September 22, 2025 • 26 mins
You may carry grief that isn't yours, patterns that don't feel like your truth, or fears with no identifiable origin in your own life. This isn't coincidence – it's generational trauma, the emotional and psychological pain passed down through your family line.
What if your DNA carries more than just physical traits? Research in epigenetics has shown that when your ancestors experienced traumatic events – war, poverty, abuse, displacement – their bodies responded by altering gene expression to help them survive. These changes were passed down through sperm and egg, impacting how you respond to stress and process emotions today.
The weight of this inherited trauma shows up as chronic anxiety, self-sabotaging patterns, relationship struggles that mirror your parents' dynamics, or a persistent sense of not belonging. These aren't character flaws – they're ancestral burdens you never consciously agreed to carry. But someone needs to break the cycle, or it will keep repeating. That someone can be you.
Through powerful healing modalities like inner child and ancestor work, somatic healing, forgiveness practices, and timeline visualization, you can transform this burden into blessing. When you face and feel what your ancestors couldn't, their survival becomes your sovereignty, their silence becomes your voice, and their pain becomes your soul's purpose. You become the bridge between what was and what can be.
This journey isn't just about healing yourself – it's about liberating your entire lineage. By choosing to untangle these ancestral knots, you heal seven generations backward and forward in a spiral of time. The ancestors who once wept in silence now walk beside you in reverence as you become the living prayer they never knew how to say.
Listen to the end for information about a guided meditation for clearing generational trauma – a sacred journey of healing for you, your ancestors, and the generations yet to come. What if you were born to heal your family tree?
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Season 4 of the Undetected Narcissist
Podcast.
Your host, angela Meyer, ishere to bring you clarity if you
are stuck in confusion,self-doubt or feel lost, without
a sense of direction.
This podcast is extremelydifferent because Angela comes
from a place of wisdom,compassion and has been able to
forgive the unforgivable.
(00:22):
She's a mental healthprofessional, trauma-informed
human consciousness guide andempowerment strategist.
She knows one can't truly healand recover when one is stuck in
hate, anger and fear.
One must rise above it, findmeaning, understanding,
compassion for oneself and thetoxic people within our lives.
(00:45):
This season is aboutself-empowerment,
self-realizations andtransformation.
There is always a blog postsupporting this information, so
please visitundetectednarcissistcom so get
ready to learn about yourself,others and find a way to truly
live and thrive.
(01:06):
Once again, enjoy the show.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode
of the Undetected Narcissist.
Today we will be discussingunderstanding and healing
generational trauma, how we canbreak those chains.
So first, what is generationaltrauma?
Generational trauma, alsocalled ancestral or
(01:32):
integrational trauma, is theemotional, psychological and
even physical pain passed downthrough the family line.
It doesn't begin with you, butit lives in you.
You may carry grief that isn'tyours, patterns that don't feel
like your truth, or fears thathave no identifiable origin in
(01:57):
your own life.
It's trauma that is inherited,not through direct experience,
but through stories.
That is inherited not throughdirect experience, but through
stories, silence, behaviors andeven biology, the science how
trauma gets stored in our DNA.
This is just not poeticmetaphor.
(02:17):
It's science.
Research in the field ofepigemetics has shown that
trauma changes how our genesexpress themselves.
When an ancestor experiences atraumatic event such as war,
poverty, abuse, displacement,natural disasters or even
(02:38):
systematic oppression, theirbody responds by altering gene
expression to help them survive.
These changes can be passeddown through sperm and egg,
impacting stress responses,immunity and emotional
regulation in future generations.
(02:59):
In short, your DNA carries morethan just your eye color or
height.
It also holds your great-'sheartbreak and your great
grandfather's survival instincts, why it matters Recognizing the
hidden burden.
Unhealed generational traumacan look like this trauma can
(03:22):
look like this Chronic anxietyor depression with no clear
cause, stubbornness, narcissismand various phobias,
self-sabotaging patterns oraddictions, various fears such
as fear of success, fear offailure, love being alone or
invisibility.
(03:43):
Next is a deep sense of notbelonging and, lastly,
relationship struggles that echoyour parents' and grandparents'
dynamics.
Recognizing generational traumais the first step in
disentangling from it.
What patterns do you recognizewithin yourself or other family
(04:07):
members?
Remember, you're not broken.
You are bearing the weight ofyour lineage, which has been
passed down from generation togeneration.
Someone needs to break thecycle of generational trauma or
it will keep repeating itself.
And you have the strength andability, if you choose, to heal
(04:29):
it.
