'm not
standing up when you come in theroom.
You know what I'm saying.
Like nigga, you should sit downand shake my hand.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
Y'all niggas is wild Kiss the ring.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Nah, but it just depends on who it is man.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
I think that's the problem with today's day and age
, though.
Like we've got away from that,Like our generation grew up
knowing that those was the rulesof engagement and in a regular
situation where, even if it's aman you don't know, general
respect was you stand up.
When you greet, even with awoman walking the road, you
stand up and you wait till sheget in and sit down, I totally
agree.
Sit down, I totally agree it'slike this new age niggas who who
(15:15):
take it, yeah, like when youoffer respect, they, they spit
in your hand you know what I'msaying?
Speaker 2 (15:20):
no, like, like, like.
Oh boy, that's how it be,that's how it feel.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
You know, I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Remember old boy that was in my crib.
He was a young man.
We walked in the house and helike stood up and shook our
hands.
So I respected that.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Like it was when you do that.
I was there.
Yeah, you ain't like him justbecause of who he was with he
wasn't standing up, bro, he was.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
He was standing on the wall.
Yeah, he was standing on thewall.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
He said he was standing on the wall, but when
he turned, you know what I'msaying he was like hi y'all
don't you know what I'm sayinglike shook our hand, you know I
mean like look you already youon him.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
He wasn't standing up the type of person the type of
person I think we refer to is isone of those people like they.
We see them.
They throw us the head nod,what's up?
You know I'm saying like nah,you know I'm saying stand up,
shake my hand so look, will that?
Speaker 3 (16:15):
would that be a younger version of yourself
though?
The kind of guy, the kind ofguy that you?
Speaker 2 (16:20):
referring to no, because first impression, bro,
like when you walk into the room, if I don't know you, of course
I'm going to stand up.
We here to meet each other, youknow what I'm saying.
But say, for instance, like atmy wife's party right?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
So aunt called me over and I walked over and sat
down and he introduced me todude I wasn't finna.
Stand back up to shake hisnigga hand.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
You feel me like I walked over and was like hey,
bro, like come here.
I was like we talked about.
I ain't gonna lie.
I ain't gonna lie, I don't knowbecause they, just because
ain't seen how I've interactedwith people, with other guys.
I get up and I'm gonna go overthere.
You know what I want you to.
You know what I'm saying.
Feel my energy pause, like likeI want.
But I want you to feel myenergy pause.
I want you to understand.
(17:09):
Nah, this is what it is.
I'm going to look in your eyes,man, and give you the energy.
I get what you're saying.
I'm not going to go out of myway, but that's how I move.
I am going to extend my handand make sure I get up and go
See you be, checking the niggaout.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Not even out.
They need to be checking thenigga you like?
Speaker 2 (17:31):
you just said you look him in their eyes.
I don't even look these niggasin the face.
I'll be like what's?
Speaker 3 (17:36):
up.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Take that disrespect though but I don't know, you
like I don't know you, I don'tneed you.
Why are you trying to look mein the eye?
If you look me in the eyes,you're trying to intimidate me.
That that's how I take it.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
See, but that's the thing I feel like.
That's showing respect.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
And see it's crazy, bro, because I talk about this
at work.
It's culture.
Some cultures believe thatlooking somebody in their eyes
is respect.
Some other cultures don't lookat me in my eyes At work or
business.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Yeah, bro, now I don't have to necessarily look
you in the face.
You see me do it all the timewhen we talking, I be looking, I
just.
Yeah, bro, I do it all the time.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
I'm going to paint this scenario real quick because
you know we was out for NewYear's.
And you remember that stationthat was in front of us and they
said they was from U-City.
Yeah, had they turned aroundand got to talking and
introduced themselves, youtelling me you wouldn't look
them in the eyes through thatwhole conversation.
I looked them in their faceyeah, that's eyes face pieces,
nose, mouth.
You look this man I did.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I did look him in his face like you.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
You're not gonna turn away.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
I know that yeah but I, I, I don't know, I have the
tendency to not look at peopleSometimes.
I just Okay, I get you so it'ssituational for you, you feel
like yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
But I feel like it's the same thing For Unique Cause
he said he bring, he kinda likeGo to a nigga and he want him to
feel the energy to see how theyreact to it.
You do the same thing but youqualify niggas For that motion.
That's the only difference.
You qualify certain people orcertain situations and that's
when you apply that energy.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Nah, this nigga disqualifies them from the job.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
That's what I'm saying.
Shit, you know what I'm saying?
Until they qualify themselves.
Nigga said you got to qualifyyourself.
Yeah, bro.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
You got to pour into the bucket, nigga, you can't
just come with a full one.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You got to come.
It's funny.
So let me ask you real quickthis might you know, this might
throw it a different direction.
You hearing this statement,have y'all ever heard this
saying don't ask for permission,ask for forgiveness yeah, yeah,
for sure, what does?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
that mean to y'all uh , go ahead and do it and
apologize later within contextyou know what I'm saying.
I think I think what that meansis don't come to me for
everything.
Like you should learn how Imove, so that you know what I'm
saying.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
I think I think what that means is don't come to me
for everything, like you shouldlearn how I move, so that you
know what I need.
I think that's what that mean.
You know what I'm saying, likeI feel, like most people if I,
if they say that, they say thatto people they trust.
You know what I'm saying.
Like, just like, hey, watch howI move, learn my, learn my shit
.
Speaker 3 (20:03):
Then I'm gonna trust just for you to do what's
necessary right and I think forme, I think they're saying it's
about trust, because, yeah, I'mmoving how I want to move.
You know, I'm saying, uh, withconfidence, and if I mess up,
that was a part of the learningexperience I'm gonna ask for
forgiveness later.
Yeah, so, but nah, yeah, I'm.
I think that's part of that'spart of the movement, confidence
(20:26):
, but that's teachable, butthat's what I mean.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
It's not in a reference to relationships, it's
in reference to people that youknow, if they selling a little
something on the side and theymight be, oh man, I got to go
get this and go spend all theirmoney on that, but don't have no
money for gas and don't have nomoney for food and stuff like
that, bro, you, you just brokeyourself trying to go and and
(20:52):
re-up.
You know I'm saying yeah, it's,it's, it's a, it's about the
hustle, but at the same time,like if you pouring into your
business, but you should have aplan and a way to do it.
You know I'm saying youshouldn't be at the spur of the
moment.
I'm finna, just throw thismoney, do it.
You know what I'm saying.
You shouldn't be at the spur ofthe moment.
I'm finna, just throw thismoney into it.
But I get what you're saying.
They gonna do that and be likehey, I'm sorry, bae, I know the
(21:16):
lights, finna, get cut off, butAin't no repercussions.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
I got this business, but it is repercussions that's
the problem.
So, like, all right.
So if you this is the thing soif you wait till you successful,
if you wait until you make themoves, all the right moves, and
everything lines up perfectlybefore you take the leap, you
behind?
Yeah, because the niggas whowas risking it and jumping out
there and you know I'm sayingdoing what they need to do, they
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ahead of you, they got thehustle already, they already
move and they accelerate youover here trying to make sure
you fill in every bubble.
You know I'm saying you.
You cross every t, dot, every I, and that's not necessarily bad
in all the situations, but insome situations you need to know
like this is a risk I mean am Iwilling to risk it, or am I
willing to play it safe and ittake a lot longer?
Speaker 2 (21:58):
it depend on the risk the risk ain't the risk has to
be worth the reward.
Yeah, you can't.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
You can't go in and risk it all in the business,
shaky, see, I think, I thinkthat and this going into another
lane I think the person thatyou describe and is a worker,
not a like an inventor, like he,a person.
You gotta give him a task.
Yeah, he can't go out there andjust complete and do a task
from the ground up, from byitself.
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I think that's most people,though, bro I think that's the
problem.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Most people is worker bees.
The way we grew up most niggasis like I know how to go to
school and do a school.
Say I know how to go to workand do a work.
Say I know how to do what mymama say I know you know, what
I'm saying, like I know how todo what people say.
We gotta break that mentalitybecause most cats the cure for
cancer is amongst one of thesedumbass niggas who need to
become a smart nigga.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
And for y'all all right to visualize that the
worker you need to be told whatto do.
You need a standard operatingprocedure.
Now that's the stuff that Icreate.
You need to be a person that'sgoing to be like.
I know how to make this processbetter.
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You got to think you know whatI'm saying.
You can't take what people sayand start running with it.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
These drugs got these civilians out here overthinking
and fizzing it, and I'm sayingthat because these dudes ain't
know how to move.
