Thailand on $800: The Trade-Offs of Escape

Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_04 (00:00):
And we are back with another episode or two for the
culture.
I'm Justin Devante.
I'm Stephen Ray.
Yes, sir.
And we are back.
How you feeling?
I feel like I just saw you.
Yeah, I know, right?
It was just recently Friday thatwe did a podcast.

SPEAKER_05 (00:14):
Yeah.
How was your weekend?
Um, I watched a lot of moviesthis weekend.
Okay.
Like back to back.

SPEAKER_04 (00:20):
Um any new ones that you've seen, or is it like old
nostalgic movies?

SPEAKER_05 (00:23):
One was old, it's called Copycat.
Have you seen that?
That sounds familiar.
Yeah, that was dope.
Uh it's like a psychological,all of them were psychological
thrillers.
Um then I got more into the likethe murder mystery thing.
And I saw uh green it's notcard.
I don't know why I say greencard.
But um green, green, greensomething.

(00:46):
But it was an army movie with umwho who's uh what's the what's
the dude's name?
They they like friends.
Ben Affleck, his friend.
Oh yeah, yeah.
Yeah, they be all they be inmovies together sometimes.

SPEAKER_04 (00:58):
I know you're talking about Matt.
Matt Damon.

SPEAKER_05 (01:00):
Is that him?

SPEAKER_04 (01:01):
That's the one I'm thinking about.

SPEAKER_05 (01:02):
That's the one I'm thinking about.
Uh yeah, no, I just reallywanted to see some great acting.
That that's the main thing thatI you talk about Jason Bourne?
Yeah, yeah, Matt Damon.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
That was fire.
I got you.
Third movie, my eyes was liketwitching watching that shit.

SPEAKER_04 (01:18):
I got you.

SPEAKER_05 (01:18):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (01:19):
Do you still because it'd be so much happening in
this area, because I'd bedriving a lot in this area
specifically too.
Do you just want to be likewalking around amongst the
people at all?

SPEAKER_05 (01:28):
Um sometimes I'll walk.
Sometimes I haven't in a second.
Like, like uh, you had askedlike what you got going today,
like I I need to go outside.
Like, you know, just I don'tknow, get get some different
type of energy.
But sometimes I'll do that.
I'll I'll walk around or up thatthat that street where
everything is.

SPEAKER_04 (01:47):
Like even the uh the restaurant that's right up the
street from you, Abba, like thatthe scenery is very nice.
I think that you'll if you get adrink at the bar or something,
you'll you'll be like, it'scrazy.

SPEAKER_05 (01:57):
I I yeah, I saw that.
That that was um it was crazy.
Like the the one of those daysthat I was um just in the area
and I I saw it was packed outand I was like, oh, this shit is
open.
Yeah, but uh, how was yourweekend?

SPEAKER_04 (02:13):
Um it was cool.
I was just pretty much workingall weekend.
I I'm trying to figure out if Idid anything.
No, I didn't do anything specialum because I worked um the
full-time job and then I didovertime for that, and then
after that I worked Uber andthen Sunday's the same ritual
wake up, um, get ready forchurch, go to church, um, you

(02:38):
know, uh get uh Sunday lunch,work, yeah, yeah, and then
that's it.
So it's like yeah, literally thesame ritual.
Um yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (02:50):
You feel exhausted or something?

SPEAKER_04 (02:52):
Oh, uh so actually I just switched up the ritual.
I did go take a nap right afterchurch.
Okay.
Oh right.
Yeah, that's dude, that's whereyou know you're getting older.
I took a nap.
Yeah, oh, it was that's it.
I was like, yep, I'm gonna fallasleep.
Yeah.
Um, yeah, when I say it, itsounds it sounds worse coming
out of my mouth.

(03:12):
Yeah, yeah, it does.
But it's not like you just bedoing a lot.
Yeah, I mean, yeah, it it'sunfortunate because it's you
know, it just goes through one.
It's not like I'm re I guess Ireap the benefits because my
bills are being paid.
Yeah, but it just goes throughone uh door and not the other.
So I'm sorry, you know, there'sa lot of people that uh
benefits, and sometimes I feellike, dang, am I really

(03:35):
benefiting?
But I guess I do.
You know, it it it'll makehopefully in the next year when
I have a lot of things paid off,yeah, then I'll feel like okay,
this was worth it.
But at the end of the day, I'mnot tripping because it's kind
of what I do.

SPEAKER_05 (03:47):
Yeah, you can uh move to Thailand, my homie can,
he just moved.
And how's he liking it?
Yeah, he's been he's beentalking to me every single day,
maybe like two or three times aday.
Yeah, he uh it's crazy.
Like I I looked on Google Mapsand I gotta like he's literally
on the opposite end of theearth, like we're on opposite

(04:09):
ends.
So if it's uh what time is itnow?
It's 7 uh p.m.
here it's 7 a.m.
there.
So it's like you don't reallygotta think too much.

SPEAKER_04 (04:17):
Um do they have uh black and mouse in Thailand?

SPEAKER_05 (04:22):
Uh uh, I don't know.
I don't know.
I'm not sure.
I got you.
Uh he he might try to find out.

SPEAKER_04 (04:29):
No, no, yeah, sure.

SPEAKER_05 (04:30):
I'll probably spoke with a hoes of but um uh uh uh
yeah, so you know, he he justhe's going to a couple different
places there just trying to getyou know acclimated and stuff,
and he just moved in.
Um, you know, the the rent thereis like$800 for like a

(04:51):
two-bedroom and a high-rise uhnice area in the the the area
where everything's popping at.
This man went shopping.
He got a Rolex for$50, USdollars.

SPEAKER_04 (05:04):
That sounds like the fake Rolex and this.

SPEAKER_05 (05:06):
I I don't know.
I I mean I just think like let'slet's keep going with that.
So he went to 7-Eleven and hegot a big ass sprite for 30
cents.
I knew he was gonna say Rolex.

SPEAKER_04 (05:16):
Yeah, big ass Rolex.

SPEAKER_05 (05:17):
That's where he got it.
But uh No, but that's what I'msaying.
So like you know, he got a bigass sprite at the 7 at a
convenience store for 30 cents.

SPEAKER_04 (05:28):
The only reason why I feel like it's fake because a
lot of people would just go toThailand and and there's a back
order on Rolexes too.
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like you can't just buy new,it's like typically used from
what my understanding of Rolexesare.
And people you collect them tomake money off them.
So a bunch of people would begoing to Thailand and for Rolex
was fifty dollars, but it wasworth 10,000 here.

SPEAKER_05 (05:50):
Oh, right.