To heal it not only foryourself, but for the ancestors
behind you and the generationsahead.
This is a priceless gift thatyou are giving yourself and
everyone you are giving yourselfand everyone, past and future
generations.
This explains why so many people, especially the younger
(04:50):
generations, are struggling withanxiety and depression.
More younger generations arecaught in the addiction
generational trauma loop.
The homeless people you seearound town are struggling with
addictions and mental healthissues.
I'm sure that when one isliving on the streets, they do
not feel a sense of notbelonging.
(05:13):
They don't feel like theybelong and societies are
rejecting them.
And there's not enough mentalhealth providers to meet the
demands.
An increasing number of peopleare not getting married.
We've heard stories of thegenerational relationship
struggles our parents andgrandparents faced and we are
saying no, thank you.
(05:34):
This is a time for everyone toclean the slate of generational
trauma and raise our levels ofconsciousness out of the fearful
3D framework and into theempowered and enlightened fourth
and fifth dimensional frameworkof higher states of
(05:54):
consciousness.
We are at a pivotal time wherewe have the tools and abilities
to clear all this generationaltrauma, and our ancestors did
not.
I'm sure if they knew they hadthe power to remove all their
generational pain and suffering,they would.
So let's count our blessingsthat we have this information,
(06:16):
tools and opportunity totransform many lives.
The library of the bloodlinehere's a metaphor story might
relate to.
Imagine walking through anancient, dimly lit library that
stretches for miles.
This is no ordinary place.
It's the library of yourbloodline.
(06:38):
The walls are lined with booksbound not in leather but in
memory.
Some are cracked open, theirpages stained with tears.
Others are locked shut,shivering with secrets.
You didn't build this library,but you've been handed the key.
(06:59):
You walk down the aislesbrushing your fingers over the
spines war and silence, loss ofthe mother's tongue, shame in
the name of survival, lie, cheatand steal, unresolved grief and
regrets, system injustice,conquer, divide and destroy to
(07:21):
make your claim.
Abandonment and shattereddreams.
You are property, not a person.
Betrayal and unfinished love.
Some books feel heavy in yourchest as though you've read them
in dreams.
Others tug at you though you'venever opened their pages.
(07:41):
Tug at you though you've neveropened their pages, but their
stories are somehow inside you.
Then you see it a table with aglowing book, blank and waiting.
Your name is etched on thecover.
This is your chapter.
(08:05):
You realize now.
You're not here to just read.
You're here to rewrite, togently pick up the stories that
were too painful for yourancestors to finish.
You are strong and wise becauseyou can feel the grief that was
buried beneath silence.
You hear the sing, the songsthat were never sung.
That's right.
You are here to sing the songsthat were never sung, to change
(08:28):
the endings, not with a race,but with love.
As you write, light flows backinto the shelves.
Dust lifts, locked booksflutter open.
Ancestral whispers echo throughthe room, not in pain but in
(08:49):
praise.
You remembered us.
They say yes, you, dear one,gave our stories breath.
You set us free.
You set us free and in doing soyou set yourself free.
The soul's role.
Why you chose this lineage?
(09:10):
From a multi-dimensionalperspective.
Your soul chose this lineagenot as punishment but as a
sacred assignment.
You are the chain breaker, thealchemist, the one who said the
pain stops here.
By healing what was hidden ordenied, you bring light to your
(09:33):
entire ancestral line.
Some might say it sucks to beyou, but your soul knew you had
the strength and power to be thechain breaker.
That is why you are here andthere is no rush.
This is not a race.
What you do with thisinformation and how you approach
(09:54):
it is up to you.
So how to spot generationaltrauma, the right questions to
ask?
Like always, it's best to startwith curiosity, not shame,
blame or judgment.
Everyone was trying their bestwith the tools they had
available during thosechallenging times.
(10:14):
So I would ask yourself andother family members these
curious inquiry questions whatpatterns repeat in my family?
It could be stubbornness,cheating, racism, religious
dogma, perfectionism,self-righteousness, vanity,
(10:35):
power-hungry, betrayal,rejection, abandonment,
narcissism, addictions orlimiting beliefs?
What is stuck in silence andshame?
Why Does my family have anyfamily secrets or taboo topics?
They want to stay hidden.
Have any family secrets ortaboo topics they want to stay
(10:59):
hidden?
What are the common fears andphobias within my family?
What did my ancestors survive?
Did addictions run in my family?
What hardships did my ancestorsendure?
Did my ancestors experienceabuse, crime, rape, robbery,
murder, wars, famine, addictionsor natural disasters?
