September 12, 2024 • 27 mins
In this continuation of their previous episode, Kevin and Bekah Tinter delve deeper into the practice of lifestyle design and its impact on success and fulfillment. Drawing from their personal experiences and insights, they discuss:
- Defining and living by your core values
- Effective time and energy management strategies
- The importance of embracing an abundance mindset
- Practical tools for auditing your time and energy
- The value of consistent reflection and adjustment in lifestyle design
Kevin and Bekah offer actionable advice on aligning your daily decisions with your long-term goals and values. They share personal anecdotes about delegation, managing family dynamics, and the power of surrounding yourself with positive influences.
Whether you're an entrepreneur, a busy professional, or someone looking to live more intentionally, this episode provides practical steps to design a life that reflects your values and aspirations. Join us for a conversation that will inspire you to take control of your time, energy, and mindset to create the life you truly want.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hey everyone, welcome back to the Uncommon Freedom
Podcast, where we explore theintersection of entrepreneurship
and intentional living.
Today's episode is part two ofthe episode we recorded a few
weeks ago, entitled EveryDecision is a Vote for the Life
you have.
But we had so much content weneeded to come back into the
studio to finish it up.
(00:26):
So today we're going to wrap upthe discussion about why
lifestyle design isn't aone-time project, but a
continuous practice that shapesyour success and fulfillment.
Beck, welcome back.
It's good to see you again.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Good to see you too, it's been a while it has been.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Are you excited for your trip tomorrow?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Yes, leaving for Italy tomorrow with the ladies
Very excited.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
The queens.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
The queens, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Which is Regina?
Is that Italian for queen?
Or why is that?
In the welcome letter fromBrooke, I don't know it says
ciao, regina, becca.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Well then, I'm assuming it is I need to study
up on my Italian, so I don'tknow.
Otherwise I got the name wrong,but they're pretty good about
making everything veryprofessional, yes and um.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
The goal was to get everything into one suitcase.
How'd you do one?
Speaker 2 (01:12):
carry on one carry on and a giant tote bag.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Thank god for vacuum packing technology.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I still haven't decided if the vacuum packing
was better or if I should havebeen rolling my clothes.
One person bailed the vacuumingand ended up going with the
rolling and said that worked.
But I don't know.
It's amazing the shrinkage.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Yep Shrinkage is real .
It's like cold plunging for thebody, right Vacuum packing.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Potentially.
Yeah, it's amazing.
I've never done it before.
It's working pretty well, butthis is very stressful for me.
I am a over packer.
I really like to be prepared.
I have all of my outfitspre-planned with only a few
extras, because there's somehangout time where it's like you
know what if I don't haveanything else to wear?
Um, I'm not taking almost anyworkout gear because I'm not
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going to do scheduled workoutsin the same way, and I'm bare
minimally packing all the otherthings that I need the four
four-hour work week.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Tim Ferriss.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
He talks about packing super light.
If you need it, buy it whenyou're there.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Don't be surprised if you see some charges for a
large suitcase to get all mycrap home.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
An overpriced whatever Italian leather
suitcase, which I don't evenneed a suitcase.
What you could do is pack oneof my old military sea bags.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I don't even have room for a sea bag.
I don't have room for anotherbag, otherwise I absolutely
would have packed another bag.
So I'm kind of proud of myself.
It's also a little pathetic andI'm not really sure how it's
going to turn out, but lastnight I definitely wasn't having
any of the teasing.
Also, I was thinking it's funny.
We are dressed similarly,matching again today.
(02:43):
It's just a white t-shirt, butI swear we probably dress
similarly, I don't know half ofthe time, or at least when we
travel together well, eventstogether.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Tell the kids all the time great minds think alike
great minds think alike and 26plus years of yes yeah, it's
like I don't know what it is.
I didn't see what you werewearing.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
I walked downstairs.
I'm like of course we're bothwearing a white t-shirt.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Know, I was thinking the next time we go to an event,
we should take a photo of ustogether every single day,
because our ability tounintentionally match At least
coordinate.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Yeah, coordinate We've only had one massive
failure in this, and that was acouple years ago at that level
of event.
We were both on the stagetogether, we both wore red on
the stage and not the same colorof red.
There's a lot of different likeyou could do blues, maybe
greens would be okay, but youget in the red category and if
it's not like the same color,it's really bad together.
And I remember being like whatwere we thinking?
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but we weren't we did notpre-plan, and we actually don't
normally plan unless it's like aformal event.
So, yep, we're just in tune,babe.
All right, awesome.
Well, have an awesome trip.
Thank you, babe.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
So we're going to move on to talking about core
values and intentional living.
So let's explain the importanceof defining and living by your
core values.
So on page 159 of SevenDisciplines of Uncommon Freedom.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Such a good book, everyone should pick up a copy.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
We have a simple list and things like this are
available all over the place,but it's a simple list to really
identify your core values.
So if you haven't done anythinglike this, pick up your copy of
the book and go through.
There's probably about 30different core values here, but
what we've found is that whenyou know what is really
important to you, you can focuson what you want and what you
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want to create in life, insteadof just focusing and trying to
avoid the things that you don'tlike.
Do you have anything else to?
Speaker 2 (04:31):
say Well, just because when we talk about
lifestyle design, we're talkingabout being intentional with the
life we've been given, the onelife we've been given, and I
think because most of us again,we've said this multiple times,
it's not us who came up withthis statement Most people spend
more time planning for vacationthan they do their life.
Most people go through theirlife year by year, decade by
decade, and they don't actuallyknow what they're aiming at.
(04:53):
They don't know what theiroutcomes are, their intentions,
and we're never going to get100% of what we set our sights
on.
But we'll surely get 100% ofnothing if we don't plan on
anything, and 100% of nothing ifwe don't plan on anything.
And I think that you know somepeople end up lucky that their
kids have turned out well, luckyif their finances are strong,
lucky if they're still married,but that's probably not the case
for most people who aren'tintentionally investing in those
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parts of their life.
