January 29, 2024 • 21 mins
Heard of the phrase "Be seen and not heard"? This episode is for all the people that life has tried to hide or silence. Join me on a journey beyond New Year's resolutions and into the realm of revelations. Like the Samaritan woman's encounter at the well, we confront the vulnerabilities that surface when we step into the light, encouraging you to embrace every imperfection before God and those we hold dear. This episode is a call to transparency, urging you to stand in the truth of your story and purpose as well as our deep-seated need for recognition and the strength found in visibility.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey y'all, welcome to Triumph Over Trauma, the
podcast.
Listen y'all.
I created this podcast because,like so many other people, I've
had a traumatic past.
I didn't always realize howthose things affected me
negatively and how I evencarried them into my adult life,
and so I wanted to create aspace where other people could
come and we could have candidconversations on how you
(00:22):
identify trauma, how younavigate it and how you recover
from traumatic experiences.
If this resonates with you,then join me.
I am your host and traumasurvivor, ms Eve McNair.
Let's get into it.
Do you know, in Africancultures, especially the Zulu
tribe, when one greets another,they say sau bona, which means I
(00:43):
see you.
When was the last time you wereseen or felt, seen, heard or
accepted for who you are?
Well, today we're going toexplore what it means to be
truly seen and heard, regardlessof your background, who you are
and what you've experienced.
Everyone deserves anopportunity to show up, to be
visible in their full God-givenpotential.
(01:07):
Let's get into it.
What's up, guys?
Happy New Year.
Listen, I know we're four weeksinto the month.
January has just about fiveweeks and so, although we're
four weeks into the month, I'mstill saying happy New Year,
because this is the first monthof the year.
Now, speaking of the New Year,it is said that, by the 19th of
January, most people havealready relapsed on their New
(01:29):
Year's resolution, whether theirresolution was to lose weight,
workout more, spend less or justeat healthier.
Most people have begun torelapse by this time, or by the
19th of the month.
Before the New Year came, I hadresolved that I didn't want to
(01:50):
make another resolution.
I said to myself instead of aresolution, I want God to give
me a revelation.
I want him to give me something, or reveal something to me
that's going to change the way Ithink, act and live.
I said, god, I'm ready to seeyou in a greater way, and I'm
ready to be seen in a greaterway.
What I've come to understand,though, is that being seen
requires a level ofvulnerability that I was not
(02:12):
comfortable with.
Right, because, although weknow that God sees all and knows
all, sometimes there are partsof us that we think are hidden
from Him, and there are parts ofus that we hide from others,
and so, to be fully seen,sometimes that means we have to
be fully transparent, we have tobe fully visible.
For me, this is difficultbecause I grew up in
environments that subscribe tothe motto be seen and not heard,
(02:34):
and so there is this tendencythat I have to shrink.
There's this tendency that Ihave to remain invisible
verbally, to remain invisiblephysically, to remain invisible
Emotionally.
There's this tendency that Ihave to shrink into those
comfort zones or into thoseboxes.
I was pre-packaged in right,and so I understand that that
(02:54):
means this is going to bechallenging for me, and I'm
reminded of a story in the Biblewhere a woman was not only
fully seen by God, but itempowered her to show up and be
seen by others as well.
So today's topic is I See you,but first let's go over this
Bible story, because I want toencourage you to allow yourself
(03:15):
to be seen fully as you areflaws, failures and all Okay.
So about this Bible story John,chapter four records a
conversation or an interactionbetween Jesus and a Samaritan
woman.
Now the Bible says that Jesusis on his way to Galilee, but he
must need stop in Samaria.
Now, typically, the Jews wouldavoid Samaritans altogether.
(03:37):
In fact, if they were en routeto Galilee and they would choose
not to go through Samaria, theywould actually go to the east
part of the Jordan River andcross.
That way they would avoid theSamaritans by any means
necessary, pretty much.
So the fact that Jesus was onhis way to Galilee and chose
specifically, the Bible says hemust need to go.
(04:00):
It was imperative for him to goto Samaria, right, and so the
Bible says when he arrives, hisdisciples go into town to buy
food and in the meantime, jesussits down by a well.
The Bible says that he takes arest when, all of a sudden, a
woman comes to draw water fromthe well.
(04:23):
Now, the unique thing about thiswoman at the well is that she
came during a time of day whenno one else was expected to be
at the well.
The Bible says she comes at thesixth hour.
This was the hour of the day,like around 12 PM our time, and
this was the hour of the daywhere it was the driest in the
(04:45):
hottest.