SPEAKER_04 (05:50):
Unless it was like a pawn shop and no, no, no, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (05:53):
No, no, they got a big ass, they got hella malls
out there.
He was just telling me thedifference uh between the price,
but he already knew how this wasgoing.
But um it's just a hugedifference.
And then we were talking to ourother homie, he's like known in
Thailand.
Like he's from Memphis, um,Space Baby, I think is his name
on uh on IG.

(06:14):
And he's the if you type inThailand, you the his videos are
gonna pop up.
Because like he he's like themain one who moved there, and
then he was a content creator,he's just like us, like one of
the one of the the the on thatuh um you can count on your
hand, the amount of people kindof like us that was from
Memphis.
So I know I I've seen thisstuff.

(06:35):
Maybe maybe you've seen it.

SPEAKER_04 (06:36):
Okay, is he is he like light skin like dark skin?
Okay, nah.

SPEAKER_05 (06:39):
Dark skin space, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (06:41):
I'm sure y'all did some type of collaboration video
before.

SPEAKER_05 (06:44):
I haven't with him, but all of our friends are, you
know, he he's he's damn nearbest friends with Richard.
You know Richard.

SPEAKER_04 (06:50):
Uh yeah, yeah, that's the dude that's white.
White Richard, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (06:53):
So um they grew up together.

SPEAKER_04 (06:56):
Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_05 (06:56):
Yeah, but um, yeah, either way, like he was the
first person to go out there,and he was just like, my rent,
uh$700.

SPEAKER_02 (07:04):
That's the hit of hot rod.
What y'all doing?

SPEAKER_05 (07:07):
You know, just stuff like that.
I I love it.
But um, it's just crazy.
It's just crazy to talk to Kent.
Kent called me like at what timethis man, the man called me at
like 2 a.m.
yesterday, which is 2 p.m.
over there.
And this man was on the back ofa motorcycle.
As soon as I answered, he justlike on the back of the

(07:27):
motorcycle, like cheesing.
And you just see Thailand in thebackground.
And he he told me, like, youknow, that that that that ride
that was uh 20 minutes or so waslike two dollars.
It's just like it's totallyeverything is different out
there.
So shout out to him for makingthat move.

SPEAKER_04 (07:45):
That's crazy.
Okay, so I thought he was makingthis move for like some type of
sponsor thing.

SPEAKER_05 (07:50):
No, this is Ken trying to just go to Thailand.

SPEAKER_04 (07:54):
Okay, have you thought about because you can
work uh uh remote anywhere?

SPEAKER_05 (07:58):
I can, I'm not.
I got I got you.
I'm not gonna do it, man.
You know, even out here inNashville, shout out to
Nashville.
Um even out here, I find myselfwanting to be around more black
people, like in general.
And I I feel like if I feel likethat, it's I'm gonna just go to
Thailand.

(08:19):
You know what I'm saying?
Like, and on top of that, I havemy daughter, so it's it's X'd
out anyway, right?
Right.
But uh I don't see myself livinganywhere outside of the country
for more than a few months.
I guess right now in my life.
Yeah, I I I'll go, you know,experience it, but I need some
relatability, some like back andforth.

(08:40):
You know, it felt so weird whenI went to um uh uh something
around here and they had trivianight, everybody was talking and
stuff, and on the opposite endit was two white girls, and I
was just like, you know, justtrying to make conversation.
It was just different, you knowwhat I'm saying?
I I was looking for the blacktable.

SPEAKER_04 (08:58):
I feel you.

SPEAKER_05 (08:59):
Yeah, like where y'all like I I can thrive there,
you know what I'm saying?
Not even just thrive, but justlike be.
You know, yeah, yeah.
So if I feel like that here, Idon't know if I could just like
live somewhere like forever.
Yeah.
But they have amazing benefits.
Would you would you go?

SPEAKER_04 (09:20):
Uh no.
Everything$2?
No.
I I don't have that.
I don't I don't work remote, soI don't have that ability.
If you could.
Um, if I could and say if Ididn't have um any obligations
to be here, like if I didn'thave like a family or something.
Right here.
I I would visit obviously firstand see and catch a field.

(09:42):
But if there was like, say ifyou was living in Thailand,
you're like, bruh, you ain't gotnothing going on in in
Nashville.
Yeah, come to Thailand.
I probably would come toThailand.
Yeah.
Why why not?
If I could, if I had theability, if I work remote, yeah,
I would definitely do it if iflike one of my homies were like,
if Tater somebody or you or likeyeah, I'm like, all right, you
you're familiar with it andyou've been around, yeah.

(10:03):
Then yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (10:04):
That that is funny.
That is like that's what I toldKen.
I don't even like flying.
I don't like flying.
It just takes one little whoopwhoop, like on the plane.
I'm like, this one like planes.
Yeah, but I had to see Kaya somuch.
Yeah, that's what I say.
You flew often a lot.
I flew a lot, but uh to see her,but Kaya's my daughter, guys.

(10:26):
But um, yeah, I had to see herso much that you would think
that I would have got used to itby now, but I just man, I can't
I don't like it, bro.
But um I told him, I was like,bro, if I go to Thailand, bro,
this shit is 100% for you, bro.
Like, this is not for me.
Like, I'm not trying, like, seethe views and all that, like,

(10:46):
quickly Googleable.
Like, yeah, so this is that thisis a brotherhood thing, you
know.
And cost of living.
And cost of it's I again, I knowI'm not I'm not moving out
there, but um No, I'm justsaying that's the reason it
can't, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (11:02):
If it's expensive, if you lived in Japan, or like
Brad's expensive hell, but Iwant you to come.
Yeah, I don't know.
You know what I mean?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But if you like broughteverything to dollars, all
right, but like yeah, yeah, it'sjust like you just pay for the
forest.
That's an easier decision tomake.

SPEAKER_05 (11:17):
My cousin has been like really forcing it in my
head, like for more than acouple years now about Thailand.
He's him and his wife havetraveled the world basically,
and they're gonna probably keepdoing it.
But um, they have told memultiple times before Ken said
something, before I seen space,that that's the dude that from

(11:39):
Memphis.
Um before I seen all that, mycousin has been telling me,
like, you know, Thailand is likethe place you need to go.
You can if you got a thousandno, he said Bali for sure.
Like, if you got a thousanddollars and you live in Bali,
like you live like a king.
And um, yeah, so Thailand issort of kind of close to that.

SPEAKER_04 (12:01):
Okay.

SPEAKER_05 (12:02):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (12:02):
No, that's actually dope.
I'm I'm happy for I I hope hecan like do a vlog or whatever.

SPEAKER_05 (12:07):
No, that's what he's doing.
That's what he's doing rightnow.
He's recording everything.
He's gonna change like his uhwell, I'll let him do that and
then him show the world.

SPEAKER_04 (12:15):
Okay, his his style of how he does things.