And so I think having corevalues, it helps you know again
what you stand for, what youdon't stand for.
The podcast we did the otherday with the other couple that
was really helpful because theywere talking about their purpose
statement, which remind me howthey defined it, cause I haven't
read the book yet.
I think they were talking aboutwhat you're willing to commit
your time to.
Do you remember that part of it?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
What you're willing to invest in.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
I don't remember exactly how they worded it, so
brilliantly, but it wasbasically like.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You know, what I decide to give my time to is
based on whether it fits mypurpose.
And if it doesn't, I'm probablygoing to phase out on it or I'm
not going to stay consistentwith it.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
And I might also butcher how they said this, but
they talked about.
I am worthy and my work isworth it.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Yes, or what makes my work worth it.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
What makes?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
it worth doing the work to me.
I think that was how theyworded it, so that's important,
worth it.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
What makes it worth doing the work to me?
I think that was how theyworded it, so that's important.
The importance of design islike we're trying to be
intentional about creatingsomething.
So even if you think aboutputting up a tent, like there is
a design that goes into thatand if you don't follow it, it's
you know until you haven'tfigured out, you do follow it.
It's a little rough Sometimesyou end up with a mess.
And certainly when you talkabout building some type of
structure like the design,knowing what is the end purpose
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that I have in mind, what do Iwant to create?
Right, that goes into thedesign and the foundation and
all the aesthetics that you wantto ultimately create, and when
you don't do that, you end upwith a mess.
It falls apart over time.
It's just not going to last theway that it should.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I definitely think of core values as the foundation.
So you know again, many peopleare building their life on a
very unfirm foundation, a veryflexible or, you know, it's just
not solid, and so they're notclear on what they want.
And when they're not clear onwhat they want, it becomes
difficult to make wise decisionsas life and society and culture
shift.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Yeah, that's great, all right.
So let's talk about managingtime and energy, and once again
we have a time audit on page 163to just help you.
And once again, there's a lotof different tools out there
available on the internet, butthis one is right here in the
book.
But it's really important totrack what you're spending your
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time on, because the truth is,people can say that my family is
important, my wife is important, my marriage is important.
You know, my relationship withGod is important, but you know,
show me your calendar and I'llactually show you.
I'll tell you what's really inyour bank account exactly
exactly what you value and whatwe find is that most people they
have very little true idea ofwhere they're spending their
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time.
People especially for you and I,who work with people who are
self-employed.
One of the biggest challengesof self-employed people is that
they overestimate or they givethemselves too much credit for
how much they're actuallyworking, and so doing a time
audit is very helpful for that.
It's just like when you do,when you track your food right,
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most of us think we're eatinghealthier than we thought, and
then we start to look atnutrition labels, we start to
enter it into an app andactually track the calories and
we say, holy crap, we're eatinga ton, a ton of garbage, we're
eating too many calories.
Yeah, and same thing with your.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
And just like we give ourselves more credit for the
activity that we do, often, youknow, it's like well, I did a
workout, you know, if we didn'thave these devices on our wrists
or wear heart rate monitors andeven those aren't perfect in
their calculations, you know, wewould probably say to ourselves
oh, I burned, you know, five or700 calories, when maybe you
burn 350 calories, especiallybecause the more fit you become,
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the more efficient you become.
So we tend to overestimate ouractivity levels and
underestimate what we'reactually putting into our body,
and so those calculations can beoff quite a bit.
And I think the same thing canhappen with our time, where we
feel busy.
But busy does not equalproductive, and so that's a
really good way for you toassess, you know again, where am
I spending time that'sproductively, moving my life
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forward, investing inrelationships, my business, my
personal health, my faith, walk,things like that that are going
to make me a better version ofmyself, versus just being busy
in the day-to-day things thatmight not serve you well Do you
have any practical tips to helppeople prioritize activities
that align with core values andalso eliminate or delegate the
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things that don't?
One of my favorites is a matrixthat talks it's four quadrants
and across one spectrum, one.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Is it the Eisenhower matrix right?
Urgent and important?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yes, urgent and not urgent importance and not
important, thank you, and it'sbroken into four quadrants.
But basically, urgent andimportant things need to happen
almost immediately.
We usually need to be the onesto do them and that might be
like you know, you've got tojust clarify if it's important
and urgent.
And that's happened rightquadrant one is urgent and
important.
Quadrant two is, um, importantbut not urgent, and those are
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things that we need to schedule.
These are the things we shouldbe putting on our calendars to
make sure they're getting done.
We're probably the ones to dothem, but what happens is if we
don't take care of them in atimely manner, if they don't go
on our calendar, if we don'tfollow through, they become
quadrant one emergencies.
So that would be things that,again, are important but not
urgent in the moment.
Quadrant three are things thatare important but not urgent,
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and they can.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Can, did I say that.
Right, I'm not looking at it umquadrant three, not important
but urgent, urgent yeah, harderto do without the actual diagram
.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Um, and those are things that we choose to
delegate most of the time, andwe have an ongoing, uh, love
affair with delegation.
We've basically, once wediscovered it, figured out how
to use it.
We've been perfecting it forthe last many years and we've
become better and better atdelegating.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
So like picking up your dry cleaning or dropping
off your dry cleaning would be.
It's important or it's notimportant, but it is urgent In
the moment.
Yeah right, I guess it's.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Again, it's a little bit hard.
This can be, I think, kind of agray area as far as which
quadrants you delegate out of.
Let's get to quadrant four,which is not urgent or important
, and that is obvious timewasters, where most of us lose
time.
So we feel like we don't haveenough time for things.
We feel like we're busy, we'respending too much time in our
quadrant four activities.
I was just observing a child inour home spend a lot of time in
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quadrant four instead ofunloading the dishwasher and it
was driving me nuts.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I mean quadrant four, most especially in today's
modern world devices, andspecifically smartphones, is
probably the biggest quadrantfour time suck Right.
