May 23, 2023 • 40 mins
003. on this episodes, coaches bennett are talking about:
- crying at track meets
- the joy of celebrating other people's celebrations.
- inspired by tammie's DARE to SHOW UP program, we dive deep into the magic of a dare and the power of daring to dare.
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Unknown (00:06):
Welcome to the to coach Bennett's talking Podcast. I'm
Coach Tammie Bennett. And I'mCoach Chris Bennett. This is
where we talk about anything wewant.
Anything we want, like movies ormusic, running, not running life
and what gets us excited.
Fantasy and sci fi books? No,we're not talking about that.
(00:29):
All right, well, we'll talkabout everything but fantasy and
sci fi books. So sit back orkeep moving because it's time to
start talking.
coach chris bennett (00:41):
Episode Three is here and we've got a
lot going on. We talked aboutcrying at track meets the joy of
celebrating other people'scelebrations. And inspired by
tammie's dare to show upprogram, we dive deep into the
magic of a dare in the power ofdaring to dare. As always, we
have our petty grievances, andtalk about what's floating our
(01:02):
fancies this week. So get readyfor a great episode.
Unknown (01:11):
Hey, Coach, how you doing? So good. How are you?
Coach? Good. I hope I'm notyelling. You can always adjust
the levels if you are. Oh,that's so tedious. I'll just try
to control my excitement. ButI'm excited to talk to you how
you been? What's been going on?
Talk to me. Talk to us.
coach tammie bennett (01:31):
Well, our girls ran districts to let's
meet in Oregon to qualify forthe state championship. And
there were some really greatperformances and races and
efforts and fun team hugging andribbons and all the things you
cried. I cried. Yes. More thanonce.
Unknown (01:53):
Yeah.
We've been playing cards withour college son at night nine
hole golf is a card game whichis very fun.
I guess three people played lastnight. What What place did you
end up just I know that this isgoing to continue throughout the
summer, but just so we can giveupdates will place you in? Well,
I was in third last night when Iplayed with you. But I stomped
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jack on the night that youweren't playing conveniently
enough. Yes. And so I was infirst place that night. Okay, so
I don't seen that version of youget right, right. Just wait,
just wait. It's a fun game.
And then I just been having areally good time with the people
in my dare to show up group,some really kind of fun, and
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also moving kind of things goingon. So that's just always a lot,
a lot of the ups and the downsand the middles and all the
things. And I had a moment thisweek, that felt really tough
because I had one of thosereply to email. It wasn't a
reply all but it was a reply tothe person it was forwarded
from. So basically, I reply toit to the wrong person. And it
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was just a little bit, just oneof those little like, little
moments that makes you feel sickto your stomach. But it was all
okay, it was all good. I didn'tsay anything bad. But you know,
we all have those moments. Werejust like, oh, yeah, yeah, I
mean, yours was not that bad.
Because the email that you sent,it just went to the wrong
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person. But it was a cool email.
Might have been read the wrongway initially, but it was a cool
email. Yeah, I think it mighthave been read the wrong way.
And it might have been read asan unprofessional email, but I'm
not really professional. Right?
And really, yeah, yeah. Not notin the like the like,
you know, the the dictionaryterm where you? Yeah, I meant it
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as a compliment. Yes. Yes, Itake it as I take it as a
compliment. Good. So what's beengoing on with you? I was at the
same meet that you were at whereyou were crying.
Coach Bennett, the greater Tammyand I, we don't stand with each
other during races. We're atdifferent parts of the track for
a couple of different reasons.
Not not because we don't likehanging out with each other.
Just if you can space out whatyou're saying. And we look at
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races a little bit differently.
So we yell different things. Andanyway, I called you at one
point.
And you answered it, and Iimmediately knew I didn't even
make it. Yeah, I didn't evenmake a noise. And you're like, I
think it was I was like hello.
You were like a tempo to yourbreathing. Well, you said hello.
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And I said, Oh, she's she'scrying. You actually said stop
crying or don't cry.
Emotional, I think take a breakfrom crying so yells this yes,
that's exactly what you said.
Yeah, I'm not going to tell youto stop. But if you could pause,
just to let them know. It's downto basically two and a half
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minutes of hard running andyou're going to achieve what you
want to achieve them.
then you can go back to crying.
Yeah. And that's pretty muchexactly what I did. I gave great
advice. I said what I needed tosay, it gave me focus. And then
I went back to crying again wasamazing. Yes. And this is the
thing. There's nothing wrongwith crying when you're watching
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something that's making you cry.
But from a coaching point ofview, if you're the athlete,
hearing the instructions fromsomeone who's crying may throw
you.
Oh, it's hot. You don't want theathlete to lose focus. And
wonder, wait, that soundedweird. Were they crying when
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they told me there's two minutesleft to go? So yeah, it was just
a little, little piece ofcoaching advice that we you
know, we give each otherit's been a fun week, you've got
this great group, doing yourdares.
I this month has been very busywith people right racing, doing
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marathons and half marathons. SoI'm getting, it's always a fun
time of year, because I'mgetting lots of comments and
feedback and messages and racerecaps from from athletes that
I've kind of run with, so tospeak. So it's been a lot of
fun. For me, because it's such acelebratory atmosphere, even for
people who maybe aren'tcompletely achieving their goal.
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It's, it's a great opportunityto remind them of everything
they've achieved, leading up tothe starting line of this of
this race. So yeah, it's been afun, fun couple of weeks. I just
want to say something aboutthat, because
I get a lot of those emails tohave updates from clients and
telling me about their wins. AndI think, you know, for me, and
you from a selfish point ofview, it's so fun and amazing to
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get those emails, and you'relike, yes, so and so did it, you
know, and like, we give them avirtual high five. But I think
it's so good also, as from theathlete, or from the client,
that's sending us those things,for them to it, to take that
moment out of their day toacknowledge what they've done
and to share it with somebodythat's so powerful, I think to
see what you've done, and thento go tell somebody about it.
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A certain level of confidenceand joy that you have to have to
be able to do that. So yeah, ifyou're listening, and you've
ever worked with us, send us anemail and shares your wins,
because we love, love, love tocelebrate with you. And we love
seeing you celebrate yourself.
Yeah, that's one of the coolestparts about being a coach is you
become this excuse for someoneto celebrate themselves. Which
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is awesome. Because I'd love toparty, you know, I know you'd
like to party. So it's, it's,it's always fun to be invited
into their celebrations, whichis part of how you keep going,
it's part of the fuel, you can'tsustain anything, if you're not
enjoying it, if you're notcelebrating it. And on the flip
side, which is also nice. Ienjoy getting any feedback about
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what's going on, including, itdidn't go well, I came up short.
I made some mistakes, becausethat's also an excuse to kind of
process and go through throughthese things. And part of it is
breaking it down and seeing whatwent really well that you're not
paying attention to. And it'salso breaking down what didn't
go well and trying to figure outwhy. So there's a purpose to
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that as well. So I love theexcuse to kind of celebrate and
also just to look back on goodand bad. Because I think that's
a really important exercise too.
Because sometimes we're scaredto celebrate. And we're also
scared to be critical. Yeah,it's so important. Yep. Love it.
What's next? Mistake gettingused to kind of our thing. Oh,
we go straight into meat andtaters this
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time. We've kept on waiting longenough.
Okay, well, I actually asked ifthe meat and taters this week
could really be inspired by theDARE program you're doing now.
Actually, the DARE programsounds like the thing for middle
school. Yeah, we're not talkingabout like, don't do drugs.
Although, yeah, you know, youshouldn't do most drugs. Yeah.
(09:05):
Okay. So give a little bit of aquick
overview of what you're doing.
And then I'll talk about why Iwant to talk about it.
Yeah, it's just for the month ofMay. I'm giving this group a
dare a day. And so I give themthe dare I explain why and what
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it's based on, and then they godo it, or they don't do it. And
then they share all about it.
Give two or three examples. Oh,gosh, you're putting me on the
spot. Yeah.
I'll just I'll give you one fromI think today or yesterday. I
dare you to name a body partthat you love. The purpose of
that was to look at our bodiesin a way other than critically,
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you know, tearing apart andfinding the flaws, and just
really appreciating, givingourselves appreciation for what
we look like or whatWe do what our body does for us
all the things.