(11:21):
How do I react under stress?
And who else in my lineageresponds the same way?
What has always felt not mine,but still weighs heavy on my
heart?
Have other family members feltlike they don't belong within
the family unit, like we're allblack sheep?
(11:43):
Is there a history of traumapassed down from generation to
generation where it comes torelationships and marriage?
Have my family members everconducted business in a shady
manner?
And, lastly, have my familymembers ever abused another
person to take what they want togain power?
(12:04):
These questions reveal theinvisible threads weaving
through your story.
As I began to examine my familytree, I uncovered many hidden
secrets that spoke to me, lotsof family secrets.
I saw narcissism going backfour generations.
(12:25):
There were addictions, betrayal, abandonment, greed, marriage
for money or status, religiousnarcissism, famine, war, rape
and abuse.
So much sadness and trauma, butthey all survived, stuffing the
pain down and smiling likeeverything is normal.
(12:48):
When it was not Now, thisthought just came to mind.
Would my ancestors be upsetwith me for speaking their truth
?
When they could not?
I would have to say no.
We live in a generation andtime where we can break those
chains that bind us togenerational trauma.
(13:08):
They had no idea that futuregenerations would carry all
their pain and heartache.
So let me give you some toolsfor healing generational trauma.
Here is a pathway to begin thejourney.
The tools for healinggenerational trauma One inner
child and inner ancestor work.
(13:29):
This one is my specialty andanyone can do it.
I briefly covered this conceptin Shadow Integration and
Healing In a meditative state.
You want to create a safe spacewithin your mind, to have
dialogue with both the child andthe elder within you.
Let them speak, listen andthank them for taking care of
(13:53):
you.
Now you release the patternwithin you and integrate this
newer, stronger, whole versionof you.
Then imagine the future of whatlife would be and can be now
that you are healed.
2.
Family Constellation Therapy.
This work is powerful.
It is a healing modality thatreveals hidden dynamics in the
(14:18):
ancestral field and bringsresolution.
Number three somatic healing andbreath work.
Trauma is just.
It's not just a thought, it's asensation.
It gets trapped in your body.
Those sensations it getstrapped in your body, those
sensations.
Releasing it through the bodyis key.
(14:38):
Now I need to elaborate on thisone.
I'm the type of person whodislikes being told I cannot do
something without someone's help.
This is a form of gaslighting.
Let me give you an example.
I went to see a chiropractor inmy 20s and he said I would
never be able to do X.
I forget what X was, but that'snot the point.
(14:59):
My healing process was simple.
Whenever I felt tension in mybody during yoga, I stopped.
I connected to that part of mybody.
Then I vantialized, sendingpink hearts into the muscles,
joints, blood and tissues.
I filled it with love.
I said I was sorry, I asked forforgiveness, I told my body
(15:22):
that I was safe and it couldrelax, and I sent myself love.
I did this until X went away,and it did so didn't need that
chiropractor, so didn't needthat chiropractor.
Number four ritual and ceremonyLight a candle for an ancestor,
write them a letter, grieve whatthey couldn't, honor them.
(15:44):
You can also incorporate stepseven in this process, each time
you light the candle for aspecific ancestor or relative.
The beautiful truth is this oneis some, some cultures, already
doing this for their loved ones, and so thank you.
Number five epigeneticawareness through lifestyle,
(16:09):
healthy food, rest, mindfulness,self-awareness, practice of
self and others and stressreduction techniques can
literally reprogram geneexpression.
When we experience trauma orabuse, we become wired for drama
.
Our nervous system is on highalert.
(16:30):
That is why we all need tolearn to slow down and show
ourselves some grace, patience,compassion and kindness daily.
Some might call this beingselfish, but I call it soul
transformation Plus your body,nervous system, mind, spirit and
emotions will thank you in theend.
(16:58):
Number six forgiveness work.
Forgiveness doesn't meancondoning harm.
It means freeing yourself fromits echoes.
Make a list of the people youneed to forgive Before you go to
bed each night.
Pick three people from yourlist.
Make sure two are easy and oneis hard.
Breathe while doing thisforgiveness work, as you may
notice that your breath becomeslabored or changes like you
(17:21):
might hold it when you do thiswork.
This is normal and a sign thatyou are releasing trapped memory
emotions that got stored withinthe body.
If you need extra support,listen to the episode on how to
forgive the unforgivable.
And then the last one and thisone I said you can incorporate
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with lighting the candle Numberseven quantum visualization, or
timeline healing.