SPEAKER_05 (12:17):
Uh uh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
But like his whole thing is todo that.
Is to literally because you knowthat that's the main thing that
he has really.
He's black, he's a Memphisnigga, he's in Thailand.
Like, that's contentimmediately.
You don't even got you could doregular stuff.

SPEAKER_04 (12:32):
Yeah, absolutely.
Yeah, yeah, I think that's thewhole thing.
Yeah, and yeah, it it's fun, youknow what I mean.
I wonder how they the people seehim.
Exactly.

SPEAKER_05 (12:41):
Yeah, when I saw when he when he FaceTime me, he
was on the back of themotorcycle just going to the
mall, he was cheesing hard ashell.
Like I started smiling.
It's just like I I don't, it'sjust somebody something that's
relatable and somewhere superforeign is is is is like
captivating a little bit.

SPEAKER_04 (13:00):
So yeah, and I wonder how just um like overall,
like it sounds like he'sgenuinely happy.
And I wonder if moving out ofthe states just give you that.
Like, you know what I mean?
Just like Brad.
So much stress, stress here.
You you're keeping up with theJoneses.

SPEAKER_05 (13:19):
That's exactly that is exactly why he uh made that
decision.

SPEAKER_04 (13:23):
Yeah, but now you like Brad, y'all doing y'all
still hold that in America, youknow what I mean?
Like y'all stressed about thoselittle things, and I can get to
enjoy my time with the people.
We all don't got much, you knowwhat I mean?
No, you got much.
No, I'm just saying, like, like,but I'm saying they're not
they're probably not worriedabout the things you're that
Americans don't.

(13:44):
They are.

SPEAKER_05 (13:45):
You're not.
Well, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (13:47):
Well, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (13:48):
Yeah, it's like a it's a whole different thing.
It's like coming over here andjust being rich, you know what
I'm saying?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So everybody, they they it'sit's regular humans, yeah, yeah.
You know, dealing with regularhuman stuff, but yeah, it's
totally different.
Let me look that up.
What's the difference between uhuh uh what's what's what's
what's a good amount of money?

(14:08):
You just gotta check for$5,000.
Let's say that$5,000,$5,000 inThai bot, which is their money.
How much is five thousanddollars in Thailand?

SPEAKER_04 (14:23):
But you gotta understand uh what how much is
the currency like in terms of Iwish I could yeah, I wish I
could do that.
Yeah, yeah, but I mean we canmaybe work on that another time.
Yeah, but but you explained.

SPEAKER_05 (14:35):
So 16,000 though.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But yeah, but no, that's thatthat is what it is, though.
Like again, let's go by rent.
Like a place like he's stayingat, probably three grand.
Yeah, right.
$800.

SPEAKER_04 (14:46):
Right, exactly.
Yeah, so that's yeah, I mean,that's still a really good deal.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
That's just rent.
And that's in a commentary.
And that's a phenomenal area.
That's what I'm saying.
Yeah, in a phenomenal area.
Yeah, yeah, because you can pay$800 somewhere.
You just have a roommate, youknow what I mean?
A gun.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You have a room, but he's paying$800 on his own, and that's
maybe utilities.

(15:07):
Everything.
Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_05 (15:08):
Yeah, I mean, I don't know.
He he would have to explain thatmore.
But like uh when he wassearching for places, though
that that would those were thetype of places.
Yeah, and he and then he'slooking I mean Batman, like like
the rooftop, the the somethingat the bottom, the pool that
looks crazy, the 800.

SPEAKER_04 (15:25):
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah, and I feel like that'sprobably what it really should
be.
You know, yeah, like because uhuh this is like a thousand
people in this one building orwhatever.

SPEAKER_05 (15:35):
Yeah, 800, that's it's not a thousand.

SPEAKER_04 (15:39):
All right, I I say a thousand, that's a lot of
people.

SPEAKER_05 (15:42):
But no, I I say that to say because he had FaceTiming
when he went on his balcony,he's on the 21st floor.
That shit looks scary.
Yeah, yeah, and there's like 30floors.

SPEAKER_04 (15:54):
Yeah, I'm saying that's probably a thousand
people there.
That's what I'm saying.
Uh-huh.
Yeah, yeah.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah, so that's 800.
So 80 times 800 times a thousandis 800,000 a month.
That seems like whoever has itwho owns that building is making
their money.
You know, I don't know.
Plus fees and stuff like that.
And I'm just saying it though.

SPEAKER_05 (16:15):
Yeah, they're stacked.
Yeah, yeah.
Stacked.
Yeah, so yeah, when after afterhe uh he FaceTimed me when he
first walked into his apartment,um, and he went to the balcony,
like I wanted him to get off thebalcony, and I'm on FaceTime.
Yeah, he's on the 21st floor,and I realized even if I stay at

(16:36):
a high rise, my shit probablygonna cap at 10.
Yeah, I gotta tell the landlordwhatever, like, I'm not doing
more than 10.
That shit, that on FaceTime.
I was like, you you kind ofclose to the edge, bro.
You might need to back up alittle bit.
Because you can just jump offthe ho.
Yeah, lose your phone orsomething.

(16:56):
That shit should be barred.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You're right.
Yeah, don't have kids up there.
But uh, but yeah, that was thatwas too funny.
What you got for us?
All right, so what I got for ustoday.
Today, what we at 17.
All right, so today, um let's gowith the facts first.

(17:17):
The fun stuff is the this orthat that I have, right?
So um the interesting facts.
What do you think DenzelWashington's top two grossing
films are?
What's number one?
Do you think?
You have two tries.
Training day.
I thought that too.
No, not even in the top two.

(17:38):
I just gave you a huge clue.
Not even in the top two.
Okay.
Yeah, it's gotta be a blackfavorite, like only.
Yeah, I got you.

SPEAKER_04 (17:49):
If training day is not in the top two, what's
number one?
Um I know it's gonna besomething I know.
Yeah, for sure.
Uh I'm just trying to say DenzelWashington presents.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Uh can I get a hint?
Is it if I get you a hint, it'sgonna fuck out.

(18:10):
I know it's the one where he wasblind and Malcolm X?
No.
Uh blind and he was uh like itwas like an apocalypse.
Talking about Eli?
Yeah, Book of Eli.
You think that?
I'm guessing.
I'm trying to think ofsomething.

(18:31):
I'm judging you on that.
You know they ain't made nomoney.

SPEAKER_05 (18:34):
Remember the Titans.
Remember the all right, you did.
But remember the Titans wasfire.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I need to watch that again,actually.
Yeah, number one, I knew youwasn't gonna get this one.

SPEAKER_04 (18:44):
Yeah, is Gladiator.
Oh, oh, which makes sense tothink about it.

