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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, y'all, we are in
episode number four of Tay
Talks and I am super excited.
I took last month off just toreadjust to some things that was
going on in my life, which weregood things, nothing negative.
But, yes, it was needed.
But your girl is back withepisode number four.
Yes, this podcast today is solodolo, but it's all good because
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you know what God told me to do.
So you know I'm trying to makesure I be in his will with what
he tells me.
So, y'all, today I want to justjump straight into today's
topic.
So today is more so of anaffirmation and reason being.
It's because of the fact, bythe time this podcast is over, I
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pray that it touches whomevermay need this and allow this to
be a daily conversation that youhave with yourself.
So today's topic is you have ahigher standard.
I'm going to repeat that onemore time you have a higher
standard.
Now I'm going to speak formyself.
I have been in certainsituations, let's be honest.
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I have been in certainrelationships, friendships,
being in certain job positionsand things like that, where I
feel like I compromised and Ijust accepted it and I knew that
for a fact that I should be insomething different.
I shouldn't tolerate the thingsthat I was going through, and a
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lot of times this is whathappened with us.
We get in certain situations.
I'm not going to say for us,I'm going to speak for me.
I have been in certainsituations where I knew my time
has expired but I kind of forcedit just to stay.
Um, I'm just gonna say, foreven example, like okay, yes,
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thank god, this is my secondmarriage, right, my first
marriage.
I knew my time has expired, butI was forcing it to work and so
they had to make me readjust mylife, you know, so being on
certain jobs I can't have, Idefinitely can't admit.
I have been in some positionsand I'm like, and it's not that,
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you know, I think I was betterthan anybody, or nothing like
that.
It was just that it was thefact that I knew God told me you
can do better, and when Godsaid that thing to you and you
still in a certain situation, orsomething like that, then
that's when your feelings gethurt.
Um, things happen, make youquestioning yourself and stuff
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like that, and that's that'swhat today.
I want you just to keep in mind.
You have a higher standard.
So I'm only gonna give aboutthree points about, um, what's
the benefits, what is thebenefit of you having a higher
standard in this?
And it's not that you, youbeing um, you're boasting about
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yourself or you bragging uponyourself or anything like that.
Sometimes you just have to know,like yo, this ain't my level,
and there's nothing wrong withsaying that, especially when you
know, whatever situation youmay be in, you're still being
humble and you're not thinkingthat you're better than anyone,
because that's the thing wherepeople mess up at.
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They feel like they're gettingin certain situations any better
the person or they better thanthe situation than it is.
And then, next thing, you knowGod didn't knock you off that
doggone high horse that you wason and had to force you to be in
a position where you had tohumble yourself.
But this time I'm speaking tothose who need that
encouragement to know yo, it'sbetter out here for me.
So, um, I just speaking tothose who need that
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encouragement to know yo, it'sbetter out here for me.
So I just want to say thattitle one more time you have a
higher standard, dang, that oneis sitting with me right now, so
let's jump on into it.
So the first thing is the firstbenefit of when you get to a
point you have your mindset,because everything is a mindset.
If your mind is made up, okay,I'm going to stay in this
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situation, I know I'm not happy,or you know certain things like
that Then that's where yourmindset is at.
But when you get to a pointwhere you know what, like yo,
your girl deserve better, yourboy deserve better, like this
can't be it, this just can't beit, and you telling yourself,
like yo, my standards, I gothigher standards.
You know what I mean.
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And it's, it's and that's.
Just take, for example, youknow after a while, like as a
kid I loved McDonald's.
You couldn't tell me nothingabout a good 10-piece sweet and
sour sauce.
Give me some sweet tea on theside with that thing and some
hot fries, I am content.
Now I'm to a point don't bringme to the mcdonald's, that's,
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that's just not going.
I'd rather have a home-cookedmeal over some, over some
mcdonald's.
But that's because of mymindset, my, my taste.
But everything has changed overtime and it's just because of
the fact.
It's not that you know, mymoney's too good for mcdon, I
just have outgrown it.
You know that's something thatnow I get my kids, you know if
they want something like that orwhatever, but you know, that's
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just that.
So the first benefit of having ahigh standard is number one you
create better relationships,and this could go with personal
relationships, this could gowith professional relationships
on your job and things like that.
