July 25, 2024 • 22 mins
Maintaining your drive and passion as an entrepreneur is crucial for long-term success. But how do you keep that entrepreneurial fire burning while avoiding burnout?
In today's episode, we sit down and dive deep into practical self-care strategies that will help you sustain your entrepreneurial spirit.
Drawing from our experiences and insights, we share four key tactics for nurturing your entrepreneurial drive:
- Setting clear personal and professional goals
- Identifying your "big why" for building wealth
- Establishing daily habits and routines for success
- Engaging in motivational activities and celebrating milestones
We discuss the importance of creating a strong sense of purpose beyond financial gain, how to draft a family mission statement, and ways to incorporate productivity-boosting habits into your daily life. We also explore the power of surrounding yourself with motivated peers and creating a reward system for achieving your goals.
Whether you're a seasoned entrepreneur or just starting out, this episode offers valuable insights on how to care for your most important asset – yourself. Join us to learn how to cultivate a self-care routine that will keep you energized, motivated, and thriving on your entrepreneurial journey!
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hey Freedom Fighters.
As entrepreneurs, it's easy toget caught up in the grind and
neglect our own well-being.
But what if we told you thatprioritizing self-care is
actually key to sustaining yourentrepreneurial spirit?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
In today's episode, we're diving into practical
strategies to help you cultivatea self-care routine that will
help you energize.
Be energized, motivated andthriving as you pursue your
entrepreneurial dreams.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
So caring for your entrepreneurial spirit is
dynamic and extremelyintertwined with personal
well-being.
Here are four tactics andaction steps that we think are
fantastic for tending to thespirit so it can grow with you.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Okay.
So tactic one is to set clearpersonal and professional goals
to maintain direction andpurpose.
Wow, if that's not true, right?
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It is yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Sometimes we have people just kind of shooting
from the hip.
I think it's human nature andyou know.
When that happens, it's likeyou can get to a week or a month
or a year and you could justcircle something on your life
and say it was a bullseye.
But the truth is, if you're notactually tracking it, if you're
not setting intention, then howdo you know you've really moved
the dial forward?
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah, we talk about having goals for every spoke on
the wheel of life and going frommemory some of of the spokes
and there's different versionsof this out here, but physical
is a huge part of it Spiritual,financial relationships,
specifically marriage and family, parenting, things like that.
You've got the social communityaspects.
(01:37):
Those are some of the differentspokes on the wheel of life and
what we've experienced is that,you know, on the wheel of life
and what we've experienced isthat, you know, really for most
of our life we didn't havespecific goals until we, you
know, found the right community.
That really challenged us to bebetter and to be more
intentional about every area ofour life.
But one of the other things,when you think about the spokes
(01:58):
on the wheel of life, if you areflat in any one of those areas,
if you know anything about likea flat tire, especially if it's
a solid tire.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I don't know anything .
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Yeah, but if you have a solid tire, something that is
like an older solid rubber tire, if there's a flat spot on it,
you know you can drive aroundand then every time you hit that
flat spot it's a thump and itmakes for a very bumpy ride.
And it makes for a very bumpyride and it's a great analogy
(02:31):
that what we want to do is be aseven as possible.
You know, if you think about ona scale of one to 10, where
you're at in these differentspokes, the goal is to gradually
work your way out to a 10 inall those areas, versus being a
10 physically but a onefinancially those areas, versus
being a 10 physically but a onefinancially.
If you can be a five or six orseven and gradually work your
way out to being an eight, nineor 10 in all areas, you're going
to have a much more enjoyablelife, a lot less conflict and,
(02:56):
as the analogy shows you, a lotfewer bumps in your life.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Well said and where focus goes, energy flows.
So I think it's really easy forus to say like I'm working on
all my health goals right nowand we neglect time with our
family, potentially, or ourbusiness, or I'm so driven on
business and being present formy kids that I've let my health
go, and so we want to reallyencourage all of us to live an
integrated life.
(03:21):
It'll never be perfectlybalanced, but what we are
looking is that we cancounterbalance certain areas and
just keep everything inperspective, because to lose a
family relationship because ofbuilding a business, or to lose
your health just to be a parent,none of those things are going
to equal themselves out at theend of your life, I think, or
make you feel fulfilled or havewell-being or really allow you
(03:44):
to maximize your potential andmake an impact out there.
So the goal is that we won'tever be perfect in all of those
areas, but to work with themharmoniously, because we're
conscious of it and we'resetting these intentions.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Yeah.
So action step write down yourpersonal mission statement and
your business objectives.
And a strong sense of purposebeyond financial gain fuels
resilience and drive.
So tactic two is to identifyyour big why for building wealth
and articulate your desiredimpact.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Boy.
This one is something we'vereally grown into, because I
would say, initially, you knowwhat did big wealth mean to us?
You know, how did we kind ofdream beyond our immediate needs
?
And what's fun is, when youwrite this down and you track it
and you share it, especiallywith your spouse, then you
actually have a track record ofit.
You have a history to go backto.
So for us, you know, when Istarted our coaching business
(04:40):
back in 2011,.
You know I was thinking aboutthings like you know, could we
put our kids in a private schoolsomeday?
Our kids were three, two andtwo months old, so we weren't
really into schooling yet, butit was just like what, if I
wanted to put them in aChristian school, could I pay
for that at some point?
