August 22, 2024 • 34 mins
Are you tired of starting and stopping your fitness journey? In this motivational episode, Kevin and Bekah Tinter explore the crucial role of community in achieving and maintaining your health and fitness goals.
Drawing from their personal experiences and success stories, they discuss:
- The power of community in boosting motivation and results
- How to find the right fitness tribe for your unique needs
- Strategies for accountability and mutual support
- Leveraging technology to expand your fitness network
- Overcoming obstacles and staying consistent
Kevin and Bekah offer practical advice on creating and nurturing a supportive fitness community that can propel you toward your health goals. They share personal anecdotes about the impact of accountability partners, group fitness classes, and the importance of surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals.
Whether you're a fitness newbie or a seasoned gym-goer, this episode provides actionable steps to build a community that supports your health journey and keeps you motivated. Join us for a conversation that will inspire you to cultivate meaningful connections and harness the power of community in your fitness adventure.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Hey everyone, welcome to the Uncommon Freedom Show.
Today we're diving into a topicthat will take your fitness
journey and level up yourresults.
My name is Kevin Tinter andjoining me, as always, is my
extremely fit and gorgeous wifeand co-host, becca.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Hey everybody.
I'm Becca Tinter and Kevin.
I am so pumped about today'sepisode.
We are talking about somethingthat has been absolutely
game-changing for us personallyand for so many others.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Yeah and so we are recording this the morning after
our anniversary.
Yes, married now officially for26 years and I was thinking
about something last night.
This is a great question.
It has nothing to do well,maybe gets burnt some calories,
but has nothing to do with thetopic today.
But I thought it would beinteresting is if you're married
, think back to the hotel thatyou spent your wedding night in
(00:58):
and answer would you want to goback to that hotel or not?
Would you stay in a hotel likethat today?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
and, to be honest, I don't even remember what the
hotel looked like?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I mean, um, I think we were thinking about some
other things at that point.
I'll point it off to you.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
The next I'm just talking about our our standards
have changed and like a marriottor something.
No, it wasn't even a marriott.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
So yeah, it was like a uh residence in type of place
that I think.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
If we were 21, so I'm pretty sure the only time we
stayed in a hotel room were thattime and yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
My point is just a fun little question.
Would you want to go back tothat hotel room today?
Speaker 2 (01:37):
we had some very extravagant experiences, but we
were young we didn't start offthat way we didn't have any
money.
Yeah, we're very little.
I think my parents or one ofour parents got us that room.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
No, I paid for it.
You paid for it.
Yep, I did.
Sorry, I did.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Should have given credit where credit was due, oh
$65.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
It was amazing.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
then I remember it being amazing.
I mean, it was amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
All right.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Well, hey, in fitness or as we like to call it,
building your fitness tribeexactly so.
We've seen firsthand howsurrounding yourself with the
right people can help motivateyou to stay consistent and
actually see results.
Finding the right fitnesscommunity goes way beyond just
having a workout buddy, althoughthat's good too.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
So we're going to break down some personal
experiences we've had on whycommunity is so crucial for
fitness success and give yousome steps you can take to build
your own supportive tribe.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Whether you're just starting out your health journey
or you've been at it for years,this episode is packed with
insights to help you reach yourgoals faster.
So let's get into it.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
All right.
So the first thing we want totalk about is the power of
community in fitness Beck.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
This is more my wheelhouse, I think, because I
am more of a community worker.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Well, yes, but in the and probably the way that most
people assume community.
But the reality is I still havea healthy community, so I'm an
introvert.
I like to work out by myself,although when we were first like
, my first season of consistentworkouts was when we were
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married and we would go to thegym at Oregon State University
and Nathan Rice and I had acouple other workout partners
during that season working outwith friends back then, but my
preference is typically to workout by myself.
However, as we have reallykicked on our health journey 13
(03:30):
years ago and become more intofitness, even though I prefer to
work out by myself, I've alwayshad people around me that were
into fitness, that would helphold me accountable and that
would also inspire me andchallenge me.
So just because I have thatpersonality doesn't mean the
community doesn't play a role.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
That's interesting because also for myself, I would
say I do a lot of group fitnessand things like that for the
enjoyment of it and thecommunity piece, but when it
comes to like weightlifting, Imuch prefer to do it on my own.
I think I have mostly done iton my own.
So I would show up at the gymwith workout partners, but
usually want to do my ownroutine just because taking
turns and waiting on someoneelse.
Um, you know, efficiency is myjam and I think I've always
(04:11):
preferred that.
But yeah, I worked out incollege with some friends, I
think definitely had morerunning partners, and then when
I would go to the gym and dostrength training, I would do
most of that stuff on my own.
I think so.
Um, one of the things that cameto mind when I was thinking
about the power of a fitnesscommunity is I think it's a
James Clear quote from his bookAtomic Habits but we don't rise
to the level of our goals, wefall to the level of our systems
(04:34):
, and this is such an importantpiece, like we've been talking
to our health clients about this, we talk to our coaches about
this, we talk to our kids aboutthis, and it's something that we
reflect on, and that's reallywhy setting yourself up with the
right community is so important, because your community can
become part of your system.
It's the people you interactwith, it's the schedule that the
workouts take, it's what kindof fitness gets done while
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you're at that, you knowactivity, and so all of those
things are systems that eitherhelp you achieve goals or not
achieve goals based on that, andso I was thinking about that.
I love, you know, working outaround people personally,
because it inspires me to pushmyself and do things that I
would not choose to do on my own.
Currently, I'm working out withour middle son, austin, and
we've both been reflecting that.
(05:16):
We're going to a place wherethey set up stations every day.
It changes a little bit, butthey have all kinds of fitness
tools, equipment, of things thatI mean I've been working out
most of my adult life, so that'sa long time, and there are
things there I've never donebefore and that I would not
choose to do on my own becauseit just doesn't sound like a lot
of fun.
But because I'm there and I'min community, I'm actually doing
things that are uncomfortablefor my body, which is really
(05:38):
good for me.
So yeah.
So number two, let's talk aboutfinding your fitness tribe.
How do you recommend thatpeople find their fitness tribe?
Well, I really think it has alot to do with just talking
about your health goals withpeople that you spend time with
and really figuring out who arethe like-minded people who like
to be outdoors, who like to docardio, who like to do strength
training, who's just startingout and might want you to mentor
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them.
If you already know what you'redoing?
And if you're reallyuncomfortable in the gym, do you
have someone who is morecomfortable that you could go
with?
So, um, you know, there's a lotof different ways to look for a
fitness community.
I think there's obviously groupfitness, which is going to
usually a class of some kind.
You could also just have aworkout partner, which I've had
all the way since my earlyexercise days of college, um,
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using a trainer.
So if you're reallyuncomfortable in a gym setting,
you know, setting appointmentswith a trainer is nice.
They show you how to useequipment, they make sure that
you feel like you know whatyou're doing when you're there,
and then, obviously, right nowI'm working out with my son, so
I have that built inaccountability of someone in my
own household and I'm getting alot of joy out of working out
with him.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We don't literally work out together at the workout
.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
He goes with the teenage boys, I go with the moms
, but we drive together and showup together.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Yeah, and when it comes to picking your tribe, I
think obviously your personalinterests are important to keep
in mind Absolutely At the sametime, if you're truly interested
in what's best for you.
You know there's some peoplewho love walking or gardening,
and although gardening iscertainly an activity, it's not
going to build muscle the waythat you really want to.
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So it's important to findthings that you enjoy, but also
have to realize there are some.
The most important thing you'regoing to do long-term for your
health is to do strengthtraining in a way that you're
not going to likely to injureyourself, be likely to injure
yourself and in a way thatyou're going to build muscle
mass, because, as we learn, it'sbecoming more and more apparent
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that that is one of the mostimportant factors in health, not
just for your physical health,but also for your mental health.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
From the standpoint of dementia, yes, and as we age,
you know, after the age of 30,we start to lose muscle in a
significant manner every decadethat we age past 30.
So it's really important thatwe have the nutritional
components we need, as well asstrength training, to combat
that and really to build a bodythat will last a long time.