Most women would either come at6 am before the sun rose, or
right as the sun was rising, or6 pm as the someone's going down
to avoid this scorchingtemperatures.
But this particular woman tookextra strides to be unseen.
There was a reason why she wasalluding interaction with others
(05:08):
, and we'll get into that.
As the story goes on.
She gets to the well, proceedsto begin to draw water and Jesus
says to her give me a drink.
And she like, hold up, I'm aparaphrase.
She says you are asking me fora drink of water Because, again,
the Jews typically didn't haveany interactions with the
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Samaritan and she was clearly aSamaritan woman living in
Samaria.
And, long story short, there isa conversation that begins to
proceed between Jesus and thiswoman.
Now there are so many thingsthat jump out about this woman's
story.
From the beginning, she came tothe well when most people were
not there.
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She came to the well expectingnot to be seen.
She was comfortable with beingunseen.
Now the conversation that shehas with Jesus kind of breaks
down the reason why she wasalluding the eyes of others.
Right Now, you might bethinking what does this have to
do with being seen, with beingvulnerable?
(06:12):
Well, as the conversation goeson, jesus asks her to call her
husband right and come back.
He says go get your husband andcome back.
Here's where somethingremarkable begins to happen.
The woman answers truthfullyand says I have no husband, to
which Jesus replies true, youhave no husband.
You've had five husbands andthe one you have now is not
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yours.
Like whoa, let's park there fora second.
She came to the well just for adrink of water.
And here she is confronted bythe reason for her elusive
behavior.
She was purposely alluding theothers.
She had had five husbands andshe very likely had a reputation
for having been divorced thatmany times.
(06:53):
See, back in the first century,women were often married off by
their fathers at a very youngage, and it's very likely that
she may have outlived some ofher husbands Also.
Not to mention, during thattime, men could initiate a
divorce without explanation orjustification.
So it just so happened that shehad been divorced five times.
(07:16):
The Bible doesn't go intodetail as to why she was
divorced, whether her husbandsdied, nor does it state that she
was promiscuous or anythinglike that negative about her
character.
We kind of look at it like that.
You know she'd been divorcedfive times.
Something got to be wrong withher, but we don't know the
background as to why she wasdivorced.
In any case, she was the worstfive times.
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She had had five husbands andthe man that she was with
currently was her husband, andso when Jesus responds this way
to her, she's like wait a minute, you must be a prophet, right,
but this is what I want to focuson At this point in the
conversation.
The woman believes that Jesus isa prophet, but soon she learns
that he is the Messiah.
The Bible says that, upon thisrevelation, she leaves her water
pot that she was going to drawwater with.
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She leaves her water pot andgoes into the city and begins to
tell everybody that she hasjust met the Messiah.
She specifically says come seea man who told me everything I
had ever done.
Now, wait a minute, wait aminute.
The Bible says that sheresponded to Jesus in truth, and
truth takes vulnerability.
She had to be vulnerable withher past.
She had to be vulnerable withher trauma.
See, we got to get to the pointwhere the truth about our past
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does not negate the truth abouthow Jesus sees us.
Right, all it took was oneencounter, one revelation as to
who Jesus was that changed theway she showed up.
The Bible says that she lefther water pot and went to the
town and began to tell peoplecome see a man who told me
everything I've ever been.
I mean everything I've everbeen through.
She didn't care how they viewedher.
(08:41):
She didn't care about what theythought about her.
She didn't even care abouttheir opinions.
She left all of that behind,see, she chose to show up and
all that she had been created tobe right.
She chose to show up in herfullest potential.
She actually became anevangelist for the area and
began to win souls to Christ.
You never know what a revelationfrom God can do for you, how it
can change the way you show up,how it can change your
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visibility in this earth.
Once she had this encounter,once she had this revelation and
that's what I endeavor toobtain this year.
I endeavor to obtain arevelation from the Lord so much
so that I care not about mypast, my failures, my weaknesses
, that I care more about showingup to be fully all that God has
created me to be, to reach mypotential.
(09:25):
So that my past no longercontrols me right, so that I do
not hide, so that I show upfully, as I'm meant to be.
And see what I love about thiswoman's story again, I want to
keep saying it is her 360 change.
First of all, because I canidentify With some of her
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behaviors, especially thebehavior where she wanted to
remain Invisible, where she wentout her way to be elusive.
Right, because I can look backat areas of my life where I
didn't always want to show upwith the call of God.