Speaker 1 (04:55):
And when we look back , if we hadn't generated some
additional income, we could nothave done it.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
No, not at that season of our life where you
were a police officer and I wasmostly a stay-at-home mom, and
then there were things that werelike what kinds of things did
we want to give to?
Obviously having goals forupgrades we wanted to make in
our home and we knew we wantedto entertain and have people
around.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Upgrades are good.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Upgrades are good.
We wanted spaces to do thosethings, we wanted time to do
those things, and so now I wouldsay we dream much more on the
level of how can we help otherpeople win the way that we have
been able to succeed financiallyand relationally and in
business and in life.
So we want to give that awayand we also want to continue to
create income because we havesome really important big dreams
(05:38):
and goals that are far beyondjust serving our own selves and
our own family.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, yeah, we do.
We have ministries that we'repassionate about.
They've shared their visionwith us.
We believe in the vision, andthe reality is that most of the
visions and the goals thatnonprofits and ministries have
require money, and some of thegoals that they have require
some significant amounts ofmoney, and we want to be a part
(06:05):
of that, and so that's actuallyone of the things that
absolutely drives us to to notbe complacent, but to continue
to grow so we can have a biggerand bigger impact.
So your second action step isto draft a family mission
statement, that is, if youhaven't done it since we talked
about this just a few weeks ago.
That captures your sharedpurpose, and I think husband and
(06:29):
wife will probably be thedriving factors in this, but
it's also fun to get your kids'intake on this.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
We should have had ours pulled up so we could share
it.
So maybe we could share it inthe show notes, because we have
one that has recently beendrafted.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Listen, guys, daily habits and routines are crucial
for cultivating anentrepreneurial mindset.
So tactic number three is todevelop a consistent morning
routine that includes goalsetting and planning.
What about you?
Do you do this in the morning?
I do a lot of things like thisat night, actually planning.
What about you?
Do you do this in the morning?
I do a lot of things like thisat night, actually, because I
like to set myself up before Igo to sleep with kind of like
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what my day is going to looklike the next day.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
But are you more of a morning goal setter?
No, I prefer to.
This is like my end of eveningroutine, planning out my day for
the next day, and the realityis most of my goals are done on
a monthly basis.
Like thinking about what I wantto accomplish for a year, break
it down into monthly.
I redo, kind of my dailytracker for the month, typically
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on the last day of every monthor the first of the month, and
there's not a whole lot ofvariety in it, a lot of routine
and but then obviously there'sthe main things I need to get
done every single day.
But uh, for the most part mygoals are, you know, in in month
long chunks and I just chipaway at them.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Obviously.
I think that's probably helpfulbecause I think if you're
changing your goals every singlemorning, you know you're going
to have a really tough timemoving the dial forward.
But also, as goals become moreautomatic and they become habits
, then it takes a lot lessemotional and mental energy.
That's why it's important LikeAtomic Habits is such a great
book because it talks abouthabit stacking.
So when you're building in anew habit, you're trying to
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create a new neural pathway.
Find something you already dowhether it's stretching in the
morning, reading your Bible,drinking coffee, brushing your
teeth and stack something newthat you want to do with that
habit, so it becomes easier.
So with our clients, a lot of itis like hey, how about reading
some of your habits of health?
Because that's going to takeyour mind along on your health
journey.
And if you can't find time todo that or you don't feel like
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you have time, how about you doit while you read your brush
your teeth?
You know you're brushing yourteeth for two or three minutes
and you read one page in yourlife book or something along
those lines.
So learning to stack new habitsnow what you and I have
developed over the last manprobably a decade, but even the
last five years is we've becomecreatures of habit in a lot of
ways.
So we both have a morningroutine.
They're not the same, but theyhave some similarities and we
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almost always do the same thingsevery morning.
We always listen to our DarrenDaly, we listen to our Bible app
, we spend some time with God.
You stretch consistently, wetake our vitamins.
These are things that have justbecome part of our success
habits and so they don't take usalmost any mental energy,
because I know that when I'veleft my bathroom at the end of
30 minutes or whatever, I'vedone almost all of the things
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that I normally do.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Yeah, and one of the things we learned is that every
decision takes energy, and whatwe want to do is minimize the
number of decisions that we haveto make and we want to save our
decision making for the moreimportant things.
So if you don't have to decideif you're going to work out,
you've already decided I'm goingto work out and you've also
(09:34):
decided when you're going towork out Then you've just saved
yourself several decisions andyou're saving, you're conserving
that energy for more impactful,more important decisions that
you'll need to make during theday.
So that's a really good thingto do.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Correct.
And then when you set yourhabits up to support your
decisions, your structure up tosupport your decisions, then it
makes it even easier to followthrough, right?
So what I will do often is I'llbook my workouts the night
before, set my alarm so I knowwhen I'm getting up, and even
though I can afford thecancellation fee, I don't really
want to pay that on a regularbasis.
It's a waste of money and I putmy shoes out if I need to, or
(10:10):
my outfit out that I'm going towear, and I know when I get up
in the morning when I'm workingout that day.
I rarely walk into a daythinking I just wonder when I'll
get a workout in today, becauseI know myself.
Honestly, for me, if it doesn'thappen around by 9 am at the
latest, it doesn't really happen.
You have an amazing habit ofdoing it at 9 pm or 10 pm if
needed, but what I'm doing isI'm reducing the drag that it
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takes to make a decision andcommit to something and follow
through, because it's veryvaluable to me.
So I've already made thedecision ahead of time.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Yeah, and the there's two things I mean.