This is another one of myfavorite approaches Visualize,
imagine or see your lineage as aline of time above your head.
The left can be your past andthe right your future.
Imagine this timeline coveredin dark goop.
(18:05):
I like to use the sound of rainwhile I imagine the drain drops
washing away all the pain,trauma, heartache and sadness.
I visualize all the darknessdissolving and melting away and
leaving the timeline as ashimmering golden line of time,
knowing the raindrops aredissolving the dark patterns and
(18:29):
filling the timeline withpatterns of love, strength,
compassion, forgiveness,happiness, joy and my soul's
truth, from burden to blessing.
The miracle is this when youface and feel what your
ancestors couldn't, you don'tjust heal, you transform.
(18:50):
Their survival becomes yoursovereignty form, their survival
becomes your sovereignty.
As the seasons pass, theirsilence becomes your voice.
Over time, their pain becomesyour soul's purpose.
You are the bridge between whatwas and what can be.
You are the one the lineage hasbeen waiting for.
(19:13):
Shifting from the lens of justbeing human into the soul's
larger journey brings suchfreedom and perspective.
It helps us see trauma not aspunishment or curse, but as a
part of the alchemy ofremembrance and return, stepping
(19:33):
out of the human into the soul,turn, stepping out of the human
into the soul.
Take a moment and imagineyourself gently stepping back
from the human story.
You've been carrying the labels, the roles, the pain, the
inherited patterns.
All of it is real, yes, but itis not the fullness of who you
(19:55):
are, no-transcript.
When we can do this, we beginto weave these soul perspectives
into healing, creating acontinuous flow with clarity and
(20:15):
grace.
Beyond the human experiencelives your soul, infinite,
timeless and whole.
From this higher vantage point,trauma is no longer just
suffering, point.
Trauma is no longer justsuffering.
It becomes a thread in thegreater tapestry of your soul's
unfolding.
The wounds your family carriedwere never meant to define you.
(20:40):
They weren't.
They were invitations to awaken, to choose differently, to
transform heaviness into light.
As the soul you see clearly youare not broken.
You are not just the weight ofyour lineage.
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You are the one your ancestorsdreamed of, the one who can turn
cycles of pain into rivers offreedom.
Every challenge becomes astepping stone, every wound an
opening to greater compassion.
You are not trapped in a humanstory.
(21:21):
You are the author of a souljourney and in this awareness
you remember I came here toembody light, to no longer dim
it or hide it, but to shine mylight.
To remember I am light.
I came here to heal and to befree, not to carry the burdens
(21:45):
of the past, but to liberate mysoul.
I am more than this moment as Istand in my truth, I am eternal
and I am whole.
Closing thoughts you didn'tcome here to carry the weight of
generational trauma.
You came here to transmute it.
(22:05):
That is why your soul is hereon earth at this time, to clear
the path not only for yourselfbut for future generations.
The pain cycle stops with you.
You are not the wound.
That is a human misconception.
You are the remedy written insoul light.
(22:26):
In fact, you are not bound bybloodline.
Your soul is the breath ofliberation moving through it.
You didn't build this library,but you've been handed the key.
The stories you've inherited arenot curses.
They are contracts oftransformation.
They are contracts oftransformation and you know how
(22:49):
the power to fulfill it.
That is why I say all the painstories that are stored within
us, both consciously andunconsciously, are just
information.
The soul does not invest orattach to any of these pain
stories.
It is here to learn, grow,expand and release what no
(23:10):
longer serves the evolution ofyour soul.
Therefore, each time you chooseto feel what was buried, to
speak what was silenced, to lovewhat was unloved, you rewrite
the entire field.
You untangle timelines, youheal forward and backwards in a
(23:37):
spiral of time.
And do not fear, you are notalone in this sacred work.
Everyone here on earth isrecognizing and clearing what
was in the past.
Now you are the bridge betweenwhat was and what can be.
The ancestors who once wept insilence now walk beside you in
(24:00):
reverence.
They braid light into yourfootsteps and they hum through
the roots Quietly.
They whisper in the wind.
We rise because you rememberedus, and I just got chills by
saying that their survivalbecomes your sovereignty, their
(24:20):
silence becomes your song.
So walk gently, walk bravely.
Let your heart be the pin,allow your body to be the altar
of transformation, let your lifebe the offering.
You are the living prayer theynever knew how to say and you,
(24:44):
dear one, are setting eternityfree.
You are the residing prayer.
They never knew how to say.
It is time.
We say it is time to setyourself free.
