46. Is it Okay to Date a Guy Who's Not a Christian?

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This week's episode, I am going to answer a question that I have had from so many of you amazing ladies recently: Is it okay to date a guy who's not a Christian...even if he's a really great guy?"

Okay, so just a disclaimer before we jump into this episode, this is not an episode where I tell you not to date…it’s not an episode where I tell you at what age I think you should date. That’s between you, your parents and God. 

However, if you ask my opinion on when you should date, what I would tell you is, wait until you’re ready to get married. 

And just so you don’t think I’m pointing my finger at you…I was there myself! 

With all of my boyfriends I had, if I am honest with myself, I sought them out. They liked me…this had to be it, right? Wrong. I hear this from so many teen girls…they see a guy that they like and it almost feels as if God is dropping him into their life. He might be, but more times than not, most of those guys, the enemy is using to pull you away from God. 

 That is what happened with every relationship I had. 

So, a couple things I want to talk to you about from my personal experiences. 


The first one is this…2 Corinthians 6:14 tells us to not be yoked together (or in a close relationship) with unbelievers. This isn’t just talking about dating, but also about friendships. Then the verse goes on to say, “For what does righteousness (that is you when you have a relationship with God), and wickedness (not necessarily talking about the guy being a bad guy, he’s just not God’s guy…meaning he’s not a Christian)…what do they have in common? Or what fellowship can light (God calls you the light of the world) have with darkness (people who don’t know God). 

 There are several reasons God had Paul write this in the Bible, because there’s so much truth to it. 


There’s a guy that you really like…he seems great…and are probably great…however, when you get into a relationship with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus, you aren’t playing on the same playing field. 


You’re playing two different games with two different sets of rules on the same field. It’s like you’re playing football and baseball at the same time on the same field. Someone is going to get hurt.

2 Corinthians talks about not being unequally yoked. Now when I say that word, yoke, it’s not talking about an egg yolk. 

Gotquestions.org explains it this way: A yoke is a wooden bar that joins two oxen to each other. An unequally yoked team has one stronger ox and one weaker ox…or one taller and one shorter. The weaker or the shorter ox would walk more slowly than the taller, stronger one, causing the load to go around in circles. When oxen are unequally yoked, they cannot perform the task set before them. Instead of working together, they are at odds with one another…and work against each other. 

 When that happens in a relationship, it can cause you to begin to compromise your morals and your values in order to keep them happy. It can cause them to be miserable, because you are always talking about God. They can’t understand why that would be a big issue for you. 


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