Loving your ogres into champions

Episode Transcript

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All right, let's go.
Welcome to episode number five,and it's all about Valentine's
Day.
So, if you're anything like me,you're going into this
Valentine's Day feeling kind oflonely, and I don't know about
you, but this will be my thirdValentine's Day in a row without
a plan to spend it with someonespecial, with loving hugs and

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kisses.
And by the way, my name is TomMiller and I'm on a mission to
help alleviate suffering andjust empower joy all by aligning
with our true selves and gettingthe ogres that are working
against us to help us and workfor us to become our champions.

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So let's dig in.
In this episode, I'm going totalk about loneliness.
Why it sucks so bad and moreimportantly, I'm going to give
you a solution to never gothrough another Valentine's day
again, feeling lonely.
I call it the, the ogre impactor the ogre method.
We'll get to that in a bit.

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So here, when I type this intochat, GPT loneliness is one of
the biggest causes in 2025, notonly mental health, but it's
influencing physical health,prolonged low loneliness
increases.
Inflammation, which can lead toheart disease, diabetes, and

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stroke.
Plus it feels like crap.
Like, there's mental illnessesthat are directly associated
with loneliness.
Like depression, anxiety, PTSD,OCD, obsessive compulsive
disorder, BPD, borderlinepersonality disorder,
schizophrenia, addiction, andsubstance abuse.

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Cool.
And dementia, cognitive decline.
Like, loneliness hurts ourbrain, drives us to partake in
negative habits, to numbourselves.
I mean, if you're watching thisvideo, you probably already
know.
I don't have to tell you.
Loneliness sucks.
It feels bad, and you know what?
It's kind of embarrassing.

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We go through all these storieslike, why isn't anyone reaching
out to me?
Why doesn't anyone call me?
Why doesn't anyone want to goout with me?
Why doesn't anyone want to hangout with me?
Is it, I'm too old?
I don't have enough money?
I've messed up too many times, Idon't live in a nice enough
house, my hair is receding,maybe it's this yellow spot on
my tooth that won't go away, itcould be maybe I'm just giving

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out a negative vibe, maybe my exrelationship was the best I
could ever do and I blew that soI don't get another chance,
maybe I've messed up so much I'mbeing pun I mean there's all
these stories, but they're juststories, if we've told ourselves
that story long enough itbecomes a belief.

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And what we believe determineswhat we perceive.
So in my experience, I've spentthe last three years determined
to find someone better than myex wife, more lively, more
supportive, more loving, moreaffectionate, more spiritually

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aligned, more intellectuallyaligned.
And if I'm being honest.
Better looking than her too, butthat's what I wanted.
That's what I went looking for.
That's what I expected hasn'tcome And there's one reason why

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you're looking at it.
It's me So if you are feelinglonely this Valentine's Day odds
are you felt lonely last weekand the week before and the week
after that Maybe you haven'tbeen in a relationship for a
long time Maybe you just had abreakup, maybe the relationship
you're in, you're in currently,it's just like a routine and you

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still feel lonely.
Loneliness is an epidemic, butwe don't have to be part of it.
We can decide to change thatstarting now.
Maybe you're looking at it fromthe perspective of, hey, yeah,
I'm alone this Valentine's Day,but I'm choosing.
To spend valentine's day alone.

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Okay, but you're not choosing tofeel lonely because that would
go against your human wiring.
Humans are energetic beings.
Like we're a series of energeticsystems and one of them is our
relational energy system.
You already know you have amental energy system.
We think, we plan, we figurethings out with our brain.

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You know, physical energysystem, we eat food, we have
energy, we exercise, we movearound, or we don't exercise and
we get fat.
So physical, mental, emotionalenergy system, emotions are
energy in motion and they have acurrent through our body and
they actually impact us, mostlyin the subconscious part of our
body and brain.
But then level four is therelational energy system.