Like always, I have created aguided meditation for clearing
(25:06):
generational trauma.
This meditation is a sacredjourney of healing for you, your
ancestors and the generationsyet to come Together.
We will work with the tree oflife, a living symbol of
connection, strength and renewal.
Generational trauma is theunspoken pain that passes
(25:27):
quietly through family lines.
Sometimes it shows up as fear,heaviness or patterns we don't
fully understand.
Today, you are choosing to bringlight to these patterns, to
honor your lineage with love andto release what no longer needs
to be carried.
Longer needs to be carried.
(25:54):
As you listen, remember you aresafe, supported and deeply held
.
Nothing will be forced.
Only what is ready to be healedwill rise and the earth itself
will lovingly receive all thatis released.
This practice is not just foryou.
It ripples backward to yourancestors and forward to the
generations ahead.
(26:15):
By doing this work, you becomethe bridge of freedom, a living
tree of life rooted in love.
So take a deep breath, let yourheart soften and when you're
ready to set yourself free andeveryone free, we will begin
Until next time and love andlight.
(26:35):
Angela Meyer, keri Logan Bye.
Welcome to Season 4 of the Undetected Narcissist
Podcast.
Your host, angela Meyer, ishere to bring you clarity if you
are stuck in confusion,self-doubt or feel lost, without
a sense of direction.
This podcast is extremelydifferent because Angela comes
from a place of wisdom,compassion and has been able to
forgive the unforgivable.
(00:22):
She's a mental healthprofessional, trauma-informed
human consciousness guide andempowerment strategist.
She knows one can't truly healand recover when one is stuck in
hate, anger and fear.
One must rise above it, findmeaning, understanding,
compassion for oneself and thetoxic people within our lives.
(00:45):
This season is aboutself-empowerment,
self-realizations andtransformation.
There is always a blog postsupporting this information, so
please visitundetectednarcissistcom so get
ready to learn about yourself,others and find a way to truly
live and thrive.
(01:06):
Once again, enjoy the show.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode
of the Undetected Narcissist.
Today we will be discussingunderstanding and healing
generational trauma, how we canbreak those chains.
So first, what is generationaltrauma?
Generational trauma, alsocalled ancestral or
(01:32):
integrational trauma, is theemotional, psychological and
even physical pain passed downthrough the family line.
It doesn't begin with you, butit lives in you.
You may carry grief that isn'tyours, patterns that don't feel
like your truth, or fears thathave no identifiable origin in
(01:57):
your own life.
It's trauma that is inherited,not through direct experience,
but through stories.
That is inherited not throughdirect experience, but through
stories, silence, behaviors andeven biology, the science how
trauma gets stored in our DNA.
This is just not poeticmetaphor.
(02:17):
It's science.
Research in the field ofepigemetics has shown that
trauma changes how our genesexpress themselves.
When an ancestor experiences atraumatic event such as war,
poverty, abuse, displacement,natural disasters or even
(02:38):
systematic oppression, theirbody responds by altering gene
expression to help them survive.
These changes can be passeddown through sperm and egg,
impacting stress responses,immunity and emotional
regulation in future generations.
(02:59):
In short, your DNA carries morethan just your eye color or
height.
It also holds your great-'sheartbreak and your great
grandfather's survival instincts, why it matters Recognizing the
hidden burden.
Unhealed generational traumacan look like this trauma can
(03:22):
look like this Chronic anxietyor depression with no clear
cause, stubbornness, narcissismand various phobias,
self-sabotaging patterns oraddictions, various fears such
as fear of success, fear offailure, love being alone or
invisibility.
(03:43):
Next is a deep sense of notbelonging and, lastly,
relationship struggles that echoyour parents' and grandparents'
dynamics.
Recognizing generational traumais the first step in
disentangling from it.
What patterns do you recognizewithin yourself or other family
(04:07):
members?
Remember, you're not broken.
You are bearing the weight ofyour lineage, which has been
passed down from generation togeneration.
Someone needs to break thecycle of generational trauma or
it will keep repeating itself.
And you have the strength andability, if you choose, to heal
(04:29):
it.
To heal it not only foryourself, but for the ancestors
behind you and the generationsahead.
This is a priceless gift thatyou are giving yourself and
everyone you are giving yourselfand everyone, past and future
generations.
This explains why so many people, especially the younger
(04:50):
generations, are struggling withanxiety and depression.
More younger generations arecaught in the addiction
generational trauma loop.
The homeless people you seearound town are struggling with
addictions and mental healthissues.
I'm sure that when one isliving on the streets, they do
not feel a sense of notbelonging.