And so I was also thinking, youknow, there are things that
maybe you just absolutely don'tlove doing and that wouldn't be
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the group for you.
For the two of us, that'shiking.
We live in Arizona.
Hiking is very popular, it'sbeautiful, but for some reason
it's just not our jam.
So we do not choose to hikealmost ever, uh, and we'll
choose other activities withfriends.
But I have and you've run amarathon as well.
Only one time, only one time,but the back in Okinawa, japan,
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when I was in more of a, muchmore of a cardio mode and I did
a lot of running.
I always had running partnersand that was actually how I came
to run my first half marathon,another half marathon, two full
marathons, and it was reallyjust having someone that I love
spending time with and we setthe goal together and we were
able to achieve the goals and itbecame a way to pray together
and you know it was.
It was like a community outletfor me, but it was only one
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other person at the time.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Yeah, and you're working out with our middle son,
Austin, and I've got ouryoungest son, Dylan, working out
with me.
He is 13, getting close to 14and anxious to put on muscle.
Uh, football season juststarted and he loves basketball
and I'm really enjoying the timeit.
You know, honestly it detractsa little bit from the intensity
of the workout, but it's adefinite trade off.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
He's very goal though .
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Yeah, but he's also a talker.
But once again, it's one ofthose things where everything's
a trade-off and I would ratherhave that quality time with him.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
And he loves to sign with you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
He does, and I enjoy it with him as well, so that is
wonderful.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Okay, so how do we evaluate if a community is right
for you, like shared goals orvalues?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
understanding what your values are is also really
important.
You know there's there's somegyms out there that support
things and you know fundraisingfor things that don't support
our, that don't line up with ourbeliefs and our values, and so
we choose not to be members ofthose gyms.
You know, I find thateverything is more enjoyable
(09:48):
when you do it with like-mindedpeople, so keep that in mind is
you know who are your people andthen go find out what they're
doing or invite them to do itwith you is really important.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Yeah, and really I mean in 2020,.
It became a defining line inthe sand for me, because there
were some places I was workingout that were requiring masks
and we just weren't.
I was not willing to wear oneat all in life, let alone when I
exercised, and so I skirtedthose rules for a while, and
then, when it got to a placewhere it was just so
uncomfortable, I was like I'mdone, I'm going to do my
workouts at a different placeand in a different way, even
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though it was a foundationalpiece for me.
And the other thing is, youknow, there are certain places
that allow men and women'sbathrooms and I will refuse to
support them from a businessstandpoint.
I don't think that's okay,allow men.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Did I just say it the wrong way?
Allow men and women's.
I just want to make sure peopleunderstand.
We're okay with men's bathroomsand women's bathrooms.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
What we're not okay with is men in women's bathrooms
In women's locker rooms, yes,and so I would never go to a gym
.
That, or continue going to agym if I found out that was
their policy.
Bam, absolutely, yeah, allright, so we have a couple of
tips for putting yourself outthere and connecting with
like-minded people.
Um, oh, I think there was oneother thing I wanted to say too.
I think that, when it comes tolike choosing the right type of
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community to be a part of, theother thing that I look for is I
look for trainers and coachesand I call it a teacher, cause
you know, when you're going to aclass, there's someone up front
guiding the class who is goingto push me to a new level and
also looks like they walk thewalk, because I've been a part
of classes and different workoutfacilities where those people
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they don't look like they can dothe workouts.
Some of them can't do theworkouts the way that they're
describing.
So they're guiding us, butthey're not participating and
it's not because they'repregnant or something like that.
And so I really chase afterfitness professionals that can
lead me from the front, and theother thing is ones that will
push me, but not in a foolishway where I'm going to end up
injured, but just call me to ahigher level, and I've had some
great trainers at Orange, theoryand things that you know will
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encourage me to go one levelfaster.
The place that Austin and I workout now at Iron Courts the
coach there is incredible.
He's got me benching more thanI ever have before and that's
not necessarily one of my goals,but because I'm in the class,
he's challenging me but he'salso supporting me so I don't
get injured and I think it'sjust really fun to make sure
that you're in the right type ofenvironment.
(12:06):
You don't want to be pushed toa place where, again, you go too
hard, too fast and you end upinjured.
But there are a lot of placesthat will just let you coast.
If you want and if that's notpart of your system to improve,
then you want to change whereyou go.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
That's good, that's good.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Yeah, make sure they're walking the walk, not
just talking the talk Exactly,and that is actually kind of
rare.
So it is important to checkthat out If that's important to
you, which it is for me.
I look for people that haveintegrity in all walks of life,
but especially in their fitness,All right.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
So let's talk about four specific things putting
yourself out there andconnecting with like-minded
people.
The first one is to simply justask your friends about their
experiences and get referralsright.
The friends that you enjoyspending time with, the friends
that are healthy or maybe yousee that they're getting results
say hey, what are you doing?
I would love to join you.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Yeah, actually the reason Austin and I ended up in
this workout class and why Icompletely pivoted my workouts
and ended a membership at oneplace so I could start over here
, is because my friend, andrea,who was a running walking
partner, said, hey, you shouldtry this class with me, it's
really fun.
And I was like, okay, you knowI already go to classes, so I
didn't have a high level ofinterest, but just because she
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invited me, I went to a classand I was like, wow, what I saw
in the room that we now go to isthe people love to be there
together.
Everyone knows each other'sname, everyone cheers each
other's name, everyone cheerseach other on, they give high
fives.
It's a Christ-filledenvironment.
So for me, because that's ourfaith background, it's a really
enriching environment.
There's young people, oldpeople at 6 am all working out
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together and it is so positive.
And in all of the places I'vegone and the classes I've been a
part of, I've never found it tobe such a cool community, which
I think is what draws Austin tocome with me every week as well
.
So that's really neat.
But it was just an invitationfrom a friend and so you know,
if you're at a great place.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Invite someone to go with you next time and if you're
looking, ask someone else ifthey have somewhere that they
really enjoy, although I have agreat place and you're not
welcome to join me there becauseI like to work out by myself.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
All right, tip number two is to try something for 30
days, Obviously havingexperiences, but it does take
time and the first time you goto a class you might be
miserable just because you'redoing something you've never
done before or because you don'tknow anyone.
It doesn't feel right.
So I always say give somethingabout 30 days to make a decision
before you pivot to somethingelse.
Yeah, that's great advice.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Yeah, well, we kind of talked about this.
But only take advice frompeople you trade health or
fitness with.
That is kind of talked aboutthis, but only take advice from
people you trade health orfitness with.
That is you know.
Leading by example is soimportant.
It's one of you know our corevalues.
Even if it's not written down,it's ductus exemplum is the
motto of the officer corps ofthe marine corps, and, uh, it's
just one of those things whereeveryone seems like an expert
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until they actually have to doit, and then that's really what
separates the experts from thetalkers.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I thought you were going to say the men from the
boys, but or the parents whohave younger kids to the ones
that get to teens and feel likeall of a sudden they don't know
anything about parenting.
That's where we live right now.
Okay, tell us about tip numberfour, because this is something
you're really good at.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
So this last one is going public with your goals and
creating some type ofstructural tension and inviting
accountability.
So this is you know, a lot ofpeople struggle because their
health is very personal to themand sometimes they want to keep
it to themselves.
What I'm going to encourage allof you with is that if you try
to do this on your own, you'regoing to over time, you're going
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to fail.
One of our favorite virtualmentors, Darren Hardy, says your
willpower will fail you 100% ofthe time over time.
So, yes, if you decide on yourown, you're going to start doing
you know, walking, some type ofexercise routine and you have
zero accountability.
You may be great, but over time, your willpower will fail you
and you're going to go back toold habits.
(15:53):
Accountability is absolutelyessential.
So, whether it's telling yourclosest friend, hey, this is
what I'm working on, I recommendopening it up to a bigger crowd
.
It doesn't have to be the entireworld on Facebook or Instagram,
but maybe you're a part of ahealth group, or maybe you're a
part of a mom's group or a dad'sgroup or something like that,
and you say, hey, guys, I amcommitting to you know, working
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out every day for the next 30days, or, you know, getting
15,000 steps every day for thenext 30 days or something like
that.