They need people to show themthere's a lot of overthinkers
and I'm saying these drugsbecause these dudes is on know
how to move.
They need people to show themthey don't they over.
There's a lot of overthinkersand I'm saying these drugs
because these dudes is on thempills and all that yeah niggas
don't have everybody escapinglife don't nobody know how to
navigate it.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
No more.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Everybody want to escape into drugs, escape into
music, escaping.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
You know, I'm saying, like everybody, leaving,
leaving life, escaping the workescaping to, to, uh, your your
mental, but like escaping there,figure out something that you
can do like I said, out of life.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
You know, I'm saying like write that down, but like I
said yes, exactly a plan.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
And like, go try to find to do things.
Like you see somebody doingsomething, bro, look it up on
youtube.
Go google it, bro.
Like try to figure it out, bro.
Like and if you don't know whatit's called, like try to figure
it out, bro.
It's so much shit out here foryou to do chat.
Gpt, goddamn me, like it's somany.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Ai, bro google, got they on ai.
You know, siri.
Now this is a ai built intothat with apple intelligence go
figure it out.
So many things that you can do,bro.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
I was gonna ask you then.
So, like the person who'strying to gain knowledge on
moving with confidence, movinghow?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
they want to move.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
What type of resources, what type of
knowledge can you offer them?
Speaker 1 (24:28):
all right.
So number one, bro, it dependson what you want to do.
So, similar to what montay justsaid, right, I think that the
first step is acting like yougot it.
So you gots to go find a sourcewho all right, so like me.
This finna be funny.
But back when I was 11 yearsold, bro, I swore I was gonna be
a superstar and I, I brad nigga.
I had the chain like usher, Ihad the shirt rolled up at the
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sleeves, my big jeans, and like.
You know what I'm saying.
I used to be gliding across thefloor throwing my chain around,
like, but what I did was Iemulated the person that I
thought was the most successfulat what I wanted to do, and so
then that became then.
I developed my own style afterthat, from how I dressed to how
I dance, to how I just movethrough life in general, because
I started researching resources.
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I feel like if you want tostart acting like you got it,
you got to find somebody whoalready doing it and then try to
emulate what they're doing, atleast in the best way as you can
.
That's my advice.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
You got my take with some answers to that advice you
got.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
I'm gonna tell you what's your answer to that.
So, to piggyback off that, Iwant to let people know that
going to buy balenciaga and youknow purple jeans and all that,
like you can't dress like yougot it, you got to have the
mentality like you got it.
You know what I mean.
It's different when you try todress like you got it.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
You're going to be broke, you're going to be paying
for stuff that you know whatI'm saying people are looking at
and then you're going to washit a couple times and you ain't
going to be able to wear it.
They be living beyond theirmeans.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Yeah, for sure I don't understand that.
But my advice would be exactlywhat the title is move like you
got it with the mentality, notyour clothes.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Shout out to dochi, if y'all look at it, that's how
she was doing that same thing.
Like they was posting oldyoutubes of her saying like she
got fired.
And she's like I guess tomorrowI'm just gonna go to a whole
bunch of studios and I'm gonnado a whole bunch of this and
then fast forward.
She just won a grammy, so yougot to move with that mentality
like she got fired from her job.
It still was like whatever, I'mfinna go make music, I'm gonna
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go do what I need to do and nowfast forward she shifted her
energy and focus on somethingelse and I'm not I'm not anybody
to like change your mentality,anything like that, but y'all
need to.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
You know.
Like figure it out, go and dosomething more.
Like look it up, stop askingpeople about, like stop asking
for other people's opinions.
Go find facts.
You know what I'm saying.
So move.
Like you got it you ain'tnecessarily gotta had a money
but you to have the mentality tobe like all right, I know I'm
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going to have it, I know I'mgoing to have it, I don't know
when and trust in God.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
There's a shift in today.
I'm glad you brought up God.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Shout out to Cheese.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (27:27):
If you want to, you know one of the people who read
the good book.
Even biblically, the scripturesays our words have power we
have to speak things intoexistence, um, and I believe
moving like it's already yoursplays into that.
So we be in our community andour coaching man.
We always down on ourselveslike we be talking bad on
ourselves like man I'm I'm dumbas hell like it just be stupid.
Like, look, look conversationlike this, like man, my stupid
ass.
I'm tri as hell Like it.
Just be stupid.
Like, look, look conversationlike that, like man, my stupid
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ass.
I'm tripping, like when youreally just cursing yourself.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
And you know what Procrastination starts there too
, because as soon as you startbeing like, all right, I'm going
to put it off, you startthinking about, like dang, I
don't think that's going to work, do it?
Speaker 3 (28:03):
Like, do it and ask for forgiveness later and we not
finna all see her and act likewe haven't went through that.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
Like we do that.
That's something that you gotto battle daily.
You know what I'm saying, butjust be consistent with it.
Yeah, that's all it.
Take your word has power.
Give yourself some affirmationsin the morning or something you
know before you go to bed.
I mean, you shouldn't be wakingup in no bad mood, for if you
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do, man, hit them, get on yourknees, go.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Go have a conversation with a man upstairs
.
I like how y'all phrasing it.
And uh, to go back into thegood book, as my brother said uh
, faith without works is dead.
You know what I'm saying?
Like faith without works iscompletely dead.
When you, when you look at itin a situation we keep talking
about, like act like you got it,but you gotta put something
behind it.
Like you gotta act like you gotit, but you got to put
something behind it.
Like you got to act like yougot it, but still go read.
You know what I'm saying.
Still go study, still go figureout, like, what it takes to get
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to that next level.
Don't just walk around here asa shell of yourself.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
You got to want it for yourself Absolutely At the
end of the day and think that's,that's a problem too.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
We we waiting on everybody else to give us
opportunities to know whenthey're trying to grind getting
that trench into that trophy butit's so many, so many people
that don't know what they wantto do, bro, like if you don't
know what you want to do, yougotta try everything, dog,
everything.
The problem is they scared tofeel and you can't be scared to
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man, you can't.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
It creates desperation, and I think that's
the problem, because you look atthese kids now, bro.
It's a lot of kids that knowhow to do a lot of stuff they
editing their own videos, theycreating their own content, they
doing all kind of skills.
So they got it, but they stillempty inside you know what I
mean.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
but they learning those things, but they need to
learn the fundamentals becausethey learning that shit too
early Cause.
Guess what?
What they going to do when thatstops?
Tick tock, tick tock.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Cats crash out Cause they don't have to learn how to
just do one thing, you got to doit all and you got to learn.
You got to be able to, to learnand get through that process.
Like my bro I was telling,telling brother, like I was
telling both of y'all that myuncle told me let my son be a
son, let let not let him be ason, but let my let my
six-year-old be a six-year-old.
When he gets eight, when hegets seven, show him
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seven-year-old things and gethim ready for eight-year-old
things but, let him be that.
So you gotta let him learn.
And if they show up, if you, ifyou see a passion for something
cool, like, buy into it, butstill keep them on track.
You know I'm saying some ofthese parents is like no, that's
all you're gonna do.
You're bringing in the money,let's go.
No, it can't be like that.
Keep them doing what theysupposed to be doing, bro,
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because they ain't your.
They they're gonna be yourmoney ticket for a little minute
, but once they fall off, itfall off make deposits and plant
the seeds yeah, hell yeah makethe pies and plant the seeds.
Speaker 3 (30:52):
Water.
See what happens.
Watch it grow.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
I like that, though, because you, you I just posted
something on instagram.
I was talking about that t I uhwas talking about having a
vision and moving with a visionand the importance of not giving
up your vision, even when otherpeople don't understand it.
Yeah, yeah, you know what Imean.
I think that that's importantas well.
I feel a lot of people have avision, they have an idea, but
somebody in their life told them, oh, that's not good enough or
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that's stupid, or no, I can'tsee you being successful at that
.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
So they, then they run away from it.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
You know self-sabotage or they
self-sabotage because theyrealize that they actually might
be able to achieve it, and thatscares the hell out of them.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Not even that.
It's like me with the music.
I just I don't want to putmyself through all of that, not
to be successful, bro.
I just don't want to do it.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
You feel like it's wasted.
Yeah, it's time wasted.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Y'all really feel like time can be wasted.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
Not necessarily yes, when you're not building
something productive, absolutely, but I always think you're
thinking though that'sinteresting.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
I was like, yeah, I feel like I always learn.
Even if it's something that Idon't do for myself, I learn.
I'd like I learned somethingabout that situation.
So I feel like time, I feellike it's a mindset.