In my life, I didn't alwayswant to show up in my full
potential, whether it be becauseof people's opinions or
expectations, or even because ofmy own past traumas or failures
(10:06):
.
Sometimes you look at yourselfand your questioning who am I to
show up with the call?
Who am I to show up in an, withan anointing, or with this new
strength or with this new power?
Right, who am I to show up?
Especially if people have seenyou at your worst and you have
to present yourself to thosevery same people and you know
that they're gonna be thinkinglike who she thinks she is.
(10:27):
And sometimes you're askingyour own self that who do I
think I am?
Who am I to be?
This right, and I'm reminded ofthis poem by Marianne
Williamson.
I think it's called who am Inot to be?
The poem goes like this.
It says who am I not to be?
Our deepest fear is not that weare inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we arepowerful beyond measure.
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It is our light, not ourdarkness, that most frightens us
.
We ask ourselves who am I to be?
Brilliant, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You're a child of God.
Your playing small does notserve the world.
There's nothing enlightenedabout shrinking so that other
people won't feel insecurearound you.
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We're all meant to shine, aschildren do.
We were born to make manifestthe glory of God that is within
us.
It is not just in some of us,it is in everyone.
And as we let our own lightshine, we unconsciously give
other people permission to dothe same.
As we are liberated from ourown fear, our presence
automatically liberates others.
(11:32):
And, baby, let me tell yousomething.
This Bible verse, or a passageplus that poem, literally sets a
fire under me, because I'm likeyou know what?
Sometimes you do get in thosefunks and you're like who am I?
You know, to be this or to showup in this way.
Who am I to you know, rearrangemy life and do a 360.
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Sometimes you are looking atyourself with an inappropriate
lens, or with the lens of yourpast, or through the lens of
your failures, or that, throughthe lens of your weaknesses.
And what I so love about thiswoman's story is it's as if
Jesus Readjusted or recalibratedher lens, the way she saw
herself.
Because when she went beforethose town people and told
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everybody, come see a man whotold me about you know
everything I had ever done, shedidn't care about what they
thought about her, how theylooked at her out of you Do you
know any of that?
She was like, listen, I'm on amission to tell somebody what
God did for me, right, andthat's how we got to be about
our own business.
We got a stand-off business.
This year, in the year to come,we got to show up and all of our
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potential, all that God hascalled us to be and is calling
us to be, regardless of our pastor our failures or problems,
issues.
But you know, whatever we haveallowed to be an excuse or a
reason to hold his back orReason for us to be unseen.
Now is the time to be visible,visible, visible with our
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talents or gifts, our abilities.
It's as if the world is sayingshow me what you got, right.
The Bible says that.
The Bible says to let yourlight so shine before men that
they may glorify your father inheaven.
How can I give God glory foryou if I can't see you Right?
How can I give God glory foryou.
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If you don't show up, I don'tknow what God has done, I don't
know that he's able or capableof doing For me what he has done
in you if you don't show me.
And so the question remainsWell, how do you go from living
behind the scenes or in theshadows?
How do you go from being unseento seen?
How do you go from beingunheard to heard?
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I Think there's a work thatneeds to be done, and I think
that that work starts withidentifying where in life Do you
feel unseen?
You know.
Do you feel unseen and unheard?
And your friend groups?
Do you feel unseen and unheard?
In your church, do you feelunseen or unheard, you know?
At your work, do you feelunseen and unheard in your
relationships?
Or at home?
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Where are you feeling this?
You have to first identify, toidentify those areas, right, and
then I feel like, once, whatcan identify those areas?
You have to say wait a minute.
Do I see love and appreciatemyself?
First, right?
Am I loving on me?
Am I, do I appreciate me?
Do I see me for who I am?
Have I taken stock of all thatI have to offer, my talents, my
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abilities?
You know?
My capabilities, my gifts, youknow, have I measured myself?
Do I see all that I'm capableof?
Do I know my full potential?
Right, and sometimes we're inthe process of reaching our full
potential.
But do you realize what you'recapable of?
Right?
Because I feel like when youknow this about yourself first
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of all, you're less likely tokind of seek validation and
affirmation from others, becauseyou know you say to yourself
Well, I know what I have tooffer, I know whatever I did to
people, right?
Which leads me to my next pointKnow your worth.
Know what your value is.
Know what your contribution tothose groups are to, whether
it's your workplace, your, yourchurch, whether it's your
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relationships, your friendgroups, you know, or wherever,
those places that you'veidentified, where you're not
feeling seen or heard.