One, this is an interesting onethat was very hard for some
people, it was ideal for you towrite a love letter to yourself,
which sounds a little similar tothe body one, but that one was
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very hard for some people to do.
Another example wasseeing at the top of your lungs,
by yourself with your family inthe car and the dark and the
shower, I don't care where, butjust seeing like a belly sing,
right, like a belly laugh, butit's just sing your heart out to
a song. And that one's beenreally fun to see the feedback.
Yeah, I'm going to do that. Onthe way to the track meet
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tonight for you. Yes, yeah. So Ilove your hope you're fired up
and excited about it. Can Irequest the song? Oh, you can
request the song doesn't meanI'm going to do it. Because I'm
not your jukebox. Okay, I'm morelikely to request what not to
singthan what I want you to sing.
But let me ask you a questionhere. Would you? Would you
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rather see me happily singingsomething? Because sometimes
remember the covers better thanthe original? True?
Or do you? Do you want me tosettle for something that
in the background, because it'sreally going to be the
background. So I'm going to besinging as loud as I can, is a
song you don't like sired? Iknow, I'm not going to name the
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band. I know what band you don'twant me to sing. And I won't
sing them. But let me just saythis. I live in the land of and
I believe fully with my heartthat you can find a song that
you feel absolute joy andsinging, and it's on my approval
list. So I think we can bothcome out a winner? Well, I It's
interesting, because I live inthe land of and too. And I
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believe that I can sing a songthat's on my approval list, and
is not on your approval list.
And you will still enjoy it. Oh,that's a little ambitious. And
do you have a retort?
Okay, so that's great. So let metell you why I want to talk
about dares. Okay. Part of it isbecause of what we're doing here
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with the podcast, because it'staken me forever, almost, to
actually do any kind of podcast.
And I was interested in yourgroup, and taking part in some
of it. And it suddenly dawned onme, so many of these things are
being done. And they'redifficult for people to do. But
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the idea of being dared to do itis the impetus for getting it
done. And without the dare, eventhough it's a good thing, even
though it's something you wantto do, even though it's
something that maybe on a list,it won't get done. What is the
power of a dare to do that? Howdo you see what is the strength
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of that? Because it goes back towhen you're a kid to that idea
of being dared to do somethingyou're more likely to to give it
a try. If someone who dares youand suddenly like alright, I'll
do it. What is it? What is it?
What do you see? What is thepower of a deer? Yeah, before I
get to that, though, you saiddouble dog dare. And that's
really cool, because I also givedouble dog dares, for every deer
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that I give each day, there isalso a double dog dare if
someone's feeling like goingextra, I give them that option.
Okay, so what I think it is, isthat you're by being dared to do
something, you're notshouldering all the
responsibility for it. So if itdoesn't go over, well, you're
like, well, they dared me to doit, and it's not on you. So it
really is, in actuality, it ison you, you're the one who chose
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to do it or not. But you cantrick your brain into going out
and doing it because you'retricking your brain into
thinking even if I fail even ifthis flops or doesn't go well,
no biggie. It's not on me. Ionly did it because they told me
to. So I think it's just alittle trick that we can use to
get our brain to go do the thingthat feels scary, because there
aren't the consequences don'tfeel as harsh. It's so
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fascinating. It's interesting,because I had my original
thought on this was basicallywhat you were saying was there's
something about the riskassociated with doing something.
And when it's dared, that riskdoesn't really change, except
maybe the lighting on itchanges. It's a little bit
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different. For whatever reasonand I think you you kind of
summed it up that it's you'renot shouldering all the burden
yourself.
It's it's part of the persondaring you as well as yourself.
And the idea of failing and adare for some reason does not
seem nearly as terrifying aswhen you're setting a goal or
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attempting something new which Ijust find bizarre. Like if you
dared someone who's never runbefore, to dare I mean to run.
I bet their mentality would be alittle bit different because
most people Oh, I can't run I'mnot any good or I can't sing or
I can't act I can't write butit's like I dare you. And it's
like alright, fine, I'll do it.
You'll see and yeah, but thenthey try. Yeah,
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So I mean, you know, when yousaid Middle School, it brought
me to like, you know, I rememberI don't remember a grade was
seventh or eighth when peoplewould dares you know, someone to
go ask somebody to go with them,which meant, like, we thought it
meant like dating or beingboyfriend, girlfriend. But
really, it just meant that thenall of a sudden, you ignore each
other and like, don't even lookat each other in, right. So
someone would say like, Hey, soand so I dare you to go ask
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Katherine and go with you. Andthey would go do it because of
Katherine said, no, they can belike, Oh, I didn't really mean
it. Anyway, I just did itbecause they dared me to. So
that's what I mean by like it,the responsibility of the field
isn't on you, you can just brushit off. And it's, it's such a
healthy way to take on. And funway I think, which is what I
love about the group that you'vegot is it's such a fun way of
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doing things that normally arescary. But now that you're
looking at them in this new way,they're just kind of silly and
ridiculous. And I don't meanthat in a negative way. And I
don't mean that diminishing inwhat you're doing. But there's
something a little bit more funabout it, it's similar to like,
when you see someone in awerewolf suit,
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in December, at 2pm, walkingaround a store, it's silly. If
you're walking in the woodsalone, and you see somebody in a
werewolf suit, it's terrifying.
But to me, I don't know if thisis making any sense. But in my
head, this is perfect. It's justyou're you're changing how
something is perceived bylooking at it a little
differently. So jumping off thehigh board at the pool, which is
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something that when I wasgrowing up, that was the big
deal that there was kind of alow board than there was a high
board. And there was an age thatyou weren't allowed to go on to
the high board. But it was scaryto go on the high board. I don't
know any kids who ever went offthe high board the first time,
and it wasn't a dare. It was anidea. You've never done it
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before. On your own, you're notdoing it. You have three or four
people like come on a dairy and,and part of it, I think is also
the excitement aboutaccomplishing the day or, or at
least attempting the dare, whichis also really cool and really
positive as well.
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Well, you know, I think one ofthe very first deer that I gave
was to have them write fivethings that they wish someone
would dare them to do. Becauselike if we use your high dive
example, all the kids want tojump from the high dive. They're
just scared. Yeah, that's, butit's almost like to be given
permission to do the thing youwant to do anyway. Yes, the dare
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gives you that permission. ButI'm going to just confess a
little sneaky thing, this wholedares thing has been a little
bit of a trick. And if you arelistening, and you're one of my
daredevils in that group, I loveyou so much. And this trick came
with all love. But the way thatI teach goals, and I think you
teach them very similarly, isthat you, you should take away
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the fear of failure. Right? Sothe joy of going after a goal is
the process of being the personwho goes after something and
you, you, you'll go after it,even if there's a chance that
you might fail, right? So theway that I teach goals is you're
going after this goal withoutfear of failure, that even if
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you do fail, which you willmultiple times on the way to a
successful goal, that it doesn'tthrow you off. It's not scary.
You're just like, Oh, yep,here's the time when I fail, now
I'm going to keep going. Soreally, this dear group is just
a way to have you go do thosethings without the fear of
failure, because now it's, theycan blame me for all of it.
Well, Tammy dared me to, andthere's no failure on them. So
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really, all I'm doing is showingthem that you can do things if
you take away the fear offailure.
Yeah, I agree. I love it. Ithink it's terrific. Once you
get rid of that you openyourself up to taking on so many
cooler things. I also think it'sa lot of fun to have the freedom
to fail. And I think that's whatsports is great at. I think the
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dare thing is really cool,because
I think there's this mentalitythat you have to be totally
successful on everything you do.
Sports is great. Because you'renever totally successful. You're
never 100% There is noperfection. And you're allowed
to miss shots, Miss goals, letgoals slip through, stumble come
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up short get fifth place, or 500plays. And it's not the end of
the world.
Which is one of the mostwonderful parts about sports and
play is where you can you canfail all the time. I love that
first dare that you had, or thatfirst project write down five
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dares you wish people dared youto do? Yeah, that is so
fascinating. I mean, you couldpeel that thing apart for hours
of what that means and whatyou're saying to yourself and
why can't that person who daresyou to do it just be you. I
mean, that'ssneaky. I like that. So
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I have two things to say. One isthe great thing about sport. And
that gives you the opportunityto fail and fail and play and
try and fail.