Time being wasted is a mindsetbecause even with a person let's
say you, somebody, waste yourtime on a date now you've
learned, you've learned triggers, you've learned situations.
You, you can learn things aboutthem that looks like all right,
(32:14):
cool.
You, you feel like your timewas wasted, but you, what you
really did was you learned a lotabout yourself and that person
this thing.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
I want to laugh when you talk about that.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Look at me I didn't say nothing.
I mean, I'm just talking abouta general situation.
But if niggas want to talkabout their own drama, that's
just on them.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
I found out exactly what I needed.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Y'all know that.
Speaker 3 (32:33):
Disqualified.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
It was just relatable .
Hey say what Pew pew.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Disqualified.
He was out of there.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
Snip, I'm out of there.
Hopped the fence with bothhands, hey shit yeah, hey,
that's.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
That's funny.
I'm good, hey, but we tappedinto a couple episodes ago.
You seen red flags, bro.
Speaker 3 (32:58):
Yeah, you know it's, but like it's, just like, like
we talked about it.
You saw, I saw the red flagsand um, I still wanted that
confirmation.
You know what I'm saying.
I don't feel like that waswasting time, because I needed a
confirmation.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
You know what I'm saying, but I feel like it
becomes a waste of time when yousaw it and you, despite the
fact that you saw it, you stillkept on dealing with it.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
So you can waste your own time.
Yeah, yeah, okay, I agree withthat.
I don't think other peoplecould waste your time, because I
think you learned something youallowed it to happen, yeah, but
you, you wasting your own time.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
I agree with that do you necessarily think you're
wasting your own time?
Because I'm, uh, I usually whenyou not doing something, you're
thinking, not everybody, bro,that's certain people and that's
what I learned.
Some people could go blank realquick and be good and be
straight I can't do it either,bro, but a lot of people can't.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
How, bro?
They be they be as long as myheart beating my wheels is
turning bro but that's also, ifyou think about it, that's why
you sleep less, because yourbrain is active more often, and
so it's stuff like that you gotto pay attention to.
That.
That's a, that's a behaviorabout yourself.
I know, you know what I'msaying.
I'm just saying like, and notyou, just I'm talking to the
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masses.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
Yeah, people in general to the masses, but yeah,
like you just got.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
That's something you got to pay attention to if you
don't sleep for real, or yousomebody that's like that's
always up at the same time ofnight all the time it's for a
reason.
You know what?
Speaker 3 (34:30):
I mean, it's for a reason.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
You're not a sleeping disorder boy I know, because I
don't sleep, that much, you know, I know, yeah, I mean, I only
sleep when I'm exhausted, bro,like and I and I can't like my
wife she can sit there and closeher eyes and go to sleep.
I'll be like, please show mehow you do that, because I gotta
pass out, bro, I'm jealous ofthat.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
My wife can do the same thing, but it's hard bro.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
I have to pass out.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
I gotta be tired.
I can't just go to sleep If Iain't doing nothing that day.
If I was chilling that day, I'mlike bro.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
I'm up.
Speaker 3 (35:04):
I have to pass out.
I have to be watching.
Speaker 2 (35:06):
TV.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
It's gotta be involuntary.
Speaker 3 (35:07):
Yeah, I have to be watching TV, and just it's
involuntary when y'all sit on mycouch and I come over my crib
and just be snatching y'all assup.
Yeah, yeah, his couch, heyCouch, will be snatching y'all.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
When we move.
I'm probably finna give the CPUsystem.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
You're like wait a minute?
Speaker 1 (35:28):
What happened that mother take all the confidence
out of the nigga?
Speaker 2 (35:31):
You hear me, hey, all right.
So look, hold on.
Speaker 1 (35:39):
Real quick, I want to make another call back because
last episode remember I had toldy'all that story about the cat
with the clipboard at Six Flags.
He was just standing in line,acting like he was selling,
selling tickets for people tojump.
Cat was moving like he alreadyhad it, bro, like like cat
legitimately walked in with auniform on and start taking
money but that was a hustle line, bro.
(36:00):
That was a hustle though but buthe even for hustle.
So if you listen to the lastepisode, then you know where we
coming from, but you gotta movelike that.
So even if you listen to thelast episode, then you know
where we coming from, but yougot to move like this.
So, even if you feel like youdon't have a hustle, you're
going to go about life the rightway.
You know you're going to school, going to college, you're going
to graduate and get a great job.
That's amazing.
That's great you don't have thetraditional hustle.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
But you still have confidence.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
You know what I'm saying.
Let me stop playing.
But you can't have confidenceand I just want to make sure
that, like, whatever you do,move, like you got confidence
because people feel that, like Isaid earlier, people can
understand, like they'll,they'll realize that you belong
in the room even before youenter that mug, just by the way
you walk up to the door yeah,some people see you and be like
man.
Speaker 3 (36:43):
I wonder what he do bro and then all you did was
walk in bro, and you there foran interview.
Speaker 2 (36:48):
You know what I'm saying, so it's just like it's
something that you got in youit's just like at my job, like I
got, I gotta, I gotta offer foranother position.
But I didn't get it.
But the confidence I hadleading up to it and through it,
even after after was it was upthere.
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I had great confidence and theysaw that and they still reach
out.
You know what I'm saying forstuff.
So it's like just having it.
You're going to build thoserelationships.
You know what I mean.
You're going to move forward inlife.
You're going to go way pastwhat you ever thought you're
gonna.
You're gonna.
You're gonna move forward inlife.
You're gonna.
You're gonna go way past whatyou ever thought.
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When you think about what you,what you think, when you think
about things like, oh man, I, Icould do it, you're gonna go way
past what you really think youcould do just do it go ahead now
.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
I'm saying this real quick like I wanted to kind of
ask y'all this.
We can go with this.
So this is exactly why we needto go ahead and get this woman
on the pod, probably becauseit's geared towards the women.
Um, what do you say to thewomen who move like they do?
Because a lot of women who movelike they already got it.
They're saying that men areintimidated by that.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
Men are intimidated by that, that's okay.
So that's the man's fault.
You know what I'm saying.
If you intimidated by what thewoman got, that's your fault.
You should shoot your shot, seeif she rocking with you and
level up.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
Some dude be thinking that'd be overconfidence too,
though.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Yeah, some people find it immediately
unattractiveive and I completelyunderstand that in certain
situations, but I feel like itdepends on how strong your
energy is.
I think that you should be ableto keep the core essence of
yourself, like especially in adating situation, but be able to
like soften up to see whatsomebody else is like, because
you gotta be able to likeexactly, exactly.
I was just going to say it's notsomething necessarily for women
, but I do think that in inthose situations you gotta be
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mindful of do what's moreimportant projecting who you are
, what you've accomplished andwhat you've been through, or
learning this person so you canlearn how to like join y'all
lives together.
I think those are two differentmindsets and I'm not mad at the
women who lead with thosethings.
Just understand that a lot ofmen in this day and age find it
(39:13):
unattractive.
So you're gonna, you're gonnapush some away before you ever
get a chance to know.
And to my taste point, I thinkthat has a lot to do with the
men.
But you can't change the man,just like we can't change the
woman right, and I think theymight be saying that because you
see this push we having withthis soft girl era but I love
that, though, I love this wholesoft girl because of allowing a
woman to feel confident becausea man has come in to set the
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stage for her, like that's thepart we want to make sure that
we remind people of is because aman has come in and properly
set the stage so that she canlet her balls down and be a soft
girl, you know what.
Speaker 3 (39:45):
I'm saying Like that's necessary.
This cat let her balls downthis cat dog.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Damn, something wrong with him.
But we've come to the end ofthe podcast, but before we get
up out of here y'all, I want tomake sure that we leave y'all
with a gem, right?
So what's one thing that y'allcan leave with the people that
they can take home with them sothey can be like all right, this
is what I'm going to use to actlike I got it or move like I
got it, anything on y'all mind,just like.
Speaker 3 (40:15):
I said before, man, just your words have power.
So speak that positive energyto existence and give yourself
affirmation.
Stop downing yourself.
You know, spend some qualitytime with yourself.
Build yourself up.
Your confidence will grow aswell.
Get you some books to read, goget in that gym, go be outside,
(40:37):
go just walk.
All that is going to build yourconfidence up, for you to be
able to move how you want tomove, and when you walk into
places you'll have that level ofconfidence about yourself.
So then you'll also exude theenergy and then the energy be
will be returned to you.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
I rock with that.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
I like that, I'll tell you guys, I think I say you
just have to believe, you haveto have faith.