I know Darren Hardy actuallytalks about the fact that, um,
he does not a fan of morningworkouts.
Like like doing your main walkworkout during the morning
because for most people, that'stheir, that's their prime
creativity time, or create,create creative time.
Uh, however, if that's the onlytime you're going to get it in,
(10:59):
then get your workout in in themorning and that's just kind of
where you're at, because youplay, you know, a different role
with the kids and by theafternoon things are very tend
to always make dinner.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah so far, you haven't volunteered to be the
ongoing dinner maker, whichhappens so much better at it.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
We work in our strengths right.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
We fully agree on that absolutely.
And the other thing is I amwilling, even though I don't
enjoy it, to get up very early,and I'm not if it means to get
my workout in, because for me II just know that and I'm also a
woman it takes longer to getready, you know so.
But I don't want to go halfwaythrough my day kind of put
together, then get sweaty anddirty, have to start all over
(11:33):
again.
I just want to get it out ofthe way.
So, so for me, I'm very, veryconsistent.
Because it's the morning,that's great.
So your action step is actuallyto incorporate habits that
promote productivity andwellbeing, like exercise and
healthy eating.
So when we're talking abouthabits, we're not talking about
habits of, you know, watching TV, habits of eating crappy food
for your body, you know, habitsof spending time with people
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that are not going to help youbecome the best version of
yourself.
We're talking about positive,healthy, life-giving habits,
because those are the ones wewant to add, and then the other
ones naturally self-select outmost of the time.
When we make enough of theright habits, that's good Enough
of the right decisions.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
So we want to encourage you to engage in
motivational activities andself-rewarding milestones that
will sustain your drive andself-rewarding milestones that
will sustain your drive.
So tactic four is to regularlyconsume inspirational content
and connect with motivated peers.
So this is something.
Once again, this is a drasticshift for you and I.
(12:30):
In the last 13 years.
I did not, you know, I didn'tlisten to podcasts.
I joked that really I hardly Iread books.
You know I didn't listen topodcasts.
I joked that really I hardly Iread books, jerry Right, ones
without pictures, right?
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Seinfeld reference for those of you who are either
too young or too slow on theuptake there.
But I just didn't read books.
I mean, I could probably counton one hand the number of books
at least nonfiction books that Iread from the time that I was
18 until we started our businessand then it just became this
(13:07):
massive consumer of, andhopefully practitioner of,
personal development, where it'sbooks, it's audio books, it's
podcasts, it's seminars, butit's just constant, this
constant flow of, of positivityinto our life.
And one of the biggest things,like I remember, is when I was a
police officer, I would listento talk radio and everything
(13:33):
that was being said.
Maybe it was true, maybe it washelpful, but it wasn't positive
.
And I remember that within 30days, within weeks of me leaving
law enforcement and just takingmyself out of that environment,
I also made a consciousdecision that I'm done watching
news.
I didn't watch much at all, butI was like I'm just so sick of
the negativity because I wasjust like in this bath of
(13:55):
negativity as a police officer,so sick of the negativity
because I was just like in thisbath of negativity as a police
officer and getting rid of the,even though I agreed with the
talk radio getting rid of it.
I just remember having thisepiphany of oh my gosh, I'm
happy.
And then making the shifttowards just all this positive
input.
It was a game changer.
It was a game changer.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
And what we're not suggesting, I would say, is that
you just need to consumemassive amounts of personal
development content, because forsome people, they become
personal content.
You know personal productivityjunkies and they intake and
intake, and intake and intake,but they don't do anything with
it.
And we've been, I would say,potentially, down this road
where, like in small group andthings, it would be like how
many books are we going to readthis year?
(14:36):
And we've made, I would say,potentially down this road where
, like in small group and things, it would be like how many
books are we going to read thisyear?
And we've made our owncommitment.
And what I learned a few yearsago is yes, I do want to start
and finish.
I want to finish most of thebooks.
I start and I want to learnthings from them.
But instead of just saying Iread 24 books in a year, I want
to know that the books I'mreading or listening to which is
my preferred method I'mactually remembering and pulling
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content out and I want to goback to some really good ones
that I know I needed theinformation from, and maybe I
don't remember it or there wasjust some new nuggets for me.
So I think it's a balance ofputting yourself in the right
environment, having a list ofbooks and podcasts and things
that you can listen to that aregoing to drive your mindset
towards growth, your physicalbody towards growth, your
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relationships towards growth,and then also having people to
do life with.
So, again, we are incrediblyblessed because we do life with
mostly growth-minded people.
We've really upgraded ourcircle.
It comes so much in ourbusiness environment, the type
of coaching business that wehave, the people we do life with
.
But even in our churchenvironment and the close
friends that we keep, most ofthem are growth-minded and a lot
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of it is.
We attract who we are, not whowe want to be, and we have a
much lower tolerance for justpeople who are frivolous or just
don't have a desire to grow.
You know we're obviously ourhumor is immature, but we take
very seriously the things inlife about how we steward the
life we've been given.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, I think you said we attract who we are.
The key is to seek out who youwant to be, so to intentionally
put yourself around the types ofpeople that you want to be Did.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
I say that wrong, when I was saying that.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
No, you did, you said , but we attract.
So my point is that we, weattract who we are, but also we
want to intentionally putourselves around like I'm.
I'm a much better person todaythan I was 10 years ago, but I
also I'm not willing, and I'msurrounded myself with people
who are kind of a similar trainof thought.
