Timmerie talks about a viral rant from influencer Paige Connell: a mom, wife, and full-time working woman who aired out her frustrations online. And yep, she admits that she thought about divorce. Over what, you ask?
The dishwasher.
The trash.
And kids' backpacks.
But hang tight, because this conversation is about way more than chores.
The Mental Load Is Real… But Let’s Unpack It
Paige’s viral video blew up because so many women felt it: the overwhelm, the exhaustion, the invisible to-do list that’s constantly running in your head like a browser with 27 open tabs.
She shared how, despite having a good husband (like, objectively... a helpful, kind, involved dad), she still felt unseen and completely burned out. She became the project manager of her home, and it crushed her. One day she snapped: “I can’t do it all!”
Honestly, she’s not wrong to feel the weight. But...
Timmerie & Devin Schadt's Take
Timmerie brings in Devin Schadt, founder of Fathers of St. Joseph, to give the Catholic hot take.
Marriage Isn’t About “Equity”. It’s About Sacrifice
Modern feminism says: everything needs to be 50/50. Equal chore charts. Equal mental load. Equal everything.
Catholic teaching says: umm, nope. Marriage isn’t math... it’s a mission. Sometimes one gives 20%, the other gives 80%. It’s messy, but it’s sacred.
And equity doesn't work when people have different capacities, seasons, or actual roles.
The Perceived Problem vs. Reality
Paige’s husband was helping. But he wasn’t anticipating or planning the way she did, so she felt disrespected.
Devin points out: she didn’t want just help. She wanted him to read her mind, project-manage the house, and know what she needed without being told.
That’s not partnership... it’s pressure.
The Social Media Landscape
Devin doesn’t mince words: blasting your spouse online is a total fail.
Paige basically emasculated her husband in front of millions.
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