April 18, 2024 • 17 mins
Have you ever found yourself wondering if you're truly living life as your genuine self or just reflecting the expectations of those around you? This episode share's Charlie the hippo's story, who believed he was a rhino, to highlight the profound significance of embracing our authentic selves. We dig into the impacts of societal pressures and the importance of knowing who we are.
This episode calls on you to consider the influences in your life—from friends to social media—and to make intentional choices that foster growth and positivity. With a nod to Charlie's need to find his tribe among other hippos, we discuss the impact of aligning with a support system that resonates with our core values. Tune in as we explore the importance of tuning into our body's needs over conforming to external expectations, all the while learning from the valuable lessons of a hippo's endearing friendship and the quest for personal well-being.
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Danielle La Rose (00:00):
What's up?
Okay, I am so excited to havethis conversation with you today
.
The question is is are youacting like a hippo?
And this is a wonderful storyto share with your kiddos when
or if they ever struggle withtrying to fit in.
Now, let's also be honest thatas adults, we also compare
ourselves, we're trying to fitin and all the things.
(00:23):
So it's a great story for us,but especially for kiddos and
obviously, as working with girls, I think that this story is so
cool and powerful, so let's jumpin.
Okay, first, I need you to knowthat I'm obsessed with rhinos.
Like I love rhinos, there's abook called Rhinoceros Success
(00:43):
and I read it, I don't know 10years ago, and I instantly
became obsessed with the idea ofbeing a rhino, having, you know
, thick skin and, you know, justlike, being like just yourself.
And I like they just chargetowards their goals and towards
what they want and they, likethey don't care what other
people think, and so I've alwayshad this obsession with rhinos,
(01:05):
and so we follow a lot of rhinosanctuaries in Africa.
It's my dream to go to Africaand see all my rhino friends.
So, with that being said, wefound this story not too long
ago about a rhino and a hippothat became besties.
(01:25):
I mean like bestie besties,like attached to the hip, did
everything together, like theywere living their best friend
life.
You know, it's like goals, likebest friends, and so it's the
cutest story ever.
And you're like, oh my gosh,like a hippo and a rhino are
best friends, like how did thishappen?
And it's so exciting.
But yet something did happen.
(01:47):
See, this hippo had never beenaround other hippos.
They didn't know how to be ahippo, they had only been around
in this rhino orphanage and sothey had only been around rhinos
.
So they didn't.
They started acting like arhino because they didn't know
(02:08):
how to be a hippo.
They started doing things thatrhinos do.
Rhinos don't need to be in thewater.
So what did they do?
They weren't in water.
So what ended up happening isthat this hippo, whose name is
Charlie, this hippo, baby hippo,the cutest thing ever thought
(02:29):
it was a rhino, and so itstarted having negative
consequences.
For example, a hippo has to bein water because if not, they
get sunburns.
Like their skin isn't tough,like a rhino, like a hippo has
to be in water.
And so, if a hippo has to be inwater to survive, to thrive, to
(02:50):
take care of its body.
But it's not going in waterbecause it doesn't understand
that it's supposed to do that,like it's literally hurting
itself just because it doesn'tunderstand that it is a hippo
and it's supposed to do hippothings, which is get in water,
whereas the rhino didn't knowthat it was hurting his hippo
(03:11):
friend, like Charlie's hisbestie.
So like he didn't understand tosay, hey, hippo friend Charlie,
go get in the water.
What he didn't say was like,let's do rhino things because
that's what we know.
And so this hippo is living itslife as if it's a rhino,
because it hasn't beensocialized to understand how to
(03:32):
behave like a hippo and it'sliterally killing itself.
So the people that take care ofthis hippo, all the rhinos, they
start doing things as best theycan to you know, they're hosing
them down with as much water aspossible because again, he
refuses to get in water becausehe's never seen an animal do
that.
And so Charlie keeps doingthings like that, like he starts
(03:56):
getting water sprayed on himand then they're like hey, come
on, like let's go to the littlewater.
And he won't get in because hedoesn't understand that that's
what he's supposed to do.
He's never seen an animal dothat before.
And so eventually they have totake the hippo and they re.
They introduce an older hippo toshow Charlie the way, and so
(04:17):
that hippo starts saying, okay,like I, get in water.
