April 12, 2025 • 21 mins
What would happen if you never showed up as you were meant to? What difference would it make if your gifts remained hidden? These questions have haunted me during my recent absence from the podcast—not from a place of melodrama, but from genuine reflection on the legacy we're all building, whether we realize it or not.
Coming back after what I call "life-ing"—that season where everything demands your attention simultaneously—I've been confronted with the word "legacy" everywhere. From billboards to eyeglass frames, this concept keeps finding me, pushing me to consider what impact my life will have. Through this reflection, I've realized that purpose isn't what you do, but how what you do affects others. We are living epistles being read by those around us, making impressions that last far beyond our presence.
Not showing up in the fulness of who God created you to be actually robs people of what they need. What gifts are inside you, waiting to be unwrapped and shared? What legacy are you building through your daily choices? I'd love to hear your story.
- What is Trauma Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. An emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape, abuse, neglect or natural disaster.
- How to cope with Trauma Talk to a few trusted people, open up about your struggle, seek online support groups, read self-help books or practice small acts of self-care such as meditation, breathwork, yoga and exercise can help you regain some feeling of control.”
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey y'all, welcome to Triumph Over Trauma, the
podcast.
Listen y'all.
I created this podcast because,like so many other people, I've
had a traumatic past.
I didn't always realize howthose things affected me
negatively and how I evencarried them into my adult life,
and so I wanted to create aspace where other people could
come and we could have candidconversations on how you
(00:21):
identify trauma, how do younavigate it and how you recover
from traumatic experiences.
If this resonates with you,then join me.
I am your host and traumasurvivor, ms Eve McNair.
Let's get into it.
What's up guys?
Welcome back to Triumph OverTrauma.
Listen.
I know that it's been a whilesince the last time that you
heard my voice.
It has not been intentional.
(00:41):
All I can say is that life hasbeen life, as they say and I
know it's so cliche um, but inthis season of my life it
literally has been life and I'vebeen trying to get a grip on
who I am in this season, how Iwant to show up, where I want to
go, what I want, what I need,and it's literally been
difficult for me.
Um, if I'm honest, it reallyhas been challenging to take
(01:06):
hold of it and to grasp it andto keep it and to maintain my
own goals and dreams.
I will say this that I thinkthat I have been distracted, and
not necessarily by negativethings, but sometimes you can be
distracted even while you'redoing good.
But sometimes you can bedistracted even while you're
doing good, right?
Even while you're serving yourcommunities, even while you're
(01:31):
parenting, even while you'rebeing that friend or that sister
, that cousin, that mother,whatever the case may be.
Sometimes you could bedistracted by other people's
need for you, right, and,believe it or not, sometimes
those needs or other people'sneeds can pull you away from
where God needs you.
Ultimately.
(01:52):
And I never want to be pulledaway from my purpose, and I'm
starting to realize that purposeis not what you do, but it is
how what you do affect others,right?
So how I show up in this worldwill affect somebody else, right
?
And as I've had this time awayfrom the mic, so to speak, as
(02:12):
I've had this time even awayfrom work, I've been giving a
lot of thought to how my lifewill impact others people's
lives, right, like what wouldhappen if I never press record
again, what would happen if Inever showed up the in the way
in which I know God has caughtme too right.
What would happen?
(02:33):
What difference would it make?
And not in like a bleak or likemelodramatic way, but like what
would there be a difference?
Me and I realized that when youthink about you, know the
impact that you, that thatyou're making in that you will
(02:54):
leave on life.
That's actually what legacy is,and I've I've been given a lot
of thought to that word, believeit or not.
I've actually been bumping intothe word legacy for like two
and a half years.
It feels like I mean, it seemslike I see it so often on
billboards, commercials,magazines.
Even the other day I wasactually in my optometrist
(03:15):
office and I was picking outsome reading glasses because,
child, it's, it's time for me toget some readers.
I was trying to read my bibleand I'm all squinting and
looking at it, all crazy andlike or it's time for me to get
some readers.
I was trying to read my bibleand I'm all squinting and
looking at it, all crazy andlike or it's time for me to get
some reading glasses.
And so my optometrist wastelling me about my vision and
everything.
She was like you pretty muchhave perfect vision.