That is really important andthen giving those people
permission to hold youaccountable, say, listen, if you
see me, will you help me inthis by asking me how I'm doing
in this goal?
The other thing that you'regoing to do is you're going to
inspire others.
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I know many times throughoutthe course of my health journey
for the last 13 years when Ihave struggled or I've been kind
of in a little bit of a rut andI hear from one of our friends
that's nailing it Like I'm justthinking of our friend Karin
right now, who's down over 40pounds.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
She is that's just since the beginning of the year,
though that's like.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Right right, she lost what 80 or 100 pounds years ago
and has just reengaged with herhealth journey.
She would qualify as a middleaged woman, but Sorry, karin, I
find you very useful.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
No, I mean, you've said what your age is, karin.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I'm not going to talk about it and you're also I
don't know if you're sub 20% yet, but that has been your driving
goal all year and you've beenso disciplined.
You said you've decided not toeat chocolate.
You don't feel deprived aboutit and you're just killing it.
And you've inspired me at times.
I know you inspired many peoplebecause you've been willing to
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live out your journey out loud.
So I really encourage people todo that.
And the other thing is to justset a goal and, you know, figure
out maybe what is one thingthat you need to stop doing or
start doing until you reach thatgoal.
Now, the flip side is, if yougo back to that habit as soon as
you reach it, you're probablygoing to end up back where you
were.
But one of the great ways tobreak a habit is to create some
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type of tension along withaccountability, because we know
well we've heard differentnumbers it takes 21 days to
break a habit or start a newhabit.
I've heard 60 days.
There's a lot of differentnumbers out there, but the
bottom line is this will helpyou get some momentum going in
either breaking a bad habit orcreating a new one.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
And I really feel like this has been acted out
with Austin and I, because he'salmost 16.
He'll be 16 in a couple daysand getting up in the morning is
not the favorite thing for anyteenager.
And we started this routinewhile it was still summer break,
a couple weeks ago, actually,in the month of July.
We committed to going theentire month of July, three days
a week, and I basically saidhey, I will, you know, pay for
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this membership if you'll gowith me, but only if you're
going to show up.
If you'll go with me, but onlyif you're going to show up.
And I don't want to get up.
I mean, I work out fine on myown, but I said I don't want to
get up for you and have youknock it up.
And he has been so consistentsetting his alarm getting up
being ready to go out the doorat 5 50 AM, even on school days
and even when we were gone andwhen we were gone we had.
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We got a ride for him when wewere't do it and I would just
say hey, come with me, you cancome back and go to bed.
And both times that happened hegot up and he went to class and
afterwards he's like I'm reallyglad I went, now I need to go
rest.
Um, so he goes right now beforeschool, which is super
impressive and runs home andshowers and runs out the door.
It's very busy busy on Monday,wednesdays and Fridays, but I'm
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really proud of him for theconsistency.
He's now on like five or fiveweeks, almost six weeks, of
consistency.
So, again, because there'stension in being in the same
household, driving together andhaving goals, so okay.
So let's talk aboutaccountability and support
strategies.
We've covered this a little bit,but really setting up
accountability systems withinyour community.
So, if you need closeraccountability, invite someone
to go with you to a class,especially if you're going to
somewhere where no one knows youand you know there's that
awkwardness of going in for thefirst time.
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You don't know the routine, youdon't know what equipment
you're going to need.
Bring a friend with you,because so many times you can
just laugh through it all.
I remember going to my firststep aerobics class way back in
college, and I hadn't done stepaerobics before, and so I got
the step out, set it up in theback of the class.
I think I've told you this.
We weren't married yet and itwas at 24 hour fitness when I
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was living in Oregon with myparents.
I set my step up in the back ofthe class and then the
instructor decided to flip theclass around, and so I was then
in the front row of the classand I fell off my step.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
The middle is the place to be.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
Not like fell on the ground but, like you know, when
you're first using a step it'sactually very simple, but still
there's a lot of twisting andturning and backwards and
forwards across the step and Ijust took like a misstep and
kind of stumbled and I wasthinking this is why I was
setting myself up in the back ofthe class so no one would see
it.
But no, here I was in the front,probably at 18 years old.
So uh, and then the first timeI went to my hip hop class that
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I have enjoyed going to for thelast few years, where I
literally feel like I'm, I lookamazing.
But then I look in the mirrorand I'm like no, I am a
middle-aged woman.
The girls in the front row withthe really tiny waists, who
probably haven't had, haven'thad any babies yet and can kick
all the way up to their noses,and you know my, my kicks are
like halfway up in the airbecause I don't want to pull a
hammy.
But I have a lot of fun in thatclass.
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Now, because I've been goingfor such a long time, I don't
care, but when I first went Iwent with girlfriends so we
could laugh at not knowing theroutine and have a really good
time together.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
So yeah, and obviously, a lot of times,
people will celebrate, you know,health goals with an unhealthy
meal, and so one of the keypivots to make is setting goals
for yourself, whether it'spedicure, a massage, maybe it's
a new outfit, maybe it's a newswimsuit and a smaller size, or
something like that.
Setting up goals like that isreally helpful.
One other thing that people cando is they can actually pledge,
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and if you're going to do this,do this publicly.
Basically, make a commitmentthat if you fail to follow
through on your commitment,you're going to make a donation
to a cause that you despise or apolitical party that you don't
like.
There's actually a website outthere I don't know if it still
exists where what they would dois it help people achieve goals
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by them basically putting acredit card down and they would
make a pledge, and if I don't dothis, then it's going to make a
donation to the party I hate,the candidate I can't stand or a
cause that I can't stand, andif you go public with that, I
guarantee you it's going to helpyou hold yourself accountable,
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help you hold yourselfaccountable.
So you need to have intrinsicmotivation, but I believe that
sometimes external motivationcan help get some momentum going
.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Wow, that would be quite drastic.
I would not.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
I don't know.
Basically, you put yourself ina position where there's there's
come hell or high water.
I'm not going to fail and I'mnot going to miss out.
Well, according to James, Clear.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
that would only work until you kind of completed that
cycle, so you'd always have tohave another carrot.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Right, but it would get you going or it helps you.
In that time frame you buildthe systems that will help you
be successful long term.
Because you're right.
If you said I'm not going toeat chocolate cake for 30 days
or I'm going to donate to XYparty that I can't stand, Well,
you'll do it for 30 days.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
And then on day 31, you're going to binge, right,
right, you have to put thesystems in place, yes, and then
one more thing, real quickly, asfar as support strategies and
this is just more from a tacticstandpoint, but I would always
encourage people looking forfitness communities and
participating in fitness to makesure that your different things
you're doing with your bodythroughout the week include
strength, flexibility, speed,agility, just the systems to
improve those things.
Even if you're just walking oryou're swimming in the pool, you
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can improve by time orendurance, no matter where you
are in your fitness journey,because if not, you're probably
going to stay stuck and ourbodies are meant to take on
resistance.
Our bodies are meant to dosomething uncomfortable, to grow
and change.
So if doing the same exercisesfor six months are not hard for
you anymore, then you're reallynot giving yourself what it
needs.
You're probably not workingyour heart and lungs the way you
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need to and you're not going tobe breaking down and building
muscle in a way that's going tohelp you be creating a lifestyle
that's going to help you livelonger and healthier.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
All right, real quick , how to give and receive
constructive feedback.
Ask for permission to giveconstructive feedback and don't
ask your spouse to be youraccountability partner.
Is that?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
true, as a general rule.
Okay, I don't think I ask youvery often.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
That doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
You don't like it when I ask you questions.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
So that's why we have our own separate accountability
.
Exactly.
Hey, friends, we're going totake a quick break and, if
you're enjoying this episode, wewant to share something really
special with you.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
That's right.
If you haven't heard already,kevin wrote an incredible book
last year called the SevenDisciplines of Uncommon Freedom.
Thanks, bec.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
You know we've been talking about the power of
community in fitness, and it gotme thinking about how chapter
seven of my book talks all aboutthe concept of community and
how it flows into every area ofour lives.