That's what we do, and slowlybut surely, charlie takes, step
after step after step and hegets in the water and his skin
is starting to be taken care of.
They slowly pull apart Charlieand his rhino friend.
They let them still hang outsometimes, but for the most part
they're trying now to getCharlie to hang out with the
(04:40):
hippos that they now have at thesanctuary, because he has to
know how to operate, becauseotherwise he's going to keep
operating as a rhino, and hecan't do that because his body
cannot do that physically.
And so this is a funny.
And then eventually, yes, hegets in the water, he lives a
happy hippo life, and him andhis rhino friend still they let
(05:01):
them hang out every once in awhile, but he now knows how to
be a hippo, he knows how to getin water, he knows how to take
care of himself, he now hashippo friends, which is so fun.
And so this is a fun, cute story.
That's real, it actuallyhappened.
But, at the same time, this isa great story to remind
ourselves of asking ourselvesare we operating based on the
(05:23):
people that are around us, likeCharlie did?
Are we operating based on whatthe mindset and the actions are
of the people around us, or arewe operating in a way that is
actually positive and nurturingto us?
Right?
So the question is to us, right?
(05:47):
So the question is is what do Ineed?
If Charlie was a human andcould have asked himself that,
charlie would have realized dude, I need some water, I need to
get in water.
My skin is literally burning.
I need to get in water.
And so we get to use this storyas a reminder to ourselves and
to our kiddos that we have needs, and we're either putting
ourselves in a situation withother people and other
(06:10):
environments that aren'tsupportive of that, that are
literally killing us, that arebreaking down our spirit, that
are breaking down our mindset,that are breaking down our goals
and our dreams, and it's notimpacting us in a positive way,
and instead we get to askourselves okay, what do I need?
When was the last time you satdown and actually said is what
I'm doing in the environmentsthat I'm in, are they serving me
(06:32):
?
Or what do I need Not?
What do my other friends need?
But what do I need to survive,to thrive, to take care of
myself, to be in the mindsetthat I desire to be in?
Then the other thing comes toright with Charlie, what we
realized it was about his body.
(06:52):
Right, charlie needed water forhis body to operate the way
that it was supposed to.
When was the last time that youasked yourself what does my
body need, not?
What does my friend Susie'sbody need Not?
What does society tell me mybody should need?
None of those things areactually important to your body.
Your body has needs that aren'tlike anyone else's.
(07:16):
So we get to come back and askourselves what does my body need
to feel good, to operate withso much energy, to have
confidence, to feel empowered,to be a great example to other
humans?
Because I'm taking care of mybody.
And just like Charlie the hippoand his rhino friend, they
(07:40):
needed different things fortheir bodies to operate to full
impact, to be the most powerfulrhino and hippo they could
possibly be, they neededdifferent things.
So, just because your friendSusie Q is doing some sort of
meal plan or doing some specificworkout, or is trying something
new doesn't mean you need toHello, can I get a high five?
(08:03):
Yes, or is trying something newdoesn't mean you need to Hello,
can I get a high five?
Yes, girl, that's not right foryour body.
Now it could be so, do you?
But make sure that we're askingourselves what does my body
need?
So often we're like Charlie inthis situation and we're just
going about our days just saying, well, what does everyone else
tell me that I should do?
Oh, I should cut carbs, Ishould cut this.
Told me that I should do?
Oh, I should cut carbs, Ishould cut this, I should stop
(08:24):
that.
I should do that workout, Ishould do that.
And we overcomplicate it when.
If you took a second likeCharlie, if Charlie could have
just been like what does my bodyneed?
How does my body feel?
What's making it feel bad,what's making it feel great and
how can I do more of that?
Right, if Charlie would havepaid attention and when the
water sprayed on his body, hewas like oh, this feels so good.
This is what I need in my lifeall the time.
(08:44):
This is what I'm thriving, I'mlike I'm on cloud nine, like
this is this is.
This is how I'm supposed tooperate.
If Charlie could have done that, charlie would have gotten more
of that.
He would be like let me jump inthis water because this feels
good.
But instead he kept listeningto his rhino friend and watching
his rhino friends who didn't dothat because it's not what they
(09:04):
needed for their bodies.