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But I don't want to stop there.
I want to intentionally putmyself in rooms with people that
are even better than maybewhere I'm at right now and by me
getting better, I'm going tohelp my peers get better.
But this whole motivated peerthing, the power, influence
running with lions, is such aprofound concept.
(16:53):
I mean, I've talked about theEagles group that I have.
You know, yesterday it was whatsix of us that met together and
we meet typically twice a month.
I mean it's such a soul-fillingtime versus, you know, some of
the other groups that I've hungout with in the past where it's
just gossip, negativity, maybe,just talking about work, but we
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spend an hour together talkingabout how can we be better, how
can we develop and steward ourgifts, and we encourage each
other and you can't put a pricetag on that and I encourage
everyone to really be veryintentional about that.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
So look for those groups of people surround
yourself in those groupsintentionally, choose them,
become the type of person thatother people want to invite into
a group like that and or formyour own group and we think it's
going to be massively rewardingfor the type of life that you
get to build.
So action step is to set up areward system for achieving
milestones, from small treats tosignificant experiences.
(17:54):
So this is an interesting onebecause obviously, as humans,
you know, we're motivated bothintrinsically and extrinsically.
We would say, you know, justbased on business acumen and
serving our clients, thatextrinsic rewards have, you know
, a short shelf life.
Intrinsic motivation is a muchbetter place to come from.
Intrinsic motivation is a muchbetter place to come from.
But it can also be really fun toset yourself up for just some
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milestones to celebrate andreally again have radical
celebrations within your ownbusiness and health life.
So, whether that's and we liketo encourage non-food related,
you know, milestones in a healthjourney.
So it might be getting apedicure, it might be getting a
massage, it might be schedulingcoffee with a friend or
something like that, or buyingyourself a new book that you
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want to read, but just findingways to celebrate.
Why do you have a smirk on yourface?
I don't.
Oh, I feel like I know whatyou're thinking, but since it's
not your turn to talk, do youwant to share what your rewards
are for yourself when you wellhit certain milestones?
Speaker 1 (18:53):
women are welcome to give all kinds of rewards to us
husbands.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
When lingerie is purchased.
That is more of a reward foryou than it is a reward for me.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
But that's a way to get your husband to do just
about anything True, true.
You want him to lose 100 pounds.
That's how you do it rightthere.
But the rewards are great.
It's good to have something towork towards and it's also good
to have those micro rewards,instead of saying you know, when
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I become a millionaire I'mgoing to buy myself a Corvette,
maybe it's you know what, whenwe save $100,000 towards a down
payment on a house or somethinglike that, we're going to go
celebrate with you know, on ahouse or something like that,
we're going to go celebrate with, um you know, movie night or
something like like I mean,that's, that's kind of a weird
example.
But the point is don't go fromzero to a hundred, like look for
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those 10 degree steps along theway you have to save a hundred
thousand dollars before you cango to a movie.
We might need to be talkingfinances again well, true I I
know you need a lot more than100,000 to get a house these
days.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
That's true.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Yes, the idea is to celebrate along the way.
It partially just makes thejourney fun, and sometimes goal
setting can feel dry.
It can feel like somethingeveryone talks about and no one
ever finishes.
So the thing is, you do want tocelebrate yourself along the
way and you do want to havemilestones because it's a lot
easier to get to the well wewould say there's never really a
finish line, but it's a loteasier to go from milestone to
milestone.
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And so again in the book that wecoach, a lot of the things that
we talk about are the frames ofreality.
Like you go too far intoreality and say I'm going to do
something in five years but youdon't reward yourself, you don't
measure your milestones.
Five years, it's going to feellike forever.
And sometimes we also say saylike, hey, I did one good thing
today, so I deserve a reward,instead of giving ourselves time
to be consistent over time andprove it to ourselves.
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So we're too close of a frameof reality.
We would suggest that you go toa medium frame of reality,
which is I know what I want toaccomplish.
I'm breaking it down by a year,by a quarter, by a month, and
then I'm working weekly anddaily to meet those goals.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
And that's really important when it comes to
parenting and being ageappropriate, Because obviously
you know we have a six-year-old,and a seven-year-old Timeframes
for her are very different thanthey are for some of her older
children.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
We're checking boxes twice a day right now on her
chore list to really keep hermotivated for doing her chores.
She's doing so much better at itthan she was when it was like
wait till the end of the day.
Oh, catch up from a couple daysago.
It's just too far back in hermemory, and so you know,
sometimes just setting thosecloser time frames for yourself
also help you to be moresuccessful in the long run,
because the habits get created,the neural pathways are
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developed and all of a suddenyour brain is telling you it's a
reward, mostly because youproved to yourself that you're
going to do what you said youwere going to do.
So think about it that way Evenjust the extrinsic rewards tell
your brain that you're stillwinning, and lots of times those
wins add up to becoming thetype of person that you want to
be, much sooner or faster.
So, all right.
As an entrepreneur, self-careisn't a luxury.
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It is a necessity.
By setting clear goalsconnecting with your purpose,
establishing empowering routinesand celebrating your wins,
you're investing in your mostvaluable asset, which is
yourself.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
So we challenge you to pick one self-care strategy
from today's episode and committo it for the next week.
Maybe it's drafting yourpersonal mission statement or
developing a morning routinethat sets you up for success.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Remember your entrepreneurial journey is a
marathon.
You up for success.
Remember your entrepreneurialjourney is a marathon, not a
sprint.