I share the exact strategiesthat have helped over 100,000
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We're talking abouttransforming your health,
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(24:51):
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Speaker 2 (24:52):
And Kevin, I love how you tie it all back to living a
life that honors God.
It's not just about personalsuccess, but about making an
eternal impact.
Yeah, that's really the heartof it.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
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Speaker 2 (25:10):
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Speaker 1 (25:17):
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Speaker 2 (25:30):
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Speaker 1 (25:33):
All right, thanks, beck.
Now let's get back to ourdiscussion on building your
fitness tribe.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
All right.
Number four is leveragingtechnology.
So there are apps and platformsout there, of course, and I do.
You use anything that youprefer for finding your workouts
, and I do.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
I have used a workout called Jeff it J, e, f, I, t.
I've been using it for well,let's see.
I've only had a smartphone forwhat?
10 years or so, but Iabsolutely love it.
You can create your ownworkouts with their premium
version.
There's tons of canned workoutsyou can put in whatever your
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fitness goals are.
You know cutting, shredding,building, mass cross training,
things like that.
The bottom line is, withsmartphones and things like that
, there's so many great apps outthere that will take you
through workouts.
You can some of them you'reeven actually working with a
personal trainer in a group typeof setting.
So there's really no excusewith technology to say, well, I
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don't know what I'm doing, soI'm not going to do anything.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Yes, and for our Optivia clients or anyone else
who wants to use it, there's anapp called Aptiv A-A-P-T-I-V and
that's got, I think, over 7,000workouts, all kinds.
You know, wall Pilates to everyother kind of workout you can
think of.
I think it has wall Pilates.
If not, there is a wall Pilatesworkout.
But basically find somethingthat will give you either a
variety of workouts or fill inthe gap for something you're not
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getting somewhere else throughmaybe group fitness or working
out with a friend.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
All right, and another thing is challenges.
Obviously, there's tons ofdifferent challenges that are
out there.
You know, be cautious.
You know weight loss challengesare a carrot and a stick type
of scenario typically, sothere's a lot of people who do a
challenge and they will losethe weight and then they put it
right back on.
It's very much a diet type ofmentality, but, once again, a
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challenge can be something thatcan help motivate you to start
changing your systems and tocreate some habits and to
eliminate some bad habits.
So they're not worthless, butjust keep in mind that, unless
you change your system, you'rejust going to have to go from
challenge to challenge tochallenge, and for some
personalities, though,challenges work really well.
I myself don't enjoy them, butmany people find the challenges
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are extremely helpful for them.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
That's good, okay.
And number five is overcomingcommon obstacles, so dealing
with negative influences orunsupportive people.
I don't know, have you had anyof those in your life?
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Not many, but bottom line is if they're unsupportive,
get rid of them.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Yeah, I would just say we again don't take advice
from people that we wouldn'ttrade lives with, wouldn't trade
health with, and so there aresome great people out there with
wisdom for us that we want tobe coachable on, but if there
are people that are just notcoming along for the ride, are
criticizing something we'redoing, then we're not there for
them, like we're not big um,crossfit worker, worker.
(28:20):
There's not a right way to saythat we have never done a cross.
I've done maybe one crossfitworkout and it's not my style of
working out.
I don't prefer, like theOlympic level, lifting or type
of lifting, but I don'tcriticize.
I mean, if those people want todo it that way, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
That's just not the type of workout that I'm going
to do, and CrossFit has done aphenomenal job of building
community.
I would say there's almost noworkout out there that has
created community like CrossFitdoes.
I think it's probably the best.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
The types of workouts that are there are not what I
enjoy doing, so that's why Ihaven't ever joined a CrossFit
gym.
But exactly that's an exampleof a place that develops really
good community.
I totally agree with you.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Yeah, but I do think that people just have to
understand that your health isgoing to rise or fall to the
level of the people you spendthe most time with.
So if you look at your fiveclosest friends, if they're
healthy or if they're healthierthan you, there's a good chance
that you're going to rise totheir level.
If they're healthy, or ifthey're healthier than you,
there's a good chance thatyou're going to rise to their
level.
If they're less healthy thanyou, it's most likely that
you're going to sink to theirlevel.
I was I've mentioned this to you, but I have my Eagles group.
It's about six, seven guys toget together all different
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careers, and these are guys thatI have hand selected.
Selected, and fitness is notnecessarily a focus of the group
at all, other than the from thestandpoint that we are all
passionate about stewarding whatgod has given us.
But it's very interesting to methat all the guys are
reasonably in shape, some morethan others, but there's every
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single one of the guys in thegroup is above average in their
health and fitness, like if youwere to compare them to the
average american male.
They're all well above the 50thpercentile.
So keep that in mind.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
That's good.
Another common obstacle wouldbe just staying consistent when
motivation dips.
We all know that again,motivation is like willpower,
it's like a battery it's goingto wear out.
And that's where having thatexternal accountability is
really important from people inyour life, whether it's the
people you live with, the peopleyou work out with, a community
that you're a part of, a coachwho comes alongside you.
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One of my favorite things to dois, even though we're not
coaching a fitness plan, when wecoach our clients, that is part
of their health journey and sowe're constantly creating goals
for themselves and systems tosupport the goals.
Each week, when I check in withmy clients to make sure that
they're active, they're moving,that they've got strength
training built in andflexibility and things like that
, so they have a weekly callwhere we do a quick check-in and
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it provides that externalaccountability.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
And just kind of from a human psychology standpoint.
Also keep in mind that when youpay more especially so this is
like keep in mind that if youpay for your entire gym
membership in January, you'regoing to forget about what it
costs you when February or Marchrolls around.
So you might want to considerif you're not dedicated to
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actually making a monthlypayment.
So every month when you look atyour credit card or your debit
card statement, you have areminder of oh my gosh, I just
wasted X number of dollars.
If you're doing the cheapestmembership out there, you're not
using it.
You might need to create someextra accountability by hiring a
personal trainer.
Or maybe you're going to a moreexpensive gym where you're not
going to be okay wasting it,right, if it's just a few
(31:23):
dollars, it's like ah, it wasjust a few dollars.
Also, sometimes when you signup for a class, there's a
cancellation fee.
So we're trying to usepsychology and rewards and
punishment or consequences forour benefit, and so look for
things like that.
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If you're someone who's justultra-disciplined and you just
don't miss workouts, then thisdoesn't apply to you, but
probably for the majority of us.
These are things that we needto consider.
So just having skin in the game, as we call it, is really
important.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
That's actually true for me, because I do pay for one
of my memberships, one of mymemberships.
I have memberships a couple ofplaces because I like to do a
lot of different things, but oneof them I do pay for annually,
but that is fine, because I'mgood, you go, yeah, but there is
another place I used to go tothat does charge a $12
cancellation fee for every class.
And it's interesting that Irarely cancel and I can totally
(32:18):
afford the $12 fee.
But it's just somethingpsychological about that.
That's like, oh, I'll just go,and usually I would cancel
because I didn't get a goodnight of sleep and I go to a
very early class there.
But it's like, you know what?
I'll go, I'll figure out thesleep part later.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
And you never regret going?
No, not usually.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Although sleep is very important, so we don't ever
want to forsake that for a longperiod of time.
So, all right, let's recap thetakeaways for building your
fitness tribe.
So, number one the power ofcommunity is boosting motivation
and results.
How and results how to find theright fitness tribe for you.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
Number three is strategies for accountability
and mutual support.
Number four is leveragetechnology to expand your
network.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
And number five is overcoming obstacles and staying
consistent.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
All right, friends.
Hey, that's a wrap for thisepisode on building your fitness
tribe.
We really want to know, wereally want you to know that you
don't have to do your healthjourney alone.
In fact, you're going tostruggle if you do it completely
by yourself.
It's actually better to havepeople by your side.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Absolutely.
We hope this has inspired youto seek out or create a
supportive community that willhelp you reach your fitness
goals.
Your tribe is out there waitingfor you.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
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and we really want to helpsupport you as you continue to
build strong community that willhelp you achieve your health
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Thanks for joining us on thepath to uncommon freedom.
We'll see you next time.