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That's a combination of ouremotions, our thinking, and the
energetic attraction magnetismwe have pulling people towards
us or repelling people andattracting life situations and
other people into our space.
It's a deal.
Science verifies this relationalenergy system.

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So, I know for certain, overthese last three years, my
relational energy system hasbeen entitled, desperate,
wanting, lacking.
I've been embarrassed about it.
I've gone on many dates, about15.

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Two of them were really, reallyawesome, but they didn't turn
into relationships.
They didn't turn into thatValentine's Day, let's hug,
kiss, and enjoy the way we feelaround each other type of
relationship.
Even if you don't want arelationship, I assure you, you

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don't want to feel lonely.
It makes us sick mentally andphysically.
It makes us die sooner.
You can just Google that foryourself.
So let's just, let's just assumethat no one wants to feel lonely
because feeling lonely feelsunpleasant.
Okay, we can start there.
So, but maybe you don't want tobe in a relationship.

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Fair enough.
Maybe you don't, maybe you dowant to be in a relationship
though.
But you just haven't found theright person yet.
Or maybe you do want to be in arelationship, but you're not
ready yet.
All those are stories.
Whatever you decide with yourrelationship status, I want to

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help you change your energeticstate.
That's what I'm working on.
And that's what I'll be workingon from today through this
Valentine's day and beyond.
And I am very confident thatnext Valentine's day will feel
much different than this one.
Since starting this process, Idon't feel lonely.

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I don't.
I don't have the outsideevidence yet, but I don't feel
lonely.
I'm pretty clear that I'm alone,unless you count my dog Rocket,
but I'm not feeling lonely.
And this is what I did.
First realized that all thestories, I'm not good enough.

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I'm not good looking enough.
I've blown it so many times.
Those are all stories and tryingto figure out what's going on.
Why don't they like me?
Am I not worthy?
Am I not lovable?
All stories.
And those stories exist in oursubconscious.
And most of them are seated inour, what Carl Jung calls our
shadow self.

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Here's what I want to point out.
Your shadow self, my shadowself, the subconscious deeply
rooted beliefs we have aboutourselves in our life are not
permanent or fixed, but ifthey've been around for a long
time, they're definitelyfamiliar and we start taking
them as the way things are.

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We can change what we believe.
When we decide to the numberone, this side, number one is
decide, but before you decide,ask yourself, how do you want to
feel?

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I want to feel peaceful, loving,joyful, excited, and feel like
I'm having what I need, what Iwant, what I desire.
And part of that is arelationship of love.
And we all know that that startswith loving life and loving our

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true self.
But decide, how do you want tofeel?
Decide how does your lifesituation, life experience look
in order for you to feel thatway.
After you get current on that,make the decision and declare it

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and say it in the present tense.
I am deciding to loveunconditionally and fearlessly.
I'm deciding to receive loveunconditionally and fearlessly.
That's it.
I'm deciding to create a lifeexperience.
full of love in a healthy,spiritually connected

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relationship.
Those are my decisions.
So I'm deciding to feel love andI'm deciding to create a life
situation that includes love ina relationship setting.
I'm choosing to have arelationship that's full of
fearless, unconditional love.
I decided, I declare thatdecision.

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I'm deciding to be in a lovingrelationship.
Boom, decision made.
That's number one.
Number two is what I just did.
Declare it out loud, write itdown.
It's not a goal, it's adecision.
Because when we decidesomething, it's way more
powerful than setting a goal.
I would, it's very in line withmanifesting.

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It's different than wanting,wanting and lacking, wanting,
wanting and lack completelyconnected.
And that's the opposite energyfrequency.
Deciding is a powerful energystate.
And when you decide something,the universe starts working in
your favor, starts cooperatingand conspiring to help you get

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it.
Decide it, declare it.
Now align your thoughts, youremotions, your beliefs, and your
actions with that decision.
Now here's the thing, if it wasthat easy, everyone would do it,
and everyone would be happy.
There'd be no loneliness.
Everyone would be wealthy,healthy, wise, and in love.