Because when you finally setthat standard to a point where
you know what I'm not going toaccept the foolery that you're
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coming with, then you're goingto create a better relationship,
not only for yourself but forthe people that surround you.
Because once you start feelingappreciated and you start
feeling like you know what, whatI feel, like you value me as a
person, or as your spouse, or asyour boo, or on your job,
anything like that Then once youstart feeling like you're
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important, you start doingthings different, you start
operating different.
Take, for example you'reworking on a job and your
supervisor is just off the chain.
I have had some crazysupervisors and it was to a
point where I'm like you knowwhat?
Yo, I deserve better than this,because I do not need to be
treated like this, or you don'thave to act like this, that and
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the third.
But once I finally got to thatjob where I'm like, oh shoot, my
boss appreciate me, it made mestart coming to work on time.
You know what I mean.
Like you're supposed to be ontime anyway.
But when you start feeling likeyou're appreciated, you start
operating different.
And then, once you startbuilding those better
relationships, then you startgetting connected with the right
people who need to be aroundyou.
And then that's when you'reable to identify a whole lot
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easier of the people whoshouldn't be around you.
If they come around and your,your spirit get off, like you
like uh, and you can't reallyexplain it.
Evaluate your circle.
If your circle ain't ten toesdown for you or your circle
ain't giving you that supportthat you need, then go ahead.
Ain't nothing wrong withleaving them behind.
It's no love loss or anythinglike that.
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But you know your standards arehigh and they may even start
saying well, yo, you know whatshould I take?
Operating different?
That's fine, cool, as I should,because my standards got higher
.
I expect different stuff for me.
I'm not going to expect thesame foolery that I expected
from you.
Know a previous situation whenI know God has elevated me.
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So that's the first thing.
The second thing is the benefitof having a high standard.
You challenge yourself to donew things.
You got to step outside yourcomfort zone.
If you've been praying forsomething new or you know you're
praying that God, I just wantto do something different.
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And if he starts showing youthings and you're like, ooh,
like, this is different, but I'mkind of uncomfortable, you're
going to have to in order foryou to walk into something
that's really valuable to you.
For you to step up to thatstandard, it's going to come
with some sacrificing of you.
So it may be you're going toset some different goals.
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You're going to set some goalsthat you know well.
You know it.
Before it was easy for me toobtain this, but now you're
setting goals where you knowwhat dang I got to work outside
my comfort zone to achieve thisone you know.
So that's just the main thing.
With that one, with challenging,you're gonna, when you set
those different standards,you're gonna start challenging
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yourself to do new things.
Your expectations of you istotally different and you're
gonna know that is god that'sbehind, that's pushing you,
because he heard your prayers,he heard he.
He then been with you throughyour fast and things like that.
But you're going to have tostay committed, and that's
always the hard part.
Y'all trying to stay committedto something that you know that
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you want.
But when your mindset changesto that place where you're like,
okay, well, my standards aredifferent now, they're higher.
You're going to step up to theplate.
You're going to step up to theplate, you're going to step up
to the mic.
You're going to be able toachieve what it is that you want
to do because of the fact yourmindset has shifted.
And y'all, I'm already on thethird point.
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I told y'all I was going tohold y'all on today.
So the last benefit of having ahigher standard is you're going
to be a lot happier aboutyourself and your life when you
finally get to a point where Godyou know what.
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I asked you to remove somethings that was weighing my
spirit down.
I asked you to open my eyes tocertain situations where I'm
able to see things through youreyes and not my eyes, because
sometimes we blind ourselves orwe want to be in denial about
certain situations, and thatwould help us to stay committed
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to the lower standard.
But now, since you have ahigher standard, you're going to
see things totally different.
You're going to put yourself asa priority when your standards
are higher, the acceptance offoolery is not going to be
happening, no more.
Let's just say, for example,you've been in a toxic
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relationship.
I know that's a word people saythey're tired of hearing, but
that's called a spade.
A spade with this one You'vebeen in something that you know
wasn't going to benefit yourspirit.
It wasn't going to benefit youpersonally, not for any business
plans, personal plans, goals oranything like that.
But you were in this certainsituation and after a while you
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get tired.
You get so tired of the samecycle.