Hey everyone, welcome to the Uncommon Freedom Show.
Today we're diving into a topicthat will take your fitness
journey and level up yourresults.
My name is Kevin Tinter andjoining me, as always, is my
extremely fit and gorgeous wifeand co-host, becca.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Hey everybody.
I'm Becca Tinter and Kevin.
I am so pumped about today'sepisode.
We are talking about somethingthat has been absolutely
game-changing for us personallyand for so many others.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Yeah and so we are recording this the morning after
our anniversary.
Yes, married now officially for26 years and I was thinking
about something last night.
This is a great question.
It has nothing to do well,maybe gets burnt some calories,
but has nothing to do with thetopic today.
But I thought it would beinteresting is if you're married
, think back to the hotel thatyou spent your wedding night in
(00:58):
and answer would you want to goback to that hotel or not?
Would you stay in a hotel likethat today?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
and, to be honest, I don't even remember what the
hotel looked like?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I mean, um, I think we were thinking about some
other things at that point.
I'll point it off to you.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
The next I'm just talking about our our standards
have changed and like a marriottor something.
No, it wasn't even a marriott.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
So yeah, it was like a uh residence in type of place
that I think.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
If we were 21, so I'm pretty sure the only time we
stayed in a hotel room were thattime and yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
My point is just a fun little question.
Would you want to go back tothat hotel room today?
Speaker 2 (01:37):
we had some very extravagant experiences, but we
were young we didn't start offthat way we didn't have any
money.
Yeah, we're very little.
I think my parents or one ofour parents got us that room.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
No, I paid for it.
You paid for it.
Yep, I did.
Sorry, I did.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Should have given credit where credit was due, oh
$65.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
It was amazing.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
then I remember it being amazing.
I mean, it was amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
All right.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Well, hey, in fitness or as we like to call it,
building your fitness tribeexactly so.
We've seen firsthand howsurrounding yourself with the
right people can help motivateyou to stay consistent and
actually see results.
Finding the right fitnesscommunity goes way beyond just
having a workout buddy, althoughthat's good too.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
So we're going to break down some personal
experiences we've had on whycommunity is so crucial for
fitness success and give yousome steps you can take to build
your own supportive tribe.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Whether you're just starting out your health journey
or you've been at it for years,this episode is packed with
insights to help you reach yourgoals faster.
So let's get into it.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
All right.
So the first thing we want totalk about is the power of
community in fitness Beck.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
This is more my wheelhouse, I think, because I
am more of a community worker.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Well, yes, but in the and probably the way that most
people assume community.
But the reality is I still havea healthy community, so I'm an
introvert.
I like to work out by myself,although when we were first like
, my first season of consistentworkouts was when we were
(03:08):
married and we would go to thegym at Oregon State University
and Nathan Rice and I had acouple other workout partners
during that season working outwith friends back then, but my
preference is typically to workout by myself.
However, as we have reallykicked on our health journey 13
(03:30):
years ago and become more intofitness, even though I prefer to
work out by myself, I've alwayshad people around me that were
into fitness, that would helphold me accountable and that
would also inspire me andchallenge me.
So just because I have thatpersonality doesn't mean the
community doesn't play a role.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
That's interesting because also for myself, I would
say I do a lot of group fitnessand things like that for the
enjoyment of it and thecommunity piece, but when it
comes to like weightlifting, Imuch prefer to do it on my own.
I think I have mostly done iton my own.
So I would show up at the gymwith workout partners, but
usually want to do my ownroutine just because taking
turns and waiting on someoneelse.
Um, you know, efficiency is myjam and I think I've always
(04:11):
preferred that.
But yeah, I worked out incollege with some friends, I
think definitely had morerunning partners, and then when
I would go to the gym and dostrength training, I would do
most of that stuff on my own.
I think so.
Um, one of the things that cameto mind when I was thinking
about the power of a fitnesscommunity is I think it's a
James Clear quote from his bookAtomic Habits but we don't rise
to the level of our goals, wefall to the level of our systems
(04:34):
, and this is such an importantpiece, like we've been talking
to our health clients about this, we talk to our coaches about
this, we talk to our kids aboutthis, and it's something that we
reflect on, and that's reallywhy setting yourself up with the
right community is so important, because your community can
become part of your system.
It's the people you interactwith, it's the schedule that the
workouts take, it's what kindof fitness gets done while
(04:54):
you're at that, you knowactivity, and so all of those
things are systems that eitherhelp you achieve goals or not
achieve goals based on that, andso I was thinking about that.
I love, you know, working outaround people personally,
because it inspires me to pushmyself and do things that I
would not choose to do on my own.
Currently, I'm working out withour middle son, austin, and
we've both been reflecting that.
(05:16):
We're going to a place wherethey set up stations every day.
It changes a little bit, butthey have all kinds of fitness
tools, equipment, of things thatI mean I've been working out
most of my adult life, so that'sa long time, and there are
things there I've never donebefore and that I would not
choose to do on my own becauseit just doesn't sound like a lot
of fun.
But because I'm there and I'min community, I'm actually doing
things that are uncomfortablefor my body, which is really
(05:38):
good for me.
So yeah.
So number two, let's talk aboutfinding your fitness tribe.
How do you recommend thatpeople find their fitness tribe?
Well, I really think it has alot to do with just talking
about your health goals withpeople that you spend time with
and really figuring out who arethe like-minded people who like
to be outdoors, who like to docardio, who like to do strength
training, who's just startingout and might want you to mentor
(05:59):
them.
If you already know what you'redoing?
And if you're reallyuncomfortable in the gym, do you
have someone who is morecomfortable that you could go
with?
So, um, you know, there's a lotof different ways to look for a
fitness community.
I think there's obviously groupfitness, which is going to
usually a class of some kind.
You could also just have aworkout partner, which I've had
all the way since my earlyexercise days of college, um,
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using a trainer.
So if you're reallyuncomfortable in a gym setting,
you know, setting appointmentswith a trainer is nice.
They show you how to useequipment, they make sure that
you feel like you know whatyou're doing when you're there,
and then, obviously, right nowI'm working out with my son, so
I have that built inaccountability of someone in my
own household and I'm getting alot of joy out of working out
with him.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We don't literally work out together at the workout
.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
He goes with the teenage boys, I go with the moms
, but we drive together and showup together.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Yeah, and when it comes to picking your tribe, I
think obviously your personalinterests are important to keep
in mind Absolutely At the sametime, if you're truly interested
in what's best for you.
You know there's some peoplewho love walking or gardening,
and although gardening iscertainly an activity, it's not
going to build muscle the waythat you really want to.
(07:07):
So it's important to findthings that you enjoy, but also
have to realize there are some.
The most important thing you'regoing to do long-term for your
health is to do strengthtraining in a way that you're
not going to likely to injureyourself, be likely to injure
yourself and in a way thatyou're going to build muscle
mass, because, as we learn, it'sbecoming more and more apparent
(07:27):
that that is one of the mostimportant factors in health, not
just for your physical health,but also for your mental health.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
From the standpoint of dementia, yes, and as we age,
you know, after the age of 30,we start to lose muscle in a
significant manner every decadethat we age past 30.
So it's really important thatwe have the nutritional
components we need, as well asstrength training, to combat
that and really to build a bodythat will last a long time.
And so I was also thinking, youknow, there are things that
maybe you just absolutely don'tlove doing and that wouldn't be
(07:54):
the group for you.
For the two of us, that'shiking.
We live in Arizona.
Hiking is very popular, it'sbeautiful, but for some reason
it's just not our jam.
So we do not choose to hikealmost ever, uh, and we'll
choose other activities withfriends.
But I have and you've run amarathon as well.
Only one time, only one time,but the back in Okinawa, japan,
(08:16):
when I was in more of a, muchmore of a cardio mode and I did
a lot of running.
I always had running partnersand that was actually how I came
to run my first half marathon,another half marathon, two full
marathons, and it was reallyjust having someone that I love
spending time with and we setthe goal together and we were
able to achieve the goals and itbecame a way to pray together
and you know it was.