And so so often in our societywe get so wrapped up in what
everyone else is doing and whatwe should look like and what we
should be doing for our bodies,without taking ownership and
being powerful and taking ourpower back and saying no, I
listen to my body because I havea healthy relationship with it
and I know what it needs and Iknow when it's operating right
(09:26):
and I know what fuels it andfeels good and I know what
doesn't.
So our story with Charlie andhis rhino friend is an important
story about number one theimportance of socialization.
Okay, I know my sociologist isshowing of socialization.
Okay, I know my sociologist isshowing.
But the importance ofsocialization, of what?
(09:48):
Like, if you're a parent, thethings that you're saying to
your kids, the way that you'rewhat you're doing, they're not
necessarily going to do what yousay to do.
They're going to do what you do, just like Charlie.
Charlie did what he saw becausehe knew nothing else, just like
Charlie.
Charlie did what he saw becausehe knew nothing else.
And so so much of our lives issocialization.
And if you're hearing dogsgrowling, it's because my humans
(10:15):
they're not humans, my homiesare.
I let them stay around and Ididn't think that they were
going to bark.
That's crazy.
They're two German shepherds,so of course I should know
they're going to bark, becauseif the wind blows they bark.
Okay so, but it's an importantstory, right Of the importance
of socialization, of how weoperate and what we do affects
everyone around us.
You know, I was just not just afew hours ago.
(10:36):
I was at Barnes Noble and Iheard a woman telling another
person.
And if you're on my Turn UpTuesday emails, heard a woman
telling another person, and ifyou're on my Turn Up Tuesday
emails, you got that email today.
But as I was writing my email,I heard this woman telling
someone that they couldn't eatthis stuff, they had to be on a
diet and they had to lose 30pounds before they could do some
activity.
I didn't hear the activitybecause I was trying not to like
(10:58):
eavesdrop too much, but I meanthey were being really loud, but
anyways, I didn't hear what theactivity was.
But the point is that she'swaiting to live because she
thinks she needs to change howshe looks, because nothing about
what she said was like, oh, Iget to be healthy.
Everything that she said wasabout I need to lose weight, I
need to change my body, and nowthere's nothing wrong with that.
That's what you want and desireto do.
(11:19):
But what I'm saying is thatwhen we speak those things out
into the universe, when we speakthose around other people, what
other people are doing isthey're absorbing that.
They're saying okay, if youneed to lose weight, then maybe
I need to lose weight If youcan't eat that, but that's what
I'm eating right now.
So now I feel weird and shouldI not eat this?
Am I a bad person because I'mdoing this?
So, again, it's all about theenvironment that we're in, and
(11:42):
the question then is do we needa new crowd?
Do we need new homies?
Right, my homies are yelling atme right now because I hear the
wind blowing.
But do we need new homies?
Do we need a new view on socialmedia that is positive and
uplifting?
Do we need to be around peoplethat have bigger dreams and
bigger goals and bigger desires.
(12:02):
Do we need to switch it up?
And do we need to switch aroundthe people who are building up
our energy, versus pushing itdown?
So, just like Charlie, youmight need to switch your
environment.
You might need to bring in somehumans that inspire you and
push you to be the best versionof yourself, and you might need
(12:24):
to slowly distance yourself,just like Charlie had to be
distanced from his rhino bestiebut you might need to slowly
distance yourself in order tolive your best, healthiest,
happiest life.
So, again, the questions fromCharlie, then, are what do I
need?
What do I need and what does mybody need in order to live that
(12:49):
life?
And if we're talking aboutkiddos and trying to fit in,
right, this is the story.
This is a great story that Iwould share with my kiddos if I
had any.
It's just that, if you'retrying to fit in, are you trying
to fit in with the rhino, whoisn't really your person?
They're not actually going tohelp you reach your goals and
(13:09):
feel good about yourself.
Maybe you need to remindyourself to be more like Charlie
, and Charlie liked the rhinopeople.
He liked the rhinos, he wantedto hang out with them.
He thought they were cool, hethought that would be his way in
, right, like yeah, I'm hangingout with rhinos, I'm a rhino.
(13:31):
But when he tried to fit in andhe kept going on their path, he
realized that it was hurting himeven more.
He realized that it wasn'thelping him.
He didn't feel better abouthimself.
Actually, he realized that itwas hurting him even more.
He realized that it wasn'thelping him.