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So I've created something calledthe ogre method.
It's taking all thepsychological and neuroscience
I've learned in making it verysimple.
Identify the core beliefs thatare resisting your decision.
Maybe it's, I'm not good enough.

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Maybe it's that I'm not worthyof being loved.
Maybe it's, I've been hurt somuch.
Obviously there's somethingwrong with me.
Okay.
We all have them.
They're there.
Let's call these beliefs in yoursubconscious, your shadow self.
Let's call them your ogres.
And let's say you have the ogrethat saying I'm not good enough.

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Okay.
Embrace your inner ogre, embraceit, realize that that ogre was
created at some point in ourlives to keep us safe, to
protect us.
It thought it was helping us andit's been pushed down in this
dungeon of our subconscious mindfor years.

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Oh, it comes out sometimes whenwe least expect it.
And our self sabotaging and theway we react, the way we think
about ourselves, the way we sellourselves short, play small.
It's been there.
It's always been there.
But like Carl Jung says, untilwe bring what's in the darkness
into the light, it's going toshow up and make our lives

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miserable and we'll call itdestiny or fate.
It's not.
It's this energy mentalstructure called a subconscious
belief that has happened andoccurred and run the process so
many times.
It becomes also wired in ourdefault brain network, so it
becomes an automatic defaultreaction emotionally and

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sometimes with our outerphysical actions.
It's not true, but it is what isguiding you and me.
So by the way, this isn't justme researching in science.
This is first how I got throughmy addictive habits and now it's
how what I'm using to Getthrough my feeling of lack when

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it comes to relationships.
So I'm sharing it with youbecause it can help you too.
At least I hope so.
So embrace the inner ogre.
And next is called ogre alchemy.
Remember that ogre is a realthing.
It's not going away.
So instead of fighting with itor trying to lock it in the
dungeon, embrace it andtransmute it into the opposite.

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You're rewriting that ogre's jobdescription.
I'm scared of being hurt, so I'mgoing to play small.
What's the opposite?
I have the courage to be my trueself.
So you actually rewrite the jobdescription of that ogre.
It now becomes your true selfogre.

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I have visualized whenever Istart going into an old program,
an old way of thinking orfeeling, I visualize this new
ogre, this ogre champion,grabbing me and lifting me up
and reminding me of what's rightand true and what's aligned with
my decision.
And it does it all the time.
As soon as I start going downthat familiar program, that

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familiar way of thinking andfeeling, I remember the ogre and
I visualize it lifting me up andreminding me of its new job
description.
And all I did was align my innerogre with truth and that truth's
aligned with my decision and mydecisions align with my true

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desire.
And my true self and it getswoohoo now because now we're
getting higher powers involved.
But I just imagine this ogrelifting me up, picking me back
up and I'm back into alignment.
It works faster than anythingI've done.
And I've done a lot.
I've done hypnotherapy, years oftherapy.
I've done medicated drugs.

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I've done non prescription drugsand a lot and nothing has worked
faster than this.
Now that we have a new jobdescription for our inner ogre,
We align with that and we allowbecause every time we start
slipping into that familiarnegative program Negative belief

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and we allow our inner ogre tolift us up.
We create space to allow newinformation new energetics and
new opportunities We'll getassistance in time.
We didn't realize it was comingand We will intuitively know
what actions to take This ishappening right now in my life,

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and I will keep reporting on howit's working.
One is the way I feel.
Two is that I have the courageto share this experience to help
others.
And three is I already feel asif I'm in this loving
relationship.
And I definitely learned, withthe help of my inner ogres
lifting me up, the feeling ofloving.

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Looking in the mirror andsaying, I love you.
Thank you.
It feels better to be alive forme today than it did last year
or the year before or the yearbefore that.
So, after you rewrite the jobdescription of your inner ogre,
align, allow, take intuitiveaction, and then appreciate.