Our phones, our electronics,can also be tools when we're
sitting around with nothing elseto do at a kid's practice, and
we can be very productive, butit can also erase time for us
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almost immediately.
So let's go back real quick todelegation, because one of the
things that we do is we workwith a couple of different
assistants.
We have lists on an app on ourphone and we literally delegate
anything that we don't enjoydoing or need to personally be
doing.
Some of it we might be okay ator good at.
A lot of it we're not actuallygood at, and so it's very easy
to delegate, and what we'relearning is our different
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assistants also have differentpersonalities, so one of them
can take general ideas and runwith it.
One needs a lot more specifics,but we also get the
communication is the results weget is one of the sayings that I
think is from maybe Brene Brown, and it's a great saying
because it helps us understandthat if we didn't get the
outcome we wanted when wedelegated, that's on us and we
need to circle back and makesure that we have clarity.
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But it's so freeing to have 10things on our to-do list and
realize that we don't need to doany of those things.
So that's one way to make surethat you're living very
intentionally yeah, so we'retalking about managing time.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
The other thing is managing energy yes and, and so
once again in on page 165, thereis an energy audit, and energy
really has to do with, like alot of times, people, but also
activities.
There are some activities thatjust are a drain and these are
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very much personality based, butthere's also a lot of people
that can be either energy giversor energy takers.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
We also call them like anchors and engines.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yes, yeah, and it's so important for us to
understand who is the.
You know who's the energy giverand who's the energy taker in
our life and you know there aregoing to be some relationships.
You know they could be.
You know past friendshipsthey're energy takers, they're
anchors, and you realize youknow they could be.
You know past friendships thatthey're energy takers, they're
they're anchors, and you realize.
You know what.
I can pretty much eliminate them, at least eliminate spending
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time with them, you know.
So I might still see them at aparty, I might still send them a
Christmas card, but I'm goingto be intentional about not
scheduling time with them,because I realized when I spend
time with them they suck thelife out of me.
And then there's going to beother people who absolutely fuel
you up.
You spend time with them andyou feel better.
You know they're going tochallenge you to be a better
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person, you know, to deepen yourfaith with the Lord and to be a
better spouse, to be a betterparent.
But this is really important.
And then also, you know too, alot of times you know there's
there's family dynamics thatcome into this, and you know
it's September when we'rerecording this, so we're coming
into the holiday season and sothe reality is for a lot of us,
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we need to examine OK, who arethe family members that are the
anchors versus the engines, andhow can I be intentional, to
strategize to minimize theamount, not saying that you
don't spend any time with yourfamily, but to be very
intentional.
You know how can I manage thisso that the energy isn't sucked
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out of me through the holidays,or you know whatever the case
might be for you, but this youknow energy management is so
important there's the rule oftwos as well.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
we didn't come up with it but it's very brilliant
and it's understanding thatpeople.
Some people are your two minute, some people are your two hour
and some people are your two daypeople and many times someone
might be someone that you couldhave originally do two days of a
vacation with.
But over time you grow, theydon't grow and they become a two
hour meal friend or atwo-minute conversation person,
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and so just kind ofunderstanding.
Many times we assign people, wemisalign our roles in the lives
of people or give peopledifferent permission into our
life, I guess would be the wayto say it.
I think I read a book recentlycalled Relational Intelligence.
So I take on emotionalintelligence.
It was a great book.
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I read it a long time ago, so.
But one of my takeaways are manytimes we put people into like a
friend category and we mightjust be assigned to them for a
season.
We might be assigned for apurpose or for mentoring or just
to basically we're going topass through life together for a
short period of time.
But maybe we associate them assomeone, as a close, trusted
friend, or they assign us thatrole and we don't have that same
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feeling back to them, and soit's just understanding that
there's different criteria thatyou go to to basically figure
out where you actually belong inyour relational intelligence
and reading people well andmaking sure that you're also in
relationships that are mutuallybeneficial, unless you're in the
relationship to serve the otherperson.
But if you're calling it afriendship and it's one way,
then it's going to be an energytaker not very long.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
And one of the other little strategies that we've
learned to use is you can'toverestimate the value of
investing in things that willhelp you manage your energy.
So, just as an example, wetravel a fair amount, and we
learned years ago that travelingreally isn't fun, and so we
invested in the process of thetraveling process.
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Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
God, we're going places.
Thank.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
God we've moved beyond the dreadful days of
COVID, but even today travelingbeing an airport, as a general
rule, is not fun.
So we invest in TSA PreCheck,we invest in Clear these little
things that help reduce hasslein your life.
We've realized I'm managing myenergy.
I'm actually conserving myenergy for more important things
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.
You know, basically it's kindof like investing or paying so
that you know what stresses meout.
And so what do I need to do sothat I can have a better
attitude?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
You're just minimizing drag as much as
possible.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
And it's also you mentioned activities, but I know
we're both thinking of probablysimilar things.
For you, meetings can be verydraining for you to be in
meetings.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Oh, they cannot be they are.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
They are and for me I would say one of the things is
like looking at spreadsheets andfind details like that,
analyzing metrics.
None of that is good for mybrain.
If you give me information Ican use with people and to
create influence and activatepeople, I really enjoy data, but
outside of that, raw data is,like you know, trying to have a
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conversation about thosecomplicated things late at night
for me are just not goinganywhere.
So I think it's understanding.
You know where do you getenergy, where do you lose energy
and at least minimize?
You can't eliminate all theplaces that take energy because
we have to do life, butminimizing those is really
important.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
All right, so let's move on to embracing an
abundance mindset.
This is something that we havelearned to love.
It really wasn't necessarilyhow either one of us was raised,
not by any fault of our parents.
It just wasn't kind of theconcept that our parents had, we
didn't discuss it, for sure wecertainly didn't discuss it.