(05:13):
They don't feel like theybelong and societies are
rejecting them.
And there's not enough mentalhealth providers to meet the
demands.
An increasing number of peopleare not getting married.
We've heard stories of thegenerational relationship
struggles our parents andgrandparents faced and we are
saying no, thank you.
(05:34):
This is a time for everyone toclean the slate of generational
trauma and raise our levels ofconsciousness out of the fearful
3D framework and into theempowered and enlightened fourth
and fifth dimensional frameworkof higher states of
(05:54):
consciousness.
We are at a pivotal time wherewe have the tools and abilities
to clear all this generationaltrauma, and our ancestors did
not.
I'm sure if they knew they hadthe power to remove all their
generational pain and suffering,they would.
So let's count our blessingsthat we have this information,
(06:16):
tools and opportunity totransform many lives.
The library of the bloodlinehere's a metaphor story might
relate to.
Imagine walking through anancient, dimly lit library that
stretches for miles.
This is no ordinary place.
It's the library of yourbloodline.
(06:38):
The walls are lined with booksbound not in leather but in
memory.
Some are cracked open, theirpages stained with tears.
Others are locked shut,shivering with secrets.
You didn't build this library,but you've been handed the key.
(06:59):
You walk down the aislesbrushing your fingers over the
spines war and silence, loss ofthe mother's tongue, shame in
the name of survival, lie, cheatand steal, unresolved grief and
regrets, system injustice,conquer, divide and destroy to
(07:21):
make your claim.
Abandonment and shattereddreams.
You are property, not a person.
Betrayal and unfinished love.
Some books feel heavy in yourchest as though you've read them
in dreams.
Others tug at you though you'venever opened their pages.
(07:41):
Tug at you though you've neveropened their pages, but their
stories are somehow inside you.
Then you see it a table with aglowing book, blank and waiting.
Your name is etched on thecover.
This is your chapter.
(08:05):
You realize now.
You're not here to just read.
You're here to rewrite, togently pick up the stories that
were too painful for yourancestors to finish.
You are strong and wise becauseyou can feel the grief that was
buried beneath silence.
You hear the sing, the songsthat were never sung.
That's right.
You are here to sing the songsthat were never sung, to change
(08:28):
the endings, not with a race,but with love.
As you write, light flows backinto the shelves.
Dust lifts, locked booksflutter open.
Ancestral whispers echo throughthe room, not in pain but in
(08:49):
praise.
You remembered us.
They say yes, you, dear one,gave our stories breath.
You set us free.
You set us free and in doing soyou set yourself free.
The soul's role.
Why you chose this lineage?
(09:10):
From a multi-dimensionalperspective.
Your soul chose this lineagenot as punishment but as a
sacred assignment.
You are the chain breaker, thealchemist, the one who said the
pain stops here.
By healing what was hidden ordenied, you bring light to your
(09:33):
entire ancestral line.
Some might say it sucks to beyou, but your soul knew you had
the strength and power to be thechain breaker.
That is why you are here andthere is no rush.
This is not a race.
What you do with thisinformation and how you approach
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it is up to you.
So how to spot generationaltrauma, the right questions to
ask?
Like always, it's best to startwith curiosity, not shame,
blame or judgment.
Everyone was trying their bestwith the tools they had
available during thosechallenging times.
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So I would ask yourself andother family members these
curious inquiry questions whatpatterns repeat in my family?
It could be stubbornness,cheating, racism, religious
dogma, perfectionism,self-righteousness, vanity,
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power-hungry, betrayal,rejection, abandonment,
narcissism, addictions orlimiting beliefs?
What is stuck in silence andshame?
Why Does my family have anyfamily secrets or taboo topics?
They want to stay hidden.
Have any family secrets ortaboo topics they want to stay
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hidden?
What are the common fears andphobias within my family?
What did my ancestors survive?
Did addictions run in my family?
What hardships did my ancestorsendure?
Did my ancestors experienceabuse, crime, rape, robbery,
murder, wars, famine, addictionsor natural disasters?
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How do I react under stress?
And who else in my lineageresponds the same way?
What has always felt not mine,but still weighs heavy on my
heart?
Have other family members feltlike they don't belong within
the family unit, like we're allblack sheep?
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Is there a history of traumapassed down from generation to
generation where it comes torelationships and marriage?
Have my family members everconducted business in a shady
manner?
And, lastly, have my familymembers ever abused another
person to take what they want togain power?
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These questions reveal theinvisible threads weaving
through your story.