And I think that's somethingthat our era and an older missed
out on. I think that that wasnot the mentality that we were
brought up in, it was like whenat all costs, second place is
the first loser, all of thatkind of thought. And now I think
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the tides are changing a littlebit.
And I've been well, we both beenlucky enough to speak at some
running conferences and clinicsand stuff. But one of the things
that I talk about is having atry chart try. And basically
charting and celebrating all thetimes that you went for
something, maybe you tried adifferent event, maybe you tried
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to go out faster than normal, orslower than normal, but trying
something different, and notgiving a fuck about if you fail
or not, but celebrating the factthat you went and tried
something. So yeah, I think thatthat just goes hand in hand with
what you're saying that sportsis the perfect opportunity to
practice failing to practicetrying and celebrating the
trying. And in doing so you'regoing to win a hell of a lot
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more. And I agree with you 100%.
I think thatour generation would have
benefited greatly on the playingfields if we were coached a
slightly different way. Yeah,completely. The other thing that
I wanted to say is somethingthat I've observed in this deers
group is that so many people inthis group now are going and
doing other daring things. Sothey are doing things that were
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on that list the first day thatthey made a five things they
wish they were dared to do,they're just going ahead and
doing them without me daringthem to. And they're just going
ahead and doing these otherthings. Like I've had people in
the group that have applied forjobs. I've had people do a price
quote for a job that was liketwice as high as I'd ever done
before. These crazy things thatthey're feeling safer in doing
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because they've exercised thattheir muscle. And I think what
happens is you do this dare thatfeels a little safe because
Tammy dared me to or Johnny onthe playground dared me to, and
then you realize like, Oh, Ijust asked for a thing. And I
still live to tell the tale. Andyou know, and like you realize,
like, oh, it's actually kind ofsafe to like put myself out
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there. And so then you do it ina little bit scarier way. And
then you realize, hey, I'm stillkicking, I'm still here. And so
like you just like, graduallyexpand your safety zone of the
daringness. You just get moreand more daring. And so anyway,
I just that was a really funobservation. And we're not even
through the month yet. Andthere's already people really
being bold out there. And you'reteaching people to dare to dare,
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which is so awesome. So muchfun. You want to do some petty
grievances. Let's do it. Do youhave one? I have one. Okay, once
you start,this petty grievance of mine is
going to sound very familiar toan earlier petty grievance of
mine, but they irk me equally,so I think they both deserve a
chance to be heard. This one isthe empty toiletries that are
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left in the bathrooms. So thismay be a container of I juice or
I guess people call it contactsolution. Juice. I call it I use
lotion, shampoo. It's just emptyon the counter, literally within
arm's reach, or arm's length, orinches literally inches less
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than a foot away from the trashcan.
Or recycling bin.
But yet they're they're empty onher counterspace are very, very,
what do you call that when like,it's a prized thing like, or
it's you don't have much of it,but you prize it? I don't know.
(23:41):
What's what people say aboutcounterspace when you always
want more of it, and there'snever enough real estate. Yeah,
yeah, but I don't mean. Yeah.
That just makes me think of forsale signs. That's not really
the imagery, but you know what Imean? I was thinking more
something like gold territory orlike, huh,
yeah, but anyway, that's it.
Okay. It's interesting. What'syours?
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Mine is actually something Isaw.
Recently, when I was at a stopsign the car in front of me, and
I knew it was going to happenbecause I know they do it every
single time. If I ever seesomeone smoking in their car, I
know what's coming.
The scumbag throws theircigarette butt out the window
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when they're done. So it's notdisgusting enough that at a
stoplight or a stop sign. I havemy window down and I have to
inhale your smoke.
You then have to litter bythrowing your butt out into the
street. Just throw yourcigarette butt away.
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Like as I've stuffed in my car,I've trashed my car. I don't
drop it out the window when I'mdone with it. All right, I've
gone on too long. Tamizh rollingyour head and sighing loudly.
Let's open up the mailbag.
While you're while you'reruffling through the mailbag.
Can I just say that it pleasedus to no end, where we got our
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first package in the mailto our mailbag. And it was from
a listener who was alsoparticipated in a class that me
and you taught Coach Bennett,best runner ever. And he sent us
something incredible. We haven'trevealed it yet, but we're going
to reveal it on our Instagramjust because it'll be really
fun. But we are just thinkingyou, Eric, so much from the
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bottom of our heart, for yoursupport and for your enthusiasm,
and for celebrating with us thatwe started this podcast. Okay,
once you got the mailbag.
Okay, I decided to go with one.
That's a little silly, butactually pretty interesting. And
I, I'm not exactly sure whatyour answer is going to be on
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this, which is why I find itinteresting. It's, what is your
favorite game that you have onyour phone? Oh,
I'm ready. Are you? Yeah, mine'sa complicated answer. But yes.
Okay, then go for it. I have agame called dominations.
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Okay, it's one of those gamesthat takes if you're building
like little civilizations, andthen you can like go to war, and
all that kind of stuff. Theproblem is, is I refuse to pay
for anything. So I'm at a pointnow where anything I tried to do
or build takes five to sevendays,
is you have to wait for thingsto refill. You can't just like
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buy them. You can buy them. Butum, but you won't buy them. You
won't? Well, I'm not No, I'mnot. I don't like the game that
much. So I'm stuck saying, Well,I'm going to build a cannon and
it says, Okay, this is going totake seven days. Now I got
nothing to do. I don't careenough to keep coming back into
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it. So I'll forget. And I'llcome back in four days later and
see three days left to go. Well,I see you playing games almost
every day. So what are youplaying? While domination is
like building things in theback? I'm not you see that as
that's absolutely not true.
What's the games? There's likegreen grass. And there's like
these little men, and they'relike fighting and throwing rocks
and stuff. What's that? First ofall, you you don't have to
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describe my games in such aridiculous way. That's what I
see out of the corner of my eyewith green grass. And guys
walking around throwing littleguys rocks at each other. First
of all, you're trying todescribe this dominations game.
But I'm not playing it. Whatyou're seeing is me opening it
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up and realizing I got nothingto do and then I turned it off.
Now you check on that a lot,then, oh, this is see this is
the thing like once a day, likefrequently not like a lot of
hours, but I don't check on itonce a day.
So that's just absolutely nottrue. This is fake news. So
(28:08):
I will say every once in a whileI go into Candy Crush, and I
either can't get the board. Andthen that's another one that
says like, you can either pay oryou have to wait like 20
minutes. And I'm like, forgetit. And I don't come back for
three weeks. But there will betimes where suddenly like the
other night I wanted to go tobed. And I couldn't stop
winning. And I actually waslaughing with Jack. I said I
(28:28):
just want to go to bed, but Ikeep getting through these
boards.
And I was actually hoping that Ilost and eventually I did.
So those are the only two games.
I'm not a big game player. Idon't have any games that those
are the only two that ever getopened. Okay. So what about you?
I've been playing toon blast t on blast for a couple years now.
(28:52):
I think Yeah. And so I was justI just looked it up. I'm on
level 2762 You're on level what2762 Did it start at 2500 I'm
literally like, I rememberbefore I started my podcast in
2019. I met with some differentpeople to talk to like they had
(29:16):
taken my classes to find outwhat they liked about me like
like sort of like a focus group.
So I would know what to talkabout on my podcast. And in one
of those meetings I remembertelling the two women I was with
that I wanted to do a wholepodcast episode about toon blast
and how it's like great lifelessons. And it took me with
like the blankest Blinkiststairs, so I haven't looked the
(29:39):
way I'm looking at you rightnow. Yes, exactly. It's same
exact look. Yeah, but that wasin 2019. And here we are in
2023. And I'm still playing itI'm a loyal fan. Is that the
game that has the sound of whatsounds like someone dragging a
wet corpse across the floor. Idon't use it with sound and I
don't know what that would soundlike but that's gross.
(30:00):
Well, you play one game wherewhen you slide your fingers
Oh, okay, so that's the otherone. So that one is called drag
in the letter N merge. So you'remerging two blocks together to
add up to a big number. But thisis one of those similar to what
you just said, where I'm kind ofgood at it. And so sometimes the
(30:21):
games will literally like Ithink one of them literally took
over 30 minutes. And I justdon't have time to be doing
that. I don't have time to bedoing a 30 minute plus game. But
I'm at that point where I'm justso good. That I'm in it. Like if
I decide to play it, I'm in it.