But when we talk about anabundance mindset, it's really
about thinking do you think oflife as there's one pie and
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everyone is fighting for thebiggest piece of that pie, or do
you have a mindset that there'sactually no limit to how many
pies that can be created by theworld and by the economy and by
people, and so that when youcreate more pies, you're
actually not taking from anyone,which is the reality of the
economic system that we live in,because we actually, when we
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were at our absolute max inearnings, our income has gone
down, our gross revenue has gonedown a little bit, but we were
able to give significantly more,and this is actually something
that has hit us because we havebecome very passionate, we've
almost addicted to giving at avery high level and when we were
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making the most, we werespending the most but we were
also giving the most.
And so the abundance mindset isso important, important, it's
realizing man, when I hire anassistant, if you can afford to
do this, but once again, you cankind of work your way into um,
delegating more, but you startwith those most energy sucking
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activities, um, and you start todelegate those, you realize the
person you're delegating to you, you're, you're, you're
blessing them, you're puttingthem to work.
There's a lot of people who dothings and they're working in
their gifting.
They're actually working in thethings that give them energy
and it's an absolute blessing.
And the more abundance that wecan create, the more overflow
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that there is to the entireworld potentially.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
So we want to see opportunities instead of
limitations and also to makesure that we're being good
stewards of what's been given tous.
I mean we love the parable ofthe talents because in our world
we feel like you know, at somepoint we're going to be held
accountable for how we havestewarded our resources.
That means people,relationships, our health, our
physical bodies, our mindset,our walk with Jesus and our
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finances.
That's a lot of different areas, but we look at it like
stewardship means that we arebeing good caretakers of what
we've been given and thenhopefully, to be trusted with
more.
And we've really seen that in26 years of marriage we
stewarded the little bit offinances we started with really
close to below the poverty lineand then the Lord has given us
more over time and I think it'sreally defined how we've lived
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our life at this point, knowingthat it's not really ours, but
it is ours to manage.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Yeah, that's so good.
So we really want to encourageeveryone to start, and I think
one of the best ways to make theshift from the poverty mindset
to the abundance mindset is tospend time with people who live
from an abundance standpoint.
For us, doug and Tia wereprobably some of the first
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people to really model thatabundance mindset.
We've had other mentors throughthe years that have.
Really the poverty mindset isall about what can I get?
You're kind, you're kind oflooking what can I?
How can I get things for free?
What can I take advantage of?
And it's kind of a give me typeof mentality where the
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abundance mindset is how can Icreate?
How can I add?
How can I add more value toothers?
And the reality is when you,when you're operating from that
standpoint, you end up gettingmore and when you operate from
that poverty mindset, it is.
It definitely.
It's not fun, it can leave youstuck, I mean.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
I'm thinking about even just the difference between
a growth and a fixed mindset,which is really another way to
look at this.
You know, a fixed mindset isthere's only one way to do
something and I probably can'tdo it, I can't get better at it.
The way I was made, the way Iwas born, is the best it's ever
going to be.
And a growth mindset says no, Ican improve on things, I can
make them better, I can look foropportunities, I can practice,
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I can be responsible, I can takeextreme ownership, and
obviously we are still a work inprogress.
But I love the the ability toraise our kids with some of
these values, because some ofthem came from our parents and a
lot of them have come from thepersonal growth that we've done
in the last 13 plus years ofbusiness and learning that we
have a lot of opportunities forgrowth and if we'll reach out
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and take them, then we have moreunlimited potential than we
would have started with at thebeginning in our mindsets.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Yeah.
So just to wrap up here, wetalked today.
We talked about reallyidentifying your core values and
being intentional about thelifestyle that you want to live.
We talked about managing yourtime and your energy, talked
about the fact that there's youcan identify your core values on
page 159.
You can do a time audit on page163.
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And then the last thing is justto embrace that abundance
mindset and probably, like Isaid, the number one thing that
you can do is to identifysomeone in your life that you'd
say man, they really have thatabundance mindset.
They're the type of person thatwhen we go out to dinner,
they're offering to pick up thetab, or they leave a generous
tip, or you know, they're just.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
They're probably going to have a smile on their
face even I think it's beyondthe financial like you think
about.
Those are the people that takea minute to learn the server's
name.
You know they're just, they'relooking to bless other people
with their time and their energyand it doesn't mean they're
going to have a sideconversation with a server in
the middle of a dinner thatyou're having with other people,
but they're looking foropportunities.
They're also good listeners.
(23:48):
They ask a lot of questionsbecause in my, in my experience,
abundant minded people want tolearn from you, even if they are
smarter than you.
I think about some of ourconversations with like John
Maxwell and sitting at a tablewith him and he's willing to
give information and answerquestions, but he's also very
interested in people.
He has an abundance ofrelational equity with people
(24:10):
because of how he listens, howhe asks questions, and some
people are are poverty focusedwhen it comes to relationships
and they want to take all thetime and talk all only about
themselves, and those can beenergy takers when you spend
time with them.
So I think it's a lot of, youknow, self-awareness, making
sure that we have thatheightened sense of
self-awareness about ourdecisions and our actions.
It's also about consistency inthese habits that we've been
(24:33):
talking about.
You know being consistent topractice lifestyle design.
When we discipline our kids,when we make decisions in our
family, you and I are constantlygoing back to our core values.
You know what is our end game.
Where are we headed, does thissupport it?
Which decisions do we need tomake to pivot towards that, and
which ones can we let go of?
And then doing reflection.
(24:54):
You know most people, even ifthey do set goals, they often
set them at the beginning of theyear and I don't know that too
many people look at their goalsthroughout the year, which
creates a lot of false promisesto ourselves and in the world.
And I think what we'repracticing and teaching
ourselves, our family and ourcommunity is that it takes
intention to circle back everyquarter and say how are we doing
(25:15):
?
These are the things we'renailing, these are the things we
need to change.