You just probably need couldbenefit from some reading
(03:35):
glasses and maybe, um, some, youcould use these also when
you're driving at night.
So I'm like, okay.
So she says, go pick out yourframes and you know we'll get
your prescription together.
And so I'm picking out myframes and one of the frames I
picked actually was from acompany called Legacy.
And I was just like, ok, god,like you are really, really
(03:55):
trying to get me to seesomething here, you're really
trying to get me to focus on thefact that not only can you, not
only can you and should you bebuilding legacy even now, but
you should be concerned aboutwhat, if, what, if any legacy
you will leave behind, andscripturally.
(04:15):
When I think about that, I knowthat there's a scripture in the
bible that says, um, we areliving epistles being read of
men Right, which basically meanswe are letters, we are books
being read by somebody else.
While we are alive and wheneverthe Lord calls us home, there
is an impact that we will leaveon this world based on the way
(04:36):
that we've lived our lives,based on the way that we've
shown up, based on the way thatwe've utilized to utilize the
gifts and talents that God hasgiven us.
And so, when I thought aboutwhether or not I should return
to the podcast or whether or notit was really even making a
difference to anybody.
I was like you know what, evenif my name is not renowned, even
(04:57):
if you know my podcast neverblows up, even if nobody really
you know, outside of my faithfulfew who listens to me, even if
nobody knows me, so to speak, itwill still be worth it to me if
I can help somebody, anybodyyou know, one body Like.
If, if, if, if what I say onthis podcast makes a difference
(05:20):
in anybody's life, that's enoughfor me.
And so I've been again beengiven a lot of thought to the
impact that I want to leave as Ireturn to the podcast space.
That's my question to you todaywhat is the impact that you
hope to leave on others?
What will your legacy be?
Believe it or not?
(05:42):
You're building legacy even now.
You're building legacy rightnow in the way that you live, in
the way that you show up, whatyou do with your time, with your
talent, all of that.
And so the legacy that I'mbuilding and hoping to leave is
a legacy of triumph.
When I think about the name ofthe podcast, which is Triumph
(06:03):
Over Trauma.
I think about becomingvictorious, I think about
overcoming, I think aboutpersevering, I think about the
fact that outside of the graceof God, I literally would not be
here physically, mentally oremotionally, I would not be
present because of the traumathat I've experienced and how
(06:27):
that trauma affected me.
I know a lot of times, like inthe church world, we hear things
like you made it through whattook other people out, or you
survived what other peoplesuccumb to, right.
But that's true for me, likethat's real talk for me, because
I was so damaged and I was sobadly affected by the trauma I
(06:48):
experienced that I literallyshouldn't be here.
And there were periods in mylife where I was not here.
I was physically here butemotionally, mentally,
cognitively, I was not present.
I was trapped in all of thepain and every experience I had.
It just held me hostage and Icould not live, I could not
(07:11):
exist, I could not breathe, Icould not create, I could not be
, because I was just soimprisoned by the pain.
Outside of the grace of God, I'mtelling you like it's literally
been only his grace, it'sliterally been only his mercy.
When he first introducedhimself to me, I like to say I
(07:33):
had no idea even how the traumaI'd been through affected me,
but as I developed arelationship with him, he
started to show me things aboutmyself and about what I had gone
through and about why I madecertain decisions and choices in
my life.
Little did I know it was allpredicated on what I had
experienced early in mychildhood, which was very
(07:57):
traumatic for me, and so I feellike it's my life's mission to
tell people who, specificallypeople who have experienced
trauma, whatever type of traumait's been, whether it's a
childhood experience, anadulthood experience.
Life itself can be traumatic,but I feel like it's my life's
(08:17):
mission to tell people,regardless of the type of trauma
that you have experienced,there is a way out, there's a
way to triumph, there's a way totriumph, there's a way to
overcome, and I have found theway, or the way has found me.
The Bible says that Jesus is theway, the truth and the life,
but he has found me, his truthhas found me, and I did not even
(08:38):
think I was discoverable, right.
I did not even think thatanybody could locate me, but his
grace and his mercy located me,even in the state that I was in
halfway halfway not here likehalfway and mentally halfway
gone, if that makes any sense,yeah, and so I have to speak to
(09:02):
that.