So I don't play that one asmuch. Yeah, but that's the one
that makes that noise. Can youdo it again?
(30:44):
And then that's that's draggingsomething across the floor. That
shouldn't be you like you.
You're doing this at night.
You've already put gum on thesecurity camera lenses like this
is nothing good is happening.
When I hear that noise, andit's, it's really a gross noise.
I'll tell you that when you doplay with volume. I do. There is
something very satisfying to meabout that noise. Even though
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I'm one of those people thatreally hate I hate gross noises.
Right, but there's somethingsatisfying about that particular
noise and I think it's probablyenhanced by your noise
anointment of it. anointmentanointment
annoyance annoyance of it. Whenwe met sounds like something you
rub on your body anointmentointment Yeah. Yeah, that's
(31:30):
you don't in the mailbag shouldbe, which we talked about on a
run once with Daniel, theengineer, which was one of the
grossest words. Yes. I don'twant to talk about them here
because I don't like them. Yeah,but we discussed the difference
between jelly and ointment. Oh,jelly is for sandwiches. Well,
(31:52):
jelly is also for donuts, butjelly is made of you. It's an
ointment is a jelly likesubstance. It's just pointment
like you have to pinch your faceand it's just awful. But anyway,
my anointment Yes, yes. enhancesmy enjoyment. That for up oh,
one word that doesn't exist inthat sense. That's not bad for
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you. I know. I know. So so.
Shall we move on to our floatingfancies?
Yeah, floating fancies. We'regetting close to wrapping up.
I'm sad to see you leave. But doyou have a floating fancy? Or
what is floating your fancy?
Well, I have a couple of thingscoming up that I'm looking
forward to so one of myfavorites section. That's a
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different section. No, no, no,you're you're missing my point.
One of my floating fancies aretrailers. Okay, we're off on
coming out right now. I lovetrailers. I love teaser
trailers. I love full trailers.
I love me watch trailers, but Ilook at it as if it's an art
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form. And it really bothers mewhen a trailer doesn't do the
movie justice.
I'm okay with a trailer givingtoo much justice to a movie. I'm
okay with that. I'm fine withthe trailer being great in the
movie stinking. I'm okay.
Because I respect the trailer inand of itself. But there were a
couple good ones that just cameout recently, which I'm excited
about. The dune one came out.
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The latest Indiana Jones onecame out the trailer for the new
season of the bear just cameout. The new Martin County. Yep,
the Martin Scorsese LeonardoDiCaprio movie that's coming
out, which is also a great book.
So yeah, that's my floating myfancy right now our trailers for
TV shows and movies.
(33:43):
Yeah, and I mean, that's reallyfunny because you so often make
me sit down and watch trailers,and I do it with all the big
regiment in the world. And thenI say almost always 99% of the
time. 99.8% of the time. I'mlike, Oh, that was good. Thank
you for making me watch that.
(34:03):
Did my wheels your fancydoesn't? Wait, did I did I just
fall apart at the end of thatsentence? My word did
my word disappeared. fell off acliff right there. Like I just
my brain just couldn't finishthe sentence. Anyway, all right,
move on. What's tickling yourfancy floating your fancy?
Tickling fancies. Alright, goahead.
(34:27):
Um, okay, this is kind of weird,but I Okay, so I love to mow the
lawn. And I think I've mowed thelawn on Mother's Day, like many
many years in a row or not in arow, but like on many, many
mother's days. It's justsomething that I really like to
do. I find a peaceful, I lovethe smell of cut grass, blah,
blah, blah. So this pastMother's Day, I was cutting our
(34:47):
lawn and we have this lawn mowerthat you bought recently. Green
Works is the brand and it's ecofriendly. It's really quiet but
it's really powerful anddoesn't use gas you just like
recharge the battery. And Icannot tell you how much I love
this lawnmower. I just love it.
(35:07):
For all the reasons I mentioned.
It's just so quiet. Andeverything smells good. And I
love that it's eco friendly. Soanyway, I just wanted to give
him a shout out Greenworks lawnmower. Well done. Yeah. Okay,
what's on deck? What's next foryou in the next week or two?
Well, let's just do week becausethen we'll be here with another
podcast, and we don't want togive it all away. Well, after we
(35:27):
record this, I am hopefullygoing to be recording what will
become the first episode ofcoach Bennis podcast, we're also
working with you is what hasinspired me to finally do that
podcast you were the push that Ineeded to Thank you, Coach
Bennett, for being my motivationand inspiration to finally work
(35:51):
on Coach Bennett podcast. You'reso welcome. But this is actually
a great example of doingsomething that feels safer, can
lead you to doing the scarierthing, right. So I'm not saying
that you're scared of doing thepodcast, but maybe. Okay, so but
like doing it with me, we haveeach other to sort of like help
each other through we both aretaking responsibility of
(36:12):
different parts. So it's lesscomplicated and hard, like
logistically, and it's just funto have us both together. So now
that you're like, oh, podcastingis actually easier than I
thought. It is not as scary as Ithought. Now you're ready to go
do like the more like the nextlevel. So yeah, it took to coach
Bennett's talking for one CoachBennett to talk by himself. Look
at that. Oh,yeah. All right. What about you?
(36:37):
What do you got coming up? Okay,I have a boring thing and a fun
thing. So the boring thing is,this is so boring, but like it's
time consuming. And I'm going totalk about it. Dang it. It is
I'm switching over to a newemail system, which is I know,
but listen, it's much morefunctional. But it's not as
pretty and cute. And so my workthis next week is to make it
(36:59):
better looking so that I enjoyit more so that I actually do
it. And this is just one ofthose like life lessons work
lessons of like finding ways tomake it more enjoyable, more
fun, more easy. So then youactually want to do it and get
it done. So that's like the sortof boring one but I'm going to
make it sort of boring one. ButI'm going to make it fun with
the graphics or whatever Idecide the fun. The other fun
(37:22):
one is we have a daughter goingto prom. And we have our
daughters competing in the statechampionships for Oregon, which
we are so so lucky that they getto run their state championship
meet in Hayward field. Indeed,do you want to just give like a
two sentences about Haywardfield just in case there's
(37:44):
someone listening that doesn'tknow the magic of it.
Hayward field, if you're abaseball fan would be like the
Wrigley Field Fenway Park YankeeStadium of of track and field
facilities or theyou know, it's basically the
most legendary track in theUnited States, North America and
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one of the most legendary andhistorical venues in the world.
It got redone a few years ago.
So now it's one of the mostbeautiful facilities, if not the
most beautiful Track and Fieldfacility on the planet. So if
you've never seen it, look up soyou can get a vibe for both old
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Hayward field and then newHayward field. It's on the
University of Oregon's campus inEugene, Oregon. And that is
where the Oregon State meet willbe at the end of May. So and
then if you're really reallywant to get excited look up
email functionality. No, look uphow to make emails cute. Oh, I'm
sorry, I forgot what you see.
You're doing one thing. You haveto find that fun in it. Oh, in
(38:50):
the functionality. Find the funthat functionality? Yes. Great
logo slogan. There we go. Allright. Well, that's exciting.
Hey, I think we're at the finishline, which really, according to
you is just another startingline. That's right. So thanks
for joining us. And if you likedthis, I mean, how could you not
(39:14):
like this? You're going to likeit and share it and subscribe to
it. Tell all your friends aboutit. We dare you to tell someone
about it. Oh, see, I brought itfull circle back taters part. We
dare you to share it with asmany people as you can. And I'll
dare you to come back next week.
(39:36):
Oh, double dog dare. That's thedouble dog dare. Yeah, come back
next week. Fantastic. All right.
Great. Well, thanks, CoachTammy. Thanks, coach, Chris.
Thanks, listeners. Thank you.
Bye.
Thank you for hanging out withus today. We hope you subscribe
if you haven't already, and we'dlove for you to give us a good
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rating. Remember, you can sendyour questions into our mailbag
at the address found in the shownotes. If you want to connect
with us further, be sure tocheck out Coach Chris Bennett on
Instagram at Coach Bennett to NStwo T's or go to coach Tammie
Bennett's Instagram at sharpsociety. You can also hear more
Tammie on the show up societypodcast.
Welcome to the to coach Bennett's talking Podcast. I'm
Coach Tammie Bennett. And I'mCoach Chris Bennett. This is
where we talk about anything wewant.