By prioritizing self-care,you're ensuring you have the
same stamina and resilience togo the distance.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
So we'd love to hear how you're weaving self-care
into your entrepreneuriallifestyle.
Share your experiences and anytopics you'd like us to cover in
future episodes in yourcomments.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Until next time, keep fighting for uncommon freedom
and taking exceptional care ofyour entrepreneurial spirit.
Hey Freedom Fighters.
As entrepreneurs, it's easy toget caught up in the grind and
neglect our own well-being.
But what if we told you thatprioritizing self-care is
actually key to sustaining yourentrepreneurial spirit?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
In today's episode, we're diving into practical
strategies to help you cultivatea self-care routine that will
help you energize.
Be energized, motivated andthriving as you pursue your
entrepreneurial dreams.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
So caring for your entrepreneurial spirit is
dynamic and extremelyintertwined with personal
well-being.
Here are four tactics andaction steps that we think are
fantastic for tending to thespirit so it can grow with you.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Okay.
So tactic one is to set clearpersonal and professional goals
to maintain direction andpurpose.
Wow, if that's not true, right?
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It is yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Sometimes we have people just kind of shooting
from the hip.
I think it's human nature andyou know.
When that happens, it's likeyou can get to a week or a month
or a year and you could justcircle something on your life
and say it was a bullseye.
But the truth is, if you're notactually tracking it, if you're
not setting intention, then howdo you know you've really moved
the dial forward?
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah, we talk about having goals for every spoke on
the wheel of life and going frommemory some of of the spokes
and there's different versionsof this out here, but physical
is a huge part of it Spiritual,financial relationships,
specifically marriage and family, parenting, things like that.
You've got the social communityaspects.
(01:37):
Those are some of the differentspokes on the wheel of life and
what we've experienced is that,you know, on the wheel of life
and what we've experienced isthat, you know, really for most
of our life we didn't havespecific goals until we, you
know, found the right community.
That really challenged us to bebetter and to be more
intentional about every area ofour life.
But one of the other things,when you think about the spokes
(01:58):
on the wheel of life, if you areflat in any one of those areas,
if you know anything about likea flat tire, especially if it's
a solid tire.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I don't know anything .
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Yeah, but if you have a solid tire, something that is
like an older solid rubber tire, if there's a flat spot on it,
you know you can drive aroundand then every time you hit that
flat spot it's a thump and itmakes for a very bumpy ride.
And it makes for a very bumpyride and it's a great analogy
(02:31):
that what we want to do is be aseven as possible.
You know, if you think about ona scale of one to 10, where
you're at in these differentspokes, the goal is to gradually
work your way out to a 10 inall those areas, versus being a
10 physically but a onefinancially those areas, versus
being a 10 physically but a onefinancially.
If you can be a five or six orseven and gradually work your
way out to being an eight, nineor 10 in all areas, you're going
to have a much more enjoyablelife, a lot less conflict and,
(02:56):
as the analogy shows you, a lotfewer bumps in your life.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Well said and where focus goes, energy flows.
So I think it's really easy forus to say like I'm working on
all my health goals right nowand we neglect time with our
family, potentially, or ourbusiness, or I'm so driven on
business and being present formy kids that I've let my health
go, and so we want to reallyencourage all of us to live an
integrated life.
(03:21):
It'll never be perfectlybalanced, but what we are
looking is that we cancounterbalance certain areas and
just keep everything inperspective, because to lose a
family relationship because ofbuilding a business, or to lose
your health just to be a parent,none of those things are going
to equal themselves out at theend of your life, I think, or
make you feel fulfilled or havewell-being or really allow you
(03:44):
to maximize your potential andmake an impact out there.
So the goal is that we won'tever be perfect in all of those
areas, but to work with themharmoniously, because we're
conscious of it and we'resetting these intentions.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Yeah.
So action step write down yourpersonal mission statement and
your business objectives.
And a strong sense of purposebeyond financial gain fuels
resilience and drive.
So tactic two is to identifyyour big why for building wealth
and articulate your desiredimpact.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Boy.
This one is something we'vereally grown into, because I
would say, initially, you knowwhat did big wealth mean to us?
You know, how did we kind ofdream beyond our immediate needs
?
And what's fun is, when youwrite this down and you track it
and you share it, especiallywith your spouse, then you
actually have a track record ofit.
You have a history to go backto.
So for us, you know, when Istarted our coaching business
(04:40):
back in 2011,.
You know I was thinking aboutthings like you know, could we
put our kids in a private schoolsomeday?
Our kids were three, two andtwo months old, so we weren't
really into schooling yet, butit was just like what, if I
wanted to put them in aChristian school, could I pay
for that at some point?
Speaker 1 (04:55):
And when we look back , if we hadn't generated some
additional income, we could nothave done it.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
No, not at that season of our life where you
were a police officer and I wasmostly a stay-at-home mom, and
then there were things that werelike what kinds of things did
we want to give to?
Obviously having goals forupgrades we wanted to make in
our home and we knew we wantedto entertain and have people
around.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Upgrades are good.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Upgrades are good.
We wanted spaces to do thosethings, we wanted time to do
those things, and so now I wouldsay we dream much more on the
level of how can we help otherpeople win the way that we have
been able to succeed financiallyand relationally and in
business and in life.
So we want to give that awayand we also want to continue to
create income because we havesome really important big dreams
(05:38):
and goals that are far beyondjust serving our own selves and
our own family.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, yeah, we do.