He didn't feel better abouthimself, actually, he felt worse
.
And so what Charlie needed to do, what?
Maybe you kiddo, if I had a kid, this is how I would talk to
them.
Maybe what you need to do is gofind more kiddos that are like
(13:54):
you and I know that's easiersaid than done, but that's how I
would use this story.
And so if you're listening tothis and you're like, oh my gosh
, I love this story, what a fun,cute story.
There are videos that you canwatch about it on the internet
and you could share with yourkiddo if you wanted to have this
in-depth conversation.
(14:14):
But it is again just for me.
When I watch this story, numberone, I just I'm obsessed
because I love rhinos, but atthe same time.
It was just this, like this, iswhat we do in real life.
We're so obsessed with trying tohang out and fit in with other
people and do things that theytell us we should do and
listening to.
You know the multi-billiondollar industries that tell us
(14:37):
there's things wrong with ourbodies, without actually coming
back to ourselves and sayingwhat do I need to thrive?
And if we don't know that, wecan take a second to write it
out.
We can work with a coach, wecan work with a mentor and
really try to dig deep into that.
What do I need in my life thatI don't have right now?
That would actually help melive a great life?
(14:58):
What do I need to get rid of?
What environments do I need toget out of?
What friendships, friendshipsor family do I need to step away
from that are actually pullingme down and not serving me?
And what does my body need toactually feel good?
Not to get smaller, not tochange, but simply to feel good,
(15:23):
to thrive.
Because I don't know if youknow this or not, but a calorie
is literally a unit of energy.
So, like our food fuels ourenergy levels, our food fuels
our bodies and helps themoperate the way that they are
supposed to.
And so we get to tune into ourbody and say, what does my body
(15:47):
need?
And we get to do that, we getto take those actions, my friend
, and we get to again askourselves am I being like
Charlie, to where I'm fitting inwith the rhinos?
And I really need to go back tomy hippo friends and family and
like get real there becausethat's where I thrive.
So again, I think it's a cute,fun story of a rhino and hippo
(16:09):
who were besties.
You got to see them.
They're the freaking cutest.
But again, just coming back towhere am I fitting in?
What am I doing to try to feelbetter?
That's not actually helping me.
And how can I tune more intowhat I need and what my body
needs?
All right, that's all I got foryou.
You got thoughts, comments,concerns, all the things.
(16:30):
Drop them.
Let's hear them, let's talk itout.
And I'd love for you to go seepictures of Charlie and his
rhino friend because it's sostinking cute.
All right, have a powerful day.
I'll talk to you.
What's up?
Okay, I am so excited to havethis conversation with you today
.
The question is is are youacting like a hippo?
And this is a wonderful storyto share with your kiddos when
or if they ever struggle withtrying to fit in.
Now, let's also be honest thatas adults, we also compare
ourselves, we're trying to fitin and all the things.
(00:23):
So it's a great story for us,but especially for kiddos and
obviously, as working with girls, I think that this story is so
cool and powerful, so let's jumpin.
Okay, first, I need you to knowthat I'm obsessed with rhinos.
Like I love rhinos, there's abook called Rhinoceros Success
(00:43):
and I read it, I don't know 10years ago, and I instantly
became obsessed with the idea ofbeing a rhino, having, you know
, thick skin and, you know, justlike, being like just yourself.
And I like they just chargetowards their goals and towards
what they want and they, likethey don't care what other
people think, and so I've alwayshad this obsession with rhinos,
(01:05):
and so we follow a lot of rhinosanctuaries in Africa.
It's my dream to go to Africaand see all my rhino friends.
So, with that being said, wefound this story not too long
ago about a rhino and a hippothat became besties.
(01:25):
I mean like bestie besties,like attached to the hip, did
everything together, like theywere living their best friend
life.
You know, it's like goals, likebest friends, and so it's the
cutest story ever.
And you're like, oh my gosh,like a hippo and a rhino are
best friends, like how did thishappen?
And it's so exciting.
But yet something did happen.
(01:47):
See, this hippo had never beenaround other hippos.
They didn't know how to be ahippo, they had only been around
in this rhino orphanage and sothey had only been around rhinos
.
So they didn't.
They started acting like arhino because they didn't know
(02:08):
how to be a hippo.
They started doing things thatrhinos do.
Rhinos don't need to be in thewater.