Anything we want, like movies ormusic, running, not running life
and what gets us excited.
Fantasy and sci fi books? No,we're not talking about that.
(00:29):
All right, well, we'll talkabout everything but fantasy and
sci fi books. So sit back orkeep moving because it's time to
start talking.
coach chris bennett (00:41):
Episode Three is here and we've got a
lot going on. We talked aboutcrying at track meets the joy of
celebrating other people'scelebrations. And inspired by
tammie's dare to show upprogram, we dive deep into the
magic of a dare in the power ofdaring to dare. As always, we
have our petty grievances, andtalk about what's floating our
(01:02):
fancies this week. So get readyfor a great episode.
Unknown (01:11):
Hey, Coach, how you doing? So good. How are you?
Coach? Good. I hope I'm notyelling. You can always adjust
the levels if you are. Oh,that's so tedious. I'll just try
to control my excitement. ButI'm excited to talk to you how
you been? What's been going on?
Talk to me. Talk to us.
coach tammie bennett (01:31):
Well, our girls ran districts to let's
meet in Oregon to qualify forthe state championship. And
there were some really greatperformances and races and
efforts and fun team hugging andribbons and all the things you
cried. I cried. Yes. More thanonce.
Unknown (01:53):
Yeah.
We've been playing cards withour college son at night nine
hole golf is a card game whichis very fun.
I guess three people played lastnight. What What place did you
end up just I know that this isgoing to continue throughout the
summer, but just so we can giveupdates will place you in? Well,
I was in third last night when Iplayed with you. But I stomped
(02:17):
jack on the night that youweren't playing conveniently
enough. Yes. And so I was infirst place that night. Okay, so
I don't seen that version of youget right, right. Just wait,
just wait. It's a fun game.
And then I just been having areally good time with the people
in my dare to show up group,some really kind of fun, and
(02:40):
also moving kind of things goingon. So that's just always a lot,
a lot of the ups and the downsand the middles and all the
things. And I had a moment thisweek, that felt really tough
because I had one of thosereply to email. It wasn't a
reply all but it was a reply tothe person it was forwarded
from. So basically, I reply toit to the wrong person. And it
(03:02):
was just a little bit, just oneof those little like, little
moments that makes you feel sickto your stomach. But it was all
okay, it was all good. I didn'tsay anything bad. But you know,
we all have those moments. Werejust like, oh, yeah, yeah, I
mean, yours was not that bad.
Because the email that you sent,it just went to the wrong
(03:23):
person. But it was a cool email.
Might have been read the wrongway initially, but it was a cool
email. Yeah, I think it mighthave been read the wrong way.
And it might have been read asan unprofessional email, but I'm
not really professional. Right?
And really, yeah, yeah. Not notin the like the like,
you know, the the dictionaryterm where you? Yeah, I meant it
(03:47):
as a compliment. Yes. Yes, Itake it as I take it as a
compliment. Good. So what's beengoing on with you? I was at the
same meet that you were at whereyou were crying.
Coach Bennett, the greater Tammyand I, we don't stand with each
other during races. We're atdifferent parts of the track for
a couple of different reasons.
Not not because we don't likehanging out with each other.
Just if you can space out whatyou're saying. And we look at
(04:10):
races a little bit differently.
So we yell different things. Andanyway, I called you at one
point.
And you answered it, and Iimmediately knew I didn't even
make it. Yeah, I didn't evenmake a noise. And you're like, I
think it was I was like hello.
You were like a tempo to yourbreathing. Well, you said hello.
(04:31):
And I said, Oh, she's she'scrying. You actually said stop
crying or don't cry.
Emotional, I think take a breakfrom crying so yells this yes,
that's exactly what you said.
Yeah, I'm not going to tell youto stop. But if you could pause,
just to let them know. It's downto basically two and a half
(04:54):
minutes of hard running andyou're going to achieve what you
want to achieve them.
then you can go back to crying.
Yeah. And that's pretty muchexactly what I did. I gave great
advice. I said what I needed tosay, it gave me focus. And then
I went back to crying again wasamazing. Yes. And this is the
thing. There's nothing wrongwith crying when you're watching
(05:14):
something that's making you cry.
But from a coaching point ofview, if you're the athlete,
hearing the instructions fromsomeone who's crying may throw
you.
Oh, it's hot. You don't want theathlete to lose focus. And
wonder, wait, that soundedweird. Were they crying when
(05:37):
they told me there's two minutesleft to go? So yeah, it was just
a little, little piece ofcoaching advice that we you
know, we give each otherit's been a fun week, you've got
this great group, doing yourdares.
I this month has been very busywith people right racing, doing
(05:58):
marathons and half marathons. SoI'm getting, it's always a fun
time of year, because I'mgetting lots of comments and
feedback and messages and racerecaps from from athletes that
I've kind of run with, so tospeak. So it's been a lot of
fun. For me, because it's such acelebratory atmosphere, even for
people who maybe aren'tcompletely achieving their goal.
(06:23):
It's, it's a great opportunityto remind them of everything
they've achieved, leading up tothe starting line of this of
this race. So yeah, it's been afun, fun couple of weeks. I just
want to say something aboutthat, because
I get a lot of those emails tohave updates from clients and
telling me about their wins. AndI think, you know, for me, and
you from a selfish point ofview, it's so fun and amazing to
(06:45):
get those emails, and you'relike, yes, so and so did it, you
know, and like, we give them avirtual high five. But I think
it's so good also, as from theathlete, or from the client,
that's sending us those things,for them to it, to take that
moment out of their day toacknowledge what they've done
and to share it with somebodythat's so powerful, I think to
see what you've done, and thento go tell somebody about it.
(07:09):
A certain level of confidenceand joy that you have to have to
be able to do that. So yeah, ifyou're listening, and you've
ever worked with us, send us anemail and shares your wins,
because we love, love, love tocelebrate with you. And we love
seeing you celebrate yourself.
Yeah, that's one of the coolestparts about being a coach is you
become this excuse for someoneto celebrate themselves. Which
(07:33):
is awesome. Because I'd love toparty, you know, I know you'd
like to party. So it's, it's,it's always fun to be invited
into their celebrations, whichis part of how you keep going,
it's part of the fuel, you can'tsustain anything, if you're not
enjoying it, if you're notcelebrating it. And on the flip
side, which is also nice. Ienjoy getting any feedback about
(07:59):
what's going on, including, itdidn't go well, I came up short.
I made some mistakes, becausethat's also an excuse to kind of
process and go through throughthese things. And part of it is
breaking it down and seeing whatwent really well that you're not
paying attention to. And it'salso breaking down what didn't
go well and trying to figure outwhy. So there's a purpose to
(08:20):
that as well. So I love theexcuse to kind of celebrate and
also just to look back on goodand bad. Because I think that's
a really important exercise too.
Because sometimes we're scaredto celebrate. And we're also
scared to be critical. Yeah,it's so important. Yep. Love it.
What's next? Mistake gettingused to kind of our thing. Oh,
we go straight into meat andtaters this
(08:41):
time. We've kept on waiting longenough.
Okay, well, I actually asked ifthe meat and taters this week
could really be inspired by theDARE program you're doing now.
Actually, the DARE programsounds like the thing for middle
school. Yeah, we're not talkingabout like, don't do drugs.
Although, yeah, you know, youshouldn't do most drugs. Yeah.
(09:05):
Okay. So give a little bit of aquick
overview of what you're doing.
And then I'll talk about why Iwant to talk about it.
Yeah, it's just for the month ofMay. I'm giving this group a
dare a day. And so I give themthe dare I explain why and what
(09:27):
it's based on, and then they godo it, or they don't do it. And
then they share all about it.
Give two or three examples. Oh,gosh, you're putting me on the
spot. Yeah.
I'll just I'll give you one fromI think today or yesterday. I
dare you to name a body partthat you love. The purpose of
that was to look at our bodiesin a way other than critically,
(09:51):
you know, tearing apart andfinding the flaws, and just
really appreciating, givingourselves appreciation for what
we look like or whatWe do what our body does for us
all the things.
One, this is an interesting onethat was very hard for some
people, it was ideal for you towrite a love letter to yourself,
which sounds a little similar tothe body one, but that one was
(10:14):
very hard for some people to do.