You might have stones right now, but them stones may turn into
hundred dollar bills.
Go through the motions, havefaith, believe in yourself and
that'll give you all theconfidence you need to walk it
(41:18):
like you talk it, act like yougot it real shit, real shit no I
rocks with that, I rocks withthat.
Speaker 1 (41:23):
Um, and in that, in that same vein, like nah, what
do you say?
On that same vein, like no,what do you say?
On that same token, I think,like the world starts to move in
the way you need it to when youstop acting like you need it to
.
I think that when we startlosing that spirit of
desperation and we startlearning how to turn that into
confidence and we start clearlyseeing what our options are,
(41:45):
that's when the world startsopening up doors for you.
You stop acting like, oh my God, I'm panicking about this, I'm
anxious about this and that, andyou just start letting life
come to you and making decisionsas they come to you, instead of
trying to live in the future.
You start realizing you do haveeverything you need to act like
you got it, move like you gotit, talk like you got it, smile
like you got it.
(42:05):
You know what I'm saying.
Whatever got it, smile like yougot it.
You know what I'm saying.
Whatever the case is so right,so all right.
Y'all them with some dope gems.
I appreciate y'all sharing.
If you rock with the podcast,let us know sliding them dms.
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Speaker 2 (42:26):
If you rocking with us, let us know.
Email trenches to trophies atgmailcom.
Email us your, your comments,your feedback.
Um, if you got any trenches totrophy stories, you know what I
mean like if you if you knowanybody, because we we willing
to share them.
So you know, just if you madeit all the way to the end of the
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podcast, let us know how youfeel.
Speaker 1 (42:51):
Comment on.
Speaker 2 (42:51):
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Email us.
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Speaker 1 (43:00):
Yeah, yep, yep All right, this has been another
episode of Trenches to Trophies.
We out of here, we out of here,woo-hoo Shoot.
This is Trench to Trophies Podcast, where we talk
real success, no fluff.
If you want to level up, yougot to start moving, like you
already got it.
Let's get it, let's get it.
Let's get it, let's get it,let's get it, let's get it,
let's get it, let's get it,let's get it, let's get it,
let's get it, let's do it.
(00:26):
Today we're getting intosomething that can literally
change how life moves for you.
We're going to move like youalready got it.
Yeah, yeah, hell, yeah Mostdefinitely.
Success, peace, love.
That's what we're going to talkabout today, y'all.
When we talk about move likeyou already got it we're talking
about standing on your team.
(00:47):
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, yeah, moving confidently.
What they used to say back inthe day like fake it till you
make it type shit.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Yeah but you can't say that now, boy.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
It's got a bad connotation now, but we used to
know what it meant back then.
You know what I'm saying itused to mean go in that
interview and do what you needto do to get that job, type shit
.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
You know what I'm saying?
You make a scam answer they gotto get it.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
That's what I'm saying.
It's a different mentalitynowadays.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Did y'all know MC Hammer used to hire his own
people and go to the club andhad them take pictures and shit
to the motherfuckers, like whois that dude, who is that damn,
hey get that's him so the nexttime when he came other people
was like that's hammer, you knowwhat I'm saying.
So, yeah, but I wouldn'tnecessarily say fake it till you
(01:36):
make it, but have thatmentality that you are gonna
make it.
You know what I'm saying it'sjust about having confidence.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah, if you move like you already got it.
You Step in, how you need toChest out.
You know what I'm saying?
Head up, walk with confidenceand everybody should be able to
feel your aura when you walkinto a room.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
That's how you move, like you already got it in my
eyes.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I fuck with that.
I fuck with that.
So like you got any momentswhere you feel like you had to
walk like that to be able to getan opportunity, you feel like
you was always on default.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
That's how you always move the room I always been
like that you feel like youalways just kind of step in this
shit, like you got it, like Idon't always be like that, like
hell, I'm good, but likeremember, I used to say I told
you my partner used to be likebro, I got more chicks than you
because I got this car and blah,blah, blah.
I was like bro, I'm gettingchicks walking, nigga what you
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talking about.
So it really.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So that's something you feel like you were born with
.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yeah, just confidence , bro, and I always believed in
myself.
I could understand certainpeople that they got a bad
mental or whatever.
They really don't think theycan do it.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Don't have any self-confidence.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yeah, I can't speak for that, you know what I'm
saying, but I can understand.
I can understand where they'recoming from, because having that
that confidence, it got me towhere I am today.
But I can see that a personthat was kind of like man this
all I can do, you know, I cansee them being stagnant, so I
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understand and so you feel likehaving self-confidence and
having or having noself-confidence and a low
self-esteem, but one and thesame.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I don't.
I think they get that played upas the same.
But I also think that that hasa lot to do with mindset, right,
like y'all was just talkingabout being stagnant versus
people who walk into it likethey know they got it.
That's got a lot to do with howyou, how you was framed early
on, like how you think aboutopportunities and shit.
(03:52):
Like I have read some shit onInstagram where people was like
black people are in a situationwhere they always want somebody
to lead them to the water andmake them drink Right, and it
made me and it made a lot ofsense to me.
But it's also based on how welearn, right.
What used to happen to us.
We used to get dropped off atschool and made other people
(04:12):
responsible for us picking up abook, us learning our ABCs, us
learning anything outside ofnormal shit in the household.
You learn chores and shitgrowing up.
You know what I'm saying.
Parents out here pacifying theirkids but I'm saying but I think
that's what causes like lowself-esteem and shit.
It's not that they overall justhave low confidence.
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It's that people aren't exposedto being able to make their own
decisions and to be able to,like, walk through life and and
do you know what I'm saying?
Like and build something ontheir own.
Like a lot of people don't getthe opportunity until they grown
as fuck, and by that time youset into your ways you know what
I mean it takes somebody inyour life to like reset you, or
a moment to reset you.
That's why most people got to goto jail or lose somebody close
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to them.
Well, you know what I'm saying.
Some shit like that too butthey understand like, oh shit,
this is how I'm supposed to bewalking through life, like I
gotta get up and go get it now.
I can't just sit and wait forlife to happen to me like that's
what.
It's always like a click momentyou watch any movie, that's
kind of.
It's always like a dramaticsituation the nigga mentor die
or something you know what I'msaying?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
what was it for you?
Then speak for yourself, bro.
Like I, gotta.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
I had a couple reset moments within my life, like,
but as far as the one that kindof set me on the on the right
path, bro, I lost everything inuh back in 2018, and I mean like
everything.
So people close to me, theperson I was with at the time,
nigga, my dog like I had losteverything.
So, like, for me it was, it waslike life kind of forced me to
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reset, you know, I mean, and Ifrom that, from that moment, I
had to relearn what motivated meand what would be my next why
you know what I mean.
And so that took a lot.
It was a lot of dark places.
It was niggas on the bus,didn't have a car.
You know what I'm saying.
I had to go through a momentand build after that, do you
(05:58):
feel that?
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Because it's going back into confidence, then yeah.
Because I know at a younger ageage, just seeing how you move
you had a certain level ofconfidence about yourself,
absolutely, um, that you feellike going through that
situation killed it and you hadto regain it, or you always had
that mystique and you needed tofind your way through life I
(06:19):
think for me, the important partand I'm glad you asked that
question I had to relearn it.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
That's the thing.
Stuff that I like theconfidence that I had didn't
work no more, is that.
It ain't that I didn't have it,it's that the the way that I
was walking, the way that I wasmoving about life wouldn't.
It didn't work for the levelthat I was supposed to be
getting ready for.
So because of that, all of mybehaviors had to change, my
mindset had to change myenvironment had to change.
Yeah, bro, like.
(06:45):
But that's what I'd be, bro.
Pain is what make you grow, bro, I don't care who you are, pain
is what grow you in anysituation, bro.
That's why people be runningfrom it.
That's why I take you so longto learn all these lessons.
You scared of the hard partrunning from it, you know what
I'm saying.
So it's like for me I coulddefinitely speak today because I
feel like I've been throughmoments where I've had low
self-confidence or lowself-esteem and I kind of stood
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a step before I jumped into anopportunity.
But it's like I feel like amindset is necessary, like no
matter what other people tellyou, they could big you up, they
could give you all the flowersthat you need, but you got to
sit down and understand who youare and how to tap into those
skills.
You know what I mean mean,because most people have an
innate talent, something thatthey do.
(07:27):
They're just kind of good atoff rip.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying, but you got to learn
how to tap into it in themoments that you need to tap
into it that's how you get tothat next level you know, I've
always felt like I could doanything, bro, like I mean
anything bro, like can't nobody,I mean and especially shit on
youtube now.