This is the area we're stillworking towards and it allows us
to look back and assess andhave that close account of our
progress, instead of waitinguntil we get to an end of the
year and being like man, wemissed that or hey, we nailed it
, but if we nailed it, it wasprobably by luck instead of by
intention.
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listening to us on.
Hey everyone, welcome back to the Uncommon Freedom
Podcast, where we explore theintersection of entrepreneurship
and intentional living.
Today's episode is part two ofthe episode we recorded a few
weeks ago, entitled EveryDecision is a Vote for the Life
you have.
But we had so much content weneeded to come back into the
studio to finish it up.
(00:26):
So today we're going to wrap upthe discussion about why
lifestyle design isn't aone-time project, but a
continuous practice that shapesyour success and fulfillment.
Beck, welcome back.
It's good to see you again.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Good to see you too, it's been a while it has been.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Are you excited for your trip tomorrow?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Yes, leaving for Italy tomorrow with the ladies
Very excited.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
The queens.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
The queens, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Which is Regina?
Is that Italian for queen?
Or why is that?
In the welcome letter fromBrooke, I don't know it says
ciao, regina, becca.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Well then, I'm assuming it is I need to study
up on my Italian, so I don'tknow.
Otherwise I got the name wrong,but they're pretty good about
making everything veryprofessional, yes and um.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
The goal was to get everything into one suitcase.
How'd you do one?
Speaker 2 (01:12):
carry on one carry on and a giant tote bag.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Thank god for vacuum packing technology.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I still haven't decided if the vacuum packing
was better or if I should havebeen rolling my clothes.
One person bailed the vacuumingand ended up going with the
rolling and said that worked.
But I don't know.
It's amazing the shrinkage.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Yep Shrinkage is real .
It's like cold plunging for thebody, right Vacuum packing.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Potentially.
Yeah, it's amazing.
I've never done it before.
It's working pretty well, butthis is very stressful for me.
I am a over packer.
I really like to be prepared.
I have all of my outfitspre-planned with only a few
extras, because there's somehangout time where it's like you
know what if I don't haveanything else to wear?
Um, I'm not taking almost anyworkout gear because I'm not
(01:56):
going to do scheduled workoutsin the same way, and I'm bare
minimally packing all the otherthings that I need the four
four-hour work week.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Tim Ferriss.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
He talks about packing super light.
If you need it, buy it whenyou're there.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Don't be surprised if you see some charges for a
large suitcase to get all mycrap home.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
An overpriced whatever Italian leather
suitcase, which I don't evenneed a suitcase.
What you could do is pack oneof my old military sea bags.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I don't even have room for a sea bag.
I don't have room for anotherbag, otherwise I absolutely
would have packed another bag.
So I'm kind of proud of myself.
It's also a little pathetic andI'm not really sure how it's
going to turn out, but lastnight I definitely wasn't having
any of the teasing.
Also, I was thinking it's funny.
We are dressed similarly,matching again today.
(02:43):
It's just a white t-shirt, butI swear we probably dress
similarly, I don't know half ofthe time, or at least when we
travel together well, eventstogether.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Tell the kids all the time great minds think alike
great minds think alike and 26plus years of yes yeah, it's
like I don't know what it is.
I didn't see what you werewearing.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
I walked downstairs.
I'm like of course we're bothwearing a white t-shirt.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Know, I was thinking the next time we go to an event,
we should take a photo of ustogether every single day,
because our ability tounintentionally match At least
coordinate.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Yeah, coordinate We've only had one massive
failure in this, and that was acouple years ago at that level
of event.
We were both on the stagetogether, we both wore red on
the stage and not the same colorof red.
There's a lot of different likeyou could do blues, maybe
greens would be okay, but youget in the red category and if
it's not like the same color,it's really bad together.
And I remember being like whatwere we thinking?
(03:36):
but we weren't we did notpre-plan, and we actually don't
normally plan unless it's like aformal event.
So, yep, we're just in tune,babe.
All right, awesome.
Well, have an awesome trip.
Thank you, babe.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
So we're going to move on to talking about core
values and intentional living.
So let's explain the importanceof defining and living by your
core values.
So on page 159 of SevenDisciplines of Uncommon Freedom.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Such a good book, everyone should pick up a copy.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
We have a simple list and things like this are
available all over the place,but it's a simple list to really
identify your core values.
So if you haven't done anythinglike this, pick up your copy of
the book and go through.
There's probably about 30different core values here, but
what we've found is that whenyou know what is really
important to you, you can focuson what you want and what you
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want to create in life, insteadof just focusing and trying to
avoid the things that you don'tlike.
Do you have anything else to?
Speaker 2 (04:31):
say Well, just because when we talk about
lifestyle design, we're talkingabout being intentional with the
life we've been given, the onelife we've been given, and I
think because most of us again,we've said this multiple times,
it's not us who came up withthis statement Most people spend
more time planning for vacationthan they do their life.
Most people go through theirlife year by year, decade by
decade, and they don't actuallyknow what they're aiming at.
(04:53):
They don't know what theiroutcomes are, their intentions,
and we're never going to get100% of what we set our sights
on.
But we'll surely get 100% ofnothing if we don't plan on
anything, and 100% of nothing ifwe don't plan on anything.
And I think that you know somepeople end up lucky that their
kids have turned out well, luckyif their finances are strong,
lucky if they're still married,but that's probably not the case
for most people who aren'tintentionally investing in those
(05:15):
parts of their life.
And so I think having corevalues, it helps you know again
what you stand for, what youdon't stand for.
The podcast we did the otherday with the other couple that
was really helpful because theywere talking about their purpose
statement, which remind me howthey defined it, cause I haven't
read the book yet.
I think they were talking aboutwhat you're willing to commit
your time to.
Do you remember that part of it?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
What you're willing to invest in.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
I don't remember exactly how they worded it, so
brilliantly, but it wasbasically like.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You know, what I decide to give my time to is
based on whether it fits mypurpose.