So what did they do?
They weren't in water.
So what ended up happening isthat this hippo, whose name is
Charlie, this hippo, baby hippo,the cutest thing ever thought
(02:29):
it was a rhino, and so itstarted having negative
consequences.
For example, a hippo has to bein water because if not, they
get sunburns.
Like their skin isn't tough,like a rhino, like a hippo has
to be in water.
And so, if a hippo has to be inwater to survive, to thrive, to
(02:50):
take care of its body.
But it's not going in waterbecause it doesn't understand
that it's supposed to do that,like it's literally hurting
itself just because it doesn'tunderstand that it is a hippo
and it's supposed to do hippothings, which is get in water,
whereas the rhino didn't knowthat it was hurting his hippo
(03:11):
friend, like Charlie's hisbestie.
So like he didn't understand tosay, hey, hippo friend Charlie,
go get in the water.
What he didn't say was like,let's do rhino things because
that's what we know.
And so this hippo is living itslife as if it's a rhino,
because it hasn't beensocialized to understand how to
(03:32):
behave like a hippo and it'sliterally killing itself.
So the people that take care ofthis hippo, all the rhinos, they
start doing things as best theycan to you know, they're hosing
them down with as much water aspossible because again, he
refuses to get in water becausehe's never seen an animal do
that.
And so Charlie keeps doingthings like that, like he starts
(03:56):
getting water sprayed on himand then they're like hey, come
on, like let's go to the littlewater.
And he won't get in because hedoesn't understand that that's
what he's supposed to do.
He's never seen an animal dothat before.
And so eventually they have totake the hippo and they re.
They introduce an older hippo toshow Charlie the way, and so
(04:17):
that hippo starts saying, okay,like I, get in water.
That's what we do, and slowlybut surely, charlie takes, step
after step after step and hegets in the water and his skin
is starting to be taken care of.
They slowly pull apart Charlieand his rhino friend.
They let them still hang outsometimes, but for the most part
they're trying now to getCharlie to hang out with the
(04:40):
hippos that they now have at thesanctuary, because he has to
know how to operate, becauseotherwise he's going to keep
operating as a rhino, and hecan't do that because his body
cannot do that physically.
And so this is a funny.
And then eventually, yes, hegets in the water, he lives a
happy hippo life, and him andhis rhino friend still they let
(05:01):
them hang out every once in awhile, but he now knows how to
be a hippo, he knows how to getin water, he knows how to take
care of himself, he now hashippo friends, which is so fun.
And so this is a fun, cute story.
That's real, it actuallyhappened.
But, at the same time, this isa great story to remind
ourselves of asking ourselvesare we operating based on the
(05:23):
people that are around us, likeCharlie did?
Are we operating based on whatthe mindset and the actions are
of the people around us, or arewe operating in a way that is
actually positive and nurturingto us?
Right?
So the question is to us, right?
(05:47):
So the question is is what do Ineed?
If Charlie was a human andcould have asked himself that,
charlie would have realized dude, I need some water, I need to
get in water.
My skin is literally burning.
I need to get in water.
And so we get to use this storyas a reminder to ourselves and
to our kiddos that we have needs, and we're either putting
ourselves in a situation withother people and other
(06:10):
environments that aren'tsupportive of that, that are
literally killing us, that arebreaking down our spirit, that
are breaking down our mindset,that are breaking down our goals
and our dreams, and it's notimpacting us in a positive way,
and instead we get to askourselves okay, what do I need?
When was the last time you satdown and actually said is what
I'm doing in the environmentsthat I'm in, are they serving me
(06:32):
?
Or what do I need Not?
What do my other friends need?
But what do I need to survive,to thrive, to take care of
myself, to be in the mindsetthat I desire to be in?
Then the other thing comes toright with Charlie, what we
realized it was about his body.
(06:52):
Right, charlie needed water forhis body to operate the way
that it was supposed to.
When was the last time that youasked yourself what does my
body need, not?
What does my friend Susie'sbody need Not?
What does society tell me mybody should need?
None of those things areactually important to your body.
Your body has needs that aren'tlike anyone else's.
(07:16):
So we get to come back and askourselves what does my body need
to feel good, to operate withso much energy, to have
confidence, to feel empowered,to be a great example to other
humans?
