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Cynthia (00:05):
Welcome to Uncharted
and Unfiltered, The Journey Back
to You.
I am Cynthia Jameson, yourhost, and this is where we break
free from the noise and divedeep into what truly matters.
You.
If you're tired of the shoulds,the expectations, and the
pressures to fit into a moldthat doesn't serve you, you're
in the right place.
This isn't a podcast about easyanswers or sugar-coated advice.
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This is your invitation toreclaim your path, embrace the
unknown, and become the bold,unapologetic version of yourself
that's been waiting to show up.
It's time to get unfiltered.
Let's get started.
Hello, hello, and welcome back,or welcome in to Uncharted and
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Unfiltered, A Journey Back toYou.
I am your host, CynthiaJameson, and I'm so grateful
that you are here with me today.
I always imagine theseconversations that I have with
you as we are in the living roomand we're sitting on opposite
ends of the couch or maybe inseparate chairs, and we're just
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having a personal conversation.
And that's what I want to dotoday.
Because what I want to name inthis episode is something that
most leaders secretly feel butcan't quite explain.
And that is this invisible tugbetween the life that looks
right and the one that actuallyfeels like home.
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So my intention is by the endof this conversation today, you
will see why all of your mindsettools haven't been enough, how
your body has been trying to getyour attention, and what it
really means to rebuild the kindof self-trust that changes
everything.
So take a breath, drop yourshoulders, let yourself arrive.
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You say that you want to liveand lead authentically.
I mean, that's why you're here,to finally feel like you again.
And somewhere between all ofthe doing and delivering, you
started to disappear.
And I know that you've done thework, you've listened to the
podcasts, you've got theplanners, you've learned how to
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be a positive thinker.
And still something in youwhispers, I'm tired.
And that isn't weakness, that'swisdom.
Your nervous system saying, Idon't feel safe being me yet.
And I want to be super clearthat you are not broken, you're
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brilliant at surviving.
And now it's time to rememberhow to live.
But notice what happens whenyou let that in.
Maybe your heart softens.
That is self-trust in motion.
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That is your system rememberingwhat safety feels like.
If you've ever noticedyourself, when you arrive
somewhere and you're you're justlike, ah, that is self-trust.
That is a moment where yourbody is speaking to you with
little cues.
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When you get in bed at nightand you lean over or turn over,
depending on how you sleep, ifyou are a back sleeper, if
you're a side sleeper, whateverit is, if you notice these
little moments where your bodyexpresses to you, I'm safe.
That's self-trust.
And so I just want to pause fora moment because something has
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been shifting behind the scenesfor me too.
Now, most of you know, ifyou've been with me for a while,
that I've created a communityspace called Be Delight, and
that is where I have tools andresources that I used when my
life felt really heavy.
And so everything that I haveavailable to me to offer to you
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to come and lead yourselfthrough those experiences are
there.
And I also have a membershipthere.
And that was all born from thebelief that when we show up as
our truest selves, we light theway for others to do the same.
And I feel really called tohave a caveat here because one
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of the things that I will sayhas been incredibly important in
the work that I've done withmyself and with the leaders that
I coach is having an awarenessto our how our brains work and
also around the parts of us thatcan sabotage us and the parts
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of us that can come out and bean ally for us.
And that came to me in the workthat I did with the saboteurs.
That is the work of positiveintelligence.
I've talked about it so manytimes on the podcast, and it
bears repeating because I knowmany of you are in the community
space.
What I don't know is whetheryou are leveraging the tools
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that are there to help you raiseyour awareness.
And just like anything, you canbring up a horse to water, but
you can't make them drink.
And if you really want to liveand lead your life
authentically, it's going to bea challenge to lead yourself
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through some of these things.
And that's what I want to beable to talk to you about today.
And I realized as I was takinga step and thinking about, okay,
what is it that I'm wanting tocreate in the next phase and
stage of my work?
I realized something.
I realized that at the crux ofeverything, at the root of
everything, is this one questionthat keeps coming up.