And if it doesn't, I'm probablygoing to phase out on it or I'm
not going to stay consistentwith it.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
And I might also butcher how they said this, but
they talked about.
I am worthy and my work isworth it.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Yes, or what makes my work worth it.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
What makes?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
it worth doing the work to me.
I think that was how theyworded it, so that's important,
worth it.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
What makes it worth doing the work to me?
I think that was how theyworded it, so that's important.
The importance of design islike we're trying to be
intentional about creatingsomething.
So even if you think aboutputting up a tent, like there is
a design that goes into thatand if you don't follow it, it's
you know until you haven'tfigured out, you do follow it.
It's a little rough Sometimesyou end up with a mess.
And certainly when you talkabout building some type of
structure like the design,knowing what is the end purpose
(06:28):
that I have in mind, what do Iwant to create?
Right, that goes into thedesign and the foundation and
all the aesthetics that you wantto ultimately create, and when
you don't do that, you end upwith a mess.
It falls apart over time.
It's just not going to last theway that it should.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I definitely think of core values as the foundation.
So you know again, many peopleare building their life on a
very unfirm foundation, a veryflexible or, you know, it's just
not solid, and so they're notclear on what they want.
And when they're not clear onwhat they want, it becomes
difficult to make wise decisionsas life and society and culture
shift.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Yeah, that's great, all right.
So let's talk about managingtime and energy, and once again
we have a time audit on page 163to just help you.
And once again, there's a lotof different tools out there
available on the internet, butthis one is right here in the
book.
But it's really important totrack what you're spending your
(07:24):
time on, because the truth is,people can say that my family is
important, my wife is important, my marriage is important.
You know, my relationship withGod is important, but you know,
show me your calendar and I'llactually show you.
I'll tell you what's really inyour bank account exactly
exactly what you value and whatwe find is that most people they
have very little true idea ofwhere they're spending their
(07:48):
time.
People especially for you and I,who work with people who are
self-employed.
One of the biggest challengesof self-employed people is that
they overestimate or they givethemselves too much credit for
how much they're actuallyworking, and so doing a time
audit is very helpful for that.
It's just like when you do,when you track your food right,
(08:09):
most of us think we're eatinghealthier than we thought, and
then we start to look atnutrition labels, we start to
enter it into an app andactually track the calories and
we say, holy crap, we're eatinga ton, a ton of garbage, we're
eating too many calories.
Yeah, and same thing with your.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
And just like we give ourselves more credit for the
activity that we do, often, youknow, it's like well, I did a
workout, you know, if we didn'thave these devices on our wrists
or wear heart rate monitors andeven those aren't perfect in
their calculations, you know, wewould probably say to ourselves
oh, I burned, you know, five or700 calories, when maybe you
burn 350 calories, especiallybecause the more fit you become,
(08:44):
the more efficient you become.
So we tend to overestimate ouractivity levels and
underestimate what we'reactually putting into our body,
and so those calculations can beoff quite a bit.
And I think the same thing canhappen with our time, where we
feel busy.
But busy does not equalproductive, and so that's a
really good way for you toassess, you know again, where am
I spending time that'sproductively, moving my life
(09:04):
forward, investing inrelationships, my business, my
personal health, my faith, walk,things like that that are going
to make me a better version ofmyself, versus just being busy
in the day-to-day things thatmight not serve you well Do you
have any practical tips to helppeople prioritize activities
that align with core values andalso eliminate or delegate the
(09:24):
things that don't?
One of my favorites is a matrixthat talks it's four quadrants
and across one spectrum, one.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Is it the Eisenhower matrix right?
Urgent and important?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yes, urgent and not urgent importance and not
important, thank you, and it'sbroken into four quadrants.
But basically, urgent andimportant things need to happen
almost immediately.
We usually need to be the onesto do them and that might be
like you know, you've got tojust clarify if it's important
and urgent.
And that's happened rightquadrant one is urgent and
important.
Quadrant two is, um, importantbut not urgent, and those are
(09:57):
things that we need to schedule.
These are the things we shouldbe putting on our calendars to
make sure they're getting done.
We're probably the ones to dothem, but what happens is if we
don't take care of them in atimely manner, if they don't go
on our calendar, if we don'tfollow through, they become
quadrant one emergencies.
So that would be things that,again, are important but not
urgent in the moment.
Quadrant three are things thatare important but not urgent,
(10:23):
and they can.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Can, did I say that.
Right, I'm not looking at it umquadrant three, not important
but urgent, urgent yeah, harderto do without the actual diagram
.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Um, and those are things that we choose to
delegate most of the time, andwe have an ongoing, uh, love
affair with delegation.
We've basically, once wediscovered it, figured out how
to use it.
We've been perfecting it forthe last many years and we've
become better and better atdelegating.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
So like picking up your dry cleaning or dropping
off your dry cleaning would be.
It's important or it's notimportant, but it is urgent In
the moment.
Yeah right, I guess it's.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Again, it's a little bit hard.
This can be, I think, kind of agray area as far as which
quadrants you delegate out of.
Let's get to quadrant four,which is not urgent or important
, and that is obvious timewasters, where most of us lose
time.
So we feel like we don't haveenough time for things.
We feel like we're busy, we'respending too much time in our
quadrant four activities.
I was just observing a child inour home spend a lot of time in
(11:15):
quadrant four instead ofunloading the dishwasher and it
was driving me nuts.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I mean quadrant four, most especially in today's
modern world devices, andspecifically smartphones, is
probably the biggest quadrantfour time suck Right.
Our phones, our electronics,can also be tools when we're
sitting around with nothing elseto do at a kid's practice, and
we can be very productive, butit can also erase time for us
(11:39):
almost immediately.
So let's go back real quick todelegation, because one of the
things that we do is we workwith a couple of different
assistants.
We have lists on an app on ourphone and we literally delegate
anything that we don't enjoydoing or need to personally be
doing.
Some of it we might be okay ator good at.