It was like a community outletfor me, but it was only one
(08:39):
other person at the time.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Yeah, and you're working out with our middle son,
Austin, and I've got ouryoungest son, Dylan, working out
with me.
He is 13, getting close to 14and anxious to put on muscle.
Uh, football season juststarted and he loves basketball
and I'm really enjoying the timeit.
You know, honestly it detractsa little bit from the intensity
of the workout, but it's adefinite trade off.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
He's very goal though .
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Yeah, but he's also a talker.
But once again, it's one ofthose things where everything's
a trade-off and I would ratherhave that quality time with him.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
And he loves to sign with you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
He does, and I enjoy it with him as well, so that is
wonderful.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Okay, so how do we evaluate if a community is right
for you, like shared goals orvalues?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
understanding what your values are is also really
important.
You know there's there's somegyms out there that support
things and you know fundraisingfor things that don't support
our, that don't line up with ourbeliefs and our values, and so
we choose not to be members ofthose gyms.
You know, I find thateverything is more enjoyable
(09:48):
when you do it with like-mindedpeople, so keep that in mind is
you know who are your people andthen go find out what they're
doing or invite them to do itwith you is really important.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Yeah, and really I mean in 2020,.
It became a defining line inthe sand for me, because there
were some places I was workingout that were requiring masks
and we just weren't.
I was not willing to wear oneat all in life, let alone when I
exercised, and so I skirtedthose rules for a while, and
then, when it got to a placewhere it was just so
uncomfortable, I was like I'mdone, I'm going to do my
workouts at a different placeand in a different way, even
(10:19):
though it was a foundationalpiece for me.
And the other thing is, youknow, there are certain places
that allow men and women'sbathrooms and I will refuse to
support them from a businessstandpoint.
I don't think that's okay,allow men.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Did I just say it the wrong way?
Allow men and women's.
I just want to make sure peopleunderstand.
We're okay with men's bathroomsand women's bathrooms.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
What we're not okay with is men in women's bathrooms
In women's locker rooms, yes,and so I would never go to a gym
.
That, or continue going to agym if I found out that was
their policy.
Bam, absolutely, yeah, allright, so we have a couple of
tips for putting yourself outthere and connecting with
like-minded people.
Um, oh, I think there was oneother thing I wanted to say too.
I think that, when it comes tolike choosing the right type of
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community to be a part of, theother thing that I look for is I
look for trainers and coachesand I call it a teacher, cause
you know, when you're going to aclass, there's someone up front
guiding the class who is goingto push me to a new level and
also looks like they walk thewalk, because I've been a part
of classes and different workoutfacilities where those people
(11:23):
they don't look like they can dothe workouts.
Some of them can't do theworkouts the way that they're
describing.
So they're guiding us, butthey're not participating and
it's not because they'repregnant or something like that.
And so I really chase afterfitness professionals that can
lead me from the front, and theother thing is ones that will
push me, but not in a foolishway where I'm going to end up
injured, but just call me to ahigher level, and I've had some
great trainers at Orange, theoryand things that you know will
(11:45):
encourage me to go one levelfaster.
The place that Austin and I workout now at Iron Courts the
coach there is incredible.
He's got me benching more thanI ever have before and that's
not necessarily one of my goals,but because I'm in the class,
he's challenging me but he'salso supporting me so I don't
get injured and I think it'sjust really fun to make sure
that you're in the right type ofenvironment.
(12:06):
You don't want to be pushed toa place where, again, you go too
hard, too fast and you end upinjured.
But there are a lot of placesthat will just let you coast.
If you want and if that's notpart of your system to improve,
then you want to change whereyou go.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
That's good, that's good.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Yeah, make sure they're walking the walk, not
just talking the talk Exactly,and that is actually kind of
rare.
So it is important to checkthat out If that's important to
you, which it is for me.
I look for people that haveintegrity in all walks of life,
but especially in their fitness,All right.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
So let's talk about four specific things putting
yourself out there andconnecting with like-minded
people.
The first one is to simply justask your friends about their
experiences and get referralsright.
The friends that you enjoyspending time with, the friends
that are healthy or maybe yousee that they're getting results
say hey, what are you doing?
I would love to join you.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Yeah, actually the reason Austin and I ended up in
this workout class and why Icompletely pivoted my workouts
and ended a membership at oneplace so I could start over here
, is because my friend, andrea,who was a running walking
partner, said, hey, you shouldtry this class with me, it's
really fun.
And I was like, okay, you knowI already go to classes, so I
didn't have a high level ofinterest, but just because she
(13:16):
invited me, I went to a classand I was like, wow, what I saw
in the room that we now go to isthe people love to be there
together.
Everyone knows each other'sname, everyone cheers each
other's name, everyone cheerseach other on, they give high
fives.
It's a Christ-filledenvironment.
So for me, because that's ourfaith background, it's a really
enriching environment.
There's young people, oldpeople at 6 am all working out
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together and it is so positive.
And in all of the places I'vegone and the classes I've been a
part of, I've never found it tobe such a cool community, which
I think is what draws Austin tocome with me every week as well
.
So that's really neat.
But it was just an invitationfrom a friend and so you know,
if you're at a great place.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Invite someone to go with you next time and if you're
looking, ask someone else ifthey have somewhere that they
really enjoy, although I have agreat place and you're not
welcome to join me there becauseI like to work out by myself.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
All right, tip number two is to try something for 30
days, Obviously havingexperiences, but it does take
time and the first time you goto a class you might be
miserable just because you'redoing something you've never
done before or because you don'tknow anyone.
It doesn't feel right.
So I always say give somethingabout 30 days to make a decision
before you pivot to somethingelse.
Yeah, that's great advice.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Yeah, well, we kind of talked about this.
But only take advice frompeople you trade health or
fitness with.
That is kind of talked aboutthis, but only take advice from
people you trade health orfitness with.
That is you know.
Leading by example is soimportant.
It's one of you know our corevalues.
Even if it's not written down,it's ductus exemplum is the
motto of the officer corps ofthe marine corps, and, uh, it's
just one of those things whereeveryone seems like an expert
(14:47):
until they actually have to doit, and then that's really what
separates the experts from thetalkers.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I thought you were going to say the men from the
boys, but or the parents whohave younger kids to the ones
that get to teens and feel likeall of a sudden they don't know
anything about parenting.
That's where we live right now.
Okay, tell us about tip numberfour, because this is something
you're really good at.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
So this last one is going public with your goals and
creating some type ofstructural tension and inviting
accountability.
So this is you know, a lot ofpeople struggle because their
health is very personal to themand sometimes they want to keep
it to themselves.
What I'm going to encourage allof you with is that if you try
to do this on your own, you'regoing to over time, you're going
(15:31):
to fail.
One of our favorite virtualmentors, Darren Hardy, says your
willpower will fail you 100% ofthe time over time.
So, yes, if you decide on yourown, you're going to start doing
you know, walking, some type ofexercise routine and you have
zero accountability.
You may be great, but over time, your willpower will fail you
and you're going to go back toold habits.
(15:53):
Accountability is absolutelyessential.
So, whether it's telling yourclosest friend, hey, this is
what I'm working on, I recommendopening it up to a bigger crowd
.
It doesn't have to be the entireworld on Facebook or Instagram,
but maybe you're a part of ahealth group, or maybe you're a
part of a mom's group or a dad'sgroup or something like that,
and you say, hey, guys, I amcommitting to you know, working
(16:14):
out every day for the next 30days, or, you know, getting
15,000 steps every day for thenext 30 days or something like
that.
That is really important andthen giving those people
permission to hold youaccountable, say, listen, if you
see me, will you help me inthis by asking me how I'm doing
in this goal?
The other thing that you'regoing to do is you're going to
inspire others.
(16:35):
I know many times throughoutthe course of my health journey
for the last 13 years when Ihave struggled or I've been kind
of in a little bit of a rut andI hear from one of our friends
that's nailing it Like I'm justthinking of our friend Karin
right now, who's down over 40pounds.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
She is that's just since the beginning of the year,
though that's like.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Right right, she lost what 80 or 100 pounds years ago
and has just reengaged with herhealth journey.