SPEAKER_05 (18:48):
Yeah, that's the top gross.
Number two is American Gangster.

SPEAKER_04 (18:52):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
That was fire.
Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (18:54):
But yeah, I would have thought train a day would
be up there.

SPEAKER_04 (18:57):
Yeah, right.

SPEAKER_05 (18:57):
Yeah, at least in the top five.
It's not in the top five.

SPEAKER_04 (19:00):
That's yeah, for sure.
I wouldn't have guessedGladiator because it was too
recent.
Yeah, I just it's not gonna bein my mind.

SPEAKER_05 (19:05):
I mean, even if it was recent, I I ain't I I didn't
think that.
Yeah, I got you.
Um, interesting fact.
Did you know that the word girlonce meant young person of
either sex?
Yeah, that's wild.
Yeah, before the 15th century.
So, what is what a boy mean?
I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 (19:26):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
A bug, I don't know, man.
Roach?
Yeah, dusty nigga.
I don't know.
Oh, okay.
I got you.

SPEAKER_05 (19:33):
Uh another fun fact about women.
Um did you know that women are Idon't know.
I'm gonna just read it.
Women are likely to suffer fromimposter syndrome despite often
outperforming men in school andprofessional settings.

SPEAKER_04 (19:55):
So in other ways they don't b believe that
they're the greatest.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (20:01):
That's crazy.
Yeah, even if they yeah.
Yeah, I can s kind of Yeah,yeah, yeah.
I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 (20:06):
I I guess I can say yeah, yeah.
Uh so they're saying that womenare more humble than men.
Is that how you read it?

SPEAKER_05 (20:12):
I'm not humble, but just like I don't believe I
could do this thing, but I didit.

SPEAKER_04 (20:18):
Oh, okay.
Okay.

SPEAKER_05 (20:20):
Yeah.
All right, so this is this orthat.
Right?
So I I I gathered, I I deleted abunch of these because I knew
what you was gonna say on theother ones.
Maybe like one or two of these.
I know what you're gonna say,but most of them I I know you,
so I so um and for some reasonit does a lot with uh your
partner or whatever.

(20:41):
I gotcha.
But let's just do it.
Okay.
Number one.
So this or that.
Be stranded on a desert islandwith your partner or stranded
alone but with unlimited amountof food.

SPEAKER_04 (21:00):
Um, it just seems like logical to do the unlimited
amount of food.

SPEAKER_05 (21:04):
You know, you would think.
So I should have deleted thatone.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Never tell your favorite familymember I love you again.
Or never be able to havephysical intimacy again.

SPEAKER_04 (21:22):
This is the first one.
That's like the easiest one.
My favorite or never havephysical intimacy again.

SPEAKER_05 (21:29):
Yeah, you can never have with anybody sex, nothing.

SPEAKER_04 (21:33):
Yeah, or never tell my favorite family member I love
them.
What if they die tomorrow?
Okay, what would you choose?

SPEAKER_05 (21:42):
Me.
Um see this is like, I wish ithad more context, because if
them niggas are dying tomorrow.

SPEAKER_04 (21:54):
So you just all you're saying is Or tonight?
I just want to say, hey, I I Ilove them.
I love you too.

SPEAKER_05 (22:02):
But you're gonna but but you have you're gonna live
like another 60 years.

SPEAKER_04 (22:06):
Okay, I'll tell them why I can't say it.

SPEAKER_05 (22:10):
Like No, why you can't say it.
No, no, no, no.
It's not a why you can't say youcan't do nothing with nobody
ever again.

SPEAKER_04 (22:16):
You just said I can't I can't have physical
intimacy.
No, I'm just saying uh lovethem.
You you I can never tell myfavorite favorite family member
I love them.
Right.
Or I can't have physicalintimacy.
I'm telling my favorite familymember, like, bruh, I can't say
I love you because of thisreason.
Because I yeah, it sounds likean uncle would understand like

(22:40):
anybody's gonna understand likebruh, you mean you can't kiss or
hug or yeah, yeah, have sex?
Come on now.
I'll be very selfish to say,bruh, I can't believe you didn't
choose that.
Like, that's obvious.

SPEAKER_05 (22:53):
We still what if they were gonna die next?
Okay, you made your decision.
Damn.
So so it's the I love you.

SPEAKER_04 (23:02):
Um, yeah, I'm never saying that again.
Easy, easy money.

SPEAKER_05 (23:05):
Oh, I thought you were saying that you would say
it again.

SPEAKER_04 (23:08):
No.
Oh, why would I?
I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_05 (23:11):
Sorry, brother.
I was totally off.
Oh no.
That's oh, so you just I'mfucking these houses.

SPEAKER_04 (23:19):
Like, yeah, yeah.
I'm saying I can't have sex withmy wife.
I can't kiss.
Right.
Yeah, yeah, no.
That's the same thing.
It's dead.
You can't have nobody.
Yeah, I can't, I can'tprocreate, I can't have kids.
That sounds very wild.

SPEAKER_05 (23:30):
Sounds very Tesla-ish, very, very robot,
very AI in your life.
Number three.
Know the yeah, this is kind ofsimple.
Know the exact day you'll die orknow the exact day your partner
will die.

SPEAKER_04 (23:48):
Um, I don't know the exact day my partner will die.
Oh god.

SPEAKER_05 (23:53):
Yeah.
She's been getting a lot offlowers lately.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
We've been going out a lot.

SPEAKER_04 (24:01):
Yeah, I don't need to know that.
Which one?
About me.

SPEAKER_05 (24:05):
Yeah, oh god.

SPEAKER_04 (24:06):
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (24:07):
Nah, I'll definitely.
Because I'm gonna play it toodifferent.

SPEAKER_04 (24:12):
You know what I mean?
Would you?
Yeah, I'm uh yeah, absolutely.
I'm gonna it's gonna be too it'sgoing to make it's gonna make up
my reasoning.
Like whether I'm careless orwhatever, you know, I'm gonna do
either be more strict,stringent, yada yada, or I'm
gonna be more careless.
Either way it goes, I'm gonnaplay it.
That's interesting because thatcan if you live, if you know

(24:34):
you're gonna live to be ahundred, then you're gonna play
it more carelessly.
You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_05 (24:40):
But what if I live for 50 days?

SPEAKER_04 (24:43):
Then you're gonna be very strict in how you move.
Strict.
I wouldn't.
Strict?
50 days?
If you have 50 days, I'm I'mdoing everything.
Yeah.
No, I'm gonna get I'm morethinking I'ma get my things
together.

SPEAKER_05 (24:59):
For your family and stuff?
Yeah, yeah.
It's a it's it's externally.
Yeah, yeah.
It's an external thing.