A lot of it we're not actuallygood at, and so it's very easy
to delegate, and what we'relearning is our different
(12:00):
assistants also have differentpersonalities, so one of them
can take general ideas and runwith it.
One needs a lot more specifics,but we also get the
communication is the results weget is one of the sayings that I
think is from maybe Brene Brown, and it's a great saying
because it helps us understandthat if we didn't get the
outcome we wanted when wedelegated, that's on us and we
need to circle back and makesure that we have clarity.
(12:23):
But it's so freeing to have 10things on our to-do list and
realize that we don't need to doany of those things.
So that's one way to make surethat you're living very
intentionally yeah, so we'retalking about managing time.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
The other thing is managing energy yes and, and so
once again in on page 165, thereis an energy audit, and energy
really has to do with, like alot of times, people, but also
activities.
There are some activities thatjust are a drain and these are
(12:55):
very much personality based, butthere's also a lot of people
that can be either energy giversor energy takers.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
We also call them like anchors and engines.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yes, yeah, and it's so important for us to
understand who is the.
You know who's the energy giverand who's the energy taker in
our life and you know there aregoing to be some relationships.
You know they could be.
You know past friendshipsthey're energy takers, they're
anchors, and you realize youknow they could be.
You know past friendships thatthey're energy takers, they're
they're anchors, and you realize.
You know what.
I can pretty much eliminate them, at least eliminate spending
(13:28):
time with them, you know.
So I might still see them at aparty, I might still send them a
Christmas card, but I'm goingto be intentional about not
scheduling time with them,because I realized when I spend
time with them they suck thelife out of me.
And then there's going to beother people who absolutely fuel
you up.
You spend time with them andyou feel better.
You know they're going tochallenge you to be a better
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person, you know, to deepen yourfaith with the Lord and to be a
better spouse, to be a betterparent.
But this is really important.
And then also, you know too, alot of times you know there's
there's family dynamics thatcome into this, and you know
it's September when we'rerecording this, so we're coming
into the holiday season and sothe reality is for a lot of us,
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we need to examine OK, who arethe family members that are the
anchors versus the engines, andhow can I be intentional, to
strategize to minimize theamount, not saying that you
don't spend any time with yourfamily, but to be very
intentional.
You know how can I manage thisso that the energy isn't sucked
(14:32):
out of me through the holidays,or you know whatever the case
might be for you, but this youknow energy management is so
important there's the rule oftwos as well.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
we didn't come up with it but it's very brilliant
and it's understanding thatpeople.
Some people are your two minute, some people are your two hour
and some people are your two daypeople and many times someone
might be someone that you couldhave originally do two days of a
vacation with.
But over time you grow, theydon't grow and they become a two
hour meal friend or atwo-minute conversation person,
(15:02):
and so just kind ofunderstanding.
Many times we assign people, wemisalign our roles in the lives
of people or give peopledifferent permission into our
life, I guess would be the wayto say it.
I think I read a book recentlycalled Relational Intelligence.
So I take on emotionalintelligence.
It was a great book.
(15:23):
I read it a long time ago, so.
But one of my takeaways are manytimes we put people into like a
friend category and we mightjust be assigned to them for a
season.
We might be assigned for apurpose or for mentoring or just
to basically we're going topass through life together for a
short period of time.
But maybe we associate them assomeone, as a close, trusted
friend, or they assign us thatrole and we don't have that same
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feeling back to them, and soit's just understanding that
there's different criteria thatyou go to to basically figure
out where you actually belong inyour relational intelligence
and reading people well andmaking sure that you're also in
relationships that are mutuallybeneficial, unless you're in the
relationship to serve the otherperson.
But if you're calling it afriendship and it's one way,
then it's going to be an energytaker not very long.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
And one of the other little strategies that we've
learned to use is you can'toverestimate the value of
investing in things that willhelp you manage your energy.
So, just as an example, wetravel a fair amount, and we
learned years ago that travelingreally isn't fun, and so we
invested in the process of thetraveling process.
(16:31):
Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
God, we're going places.
Thank.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
God we've moved beyond the dreadful days of
COVID, but even today travelingbeing an airport, as a general
rule, is not fun.
So we invest in TSA PreCheck,we invest in Clear these little
things that help reduce hasslein your life.
We've realized I'm managing myenergy.
I'm actually conserving myenergy for more important things
(16:58):
.
You know, basically it's kindof like investing or paying so
that you know what stresses meout.
And so what do I need to do sothat I can have a better
attitude?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
You're just minimizing drag as much as
possible.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
And it's also you mentioned activities, but I know
we're both thinking of probablysimilar things.
For you, meetings can be verydraining for you to be in
meetings.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Oh, they cannot be they are.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
They are and for me I would say one of the things is
like looking at spreadsheets andfind details like that,
analyzing metrics.
None of that is good for mybrain.
If you give me information Ican use with people and to
create influence and activatepeople, I really enjoy data, but
outside of that, raw data is,like you know, trying to have a
(17:43):
conversation about thosecomplicated things late at night
for me are just not goinganywhere.
So I think it's understanding.
You know where do you getenergy, where do you lose energy
and at least minimize?
You can't eliminate all theplaces that take energy because
we have to do life, butminimizing those is really
important.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
All right, so let's move on to embracing an
abundance mindset.
This is something that we havelearned to love.
It really wasn't necessarilyhow either one of us was raised,
not by any fault of our parents.
It just wasn't kind of theconcept that our parents had, we
didn't discuss it, for sure wecertainly didn't discuss it.
But when we talk about anabundance mindset, it's really
about thinking do you think oflife as there's one pie and
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everyone is fighting for thebiggest piece of that pie, or do
you have a mindset that there'sactually no limit to how many
pies that can be created by theworld and by the economy and by
people, and so that when youcreate more pies, you're
actually not taking from anyone,which is the reality of the
economic system that we live in,because we actually, when we
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were at our absolute max inearnings, our income has gone
down, our gross revenue has gonedown a little bit, but we were
able to give significantly more,and this is actually something
that has hit us because we havebecome very passionate, we've
almost addicted to giving at avery high level and when we were
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making the most, we werespending the most but we were
also giving the most.
