4. The Wounds We Inherit: Healing the Father Wound & Mother Wound in Dominican Homes

🌀 This episode is not about blaming our parents — it’s about honoring our truth and recognizing the emotional wounds that shaped us. From generational trauma to emotional absence, we explore how these patterns impact our identity, our faith, and our capacity to receive love.

Here’s what you’ll learn: 

✅ What the mother wound and father wound actually are 

✅ How these wounds are passed down through Dominican, Afro-Caribbean, and immigrant homes 

✅ How they show up in adulthood: in relationships, decisions, self-worth, and boundaries 

✅ Why they block abundance and distort your relationship with peace, rest, and joy 

✅ How trauma lives in the body — not just the mind 

✅ What healing looks like: nervous system work, reparenting, spiritual reconnection 

✅ How these wounds manifest differently in women and men 

✅ Affirmations, journal prompts, and a Dominican-style prayer to support your healing

📝 Journal Prompts in This Episode

• What version of love did I grow up with? Was it safe, conditional, or silent?
• What emotions or parts of me were silenced in order to be accepted?
• What part of me still believes I have to suffer to be worthy of love or joy?
• How does my body react when I feel emotionally unsafe?
• What version of strength did I inherit, and what version do I want to embody now?

🌿 Affirmations to Remember

✨ My truth is sacred — I can honor my parents and still honor my pain.
✨ It is safe for me to feel. I no longer have to earn love through silence or shame.
✨ My body is not broken — it’s the keeper of everything I survived.
✨ I release struggle as my identity. Peace and abundance are my inheritance.
✨ My strength is sacred, but so is my softness. I give myself permission to be both.

🙏🏽 Dominican-Style Prayer for Inner Healing

Lord, I surrender the wounds I inherited but never asked for. I give you the harshness, the silence, the absence, and the pressure. I no longer want to carry what was never mine. Teach me how to love without repeating pain. Make me mother, father, friend, and guardian to my inner child. Remind me that I belong to You. And in You, everything I lacked becomes abundance. Amen.

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