We have ministries that we'repassionate about.
They've shared their visionwith us.
We believe in the vision, andthe reality is that most of the
visions and the goals thatnonprofits and ministries have
require money, and some of thegoals that they have require
some significant amounts ofmoney, and we want to be a part
(06:05):
of that, and so that's actuallyone of the things that
absolutely drives us to to notbe complacent, but to continue
to grow so we can have a biggerand bigger impact.
So your second action step isto draft a family mission
statement, that is, if youhaven't done it since we talked
about this just a few weeks ago.
That captures your sharedpurpose, and I think husband and
(06:29):
wife will probably be thedriving factors in this, but
it's also fun to get your kids'intake on this.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
We should have had ours pulled up so we could share
it.
So maybe we could share it inthe show notes, because we have
one that has recently beendrafted.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Listen, guys, daily habits and routines are crucial
for cultivating anentrepreneurial mindset.
So tactic number three is todevelop a consistent morning
routine that includes goalsetting and planning.
What about you?
Do you do this in the morning?
I do a lot of things like thisat night, actually planning.
What about you?
Do you do this in the morning?
I do a lot of things like thisat night, actually, because I
like to set myself up before Igo to sleep with kind of like
(07:03):
what my day is going to looklike the next day.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
But are you more of a morning goal setter?
No, I prefer to.
This is like my end of eveningroutine, planning out my day for
the next day, and the realityis most of my goals are done on
a monthly basis.
Like thinking about what I wantto accomplish for a year, break
it down into monthly.
I redo, kind of my dailytracker for the month, typically
(07:24):
on the last day of every monthor the first of the month, and
there's not a whole lot ofvariety in it, a lot of routine
and but then obviously there'sthe main things I need to get
done every single day.
But uh, for the most part mygoals are, you know, in in month
long chunks and I just chipaway at them.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Obviously.
I think that's probably helpfulbecause I think if you're
changing your goals every singlemorning, you know you're going
to have a really tough timemoving the dial forward.
But also, as goals become moreautomatic and they become habits
, then it takes a lot lessemotional and mental energy.
That's why it's important LikeAtomic Habits is such a great
book because it talks abouthabit stacking.
So when you're building in anew habit, you're trying to
(08:06):
create a new neural pathway.
Find something you already dowhether it's stretching in the
morning, reading your Bible,drinking coffee, brushing your
teeth and stack something newthat you want to do with that
habit, so it becomes easier.
So with our clients, a lot of itis like hey, how about reading
some of your habits of health?
Because that's going to takeyour mind along on your health
journey.
And if you can't find time todo that or you don't feel like
(08:27):
you have time, how about you doit while you read your brush
your teeth?
You know you're brushing yourteeth for two or three minutes
and you read one page in yourlife book or something along
those lines.
So learning to stack new habitsnow what you and I have
developed over the last manprobably a decade, but even the
last five years is we've becomecreatures of habit in a lot of
ways.
So we both have a morningroutine.
They're not the same, but theyhave some similarities and we
(08:49):
almost always do the same thingsevery morning.
We always listen to our DarrenDaly, we listen to our Bible app
, we spend some time with God.
You stretch consistently, wetake our vitamins.
These are things that have justbecome part of our success
habits and so they don't take usalmost any mental energy,
because I know that when I'veleft my bathroom at the end of
30 minutes or whatever, I'vedone almost all of the things
(09:10):
that I normally do.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Yeah, and one of the things we learned is that every
decision takes energy, and whatwe want to do is minimize the
number of decisions that we haveto make and we want to save our
decision making for the moreimportant things.
So if you don't have to decideif you're going to work out,
you've already decided I'm goingto work out and you've also
(09:34):
decided when you're going towork out Then you've just saved
yourself several decisions andyou're saving, you're conserving
that energy for more impactful,more important decisions that
you'll need to make during theday.
So that's a really good thingto do.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Correct.
And then when you set yourhabits up to support your
decisions, your structure up tosupport your decisions, then it
makes it even easier to followthrough, right?
So what I will do often is I'llbook my workouts the night
before, set my alarm so I knowwhen I'm getting up, and even
though I can afford thecancellation fee, I don't really
want to pay that on a regularbasis.
It's a waste of money and I putmy shoes out if I need to, or
(10:10):
my outfit out that I'm going towear, and I know when I get up
in the morning when I'm workingout that day.
I rarely walk into a daythinking I just wonder when I'll
get a workout in today, becauseI know myself.
Honestly, for me, if it doesn'thappen around by 9 am at the
latest, it doesn't really happen.
You have an amazing habit ofdoing it at 9 pm or 10 pm if
needed, but what I'm doing isI'm reducing the drag that it
(10:30):
takes to make a decision andcommit to something and follow
through, because it's veryvaluable to me.
So I've already made thedecision ahead of time.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Yeah, and the there's two things I mean.
I know Darren Hardy actuallytalks about the fact that, um,
he does not a fan of morningworkouts.
Like like doing your main walkworkout during the morning
because for most people, that'stheir, that's their prime
creativity time, or create,create creative time.
Uh, however, if that's the onlytime you're going to get it in,
(10:59):
then get your workout in in themorning and that's just kind of
where you're at, because youplay, you know, a different role
with the kids and by theafternoon things are very tend
to always make dinner.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah so far, you haven't volunteered to be the
ongoing dinner maker, whichhappens so much better at it.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
We work in our strengths right.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
We fully agree on that absolutely.