And so the abundance mindset isso important, important, it's
realizing man, when I hire anassistant, if you can afford to
do this, but once again, you cankind of work your way into um,
delegating more, but you startwith those most energy sucking
(19:29):
activities, um, and you start todelegate those, you realize the
person you're delegating to you, you're, you're, you're
blessing them, you're puttingthem to work.
There's a lot of people who dothings and they're working in
their gifting.
They're actually working in thethings that give them energy
and it's an absolute blessing.
And the more abundance that wecan create, the more overflow
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that there is to the entireworld potentially.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
So we want to see opportunities instead of
limitations and also to makesure that we're being good
stewards of what's been given tous.
I mean we love the parable ofthe talents because in our world
we feel like you know, at somepoint we're going to be held
accountable for how we havestewarded our resources.
That means people,relationships, our health, our
physical bodies, our mindset,our walk with Jesus and our
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finances.
That's a lot of different areas, but we look at it like
stewardship means that we arebeing good caretakers of what
we've been given and thenhopefully, to be trusted with
more.
And we've really seen that in26 years of marriage we
stewarded the little bit offinances we started with really
close to below the poverty lineand then the Lord has given us
more over time and I think it'sreally defined how we've lived
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our life at this point, knowingthat it's not really ours, but
it is ours to manage.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
Yeah, that's so good.
So we really want to encourageeveryone to start, and I think
one of the best ways to make theshift from the poverty mindset
to the abundance mindset is tospend time with people who live
from an abundance standpoint.
For us, doug and Tia wereprobably some of the first
(21:12):
people to really model thatabundance mindset.
We've had other mentors throughthe years that have.
Really the poverty mindset isall about what can I get?
You're kind, you're kind oflooking what can I?
How can I get things for free?
What can I take advantage of?
And it's kind of a give me typeof mentality where the
(21:34):
abundance mindset is how can Icreate?
How can I add?
How can I add more value toothers?
And the reality is when you,when you're operating from that
standpoint, you end up gettingmore and when you operate from
that poverty mindset, it is.
It definitely.
It's not fun, it can leave youstuck, I mean.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
I'm thinking about even just the difference between
a growth and a fixed mindset,which is really another way to
look at this.
You know, a fixed mindset isthere's only one way to do
something and I probably can'tdo it, I can't get better at it.
The way I was made, the way Iwas born, is the best it's ever
going to be.
And a growth mindset says no, Ican improve on things, I can
make them better, I can look foropportunities, I can practice,
(22:17):
I can be responsible, I can takeextreme ownership, and
obviously we are still a work inprogress.
But I love the the ability toraise our kids with some of
these values, because some ofthem came from our parents and a
lot of them have come from thepersonal growth that we've done
in the last 13 plus years ofbusiness and learning that we
have a lot of opportunities forgrowth and if we'll reach out
(22:38):
and take them, then we have moreunlimited potential than we
would have started with at thebeginning in our mindsets.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Yeah.
So just to wrap up here, wetalked today.
We talked about reallyidentifying your core values and
being intentional about thelifestyle that you want to live.
We talked about managing yourtime and your energy, talked
about the fact that there's youcan identify your core values on
page 159.
You can do a time audit on page163.
(23:06):
And then the last thing is justto embrace that abundance
mindset and probably, like Isaid, the number one thing that
you can do is to identifysomeone in your life that you'd
say man, they really have thatabundance mindset.
They're the type of person thatwhen we go out to dinner,
they're offering to pick up thetab, or they leave a generous
tip, or you know, they're just.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
They're probably going to have a smile on their
face even I think it's beyondthe financial like you think
about.
Those are the people that takea minute to learn the server's
name.
You know they're just, they'relooking to bless other people
with their time and their energyand it doesn't mean they're
going to have a sideconversation with a server in
the middle of a dinner thatyou're having with other people,
but they're looking foropportunities.
They're also good listeners.
(23:48):
They ask a lot of questionsbecause in my, in my experience,
abundant minded people want tolearn from you, even if they are
smarter than you.
I think about some of ourconversations with like John
Maxwell and sitting at a tablewith him and he's willing to
give information and answerquestions, but he's also very
interested in people.
He has an abundance ofrelational equity with people
(24:10):
because of how he listens, howhe asks questions, and some
people are are poverty focusedwhen it comes to relationships
and they want to take all thetime and talk all only about
themselves, and those can beenergy takers when you spend
time with them.
So I think it's a lot of, youknow, self-awareness, making
sure that we have thatheightened sense of
self-awareness about ourdecisions and our actions.
It's also about consistency inthese habits that we've been
(24:33):
talking about.
You know being consistent topractice lifestyle design.
When we discipline our kids,when we make decisions in our
family, you and I are constantlygoing back to our core values.
You know what is our end game.
Where are we headed, does thissupport it?
Which decisions do we need tomake to pivot towards that, and
which ones can we let go of?
And then doing reflection.
(24:54):
You know most people, even ifthey do set goals, they often
set them at the beginning of theyear and I don't know that too
many people look at their goalsthroughout the year, which
creates a lot of false promisesto ourselves and in the world.
And I think what we'repracticing and teaching
ourselves, our family and ourcommunity is that it takes
intention to circle back everyquarter and say how are we doing
(25:15):
?
These are the things we'renailing, these are the things we
need to change.
This is the area we're stillworking towards and it allows us
to look back and assess andhave that close account of our
progress, instead of waitinguntil we get to an end of the
year and being like man, wemissed that or hey, we nailed it
, but if we nailed it, it wasprobably by luck instead of by
intention.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
Yeah.
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Very few podcasts make it thatlong, and so we're excited to
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