Another example wasseeing at the top of your lungs,
by yourself with your family inthe car and the dark and the
shower, I don't care where, butjust seeing like a belly sing,
right, like a belly laugh, butit's just sing your heart out to
a song. And that one's beenreally fun to see the feedback.
Yeah, I'm going to do that. Onthe way to the track meet
(10:38):
tonight for you. Yes, yeah. So Ilove your hope you're fired up
and excited about it. Can Irequest the song? Oh, you can
request the song doesn't meanI'm going to do it. Because I'm
not your jukebox. Okay, I'm morelikely to request what not to
singthan what I want you to sing.
But let me ask you a questionhere. Would you? Would you
(11:00):
rather see me happily singingsomething? Because sometimes
remember the covers better thanthe original? True?
Or do you? Do you want me tosettle for something that
in the background, because it'sreally going to be the
background. So I'm going to besinging as loud as I can, is a
song you don't like sired? Iknow, I'm not going to name the
(11:21):
band. I know what band you don'twant me to sing. And I won't
sing them. But let me just saythis. I live in the land of and
I believe fully with my heartthat you can find a song that
you feel absolute joy andsinging, and it's on my approval
list. So I think we can bothcome out a winner? Well, I It's
interesting, because I live inthe land of and too. And I
(11:45):
believe that I can sing a songthat's on my approval list, and
is not on your approval list.
And you will still enjoy it. Oh,that's a little ambitious. And
do you have a retort?
Okay, so that's great. So let metell you why I want to talk
about dares. Okay. Part of it isbecause of what we're doing here
(12:07):
with the podcast, because it'staken me forever, almost, to
actually do any kind of podcast.
And I was interested in yourgroup, and taking part in some
of it. And it suddenly dawned onme, so many of these things are
being done. And they'redifficult for people to do. But
(12:28):
the idea of being dared to do itis the impetus for getting it
done. And without the dare, eventhough it's a good thing, even
though it's something you wantto do, even though it's
something that maybe on a list,it won't get done. What is the
power of a dare to do that? Howdo you see what is the strength
(12:49):
of that? Because it goes back towhen you're a kid to that idea
of being dared to do somethingyou're more likely to to give it
a try. If someone who dares youand suddenly like alright, I'll
do it. What is it? What is it?
What do you see? What is thepower of a deer? Yeah, before I
get to that, though, you saiddouble dog dare. And that's
really cool, because I also givedouble dog dares, for every deer
(13:11):
that I give each day, there isalso a double dog dare if
someone's feeling like goingextra, I give them that option.
Okay, so what I think it is, isthat you're by being dared to do
something, you're notshouldering all the
responsibility for it. So if itdoesn't go over, well, you're
like, well, they dared me to doit, and it's not on you. So it
really is, in actuality, it ison you, you're the one who chose
(13:34):
to do it or not. But you cantrick your brain into going out
and doing it because you'retricking your brain into
thinking even if I fail even ifthis flops or doesn't go well,
no biggie. It's not on me. Ionly did it because they told me
to. So I think it's just alittle trick that we can use to
get our brain to go do the thingthat feels scary, because there
aren't the consequences don'tfeel as harsh. It's so
(13:57):
fascinating. It's interesting,because I had my original
thought on this was basicallywhat you were saying was there's
something about the riskassociated with doing something.
And when it's dared, that riskdoesn't really change, except
maybe the lighting on itchanges. It's a little bit
(14:18):
different. For whatever reasonand I think you you kind of
summed it up that it's you'renot shouldering all the burden
yourself.
It's it's part of the persondaring you as well as yourself.
And the idea of failing and adare for some reason does not
seem nearly as terrifying aswhen you're setting a goal or
(14:38):
attempting something new which Ijust find bizarre. Like if you
dared someone who's never runbefore, to dare I mean to run.
I bet their mentality would be alittle bit different because
most people Oh, I can't run I'mnot any good or I can't sing or
I can't act I can't write butit's like I dare you. And it's
like alright, fine, I'll do it.
You'll see and yeah, but thenthey try. Yeah,
(15:00):
So I mean, you know, when yousaid Middle School, it brought
me to like, you know, I rememberI don't remember a grade was
seventh or eighth when peoplewould dares you know, someone to
go ask somebody to go with them,which meant, like, we thought it
meant like dating or beingboyfriend, girlfriend. But
really, it just meant that thenall of a sudden, you ignore each
other and like, don't even lookat each other in, right. So
someone would say like, Hey, soand so I dare you to go ask
(15:22):
Katherine and go with you. Andthey would go do it because of
Katherine said, no, they can belike, Oh, I didn't really mean
it. Anyway, I just did itbecause they dared me to. So
that's what I mean by like it,the responsibility of the field
isn't on you, you can just brushit off. And it's, it's such a
healthy way to take on. And funway I think, which is what I
love about the group that you'vegot is it's such a fun way of
(15:45):
doing things that normally arescary. But now that you're
looking at them in this new way,they're just kind of silly and
ridiculous. And I don't meanthat in a negative way. And I
don't mean that diminishing inwhat you're doing. But there's
something a little bit more funabout it, it's similar to like,
when you see someone in awerewolf suit,
(16:06):
in December, at 2pm, walkingaround a store, it's silly. If
you're walking in the woodsalone, and you see somebody in a
werewolf suit, it's terrifying.
But to me, I don't know if thisis making any sense. But in my
head, this is perfect. It's justyou're you're changing how
something is perceived bylooking at it a little
differently. So jumping off thehigh board at the pool, which is
(16:29):
something that when I wasgrowing up, that was the big
deal that there was kind of alow board than there was a high
board. And there was an age thatyou weren't allowed to go on to
the high board. But it was scaryto go on the high board. I don't
know any kids who ever went offthe high board the first time,
and it wasn't a dare. It was anidea. You've never done it
(16:50):
before. On your own, you're notdoing it. You have three or four
people like come on a dairy and,and part of it, I think is also
the excitement aboutaccomplishing the day or, or at
least attempting the dare, whichis also really cool and really
positive as well.
(17:10):
Well, you know, I think one ofthe very first deer that I gave
was to have them write fivethings that they wish someone
would dare them to do. Becauselike if we use your high dive
example, all the kids want tojump from the high dive. They're
just scared. Yeah, that's, butit's almost like to be given
permission to do the thing youwant to do anyway. Yes, the dare
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gives you that permission. ButI'm going to just confess a
little sneaky thing, this wholedares thing has been a little
bit of a trick. And if you arelistening, and you're one of my
daredevils in that group, I loveyou so much. And this trick came
with all love. But the way thatI teach goals, and I think you
teach them very similarly, isthat you, you should take away
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the fear of failure. Right? Sothe joy of going after a goal is
the process of being the personwho goes after something and
you, you, you'll go after it,even if there's a chance that
you might fail, right? So theway that I teach goals is you're
going after this goal withoutfear of failure, that even if
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you do fail, which you willmultiple times on the way to a
successful goal, that it doesn'tthrow you off. It's not scary.
You're just like, Oh, yep,here's the time when I fail, now
I'm going to keep going. Soreally, this dear group is just
a way to have you go do thosethings without the fear of
failure, because now it's, theycan blame me for all of it.
Well, Tammy dared me to, andthere's no failure on them. So
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really, all I'm doing is showingthem that you can do things if
you take away the fear offailure.
Yeah, I agree. I love it. Ithink it's terrific. Once you
get rid of that you openyourself up to taking on so many
cooler things. I also think it'sa lot of fun to have the freedom
to fail. And I think that's whatsports is great at. I think the
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dare thing is really cool,because
I think there's this mentalitythat you have to be totally
successful on everything you do.
Sports is great. Because you'renever totally successful. You're
never 100% There is noperfection. And you're allowed
to miss shots, Miss goals, letgoals slip through, stumble come
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up short get fifth place, or 500plays. And it's not the end of
the world.
Which is one of the mostwonderful parts about sports and
play is where you can you canfail all the time. I love that
first dare that you had, or thatfirst project write down five
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dares you wish people dared youto do? Yeah, that is so
fascinating. I mean, you couldpeel that thing apart for hours
of what that means and whatyou're saying to yourself and
why can't that person who daresyou to do it just be you. I
mean, that'ssneaky. I like that. So
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I have two things to say. One isthe great thing about sport. And
that gives you the opportunityto fail and fail and play and
try and fail.