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Every time I create a piece ofcontent, every time I create a
podcast episode for you, inalmost every coaching
conversation I have with leadersacross 19 countries, this one
thing shows up.
And it's a question beneatheverything.
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And here's the question Do Itrust myself enough?
Enough to slow down when theworld screams, hustle.
Enough to tell the truth whensilence would be easier.
Enough to lead from presenceinstead of pressure.
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And let that be enough.
That question has become theheartbeat of this next chapter.
It is why Be the Light hasevolved into the self-trust arc.
The sacred and practical spacefor high integrity humans who
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are ready to lead fromwholeness, not performance.
And I want to qualifysomething.
When I say a sacred andpractical space, here's what I
mean.
It's sacred because whathappens there stays there.
It's not shared with anyone.
It's not that it's going to beall woo-woo or anything like
that.
When I say sacred, that's notwhat I mean.
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Um, but it will be a placethat's sacred for you to come up
and to be able to show up andbe who you are and bring what's
on your mind, what's on yourheart, what's truly in your way,
so that you can get support andbe able to lead yourself
through that.
That's what I mean by that.
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This is a place where you learnto lead yourself from a place
of wholeness where all of thosevarious parts of you are all
welcome because they're all partof you.
And we lead from that place,not performance.
Because here's what I'velearned when you carry what
isn't yours, and trust me, I'vedone it, it drains your energy,
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it dulls your power, and ithides your presence, not to
mention your brilliance.
And every time you do, theworld loses a little of your
magic.
And you can't keep bleedingfrom truth if you abandon your
own.
That is a thought that I havewritten on the outside of my
journal.
I've had it there for monthsand months, because there's a
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cost to that.
And the cost is not justexhaustion, is the quiet ache of
dissonance, that gap betweenwhat's true and what's
tolerated, between who you areand who you want to be.
It's belonging fatigue, theemptiness that comes from
fitting in where your souldoesn't.
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It's that hollow moment whenyour success finally arrives and
still you feel unseen.
That's what self-abandonmentfeels like.
Being a stranger inside yourown life.
And it feels terrible.
Now, over the time that I havebeen doing this work, every
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return to self-trust movesthrough three stages.
Awareness, alignment, andembodiment.
And awareness is that momentwhen you finally see the
pattern.
It's like, oh, there you are.
Alignment is when you begin tochoose differently.
Embodiment is when your bodyfinally believes you're safe to
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be who you are.
And if you're somewhere betweenawareness and embodiment right
now, here's what it might soundlike for you.
You keep looking outside ofyourself for validation.
You live mostly in your head,thinking about life instead of
feeling it and living it.
You hold it all in, polished,composed, quietly, lonely.
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You carry too much, mistakingcontrol for safety.
You're afraid to slow downbecause you're afraid it might
all fall apart.
You second guess your ownknowing, trusting experts over
your intuition.
You don't have a place to bereal because you're always on
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performing.
And maybe most of all, you'veconfused self-trust with mindset
when it's really a practice ofremembering what safety feels
like inside your own skin.
These are not flaws, they'resurvival and protection codes.
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They helped you make it here,but they just weren't meant to
take you further.
So if you're nodding along withme right now, you're in good
company.
The quiet revolution of enough.
Now, one of my clients told mea few weeks ago, before I hit
send on any email, I read it sixtimes.
I get butterflies in mystomach, worried that it might
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come off wrong.
And I keep asking myself, am Ieven qualified to lead this?
And you could feel the tensionhumming beneath the perfection.
And we worked on one simpleshift.
It was a single line to anchorhis energy.
And here was the line.
I am uniquely qualified.
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Now we did a bunch of coachingto get there, but he used this
line like a breath beforemeetings, in traffic, when his
mind started to spin.
And within a week, everythingchanged.
He led onboarding with ease.
He built alignment with a VPfor new work.
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And even his wife said, You'relighter.
And when I asked him whatchanged, he smiled and he said,
Every time I say it, I breathedeeper.