You get tired, you get so tiredof the same cycle and you get
up and you find, like you knowwhat, god, I'm tired, so you
start shifting.
Like for me, I'm gonna behonest with y'all.
For me, when I was in mymarriage, my first marriage, um,
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I knew I was tired, I knew itwas time for me to go.
Uh, man, mainly because I knowit was time for me to go,
because of the fact I wanted to.
I wanted to end everything forme, for Shantay, I did not want
to be on earth, no more.
Um, the depression had got soheavy of what I was feeling
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within that marriage and once Igot out of it, I was like, well,
god, you know what.
I had to shift it when it camedown to me wanting to have a
potential husband.
And when I got out of thatmarriage, I promise you I did
not want to get married again.
No, I was good on it, didn'tlike it at all.
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But you know, he was like youdeserve a husband, you deserve
to be loved, you deserve foryour girls to have a father
figure.
That's, um, you know,consistent and and things like
that.
So once I finally got to apoint where I received it
because that's the thingeverybody around you can tell
you you deserve this, youdeserve that.
But if you don't believe it,your mindset ain't going to
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change, it's going to stay thesame.
So when I finally got to apoint where I was like you know
what I deserve love.
I deserve to go out on dates, Ideserve to be treated like the
queen that I am, like all theseaffirmations that I had to start
telling myself, I had to startspeaking to myself.
And then, once I finally got tothat point, once I got into
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another relationship or, youknow, got into this marriage
that I'm in now, I knew what Iwasn't going to accept.
And once I got to a place whereI found out you know what, I'm
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not going to get complacent inany situation where it's messing
with your mindset, yourstandards, your goals, your
purpose and things like that.
So y'all, that's all I have ontoday.
You have to set the standardand you better set it to a point
where you know it's higher thanwhat it was previously, when
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you was not happy with yourselfor you wasn't happy with your
placement in your career or in arelationship or anything like
that.
You have a higher standard andyou have to set that standard
because if you're expectingsomebody else to do it for you,
it's not going to happen,because if you're expecting
somebody else to do it for you,it's not going to happen.
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Nobody's going to take thepride that you have in yourself
like you should take the prideinto yourself.
You have to know you're yournumber one player.
Like yo, I'm my number one fan.
I'm my number one kickback.
You know it's good to havepeople around you who push you
and motivate you, but you haveto be in tune with yourself
before everything else.
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So once you get to a placewhere you know what, I'm going
to leave everything behind thatwas weighing me down.
I'm going to set this standardhigher.
I'm going up a notch.
Then you ready and I just wantyou to tell yourself every
single day you have a higherstandard.
Tell yourself I have a higherstandard and think about it Like
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if something getting heavy onyou.
Just tell yourself that I havea higher standard and then you
start making moves to make surethat you are on that standard.
Are you elevating to the placethat you would like to be?
And if you're struggling withit, I pray that right now that
God takes his arms and wrap themaround you and whisper in your
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ear and just let you know thathe is with you so you're not
going through anything alone.
You know he's going to placethe people around you that
you're going to need and theencouragement that you're going
to need while you go throughthis process, because that's
what it is Life is an ongoingprocess.
You are not the same person thatyou were yesterday.
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Two weeks ago, like I know, Imade a motivation.
It wasn't a motivation Monday,but it was a motivation video
that I had made telling you youhave to get adjusted to the new
me and that is just you when yougo through things in life, you
become a different person, butyou become the person that you
want to become like, the personyou want to be molded into.
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You become that person, likefor me, I always want to be a
woman that my girls look up to,because I have four kids, but
when it comes down to my girls,I need to always be the role
model and that's something thatI am very, uh, particular about,
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the way that I operate andstuff like that.
I need them to know that.
You know what my mama's, thatmy mama good, she, like she, she
really she be holding it down,like she is our role model.
So, y'all, but that's all I haveon today for episode four of
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Tay Talks Podcast.
I will see you all.
We only do this once a monthuntil God tells me something
different.
So the next podcast will bereleased next month, the last
week of the month.
So y'all have an amazing,amazing week.
Stay safe.
I know Easter is coming up, sobe careful if you're traveling
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back and forth or whatever youmay be doing.
But that's all I have for y'all.
Love y'all.
Talk to y'all later.
Bye.