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What if the key to unlocking your full potential lies in transforming your deepest pains into your greatest strengths? Join me, Jay Floyd, as I share my transformative journey across the realms of technology, writing, music, and acting, highlighting how personal hardships have fueled my creativity and personal growth. From leading in the tech space as a data engineering manager to writing books like "The Poet Who Watched the Whole Parade" and "The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood," I open up about how embracing life's challenges has propelled me forward. Explore my passion for music with over 10 albums produced and my acting ventures, including an audition for an ABC sitcom, all while emphasizing the power of storytelling and pursuing passions.

Celebrate the intrinsic value of life with me as we explore the uniqueness of our existence, drawing parallels between human life and masterpieces like the Mona Lisa. I reflect on how our living form makes us extraordinary and how the fleeting nature of life puts us in "rare form" when we think and create. As we wrap up this vibrant discussion, I invite you to appreciate your own unique value and encourage you to continue following this inspiring journey. With a touch of humor and a hopeful eye toward a Spotify contract, this episode promises to uplift and inspire, reminding us all of the special spark that keeps us alive.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to On Everything y'all.
This is the show where I coverreally everything.
I really don't believe in thelimitation.
I think your mind should expandand go as far as people will
follow.
Sometimes people won't evenfollow it, but I think it's good
to have that mental exercisegoing on.

(00:22):
My name is Jay Floyd.
Mental exercise going on.
My name is Jay Floyd.
For those who don't know, I am aleader in the tech space.
I'm a data engineering manager,an author.
I've written a number of booksmy life story, my memoir called
the Poet who Watched the WholeParade.
It's a really good story.

(00:42):
I mean, I know a lot of peoplesay that kind of thing and you
know I'm actually pretty humbleabout this offering.
It was my first book and I knowit could be a lot better
Literary wise.
I mean there's a lot that I'velearned in the 11 years since it
was published, but I stand byit as it's just such a strong

(01:03):
story.
Even the limitations of me as awriter couldn't hold it back.
So if you go back, if you go onAmazon and look right now, if
you see Jay Floyd, the poet whowatched the whole parade, you
will see that it is five starreview, with every single review
, uh, is at a five.
So yeah, it was a really greatexperience.
I've written a couple of otherbooks, the Unofficial Guide to

(01:26):
Fatherhood, which was acollaboration between me and
about.
I think it was eight or nine ofus who are authors in all
different walks of life, man.
I mean, some of us were 60,some of us were 30, black white.
Some were best-selling authors,some were just new authors like

(01:48):
me, rookies, veterans, all ofthat.
We all got a chance to write afew chapters on what fatherhood
means to us and how we approachfatherhood.
Really great, really growingexperience really stretched me,
grew me.
My last and most recent book Iwon't say last because I got
more coming, man my most recentbook is called the Driver's Seat

(02:11):
.
It is my life coaching manual.
It's what I guide myselfthrough.
It's the thing that I built,that I lived how to get out of
the backseat of my life, how tosee my life as a special vehicle
and how to respect it.

(02:32):
And go back and get out of thebackseat of it, hop in the
driver's seat of the specialvehicle, appreciate how unique
and valuable and powerful it isand start to repair my roads and
follow the navigation a littlebetter.
All of those books areavailable on Amazon.

(02:53):
I highly recommend anybodywho's listening all 75 of y'all,
all of y'all, listening.
Man, if you don't have any ofthose books, go get them.
I think you will be blessed bythe stories in them.
I think you'll be blessed bythe content.
So I'm an author.
Yes, I'm also a rapper actor,podcaster, apparently.

(03:18):
But man, I've been rapping fora long time, since I was about
14.
I've been really taking itserious since I was 18.
I have, like, my kids arealways baffled when they're like
dude, you put out 10 albums, 10albums.
I did, yeah, 10 albums, man,probably even more than that if

(03:39):
you count all of the group stuff, solo stuff, passion projects
Probably more like 16, 18.
I'm a person who, when I getthat calling man, it flows
through me and I like to get itout to the world.
I'm not afraid to put myselfout there.
I'm an actor.

(04:00):
I've been in three movies sofar.
I'm an actor.
I've been in three movies sofar.
I auditioned on the fly for asitcom, an ABC sitcom, and
actually I got the role, but thesitcom was not pushed through,
didn't make it through withfunding.
But man, just maybe that's whatthis episode is about, man.