SPEAKER_04 (25:04):
Yeah, I I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna be too worried
about it.
So I'm gonna make sure I goteverything my forest in order.
I'm gonna be more in church, youknow what I mean?
Like it's gonna be it's gonna bemore of that, bring people to
God, you know what I mean?
Have a conversation.
Yeah, it's gonna be all that.

SPEAKER_05 (25:21):
So be right with God basically is like that.
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Because you know you're you'reshitting 48 days now, aren't
you?

SPEAKER_04 (25:28):
Right.
Hmm.
That's interesting.
So I'm I may want to know.
Well, I'm I wanna know whenthey're going.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (25:35):
Even if I'm three days from now, if I know they're
going in 50, I'd rather knowthat.
I feel like me knowing, I thinkI have just overcame
overthinking.
That's gonna put me right backin that moment.
If I know when I'm going, oh mygod.

SPEAKER_04 (25:55):
I don't know if I can ever come over.
I'm sure it is a possibility,but I'm an overthinker just
naturally.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (26:04):
That's interesting.
Know the exact day that yourpartner would die.
Wow, if I knew, oh my god,that's terrifying.
Would you tell them?

SPEAKER_04 (26:17):
I don't think I could.

SPEAKER_05 (26:19):
That would mess up everything for them.
Not me.
Um no, I'm just being funny.
But that's that's that's a veryinteresting.
You know, I'm gonna make alittle thing.
That sounds like a movie.

SPEAKER_04 (26:36):
Okay, gotcha.

SPEAKER_05 (26:37):
Yeah, that sounds like a movie.
That sounds like a good movie,don't it?

unknown (26:41):
I guess.

SPEAKER_05 (26:42):
If you could choose, and then it could be a good or
bad movie.
What you trying to say?
No, I'm just saying You know, ifyou're doing it, no, that's not
just saying it depends on howyou play it.
All right, so uh number four, berich but always single.
Or average income but in thehappiest relationship to you

(27:05):
ever.

SPEAKER_04 (27:10):
Be rich or always single or happy.
Um average income, happy in arelationship.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, because if I if I knowit's gonna be happiness, then
I'm gonna definitely yeah, yeah.
It's gonna be feel good.
Yeah.
But you know, yeah, but I'll belike, sometimes like, am I just

(27:31):
meant to be single?
Like is that weird to say?
Like, I don't know if if I'm youknow I mean, I'm meant for
anybody.

SPEAKER_05 (27:39):
Yeah.
I'm I'm I'm kind ofunfortunately starting to think
thoughts like that.

SPEAKER_04 (27:45):
Yeah, yeah.
And I'm not not like that.

SPEAKER_05 (27:47):
I could be for a lot of people, right?

SPEAKER_04 (27:49):
But like Yeah.
Like it's just stressful.

SPEAKER_05 (27:52):
I like being single.

SPEAKER_04 (27:53):
Yeah, it's like you don't have to uh I'm happy, and
it's not even really aboutchecking, but you know, it's
like it's uh emotions, and Ifeel like you're managing
emotions a lot too.

SPEAKER_05 (28:05):
Absolutely on both sides, yeah, yeah, for sure.
All right, be forgotten byeveryone when you die.
Okay, or be remembered, but onlyfor embarrassing moments.
Be forgotten.
I don't care about it.
I'm dead.
I feel that one.

(28:26):
Lose all of your memories withyour person, or lose all
memories of your childhood.
Lose all my memories.

SPEAKER_04 (28:36):
Well, I don't know.
I I mean childhood, I'm tryingto think like lose all my
memories for who?

SPEAKER_05 (28:44):
With your wife.

SPEAKER_04 (28:46):
Oh, my wife.

SPEAKER_05 (28:47):
Uh I mean lose all memories of your childhood.

SPEAKER_04 (28:50):
Um, I'm I'm I'm going wife because I ain't
married, but like childhood, Ifeel like that's I don't I don't
like that.
That's very hard.
Uh because and what age era am Iin?
Because up until 13.
Uh the only reason why I'mhesitant because I can relate to

(29:11):
um younger people.
I can relate to younger peoplewhen I'm like giving guidance.
Like, hey, you know, I know whatit's like to be in your shoes.
So um I'm a go-wife.
Who knows we're gonna be marriedfor how long?

SPEAKER_02 (29:30):
Justin Village.

SPEAKER_05 (29:33):
Have a one-night adventure of a lifetime or live
a safe, predictable life withyour partner forever.
Predict emphasis on predictable.

SPEAKER_04 (29:44):
Yeah, predictable.

SPEAKER_05 (29:45):
I knew you asked.
Yeah, yeah, that was easy to do.
Why even have that one?
Yeah, uh, give your life savingsto save your partner's life.
Two.

SPEAKER_04 (29:55):
Not just my.

SPEAKER_05 (29:56):
Right.
I ain't even, I don't know.
I ain't this is my birth time.
Reading it.
Give your life savings.
First of all, just that's that'sbig.
Yeah.
Give your life savings to saveyour partner's life, or give
your partner's life to save yourbest friend's life.

SPEAKER_04 (30:16):
Um, well, I'ma go.
I'm gonna go one because I ain'tgot shit.
But uh two, uh, yeah, becauseI'm I'm killing off somebody
too.

SPEAKER_05 (30:26):
Or give your partner's life to uh wait what
which one you going with?

SPEAKER_04 (30:30):
Well, number one, I'm giving my life savings.

SPEAKER_05 (30:32):
I ain't got much to save your we can make it back.

SPEAKER_04 (30:35):
Yeah, yeah.
We can make it back.
I'm a hustler.
Yeah, exactly.
I'm a hustler, homie.
Yeah, it's number one.

SPEAKER_05 (30:40):
Yeah, it's a hustler.
Yeah, facts.
Lose your partner forever orlose your closest friend
forever.
I I got I gotta switch partnerwith wife.
It makes it, it makes it better.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Lose your wife forever.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And let's just picture like youyou're in a different place.

SPEAKER_04 (31:02):
Yeah, yeah, I got you.
We're we're wife.
Yeah, yeah.
Sorry, sorry.

SPEAKER_05 (31:06):
You would do one?

SPEAKER_04 (31:06):
Uh no, I'm not losing.
I'm not gonna lose my wife.
Yeah, the wife is like Homie,you should understand.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (31:14):
Yeah, the wife thing, that's uh it'd be fucked
up if y'all break up.
Y'all break up, that shit is istragic.
Uh but like, yeah, it feels likebecause that's under God, too.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah, so that's a very yeah.
I can I can actually get that.
Walk away from a relationship tosave your sanity or stay in a

(31:35):
toxic relationship to protectyour family from a fiery death.
Uh, I guess I'm miserable.

SPEAKER_04 (31:44):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 (31:46):
All right, yeah, that was mine.
That was my screen.