Know that you have value, thatyour contribution to these
places matter, that when youcome, the atmosphere changes.
You shift atmosphere, theenvironment is different because
of you.
You have so much to offer, somuch that you bring.
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People are elated to see you.
You add to people's lives bybeing there, right, so?
But you have to know that andthat means that you have to
identify it.
Sometimes, if you've been inplaces where you've been treated
poorly, you've been undervalued.
Sometimes you take on thatmindset where you undervalue
yourself and you don't even takethe time to explore all that
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you are.
You don't even take the time toexplore all that you can you
have to offer and you begin toundervalue yourself and in doing
so, you tell others to do thesame.
So you have to know your ownworth and once you know, like,
listen, I know what I have tooffer, right?
Once you identify what yourtalents and gifts or
capabilities are, and all thegoddess placed inside you, then
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you're going to be willing toput yourself out there.
That is the work, right?
You got to be willing to betransparent and vulnerable and,
like I said about this woman'sstory, when Jesus asked her to
go get her husband, she washonest.
She said listen, I have nohusband right Now.
That may be that may have beenhard for her to do because of
her past, but we have to come tothe place where, regardless of
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what our past or our weaknessesor insecurities are, we still
can be transparent, we can stillbe vulnerable and say listen, I
don't have it all together, butI do know that I still have
value.
Right, I do know how to respondin truth, I do know how to show
up authentically as myself,right?
So that means being willing toput yourself out there because,
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regardless of where you've been,what you've been through, what
you've experienced, you know allof those things you still
matter, you still have value,your contribution is still
significant to the world.
And then you have to takeaction.
Taking action to me means, ifyou've done all of that work,
you've identified where in lifeyou feel unseen, you, you know
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that you see love and appreciateyourself first, you know your
worth, you're willing to putyourself out there.
You've actually done that work.
Taking action means that ifyou're still, even after all of
that, remain in places whereyou're under her and under value
and unseen, then perhaps youhave outgrown that, please,
right?
I'm a firm believer that weevolve, we change, we mature, we
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grow, and that means our needsdo as well.
Right, and maybe the placewhere you, where you first found
yourself, or those places whereyou first originated.
You have now come to outgrowthem and your needs have changed
and now you need more exposureor you need More opportunity,
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right, and there's nothing wrongwith that to showcase your
gifts.
You need more opportunity toshow of us who you are and to
Offer more.
Maybe you just need moreoutlets, and there's nothing
wrong with identifying hey, waita minute.
Okay, this particular place inmy life does not offer Me the
opportunities that I need toshow for all that God has put
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inside of me.
Right now, I'm not one to likecut people off and Disconnect,
because because we all need eachother I'm firm believer that I
need you, you need me, but I dobelieve that our needs are ever
changing and ever growing, andit is up to us to identify
places that meet our needs right.
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Just like you, you, when you goto the shoe store, you don't
pick a size that you know youcan't use.
You don't pick a size of shoethat you know you don't need.
You pick what fits you, and sowe have to be Proactive in
picking with what fits us.
In our, as our seasons and lifechange, we have to pick what
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fit, fits us right, and so youPick what fits you.
Take action.
This season or this place, inthis season of my life, I may
have outgrown or I may havechanged, and so now I need more
right, but that starts withtaking action.
Again, the steps are identifywhere in life you feel unseen.
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See love and appreciateyourself.
First, know your worth.
Also, be willing to putyourself out there and, lastly,
take action.
Listen, guys.
I hope that this has beenhelpful to you.
I hope that you are encouragedto show up in all that you are.
I want to see you and hear you.
The world needs to know you andto hear your voice and to
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witness the glory of God that isinside of you.
Remember to show up, rememberto be authentic, remember to be
visible, even if it means beingvulnerable.
Listen, I'm going to pray out,because I know that God is able
to make us abound in all things.
Dear Heavenly Father, I thankyou, for these are people whom
you are not only healing butyou're revealing.
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You're getting them ready forthe next season of their lives.
I thank you, father, god, thatyou are strengthening them and
encouraging them to show up inlife the way that you have
designed them to.
I know that the best is yet tocome and we thank you in advance
for it.
In Jesus' name, we pray Amen.
Thanks so much, guys, fortuning in today.
Thanks for watching.
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Again, that is all for now.
Don't forget our key scripture2 Corinthians, 10 and 14.
Now, 2 and 14.
Now, thanks be unto God, whoalways causes us to triumph.