I have to speak to the factthat I was out of my mind.
I have to speak to the factthat I was riddled with anxiety
and fear.
I have to speak to the factthat I was dissociative.
I have to speak to the factthat I was battling with
depression, anxiety anddissociation.
I have to speak to that becauseI would be remiss if I didn't
(09:26):
tell somebody, even if it's onebody, even if it's one person,
who can say you know, yourtestimony gave me hope or what
you said about being able toovercome gave me some
encouragement.
Even if it's just one person, Iwould have told somebody.
I may have saved a life, I mayhave inspired somebody to make a
different choice or differentdecision, and hopefully that
(09:49):
decision is to trust God withtheir trauma, right.
So that's what my contributionto the world is, and I realized
that this is the space in whichI belong, right, and for so much
of my time I was kind of likeshying away from, really, really
(10:10):
like living in this space,living in the truth of what I
have to offer, because I waslike nobody's talking about
their traumas, nobody's, youknow, talking about the pain, or
nobody is actually visiting theeffects of their trauma and how
it plays out in their everydaylife.
(10:30):
And I'm like I don't want to bethe only one talking about it,
like I'm don't want to becomethe trauma queen in that regard,
like you know, in a negativesense but I realized that I have
something that somebody elseneeds.
Right, I have something tooffer that is valuable to those
(10:51):
who need it, and it may not beeverybody, but there is a people
to which I am called, there isa people to which I am meant to
help.
But so are you right?
So are you right?
So are you?
There is, or there are, Ishould say, people that are
predestined to cross paths withyou, and you have to be able to
(11:13):
identify what it is that youhave and what contribution or
impact you're going to make onthe lives of those that God
allows to come into your spacefor you to share space and time
with.
Right, I understand thateverybody is not called to the
same space.
Right, there are physicians inthis world.
There are lawyers in this world.
(11:33):
There are those who contributeto the world through fine arts.
There are those who contributeto the world through literature.
There are those who contributeto the world in so many
different ways.
There are motivational speakers, there are pastors.
There are so many differentways in which God's created us
(11:54):
all to show up.
But we have to be able toidentify what we're here for,
what our purposes are, and Ithink I said early in the
podcast that your purpose is notwhat you do, but it's how what
you do affects those around you,right?
So that's your challenge Beginto pray regarding what your
(12:18):
purpose is, what yourcontribution to this world is
meant to be.
The Bible says that when I thinkit's Ephesians 4 and 8, it says
that when Jesus ascended, when,after he had been crucified,
died and rose again, the Biblesays that on his way back to the
(12:38):
father, he led captivity.
Captive, which means hebasically took care of his
enemies, which was death, right.
And the Bible also notes inthat same passage, that he gave
gifts to men, and not just menas far as the male species is
considered, but to mankind,right?
It says that he gave gifts untomen.
(13:00):
So we're all gifted indifferent ways and in different
capacities, but we it's to beshared.
And so in what ways are yousharing the gifts in which you
(13:30):
know God has placed in you?
Sometimes it is difficult toshare what you don't know that
you have right, it's almost asif you have this present.
It's wrapped up beautifully,but before you can know to whom
you should give it to, you haveto know what is inside right.
So you have to know what isinside of you.
What has God placed inside ofyou?
And the only way to know whatyou've been given is to ask the
(13:54):
giver.
So check this out.
According to Google, or maybe Ishould say AI, because
everything is artificialintelligence at this point.
Don't even get me started onchat gbt anyway.
Nevertheless, I digress.
According to google, uh, thereis.
Studies show that there is asignificant amount of people who
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struggle to identify theirpurpose.
They don't know why they'rehere with their hair, for why
they were created, and for a lotof people that leads to
depression, anxiety, isolation,low self-esteem, poor decision
making.
You know, so many negativethings happen as a result of one
not knowing what their purposeis.
(14:36):
I hope you don't hear my dog inthe background, um, but there
are so many people who struggleto identify what their purpose
is and again, it has severalnegative um effects on them,
right.
But when I take a moment tothink about you know the fact
(14:57):
that I'm alive, right?
I think, like God's createdthis world, saw that this world
needed a me, needed a you, andif I were not needed in any way,
shape or form because he doesall things well I would not have
been here, like I.