Because I'm taking care of mybody.
And just like Charlie the hippoand his rhino friend, they
(07:40):
needed different things fortheir bodies to operate to full
impact, to be the most powerfulrhino and hippo they could
possibly be, they neededdifferent things.
So, just because your friendSusie Q is doing some sort of
meal plan or doing some specificworkout, or is trying something
new doesn't mean you need toHello, can I get a high five?
(08:03):
Yes, or is trying something newdoesn't mean you need to Hello,
can I get a high five?
Yes, girl, that's not right foryour body.
Now it could be so, do you?
But make sure that we're askingourselves what does my body
need?
So often we're like Charlie inthis situation and we're just
going about our days just saying, well, what does everyone else
tell me that I should do?
Oh, I should cut carbs, Ishould cut this.
Told me that I should do?
Oh, I should cut carbs, Ishould cut this, I should stop
(08:24):
that.
I should do that workout, Ishould do that.
And we overcomplicate it when.
If you took a second likeCharlie, if Charlie could have
just been like what does my bodyneed?
How does my body feel?
What's making it feel bad,what's making it feel great and
how can I do more of that?
Right, if Charlie would havepaid attention and when the
water sprayed on his body, hewas like oh, this feels so good.
This is what I need in my lifeall the time.
(08:44):
This is what I'm thriving, I'mlike I'm on cloud nine, like
this is this is.
This is how I'm supposed tooperate.
If Charlie could have done that, charlie would have gotten more
of that.
He would be like let me jump inthis water because this feels
good.
But instead he kept listeningto his rhino friend and watching
his rhino friends who didn't dothat because it's not what they
(09:04):
needed for their bodies.
And so so often in our societywe get so wrapped up in what
everyone else is doing and whatwe should look like and what we
should be doing for our bodies,without taking ownership and
being powerful and taking ourpower back and saying no, I
listen to my body because I havea healthy relationship with it
and I know what it needs and Iknow when it's operating right
(09:26):
and I know what fuels it andfeels good and I know what
doesn't.
So our story with Charlie andhis rhino friend is an important
story about number one theimportance of socialization.
Okay, I know my sociologist isshowing of socialization.
Okay, I know my sociologist isshowing.
But the importance ofsocialization, of what?
(09:48):
Like, if you're a parent, thethings that you're saying to
your kids, the way that you'rewhat you're doing, they're not
necessarily going to do what yousay to do.
They're going to do what you do, just like Charlie.
Charlie did what he saw becausehe knew nothing else, just like
Charlie.
Charlie did what he saw becausehe knew nothing else.
And so so much of our lives issocialization.
And if you're hearing dogsgrowling, it's because my humans
(10:15):
they're not humans, my homiesare.
I let them stay around and Ididn't think that they were
going to bark.
That's crazy.
They're two German shepherds,so of course I should know
they're going to bark, becauseif the wind blows they bark.
Okay so, but it's an importantstory, right Of the importance
of socialization, of how weoperate and what we do affects
everyone around us.
You know, I was just not just afew hours ago.
(10:36):
I was at Barnes Noble and Iheard a woman telling another
person.
And if you're on my Turn UpTuesday emails, heard a woman
telling another person, and ifyou're on my Turn Up Tuesday
emails, you got that email today.
But as I was writing my email,I heard this woman telling
someone that they couldn't eatthis stuff, they had to be on a
diet and they had to lose 30pounds before they could do some
activity.
I didn't hear the activitybecause I was trying not to like
(10:58):
eavesdrop too much, but I meanthey were being really loud, but
anyways, I didn't hear what theactivity was.
But the point is that she'swaiting to live because she
thinks she needs to change howshe looks, because nothing about
what she said was like, oh, Iget to be healthy.
Everything that she said wasabout I need to lose weight, I
need to change my body, and nowthere's nothing wrong with that.
That's what you want and desireto do.
(11:19):
But what I'm saying is thatwhen we speak those things out
into the universe, when we speakthose around other people, what
other people are doing isthey're absorbing that.
They're saying okay, if youneed to lose weight, then maybe
I need to lose weight If youcan't eat that, but that's what
I'm eating right now.
So now I feel weird and shouldI not eat this?
Am I a bad person because I'mdoing this?
So, again, it's all about theenvironment that we're in, and
(11:42):
the question then is do we needa new crowd?
