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Episode Transcript
Want to build your dream body for summer?
That is a question that haspopped up on my For you page
several times over the pastcouple of days and we got to
talk about it because, I mean,you already know my feels about
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bodies and body image and thispush to create the quote unquote
perfect body.
But I mean, first of all, like,let's just let's be honest.
Who would read that questionand say, nope, I don't want my
dream body?
Never, none of us would be like, oh yeah, I mean sure, sign me
up, and that's marketing, right?
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We know that when businessesand entrepreneurs and people are
sharing on social media, thegoal is always to get people to
say yes, right, because when yousay yes, it's a psychological
effect in our brains that sayyes, yes, yes.
That makes us want to say yes,yes, I'll buy something.
And so I know that thesetactics that's why people do
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this on social media is want tobuild your dream body for summer
.
Instantly.
They know that our brains aregoing to go yes, because we have
been grown in a society thattells us that our only goal as
women should be to have a dreambody, to look perfect for the
outside world.
So duh.
But what I really findinteresting about this is what
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to build.
I'm literally looking at itright now what to build your
dream body.
So dream body is allcapitalized.
What is a dream body Like?
What is a dream body?
Obviously, it's always going tochange because society changes
and we switch around.
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What it means to be perfectdream body, whatnot right Like?
It always is changing and itdepends on which culture you're
part of as to what is actually adream body.
Sometimes it's going to besmaller, sometimes it's going to
be larger, sometimes it's goingto be big hips and sometimes
it's going to be big breasts,and sometimes it's going to be
smaller, sometimes it's going tobe larger, sometimes it's going
to be big hips and sometimesit's going to be big breasts,
and sometimes it's going to bebig hair and sometimes it's
going to be.
You know, it's always going tochange.
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It's designed that way.
So we're always chasing afterquote, unquote dream body.
But let's just imagine for asecond your dream body.
How would we, how could youpossibly create a dream body in
two months?
Number one like let's just callit out you will never oh, I'm
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about to go Okay, you will neverhave your dream body, plain and
simple.
So you can say yes to thisquestion all day long and they
can promise you that they'regoing to give you your dream
body, but they absolutely cannot.
You will never achieve itbecause it is impossible.
Dream bodies exist, with filtersand editing and surgeries.
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That's how they exist.
And then they put them in ourworld and say this is what you
should aspire to, and 99.8percent of humans can never,
ever, ever, even get close.
It's unrealistic, it's notattainable.
That's how the beauty industryis a 550 billion dollar industry
, because they know that, bythis focus and force on trying
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to get everyone to want thisdream body, that we humans,
especially women, are going tobuy the products, buy the
surgeries, buy the things inorder to create the dream body.
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So your dream this whole thingabout you?
Want to build your dream body?
Even if the answer is yes, evenif you tried really, really,
really, really hard, it willnever, ever happen.
It's impossible because thedream body is not a real life
thing.
It will never be in reality.
What I would love for thisquestion to be is is want to
build your healthiest body forsummer?
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Let's talk about that.
Let's talk about how to build ahealthy body that, not just for
summer, but for life.
So that's the first problem withthis, right?
Well, there's many problems,but one of the problems is that
you're never going to be able toattain a dream body and this
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marketing pool is really notassisting in our body image and
us viewing ourselves not asobjects but as humans who get to
fall in love with the very bodythat they live in.
And even if and again you don'thave to love your body, but to
at least appreciate it and notfeel stressed and overwhelmed
and frustrated with your body,right, but when we read these
things of want to build yourdream body, that instantly pulls
the frustration because it'slike well, okay, so what's wrong
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with my body?
Right, what's wrong with mybody right now?
And we can easily pick thosethings apart, because we've been
sold this idea of dream bodyand we have something in our
head and we will never live upto that.
Here's the thing I even and thesecond part that I really
struggle with with advertisinglike this is that you know, it
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goes on.
She tells us how to have yourdream body and it's all these
different workouts and things todo, right, workout, food, cool,
like we already know.
Right, like how to gethealthier.
And again, she's not talkingabout health, she's talking
about building your dream body,which, by the way, no one can
ever tell you that if a coach, atrainer, a nutrition coach like
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I'm, a personal trainer,nutrition coach, sociologist,
body confidence coach like I,can never, ever, ever, ever tell
you that the things that I todo to have your have your dream
body right Like that's falseadvertising we should sue.
No, like it just, it's just thereality.
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I can't tell you that I canhelp you do the workouts that
are going to help your body feelgood and and change and build
muscle and and right and to haveenergy, and I can share those
things with you.
But to say that I can help youand tell you exactly what to do
to build your dream body isimpossible.
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Because, also, she gives thislist of like workouts and things
to do.
If all of us, if you and I, didthe same exact thing, guess
what?
Our bodies would never look thesame.
My body is my body and yourbody is your body, and they will
never be the exact same, nomatter if we do the same workout
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, eat the same food.
We are different.
That's the beauty of the world.
If we were all supposed to havethis dream body and look the
same, we wouldn't have thebeautiful world that we have.
That has different types ofhumans in it.
And so if you I guess my pointwith that was if you see
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trainers and coaches and gurusand stuff saying here's a list
of things to do to get yourdream body run away, hey, that's
a good workout.