Thank you and have a good day.
Bye.
Hey y'all, welcome to Triumph Over Trauma, the
podcast.
Listen y'all.
I created this podcast because,like so many other people, I've
had a traumatic past.
I didn't always realize howthose things affected me
negatively and how I evencarried them into my adult life,
and so I wanted to create aspace where other people could
come and we could have candidconversations on how you
(00:22):
identify trauma, how younavigate it and how you recover
from traumatic experiences.
If this resonates with you,then join me.
I am your host and traumasurvivor, ms Eve McNair.
Let's get into it.
Do you know, in Africancultures, especially the Zulu
tribe, when one greets another,they say sau bona, which means I
(00:43):
see you.
When was the last time you wereseen or felt, seen, heard or
accepted for who you are?
Well, today we're going toexplore what it means to be
truly seen and heard, regardlessof your background, who you are
and what you've experienced.
Everyone deserves anopportunity to show up, to be
visible in their full God-givenpotential.
(01:07):
Let's get into it.
What's up, guys?
Happy New Year.
Listen, I know we're four weeksinto the month.
January has just about fiveweeks and so, although we're
four weeks into the month, I'mstill saying happy New Year,
because this is the first monthof the year.
Now, speaking of the New Year,it is said that, by the 19th of
January, most people havealready relapsed on their New
(01:29):
Year's resolution, whether theirresolution was to lose weight,
workout more, spend less or justeat healthier.
Most people have begun torelapse by this time, or by the
19th of the month.
Before the New Year came, I hadresolved that I didn't want to
(01:50):
make another resolution.
I said to myself instead of aresolution, I want God to give
me a revelation.
I want him to give me something, or reveal something to me
that's going to change the way Ithink, act and live.
I said, god, I'm ready to seeyou in a greater way, and I'm
ready to be seen in a greaterway.
What I've come to understand,though, is that being seen
requires a level ofvulnerability that I was not
(02:12):
comfortable with.
Right, because, although weknow that God sees all and knows
all, sometimes there are partsof us that we think are hidden
from Him, and there are parts ofus that we hide from others,
and so, to be fully seen,sometimes that means we have to
be fully transparent, we have tobe fully visible.
For me, this is difficultbecause I grew up in
environments that subscribe tothe motto be seen and not heard,
(02:34):
and so there is this tendencythat I have to shrink.
There's this tendency that Ihave to remain invisible
verbally, to remain invisiblephysically, to remain invisible
Emotionally.
There's this tendency that Ihave to shrink into those
comfort zones or into thoseboxes.
I was pre-packaged in right,and so I understand that that
(02:54):
means this is going to bechallenging for me, and I'm
reminded of a story in the Biblewhere a woman was not only
fully seen by God, but itempowered her to show up and be
seen by others as well.
So today's topic is I See you,but first let's go over this
Bible story, because I want toencourage you to allow yourself
(03:15):
to be seen fully as you areflaws, failures and all Okay.
So about this Bible story John,chapter four records a
conversation or an interactionbetween Jesus and a Samaritan
woman.
Now the Bible says that Jesusis on his way to Galilee, but he
must need stop in Samaria.
Now, typically, the Jews wouldavoid Samaritans altogether.
(03:37):
In fact, if they were en routeto Galilee and they would choose
not to go through Samaria, theywould actually go to the east
part of the Jordan River andcross.
That way they would avoid theSamaritans by any means
necessary, pretty much.
So the fact that Jesus was onhis way to Galilee and chose
specifically, the Bible says hemust need to go.
(04:00):
It was imperative for him to goto Samaria, right, and so the
Bible says when he arrives, hisdisciples go into town to buy
food and in the meantime, jesussits down by a well.
The Bible says that he takes arest when, all of a sudden, a
woman comes to draw water fromthe well.
(04:23):
Now, the unique thing about thiswoman at the well is that she
came during a time of day whenno one else was expected to be
at the well.
The Bible says she comes at thesixth hour.
This was the hour of the day,like around 12 PM our time, and
this was the hour of the daywhere it was the driest in the
(04:45):
hottest.
Most women would either come at6 am before the sun rose, or
right as the sun was rising, or6 pm as the someone's going down
to avoid this scorchingtemperatures.
But this particular woman tookextra strides to be unseen.
There was a reason why she wasalluding interaction with others
(05:08):
, and we'll get into that.
As the story goes on.
She gets to the well, proceedsto begin to draw water and Jesus
says to her give me a drink.
And she like, hold up, I'm aparaphrase.