She would qualify as a middleaged woman, but Sorry, karin, I
find you very useful.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
No, I mean, you've said what your age is, karin.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I'm not going to talk about it and you're also I
don't know if you're sub 20% yet, but that has been your driving
goal all year and you've beenso disciplined.
You said you've decided not toeat chocolate.
You don't feel deprived aboutit and you're just killing it.
And you've inspired me at times.
I know you inspired many peoplebecause you've been willing to
(17:32):
live out your journey out loud.
So I really encourage people todo that.
And the other thing is to justset a goal and, you know, figure
out maybe what is one thingthat you need to stop doing or
start doing until you reach thatgoal.
Now, the flip side is, if yougo back to that habit as soon as
you reach it, you're probablygoing to end up back where you
were.
But one of the great ways tobreak a habit is to create some
(17:55):
type of tension along withaccountability, because we know
well we've heard differentnumbers it takes 21 days to
break a habit or start a newhabit.
I've heard 60 days.
There's a lot of differentnumbers out there, but the
bottom line is this will helpyou get some momentum going in
either breaking a bad habit orcreating a new one.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
And I really feel like this has been acted out
with Austin and I, because he'salmost 16.
He'll be 16 in a couple daysand getting up in the morning is
not the favorite thing for anyteenager.
And we started this routinewhile it was still summer break,
a couple weeks ago, actually,in the month of July.
We committed to going theentire month of July, three days
a week, and I basically saidhey, I will, you know, pay for
(18:36):
this membership if you'll gowith me, but only if you're
going to show up.
If you'll go with me, but onlyif you're going to show up.
And I don't want to get up.
I mean, I work out fine on myown, but I said I don't want to
get up for you and have youknock it up.
And he has been so consistentsetting his alarm getting up
being ready to go out the doorat 5 50 AM, even on school days
and even when we were gone andwhen we were gone we had.
(18:59):
We got a ride for him when wewere't do it and I would just
say hey, come with me, you cancome back and go to bed.
And both times that happened hegot up and he went to class and
afterwards he's like I'm reallyglad I went, now I need to go
rest.
Um, so he goes right now beforeschool, which is super
impressive and runs home andshowers and runs out the door.
It's very busy busy on Monday,wednesdays and Fridays, but I'm
(19:27):
really proud of him for theconsistency.
He's now on like five or fiveweeks, almost six weeks, of
consistency.
So, again, because there'stension in being in the same
household, driving together andhaving goals, so okay.
So let's talk aboutaccountability and support
strategies.
We've covered this a little bit,but really setting up
accountability systems withinyour community.
So, if you need closeraccountability, invite someone
to go with you to a class,especially if you're going to
somewhere where no one knows youand you know there's that
awkwardness of going in for thefirst time.
(19:47):
You don't know the routine, youdon't know what equipment
you're going to need.
Bring a friend with you,because so many times you can
just laugh through it all.
I remember going to my firststep aerobics class way back in
college, and I hadn't done stepaerobics before, and so I got
the step out, set it up in theback of the class.
I think I've told you this.
We weren't married yet and itwas at 24 hour fitness when I
(20:08):
was living in Oregon with myparents.
I set my step up in the back ofthe class and then the
instructor decided to flip theclass around, and so I was then
in the front row of the classand I fell off my step.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
The middle is the place to be.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
Not like fell on the ground but, like you know, when
you're first using a step it'sactually very simple, but still
there's a lot of twisting andturning and backwards and
forwards across the step and Ijust took like a misstep and
kind of stumbled and I wasthinking this is why I was
setting myself up in the back ofthe class so no one would see
it.
But no, here I was in the front,probably at 18 years old.
So uh, and then the first timeI went to my hip hop class that
(20:41):
I have enjoyed going to for thelast few years, where I
literally feel like I'm, I lookamazing.
But then I look in the mirrorand I'm like no, I am a
middle-aged woman.
The girls in the front row withthe really tiny waists, who
probably haven't had, haven'thad any babies yet and can kick
all the way up to their noses,and you know my, my kicks are
like halfway up in the airbecause I don't want to pull a
hammy.
But I have a lot of fun in thatclass.
(21:02):
Now, because I've been goingfor such a long time, I don't
care, but when I first went Iwent with girlfriends so we
could laugh at not knowing theroutine and have a really good
time together.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
So yeah, and obviously, a lot of times,
people will celebrate, you know,health goals with an unhealthy
meal, and so one of the keypivots to make is setting goals
for yourself, whether it'spedicure, a massage, maybe it's
a new outfit, maybe it's a newswimsuit and a smaller size, or
something like that.
Setting up goals like that isreally helpful.
One other thing that people cando is they can actually pledge,
(21:36):
and if you're going to do this,do this publicly.
Basically, make a commitmentthat if you fail to follow
through on your commitment,you're going to make a donation
to a cause that you despise or apolitical party that you don't
like.
There's actually a website outthere I don't know if it still
exists where what they would dois it help people achieve goals
(22:01):
by them basically putting acredit card down and they would
make a pledge, and if I don't dothis, then it's going to make a
donation to the party I hate,the candidate I can't stand or a
cause that I can't stand, andif you go public with that, I
guarantee you it's going to helpyou hold yourself accountable,
(22:23):
help you hold yourselfaccountable.
So you need to have intrinsicmotivation, but I believe that
sometimes external motivationcan help get some momentum going
.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Wow, that would be quite drastic.
I would not.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
I don't know.
Basically, you put yourself ina position where there's there's
come hell or high water.
I'm not going to fail and I'mnot going to miss out.
Well, according to James, Clear.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
that would only work until you kind of completed that
cycle, so you'd always have tohave another carrot.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Right, but it would get you going or it helps you.
In that time frame you buildthe systems that will help you
be successful long term.
Because you're right.
If you said I'm not going toeat chocolate cake for 30 days
or I'm going to donate to XYparty that I can't stand, Well,
you'll do it for 30 days.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
And then on day 31, you're going to binge, right,
right, you have to put thesystems in place, yes, and then
one more thing, real quickly, asfar as support strategies and
this is just more from a tacticstandpoint, but I would always
encourage people looking forfitness communities and
participating in fitness to makesure that your different things
you're doing with your bodythroughout the week include
strength, flexibility, speed,agility, just the systems to
improve those things.
Even if you're just walking oryou're swimming in the pool, you
(23:26):
can improve by time orendurance, no matter where you
are in your fitness journey,because if not, you're probably
going to stay stuck and ourbodies are meant to take on
resistance.
Our bodies are meant to dosomething uncomfortable, to grow
and change.
So if doing the same exercisesfor six months are not hard for
you anymore, then you're reallynot giving yourself what it
needs.
You're probably not workingyour heart and lungs the way you
(23:48):
need to and you're not going tobe breaking down and building
muscle in a way that's going tohelp you be creating a lifestyle
that's going to help you livelonger and healthier.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
All right, real quick , how to give and receive
constructive feedback.
Ask for permission to giveconstructive feedback and don't
ask your spouse to be youraccountability partner.
Is that?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
true, as a general rule.
Okay, I don't think I ask youvery often.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
That doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
You don't like it when I ask you questions.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
So that's why we have our own separate accountability
.
Exactly.
Hey, friends, we're going totake a quick break and, if
you're enjoying this episode, wewant to share something really
special with you.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
That's right.
If you haven't heard already,kevin wrote an incredible book
last year called the SevenDisciplines of Uncommon Freedom.
Thanks, bec.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
You know we've been talking about the power of
community in fitness, and it gotme thinking about how chapter
seven of my book talks all aboutthe concept of community and
how it flows into every area ofour lives.
I share the exact strategiesthat have helped over 100,000
individuals unlock their truepotential.
We're talking abouttransforming your health,
transforming your mindset, yourrelationships and even your
(24:51):
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Speaker 2 (24:52):
And Kevin, I love how you tie it all back to living a
life that honors God.
It's not just about personalsuccess, but about making an
eternal impact.
Yeah, that's really the heartof it.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
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definitely a roadmap that willwork for you.
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Speaker 2 (25:30):
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Speaker 1 (25:33):
All right, thanks, beck.
Now let's get back to ourdiscussion on building your
fitness tribe.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
All right.