And I think that's somethingthat our era and an older missed
out on. I think that that wasnot the mentality that we were
brought up in, it was like whenat all costs, second place is
the first loser, all of thatkind of thought. And now I think
(20:22):
the tides are changing a littlebit.
And I've been well, we both beenlucky enough to speak at some
running conferences and clinicsand stuff. But one of the things
that I talk about is having atry chart try. And basically
charting and celebrating all thetimes that you went for
something, maybe you tried adifferent event, maybe you tried
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to go out faster than normal, orslower than normal, but trying
something different, and notgiving a fuck about if you fail
or not, but celebrating the factthat you went and tried
something. So yeah, I think thatthat just goes hand in hand with
what you're saying that sportsis the perfect opportunity to
practice failing to practicetrying and celebrating the
trying. And in doing so you'regoing to win a hell of a lot
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more. And I agree with you 100%.
I think thatour generation would have
benefited greatly on the playingfields if we were coached a
slightly different way. Yeah,completely. The other thing that
I wanted to say is somethingthat I've observed in this deers
group is that so many people inthis group now are going and
doing other daring things. Sothey are doing things that were
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on that list the first day thatthey made a five things they
wish they were dared to do,they're just going ahead and
doing them without me daringthem to. And they're just going
ahead and doing these otherthings. Like I've had people in
the group that have applied forjobs. I've had people do a price
quote for a job that was liketwice as high as I'd ever done
before. These crazy things thatthey're feeling safer in doing
(21:49):
because they've exercised thattheir muscle. And I think what
happens is you do this dare thatfeels a little safe because
Tammy dared me to or Johnny onthe playground dared me to, and
then you realize like, Oh, Ijust asked for a thing. And I
still live to tell the tale. Andyou know, and like you realize,
like, oh, it's actually kind ofsafe to like put myself out
(22:11):
there. And so then you do it ina little bit scarier way. And
then you realize, hey, I'm stillkicking, I'm still here. And so
like you just like, graduallyexpand your safety zone of the
daringness. You just get moreand more daring. And so anyway,
I just that was a really funobservation. And we're not even
through the month yet. Andthere's already people really
being bold out there. And you'reteaching people to dare to dare,
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which is so awesome. So muchfun. You want to do some petty
grievances. Let's do it. Do youhave one? I have one. Okay, once
you start,this petty grievance of mine is
going to sound very familiar toan earlier petty grievance of
mine, but they irk me equally,so I think they both deserve a
chance to be heard. This one isthe empty toiletries that are
(22:57):
left in the bathrooms. So thismay be a container of I juice or
I guess people call it contactsolution. Juice. I call it I use
lotion, shampoo. It's just emptyon the counter, literally within
arm's reach, or arm's length, orinches literally inches less
(23:19):
than a foot away from the trashcan.
Or recycling bin.
But yet they're they're empty onher counterspace are very, very,
what do you call that when like,it's a prized thing like, or
it's you don't have much of it,but you prize it? I don't know.
(23:41):
What's what people say aboutcounterspace when you always
want more of it, and there'snever enough real estate. Yeah,
yeah, but I don't mean. Yeah.
That just makes me think of forsale signs. That's not really
the imagery, but you know what Imean? I was thinking more
something like gold territory orlike, huh,
yeah, but anyway, that's it.
Okay. It's interesting. What'syours?
(24:05):
Mine is actually something Isaw.
Recently, when I was at a stopsign the car in front of me, and
I knew it was going to happenbecause I know they do it every
single time. If I ever seesomeone smoking in their car, I
know what's coming.
The scumbag throws theircigarette butt out the window
(24:27):
when they're done. So it's notdisgusting enough that at a
stoplight or a stop sign. I havemy window down and I have to
inhale your smoke.
You then have to litter bythrowing your butt out into the
street. Just throw yourcigarette butt away.
(24:51):
Like as I've stuffed in my car,I've trashed my car. I don't
drop it out the window when I'mdone with it. All right, I've
gone on too long. Tamizh rollingyour head and sighing loudly.
Let's open up the mailbag.
While you're while you'reruffling through the mailbag.
Can I just say that it pleasedus to no end, where we got our
(25:14):
first package in the mailto our mailbag. And it was from
a listener who was alsoparticipated in a class that me
and you taught Coach Bennett,best runner ever. And he sent us
something incredible. We haven'trevealed it yet, but we're going
to reveal it on our Instagramjust because it'll be really
fun. But we are just thinkingyou, Eric, so much from the
(25:36):
bottom of our heart, for yoursupport and for your enthusiasm,
and for celebrating with us thatwe started this podcast. Okay,
once you got the mailbag.
Okay, I decided to go with one.
That's a little silly, butactually pretty interesting. And
I, I'm not exactly sure whatyour answer is going to be on
(25:56):
this, which is why I find itinteresting. It's, what is your
favorite game that you have onyour phone? Oh,
I'm ready. Are you? Yeah, mine'sa complicated answer. But yes.
Okay, then go for it. I have agame called dominations.
(26:20):
Okay, it's one of those gamesthat takes if you're building
like little civilizations, andthen you can like go to war, and
all that kind of stuff. Theproblem is, is I refuse to pay
for anything. So I'm at a pointnow where anything I tried to do
or build takes five to sevendays,
is you have to wait for thingsto refill. You can't just like
(26:40):
buy them. You can buy them. Butum, but you won't buy them. You
won't? Well, I'm not No, I'mnot. I don't like the game that
much. So I'm stuck saying, Well,I'm going to build a cannon and
it says, Okay, this is going totake seven days. Now I got
nothing to do. I don't careenough to keep coming back into
(27:01):
it. So I'll forget. And I'llcome back in four days later and
see three days left to go. Well,I see you playing games almost
every day. So what are youplaying? While domination is
like building things in theback? I'm not you see that as
that's absolutely not true.
What's the games? There's likegreen grass. And there's like
these little men, and they'relike fighting and throwing rocks
and stuff. What's that? First ofall, you you don't have to
(27:23):
describe my games in such aridiculous way. That's what I
see out of the corner of my eyewith green grass. And guys
walking around throwing littleguys rocks at each other. First
of all, you're trying todescribe this dominations game.
But I'm not playing it. Whatyou're seeing is me opening it
(27:45):
up and realizing I got nothingto do and then I turned it off.
Now you check on that a lot,then, oh, this is see this is
the thing like once a day, likefrequently not like a lot of
hours, but I don't check on itonce a day.
So that's just absolutely nottrue. This is fake news. So
(28:08):
I will say every once in a whileI go into Candy Crush, and I
either can't get the board. Andthen that's another one that
says like, you can either pay oryou have to wait like 20
minutes. And I'm like, forgetit. And I don't come back for
three weeks. But there will betimes where suddenly like the
other night I wanted to go tobed. And I couldn't stop
winning. And I actually waslaughing with Jack. I said I
(28:28):
just want to go to bed, but Ikeep getting through these
boards.
And I was actually hoping that Ilost and eventually I did.
So those are the only two games.
I'm not a big game player. Idon't have any games that those
are the only two that ever getopened. Okay. So what about you?
I've been playing toon blast t on blast for a couple years now.
(28:52):
I think Yeah. And so I was justI just looked it up. I'm on
level 2762 You're on level what2762 Did it start at 2500 I'm
literally like, I rememberbefore I started my podcast in
2019. I met with some differentpeople to talk to like they had
(29:16):
taken my classes to find outwhat they liked about me like
like sort of like a focus group.
So I would know what to talkabout on my podcast. And in one
of those meetings I remembertelling the two women I was with
that I wanted to do a wholepodcast episode about toon blast
and how it's like great lifelessons. And it took me with
like the blankest Blinkiststairs, so I haven't looked the
(29:39):
way I'm looking at you rightnow. Yes, exactly. It's same
exact look. Yeah, but that wasin 2019. And here we are in
2023. And I'm still playing itI'm a loyal fan. Is that the
game that has the sound of whatsounds like someone dragging a
wet corpse across the floor. Idon't use it with sound and I
don't know what that would soundlike but that's gross.