So it's another, it's nothingthat I can't learn, bro and and
(07:51):
go do for myself.
So I don't.
I've.
I've always known it, you know,and part of me feel like I was
more advanced than most people,but I was.
I was hanging around my bigcousins when I was like 12, they
was 16, I was getting in clubsand stuff.
So for me I was thinkingfurther than most people.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
You know what I'm saying you took advantage of
that, though I think that's thepart you gotta like really
highlight, because a lot ofpeople be in a circle, bro, and
they be like damn cuz, like Ifeel like I could do better, but
all the people around me isdoing x, y and z.
So the fact that you even actedon the fact that you was
different, it's something else.
You know what I mean, becausethere's a lot of cats in the
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hood who was different or couldhave been like-minded like you.
They just didn't take that jump.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
They ain't take their leap yeah, and I mean,
sometimes you need that persontoo to tell you like you
different, you better than that,because my cousins, they always
tried to keep me out the street.
Every time we used to get intosomething at the club, he'd be
like go to the car, start thecar, don't get into nothing.
(08:56):
I'm like, bro, I'm getting intoa job man, you know what I'm
saying?
Speaker 3 (09:01):
I'm a child, yeah for real, because't going to lie.
We was raised like who you gowith, who you leave with.
So if I'm going in this spotwith you, I'm going to make sure
I leave out with you, becauseyou my partner.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
That's how I was raised too, we're supposed to be
linked up.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
All right, so now let me shift to this real quick.
We got to talking aboutconfidence.
I know what we talking about.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Moving like you got it.
We're just confidence.
You know what I'm saying.
So they go hand in hand.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
That's something.
Lately I've been kind of, Iguess, teaching my son yeah yeah
, yeah.
About how he carry himself.
Like I want to make sure hecarry himself a certain way and
you know, even when he walk like, y'all know his injury he had.
So that's besides that.
But just having that confidencewhen you walk Like don't walk
with your head down, you knowwhat I'm saying.
(09:45):
Walk with your head up Even whenhe speak.
You know what I'm saying.
I be acting like even though Idon't hear him, because I know I
got tinnitus.
I know my ears be ringing, butstill when I feel like he
talking low, I be like hon.
What you say Speak up.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah so you can have that confidence with you.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
That's a good lesson to teach At the end of the day,
keep it a stack, ain't no womangonna want you Sitting there
like hey hey, how you doing, manget out my face.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Bro.
But that's Even in business,bro.
Think about if you you doingbusiness with somebody and they
come to the table All timid.
Oh hey, do you think this wouldbe?
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Unless you, Michael Jackson RIP.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Yeah, I mean, but even Mike didn't move like that
he sounded like you know what.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I'm saying he had an aura behind him.
Yeah, bro.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
But, he was about that.
Mike used to talk that shit.
You know what I'm saying.
You come back to the room, gether number.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Come back, look at her.
Hello, the fishes Get was awild boy.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Go look back some old movies.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Great representation of of moving like you got it,
bro, since he was a young boybro prince too, bro, all the all
the, all the greats.
Yeah, like all the greats move,like they got it.
I mean even today's day and age, if you look at it, bro, a lot
of these, a lot of these catsand you know who we big up, or
whatever in the music scene, oreven actors or whatever like
they move, like they got atleast in front of the camera.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
You know what I'm saying.
There's a lot of capping nowgoing on, but you know that it's
a lot of that going on in theindustry.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
A lot of them cats get coached too, though, so it's
like you got that benefit of,you got something to learn.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
But then you got the dudes out here that got the
money and they always been lame,you remember that to this day.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Every time some of these cats open their mouth, I'm
like how you get so much money,bro?
You lame as hell, bro, smart,yeah, I mean, and but even then
something like nigga, you ain'tthat.
It'd be connections too.
It'd be sometimes just who youknow or where you, at at the
right time, you attach to theright person.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
You know what I'm saying but somebody hear that
and say you hating that's cool.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I'll be hating that nigga till I'm in that room,
like it is what it is, because Iknow some people work hard to
go get it bro, but it's a lot ofcats who, who don't they?
You know I'm saying they on theback of somebody else and then
they try to talk like they gotit.
At least that's the lesson,shit, they talking like they.
You know I'm saying like theyabout it.
But I I say this people feel it.
(12:04):
You know I'm saying like whenyou got a confidence about
yourself, like you said, mikehad an aura.
You never met him before inyour life.
You saw him on tv, you know I'msaying, but you could tell by
the way he moved, by the way hewalked through a room.
People could feel it, bro, thisnigga.
But but for real, bro, catsknow when you walk in a room,
you could.
Bro, when the cat shake yourhand we all talk about this you
(12:26):
give me a limp handshake, bro.
I know you a hoe already likeoff.
You give me like for real, bro,if I can you go to my hand.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Let's break it down.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Let's break it down real quick, like real quick,
just so people know every realman knows that how to give a
handshake, like you supposed togive a decent grip.
Like some of these things betaking it overboard, be trying
to break your hand when you givehim a handshake.
I'd rather that over like somelady fingers.
Don't set your hand in my handlike grab it, pause, even even
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go back a little further.
If I'm sitting down and heenters another man into the room
, I'm standing up, you'resupposed to stand up and greet
that man face to face his hand,even if he's six, five, it don't
matter, bro.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Like you, it depends I'm just getting ready to say I
know he throws some context init, go ahead it depends, because
what has happened to you?
Speaker 2 (13:16):
there's a particular fellow.
Hey, there's a particularfellow.
You know that I I feltdisrespected.
Sit down.
You know what I'm saying.
We were, we were supposed tohave a, a man-to-man
conversation and he was like youcan have a seat.
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And I mean, all right, now, hecould have taken a seat.
Now it seems a little petty.
I'm older now and I ain't gotmy chest poked out.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
But at the time.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
How old were you at the time?
I was probably like 28.
Probably like 27, 28.
So I was still on my you niggascan't touch this, so so I was
pretty much like I don't, Idon't want nobody to talk to me.
Crazy, I don't want nobody todisrespect me or I don't want
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them to say nothing, that I feeldisrespected and that I felt
like that was kind ofdisrespectful.
You can sit down, like what youmean, even though I'm in your
house.
You know what what I'm saying,but to me at that point it
depend on who you are.
You know what I mean.
Like, if I ain't even going tosay, if I have a problem, if I
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just don't respect you in acertain type of way, I'm not
standing up when you come in theroom.
You know what I'm saying.
Like nigga, you should sit downand shake my hand.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
Y'all niggas is wild Kiss the ring.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Nah, but it just depends on who it is man.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
I think that's the problem with today's day and age
, though.
Like we've got away from that,Like our generation grew up
knowing that those was the rulesof engagement and in a regular
situation where, even if it's aman you don't know, general
respect was you stand up.
When you greet, even with awoman walking the road, you
stand up and you wait till sheget in and sit down, I totally
agree.
Sit down, I totally agree it'slike this new age niggas who who
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take it, yeah, like when youoffer respect, they, they spit
in your hand you know what I'msaying?
Speaker 2 (15:20):
no, like, like, like.
Oh boy, that's how it be,that's how it feel.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
You know, I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Remember old boy that was in my crib.
He was a young man.
We walked in the house and helike stood up and shook our
hands.
So I respected that.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Like it was when you do that.
I was there.
Yeah, you ain't like him justbecause of who he was with he
wasn't standing up, bro, he was.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
He was standing on the wall.
Yeah, he was standing on thewall.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
He said he was standing on the wall, but when
he turned, you know what I'msaying he was like hi y'all
don't you know what I'm sayinglike shook our hand, you know I
mean like look you already youon him.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
He wasn't standing up the type of person the type of
person I think we refer to is isone of those people like they.
We see them.
They throw us the head nod,what's up?
You know I'm saying like nah,you know I'm saying stand up,
shake my hand so look, will that?
Speaker 3 (16:15):
would that be a younger version of yourself
though?
The kind of guy, the kind ofguy that you?
Speaker 2 (16:20):
referring to no, because first impression, bro,
like when you walk into the room, if I don't know you, of course
I'm going to stand up.
We here to meet each other, youknow what I'm saying.
But say, for instance, like atmy wife's party right?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
So aunt called me over and I walked over and sat
down and he introduced me todude I wasn't finna.
Stand back up to shake hisnigga hand.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
You feel me like I walked over and was like hey,
bro, like come here.
I was like we talked about.
I ain't gonna lie.
I ain't gonna lie, I don't knowbecause they, just because
ain't seen how I've interactedwith people, with other guys.