Go, run, run away.
I don't run, but run away, runaway as fast as you can, because
they're promising you somethingthat you will never get.
And they're also in the mindsetthat these list of things will
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create the quote unquote perfectbody, and that's not factual.
They cannot promise you thatthat will never happen.
And also, that's not based onhealth.
It's not based on your goals.
It's not based on the lifestylethat you want.
You know, it wasn't long ago,when I was actually in a space
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where I was my top priority wasfocusing on my body and I worked
out really, really hard.
It was still only 30 minutes aday, but I ended up getting up
to 45 minutes.
But I worked out every day andI ate like the healthiest way I
possibly could for my body, andI got to a point to where I had
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like a four pack, almost a sixpack, but it stayed at four.
I mean, six is kind ofoverdoing it.
But so I had.
You know I was, I had musclesand I did have energy and I was
confident and I felt good andall of those things.
And then it hit me and Irealized I was missing out on
life because I was so structuredand so obsessed with my eating
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plan, with my workouts, that Isaid no to life.
I said no to going out todinner with friends, I said no
to going on trips, I said no todoing certain things because I
couldn't miss a workout, Icouldn't eat off of my meal plan
.
And that was such, again, mybody was healthy.
I felt good, like it wasn't adiet, it wasn't, you know,
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extreme, it was just very.
I guess I shouldn't say itwasn't extreme.
I was extreme.
But and I realized in thatmoment that this isn't what
success and health means to me.
This isn't what health means tome.
This isn't what health means tome.
This isn't what wellness meansto me.
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For me, health and wellness isabout living a great life with
lots of energy, with confidenceand joy, and food and fitness
are simply tools to help me livethat great life.
And so when I had that shift inmy mindset, I was like hold the
phone, I can miss a workout, Ican go and enjoy dinners, I can
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go and relax and still enjoyfood and be healthy.
That's what health and success,or that's what success means to
me with health and wellness.
It is not building this quoteunquote dream body.
And so if I were to followtheir list of expectations to
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create the dream body and Iwanted to get close to a quote
unquote dream body I would notbe living a great life, right,
because that's not what successmeans to me my health and
wellness journey.
So I bring this to you becausenumber one, it irritates me, so
I want to talk about it andyou're my humans, and also
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because I want us to just likebe aware that not just are we
seeing this, but the littlegirls in our lives are seeing
these things.
They're seeing how to build adream body.
That's why a lot like 70% of 17year old girls have issues with
their bodies.
That's why 70 to 85% of womendon't do life activities,
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because they're so they don'thave a positive body image that
they don't want to go do life.
And so we're seeing this,little girls are seeing this and
they're trying to figure outhow can I create this dream body
?
Do I just do these workouts?
And so we have to be very awareaware that we're going to see
these things and have to havethese conversations and have to
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ask ourselves okay, do I reallywant my dream body?
Do I really or do I really wantto be healthy?
Do I want a combination of both?
Do I understand that having adream body isn't actually real
and that's not going to happen?
And what are my actual goals?
And so we get to come back tothat place of asking ourselves
what's really important to me,how do I want to feel?
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What would make me proud?
And reminding ourselves thatthis is all a marketing ploy
from trainers and coaches andpeople in the industry that know
that when they ask us thesequestions, we're going to say
yes and we're going to buy in,because they know that we are so
insecure in our bodies that wewill do anything to change them,
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to make them quote unquoteperfect, and we will never reach
that.
That's why we have 70 and 80year old women who are still
struggling with wearing tanktops or wearing shorts or right
Like, they still struggle withtheir body image because they
never figured out how to dealwith that.
They followed the diets, theydid the workouts, they did those
things, but they never shiftedtheir mindset around their body,
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around food, around fitness,and they probably saw things
like this in magazines, on TV,and tried their whole lives to
have that quote unquote perfectbody for summer, and they never
achieved it.
And they still don't feelconfident in their bodies to
this day, and that is somethingthat I am not okay with and it's
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my mission to change this.
So we have to call these thingsout when we see them and be
aware that we see them, and makesure that our eyes are open and
we ask those importantquestions of ourselves, of
what's really important to me.
How do I want to feel?
What would bring me joy?
What would make me proud?
What does health mean to me?
What does bring me joy?
What would make me proud?
How, like?
What does health mean to me?
What does success and healthmean?
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Do I have a positiverelationship with food and
fitness in my body?
And if you struggle with thosethings and you're looking for
support, hello, I'm here tosupport you.
Or please go find someone whohas this sort of mindset of I
won't help you create theperfect body for summer, but I
will help you figure out how tohave a healthy relationship with
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your body, with your food, withyour fitness, to create healthy
habits that help you live thelife that you want to live.
If that's their message, Isupport them.
I support you going and workingwith them, because that is how
we create confidence and joy andhealth in this world.
So that's my spiel of the day.
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I'd love to hear your thoughts.
If you're like, oh, I reallyneeded this in my life.
I'm seeing these things places,please feel free to share this,
tag me, give me your thoughts,tell a friend all the things.
The more that we can supportand empower other girls and
women in our lives, the absolutebetter.
So thank you for tuning intoday, thank you for listening
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to this.
I can't wait to hear yourfeedback and I will talk to you
on the next episode.
Bye, friend.
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