She says you are asking me fora drink of water Because, again,
the Jews typically didn't haveany interactions with the
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Samaritan and she was clearly aSamaritan woman living in
Samaria.
And, long story short, there isa conversation that begins to
proceed between Jesus and thiswoman.
Now there are so many thingsthat jump out about this woman's
story.
From the beginning, she came tothe well when most people were
not there.
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She came to the well expectingnot to be seen.
She was comfortable with beingunseen.
Now the conversation that shehas with Jesus kind of breaks
down the reason why she wasalluding the eyes of others.
Right Now, you might bethinking what does this have to
do with being seen, with beingvulnerable?
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Well, as the conversation goeson, jesus asks her to call her
husband right and come back.
He says go get your husband andcome back.
Here's where somethingremarkable begins to happen.
The woman answers truthfullyand says I have no husband, to
which Jesus replies true, youhave no husband.
You've had five husbands andthe one you have now is not
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yours.
Like whoa, let's park there fora second.
She came to the well just for adrink of water.
And here she is confronted bythe reason for her elusive
behavior.
She was purposely alluding theothers.
She had had five husbands andshe very likely had a reputation
for having been divorced thatmany times.
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See, back in the first century,women were often married off by
their fathers at a very youngage, and it's very likely that
she may have outlived some ofher husbands Also.
Not to mention, during thattime, men could initiate a
divorce without explanation orjustification.
So it just so happened that shehad been divorced five times.
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The Bible doesn't go intodetail as to why she was
divorced, whether her husbandsdied, nor does it state that she
was promiscuous or anythinglike that negative about her
character.
We kind of look at it like that.
You know she'd been divorcedfive times.
Something got to be wrong withher, but we don't know the
background as to why she wasdivorced.
In any case, she was the worstfive times.
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She had had five husbands andthe man that she was with
currently was her husband, andso when Jesus responds this way
to her, she's like wait a minute, you must be a prophet, right,
but this is what I want to focuson At this point in the
conversation.
The woman believes that Jesus isa prophet, but soon she learns
that he is the Messiah.
The Bible says that, upon thisrevelation, she leaves her water
pot that she was going to drawwater with.
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She leaves her water pot andgoes into the city and begins to
tell everybody that she hasjust met the Messiah.
She specifically says come seea man who told me everything I
had ever done.
Now, wait a minute, wait aminute.
The Bible says that sheresponded to Jesus in truth, and
truth takes vulnerability.
She had to be vulnerable withher past.
She had to be vulnerable withher trauma.
See, we got to get to the pointwhere the truth about our past
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does not negate the truth abouthow Jesus sees us.
Right, all it took was oneencounter, one revelation as to
who Jesus was that changed theway she showed up.
The Bible says that she lefther water pot and went to the
town and began to tell peoplecome see a man who told me
everything I've ever been.
I mean everything I've everbeen through.
She didn't care how they viewedher.
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She didn't care about what theythought about her.
She didn't even care abouttheir opinions.
She left all of that behind,see, she chose to show up and
all that she had been created tobe right.
She chose to show up in herfullest potential.
She actually became anevangelist for the area and
began to win souls to Christ.
You never know what a revelationfrom God can do for you, how it
can change the way you show up,how it can change your
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visibility in this earth.
Once she had this encounter,once she had this revelation and
that's what I endeavor toobtain this year.
I endeavor to obtain arevelation from the Lord so much
so that I care not about mypast, my failures, my weaknesses
, that I care more about showingup to be fully all that God has
created me to be, to reach mypotential.
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So that my past no longercontrols me right, so that I do
not hide, so that I show upfully, as I'm meant to be.
And see what I love about thiswoman's story again, I want to
keep saying it is her 360 change.
First of all, because I canidentify With some of her
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behaviors, especially thebehavior where she wanted to
remain Invisible, where she wentout her way to be elusive.
Right, because I can look backat areas of my life where I
didn't always want to show upwith the call of God.
In my life, I didn't alwayswant to show up in my full
potential, whether it be becauseof people's opinions or
expectations, or even because ofmy own past traumas or failures
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.
Sometimes you look at yourselfand your questioning who am I to
show up with the call?
Who am I to show up in an, withan anointing, or with this new
strength or with this new power?
Right, who am I to show up?
Especially if people have seenyou at your worst and you have
to present yourself to thosevery same people and you know
that they're gonna be thinkinglike who she thinks she is.
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And sometimes you're askingyour own self that who do I
think I am?