I get up and I'm gonna go overthere.
You know what I want you to.
You know what I'm saying.
Feel my energy pause, like likeI want.
But I want you to feel myenergy pause.
I want you to understand.
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Nah, this is what it is.
I'm going to look in your eyes,man, and give you the energy.
I get what you're saying.
I'm not going to go out of myway, but that's how I move.
I am going to extend my handand make sure I get up and go
See you be, checking the niggaout.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Not even out.
They need to be checking thenigga you like?
Speaker 2 (17:31):
you just said you look him in their eyes.
I don't even look these niggasin the face.
I'll be like what's?
Speaker 3 (17:36):
up.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Take that disrespect though but I don't know, you
like I don't know you, I don'tneed you.
Why are you trying to look mein the eye?
If you look me in the eyes,you're trying to intimidate me.
That that's how I take it.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
See, but that's the thing I feel like.
That's showing respect.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
And see it's crazy, bro, because I talk about this
at work.
It's culture.
Some cultures believe thatlooking somebody in their eyes
is respect.
Some other cultures don't lookat me in my eyes At work or
business.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Yeah, bro, now I don't have to necessarily look
you in the face.
You see me do it all the timewhen we talking, I be looking, I
just.
Yeah, bro, I do it all the time.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
I'm going to paint this scenario real quick because
you know we was out for NewYear's.
And you remember that stationthat was in front of us and they
said they was from U-City.
Yeah, had they turned aroundand got to talking and
introduced themselves, youtelling me you wouldn't look
them in the eyes through thatwhole conversation.
I looked them in their faceyeah, that's eyes face pieces,
nose, mouth.
You look this man I did.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I did look him in his face like you.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
You're not gonna turn away.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
I know that yeah but I, I, I don't know, I have the
tendency to not look at peopleSometimes.
I just Okay, I get you so it'ssituational for you, you feel
like yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
But I feel like it's the same thing For Unique Cause
he said he bring, he kinda likeGo to a nigga and he want him to
feel the energy to see how theyreact to it.
You do the same thing but youqualify niggas For that motion.
That's the only difference.
You qualify certain people orcertain situations and that's
when you apply that energy.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Nah, this nigga disqualifies them from the job.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
That's what I'm saying.
Shit, you know what I'm saying?
Until they qualify themselves.
Nigga said you got to qualifyyourself.
Yeah, bro.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
You got to pour into the bucket, nigga, you can't
just come with a full one.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You got to come.
It's funny.
So let me ask you real quickthis might you know, this might
throw it a different direction.
You hearing this statement,have y'all ever heard this
saying don't ask for permission,ask for forgiveness yeah, yeah,
for sure, what does?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
that mean to y'all uh , go ahead and do it and
apologize later within contextyou know what I'm saying.
I think I think what that meansis don't come to me for
everything.
Like you should learn how Imove, so that you know what I'm
saying.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
I think I think what that means is don't come to me
for everything, like you shouldlearn how I move, so that you
know what I need.
I think that's what that mean.
You know what I'm saying, likeI feel, like most people if I,
if they say that, they say thatto people they trust.
You know what I'm saying.
Like, just like, hey, watch howI move, learn my, learn my shit
.
Speaker 3 (20:03):
Then I'm gonna trust just for you to do what's
necessary right and I think forme, I think they're saying it's
about trust, because, yeah, I'mmoving how I want to move.
You know, I'm saying, uh, withconfidence, and if I mess up,
that was a part of the learningexperience I'm gonna ask for
forgiveness later.
Yeah, so, but nah, yeah, I'm.
I think that's part of that'spart of the movement, confidence
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, but that's teachable, butthat's what I mean.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
It's not in a reference to relationships, it's
in reference to people that youknow, if they selling a little
something on the side and theymight be, oh man, I got to go
get this and go spend all theirmoney on that, but don't have no
money for gas and don't have nomoney for food and stuff like
that, bro, you, you just brokeyourself trying to go and and
(20:52):
re-up.
You know I'm saying yeah, it's,it's, it's a, it's about the
hustle, but at the same time,like if you pouring into your
business, but you should have aplan and a way to do it.
You know I'm saying youshouldn't be at the spur of the
moment.
I'm finna, just throw thismoney, do it.
You know what I'm saying.
You shouldn't be at the spur ofthe moment.
I'm finna, just throw thismoney into it.
But I get what you're saying.
They gonna do that and be likehey, I'm sorry, bae, I know the
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lights, finna, get cut off, butAin't no repercussions.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
I got this business, but it is repercussions that's
the problem.
So, like, all right.
So if you this is the thing soif you wait till you successful,
if you wait until you make themoves, all the right moves, and
everything lines up perfectlybefore you take the leap, you
behind?
Yeah, because the niggas whowas risking it and jumping out
there and you know I'm sayingdoing what they need to do, they
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ahead of you, they got thehustle already, they already
move and they accelerate youover here trying to make sure
you fill in every bubble.
You know I'm saying you.
You cross every t, dot, every I, and that's not necessarily bad
in all the situations, but insome situations you need to know
like this is a risk I mean am Iwilling to risk it, or am I
willing to play it safe and ittake a lot longer?
Speaker 2 (21:58):
it depend on the risk the risk ain't the risk has to
be worth the reward.
Yeah, you can't.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
You can't go in and risk it all in the business,
shaky, see, I think, I thinkthat and this going into another
lane I think the person thatyou describe and is a worker,
not a like an inventor, like he,a person.
You gotta give him a task.
Yeah, he can't go out there andjust complete and do a task
from the ground up, from byitself.
(22:24):
I think that's most people,though, bro I think that's the
problem.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Most people is worker bees.
The way we grew up most niggasis like I know how to go to
school and do a school.
Say I know how to go to workand do a work.
Say I know how to do what mymama say I know you know, what
I'm saying, like I know how todo what people say.
We gotta break that mentalitybecause most cats the cure for
cancer is amongst one of thesedumbass niggas who need to
become a smart nigga.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
And for y'all all right to visualize that the
worker you need to be told whatto do.
You need a standard operatingprocedure.
Now that's the stuff that Icreate.
You need to be a person that'sgoing to be like.
I know how to make this processbetter.
(23:08):
You got to think you know whatI'm saying.
You can't take what people sayand start running with it.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
These drugs got these civilians out here overthinking
and fizzing it, and I'm sayingthat because these dudes ain't
know how to move.
They need people to show themthere's a lot of overthinkers
and I'm saying these drugsbecause these dudes is on know
how to move.
They need people to show themthey don't they over.
There's a lot of overthinkersand I'm saying these drugs
because these dudes is on thempills and all that yeah niggas
don't have everybody escapinglife don't nobody know how to
navigate it.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
No more.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Everybody want to escape into drugs, escape into
music, escaping.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
You know, I'm saying, like everybody, leaving,
leaving life, escaping the workescaping to, to, uh, your your
mental, but like escaping there,figure out something that you
can do like I said, out of life.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
You know, I'm saying like write that down, but like I
said yes, exactly a plan.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
And like, go try to find to do things.
Like you see somebody doingsomething, bro, look it up on
youtube.
Go google it, bro.
Like try to figure it out, bro.
Like and if you don't know whatit's called, like try to figure
it out, bro.
It's so much shit out here foryou to do chat.
Gpt, goddamn me, like it's somany.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Ai, bro google, got they on ai.
You know, siri.
Now this is a ai built intothat with apple intelligence go
figure it out.
So many things that you can do,bro.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
I was gonna ask you then.
So, like the person who'strying to gain knowledge on
moving with confidence, movinghow?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
they want to move.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
What type of resources, what type of
knowledge can you offer them?
Speaker 1 (24:28):
all right.
So number one, bro, it dependson what you want to do.
So, similar to what montay justsaid, right, I think that the
first step is acting like yougot it.
So you gots to go find a sourcewho all right, so like me.
This finna be funny.
But back when I was 11 yearsold, bro, I swore I was gonna be
a superstar and I, I brad nigga.
I had the chain like usher, Ihad the shirt rolled up at the
(24:49):
sleeves, my big jeans, and like.
You know what I'm saying.
I used to be gliding across thefloor throwing my chain around,
like, but what I did was Iemulated the person that I
thought was the most successfulat what I wanted to do, and so
then that became then.
I developed my own style afterthat, from how I dressed to how
I dance, to how I just movethrough life in general, because
I started researching resources.
(25:11):
I feel like if you want tostart acting like you got it,
you got to find somebody whoalready doing it and then try to
emulate what they're doing, atleast in the best way as you can
.