(04:26):
Just if you feel something inyou, you got to just go for it.
You got to go for it.
You know, leverage your timeand use your time wisely.
You know, one of the thingsabout me and I'm able to the
most important thing to me is tofollow my passions.
That is my number one hobbyrecreation everything.
I don't play video games, Idon't golf, I don't drink, I

(04:47):
don't smoke, I don't go to theclub None of that.
Every time I get free time, I'meither with my family or I'm in
my office putting in work onthings I love to do With.
That said, the most recentthing I've been putting in a lot
of work on is my first fictionnovel, and this ties back to the

(05:13):
original point.
One of the things that I firmlybelieve in.
You'll see this all over openbook media, man.
The stuff that we go through inlife, man, I know everybody out
there listening.
I know y'all been through someshit.
I know y'all have.
I know life is tough, man, andlife will deal us a hand.

(05:35):
And you know, sometimes it'sbeautiful, sometimes it's ugly,
sometimes it's painful,sometimes it's joyful.
The good thing is none of thoselast, none of those last.
It's always going to switch upand be something different, but
the things that we've beenthrough, they do not disqualify

(05:57):
us.
I'm going to say this again thethings you've been through,
especially those ugly, hurtful,traumatic, painful things you've
been through, they do notdisqualify you.
In fact, my hot take this ismore than a hot take, it's kind
of the basis of my entireplatform is that those things

(06:19):
qualify you.
In fact, they uniquely qualifyyou.
You ever heard of a Hublot?
Hublot is a watch.
It's a really expensive watch.
Rappers you know Jay Z like totalk about it Like a Maybach.
You know really expensive car.
You hear Rick Ross talkingabout Maybach music.

(06:40):
You know the reason thosethings are so Powerful and they
wield so much value.
A rapper, just by saying thewords, can sell records or get
clout.
The reason why is because thosethings are rare.
They're rare, there's only afew of them.

(07:07):
There may only be 50 in theworld and they have the money to
buy one.
So I say all that to say we haveto understand that, even though
the things we've been throughwere hurtful, were painful,
traumatic, and we've had to goto therapy, some people haven't
even gone to therapy.
Yet they're struggling.

(07:28):
They're struggling with it,struggling with it.
But guess what?
Those things uniquely made yourare.
They make you a one-of-one.
If you look at any luxurycategory, I don't care whether
it's a watch, a car whatever, apurse, whatever, If it's a one

(07:52):
of one.
Imagine a painting, the MonaLisa, imagine that piece of art
one of one.
That's what you are.
There's nobody else that hasbeen through what you've been
through, that has seen whatyou've seen, that's processed
what you've processed, that'slearned what you learned the

(08:18):
hard way and the easy way.
There's nobody else that hasthat unique combination of
experience, wisdom, earnedknowledge.
It's nobody else but you.
You are one of one.

(08:48):
So when you look at your lifelike that, the moment you feel a
spark.
Let's say you got a story inyou.
You got to tell it.
You have to tell it because whoelse will, nobody else can tell
you a story.
You ever watch those likeLifetime movies where they'll
like try to make a biopic ofsomebody's life.
It'll be like some celebrity weall know and love.
We've seen our entire lives.
And you watch this biopic andactor don't really look like him
.
They definitely can't sing ordance or whatever.

(09:12):
Like him.
The story may even be allchopped up and inaccurate.
You know why Nobody else canreally tell your story, nobody
else.
It's up to you to get thatstory out.

(09:33):
So, as I sit on the story that Ihave, when I start thinking
about the things that uniquelyqualify me, when I think about
the things that have hurt me inlife, things I've been through,
think about losing my grandmawhen I was six years old.
She was the most importantfigure to me in the world.
I think about losing my unclewhen I was 14 years old, and he
was the most dominant malefigure in my life.

(09:55):
I think about my brothergetting murdered my only brother
getting murdered when I was 16,and he was the most dominant
male figure in my life.
At that point, I think about mymom my mom passing at age 21,
when I was 21, and me cominghome from college and going to

(10:22):
my mom's little one-bedroomapartment and her not answering
the door and me running andputting my shoulder through the
door, finding her in there onthe floor, deceased.
I think about that moment mymom, the most absolute, most

(10:47):
central figure in my life,losing her when I was 21 years
old.
I think about my dad, who I hada rough go with.
I didn't have a very closerelationship with for the first
15 years of my life, and then,by the time I'm age 34, he's my

(11:12):
best friend and he's seeing meevery week and he's visiting, we
are closer than ever.
And then losing him me everyweek, and he's visiting and we
are closer than ever and thenlosing him and by the age of 34,
feeling like I don't haveanybody here on this world.
I think about those moments andthat all sounds like painful

(11:34):
stabs, each one of them.
Even now, retelling it, justsaying one sentence about it,
because I'm not really retellingit.
I'm summarizing it up into onesentence.
Each one of those is a reallybig story, but just saying those
now feel like stabs.