As I began to examine my familytree, I uncovered many hidden
secrets that spoke to me, lotsof family secrets.
I saw narcissism going backfour generations.
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There were addictions, betrayal, abandonment, greed, marriage
for money or status, religiousnarcissism, famine, war, rape
and abuse.
So much sadness and trauma, butthey all survived, stuffing the
pain down and smiling likeeverything is normal.
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When it was not Now, thisthought just came to mind.
Would my ancestors be upsetwith me for speaking their truth
?
When they could not?
I would have to say no.
We live in a generation andtime where we can break those
chains that bind us togenerational trauma.
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They had no idea that futuregenerations would carry all
their pain and heartache.
So let me give you some toolsfor healing generational trauma.
Here is a pathway to begin thejourney.
The tools for healinggenerational trauma One inner
child and inner ancestor work.
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This one is my specialty andanyone can do it.
I briefly covered this conceptin Shadow Integration and
Healing In a meditative state.
You want to create a safe spacewithin your mind, to have
dialogue with both the child andthe elder within you.
Let them speak, listen andthank them for taking care of
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you.
Now you release the patternwithin you and integrate this
newer, stronger, whole versionof you.
Then imagine the future of whatlife would be and can be now
that you are healed.
2.
Family Constellation Therapy.
This work is powerful.
It is a healing modality thatreveals hidden dynamics in the
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ancestral field and bringsresolution.
Number three somatic healing andbreath work.
Trauma is just.
It's not just a thought, it's asensation.
It gets trapped in your body.
Those sensations it getstrapped in your body, those
sensations.
Releasing it through the bodyis key.
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Now I need to elaborate on thisone.
I'm the type of person whodislikes being told I cannot do
something without someone's help.
This is a form of gaslighting.
Let me give you an example.
I went to see a chiropractor inmy 20s and he said I would
never be able to do X.
I forget what X was, but that'snot the point.
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My healing process was simple.
Whenever I felt tension in mybody during yoga, I stopped.
I connected to that part of mybody.
Then I vantialized, sendingpink hearts into the muscles,
joints, blood and tissues.
I filled it with love.
I said I was sorry, I asked forforgiveness, I told my body
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that I was safe and it couldrelax, and I sent myself love.
I did this until X went away,and it did so didn't need that
chiropractor, so didn't needthat chiropractor.
Number four ritual and ceremonyLight a candle for an ancestor,
write them a letter, grieve whatthey couldn't, honor them.
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You can also incorporate stepseven in this process, each time
you light the candle for aspecific ancestor or relative.
The beautiful truth is this oneis some, some cultures, already
doing this for their loved ones, and so thank you.
Number five epigeneticawareness through lifestyle,
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healthy food, rest, mindfulness,self-awareness, practice of
self and others and stressreduction techniques can
literally reprogram geneexpression.
When we experience trauma orabuse, we become wired for drama
.
Our nervous system is on highalert.
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That is why we all need tolearn to slow down and show
ourselves some grace, patience,compassion and kindness daily.
Some might call this beingselfish, but I call it soul
transformation Plus your body,nervous system, mind, spirit and
emotions will thank you in theend.
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Number six forgiveness work.
Forgiveness doesn't meancondoning harm.
It means freeing yourself fromits echoes.
Make a list of the people youneed to forgive Before you go to
bed each night.
Pick three people from yourlist.
Make sure two are easy and oneis hard.
Breathe while doing thisforgiveness work, as you may
notice that your breath becomeslabored or changes like you
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might hold it when you do thiswork.
This is normal and a sign thatyou are releasing trapped memory
emotions that got stored withinthe body.
If you need extra support,listen to the episode on how to
forgive the unforgivable.
And then the last one and thisone I said you can incorporate
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with lighting the candle Numberseven quantum visualization, or
timeline healing.
This is another one of myfavorite approaches Visualize,
imagine or see your lineage as aline of time above your head.
The left can be your past andthe right your future.
Imagine this timeline coveredin dark goop.
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I like to use the sound of rainwhile I imagine the drain drops
washing away all the pain,trauma, heartache and sadness.
I visualize all the darknessdissolving and melting away and
leaving the timeline as ashimmering golden line of time,
knowing the raindrops aredissolving the dark patterns and
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filling the timeline withpatterns of love, strength,
compassion, forgiveness,happiness, joy and my soul's
truth, from burden to blessing.
The miracle is this when youface and feel what your
ancestors couldn't, you don'tjust heal, you transform.
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Their survival becomes yoursovereignty form, their survival
becomes your sovereignty.