SPEAKER_04 (31:49):
That was that was cool.
I like it.
Yeah.
Okay.
Well, we can finish up with mylast question.
All right, what is it?
And and um, could you date anOnlyFans model?
I did.
Okay.
Well, I was gonna elaborate alittle bit.
Oh my bad.

(32:09):
I'm caught.
Uh I I got you.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
No, that um Well not really, butYeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, like, but there's levelsto it.

SPEAKER_05 (32:19):
Facts.
No, facts, which is yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (32:21):
Cause some some girls, I'm sure you see the IG
and like, dang, yeah, no, theythey they promote this bitch.
I'm just saying super bad, likeoh, yeah, like she's super fine.
Facts.
Okay, and I guess my secondreally question is um is how
forgiving are you when they'reextremely bad?

SPEAKER_05 (32:42):
Like about the OnlyFans?

SPEAKER_04 (32:44):
No, I'm just saying forgiving and and their flaws
and the toxicity.

SPEAKER_05 (32:49):
Hmm.
Less now.

SPEAKER_04 (32:51):
Okay.

SPEAKER_05 (32:51):
Less now.
Um like I'm saying So wait, thisis a two-part question.
Which one are we going with?

SPEAKER_04 (32:56):
Well, I'm just saying, because the my true
question was like forgiving interms of like the weight.

SPEAKER_05 (33:02):
Take me through it like you usually do.
Do do the one, two, threequestion thing.
Okay.
All right, okay.

SPEAKER_04 (33:06):
So first question, OnlyFans, what what is I guess
it's it really should eliminatethe OnlyFans.
How forgiving are you how uhaccording to their beauty?
Exactly.
A little bit more.
Okay, I got you.
A little bit more.

SPEAKER_05 (33:19):
Being honest, yeah.
I feel like men are very visualpeople, it's very unfortunate.
Um, I thought about thisyesterday, not that
specifically, but that it istrue.
Men are very visual people.
Like, um, yeah, I remember goingall dating all the way back to

(33:42):
high school.
Um certain women I've been with,like, they didn't care.
They didn't care at all, likehow they looked and how this did
this and that.
Then I'll be with women who'sjust in the house.
Nobody's seen any of this butme.
And they could just be making acoffee, but the shit they got

(34:02):
on.
It's like I ain't going nowhere.

SPEAKER_04 (34:06):
Yeah, I got you.
You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 (34:08):
And um, yeah, being bad.
Oh, this this describes meslick, don't it?
Um, but not necessarily to now,though.
You know, uh I I just I've beenthrough that to understand, like

(34:28):
you just really have to knowyourself, you know.
But to answer your question,that does help a lot.
Same thing with a rich dudeversus a poor man, you know.
They'll be I I'll tell you, whenwhen I had money versus when I
didn't have money, for somereason my flaw stuck out when I
ain't had no bread.

SPEAKER_02 (34:50):
Ain't that some shit?

SPEAKER_05 (34:52):
Yeah, all of a sudden, he got this flaw, that
flaw, that flaw.
But when I got some money andeverything flowing, it's like,
I'll deal with it.
Same thing with me.
You know, you you you this andthat and all that, but like, if
you just find when I walk in,you know, to me, my personal, my
personal preference of whateverthat is, it definitely like like

(35:16):
I don't know.
I I have an easier way ofdealing with your shit than I
would if like you were justsimply average.
Shout out to the average woman.
But um what about you?

SPEAKER_04 (35:31):
I think so.
I think I'm I'm a little lesslike I'm I'm gonna be a little
bit more relaxed if she's not orif she's cute versus if she's
not as cute.
Yeah, because I mean you'rebringing an extra added thing to
the table.

SPEAKER_05 (35:46):
Yeah, I still want you to chill with me and watch
this movie with me.

SPEAKER_04 (35:49):
Yeah, yeah.
I'm just yeah, I think that it'slike you're bringing something
more to the table.
You're bringing beauty.

SPEAKER_05 (35:54):
You're bringing yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (35:55):
Yeah, so I mean, if a man like you mentioned, if a
man's bringing extra income tothe table, you can rel you can
be oh, okay, he left a coupledishes.
I can clean that up.
I can clean that.
Yeah, yeah.
It ain't my dishes.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So it's just like extra addedreasons on why, you know, like
even if you have a job, it'slike, all right, I'm working 50

(36:19):
hours a week.
There's other jobs working 40,but they're paying me$200,000
more.
All right, well, I guess it'sworth working the extra 10 hours
out the week.
Same thing.

SPEAKER_05 (36:29):
Yeah, I don't see him as much, but we just went on
a trip to Thailand.
Exactly.

SPEAKER_04 (36:35):
Yeah, yeah.
I had to pay for anything.
I have the great time.
So it's like, hey, I'm youtaking and giving a little bit.
Yeah.
So yeah, beauty means a lot toeverybody, right?

SPEAKER_05 (36:45):
Yep, there's a there's a there's a I gotta do
it, man.
What?
I gotta do it.
There's this clip, YouTube.
Marilyn Monroe.
This explains everything.
Marilyn Moreau.
I had hopped in this clip too.
Marilyn Monroe, uh, RichHusband, pretty woman.

(37:08):
Explains everything.
I'm uh change my mic to the thisone.

(38:47):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, right.
Yeah.
Yep.
She was spitting.
She was spitting.
Oh god.
And I I hopped in that shit.
And you know what's funny?
One of my exes was like, she shecommented on that.
She didn't comment on nothing.
Or or or most of my posts.
Yeah, she she she seemed tofind.
Um nothing.
Just something regular, like aha.

SPEAKER_04 (39:10):
Yeah, that that came from somewhere.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Oh god.
Yeah, yeah.
Oh god.

SPEAKER_05 (39:15):
But I I agree with it though.
Um, you know, it it is what itis.

SPEAKER_04 (39:24):
I understood.
It's very understandable though.
Yeah, and that was kind of whereI was leaning on that second
part question.
Is like, okay, if she's sobeautiful and she bring but she
has a OnlyFans.
Yeah, yeah.
That's different.

SPEAKER_05 (39:37):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Marketing uh my woman marketingherself to other men, that's not
in my soul to agree.

SPEAKER_04 (39:46):
But what if she's an Instagram model?
Is that different?

SPEAKER_05 (39:50):
Marketing herself to other men.
So like that's that's only Ihave been with someone who has
dabbled into that, but she waslooking to get out of that.
It wasn't like somebody who'slike, This is what I do, and da
da da.
It wasn't like that.

(40:10):
Um but it also depends on whatshe does on OnlyFans, right?
I wouldn't want to go into thatagain, just dealing with it.
First of all, you know, you knowme, I would have never thought
I'd ever be um just beingcompletely honest, I never
thought I'd be with a woman uhdoing that.
But you know, at the same time,that's just what happened.