(11:56):
But the thing is, everythingI've been through in all stabs
is beautiful.
It's been a beautiful story.
It's like an opera.
Long story Goes all the wayback to 1976, when I was born,
and the thing I find interestingnow is here in 2025,.
Thinking back to the 1970s isalmost like reaching back into

(12:22):
the archaic ages.
So I decided to start writingfiction.
Why fiction?
Well, because I already wrotemy life story.
You can go read it.
All of those things that I justmentioned.
I wrote that.
I wrote all of that in the bookcalled the Poet who Watched the

(12:43):
Whole Parade.
So what's next?
Well, I think there's more meaton the bone.
The things I saw growing up inthe 80s, the things I saw
growing up in the 80s in theMidwest, in Cleveland, in urban
settings, trying to get out ofurban settings, trying to move
into suburban settings, seeingboth, the clash of them, is such

(13:08):
a unique, vivid story.
So I wrote a manuscript.
It's my first fiction book.
It's actually the first of aseries.
It's hopefully coming out thisyear.
I sent it off to a bunch ofpublishers.
I got some really good responseback.
I had a meeting yesterday.
It was my second meeting that Ihad with a publisher.

(13:31):
This time it was with the ownerof the publishing house.
She made time to sit down andmeet with me and ask me about my
story and I was able to relateto her man.
She was like what's your vision?
Where do you want to go withthis?
And I said you know what?
I can recall about 18 years ago,watching Moana with my family,

(13:57):
and I remember being so jealous.
I was so jealous that Disneycould tell this beautiful, vivid
story of Pacific heritage, life, their history, their present,
the ties that bind the two.

(14:17):
I love it.
By the way, moana is still myfavorite Disney movie of all
time, but every time I watch it,and even every time I think
about it, I just think why isthere no story like that about
where I come from, about where Icome from?

(14:39):
There's no story like thatabout Black families that moved
from the South in the US to theNorth at the beginning and early
parts of the 20th century andpursuing jobs and having
families and getting divorcedand living in the slums and

(15:00):
coming out of those slums andtrying to get to the suburbs and
making it to the suburbs.
And pimps, prostitutes, drugs,alcohol, cars, successes,
doctors, lawyers, postal workers, doctors, lawyers, postal

(15:35):
workers, GM workers, factoryworkers, union workers,
government workers, militarypeople, drug dealers, gang
bangers who's going to tell thatstory?
So that's my drive, that's mypassion.
When I do world building, I'mbuilding that world back in a
vivid and entertaining way.
So be on the lookout, y'all.

(15:56):
I have.
I got the manuscript into somehands.
I'm super excited about it.
I would love for this book tocome out this year.
I will be trying to interactwith y'all as much as I can,

(16:17):
asking y'all questions, havingletting y'all have a piece put
some skin in the game.
You know y'all can help me makecover decisions and design
decisions and things of thatnature, and, especially as I
start working on the sequel,would love to hear what y'all
think about it.
But yeah, I just wanted totouch on that again today.
If you have a story in you, Iwant you to take a moment and

(16:41):
think about the things you'vebeen through.
I want you to understand thatthose things don't disqualify
you.
They make you a one of one.
So what are you going to dowith that one of one?
Maybe it's not a story, maybeit's not a song, maybe it is a
song, maybe it's a movie, maybeit's a speech, maybe it's a TED
talk.
Maybe it's a movie, maybe it'sa speech, maybe it's a TED talk,

(17:02):
maybe it's a podcast.
Whatever it is, I want you totake a moment and reflect on
your life and not see it assomething that brings you down,
but see it as something thatwill take you exactly where you
need to be.
You are a one of one.
You are rarer than rare, sospecial.

(17:27):
You know a Picasso, or you know, like I talked about the Mona
Lisa, some valuable piece of art, even if it's a one of one,
even if there's only one copy ofit.
Valuable piece of art, even ifit's a one-of-one, even if
there's only one copy of it,it's always going to be exactly
that it's just a work of art.

(17:47):
But me and you, we're notalways going to be this that we
are right now.
We have a different intrinsicvalue right now, in that there's
a spark inside of us keeping usalive, pushing us, making us go
, and the moment that spark goesaway, then we'll change form
and we'll go back to the dust.
So we are a little bitdifferent.

(18:09):
I think we're even more unique,even more rare, because you're
not only a one of one, butyou're in rare form, which means
you are alive, you areable-bodied and your mind works.
You're in rare form.
Yeah, maybe we'll touch on thata little bit more next time, but
yo, thank you for joining me.

(18:29):
I said that I wasn't going tokeep these episodes too long, so
thanks for joining me again oneverything.
Come back, like and subscribeon every platform that you see
this on.
I hope Spotify is listening andtrying to sign me up for a
contract or something.
Yo, I love y'all, man Peace.
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