That's my advice.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
You got my take with some answers to that advice you
got.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
I'm gonna tell you what's your answer to that.
So, to piggyback off that, Iwant to let people know that
going to buy balenciaga and youknow purple jeans and all that,
like you can't dress like yougot it, you got to have the
mentality like you got it.
You know what I mean.
It's different when you try todress like you got it.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
You're going to be broke, you're going to be paying
for stuff that you know whatI'm saying people are looking at
and then you're going to washit a couple times and you ain't
going to be able to wear it.
They be living beyond theirmeans.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Yeah, for sure I don't understand that.
But my advice would be exactlywhat the title is move like you
got it with the mentality, notyour clothes.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Shout out to dochi, if y'all look at it, that's how
she was doing that same thing.
Like they was posting oldyoutubes of her saying like she
got fired.
And she's like I guess tomorrowI'm just gonna go to a whole
bunch of studios and I'm gonnado a whole bunch of this and
then fast forward.
She just won a grammy, so yougot to move with that mentality
like she got fired from her job.
It still was like whatever, I'mfinna go make music, I'm gonna
(26:35):
go do what I need to do and nowfast forward she shifted her
energy and focus on somethingelse and I'm not I'm not anybody
to like change your mentality,anything like that, but y'all
need to.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
You know.
Like figure it out, go and dosomething more.
Like look it up, stop askingpeople about, like stop asking
for other people's opinions.
Go find facts.
You know what I'm saying.
So move.
Like you got it you ain'tnecessarily gotta had a money
but you to have the mentality tobe like all right, I know I'm
(27:09):
going to have it, I know I'mgoing to have it, I don't know
when and trust in God.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
There's a shift in today.
I'm glad you brought up God.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Shout out to Cheese.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (27:27):
If you want to, you know one of the people who read
the good book.
Even biblically, the scripturesays our words have power we
have to speak things intoexistence, um, and I believe
moving like it's already yoursplays into that.
So we be in our community andour coaching man.
We always down on ourselveslike we be talking bad on
ourselves like man I'm I'm dumbas hell like it just be stupid.
Like, look, look conversationlike this, like man, my stupid
ass.
I'm tri as hell Like it.
Just be stupid.
Like, look, look conversationlike that, like man, my stupid
(27:48):
ass.
I'm tripping, like when youreally just cursing yourself.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
And you know what Procrastination starts there too
, because as soon as you startbeing like, all right, I'm going
to put it off, you startthinking about, like dang, I
don't think that's going to work, do it?
Speaker 3 (28:03):
Like, do it and ask for forgiveness later and we not
finna all see her and act likewe haven't went through that.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
Like we do that.
That's something that you gotto battle daily.
You know what I'm saying, butjust be consistent with it.
Yeah, that's all it.
Take your word has power.
Give yourself some affirmationsin the morning or something you
know before you go to bed.
I mean, you shouldn't be wakingup in no bad mood, for if you
(28:30):
do, man, hit them, get on yourknees, go.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Go have a conversation with a man upstairs
.
I like how y'all phrasing it.
And uh, to go back into thegood book, as my brother said uh
, faith without works is dead.
You know what I'm saying?
Like faith without works iscompletely dead.
When you, when you look at itin a situation we keep talking
about, like act like you got it,but you gotta put something
behind it.
Like you gotta act like you gotit, but you got to put
something behind it.
Like you got to act like yougot it, but still go read.
You know what I'm saying.
Still go study, still go figureout, like, what it takes to get
(28:53):
to that next level.
Don't just walk around here asa shell of yourself.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
You got to want it for yourself Absolutely At the
end of the day and think that's,that's a problem too.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
We we waiting on everybody else to give us
opportunities to know whenthey're trying to grind getting
that trench into that trophy butit's so many, so many people
that don't know what they wantto do, bro, like if you don't
know what you want to do, yougotta try everything, dog,
everything.
The problem is they scared tofeel and you can't be scared to
(29:24):
man, you can't.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
It creates desperation, and I think that's
the problem, because you look atthese kids now, bro.
It's a lot of kids that knowhow to do a lot of stuff they
editing their own videos, theycreating their own content, they
doing all kind of skills.
So they got it, but they stillempty inside you know what I
mean.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
but they learning those things, but they need to
learn the fundamentals becausethey learning that shit too
early Cause.
Guess what?
What they going to do when thatstops?
Tick tock, tick tock.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Cats crash out Cause they don't have to learn how to
just do one thing, you got to doit all and you got to learn.
You got to be able to, to learnand get through that process.
Like my bro I was telling,telling brother, like I was
telling both of y'all that myuncle told me let my son be a
son, let let not let him be ason, but let my let my
six-year-old be a six-year-old.
When he gets eight, when hegets seven, show him
(30:17):
seven-year-old things and gethim ready for eight-year-old
things but, let him be that.
So you gotta let him learn.
And if they show up, if you, ifyou see a passion for something
cool, like, buy into it, butstill keep them on track.
You know I'm saying some ofthese parents is like no, that's
all you're gonna do.
You're bringing in the money,let's go.
No, it can't be like that.
Keep them doing what theysupposed to be doing, bro,
(30:39):
because they ain't your.
They they're gonna be yourmoney ticket for a little minute
, but once they fall off, itfall off make deposits and plant
the seeds yeah, hell yeah makethe pies and plant the seeds.
Speaker 3 (30:52):
Water.
See what happens.
Watch it grow.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
I like that, though, because you, you I just posted
something on instagram.
I was talking about that t I uhwas talking about having a
vision and moving with a visionand the importance of not giving
up your vision, even when otherpeople don't understand it.
Yeah, yeah, you know what Imean.
I think that that's importantas well.
I feel a lot of people have avision, they have an idea, but
somebody in their life told them, oh, that's not good enough or
(31:16):
that's stupid, or no, I can'tsee you being successful at that
.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
So they, then they run away from it.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
You know self-sabotage or they
self-sabotage because theyrealize that they actually might
be able to achieve it, and thatscares the hell out of them.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Not even that.
It's like me with the music.
I just I don't want to putmyself through all of that, not
to be successful, bro.
I just don't want to do it.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
You feel like it's wasted.
Yeah, it's time wasted.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Y'all really feel like time can be wasted.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
Not necessarily yes, when you're not building
something productive, absolutely, but I always think you're
thinking though that'sinteresting.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
I was like, yeah, I feel like I always learn.
Even if it's something that Idon't do for myself, I learn.
I'd like I learned somethingabout that situation.
So I feel like time, I feellike it's a mindset.
Time being wasted is a mindsetbecause even with a person let's
say you, somebody, waste yourtime on a date now you've
learned, you've learned triggers, you've learned situations.
You, you can learn things aboutthem that looks like all right,
(32:14):
cool.
You, you feel like your timewas wasted, but you, what you
really did was you learned a lotabout yourself and that person
this thing.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
I want to laugh when you talk about that.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Look at me I didn't say nothing.
I mean, I'm just talking abouta general situation.
But if niggas want to talkabout their own drama, that's
just on them.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
I found out exactly what I needed.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Y'all know that.
Speaker 3 (32:33):
Disqualified.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
It was just relatable .
Hey say what Pew pew.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Disqualified.
He was out of there.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
Snip, I'm out of there.
Hopped the fence with bothhands, hey shit yeah, hey,
that's.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
That's funny.
I'm good, hey, but we tappedinto a couple episodes ago.
You seen red flags, bro.
Speaker 3 (32:58):
Yeah, you know it's, but like it's, just like, like
we talked about it.
You saw, I saw the red flagsand um, I still wanted that
confirmation.
You know what I'm saying.
I don't feel like that waswasting time, because I needed a
confirmation.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
You know what I'm saying, but I feel like it
becomes a waste of time when yousaw it and you, despite the
fact that you saw it, you stillkept on dealing with it.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
So you can waste your own time.
Yeah, yeah, okay, I agree withthat.
I don't think other peoplecould waste your time, because I
think you learned something youallowed it to happen, yeah, but
you, you wasting your own time.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
I agree with that do you necessarily think you're
wasting your own time?
Because I'm, uh, I usually whenyou not doing something, you're
thinking, not everybody, bro,that's certain people and that's
what I learned.
Some people could go blank realquick and be good and be
straight I can't do it either,bro, but a lot of people can't.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
How, bro?
They be they be as long as myheart beating my wheels is
turning bro but that's also, ifyou think about it, that's why
you sleep less, because yourbrain is active more often, and
so it's stuff like that you gotto pay attention to.
That.
That's a, that's a behaviorabout yourself.