(30:00):
Well, you play one game wherewhen you slide your fingers
Oh, okay, so that's the otherone. So that one is called drag
in the letter N merge. So you'remerging two blocks together to
add up to a big number. But thisis one of those similar to what
you just said, where I'm kind ofgood at it. And so sometimes the
(30:21):
games will literally like Ithink one of them literally took
over 30 minutes. And I justdon't have time to be doing
that. I don't have time to bedoing a 30 minute plus game. But
I'm at that point where I'm justso good. That I'm in it. Like if
I decide to play it, I'm in it.
So I don't play that one asmuch. Yeah, but that's the one
that makes that noise. Can youdo it again?
(30:44):
And then that's that's draggingsomething across the floor. That
shouldn't be you like you.
You're doing this at night.
You've already put gum on thesecurity camera lenses like this
is nothing good is happening.
When I hear that noise, andit's, it's really a gross noise.
I'll tell you that when you doplay with volume. I do. There is
something very satisfying to meabout that noise. Even though
(31:06):
I'm one of those people thatreally hate I hate gross noises.
Right, but there's somethingsatisfying about that particular
noise and I think it's probablyenhanced by your noise
anointment of it. anointmentanointment
annoyance annoyance of it. Whenwe met sounds like something you
rub on your body anointmentointment Yeah. Yeah, that's
(31:30):
you don't in the mailbag shouldbe, which we talked about on a
run once with Daniel, theengineer, which was one of the
grossest words. Yes. I don'twant to talk about them here
because I don't like them. Yeah,but we discussed the difference
between jelly and ointment. Oh,jelly is for sandwiches. Well,
(31:52):
jelly is also for donuts, butjelly is made of you. It's an
ointment is a jelly likesubstance. It's just pointment
like you have to pinch your faceand it's just awful. But anyway,
my anointment Yes, yes. enhancesmy enjoyment. That for up oh,
one word that doesn't exist inthat sense. That's not bad for
(32:14):
you. I know. I know. So so.
Shall we move on to our floatingfancies?
Yeah, floating fancies. We'regetting close to wrapping up.
I'm sad to see you leave. But doyou have a floating fancy? Or
what is floating your fancy?
Well, I have a couple of thingscoming up that I'm looking
forward to so one of myfavorites section. That's a
(32:35):
different section. No, no, no,you're you're missing my point.
One of my floating fancies aretrailers. Okay, we're off on
coming out right now. I lovetrailers. I love teaser
trailers. I love full trailers.
I love me watch trailers, but Ilook at it as if it's an art
(32:56):
form. And it really bothers mewhen a trailer doesn't do the
movie justice.
I'm okay with a trailer givingtoo much justice to a movie. I'm
okay with that. I'm fine withthe trailer being great in the
movie stinking. I'm okay.
Because I respect the trailer inand of itself. But there were a
couple good ones that just cameout recently, which I'm excited
about. The dune one came out.
(33:20):
The latest Indiana Jones onecame out the trailer for the new
season of the bear just cameout. The new Martin County. Yep,
the Martin Scorsese LeonardoDiCaprio movie that's coming
out, which is also a great book.
So yeah, that's my floating myfancy right now our trailers for
TV shows and movies.
(33:43):
Yeah, and I mean, that's reallyfunny because you so often make
me sit down and watch trailers,and I do it with all the big
regiment in the world. And thenI say almost always 99% of the
time. 99.8% of the time. I'mlike, Oh, that was good. Thank
you for making me watch that.
(34:03):
Did my wheels your fancydoesn't? Wait, did I did I just
fall apart at the end of thatsentence? My word did
my word disappeared. fell off acliff right there. Like I just
my brain just couldn't finishthe sentence. Anyway, all right,
move on. What's tickling yourfancy floating your fancy?
Tickling fancies. Alright, goahead.
(34:27):
Um, okay, this is kind of weird,but I Okay, so I love to mow the
lawn. And I think I've mowed thelawn on Mother's Day, like many
many years in a row or not in arow, but like on many, many
mother's days. It's justsomething that I really like to
do. I find a peaceful, I lovethe smell of cut grass, blah,
blah, blah. So this pastMother's Day, I was cutting our
(34:47):
lawn and we have this lawn mowerthat you bought recently. Green
Works is the brand and it's ecofriendly. It's really quiet but
it's really powerful anddoesn't use gas you just like
recharge the battery. And Icannot tell you how much I love
this lawnmower. I just love it.
(35:07):
For all the reasons I mentioned.
It's just so quiet. Andeverything smells good. And I
love that it's eco friendly. Soanyway, I just wanted to give
him a shout out Greenworks lawnmower. Well done. Yeah. Okay,
what's on deck? What's next foryou in the next week or two?
Well, let's just do week becausethen we'll be here with another
podcast, and we don't want togive it all away. Well, after we
(35:27):
record this, I am hopefullygoing to be recording what will
become the first episode ofcoach Bennis podcast, we're also
working with you is what hasinspired me to finally do that
podcast you were the push that Ineeded to Thank you, Coach
Bennett, for being my motivationand inspiration to finally work
(35:51):
on Coach Bennett podcast. You'reso welcome. But this is actually
a great example of doingsomething that feels safer, can
lead you to doing the scarierthing, right. So I'm not saying
that you're scared of doing thepodcast, but maybe. Okay, so but
like doing it with me, we haveeach other to sort of like help
each other through we both aretaking responsibility of
(36:12):
different parts. So it's lesscomplicated and hard, like
logistically, and it's just funto have us both together. So now
that you're like, oh, podcastingis actually easier than I
thought. It is not as scary as Ithought. Now you're ready to go
do like the more like the nextlevel. So yeah, it took to coach
Bennett's talking for one CoachBennett to talk by himself. Look
at that. Oh,yeah. All right. What about you?
(36:37):
What do you got coming up? Okay,I have a boring thing and a fun
thing. So the boring thing is,this is so boring, but like it's
time consuming. And I'm going totalk about it. Dang it. It is
I'm switching over to a newemail system, which is I know,
but listen, it's much morefunctional. But it's not as
pretty and cute. And so my workthis next week is to make it
(36:59):
better looking so that I enjoyit more so that I actually do
it. And this is just one ofthose like life lessons work
lessons of like finding ways tomake it more enjoyable, more
fun, more easy. So then youactually want to do it and get
it done. So that's like the sortof boring one but I'm going to
make it sort of boring one. ButI'm going to make it fun with
the graphics or whatever Idecide the fun. The other fun
(37:22):
one is we have a daughter goingto prom. And we have our
daughters competing in the statechampionships for Oregon, which
we are so so lucky that they getto run their state championship
meet in Hayward field. Indeed,do you want to just give like a
two sentences about Haywardfield just in case there's
(37:44):
someone listening that doesn'tknow the magic of it.
Hayward field, if you're abaseball fan would be like the
Wrigley Field Fenway Park YankeeStadium of of track and field
facilities or theyou know, it's basically the
most legendary track in theUnited States, North America and
(38:06):
one of the most legendary andhistorical venues in the world.
It got redone a few years ago.
So now it's one of the mostbeautiful facilities, if not the
most beautiful Track and Fieldfacility on the planet. So if
you've never seen it, look up soyou can get a vibe for both old
(38:29):
Hayward field and then newHayward field. It's on the
University of Oregon's campus inEugene, Oregon. And that is
where the Oregon State meet willbe at the end of May. So and
then if you're really reallywant to get excited look up
email functionality. No, look uphow to make emails cute. Oh, I'm
sorry, I forgot what you see.
You're doing one thing. You haveto find that fun in it. Oh, in
(38:50):
the functionality. Find the funthat functionality? Yes. Great
logo slogan. There we go. Allright. Well, that's exciting.
Hey, I think we're at the finishline, which really, according to
you is just another startingline. That's right. So thanks
for joining us. And if you likedthis, I mean, how could you not
(39:14):
like this? You're going to likeit and share it and subscribe to
it. Tell all your friends aboutit. We dare you to tell someone
about it. Oh, see, I brought itfull circle back taters part. We
dare you to share it with asmany people as you can. And I'll
dare you to come back next week.
(39:36):
Oh, double dog dare. That's thedouble dog dare. Yeah, come back
next week. Fantastic. All right.
Great. Well, thanks, CoachTammy. Thanks, coach, Chris.
Thanks, listeners. Thank you.
Bye.
Thank you for hanging out withus today. We hope you subscribe
if you haven't already, and we'dlove for you to give us a good
(39:58):
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