As the seasons pass, theirsilence becomes your voice.
Over time, their pain becomesyour soul's purpose.
You are the bridge between whatwas and what can be.
You are the one the lineage hasbeen waiting for.
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Shifting from the lens of justbeing human into the soul's
larger journey brings suchfreedom and perspective.
It helps us see trauma not aspunishment or curse, but as a
part of the alchemy ofremembrance and return, stepping
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out of the human into the soul,turn, stepping out of the human
into the soul.
Take a moment and imagineyourself gently stepping back
from the human story.
You've been carrying the labels, the roles, the pain, the
inherited patterns.
All of it is real, yes, but itis not the fullness of who you
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are, no-transcript.
When we can do this, we beginto weave these soul perspectives
into healing, creating acontinuous flow with clarity and
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grace.
Beyond the human experiencelives your soul, infinite,
timeless and whole.
From this higher vantage point,trauma is no longer just
suffering, point.
Trauma is no longer justsuffering.
It becomes a thread in thegreater tapestry of your soul's
unfolding.
The wounds your family carriedwere never meant to define you.
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They weren't.
They were invitations to awaken, to choose differently, to
transform heaviness into light.
As the soul you see clearly youare not broken.
You are not just the weight ofyour lineage.
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You are the one your ancestorsdreamed of, the one who can turn
cycles of pain into rivers offreedom.
Every challenge becomes astepping stone, every wound an
opening to greater compassion.
You are not trapped in a humanstory.
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You are the author of a souljourney and in this awareness
you remember I came here toembody light, to no longer dim
it or hide it, but to shine mylight.
To remember I am light.
I came here to heal and to befree, not to carry the burdens
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of the past, but to liberate mysoul.
I am more than this moment as Istand in my truth, I am eternal
and I am whole.
Closing thoughts you didn'tcome here to carry the weight of
generational trauma.
You came here to transmute it.
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That is why your soul is hereon earth at this time, to clear
the path not only for yourselfbut for future generations.
The pain cycle stops with you.
You are not the wound.
That is a human misconception.
You are the remedy written insoul light.
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In fact, you are not bound bybloodline.
Your soul is the breath ofliberation moving through it.
You didn't build this library,but you've been handed the key.
The stories you've inherited arenot curses.
They are contracts oftransformation.
They are contracts oftransformation and you know how
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the power to fulfill it.
That is why I say all the painstories that are stored within
us, both consciously andunconsciously, are just
information.
The soul does not invest orattach to any of these pain
stories.
It is here to learn, grow,expand and release what no
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longer serves the evolution ofyour soul.
Therefore, each time you chooseto feel what was buried, to
speak what was silenced, to lovewhat was unloved, you rewrite
the entire field.
You untangle timelines, youheal forward and backwards in a
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spiral of time.
And do not fear, you are notalone in this sacred work.
Everyone here on earth isrecognizing and clearing what
was in the past.
Now you are the bridge betweenwhat was and what can be.
The ancestors who once wept insilence now walk beside you in
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reverence.
They braid light into yourfootsteps and they hum through
the roots Quietly.
They whisper in the wind.
We rise because you rememberedus, and I just got chills by
saying that their survivalbecomes your sovereignty, their
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silence becomes your song.
So walk gently, walk bravely.
Let your heart be the pin,allow your body to be the altar
of transformation, let your lifebe the offering.
You are the living prayer theynever knew how to say and you,
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dear one, are setting eternityfree.
You are the residing prayer.
They never knew how to say.
It is time.
We say it is time to setyourself free.
Like always, I have created aguided meditation for clearing
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generational trauma.
This meditation is a sacredjourney of healing for you, your
ancestors and the generationsyet to come Together.
We will work with the tree oflife, a living symbol of
connection, strength and renewal.
Generational trauma is theunspoken pain that passes
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quietly through family lines.
Sometimes it shows up as fear,heaviness or patterns we don't
fully understand.
Today, you are choosing to bringlight to these patterns, to
honor your lineage with love andto release what no longer needs
to be carried.
Longer needs to be carried.
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As you listen, remember you aresafe, supported and deeply held
.
Nothing will be forced.
Only what is ready to be healedwill rise and the earth itself
will lovingly receive all thatis released.
This practice is not just foryou.
It ripples backward to yourancestors and forward to the
generations ahead.
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By doing this work, you becomethe bridge of freedom, a living
tree of life rooted in love.
So take a deep breath, let yourheart soften and when you're
ready to set yourself free andeveryone free, we will begin
Until next time and love andlight.
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