I know, you know what I'msaying.
I'm just saying like, and notyou, just I'm talking to the
(34:18):
masses.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
Yeah, people in general to the masses, but yeah,
like you just got.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
That's something you got to pay attention to if you
don't sleep for real, or yousomebody that's like that's
always up at the same time ofnight all the time it's for a
reason.
You know what?
Speaker 3 (34:30):
I mean, it's for a reason.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
You're not a sleeping disorder boy I know, because I
don't sleep, that much, you know, I know, yeah, I mean, I only
sleep when I'm exhausted, bro,like and I and I can't like my
wife she can sit there and closeher eyes and go to sleep.
I'll be like, please show mehow you do that, because I gotta
pass out, bro, I'm jealous ofthat.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
My wife can do the same thing, but it's hard bro.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
I have to pass out.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
I gotta be tired.
I can't just go to sleep If Iain't doing nothing that day.
If I was chilling that day, I'mlike bro.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
I'm up.
Speaker 3 (35:04):
I have to pass out.
I have to be watching.
Speaker 2 (35:06):
TV.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
It's gotta be involuntary.
Speaker 3 (35:07):
Yeah, I have to be watching TV, and just it's
involuntary when y'all sit on mycouch and I come over my crib
and just be snatching y'all assup.
Yeah, yeah, his couch, heyCouch, will be snatching y'all.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
When we move.
I'm probably finna give the CPUsystem.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
You're like wait a minute?
Speaker 1 (35:28):
What happened that mother take all the confidence
out of the nigga?
Speaker 2 (35:31):
You hear me, hey, all right.
So look, hold on.
Speaker 1 (35:39):
Real quick, I want to make another call back because
last episode remember I had toldy'all that story about the cat
with the clipboard at Six Flags.
He was just standing in line,acting like he was selling,
selling tickets for people tojump.
Cat was moving like he alreadyhad it, bro, like like cat
legitimately walked in with auniform on and start taking
money but that was a hustle line, bro.
(36:00):
That was a hustle though but buthe even for hustle.
So if you listen to the lastepisode, then you know where we
coming from, but you gotta movelike that.
So even if you listen to thelast episode, then you know
where we coming from, but yougot to move like this.
So, even if you feel like youdon't have a hustle, you're
going to go about life the rightway.
You know you're going to school, going to college, you're going
to graduate and get a great job.
That's amazing.
That's great you don't have thetraditional hustle.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
But you still have confidence.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
You know what I'm saying.
Let me stop playing.
But you can't have confidenceand I just want to make sure
that, like, whatever you do,move, like you got confidence
because people feel that, like Isaid earlier, people can
understand, like they'll,they'll realize that you belong
in the room even before youenter that mug, just by the way
you walk up to the door yeah,some people see you and be like
man.
Speaker 3 (36:43):
I wonder what he do bro and then all you did was
walk in bro, and you there foran interview.
Speaker 2 (36:48):
You know what I'm saying, so it's just like it's
something that you got in youit's just like at my job, like I
got, I gotta, I gotta offer foranother position.
But I didn't get it.
But the confidence I hadleading up to it and through it,
even after after was it was upthere.
(37:10):
I had great confidence and theysaw that and they still reach
out.
You know what I'm saying forstuff.
So it's like just having it.
You're going to build thoserelationships.
You know what I mean.
You're going to move forward inlife.
You're going to go way pastwhat you ever thought you're
gonna.
You're gonna.
You're gonna move forward inlife.
You're gonna.
You're gonna go way past whatyou ever thought.
(37:31):
When you think about what you,what you think, when you think
about things like, oh man, I, Icould do it, you're gonna go way
past what you really think youcould do just do it go ahead now
.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
I'm saying this real quick like I wanted to kind of
ask y'all this.
We can go with this.
So this is exactly why we needto go ahead and get this woman
on the pod, probably becauseit's geared towards the women.
Um, what do you say to thewomen who move like they do?
Because a lot of women who movelike they already got it.
They're saying that men areintimidated by that.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
Men are intimidated by that, that's okay.
So that's the man's fault.
You know what I'm saying.
If you intimidated by what thewoman got, that's your fault.
You should shoot your shot, seeif she rocking with you and
level up.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
Some dude be thinking that'd be overconfidence too,
though.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Yeah, some people find it immediately
unattractiveive and I completelyunderstand that in certain
situations, but I feel like itdepends on how strong your
energy is.
I think that you should be ableto keep the core essence of
yourself, like especially in adating situation, but be able to
like soften up to see whatsomebody else is like, because
you gotta be able to likeexactly, exactly.
I was just going to say it's notsomething necessarily for women
, but I do think that in inthose situations you gotta be
(38:52):
mindful of do what's moreimportant projecting who you are
, what you've accomplished andwhat you've been through, or
learning this person so you canlearn how to like join y'all
lives together.
I think those are two differentmindsets and I'm not mad at the
women who lead with thosethings.
Just understand that a lot ofmen in this day and age find it
(39:13):
unattractive.
So you're gonna, you're gonnapush some away before you ever
get a chance to know.
And to my taste point, I thinkthat has a lot to do with the
men.
But you can't change the man,just like we can't change the
woman right, and I think theymight be saying that because you
see this push we having withthis soft girl era but I love
that, though, I love this wholesoft girl because of allowing a
woman to feel confident becausea man has come in to set the
(39:33):
stage for her, like that's thepart we want to make sure that
we remind people of is because aman has come in and properly
set the stage so that she canlet her balls down and be a soft
girl, you know what.
Speaker 3 (39:45):
I'm saying Like that's necessary.
This cat let her balls downthis cat dog.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Damn, something wrong with him.
But we've come to the end ofthe podcast, but before we get
up out of here y'all, I want tomake sure that we leave y'all
with a gem, right?
So what's one thing that y'allcan leave with the people that
they can take home with them sothey can be like all right, this
is what I'm going to use to actlike I got it or move like I
got it, anything on y'all mind,just like.
Speaker 3 (40:15):
I said before, man, just your words have power.
So speak that positive energyto existence and give yourself
affirmation.
Stop downing yourself.
You know, spend some qualitytime with yourself.
Build yourself up.
Your confidence will grow aswell.
Get you some books to read, goget in that gym, go be outside,
(40:37):
go just walk.
All that is going to build yourconfidence up, for you to be
able to move how you want tomove, and when you walk into
places you'll have that level ofconfidence about yourself.
So then you'll also exude theenergy and then the energy be
will be returned to you.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
I rock with that.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
I like that, I'll tell you guys, I think I say you
just have to believe, you haveto have faith.
You might have stones right now, but them stones may turn into
hundred dollar bills.
Go through the motions, havefaith, believe in yourself and
that'll give you all theconfidence you need to walk it
(41:18):
like you talk it, act like yougot it real shit, real shit no I
rocks with that, I rocks withthat.
Speaker 1 (41:23):
Um, and in that, in that same vein, like nah, what
do you say?
On that same vein, like no,what do you say?
On that same token, I think,like the world starts to move in
the way you need it to when youstop acting like you need it to
.
I think that when we startlosing that spirit of
desperation and we startlearning how to turn that into
confidence and we start clearlyseeing what our options are,
(41:45):
that's when the world startsopening up doors for you.
You stop acting like, oh my God, I'm panicking about this, I'm
anxious about this and that, andyou just start letting life
come to you and making decisionsas they come to you, instead of
trying to live in the future.
You start realizing you do haveeverything you need to act like
you got it, move like you gotit, talk like you got it, smile
like you got it.
(42:05):
You know what I'm saying.
Whatever got it, smile like yougot it.
You know what I'm saying.
Whatever the case is so right,so all right.
Y'all them with some dope gems.
I appreciate y'all sharing.
If you rock with the podcast,let us know sliding them dms.
Contact us on instagram,facebook.
Comment on your next reel.
Uh, and don't forget to listento us everywhere, that you have
podcasts everywhere we're onthis podcast.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
If you rocking with us, let us know.
Email trenches to trophies atgmailcom.
Email us your, your comments,your feedback.
Um, if you got any trenches totrophy stories, you know what I
mean like if you if you knowanybody, because we we willing
to share them.
So you know, just if you madeit all the way to the end of the
(42:47):
podcast, let us know how youfeel.
Speaker 1 (42:51):
Comment on.
Speaker 2 (42:51):
Instagram, you know.
Email us.
Go to the website T2TPodcastcom.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
Yeah, yep, yep All right, this has been another
episode of Trenches to Trophies.
We out of here, we out of here,woo-hoo Shoot.
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