Who am I to be?
This right, and I'm reminded ofthis poem by Marianne
Williamson.
I think it's called who am Inot to be?
The poem goes like this.
It says who am I not to be?
Our deepest fear is not that weare inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we arepowerful beyond measure.
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It is our light, not ourdarkness, that most frightens us
.
We ask ourselves who am I to be?
Brilliant, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You're a child of God.
Your playing small does notserve the world.
There's nothing enlightenedabout shrinking so that other
people won't feel insecurearound you.
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We're all meant to shine, aschildren do.
We were born to make manifestthe glory of God that is within
us.
It is not just in some of us,it is in everyone.
And as we let our own lightshine, we unconsciously give
other people permission to dothe same.
As we are liberated from ourown fear, our presence
automatically liberates others.
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And, baby, let me tell yousomething.
This Bible verse, or a passageplus that poem, literally sets a
fire under me, because I'm likeyou know what?
Sometimes you do get in thosefunks and you're like who am I?
You know, to be this or to showup in this way.
Who am I to you know, rearrangemy life and do a 360.
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Sometimes you are looking atyourself with an inappropriate
lens, or with the lens of yourpast, or through the lens of
your failures, or that, throughthe lens of your weaknesses.
And what I so love about thiswoman's story is it's as if
Jesus Readjusted or recalibratedher lens, the way she saw
herself.
Because when she went beforethose town people and told
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everybody, come see a man whotold me about you know
everything I had ever done, shedidn't care about what they
thought about her, how theylooked at her out of you Do you
know any of that?
She was like, listen, I'm on amission to tell somebody what
God did for me, right, andthat's how we got to be about
our own business.
We got a stand-off business.
This year, in the year to come,we got to show up and all of our
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potential, all that God hascalled us to be and is calling
us to be, regardless of our pastor our failures or problems,
issues.
But you know, whatever we haveallowed to be an excuse or a
reason to hold his back orReason for us to be unseen.
Now is the time to be visible,visible, visible with our
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talents or gifts, our abilities.
It's as if the world is sayingshow me what you got, right.
The Bible says that.
The Bible says to let yourlight so shine before men that
they may glorify your father inheaven.
How can I give God glory foryou if I can't see you Right?
How can I give God glory foryou.
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If you don't show up, I don'tknow what God has done, I don't
know that he's able or capableof doing For me what he has done
in you if you don't show me.
And so the question remainsWell, how do you go from living
behind the scenes or in theshadows?
How do you go from being unseento seen?
How do you go from beingunheard to heard?
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I Think there's a work thatneeds to be done, and I think
that that work starts withidentifying where in life Do you
feel unseen?
You know.
Do you feel unseen and unheard?
And your friend groups?
Do you feel unseen and unheard?
In your church, do you feelunseen or unheard, you know?
At your work, do you feelunseen and unheard in your
relationships?
Or at home?
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Where are you feeling this?
You have to first identify, toidentify those areas, right, and
then I feel like, once, whatcan identify those areas?
You have to say wait a minute.
Do I see love and appreciatemyself?
First, right?
Am I loving on me?
Am I, do I appreciate me?
Do I see me for who I am?
Have I taken stock of all thatI have to offer, my talents, my
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abilities?
You know?
My capabilities, my gifts, youknow, have I measured myself?
Do I see all that I'm capableof?
Do I know my full potential?
Right, and sometimes we're inthe process of reaching our full
potential.
But do you realize what you'recapable of?
Right?
Because I feel like when youknow this about yourself first
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of all, you're less likely tokind of seek validation and
affirmation from others, becauseyou know you say to yourself
Well, I know what I have tooffer, I know whatever I did to
people, right?
Which leads me to my next pointKnow your worth.
Know what your value is.
Know what your contribution tothose groups are to, whether
it's your workplace, your, yourchurch, whether it's your
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relationships, your friendgroups, you know, or wherever,
those places that you'veidentified, where you're not
feeling seen or heard.
Know that you have value, thatyour contribution to these
places matter, that when youcome, the atmosphere changes.
You shift atmosphere, theenvironment is different because
of you.
You have so much to offer, somuch that you bring.
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People are elated to see you.
You add to people's lives bybeing there, right, so?
But you have to know that andthat means that you have to
identify it.
Sometimes, if you've been inplaces where you've been treated
poorly, you've been undervalued.
Sometimes you take on thatmindset where you undervalue
yourself and you don't even takethe time to explore all that
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you are.