And the other thing is I amwilling, even though I don't
enjoy it, to get up very early,and I'm not if it means to get
my workout in, because for me II just know that and I'm also a
woman it takes longer to getready, you know so.
But I don't want to go halfwaythrough my day kind of put
together, then get sweaty anddirty, have to start all over
(11:33):
again.
I just want to get it out ofthe way.
So, so for me, I'm very, veryconsistent.
Because it's the morning,that's great.
So your action step is actuallyto incorporate habits that
promote productivity andwellbeing, like exercise and
healthy eating.
So when we're talking abouthabits, we're not talking about
habits of, you know, watching TV, habits of eating crappy food
for your body, you know, habitsof spending time with people
(11:54):
that are not going to help youbecome the best version of
yourself.
We're talking about positive,healthy, life-giving habits,
because those are the ones wewant to add, and then the other
ones naturally self-select outmost of the time.
When we make enough of theright habits, that's good Enough
of the right decisions.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
So we want to encourage you to engage in
motivational activities andself-rewarding milestones that
will sustain your drive andself-rewarding milestones that
will sustain your drive.
So tactic four is to regularlyconsume inspirational content
and connect with motivated peers.
So this is something.
Once again, this is a drasticshift for you and I.
(12:30):
In the last 13 years.
I did not, you know, I didn'tlisten to podcasts.
I joked that really I hardly Iread books.
You know I didn't listen topodcasts.
I joked that really I hardly Iread books, jerry Right, ones
without pictures, right?
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Seinfeld reference for those of you who are either
too young or too slow on theuptake there.
But I just didn't read books.
I mean, I could probably counton one hand the number of books
at least nonfiction books that Iread from the time that I was
18 until we started our businessand then it just became this
(13:07):
massive consumer of, andhopefully practitioner of,
personal development, where it'sbooks, it's audio books, it's
podcasts, it's seminars, butit's just constant, this
constant flow of, of positivityinto our life.
And one of the biggest things,like I remember, is when I was a
police officer, I would listento talk radio and everything
(13:33):
that was being said.
Maybe it was true, maybe it washelpful, but it wasn't positive
.
And I remember that within 30days, within weeks of me leaving
law enforcement and just takingmyself out of that environment,
I also made a consciousdecision that I'm done watching
news.
I didn't watch much at all, butI was like I'm just so sick of
the negativity because I wasjust like in this bath of
(13:55):
negativity as a police officer,so sick of the negativity
because I was just like in thisbath of negativity as a police
officer and getting rid of the,even though I agreed with the
talk radio getting rid of it.
I just remember having thisepiphany of oh my gosh, I'm
happy.
And then making the shifttowards just all this positive
input.
It was a game changer.
It was a game changer.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
And what we're not suggesting, I would say, is that
you just need to consumemassive amounts of personal
development content, because forsome people, they become
personal content.
You know personal productivityjunkies and they intake and
intake, and intake and intake,but they don't do anything with
it.
And we've been, I would say,potentially, down this road
where, like in small group andthings, it would be like how
many books are we going to readthis year?
(14:36):
And we've made, I would say,potentially down this road where
, like in small group and things, it would be like how many
books are we going to read thisyear?
And we've made our owncommitment.
And what I learned a few yearsago is yes, I do want to start
and finish.
I want to finish most of thebooks.
I start and I want to learnthings from them.
But instead of just saying Iread 24 books in a year, I want
to know that the books I'mreading or listening to which is
my preferred method I'mactually remembering and pulling
(14:58):
content out and I want to goback to some really good ones
that I know I needed theinformation from, and maybe I
don't remember it or there wasjust some new nuggets for me.
So I think it's a balance ofputting yourself in the right
environment, having a list ofbooks and podcasts and things
that you can listen to that aregoing to drive your mindset
towards growth, your physicalbody towards growth, your
(15:18):
relationships towards growth,and then also having people to
do life with.
So, again, we are incrediblyblessed because we do life with
mostly growth-minded people.
We've really upgraded ourcircle.
It comes so much in ourbusiness environment, the type
of coaching business that wehave, the people we do life with
.
But even in our churchenvironment and the close
friends that we keep, most ofthem are growth-minded and a lot
(15:40):
of it is.
We attract who we are, not whowe want to be, and we have a
much lower tolerance for justpeople who are frivolous or just
don't have a desire to grow.
You know we're obviously ourhumor is immature, but we take
very seriously the things inlife about how we steward the
life we've been given.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, I think you said we attract who we are.
The key is to seek out who youwant to be, so to intentionally
put yourself around the types ofpeople that you want to be Did.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
I say that wrong, when I was saying that.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
No, you did, you said , but we attract.
So my point is that we, weattract who we are, but also we
want to intentionally putourselves around like I'm.
I'm a much better person todaythan I was 10 years ago, but I
also I'm not willing, and I'msurrounded myself with people
who are kind of a similar trainof thought.
(16:33):
But I don't want to stop there.
I want to intentionally putmyself in rooms with people that
are even better than maybewhere I'm at right now and by me
getting better, I'm going tohelp my peers get better.
But this whole motivated peerthing, the power, influence
running with lions, is such aprofound concept.
(16:53):
I mean, I've talked about theEagles group that I have.
You know, yesterday it was whatsix of us that met together and
we meet typically twice a month.