Do we need new homies?
Right, my homies are yelling atme right now because I hear the
wind blowing.
But do we need new homies?
Do we need a new view on socialmedia that is positive and
uplifting?
Do we need to be around peoplethat have bigger dreams and
bigger goals and bigger desires.
(12:02):
Do we need to switch it up?
And do we need to switch aroundthe people who are building up
our energy, versus pushing itdown?
So, just like Charlie, youmight need to switch your
environment.
You might need to bring in somehumans that inspire you and
push you to be the best versionof yourself, and you might need
(12:24):
to slowly distance yourself,just like Charlie had to be
distanced from his rhino bestiebut you might need to slowly
distance yourself in order tolive your best, healthiest,
happiest life.
So, again, the questions fromCharlie, then, are what do I
need?
What do I need and what does mybody need in order to live that
(12:49):
life?
And if we're talking aboutkiddos and trying to fit in,
right, this is the story.
This is a great story that Iwould share with my kiddos if I
had any.
It's just that, if you'retrying to fit in, are you trying
to fit in with the rhino, whoisn't really your person?
They're not actually going tohelp you reach your goals and
(13:09):
feel good about yourself.
Maybe you need to remindyourself to be more like Charlie
, and Charlie liked the rhinopeople.
He liked the rhinos, he wantedto hang out with them.
He thought they were cool, hethought that would be his way in
, right, like yeah, I'm hangingout with rhinos, I'm a rhino.
(13:31):
But when he tried to fit in andhe kept going on their path, he
realized that it was hurting himeven more.
He realized that it wasn'thelping him.
He didn't feel better abouthimself.
Actually, he realized that itwas hurting him even more.
He realized that it wasn'thelping him.
He didn't feel better abouthimself, actually, he felt worse
.
And so what Charlie needed to do, what?
Maybe you kiddo, if I had a kid, this is how I would talk to
them.
Maybe what you need to do is gofind more kiddos that are like
(13:54):
you and I know that's easiersaid than done, but that's how I
would use this story.
And so if you're listening tothis and you're like, oh my gosh
, I love this story, what a fun,cute story.
There are videos that you canwatch about it on the internet
and you could share with yourkiddo if you wanted to have this
in-depth conversation.
(14:14):
But it is again just for me.
When I watch this story, numberone, I just I'm obsessed
because I love rhinos, but atthe same time.
It was just this, like this, iswhat we do in real life.
We're so obsessed with trying tohang out and fit in with other
people and do things that theytell us we should do and
listening to.
You know the multi-billiondollar industries that tell us
(14:37):
there's things wrong with ourbodies, without actually coming
back to ourselves and sayingwhat do I need to thrive?
And if we don't know that, wecan take a second to write it
out.
We can work with a coach, wecan work with a mentor and
really try to dig deep into that.
What do I need in my life thatI don't have right now?
That would actually help melive a great life?
(14:58):
What do I need to get rid of?
What environments do I need toget out of?
What friendships, friendshipsor family do I need to step away
from that are actually pullingme down and not serving me?
And what does my body need toactually feel good?
Not to get smaller, not tochange, but simply to feel good,
(15:23):
to thrive.
Because I don't know if youknow this or not, but a calorie
is literally a unit of energy.
So, like our food fuels ourenergy levels, our food fuels
our bodies and helps themoperate the way that they are
supposed to.
And so we get to tune into ourbody and say, what does my body
(15:47):
need?
And we get to do that, we getto take those actions, my friend
, and we get to again askourselves am I being like
Charlie, to where I'm fitting inwith the rhinos?
And I really need to go back tomy hippo friends and family and
like get real there becausethat's where I thrive.
So again, I think it's a cute,fun story of a rhino and hippo
(16:09):
who were besties.
You got to see them.
They're the freaking cutest.
But again, just coming back towhere am I fitting in?
What am I doing to try to feelbetter?
That's not actually helping me.
And how can I tune more intowhat I need and what my body
needs?
All right, that's all I got foryou.
You got thoughts, comments,concerns, all the things.
(16:30):
Drop them.
Let's hear them, let's talk itout.
And I'd love for you to go seepictures of Charlie and his
rhino friend because it's sostinking cute.
All right, have a powerful day.
I'll talk to you.
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