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Recognize and appreciatewhenever something feels good
because your feelings that youwant become your intention.
Everything we do in life isbecause we're going after a
certain feeling.
Thank you.
We want to feel good.
Sometimes we chase the feelgood, but we can decide to feel
a certain way and practicefeeling that way.

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And whenever the outside worldgives us evidence, oh,
appreciate it and feel that goodfeeling, anchor it in just by
appreciating it.
And then here's where faithcomes in.
Okay.
I'm doing all these things.
I'm doing all these things and Idon't have any physical
evidence.
Then faithfully persist.

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And make you, if you're notgetting the physical evidence
yet, it's because your innerogre is still blocking it.
It's still in the dungeonbecause your subconscious is
like the receiving ground of allthese energetics.
It's what happens because ifyour subconscious is all clogged
and blocked up by these ogres ofthe past, they've been stuck in

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the dungeon that you haven'tbrought into the light and
hugged them and embraced themand turned them around and
turned it into something new.
They're still blocking thishigher intelligence.
They're blocking this higherlevel of vibration and
energetics.
So embrace the ogre, bring it upand hug it.
Love your ogre.
So on this Valentine's day andevery day, instead of feeling

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lonely, get into that dungeon,pull the ogres out, bring them
into the light.
Embrace them and actually turnthem around by the law of
polarity.
If that inner ogre has beenaround for years and it's been
telling you that you're not goodenough for all these years The

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law of polarity the opposite isalso true You can literally
rewrite that ogre's jobdescription to say You are
worthy of all love and light andlove and light and love and
life.
You are worthy of all you desireYou are worthy to feel joy and
peace right now You are worthyto have the type of love that

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you're willing to give.
We can only give what we give.
Law of reciprocation.
These are universal laws thatapply to everything.
They're like physics.
There's like, algorithms foreach one of them.
And here's a big one.
What you desire, plus allowingwith non resistance, equals

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desire fulfilled.
And the resistance that stops usfrom allowing it, equals desire
fulfilled.
Are the ogres locked in thedungeon?
Let's pull the ogres out of thedungeon one at a time and love
them embrace them thisvalentine's day And rewrite
their job description.
So now our ogres become ourchampions On valentine's day

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after valentine's day and wewill see our lives change right
before our eyes And it allstarts with the way we decide to
feel And what we decide toexperience in life.
Decide, declare that decision,and then embrace your inner
ogres.
Then you're simply going to ask,align, allow, appreciate.

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And when you're allowing, theintuitive actions will become
clear.
I hope this helps you every timewe decide to align with our Ogre
champion instead of our old ogrelocked in the dungeon Our shadow
self.

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It's a champion moment.
We get to decide.
So deciding once isn't enough.
Deciding throughout the day,declaring your decision
throughout the day.
I am deciding to love and beloved.
I have more decisions.
I am deciding to have financialabundance.

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I'm deciding to enroll oneperson in my job at least every
day.
And guess what?
The pieces, the parts, theopportunities are falling into
piece.
Deciding is your power.
Once again, i'm tom miller.

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I've before your eyes creatingsomething called the ogre method
A way to realign and decide toget what we want in life instead
of suffering.
Hmm.
Maybe my tagline.
And if you got some value out ofthis, share it with someone else
who will get some value out ofit.
What pumps me up is when peopleresonate with this energy I'm
sending out and they're able toshare it with someone else.

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And I truly feel like thepurpose I'm putting out there is
to help others is landing.
So let's help each other.
Let's share the ogre method.
I think that's a new one.
The ogre method.
Let's become our own championsand you just by watching this
video and deciding to elevateyour level of consciousness.

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You're my champion.
Lots of love, lots of light.
Let's love our lives and loveour life.
Let's share that light and lovewith others let's love our
ogres.
Let's turn our ogres intochampions.