There was no, there would havebeen no reason for me to ever
(15:20):
have been born, because he knewthat there would be somebody
somewhere that could relate tomy story, what I've been through
, what I've experienced, that Icould help.
So I'm needed and you're needed.
You may not have experiencedthe amount of pain or trauma,
travesty or tragedy that I haveexperienced or that other people
(15:40):
have experienced, but that doesnot take away from your purpose
.
I just happen to have foundpurpose in my pain, but you have
purpose.
You have talents, abilities andskills that you're meant to
share with others, right?
I think about even hairstylists, even makeup artists.
I think about those whochoreography or choreograph how
(16:04):
do you say it?
Choreograph dances, and thosewho are comedians, those who
make people laugh, and those whoare entertainers, those who are
actors and actresses.
I feel like God knew that theworld would need these people,
(16:28):
like the God knew that the worldwould need these people.
And can you imagine if yourfavorite entertainer or your
favorite athlete or the bomb ismakeup artists, or the bomb is
stylists that you know weren'there?
Right?
I want to be able for somebodyto say, wow, if you weren't here
, if you didn't do what God hascalled you to do, I don't know
(16:52):
where I would be Right.
That's what legacy is about.
That's what impacting thisworld is about.
God saw the world and said theworld needed a you, and for you
not to show up in the capacityand all of the greatness and all
of the glory that God hasplaced on you is to rob the
(17:14):
world of the gift he saw thatwas needed when you were created
, of the gift he saw that wasneeded when you were created.
Now, I understand that theremight be some people thinking
like I don't even know the Lord,let alone know what my gifts or
talents are.
Right, so let me tell yousomething it's easy to know him.
It's easy to introduce yourselfto him or have him introduce
(17:38):
himself to you.
All you need to say, all youneed to do, is confess Lord, I'm
a sinner, I have sinned, I havefallen short of your glory.
I need you to come into my life, come into my heart, forgive me
of my sins.
Be the Lord of my life, thesaver of my life.
Lead me, guide me and direct me, and show me what my purpose is
.
Show me why I'm, why youcreated me, what I'm supposed to
(17:59):
do, where I'm supposed to go,who am I supposed to be, who am
I supposed to help?
And he will.
The Bible says, if youacknowledge him in all your ways
, he will direct your path, hewill show you, he will lead you,
he will guide you.
And you know, we know that,like God is omniscient, he knows
(18:21):
all things.
And so sometimes, when you havethat knowing, that intellect,
you feel like well, why do Ineed to ask him if he already
knows?
And it's only because hedelights in answering.
He delights in answering thosehard questions, those difficult
things, that those things thatare difficult for us to
verbalize.
He delights in answering them.
So we should ask them so thathe can answer them, so that he
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can help you understand that youhave a contribution, that you
are meant to impact this world,that you are meant to build and
leave a legacy.
Listen, I hope all this makessense to you.
I know that this episode is alittle on the short side, but I
needed to express to you whatwas on my heart, what was in my
(19:05):
mind, what I have beenreflecting about, reflecting on
and thinking about, and I'mgoing to endeavor.
So I'm going to, with all thatbeing said, I am going to
endeavor to continue to seek theLord for strength, for help, to
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make sure I'm showing up on theshow, on my socials, on
everywhere, because I'verealized I have purpose, there's
(19:47):
an impact I'm supposed to leaveand there's a legacy I am
supposed to build.
Okay, listen, you might bethinking like you know what girl
?
You made a couple points that Ifeel like I can identify with.
And not only can I identifywith some of the points you made
, but I can identify with thetrauma, with the struggles, with
the mental health issues.
I can identify with all of thatand I need to be able to tell
(20:09):
somebody you know my story.
Listen, I want you to be a gueston the show.
I want you to share with uswhat you've been through, what
you've experienced, whether youhave questions about it, whether
you just need help to identify,navigate or recover from your
traumatic experiences, hit me up.
I am Miss Eve on all of mysocials Instagram, facebook,
tiktok.
I don't really do Snapchat likethat and I don't have X,
(20:34):
formerly known as Twitter, butyou can hit me up on TikTok,
instagram and Facebook.
Just inbox me like girl.
I want to be on your show.