Number four is leveragingtechnology.
So there are apps and platformsout there, of course, and I do.
You use anything that youprefer for finding your workouts
, and I do.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
I have used a workout called Jeff it J, e, f, I, t.
I've been using it for well,let's see.
I've only had a smartphone forwhat?
10 years or so, but Iabsolutely love it.
You can create your ownworkouts with their premium
version.
There's tons of canned workoutsyou can put in whatever your
(26:10):
fitness goals are.
You know cutting, shredding,building, mass cross training,
things like that.
The bottom line is, withsmartphones and things like that
, there's so many great apps outthere that will take you
through workouts.
You can some of them you'reeven actually working with a
personal trainer in a group typeof setting.
So there's really no excusewith technology to say, well, I
(26:33):
don't know what I'm doing, soI'm not going to do anything.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Yes, and for our Optivia clients or anyone else
who wants to use it, there's anapp called Aptiv A-A-P-T-I-V and
that's got, I think, over 7,000workouts, all kinds.
You know, wall Pilates to everyother kind of workout you can
think of.
I think it has wall Pilates.
If not, there is a wall Pilatesworkout.
But basically find somethingthat will give you either a
variety of workouts or fill inthe gap for something you're not
(26:57):
getting somewhere else throughmaybe group fitness or working
out with a friend.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
All right, and another thing is challenges.
Obviously, there's tons ofdifferent challenges that are
out there.
You know, be cautious.
You know weight loss challengesare a carrot and a stick type
of scenario typically, sothere's a lot of people who do a
challenge and they will losethe weight and then they put it
right back on.
It's very much a diet type ofmentality, but, once again, a
(27:22):
challenge can be something thatcan help motivate you to start
changing your systems and tocreate some habits and to
eliminate some bad habits.
So they're not worthless, butjust keep in mind that, unless
you change your system, you'rejust going to have to go from
challenge to challenge tochallenge, and for some
personalities, though,challenges work really well.
I myself don't enjoy them, butmany people find the challenges
(27:44):
are extremely helpful for them.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
That's good, okay.
And number five is overcomingcommon obstacles, so dealing
with negative influences orunsupportive people.
I don't know, have you had anyof those in your life?
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Not many, but bottom line is if they're unsupportive,
get rid of them.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Yeah, I would just say we again don't take advice
from people that we wouldn'ttrade lives with, wouldn't trade
health with, and so there aresome great people out there with
wisdom for us that we want tobe coachable on, but if there
are people that are just notcoming along for the ride, are
criticizing something we'redoing, then we're not there for
them, like we're not big um,crossfit worker, worker.
(28:20):
There's not a right way to saythat we have never done a cross.
I've done maybe one crossfitworkout and it's not my style of
working out.
I don't prefer, like theOlympic level, lifting or type
of lifting, but I don'tcriticize.
I mean, if those people want todo it that way, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
That's just not the type of workout that I'm going
to do, and CrossFit has done aphenomenal job of building
community.
I would say there's almost noworkout out there that has
created community like CrossFitdoes.
I think it's probably the best.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
The types of workouts that are there are not what I
enjoy doing, so that's why Ihaven't ever joined a CrossFit
gym.
But exactly that's an exampleof a place that develops really
good community.
I totally agree with you.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Yeah, but I do think that people just have to
understand that your health isgoing to rise or fall to the
level of the people you spendthe most time with.
So if you look at your fiveclosest friends, if they're
healthy or if they're healthierthan you, there's a good chance
that you're going to rise totheir level.
If they're healthy, or ifthey're healthier than you,
there's a good chance thatyou're going to rise to their
level.
If they're less healthy thanyou, it's most likely that
you're going to sink to theirlevel.
I was I've mentioned this to you, but I have my Eagles group.
It's about six, seven guys toget together all different
(29:20):
careers, and these are guys thatI have hand selected.
Selected, and fitness is notnecessarily a focus of the group
at all, other than the from thestandpoint that we are all
passionate about stewarding whatgod has given us.
But it's very interesting to methat all the guys are
reasonably in shape, some morethan others, but there's every
(29:44):
single one of the guys in thegroup is above average in their
health and fitness, like if youwere to compare them to the
average american male.
They're all well above the 50thpercentile.
So keep that in mind.
Speaker 2 (29:54):
That's good.
Another common obstacle wouldbe just staying consistent when
motivation dips.
We all know that again,motivation is like willpower,
it's like a battery it's goingto wear out.
And that's where having thatexternal accountability is
really important from people inyour life, whether it's the
people you live with, the peopleyou work out with, a community
that you're a part of, a coachwho comes alongside you.
(30:15):
One of my favorite things to dois, even though we're not
coaching a fitness plan, when wecoach our clients, that is part
of their health journey and sowe're constantly creating goals
for themselves and systems tosupport the goals.
Each week, when I check in withmy clients to make sure that
they're active, they're moving,that they've got strength
training built in andflexibility and things like that
, so they have a weekly callwhere we do a quick check-in and
(30:36):
it provides that externalaccountability.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
And just kind of from a human psychology standpoint.
Also keep in mind that when youpay more especially so this is
like keep in mind that if youpay for your entire gym
membership in January, you'regoing to forget about what it
costs you when February or Marchrolls around.
So you might want to considerif you're not dedicated to
(31:01):
actually making a monthlypayment.
So every month when you look atyour credit card or your debit
card statement, you have areminder of oh my gosh, I just
wasted X number of dollars.
If you're doing the cheapestmembership out there, you're not
using it.
You might need to create someextra accountability by hiring a
personal trainer.
Or maybe you're going to a moreexpensive gym where you're not
going to be okay wasting it,right, if it's just a few
(31:23):
dollars, it's like ah, it wasjust a few dollars.
Also, sometimes when you signup for a class, there's a
cancellation fee.
So we're trying to usepsychology and rewards and
punishment or consequences forour benefit, and so look for
things like that.
(31:44):
If you're someone who's justultra-disciplined and you just
don't miss workouts, then thisdoesn't apply to you, but
probably for the majority of us.
These are things that we needto consider.
So just having skin in the game, as we call it, is really
important.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
That's actually true for me, because I do pay for one
of my memberships, one of mymemberships.
I have memberships a couple ofplaces because I like to do a
lot of different things, but oneof them I do pay for annually,
but that is fine, because I'mgood, you go, yeah, but there is
another place I used to go tothat does charge a $12
cancellation fee for every class.
And it's interesting that Irarely cancel and I can totally
(32:18):
afford the $12 fee.
But it's just somethingpsychological about that.
That's like, oh, I'll just go,and usually I would cancel
because I didn't get a goodnight of sleep and I go to a
very early class there.
But it's like, you know what?
I'll go, I'll figure out thesleep part later.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
And you never regret going?
No, not usually.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Although sleep is very important, so we don't ever
want to forsake that for a longperiod of time.
So, all right, let's recap thetakeaways for building your
fitness tribe.
So, number one the power ofcommunity is boosting motivation
and results.
How and results how to find theright fitness tribe for you.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
Number three is strategies for accountability
and mutual support.
Number four is leveragetechnology to expand your
network.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
And number five is overcoming obstacles and staying
consistent.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
All right, friends.
Hey, that's a wrap for thisepisode on building your fitness
tribe.
We really want to know, wereally want you to know that you
don't have to do your healthjourney alone.
In fact, you're going tostruggle if you do it completely
by yourself.
It's actually better to havepeople by your side.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Absolutely.
We hope this has inspired youto seek out or create a
supportive community that willhelp you reach your fitness
goals.
Your tribe is out there waitingfor you.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
And friends, if you found this episode helpful or
any one of our other episodes,please share it, review it and
share it with someone who couldbenefit and, as always, we'd
love it if you would leave afive-star review.
Subscribe so you get every oneof our episodes, and leave a
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We love interacting with thoseof you who watch.
We'd love to hear what worksand what doesn't work for you,
(33:46):
and we really want to helpsupport you as you continue to
build strong community that willhelp you achieve your health
and fitness goals.
Thanks for joining us on thepath to uncommon freedom.
We'll see you next time.
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