I stop proving and startchoosing.
And that's the moment the bondthe mind and the body reunite.
That's embodiment, the powerthat no title can give you and
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no failure can take away fromyou.
And so what's the real cost ofnot trusting yourself?
The hours lost, rewriting anemail, the sleep lost,
second-guessing a conversation,the energy lost, pretending
you're fine.
Self-doubt is incrediblyexpensive.
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And it drains more than yourtime.
It drains your aliveness.
Ask me how I know.
That's why I created theself-trust arc to help you
reclaim it.
And inside the arc, we don'trush your readiness, we regulate
it.
We begin with awareness in thefree community.
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That is the space to pause, tonotice, and to come home to your
own authority because you arethe subject matter expert on
you.
And then we move into alignmentembodiment in the membership,
where awareness becomestransformation.
And it's not about learningmore.
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I want to be really clear aboutthat.
It is about rememberingdifferently.
Of course, you will learn, butit's not about learning more.
Because when you have your ownback, you lead differently, and
people feel it.
And here's what I want you toknow: the arc isn't something
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you join.
I mean, technically it isbecause you sign up to it and
you, you know, get a usernameand all of that, but it's a
space for you to come andremember how powerful you are.
Because you have been walkingthis path your whole life.
We just walk it together now,consciously, compassionately,
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and in good company.
And we take the things that areon your mind and on your heart
and we sift through them so thatyou can come to the clarity
that you need to be able to takethe step that you feel is the
next best one for you.
And so if you want toexperience this in real time, I
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want you to come and join meinside of the Self-Trust ARC
membership.
There are going to be two livesessions this month.
Each of them will be 60minutes.
There is no prep.
There is no posturing.
There is just your presence.
And the first one is Meet Me onthe Ark on Tuesday, November
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the 12th at 12:30.
Actually, it is, I'm justrealizing now.
Let me just check in real time.
It is not Tuesday becausethat's tomorrow.
It's Wednesday.
It's Wednesday at 12.30.
That is the first session.
And the second one is calledFrom Pressure to Presence on
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Thursday, November the 21st at 1o'clock.
And both of these times areAtlantic Standard Times.
Membership is $111 a month.
And I love this price so much.
And here's why.
Most of us spend more than thaton a coffee.
Five bucks a day to keepourselves going, but caffeine
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only keeps you awake, whereasself-trust will wake you up.
Coffee fuels your alertness,but self-trust is here to fuel
your aliveness.
And the return isn't in dollarsat all.
It is in the peace that youfeel when you stop outsourcing
your own power.
It's in the clarity that stayswhen the caffeine wears off.
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And it's the moment that youstop managing your image and
start inhabiting your life.
Because the real expense isn'tmoney, it's the energy you spend
abandoning yourself.
And it's keeping you stuck fromthe things that you're here to
create, the people you're hereto touch, the dreams that you're
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here to walk into.
So if you've been trying tothink your way forward and it's
not working, it's time to listento something quieter.
The part of you that alreadyknows.
Stop trying to earn yourfreedom.
Remember it.
Stop outsourcing your worth.
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Start trusting your rhythmagain.
Because the moment you stopbetraying yourself, you don't
just find freedom.
You become it.
Thank you for walking this pathwith me.
For your courage, yourtenderness, your light.
Every time you choose trustover proving, you light the way
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for someone else to do the same.
So may you trust your timing,honor your truth, and return
again and again to the quietpower that has been yours all
along.
I'm Cynthia, and this isUncharted and Unfiltered, a
Journey.
I hope that you're walking awayfeeling more aligned with your
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true self, more confident in thechoices ahead, and ready to
leave the safe path behind,knowing you've got everything
you need within.
Remember, the journey to youisn't about finding one perfect
direction.
It's about trusting yourselfenough to explore all of it.
If you're ready to dive deeper,join me for the next episode
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I invite you to join my mailinglist at www.cynthia
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charting your course toauthenticity.
Until next time, stayunfiltered, stay true, and most
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importantly, stay you.