I heard your podcast and I havesomething to say, something to
share, something to ask.
Let me know, and I would loveto have you on the show.
This podcast is availableeverywhere you stream podcasts.
You might be listening onSpotify, on Google, on
(20:54):
iHeartRadio, on Stitcher, onAmazon, on Apple Podcasts.
Wherever you stream podcasts,obviously you're listening to it
right now.
It is available everywhere, somaybe you might want to get your
voice out there.
Maybe you might want to reachother people, maybe that might
be a part of your purpose, right?
So hit me up, let's see how wecan get you on the show.
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Let's see how we can build anepisode around what you have to
say.
All right, until next time.
Remember now, thanks, be untoGod, who always causes us to
triumph.
Have a blessed day.
I'll talk to you soon.
Bye.
Hey y'all, welcome to Triumph Over Trauma, the
podcast.
Listen y'all.
I created this podcast because,like so many other people, I've
had a traumatic past.
I didn't always realize howthose things affected me
negatively and how I evencarried them into my adult life,
and so I wanted to create aspace where other people could
come and we could have candidconversations on how you
(00:21):
identify trauma, how do younavigate it and how you recover
from traumatic experiences.
If this resonates with you,then join me.
I am your host and traumasurvivor, ms Eve McNair.
Let's get into it.
What's up guys?
Welcome back to Triumph OverTrauma.
Listen.
I know that it's been a whilesince the last time that you
heard my voice.
It has not been intentional.
(00:41):
All I can say is that life hasbeen life, as they say and I
know it's so cliche um, but inthis season of my life it
literally has been life and I'vebeen trying to get a grip on
who I am in this season, how Iwant to show up, where I want to
go, what I want, what I need,and it's literally been
difficult for me.
Um, if I'm honest, it reallyhas been challenging to take
(01:06):
hold of it and to grasp it andto keep it and to maintain my
own goals and dreams.
I will say this that I thinkthat I have been distracted, and
not necessarily by negativethings, but sometimes you can be
distracted even while you'redoing good.
But sometimes you can bedistracted even while you're
doing good, right?
Even while you're serving yourcommunities, even while you're
(01:31):
parenting, even while you'rebeing that friend or that sister
, that cousin, that mother,whatever the case may be.
Sometimes you could bedistracted by other people's
need for you, right, and,believe it or not, sometimes
those needs or other people'sneeds can pull you away from
where God needs you.
Ultimately.
(01:52):
And I never want to be pulledaway from my purpose, and I'm
starting to realize that purposeis not what you do, but it is
how what you do affect others,right?
So how I show up in this worldwill affect somebody else, right
?
And as I've had this time awayfrom the mic, so to speak, as
(02:12):
I've had this time even awayfrom work, I've been giving a
lot of thought to how my lifewill impact others people's
lives, right, like what wouldhappen if I never press record
again, what would happen if Inever showed up the in the way
in which I know God has caughtme too right.
What would happen?
(02:33):
What difference would it make?
And not in like a bleak or likemelodramatic way, but like what
would there be a difference?
Me and I realized that when youthink about you, know the
impact that you, that thatyou're making in that you will
(02:54):
leave on life.
That's actually what legacy is,and I've I've been given a lot
of thought to that word, believeit or not.
I've actually been bumping intothe word legacy for like two
and a half years.
It feels like I mean, it seemslike I see it so often on
billboards, commercials,magazines.
Even the other day I wasactually in my optometrist
(03:15):
office and I was picking outsome reading glasses because,
child, it's, it's time for me toget some readers.
I was trying to read my bibleand I'm all squinting and
looking at it, all crazy andlike or it's time for me to get
some readers.
I was trying to read my bibleand I'm all squinting and
looking at it, all crazy andlike or it's time for me to get
some reading glasses.
And so my optometrist wastelling me about my vision and
everything.
She was like you pretty muchhave perfect vision.
You just probably need couldbenefit from some reading
(03:35):
glasses and maybe, um, some, youcould use these also when
you're driving at night.
So I'm like, okay.
So she says, go pick out yourframes and you know we'll get
your prescription together.
And so I'm picking out myframes and one of the frames I
picked actually was from acompany called Legacy.
