High-Conflict Divorce or Psychological Warfare

In this episode, we're diving into a side of divorce that’s rarely talked about—but deeply felt by those who live through it. This is not your typical “we grew apart” story. We're exploring the dark undercurrent of high-conflict divorces—when a legal separation turns into psychological warfare. Not all divorces are created equal. Some become battlegrounds, filled with ongoing legal fights, custody disputes, refusal to co-parent, false accusations, manipulations, and financial sabotage. Today, we are going to talk about what makes high-conflict divorce so uniquely damaging, and—more importantly—how to protect yourself, your children, and your mental health when caught in the storm.

If you're navigating this path—or know someone who is—this episode is for you.

Key Topics Covered:

• What is High-Conflict Divorce

- Relentless process that haunts you in court and at home

- “Recipe” for High-Conflict couple

• What Psychological warfare looks like

- Gaslighting

- Alienation of children

- False accusations

- Draining finances

• Real stories all sound the same - just different characters

- Summary of how high-conflict divorces typically play out

- It is a campaign to destroy the targeted party.

• Courts and high-conflict divorces

- Both parties are seen as being difficult

- Hard to prove abuse not seen by a naked eye

- Tips to prepare your case for the court

• Survival tools

- Limit communications to neutral or monitored channels like Talking Parents or Our FamilyWizard

- Respond, don’t react - pause before replying

- Reply only when it is warranted when it comes to custodial or peaceful matters, any other communication should be done through the attorneys

- Build a safe circle of support

- Engage with a therapist who specializes in this type of trauma

- Choose your battles

- Accept that parallel parenting is your best option.

High-Conflict divorce is not for the faint of heart BUT you are not powerless and you are not alone. 

Books to consider:

1. Too Good To Leave Too Bad To Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum
2. The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
3. Your Pocket Therapist by Dr. Sherrie Campbell

“Choose your battles. Not every fight is worth having, especially when the other person is just fighting to win, not to solve.” - Ksenia Muench

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