You don't even take the time toexplore all that you can you
have to offer and you begin toundervalue yourself and in doing
so, you tell others to do thesame.
So you have to know your ownworth and once you know, like,
listen, I know what I have tooffer, right?
Once you identify what yourtalents and gifts or
capabilities are, and all thegoddess placed inside you, then
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you're going to be willing toput yourself out there.
That is the work, right?
You got to be willing to betransparent and vulnerable and,
like I said about this woman'sstory, when Jesus asked her to
go get her husband, she washonest.
She said listen, I have nohusband right Now.
That may be that may have beenhard for her to do because of
her past, but we have to come tothe place where, regardless of
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what our past or our weaknessesor insecurities are, we still
can be transparent, we can stillbe vulnerable and say listen, I
don't have it all together, butI do know that I still have
value.
Right, I do know how to respondin truth, I do know how to show
up authentically as myself,right?
So that means being willing toput yourself out there because,
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regardless of where you've been,what you've been through, what
you've experienced, you know allof those things you still
matter, you still have value,your contribution is still
significant to the world.
And then you have to takeaction.
Taking action to me means, ifyou've done all of that work,
you've identified where in lifeyou feel unseen, you, you know
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that you see love and appreciateyourself first, you know your
worth, you're willing to putyourself out there.
You've actually done that work.
Taking action means that ifyou're still, even after all of
that, remain in places whereyou're under her and under value
and unseen, then perhaps youhave outgrown that, please,
right?
I'm a firm believer that weevolve, we change, we mature, we
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grow, and that means our needsdo as well.
Right, and maybe the placewhere you, where you first found
yourself, or those places whereyou first originated.
You have now come to outgrowthem and your needs have changed
and now you need more exposureor you need More opportunity,
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right, and there's nothing wrongwith that to showcase your
gifts.
You need more opportunity toshow of us who you are and to
Offer more.
Maybe you just need moreoutlets, and there's nothing
wrong with identifying hey, waita minute.
Okay, this particular place inmy life does not offer Me the
opportunities that I need toshow for all that God has put
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inside of me.
Right now, I'm not one to likecut people off and Disconnect,
because because we all need eachother I'm firm believer that I
need you, you need me, but I dobelieve that our needs are ever
changing and ever growing, andit is up to us to identify
places that meet our needs right.
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Just like you, you, when you goto the shoe store, you don't
pick a size that you know youcan't use.
You don't pick a size of shoethat you know you don't need.
You pick what fits you, and sowe have to be Proactive in
picking with what fits us.
In our, as our seasons and lifechange, we have to pick what
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fit, fits us right, and so youPick what fits you.
Take action.
This season or this place, inthis season of my life, I may
have outgrown or I may havechanged, and so now I need more
right, but that starts withtaking action.
Again, the steps are identifywhere in life you feel unseen.
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See love and appreciateyourself.
First, know your worth.
Also, be willing to putyourself out there and, lastly,
take action.
Listen, guys.
I hope that this has beenhelpful to you.
I hope that you are encouragedto show up in all that you are.
I want to see you and hear you.
The world needs to know you andto hear your voice and to
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witness the glory of God that isinside of you.
Remember to show up, rememberto be authentic, remember to be
visible, even if it means beingvulnerable.
Listen, I'm going to pray out,because I know that God is able
to make us abound in all things.
Dear Heavenly Father, I thankyou, for these are people whom
you are not only healing butyou're revealing.
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You're getting them ready forthe next season of their lives.
I thank you, father, god, thatyou are strengthening them and
encouraging them to show up inlife the way that you have
designed them to.
I know that the best is yet tocome and we thank you in advance
for it.
In Jesus' name, we pray Amen.
Thanks so much, guys, fortuning in today.
Thanks for watching.
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Don't forget to check out theshow notes.
Each episode has its own shownotes at the bottom of the page
you are listening on.
You should be able to click onit.
Click on the episode and scrollall the way down.
You will see some pointersregarding today's episode.
You'll also see some tips,tools and resources regarding
finding your own therapist inyour area, as well as some of
the books we're reading for ourtrauma healing journey.
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Also, if you'd like to be apart of the show, you can find
my contact information there aswell, or you can email me at
bookingbookingmsevecom.
I will take a look at youremail and see if you can be a
part of the show.
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Again, that is all for now.
Don't forget our key scripture2 Corinthians, 10 and 14.
Now, 2 and 14.
Now, thanks be unto God, whoalways causes us to triumph.
Thank you and have a good day.
Bye.
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