And I was just like, ok, god,like you are really, really
(03:55):
trying to get me to seesomething here, you're really
trying to get me to focus on thefact that not only can you, not
only can you and should you bebuilding legacy even now, but
you should be concerned aboutwhat, if, what, if any legacy
you will leave behind, andscripturally.
(04:15):
When I think about that, I knowthat there's a scripture in the
bible that says, um, we areliving epistles being read of
men Right, which basically meanswe are letters, we are books
being read by somebody else.
While we are alive and wheneverthe Lord calls us home, there
is an impact that we will leaveon this world based on the way
(04:36):
that we've lived our lives,based on the way that we've
shown up, based on the way thatwe've utilized to utilize the
gifts and talents that God hasgiven us.
And so, when I thought aboutwhether or not I should return
to the podcast or whether or notit was really even making a
difference to anybody.
I was like you know what, evenif my name is not renowned, even
(04:57):
if you know my podcast neverblows up, even if nobody really
you know, outside of my faithfulfew who listens to me, even if
nobody knows me, so to speak, itwill still be worth it to me if
I can help somebody, anybodyyou know, one body Like.
If, if, if, if what I say onthis podcast makes a difference
(05:20):
in anybody's life, that's enoughfor me.
And so I've been again beengiven a lot of thought to the
impact that I want to leave as Ireturn to the podcast space.
That's my question to you todaywhat is the impact that you
hope to leave on others?
What will your legacy be?
Believe it or not?
(05:42):
You're building legacy even now.
You're building legacy rightnow in the way that you live, in
the way that you show up, whatyou do with your time, with your
talent, all of that.
And so the legacy that I'mbuilding and hoping to leave is
a legacy of triumph.
When I think about the name ofthe podcast, which is Triumph
(06:03):
Over Trauma.
I think about becomingvictorious, I think about
overcoming, I think aboutpersevering, I think about the
fact that outside of the graceof God, I literally would not be
here physically, mentally oremotionally, I would not be
present because of the traumathat I've experienced and how
(06:27):
that trauma affected me.
I know a lot of times, like inthe church world, we hear things
like you made it through whattook other people out, or you
survived what other peoplesuccumb to, right.
But that's true for me, likethat's real talk for me, because
I was so damaged and I was sobadly affected by the trauma I
(06:48):
experienced that I literallyshouldn't be here.
And there were periods in mylife where I was not here.
I was physically here butemotionally, mentally,
cognitively, I was not present.
I was trapped in all of thepain and every experience I had.
It just held me hostage and Icould not live, I could not
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exist, I could not breathe, Icould not create, I could not be
, because I was just soimprisoned by the pain.
Outside of the grace of God, I'mtelling you like it's literally
been only his grace, it'sliterally been only his mercy.
When he first introducedhimself to me, I like to say I
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had no idea even how the traumaI'd been through affected me,
but as I developed arelationship with him, he
started to show me things aboutmyself and about what I had gone
through and about why I madecertain decisions and choices in
my life.
Little did I know it was allpredicated on what I had
experienced early in mychildhood, which was very
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traumatic for me, and so I feellike it's my life's mission to
tell people who, specificallypeople who have experienced
trauma, whatever type of traumait's been, whether it's a
childhood experience, anadulthood experience.
Life itself can be traumatic,but I feel like it's my life's
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mission to tell people,regardless of the type of trauma
that you have experienced,there is a way out, there's a
way to triumph, there's a way totriumph, there's a way to
overcome, and I have found theway, or the way has found me.
The Bible says that Jesus is theway, the truth and the life,
but he has found me, his truthhas found me, and I did not even
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think I was discoverable, right.
I did not even think thatanybody could locate me, but his
grace and his mercy located me,even in the state that I was in
halfway halfway not here likehalfway and mentally halfway
gone, if that makes any sense,yeah, and so I have to speak to
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that.
I have to speak to the factthat I was out of my mind.
I have to speak to the factthat I was riddled with anxiety
and fear.
I have to speak to the factthat I was dissociative.
I have to speak to the factthat I was battling with
depression, anxiety anddissociation.
I have to speak to that becauseI would be remiss if I didn't
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tell somebody, even if it's onebody, even if it's one person,
who can say you know, yourtestimony gave me hope or what
you said about being able toovercome gave me some
encouragement.
