***We are aware the audio quality of this episode is terrible. It is what it is.***
This is the episode that started it all. We met up for coffee for one of our usual amazing conversations, and decided to put my phone on the table to record the whole thing, to see if we could pull off something podcast-like.
Production-wise? Hard no.
Content-wise? Hell yeah.
If you're able to churn through this one, head to S1E1 and listen to us debrief this very recording, sometimes even playing back parts of it to discuss in further detail.
And in silence.
With decent microphones.
Enjoy! Or don't. That's your business.
Abby & Ryan
TIME CODES:
12:00 - Is it lazy to not do the rounds? Or is it self care?
14:00 - Abby says Ryan needs to have compassion for himself
16:20 - Ryan bullies himself into doing what he needs to do. Self imposed rigid structure
18:45 - Ryan gives example of time his bosses had a conversation with him that could have been troublesome, but I stayed in my business and recognized the comedy. I had no need for them to see my side of the story
23:40 - Abby: What did you do to be able to do that?
24:00 - Ryan: I stood up for myself in my marriage, and whatever it took for me to work up the ability to do that, poured into everything
25:45 - Ryan: I gave myself permission to be what I am apart from what they are.
26:30 - Ryan: The boundary I was looking for was where I end and the world begins.
27:30 - Abby: You got out of your own way and started staying in your business.
28:28 - Abby’s hysterectomy idea
31:00 - Ryan’s peeing in car story
34:30 - Abby talks about the lizard brain
36:15 - Ryan’s work example, filtered through that lens
38:45 - Life is practice
42:45 - Your body is your brain
45:00 - We don’t fault people for not having learned this - it took me 11 years of marriage
46:00 - Ryan doesn’t think he has empathy
48:00 - Abby and Ryan talk about moving forward toward growth and their fears of going back
58:00 - Standing up for yourself
59:45 - Wet hair
1:03:00 - Woke people recognize woke people, but stay with the muck people
1:08:00 - Muck people
1:15:00 - Compassion vs growth
1:20:00 - Ryan’s dad was never satisfied with his own growth
1:27:45 - Social norms around complements. I SEE YOU HUMAN, social norms
Bathroom Breaks
1:43:36 - Living in your truth can attract attention
1:50:00 - We name the podcast
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