(40:32):
And um I got I won't be tellingher story, but there was like a
lot of backstory with it, andthere was a lot of like I see I
like I see you through likewhat's what's what's happening,
and it wasn't like what youthink about when you think of
like OnlyFans Girl.

(40:53):
So because of that, that's why Iwas kind of open to it, and also
there was an end date to it.
So do you think she's on it now?
I d I don't know.
I don't know.
The last time I spoke to her,she wasn't.
Oh okay, okay.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So she been she been stopped it.
Oh god, yeah, yeah.
Last conversation I had withher.
But um yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (41:14):
But I think that if you strip everybody down, you
could get to understand themmore.
You know what I mean?
Like if you talk to a per personwho's in the um pornography
industry, right?
You're like, oh, you're actuallyyou're a good person.
You just you know have whatevermental health issues, and you
know, you this is the way youknow.
You know what I mean?

(41:35):
Yeah, so you I mean, I feel likeyou can strip down a lot of
people like that, and you'relike, okay, you're you're
different than what thestereotypical, you know, um
OnlyFans model does.

SPEAKER_05 (41:46):
Yeah, yeah, no, that's that's for sure what it
was.
I I don't I'm not sure if Icould do that again.
Honestly, I know, but like thatwas a situation where I thought
I would never do, and just likeI don't know, can never say
never, but like because of that,that's um that just has me

(42:08):
feeling like I don't know, Idon't even want to say open it.
I really don't think I'll everdo that again.
But um yeah, my woman marketingherself to other men is not a
thing that I like.
Right, I mean understandable.
And that's not that's not evenlike how some of them think,

(42:28):
though.
It's weird.
It's like, no, this is a job.
This is like this is very uh uhuh uh strategic and like very
not even strategic, but verylike concrete, white and black.
Like this is not me, this is forthese reasons, and da da da.
This ain't even what I'm aboutand whatever.

(42:49):
Not even just talking about myex now, just talking about a lot
of other people.

SPEAKER_04 (42:53):
And like what if he's she's like has a beautiful
body but she's taking uh abikini picture, does that bother
you?

SPEAKER_05 (43:01):
Yeah, if it's marketed to other men.

SPEAKER_04 (43:03):
Okay, what if it's just on IG?

SPEAKER_05 (43:06):
If I can understand what you're if I can understand
that you aren't chasingvalidation, then it won't bother
me.
But if I understand that youjust worked out and you love
your body and you like man,fucking I'ma just show it and

(43:26):
whatever, I could deal with thatbetter.
But if it's like I can sensethat you're chasing validation
from social media, that's gonnachange my mindset a little bit.
Because that's a differentplace.
Because I shit, you know, when Ionce I got into shape, I start
throwing this shit up andthrowing, you know, putting my
abs out there.
I got my homies hitting me up.

(43:48):
I told you I'd be havingeverybody on the phone.
They'd be like, yeah, bruh,Steve just out here doing, you
know, roasting me and all thistype of stuff.
But like, nigga, it ain't fory'all.
I'm trying to figure it out.
I'm trying to figure out how tobe Michael B.
Jordan.
Like, I'm trying to figure outhow to do the, you know, like
Will Smith had his time andeverybody that come up and
actors and all this, they had atime where they they, you know,

(44:10):
all that.
So I'm trying to figure me outin that sense.
It's not for validation, though.
It's like I'm trying to find thesexy me in this, because you
know, I see it or whatever.
But like there are people thatlike do that and don't say
nothing.
And they just be like, no, it'sjust a I was just on the beach.

(44:34):
Like, I'm being honest with youtelling you.
Like, I I want to be like one ofthem actors that can do action
and be sexy and da da da da.
I respect them more, but like ifI was just like, nah, that ain't
nothing.
Yeah, that seems more likeyou're trying to be validated
from social media.
So yeah, yeah.

(44:56):
Emotional intelligence, youknow, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 (44:59):
But I feel like not having the validation part is is
rare nowadays.
You know what I mean?
Like, I can I like can I reallyrealistically fault you for not
wanting or for wantingvalidation?
You can't when that's majorityof people on social media, yeah.
So I was like, I'm just sayingyou gotta be above the average.
And I was like, that's just amental that sometimes it can be

(45:21):
unfair to the person.
Like for me, I don't like me isI want you if you're doing this,
I want you to ask yourself whyam I doing this?
Yes, that's what I'm saying.
Like, and I want you to knowthat it's because I want
validation from others.
I want you to be honest withyourself.

(45:42):
I don't want like I kind ofrealize that, but I at least
want you to be honest withyourself.
I would respect it more ifsomeone said that, but they have
to stop.
No, that's what I'm saying.
I don't even I think that that'suh uh uh average feeling, and I
that's an under I can totallyunderstand it.
I'm not gonna fault you forwanting validation for others,

(46:04):
because we all want that to acertain degree for sure, yeah.
So I'm not gonna be mad at youfor wanting that, but I want you
to know, like, oh, this is why Ido this.
And I'm and you go with thatwith the intent.
I just don't like when you'relying to yourself.
And that's what that's why Ilike.

(46:24):
Like, hey, I I like to feel Ilike when other, you know, I
like when people, you know, talkme up and make me feel good.
Yeah, like that's a fat assgirl, yeah.
That and that's probably whatshe what she probably really
likes.
And she's not gonna say itbecause it sounds bad, but
that's real.
It is real, yeah, yeah.
I mean, you even how much flatum uh what's what's um Steph

(46:49):
Curry's wife, Aisha Curry.

SPEAKER_05 (46:50):
Which is where are we going?

SPEAKER_04 (46:51):
No, when she was talking about like, you know, I
don't want to do anything withthe validation, but I want to
hear people say, You look good.
Yeah, yeah.
I yeah, like as much crap as shegets, she's at least being
honest.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And and that means something.
Somebody who's willing to arguesay, hey, this is actually how I

(47:12):
feel.
I guess and she gets crapped onbecause of it, but I think
that's somewhat a little fairbecause she's that's fairly
common place to be.

SPEAKER_05 (47:22):
That is a deeper way of looking at it.
Yeah, yeah.
I yeah, yeah.
I don't even know how to tacklethat.
Yeah, yeah.
But like I do understand whichthat that's very vulnerable for
someone to to open up and evensay that.

SPEAKER_04 (47:40):
Yeah, I I just it's like it's vulnerable, but also
it's like like why why are youlying to yourself when we know
it's not and that that's likeeven whether you tell me, I want
you to be like why?
Because I I feel like you'venever asked your question.
That some because the the why isa big thing, which you mentioned
previous podcasts, it's veryhuge, and a lot of people don't

(48:03):
live into that area of like,dang, why do I react like that?
Like, let me think, let me whatcaused this as a child that I
need to further dig on this.
I've had those times, so like,you know, it was a time that I
was lost and I couldn't find myway home, and that's why I have
a panic attack, you know, or orwhatever.
And then like, you know what?