Even if it's just one person, Iwould have told somebody.
I may have saved a life, I mayhave inspired somebody to make a
different choice or differentdecision, and hopefully that
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decision is to trust God withtheir trauma, right.
So that's what my contributionto the world is, and I realized
that this is the space in whichI belong, right, and for so much
of my time I was kind of likeshying away from, really, really
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like living in this space,living in the truth of what I
have to offer, because I waslike nobody's talking about
their traumas, nobody's, youknow, talking about the pain, or
nobody is actually visiting theeffects of their trauma and how
it plays out in their everydaylife.
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And I'm like I don't want to bethe only one talking about it,
like I'm don't want to becomethe trauma queen in that regard,
like you know, in a negativesense but I realized that I have
something that somebody elseneeds.
Right, I have something tooffer that is valuable to those
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who need it, and it may not beeverybody, but there is a people
to which I am called, there isa people to which I am meant to
help.
But so are you right?
So are you right?
So are you?
There is, or there are, Ishould say, people that are
predestined to cross paths withyou, and you have to be able to
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identify what it is that youhave and what contribution or
impact you're going to make onthe lives of those that God
allows to come into your spacefor you to share space and time
with.
Right, I understand thateverybody is not called to the
same space.
Right, there are physicians inthis world.
There are lawyers in this world.
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There are those who contributeto the world through fine arts.
There are those who contributeto the world through literature.
There are those who contributeto the world in so many
different ways.
There are motivational speakers, there are pastors.
There are so many differentways in which God's created us
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all to show up.
But we have to be able toidentify what we're here for,
what our purposes are, and Ithink I said early in the
podcast that your purpose is notwhat you do, but it's how what
you do affects those around you,right?
So that's your challenge Beginto pray regarding what your
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purpose is, what yourcontribution to this world is
meant to be.
The Bible says that when I thinkit's Ephesians 4 and 8, it says
that when Jesus ascended, when,after he had been crucified,
died and rose again, the Biblesays that on his way back to the
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father, he led captivity.
Captive, which means hebasically took care of his
enemies, which was death, right.
And the Bible also notes inthat same passage, that he gave
gifts to men, and not just menas far as the male species is
considered, but to mankind,right?
It says that he gave gifts untomen.
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So we're all gifted indifferent ways and in different
capacities, but we it's to beshared.
And so in what ways are yousharing the gifts in which you
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know God has placed in you?
Sometimes it is difficult toshare what you don't know that
you have right, it's almost asif you have this present.
It's wrapped up beautifully,but before you can know to whom
you should give it to, you haveto know what is inside right.
So you have to know what isinside of you.
What has God placed inside ofyou?
And the only way to know whatyou've been given is to ask the
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giver.
So check this out.
According to Google, or maybe Ishould say AI, because
everything is artificialintelligence at this point.
Don't even get me started onchat gbt anyway.
Nevertheless, I digress.
According to google, uh, thereis.
Studies show that there is asignificant amount of people who
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struggle to identify theirpurpose.
They don't know why they'rehere with their hair, for why
they were created, and for a lotof people that leads to
depression, anxiety, isolation,low self-esteem, poor decision
making.
You know, so many negativethings happen as a result of one
not knowing what their purposeis.
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I hope you don't hear my dog inthe background, um, but there
are so many people who struggleto identify what their purpose
is and again, it has severalnegative um effects on them,
right.
But when I take a moment tothink about you know the fact
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that I'm alive, right?
I think, like God's createdthis world, saw that this world
needed a me, needed a you, andif I were not needed in any way,
shape or form because he doesall things well I would not have
been here, like I.
There was no, there would havebeen no reason for me to ever
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have been born, because he knewthat there would be somebody
somewhere that could relate tomy story, what I've been through
, what I've experienced, that Icould help.
So I'm needed and you're needed.
You may not have experiencedthe amount of pain or trauma,
travesty or tragedy that I haveexperienced or that other people
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have experienced, but that doesnot take away from your purpose
.
I just happen to have foundpurpose in my pain, but you have
purpose.
You have talents, abilities andskills that you're meant to
share with others, right?
I think about even hairstylists, even makeup artists.