I mean it's such a soul-fillingtime versus, you know, some of
the other groups that I've hungout with in the past where it's
just gossip, negativity, maybe,just talking about work, but we
(17:16):
spend an hour together talkingabout how can we be better, how
can we develop and steward ourgifts, and we encourage each
other and you can't put a pricetag on that and I encourage
everyone to really be veryintentional about that.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
So look for those groups of people surround
yourself in those groupsintentionally, choose them,
become the type of person thatother people want to invite into
a group like that and or formyour own group and we think it's
going to be massively rewardingfor the type of life that you
get to build.
So action step is to set up areward system for achieving
milestones, from small treats tosignificant experiences.
(17:54):
So this is an interesting onebecause obviously, as humans,
you know, we're motivated bothintrinsically and extrinsically.
We would say, you know, justbased on business acumen and
serving our clients, thatextrinsic rewards have, you know
, a short shelf life.
Intrinsic motivation is a muchbetter place to come from.
Intrinsic motivation is a muchbetter place to come from.
But it can also be really fun toset yourself up for just some
(18:15):
milestones to celebrate andreally again have radical
celebrations within your ownbusiness and health life.
So, whether that's and we liketo encourage non-food related,
you know, milestones in a healthjourney.
So it might be getting apedicure, it might be getting a
massage, it might be schedulingcoffee with a friend or
something like that, or buyingyourself a new book that you
(18:36):
want to read, but just findingways to celebrate.
Why do you have a smirk on yourface?
I don't.
Oh, I feel like I know whatyou're thinking, but since it's
not your turn to talk, do youwant to share what your rewards
are for yourself when you wellhit certain milestones?
Speaker 1 (18:53):
women are welcome to give all kinds of rewards to us
husbands.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
When lingerie is purchased.
That is more of a reward foryou than it is a reward for me.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
But that's a way to get your husband to do just
about anything True, true.
You want him to lose 100 pounds.
That's how you do it rightthere.
But the rewards are great.
It's good to have something towork towards and it's also good
to have those micro rewards,instead of saying you know, when
(19:22):
I become a millionaire I'mgoing to buy myself a Corvette,
maybe it's you know what, whenwe save $100,000 towards a down
payment on a house or somethinglike that, we're going to go
celebrate with you know, on ahouse or something like that,
we're going to go celebrate with, um you know, movie night or
something like like I mean,that's, that's kind of a weird
example.
But the point is don't go fromzero to a hundred, like look for
(19:44):
those 10 degree steps along theway you have to save a hundred
thousand dollars before you cango to a movie.
We might need to be talkingfinances again well, true I I
know you need a lot more than100,000 to get a house these
days.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
That's true.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Yes, the idea is to celebrate along the way.
It partially just makes thejourney fun, and sometimes goal
setting can feel dry.
It can feel like somethingeveryone talks about and no one
ever finishes.
So the thing is, you do want tocelebrate yourself along the
way and you do want to havemilestones because it's a lot
easier to get to the well wewould say there's never really a
finish line, but it's a loteasier to go from milestone to
milestone.
(20:16):
And so again in the book that wecoach, a lot of the things that
we talk about are the frames ofreality.
Like you go too far intoreality and say I'm going to do
something in five years but youdon't reward yourself, you don't
measure your milestones.
Five years, it's going to feellike forever.
And sometimes we also say saylike, hey, I did one good thing
today, so I deserve a reward,instead of giving ourselves time
to be consistent over time andprove it to ourselves.
(20:38):
So we're too close of a frameof reality.
We would suggest that you go toa medium frame of reality,
which is I know what I want toaccomplish.
I'm breaking it down by a year,by a quarter, by a month, and
then I'm working weekly anddaily to meet those goals.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
And that's really important when it comes to
parenting and being ageappropriate, Because obviously
you know we have a six-year-old,and a seven-year-old Timeframes
for her are very different thanthey are for some of her older
children.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
We're checking boxes twice a day right now on her
chore list to really keep hermotivated for doing her chores.
She's doing so much better at itthan she was when it was like
wait till the end of the day.
Oh, catch up from a couple daysago.
It's just too far back in hermemory, and so you know,
sometimes just setting thosecloser time frames for yourself
also help you to be moresuccessful in the long run,
because the habits get created,the neural pathways are
(21:25):
developed and all of a suddenyour brain is telling you it's a
reward, mostly because youproved to yourself that you're
going to do what you said youwere going to do.
So think about it that way Evenjust the extrinsic rewards tell
your brain that you're stillwinning, and lots of times those
wins add up to becoming thetype of person that you want to
be, much sooner or faster.
So, all right.
As an entrepreneur, self-careisn't a luxury.
(21:47):
It is a necessity.
By setting clear goalsconnecting with your purpose,
establishing empowering routinesand celebrating your wins,
you're investing in your mostvaluable asset, which is
yourself.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
So we challenge you to pick one self-care strategy
from today's episode and committo it for the next week.
Maybe it's drafting yourpersonal mission statement or
developing a morning routinethat sets you up for success.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Remember your entrepreneurial journey is a
marathon.
You up for success.
Remember your entrepreneurialjourney is a marathon, not a
sprint.
By prioritizing self-care,you're ensuring you have the
same stamina and resilience togo the distance.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
So we'd love to hear how you're weaving self-care
into your entrepreneuriallifestyle.
Share your experiences and anytopics you'd like us to cover in
future episodes in yourcomments.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Until next time, keep fighting for uncommon freedom
and taking exceptional care ofyour entrepreneurial spirit.
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