(48:24):
That's actually real, and nowyou can tackle that thing.
It's like, okay, that's just metripping.
That's not something you did, oryou know, or or I'm scared when
I see clowns, you know what Imean?
Yeah, it's it's just like okay,that happened when I was five
years old when I was watchingthe movie, yada yada.
And then you can kind ofunderstand where yourself a

(48:44):
little bit more because a lot ofpeople don't know themselves
like they think they do, forsure.

SPEAKER_05 (48:49):
Yeah, and don't do the work to even know, yeah,
exactly.

SPEAKER_04 (48:52):
I because I I there's countless people like,
you don't know me.
I'm like, you don't know you,you don't even yeah, yeah.
You you think you're way betbetter than what you are, like
you're above this, yeah, andyou're not.
Yeah, at least be real withyourself.
You're not above this.
How many uh there's countlesstimes I have to teach people who
they are?

(49:13):
It's like you would never handlethat situation like that.
So the the way you think you'retaking the the big way out is
not you, you stoop to the lowestlevels.
I really don't fuck with you.
Yeah, yeah.
So it's it's like so I think tome that that's the best way to
progress.

SPEAKER_05 (49:31):
Just know exactly who you are.
Yeah, everybody got a differentbody, a different brain, a
different my flaws aren't yourflaws, your flaws aren't mine.
Like we have to movedifferently.
Like me fasting and oh, by theway, I did a three-day fast last
week.
Yeah, you told me Friday.
Oh shit, you know.

SPEAKER_04 (49:49):
That's actually dope every time you ask like I don't
know how you do that.

SPEAKER_05 (49:52):
Uh yeah, but like I have to, like, because of how
I'm made, like I gotta resetthis shit.
Like, because I'm gonna I'mgonna get lost in a cycle of
some, you know what I'm saying?
Like, you have to know yourself,be honest with yourself, like a
lot.
That's the only way to to to toto maneuver to a better uh uh
person, you know.

(50:13):
So shit, everybody gotta dodifferent shit.
Right, right.

SPEAKER_04 (50:17):
Yeah, you know, uh and my my last thought, this is
something separate.
When I was driving, um threeindividuals got in the car and
one uh lady sat up in the frontseat to the back, and then you
know, it was like, hey, how youdoing?
And she's like, I'm doing good,I'm going to my first date, you
know.
And I was like, Cool.
And then it's like, yeah, we'rewe're we're you know, we're

(50:38):
going to be watching prettymuch.
Like they're you know friends.
Yeah, they're friends, exactly.
Just like make sure she's okay,yeah, yeah, yeah.
Okay.
And I I found that interesting.
I was like, was this your firsttime?
I was like, no.
Like, okay, so they kind oflike, you know, I was like,
Y'all gonna have like a littleearpiece and tell her what to
say in all the game, you know.
So we just chatted about that.

(50:58):
And I just found it interestingto like question people on their
first date experience, like howare they gonna go into it?
Like, are you nervous?
It's like, you know, and it'sjust it's I think that's one of
the best parts of just likedriving.
Yeah, yeah.
Like when you get to people intheir own experience of how they
handle things, or like, okay, sowhat's a you know, I was like,

(51:19):
what if he has a booger and hisno or something?
It's like, yeah, hygiene is veryimportant.
Like, do you it's like thequestion was, do you uh easily
rule somebody out on the firstday?
And and the answer I feel likewas yes.
Yeah, yeah.
And I feel like it's easy to dothat.
Definitely with dating, they cando one thing wrong and like,

(51:40):
nah, he's not for me.
Right.
It's like it I was I was tryingto get to like forgiveness.
It's like, hey, this may not bethem, it's just they're nervous
or they're this, you know.

SPEAKER_05 (51:51):
Which is hard to see on a first date.

SPEAKER_04 (51:53):
Right, exactly.
Yeah, it's like hey, you gottaactually know somebody, like,
like actually really talk tothem, but just like, hey, you
know what, that could have beena one-off or whatever.
And I feel like we don't reallygive each other grace that way.
But maybe we're not supposed tohave this much access to people
anyway.
Because she talked aboutsomebody at her job, and we
talked about this before, andand this it reminded me of the

(52:15):
podcast.
Uh she she dated somebody at herjob, and now she kind of has to
see them.
And I was like, it's it's one ofthose things where it's like,
yeah, I don't date out my job,and you know, I'll very try hard
not to do that, yeah, becauseonce in that situation, like you
don't even talk to her.
Yeah, and but at the same time,on the likewise, it's like

(52:36):
you're also learning so muchabout this person, you know,
eight hours out your day.
Yeah, right.
That's so hard not to like fallin love with the person that
you're really knowing and howmuch y'all y'all know that y'all
meant for each other.
Yeah, like because like y'alljust naturally got things in
common.
It's not like you're trying togo after talk to them, y'all
just teamwork, y'all have towork together, yada yada, and

(52:58):
and then you're just gonnanaturally talk about your days
and things like that.
So I just found it interesting.
But that was stuff.

SPEAKER_05 (53:06):
Yeah, you actually have a very, very, I think I
said this last last podcast,which is how you maneuver
conversations is very um, yeah,and somebody who watches the
podcast definitely told me thattoo.
Like it's very um, I don't know,like it's like professional of
you.
Like I don't, I I don't I thinkthe last podcast, like, it
really trains you how to dothat.

(53:26):
Or your last podcast.
Okay.
It trains you how to do that.
Uh, but yeah, you're very youcan you can navigate
conversations very, very well.

SPEAKER_04 (53:35):
Uh thank you.
I appreciate it.
Yeah, you know, that's that I Ilove that's like I genuinely um
take that compliment and Iappreciate those compliments.
Uh, because one of my my cousinssays something, she's like the
executive producer of the voice.
And then she's like, Justin, youcould do my job.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Or she she's some type ofproducer, not maybe executive,

(53:57):
but she's a producer on thevoice.
Last time we talked to her forNBC or whatever.
And then she's like, Yeah, youcan actually do my job.
And I was like, Oh, well, that'sactually very complimentary of
you for you to say that.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So I appreciate whoever saidthat.
Yeah, yeah, it feels good.
Thank you.
For sure.
Yeah, uh, I think we did it.
We did it.
All right, and we will we areactually leaving.

(54:19):
I want to almost go say the oldpodcast, mention that.
But this is two for the culture.
We'll be back.
We love y'all.
We'll be back.
Yes, sir.