I think about those whochoreography or choreograph how
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do you say it?
Choreograph dances, and thosewho are comedians, those who
make people laugh, and those whoare entertainers, those who are
actors and actresses.
I feel like God knew that theworld would need these people,
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like the God knew that the worldwould need these people.
And can you imagine if yourfavorite entertainer or your
favorite athlete or the bomb ismakeup artists, or the bomb is
stylists that you know weren'there?
Right?
I want to be able for somebodyto say, wow, if you weren't here
, if you didn't do what God hascalled you to do, I don't know
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where I would be Right.
That's what legacy is about.
That's what impacting thisworld is about.
God saw the world and said theworld needed a you, and for you
not to show up in the capacityand all of the greatness and all
of the glory that God hasplaced on you is to rob the
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world of the gift he saw thatwas needed when you were created
, of the gift he saw that wasneeded when you were created.
Now, I understand that theremight be some people thinking
like I don't even know the Lord,let alone know what my gifts or
talents are.
Right, so let me tell yousomething it's easy to know him.
It's easy to introduce yourselfto him or have him introduce
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himself to you.
All you need to say, all youneed to do, is confess Lord, I'm
a sinner, I have sinned, I havefallen short of your glory.
I need you to come into my life, come into my heart, forgive me
of my sins.
Be the Lord of my life, thesaver of my life.
Lead me, guide me and direct me, and show me what my purpose is
.
Show me why I'm, why youcreated me, what I'm supposed to
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do, where I'm supposed to go,who am I supposed to be, who am
I supposed to help?
And he will.
The Bible says, if youacknowledge him in all your ways
, he will direct your path, hewill show you, he will lead you,
he will guide you.
And you know, we know that,like God is omniscient, he knows
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all things.
And so sometimes, when you havethat knowing, that intellect,
you feel like well, why do Ineed to ask him if he already
knows?
And it's only because hedelights in answering.
He delights in answering thosehard questions, those difficult
things, that those things thatare difficult for us to
verbalize.
He delights in answering them.
So we should ask them so thathe can answer them, so that he
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can help you understand that youhave a contribution, that you
are meant to impact this world,that you are meant to build and
leave a legacy.
Listen, I hope all this makessense to you.
I know that this episode is alittle on the short side, but I
needed to express to you whatwas on my heart, what was in my
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mind, what I have beenreflecting about, reflecting on
and thinking about, and I'mgoing to endeavor.
So I'm going to, with all thatbeing said, I am going to
endeavor to continue to seek theLord for strength, for help, to
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make sure I'm showing up on theshow, on my socials, on
everywhere, because I'verealized I have purpose, there's
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an impact I'm supposed to leaveand there's a legacy I am
supposed to build.
Okay, listen, you might bethinking like you know what girl
?
You made a couple points that Ifeel like I can identify with.
And not only can I identifywith some of the points you made
, but I can identify with thetrauma, with the struggles, with
the mental health issues.
I can identify with all of thatand I need to be able to tell
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somebody you know my story.
Listen, I want you to be a gueston the show.
I want you to share with uswhat you've been through, what
you've experienced, whether youhave questions about it, whether
you just need help to identify,navigate or recover from your
traumatic experiences, hit me up.
I am Miss Eve on all of mysocials Instagram, facebook,
tiktok.
I don't really do Snapchat likethat and I don't have X,
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formerly known as Twitter, butyou can hit me up on TikTok,
instagram and Facebook.
Just inbox me like girl.
I want to be on your show.
I heard your podcast and I havesomething to say, something to
share, something to ask.
Let me know, and I would loveto have you on the show.
This podcast is availableeverywhere you stream podcasts.
You might be listening onSpotify, on Google, on
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iHeartRadio, on Stitcher, onAmazon, on Apple Podcasts.
Wherever you stream podcasts,obviously you're listening to it
right now.
It is available everywhere, somaybe you might want to get your
voice out there.
Maybe you might want to reachother people, maybe that might
be a part of your purpose, right?
So hit me up, let's see how wecan get you on the show.
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Let's see how we can build anepisode around what you have to
say.
All right, until next time.
Remember now, thanks, be untoGod, who always causes us to
triumph.
Have a blessed day.
I'll talk to you soon.
Bye.
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